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Welcome to the Ships and Sex Podcastwith your host Octavi Evans aka o EV,
the big sister of your ships andthe Harriet Tibman of your sex life.
This is the podcast that gets youfrom frustration to liberation and your ships
and your sex by exposing the illsour relationships and the refrustration and repression of
our sex lives. Are they goneguns right, Fannas? To do this
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for life? Did you say makeguns day, We'll get it off good?
Just the ship sun set? Theygone guns dry? Famish? To
do this for life? Did yousay make guns day, We'll get it
off good? Just the ships insex? Mom? Yeah? Hello,
Hello, Hello, Hello, andwelcome and thank you again for tuning in
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to the Ships and Sex Podcast.What's Your Girl? Octaviy Evans aka oh
Ev your favorite sex ologists and todayis episode fifteen. How to Snatch His
Soul The Blueprint? Yes, honey, how to Snatch His Soul? The
Blueprint? Now? Why am Icalling it the blueprint? Okay? So
if you've been following me on TikTok, you would know I did a video
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and I literally had to work toget that video done because in the allotted
amount of time because they only giveyou like three minutes or less now,
And it used to be a timewhere TikTok was only what fifteen seconds,
and then it went to thirty seconds, and then they finally let you have
sixty seconds. Well within the lastseverny months, I didn't even know they
went up to three minutes. SoI was like, Okay, I'm gonna
do a three minute or a lessthan three minute masterclass on how to snatch
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it. So I think at dida pretty good job. Y'all should definitely
go check me out at at octavievents on TikTok, where I have probably
I'm probably to say, over onehundred thousand followers now. But anyway,
so I'm going to be giving youthe blueprint today. So what I did
not give over there, I gavethe skeleton of the blueprint, and I
gave them some actions to take inapplying that blueprint. But on this podcast
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episode, I'm going to break downthat blueprint for you so you can understand
why it is so important and thesignificance of it and with applying it and
how you can snatch your man soul. Okay, if this is your first
time tuning in, as I saidbefore, I am your girl octavit Evans
aka oev your favorite sexologists, andas the sexologist, I help high achieving
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women of faith embrace, own andprotect their sexuality in order to create the
ships and sex life of their dreamswithout compromising their faith. Yes that's me.
So now let's get into it.So first things first. In the
video, I was talking about howthis is for your man with the capitol
M, and this is for ladies. If they don't think that they've snatched
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his soul yet, then they areabout to do it now because I'm about
to help them and you. SoI want not to say how you have
to understand the power of the P, all right, not just any P,
but your P. And we knowwhat the power of the P is
because let's be real. As Isaid in the video, men can get
sex from anywhere, as can wewrite. But what your man cannot get
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from anywhere is the power of yourP mixed with the power of your emotional
connection, with a side of yourvulnerability, season with some sexual tension and
a dope as sexual position. Thatis the blueprint on how you snatch your
soul. So in the video,I explained the process of applying these pieces
together as quickly as I could.But here I'm going to break down each
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piece with the power of your P. Which I'm not going to say that
on air, of course, Butwhen you embrace your sexuality, you will
learn your sexuality right. When youlearn your sexuality, you will embrace your
body. Right. But when youembrace your body, you will also learn
your body. See how this goes. It all goes hand in hand.
So the power of your p isall about learning your body. Yes,
that means learning your vagina. Youneed to learn all the inner and out
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of works of her and I havea book where I talk about positions,
the nine positions to get you tothe Big O. But what I included
in that book is actual pictures becauseit's pictures in the book, actual pictures
of the Glitterists and the hood ofthe clitter and I talk a little bit
about the importance of them. Now, I don't go into the most detail
in the book because it's only supposedto be a short book to help with
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the positions to get you to theBig Oh. But you can get the
book and look at the Glitterists andthe clitteral hood, but also get a
mirror and look at yours, learnyour body. If you don't know the
power of your own p, howcan you snatch his soul? Even more
than that, how can you trulyembrase your sexuality if you don't know the
power of your own P. Sounderstand, when you hear me talking about
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sexuality, I'm talking about your capacityfor sexual feelings. This includes your sexual
appetite, your sexual love language,you know what you prefer in sexual activity.
That is my definition that I'm givingyou for sexuality. So that when
you hear me talk about embracing yoursexuality, that is primarily what I'm talking
about, your capacity for sexual feelings. So, now that we talked about
the power of the pe, let'stalk about the power of your emotional connection.
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So this is the second piece inthe blueprint of snatching his soul.
So let's talk about what is anemotional connection. Well, emotional connection is
a bundle of subjective feeling that cometogether to create a bond between two people.
The word emotional means to arouse strongfeelings. The feelings may be anger,
sorrow, joy, love, orany thousands of emotions. Right,
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So, of course, with thisemotional connection, we're going to be talking
more about joy and love and pleasure, emotional attraction, which you're going to
hear me use attraction and connection interchangeably, Okay. Emotional attraction or emotional connection
are built off things you value together, you enjoy feeling together. So emotional
connection is not only what draws youto someone or attracts you to someone,
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but it also keeps you feeling connectedto someone in a lasting and meaningful way.
This is part of the reason whya lot of marriages go dead because
there's lack of emotional connection, becausemaybe they got married based off of physical
connection or some other type of connection, but not realizing that emotional availability is
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required in feeling connected in a lastingand meaningful way. This is not the
same as physical connection or physical attractionnow, because physical connection and physical attraction
is based upon the outward, butemotional connection and attraction is oftentimes developed on
the inward, and it's developed basedupon things like values, our personalities,
our beliefs, reflexibility to relate ona different level and connect like we want
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to feel understood. That's where emotionalconnection comes in. When we both understand
each other, we want to feelcared about. That's what emotional connection comes
in. When we both care abouteach other and we can feel it.
Don't we love feeling when someone trulycares about us? Oh, we love
it, and guess what we'll do, show out with it and show them
that we care about them too.And though you can have this without a
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sexual connection, oftentimes the sexual connectionwill come because of the emotional connection,
especially for those who are not initiallydrawn or attracted to someone physically or sexually.
This is true for those who connecton emotional levels first before sexual and
physical levels. Now, let's moveon to a side of your vulnerability.
Your vulnerability is key, and whatis vulnerability. Vulnerability is the quality or
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state of being exposed to the possibilityof being attacked or harmed, either physically
or emotionally. Now, think aboutthis during sex. Being vulnerable can mean
different things. But when I'm talkingabout being vulnerable, I'm talking about being
completely open in every way physically,emotionally, and sexually, and probably more
other things too, but especially thoseways. So if I'm talking about me,
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that means being totally naked and unashamed, with me exposing my neckadness to
you physically, emotionally, and sexually. Y'all get that that means you'll see
and feel all of me in everyway. The way I sound, the
way I moaned, the way Italk during that time, the way I
move my body with you, youseeing my body and every perfection, in
every flaw, in every way,all of my emotions available to you.
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I'm literally opening up my life andeverything to you. That's being vulnerable,
knowing you can reject it, knowingyou can reject me, knowing you can
attack me. Ever seen the movieWhy Did I Get Married? Do you
remember when Jill Scott's character came intothe room with her husband in some type
of lingerie that she had just gotand he laughed. She was being vulnerable
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with him, trying something new inhim, trying to spice up their relationship,
and he laughed. She opened herselfup to him and was being vulnerable
and he rejected and attacked her.That's gotta hurt. But that's what vulnerability
is. It's saying I'm open tobeing attacked, but I'm expecting to being
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loved instead. It is truly trulypowerful, ladies, And that's why my
book that's coming out so Nine ThingsWomen should ask a man before giving him
sex, We talk about vulnerability getthe pre order. That's another blood.
Okay, So let's move on seasonwith sexual attension. Oh, one of
my favorites. Sexual at tension ismore about everything that leads up to sex
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than the actual act of sex.Y'all hear me. Let me say it
again. Sexual tension is more abouteverything that leads up to sex than the
actual act of sex. This iswhere you interact and desire one another sexually,
like think about it, like,can't stop thinking about them. You
get butterflies when you think about them. You focus directly on your desire for
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them, and it's shared. Thisis an energetic force shared between two or
more people who have a sexual interestin one another, flirting, daydreaming,
finding ways to touch each other asoften as possible, even with the children
around, trying to move each otherin front of each other a little bit
slow, and even with the slightesttouch, you're about to explode, right,
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increase body temperature, went around eachother. And the thing is,
when sexual tension is heightened, youcan't have sex at that time, so
it's taking over. You're like,oh my god, I can't wait the
fire. And that's the point ofsexual tension. It's great because if mentally
prepares you to be with the personwho shares your sexual attraction and it is
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a straight turn on boom. It'salso like an explosive afrodisiac for people in
love who can help build anticipatory arousalwith the right amount of sexual frustration paired
with excitement. It's like an emotionaledging technique. Since the tea like y'all
teasing, and the delay you teasingbecause he at work or he's out of
town and y'all just can't be togetherright now. So like an emotional edging
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technique, the t's and delay canstimulate hope, fantasy, curiosity, longing
in venture, and pleasure and yoube all for it. Boom. The
last piece of this blueprint is thedope ass sexual position. Yes, that's
when my book come in nine positions. That is another plug in I any
Positions dot com Nine positions to getyou to the big o'. So we're
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talking about some dope ass sexual positionits positions that's easier for you to come
in like on top Calgirl, whichin my video that is the number one
position for women to get in tosnatch a man. Soul modified missionary et
cetera. I share these positions inmy latest book, which you can purchase
and download at nine positions dot com. Nine Positions dot com, n I
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ny Positions dot Com. I knowI'm plugging, I'm plugging, but I'm
saying the dope ass sexual position isthe icing on the cake. This is
how you snatch a man's soul.The power of you pee, which is
you knowing your body, especially herthat part with the power of your emotional
connection. Yes, we just wentthrough that in detail, and a side
of your vulnerability opening yourself completely upseason with some sexual tension because we can't
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wait till he get home, right, And a dope ass sexual position like
being on top, which is thecowgirl position, and I help you flip
it and reverse it to reverse cowgirlposition. That's how you snatch you sold.
All of those ingredients are how younot just sold, but at the
end of the day, it createssuch an amazing connection, long lasting,
being vulnerable, being held, beinglove, being all of these things to
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snatch his soul with performance sex,which I talk about on my videos on
TikTok as well, because remember,performance sex is where you snatch his soul.
Pleasure sex is where he snatches yours. But today we talking about snatching
his but those other ingredients, ladies, that's how you snatch his soul.
And did you know it's actually freeingto have sex in this manner knowing that
that man melts because of the connectionyou have with him, because you understand
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and know your body. Because eitheryou've learned this on your own or I
have helped you, because I wantyou to be uplying what I have helped
you with blue and that's it.That's how you snatch your soul the blueprint.
Those are the magic ingredients, thepieces of the puzzle that is solved,
and the end results are you havehis soul that y'all know, I
ain't talking to literally having soul,which I'll get what I'm saying. Anyway,
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thank you for tuning in to today'spodcast. Y'all leave me some comments
to let me know what did youthink of today's episode. I had so
much fun doing this episode because y'all, I've actually been sick for over a
week now and I didn't know ifI was going to get through it or
not. But like it's so excitedtalking about this stuff, it's hard not
to get through things with all theexcitement that I have. So once again,
this is Octavia Evance aka o EV, your favorite sexologist, and I
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helped high achieving women of faith andbrains own and protect their sexuality in order
to create the shifts and sex lifeof their dreams without compromising their faith.
And you can find me anywhere onsocial media at Actavia Evans TikTok ig,
Twitter, LinkedIn Facebook. That iswhere I'm at, y'all. And this
is another episode we have completed.Make sure you are sharing this podcast and
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getting my books and I will seeyou next time. Booth much love,