Becoming Your True Self

In this lecture, Pastor Ken Shigematsu explores the deep and complex emotions surrounding shame and the transformative power of God's love. He begins by reflecting on his early experiences in ministry, connecting his journey to the teachings of the Bible. Ken shares a personal anecdote about the recurring dreams he has experienced, revealing a subconscious fear of inadequacy, which he identifies as shame—a feeling that affects many people, regardless of their walk of life. He describes how shame can manifest in academic, personal, and financial contexts, often leading to a desire to either retreat or overachieve as a means of validation.

Ken draws on philosophical insights to illustrate how modern society fuels this shame through comparison and the relentless pursuit of external validation. He emphasizes that seeking approval from others leads individuals away from their true selves, reinforcing the idea that real worth resides in one’s identity as a creation of God. He references the Apostle Paul’s prayer in Ephesians, urging the congregation to grasp the magnitude of Christ's love, which surpasses all understanding and is crucial for overcoming feelings of inadequacy.

As the lecture progresses, Ken introduces spiritual practices as methods to counteract shame and foster an awareness of God's love. He suggests simple but profound exercises, such as affirmations of one’s identity as beloved by God. By imagining the voice of God speaking affectionately over them, individuals can begin to internalize their worth outside of their accomplishments. Ken encourages the audience to reflect on those in their lives who have demonstrated unconditional love, further connecting this appreciation for human affection to the divine love of God.

Ken also addresses the role of confession in alleviating shame. He highlights how sharing vulnerabilities and experiences with trusted individuals can transform feelings of isolation into community support, which is vital for healing. Using a personal story of his own youthful missteps, he illustrates the powerful release that comes from being met with empathy rather than judgment, reinforcing the liberating nature of authentic community.

Additionally, he discusses the importance of beauty in spiritual life. Citing research about the calming effects of nature on the brain, Ken urges listeners to seek out beauty as a way to connect with God and to quiet the inner critic often fostered by shame. He paints vivid pictures of moments in nature that inspire awe and invites the congregation to cultivate experiences that resonate with their souls.

In closing, Ken reflects on his long-standing relationship with mentor Leighton Ford, illustrating how accepting unconditional love allows for emotional freedom and the ability to embrace one’s true identity. He emphasizes that knowing God's love is liberating and encourages everyone to share this love with others, fostering a community that reflects the heart of Christ. Ken concludes with an invitation to the audience to embrace God's love and allow it to fill their lives, transforming how they perceive themselves and interact with the world.