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April 21, 2025 14 mins
A Daily Battle Plan To Fight For Your Children Even If Hope Seems Lost 
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Starcares, a weekly program that delves into the
issues that impact you and your family. This program is
a public affairs feature of this radio station. Now here's
your host, Michael Leach.

Speaker 2 (00:14):
Christian families today are engaged in a fierce spiritual battle
as their children are confronted with anxiety, depression, social media addiction,
substance abuse, sexual experimentation, and so many other issues. How
can we as parents navigate? Let's talk about it. My
guest today is Lane laws and Kraft, the author of

(00:34):
Warfare Parenting, a daily battle to fight for your child.

Speaker 3 (00:38):
Lane.

Speaker 2 (00:39):
Thank you for joining me today and welcome to the show.

Speaker 3 (00:41):
Thank you so much, Michael, I'm so glad to be here.

Speaker 2 (00:43):
What motivated your writing?

Speaker 3 (00:45):
I experienced this in a very deep and personal way, Michael.
At the time that I thought I was doing everything
that the Lord had purposed me to do. I was
a publisher of a national magazine called Woe whoa Women.
It was in every bookstore America and Canada, and I thought, Okay, Lord,
I've done all you've asked me to do. And at
the same time, Michael, my three children were prodigals and

(01:10):
they were really sucked in by the darkness of the world.
So about the time that all three of them, at
different stages, broke free and were delivered. God just reminded
me a few years back, Michael, when we started seeing
all this fit and all poisoning, and these suicide rates
going up, and depression and anxiety, and our young people
and adults. God reminded me, what would you have loved

(01:32):
to read when you were in that battle yourself with
the spiritual And I wrote the parents' battle plan, warfare
strategies to win back your prodigal gives you applications and
tools to help you in that battle. And then many
of the parents and grandparents, because a lot of grandparents, Michael,
are raising teens and adult children today, they needed daily strength,

(01:53):
they needed daily encouragement. And so warfare parenting, a daily
battle plan to fight for your child is something that
I I did with a scripture and a devotion and
a prayer, just for those parting struggling parents and grandparents.

Speaker 2 (02:05):
So, Lynna, you and your husband raised your three children
in a Christian home, yet you referred to them as
having a prodigal journey. What do you think happened there?

Speaker 3 (02:13):
Well, I believe with everything in me my eldest prodigal,
he was shunkorn Michael, and he believes that that started
the fifteen year battle of just the enemy coming in
with drugs, alcohol, sexualization, all of that. And then Lawson
and Kaylee had different battles. But what I want every
parent and loved one and grandparent to know, it just

(02:35):
shows you the darkness of the world, the intensity of
the enemy coming to seek kill and destroy our children.

Speaker 2 (02:42):
Absolutely, So what led you to believe that traditional parenting
methods really are inefficient or insufficient for today's crisis with
our children?

Speaker 3 (02:52):
Well, Michael, I think the biggest AHA moment when I
was in war with the enemy after my children was
when I realized this was in a physical battle, this
was a battle in the spirit. So that's when I
began to really come to the Lord in a different level,
in a different way, and say, God, please protect my children,
give them your wisdom, and I begin to really up

(03:15):
my any on my prayer life.

Speaker 2 (03:17):
Prodigal journeys can occur at various stages of life, right
including adults, we can fall into that same situation. What
do you think is the commonality with these journeys? And
then what would be some initial steps that someone should
take when they realize that someone that they love is
heading in this direction.

Speaker 3 (03:31):
Well, I think the biggest common thread, whether it's a
teen or an adult child at fifty years old, it's
our culture, it's our media, it's everything around us. Michael
is usurfing the word of God and faith based agendas.
So I believe with technology, I say all the time,
our children, whether they're fifteen or fifty, are one click

(03:53):
away from making a wrong choice, whether it's drugs, a hookup, sexting.
I mean what effort is So technology would be the
greatest commonality, and I would say absolutely. Again, these are
all ages appropriate suggestions, but you know, don't forget if
you have children in your house under your roof, where

(04:15):
you're supplying everything they need, the food, the water, the
car or whatever. You have authority. Jesus Christ died and
gave us the authority over all dominion on the earth.
So I just really empower parents that still have them
under the roof that you have authority and rules can

(04:35):
be made any day when you see what you're doing
right now is not working. Then with adult children, I
just really guide parents to look at them and try
to possibly reunite on a very heartstring. I guess I
encourage parents to write a letter to that estrange child,

(04:55):
the child that continues to make self destructive choices as
an adult, write a letter just from a mama's heart
or a daddy's heart, just say I love you, I'm
so glad God gifted you to me. Is there a
way that we could come together and figure out how
we can reconcile or begin a journey of healing?

Speaker 2 (05:13):
And so you emphasize the importance of prayer and spiritual
armor doing the fight for a loved one. Is that
what you mean when you say warfare parenting.

Speaker 3 (05:22):
Yes, it means you put your warrior parenting on and
that key essential Michael, I know that I know is prayer,
And I get real specific. I pled the blood of Jesus.
You know, we don't talk about that much anymore, but
it's through the blood of Jesus Christ that we have
power and stream and miraculous things happen. And I would

(05:45):
paint across through the Blood of Christ on each one,
I'd say, Father, God, in the name of Jesus and
the Blood of Christ, please give Stephen protection, loss and protection,
daily protection, and Father, give them your wisdom, because Michael,
I knew that once God touched their heart and gave
them the wisdom, then I knew that they would love
and serve him one day.

Speaker 2 (06:06):
Do you think that declaring victory, even in the midst
of ongoing spiritual struggles, can serve as a source of
strength for both the parents and the child who's experiencing
this prodigal journey?

Speaker 3 (06:17):
And if so, how yes, well I can remember, Michael,
I would sit in my languor cline or many mornings
and just cry out to God, and I mean literally
well out to God, because you know, it would be
after a weekend of several infractions, one after the other,
and wonder, God, are you hearing me? But what I
started doing is just waiting expectantly. I started saying, Lord,

(06:38):
I know that no weapon formed against Stephen lawsoner Kaye
will prosper. And I ask for his daily strength, Michael,
because it takes a lot of strength in the meantime
of waiting for that prayer. We give a prayer and
then we're waiting on the answer, and that's the meantime,
and that's when the enemy can get in there and
make you get discouraged or disappointed or feel like God's

(07:00):
not going to show up. But I changed that perspective
and started waiting expectantly for the move of God for
my child.

Speaker 2 (07:08):
So, when your children were experiencing these things and they
were under your roof, was there any moment when you
had to make an adjustment to their living situation? How
did you handle that?

Speaker 3 (07:18):
Absolutely? Listen. One of the biggest aha things too in
the real life application was Michael, when I started realizing
things in our lives weren't working, and I realized I
was carrying over rules and expectations like from when they
were younger. So I really equipped parents with the knowledge
that if you're looking around and things are chaotic, and

(07:39):
if things are in a rebellious state, start looking where
you need to modify and make new rules and tell
them listen, it's a new day. You haven't come home
at curfew in weeks, it's a new day. These are
the new rules. Then I say, please start a communication
track with them saying hey, listen, these are new rules.
Now do you understand? And sit down So there's no

(08:01):
gray area. There was a lot of gray area in
my house, Michael, and so I had to start sitting
down and saying you know, when you do this, this
is the consequence.

Speaker 2 (08:10):
And you were able to hold those consequences, because I
know for some people that may mean, of course, depending
upon the age, that the person may not be able
to live in the home if they're not observing and
respecting and honoring the parameters and the rules.

Speaker 3 (08:24):
Yes, and that's kind of the gray of enabling and boundary.
So let me just give you an example, personal example.
My son had gotten another infraction from the police about
driving and drinking. So I said to him, no more car.
It was his senior year, his senior year in high school,
and for six months he did not drive. I'm telling you, Michael.

(08:47):
Two weeks after he got his car, he got in
trouble again. So listen, this is what I say. I
get it. A lot of times, our consequences may not
stop the behavior, but it does market you follow it
enough that they remember. And I will say, it didn't
take much longer and he realized they aren't playing. They're
fixing to take my car away forever. I'm going to

(09:08):
go to college on foot. So boundaries and enabling are
a whole other subject. But all I can say is
as a mama, I realized, Michael, I was funding many
of their wrong choices. I was continuing to bail them
out of terrible troubles, whether it was a speeding ticket
or whatever. And I had to stop because I realized

(09:30):
I was a part of the problem. I was allowing
this under my watch. And when I started cutting off
ways that I was enabling, things started to turn around.

Speaker 2 (09:39):
Often parents may not be on the same page where
those things are concerned. How did you and your husband
maintain unity as you went along, Well.

Speaker 3 (09:48):
We had a resurrected marriage, Michael. Seventeen years in our marriage,
we were living on opposite ends of the house, and
we were all but divorced, and we looked at each
other and said, you know, we're in our thirties. We've
got these three children. These were before they were hitting teenagers.
And we decided that we were going to call upon

(10:08):
a God that we've been, you know, worshiping and all,
but really did not have a deep relationship with. So
we got on our knees and we said, Father, God,
if you're real, please come into this marriage and bring
life back into it. And Michael, he did. The reason
I share that is we couldn't believe how much God
loved us. Here we were, you know, in a dead marriage,

(10:29):
and He came and resurrected it. So when the kids
were all three being challenged with the darkness of the world,
that was the anchor, the miracle believing anchor that God
would do it for our children. So we applied that
to raising our kids. We decided early on, we're going
to do this together, meaning give There's a scripture that

(10:51):
said a house divided will certainly fall. Steve and I
decided we're going to get together. Now. We may not
agree on everything, but we can disagree behind the or
and stand together in front of these kids. So they
didn't play against us. Michael, you know how kids will
come and say Mama said this, Daddy said that, or whatever.
So we decided early on for success in the house,

(11:13):
and it was scriptually based that we must say united
and listen. We have a lot of parents that are
divorced or parenting their children and not living together. Make
a plan at least to stand together on rules that
you know will keep your child out of.

Speaker 2 (11:28):
Trouble when a prodigal returns. What are some of the
steps to facilitate forgiveness and healing and rebuilding.

Speaker 3 (11:35):
What's a journey, and it is a process. I say
often healing is a process. God can come in supernaturally
and change things everything instantly, but it does take time
to build trust. Again, can you imagine having fifteen years
of a child lying or you know, falling back and
backsliding over and over. So it takes time to build trust,

(12:00):
to really build those relationships. And I will say I
believe two words will always bring real healing, and that's
I'm sorry. I tell all three of my kids, listen,
I'm sorry, I yelled, I'm sorry I overreacted. I would
explain myself and just you know, and then that would

(12:21):
allow them to say, well, I'm sorry that I broke
the rule again, or I'm an adult child and I'm
still not making right choices. So I believe i'm sorry
is a great way to start the trust and the
rebuilding and restoration of you and your child. Lynn.

Speaker 2 (12:38):
What message would you share with those who are really
feeling hopeless. They may be estranged from their product, or
even have lost their prodigal child. What words of encouragement
would you offer?

Speaker 3 (12:48):
Yes, I would say first and foremost that no prodigal
is too far gone for God. My eldest son was
high on cocaine going to the next party when an
uber driver that he had called picked him up to
go to the next party. And Stephen was high, and
the man was from another country and said, Stephen, I
felt like I'm supposed to pray for you, So Steven said, right,
old man. The man started praying Michael, and the presence

(13:12):
of God was so heavy that he fell to the
floorboard and began to wail and cry because the Lord's
presence was so heavy in that uber. The reason I
share that is because Stephen was probably in the darkest
pit of hell. It was in his fifteenth year of
being a prodigal and estrange, and the Lord loved him
so much that he came down to heaven and touched

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him in a way that it started his transformation. God
didn't wait for him to clean up. So for any
loved one of a prodigal or parent or grandparent, listen,
no prodigal is too far going for God, and God
can come down at any point in their journey.

Speaker 2 (13:48):
Lene, how can we learn more and where do we
get a copy of your resource?

Speaker 3 (13:52):
Sure, just go to my website Lane la I n
E Loss and Craft with the c c R A
F T. LAI n E. Law cr Aft. You can
get free resources. You can read the first ten days
of Warfare Parenting, a daily battle plan to fight for
your child and the Warfare Parenting. You can read the
first chapter three and many other free resources and the

(14:13):
podcast and things like that.

Speaker 2 (14:15):
Lanelowsoncraft dot com lanelossoncraft dot com, Lane, thank you so
much for me so transparent about your journey that others
might experience healing and hope. Thank you, thank you, and
thank you for listening. What better way to be reminded
on this Resurrection Sunday that seemingly dead circumstances do not
have the final say, But because of Jesus and the

(14:36):
power of his blood and the power of his resurrection,
there is hope and there is victory in him. I'm
your host, Michael Leach, and I am praying for you,
and I am praying that the rest of your day
is wonderful.
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