November 8, 2024 • 10 mins
On Day 2 of the “Start Thinking Forward” 22-Day Challenge, host Brandon L. Draper takes you on a raw, powerful journey into the heart of your limiting beliefs. These are the unseen barriers holding you back—the stories you’ve accepted as “truth” about who you are, what you’re capable of, and what you deserve.
Today, we’re confronting them head-on. With tough love and unflinching honesty, Brandon challenges you to face these beliefs, break them down, and replace them with empowering new truths.Packed with intense, real-life stories and deep, transformative exercises, this episode will push you to see the cost of holding onto old beliefs and inspire you to start living with freedom and purpose.
A special shoutout to our sponsor, Serebro AI, whose tools are designed to help you identify, challenge, and rewrite the beliefs that shape your life. Ready to break free? Hit play, share this episode on iHeart Radio, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you tune in, and join the movement.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/start-thinking-forward-podcast--1229199/support.
Today, we’re confronting them head-on. With tough love and unflinching honesty, Brandon challenges you to face these beliefs, break them down, and replace them with empowering new truths.Packed with intense, real-life stories and deep, transformative exercises, this episode will push you to see the cost of holding onto old beliefs and inspire you to start living with freedom and purpose.
A special shoutout to our sponsor, Serebro AI, whose tools are designed to help you identify, challenge, and rewrite the beliefs that shape your life. Ready to break free? Hit play, share this episode on iHeart Radio, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you tune in, and join the movement.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/start-thinking-forward-podcast--1229199/support.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey everyone, welcome back to the Start Thinking Forward podcast.
I'm Brandon L. Draper and today is day two of
our twenty two day challenge to rewrite your Story. Yesterday
we talked about the story you've been living, who you
are beneath all the labels and expectations others have placed
on you. Today, we're diving into what might be the
(00:22):
toughest part of this journey, identifying and breaking down your
limiting beliefs. Let me be clear, today is gonna be intense.
We're gonna face the stories you tell yourself about who
you are, what you're capable of, and what you deserve,
And if you're willing to go there with me, we're
(00:43):
gonna start breaking down the mental barriers that have kept
you stuck for far too long. I want you to
take a deep breath, because today's episode is gonna challenge you.
It's gonna require honesty, vulnerability, and courage. But if you
stick with me through this, I promise you'll come out
stronger on the other side. All right, let's start with
some real talk. What are limiting beliefs and why do
(01:06):
they have so much power over us? Limiting beliefs are
the invisible chains in our minds. They're the stories we've
told ourselves for so long that they've started to feel
like absolute truth. I'm not smart enough, I'm not worthy,
it's too late for me. Sound familiar. These beliefs don't
come out of nowhere. They're usually shaped by our past experiences,
(01:30):
by rejection, by failure, by the hurtful things people have said,
and sometimes even by what we've witnessed around us. But
here's the thing. Just because you believe something for years
doesn't make it true. Just because it feels real doesn't
mean it's the whole story. Let me tell you about
someone I know. We'll call him James. James grew up
(01:53):
in a family that struggled financially, and from a young
age he was told to be realistic. He was in
urge to get a stable job, keep his head down,
and not reach too high. His parents loved him, but
they passed down their own fears and doubts about what
was possible. As an adult, James had a passion for photography.
(02:13):
He would dream about traveling, capturing moments, making art that
moved people, But every time he thought about pursuing it seriously,
that old voice would creep in be realistic, James, You're
not good enough to make it as an artist. You'll
just end up broke. Years went by, James never pursued photography,
(02:35):
and to this day he wonders what his life could
have been like. That belief, I have to be realistic
became a prison, a mental cage that kept him from
stepping into his potential. The saddest part, James never questioned
that belief. He accepted it as fact, and he missed
out on a life he might have loved. So here's
(02:56):
my question to you. What's your James moment? What's something
you've wanted, something you've dreamed about but haven't pursued because
of a belief you've carried. I want you to take
a few minutes and write this down. Write about a
dream you've let go of or a goal you've buried,
and then write down the belief that's kept you from
(03:17):
going after it. Look at that belief. Does it feel
like the truth? Does it feel unchangeable? Now? Ask yourself,
where did this belief come from? Maybe it came from family,
maybe from society, or maybe from a past failure. But
here's the thing, It's just a belief, not a fact.
You've carried it, but it doesn't have to define you,
(03:39):
all right. So we've uncovered a belief. Now comes the
hard part, challenging it. This is where most people stop.
They recognize their limiting beliefs, but they never confront them.
But you're not most people. Are you. You're here because
you're ready to go deeper to tear down these beliefs
(04:00):
one by one. Let's take another example. I want to
talk about Lisa. Lisa was incredibly talented in high school,
top of her class, loved to write, dreamed about becoming
an author. But her father was a businessman who believed
that creative careers were a waste of time. He used
to say things like real success comes from stability, from
(04:22):
making money, from playing it safe, and Lisa absorbed that.
She believed that her passion wasn't practical, that pursuing it
would mean disappointing her family. Lisa went on to college,
studied business, got a job that paid well, but every
day she felt that ache that pulled toward writing, and
(04:42):
every time she thought about picking up a pen, her
father's words echoed in her mind. That belief became a
wall she couldn't get passed. Success means stability, not passion.
If you're nodding your head right now, if you're thinking
that's me, then let's talk. These beliefs can feel like stone,
like they're unbreakable, but they're not. Their words ideas we've
(05:07):
repeated so many times that they've become mental walls. But
with a little effort, those walls can come down. Here's
what I want you to do next. I want you
to write a letter to the source of that belief.
Maybe it was a parent, a teacher, or even a
version of yourself that picked up that belief. Write it
all down, tell them how that belief has held you back.
(05:30):
Be honest, be raw, and when you're done in the
letter with forgiveness, because this isn't about blame, it's about freedom.
Forgive them, forgive yourself and release the belief. Let's talk
about fear for a minute, because behind every limiting belief
is a fear, A fear of rejection, a fear of failure,
(05:51):
a fear of not being enough. And these fears they
can feel paralyzing. They can make you want to run
the other way, to stay in your comfort zone, to
avoid the risk. But here's the thing. If you want
to grow you're gonna have to face those fears. You're
gonna have to look them dead in the eye and
say you don't own me. There's a story that comes
(06:12):
to mind about a woman named Maria. Maria was terrified
of public speaking. As a kid, she'd been humiliated in class,
and ever since she avoided speaking in front of others.
This fear became a belief, I'm not good at public speaking.
It limited her. It kept her from advancing in her
(06:32):
career because she turned down promotions if they involved presentations.
One day, Maria decided enough was enough. She signed up
for a public speaking class, shaking with fear the entire time,
and on her first day, she stumbled through her speech.
Her voice cracked, her hands shook, but she finished it.
(06:53):
And as the weeks went by, she kept showing up,
she kept practicing, and slowly that fear lost its grip.
Maria now speaks at conferences around the world, inspiring thousands,
and that belief, I'm not good at public speaking is gone.
Now it's your turn. What's a fear that's holding you back?
I want you to write it down, name it, acknowledge it,
(07:17):
and then here's the kicker. I want you to take
one small step toward that fear this week. Just one.
Maybe it's having a difficult conversation you've been avoiding, or
sharing your art with someone, or applying for a job
you're not qualified for. Take one step and remind yourself
the belief loses its power when you face it. We've
(07:38):
done a lot of digging today, a lot of uncovering.
Now it's time to start building. Because it's not enough
to tear down the old beliefs. You have to replace
them with new ones. And here's the thing. This isn't
going to happen overnight. Changing beliefs takes time, consistency, and patience.
I want you to take those new beliefs we talked
(07:58):
about earlier, the ones that empower you, that build you up,
and I want you to repeat them every single day.
Write them on sticky notes, put them on your bathroom mirror,
set reminders on your phone, look yourself in the eye
every morning, say them out loud, and keep saying them
until they start to feel true. Because that's how belief works.
(08:20):
It starts with a thought, repeated over time until it
becomes part of who you are. Now let's get real
for a minute. I'm gonna challenge you because I believe
in you enough to push you. Excuses are easy, Blaming
your past is easy, but living a life you're proud
of that takes grit. That takes facing the hard stuff,
(08:40):
tearing down beliefs that no longer serve you, and stepping
into the unknown. I know it's tempting to say I'll
start tomorrow, or it's just how I am, but those
are just more limiting beliefs in disguise. You're stronger than that.
You're capable of more than you realize, and if you
want to see real change, time to stop making excuses.
(09:01):
It's time to show up for yourself, to do the
work to rewrite the story you're living. I want you
to end today with one final exercise. Close your eyes
and picture the version of yourself who's free from these beliefs,
the version of yourself who's confident, empowered and living life
on their terms. Visualize it. Hold on to that image
(09:23):
because that's who you're becoming. Now write down that vision
in as much detail as possible. Write about what your
life looks like, how you feel, how you show up
every day. Keep this vision somewhere close, and revisit it.
Whenever you need a reminder of why you're doing this work.
All right, my friend, that's day two. This was a
tough one. We went deep, we faced some hard truths,
(09:46):
and we took steps toward freedom. But remember this is
just the beginning. Belief work is ongoing. It's something you'll
have to revisit, refine, and reinforce. If today's episode moved you,
share it was someone who needs it. Find us on iHeartRadio,
Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. And
(10:08):
thank you to our sponsor, cerebro Ai for providing the
tools that make transformation possible. If you're serious about rewriting
your beliefs, check out what they have to offer. They'll
be your partner in this journey. Until next time, keep
showing up, keep doing the work, and keep thinking forward.
You've got this
Hey everyone, welcome back to the Start Thinking Forward podcast.
I'm Brandon L. Draper and today is day two of
our twenty two day challenge to rewrite your Story. Yesterday
we talked about the story you've been living, who you
are beneath all the labels and expectations others have placed
on you. Today, we're diving into what might be the
(00:22):
toughest part of this journey, identifying and breaking down your
limiting beliefs. Let me be clear, today is gonna be intense.
We're gonna face the stories you tell yourself about who
you are, what you're capable of, and what you deserve,
And if you're willing to go there with me, we're
(00:43):
gonna start breaking down the mental barriers that have kept
you stuck for far too long. I want you to
take a deep breath, because today's episode is gonna challenge you.
It's gonna require honesty, vulnerability, and courage. But if you
stick with me through this, I promise you'll come out
stronger on the other side. All right, let's start with
some real talk. What are limiting beliefs and why do
(01:06):
they have so much power over us? Limiting beliefs are
the invisible chains in our minds. They're the stories we've
told ourselves for so long that they've started to feel
like absolute truth. I'm not smart enough, I'm not worthy,
it's too late for me. Sound familiar. These beliefs don't
come out of nowhere. They're usually shaped by our past experiences,
(01:30):
by rejection, by failure, by the hurtful things people have said,
and sometimes even by what we've witnessed around us. But
here's the thing. Just because you believe something for years
doesn't make it true. Just because it feels real doesn't
mean it's the whole story. Let me tell you about
someone I know. We'll call him James. James grew up
(01:53):
in a family that struggled financially, and from a young
age he was told to be realistic. He was in
urge to get a stable job, keep his head down,
and not reach too high. His parents loved him, but
they passed down their own fears and doubts about what
was possible. As an adult, James had a passion for photography.
(02:13):
He would dream about traveling, capturing moments, making art that
moved people, But every time he thought about pursuing it seriously,
that old voice would creep in be realistic, James, You're
not good enough to make it as an artist. You'll
just end up broke. Years went by, James never pursued photography,
(02:35):
and to this day he wonders what his life could
have been like. That belief, I have to be realistic
became a prison, a mental cage that kept him from
stepping into his potential. The saddest part, James never questioned
that belief. He accepted it as fact, and he missed
out on a life he might have loved. So here's
(02:56):
my question to you. What's your James moment? What's something
you've wanted, something you've dreamed about but haven't pursued because
of a belief you've carried. I want you to take
a few minutes and write this down. Write about a
dream you've let go of or a goal you've buried,
and then write down the belief that's kept you from
(03:17):
going after it. Look at that belief. Does it feel
like the truth? Does it feel unchangeable? Now? Ask yourself,
where did this belief come from? Maybe it came from family,
maybe from society, or maybe from a past failure. But
here's the thing, It's just a belief, not a fact.
You've carried it, but it doesn't have to define you,
(03:39):
all right. So we've uncovered a belief. Now comes the
hard part, challenging it. This is where most people stop.
They recognize their limiting beliefs, but they never confront them.
But you're not most people. Are you. You're here because
you're ready to go deeper to tear down these beliefs
(04:00):
one by one. Let's take another example. I want to
talk about Lisa. Lisa was incredibly talented in high school,
top of her class, loved to write, dreamed about becoming
an author. But her father was a businessman who believed
that creative careers were a waste of time. He used
to say things like real success comes from stability, from
(04:22):
making money, from playing it safe, and Lisa absorbed that.
She believed that her passion wasn't practical, that pursuing it
would mean disappointing her family. Lisa went on to college,
studied business, got a job that paid well, but every
day she felt that ache that pulled toward writing, and
(04:42):
every time she thought about picking up a pen, her
father's words echoed in her mind. That belief became a
wall she couldn't get passed. Success means stability, not passion.
If you're nodding your head right now, if you're thinking
that's me, then let's talk. These beliefs can feel like stone,
like they're unbreakable, but they're not. Their words ideas we've
(05:07):
repeated so many times that they've become mental walls. But
with a little effort, those walls can come down. Here's
what I want you to do next. I want you
to write a letter to the source of that belief.
Maybe it was a parent, a teacher, or even a
version of yourself that picked up that belief. Write it
all down, tell them how that belief has held you back.
(05:30):
Be honest, be raw, and when you're done in the
letter with forgiveness, because this isn't about blame, it's about freedom.
Forgive them, forgive yourself and release the belief. Let's talk
about fear for a minute, because behind every limiting belief
is a fear, A fear of rejection, a fear of failure,
(05:51):
a fear of not being enough. And these fears they
can feel paralyzing. They can make you want to run
the other way, to stay in your comfort zone, to
avoid the risk. But here's the thing. If you want
to grow you're gonna have to face those fears. You're
gonna have to look them dead in the eye and
say you don't own me. There's a story that comes
(06:12):
to mind about a woman named Maria. Maria was terrified
of public speaking. As a kid, she'd been humiliated in class,
and ever since she avoided speaking in front of others.
This fear became a belief, I'm not good at public speaking.
It limited her. It kept her from advancing in her
(06:32):
career because she turned down promotions if they involved presentations.
One day, Maria decided enough was enough. She signed up
for a public speaking class, shaking with fear the entire time,
and on her first day, she stumbled through her speech.
Her voice cracked, her hands shook, but she finished it.
(06:53):
And as the weeks went by, she kept showing up,
she kept practicing, and slowly that fear lost its grip.
Maria now speaks at conferences around the world, inspiring thousands,
and that belief, I'm not good at public speaking is gone.
Now it's your turn. What's a fear that's holding you back?
I want you to write it down, name it, acknowledge it,
(07:17):
and then here's the kicker. I want you to take
one small step toward that fear this week. Just one.
Maybe it's having a difficult conversation you've been avoiding, or
sharing your art with someone, or applying for a job
you're not qualified for. Take one step and remind yourself
the belief loses its power when you face it. We've
(07:38):
done a lot of digging today, a lot of uncovering.
Now it's time to start building. Because it's not enough
to tear down the old beliefs. You have to replace
them with new ones. And here's the thing. This isn't
going to happen overnight. Changing beliefs takes time, consistency, and patience.
I want you to take those new beliefs we talked
(07:58):
about earlier, the ones that empower you, that build you up,
and I want you to repeat them every single day.
Write them on sticky notes, put them on your bathroom mirror,
set reminders on your phone, look yourself in the eye
every morning, say them out loud, and keep saying them
until they start to feel true. Because that's how belief works.
(08:20):
It starts with a thought, repeated over time until it
becomes part of who you are. Now let's get real
for a minute. I'm gonna challenge you because I believe
in you enough to push you. Excuses are easy, Blaming
your past is easy, but living a life you're proud
of that takes grit. That takes facing the hard stuff,
(08:40):
tearing down beliefs that no longer serve you, and stepping
into the unknown. I know it's tempting to say I'll
start tomorrow, or it's just how I am, but those
are just more limiting beliefs in disguise. You're stronger than that.
You're capable of more than you realize, and if you
want to see real change, time to stop making excuses.
(09:01):
It's time to show up for yourself, to do the
work to rewrite the story you're living. I want you
to end today with one final exercise. Close your eyes
and picture the version of yourself who's free from these beliefs,
the version of yourself who's confident, empowered and living life
on their terms. Visualize it. Hold on to that image
(09:23):
because that's who you're becoming. Now write down that vision
in as much detail as possible. Write about what your
life looks like, how you feel, how you show up
every day. Keep this vision somewhere close, and revisit it.
Whenever you need a reminder of why you're doing this work.
All right, my friend, that's day two. This was a
tough one. We went deep, we faced some hard truths,
(09:46):
and we took steps toward freedom. But remember this is
just the beginning. Belief work is ongoing. It's something you'll
have to revisit, refine, and reinforce. If today's episode moved you,
share it was someone who needs it. Find us on iHeartRadio,
Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. And
(10:08):
thank you to our sponsor, cerebro Ai for providing the
tools that make transformation possible. If you're serious about rewriting
your beliefs, check out what they have to offer. They'll
be your partner in this journey. Until next time, keep
showing up, keep doing the work, and keep thinking forward.
You've got this
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