April 20, 2024 • 26 mins
"You won't be great until you can learn to love SELF."
Dr. Andrew Temte is the former CEO of Kaplan Professional (La Crosse WI) and the author of two books . . . so far.
He's also the leader of a rock band, a University Teacher, a mentor, a speaker, and a podcaster.
Listen in as we discuss:
How to inspire Imposter Syndrome
Tools to be present in the work life
How Purpose brings us back to center
The first two words he uses as a teacher
Connecting personal purpose to the work we're doing
Being present. Truly present.
Being comfortable with the human you are
Living your purpose Bringing our whole selves to the world of 'work'.
His band is called The Remainders, and they are active in many fundraisers and committees in the La Crosse WI area.
Go to TheRemainders.com and find them on Facebook
Dr. Temte's books are: Balancing Act; teach, coach, mentor, inspire and
The Balanced Business; building organizational trust and accountability through smooth workflows.
His podcast is Balancing Act Podcast with Andrew Temte and you can also listen to the Saturday Muse show, too.
Check out his website for a free guide called Living a Purposeful Life and join the newsletter.
EVENT:
May 1, 2024 - The Balancing Act podcast will record three episodes live at The Main, An Event Space - in La Crosse WI.
$35 at the door goes toward scholarships at Western Technical College in La Crosse WI
AndrewTemte.com
#AndrewTemte #AndyTemte #TheMain #BalancingAct #Purpose #Grace #dignity #compassion #Kaplan #LaCrosse #LaCrosseWI #strangerconnections #lisadavidolson #speaker #author #Remainders #TheRemainders #band
Dr. Andrew Temte is the former CEO of Kaplan Professional (La Crosse WI) and the author of two books . . . so far.
He's also the leader of a rock band, a University Teacher, a mentor, a speaker, and a podcaster.
Listen in as we discuss:
How to inspire Imposter Syndrome
Tools to be present in the work life
How Purpose brings us back to center
The first two words he uses as a teacher
Connecting personal purpose to the work we're doing
Being present. Truly present.
Being comfortable with the human you are
Living your purpose Bringing our whole selves to the world of 'work'.
His band is called The Remainders, and they are active in many fundraisers and committees in the La Crosse WI area.
Go to TheRemainders.com and find them on Facebook
Dr. Temte's books are: Balancing Act; teach, coach, mentor, inspire and
The Balanced Business; building organizational trust and accountability through smooth workflows.
His podcast is Balancing Act Podcast with Andrew Temte and you can also listen to the Saturday Muse show, too.
Check out his website for a free guide called Living a Purposeful Life and join the newsletter.
EVENT:
May 1, 2024 - The Balancing Act podcast will record three episodes live at The Main, An Event Space - in La Crosse WI.
$35 at the door goes toward scholarships at Western Technical College in La Crosse WI
AndrewTemte.com
#AndrewTemte #AndyTemte #TheMain #BalancingAct #Purpose #Grace #dignity #compassion #Kaplan #LaCrosse #LaCrosseWI #strangerconnections #lisadavidolson #speaker #author #Remainders #TheRemainders #band
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You are not going to be ableto be great managers, great leaders,
and help those around you achieve theirdreams, their goals, their aspirations.
If you don't love what's going onin here first, if you don't like
what's going on in between the ears, there's no way you can fulfill your
(00:26):
dream, your vision, your purposeof helping others. Stranger Connections is the
embodiment of Lisa David Olsen's perspective ofwe're all just friends who just simply haven't
met yet. It's an exploration ofthe weirdly wonderful side of life and a
look at the single commonality we havewith each other, our differences. Slip
(00:46):
off your shoes, pour a cupof your favorite and let's meet this week's
barrel of quirks. Welcome to StrangerConnections, where I celebrate wonderfully weird people
and quirky stories. I'm your curiousbeast and Lisa David Olson, the practically
world famous interactive speaker and business humorist. So reach out to me if you
(01:07):
want to re energize your team,or have an improv workshop. Whatever you
want, reach out will make ithappen. Today. I am pretty thrilled
to have a guest on that I'veknown for a while, but we haven't
exactly gone out to lunch yet,so we're not exactly friends, but we're
darn close. And one of thethings that he says is the process of
getting to know yourself is difficult butdeeply satisfying. And he talks all about
(01:33):
the balancing act and we're going toget into that. And I happen to
have downloaded a free vie on hiswebsite, which if you're seeing the video,
it is a personal planning guide forPlease welcome Andrew Tempty, an author,
podcaster, educator, former CEO.He's even a musician and a lifelong
(01:55):
learner. Thank you so much forbeing here. And am I saying Andrew
or what are you today? Isit Andrew for business and Andy on stage?
It's a kind of just don't callme late for dinner. Please don't
on that meal we're going to havewhen we're actual friends. That's right.
Well, you're from the Lacrosse,Wisconsin area. Anybody that is around has
(02:17):
seen some of your work, whetherit would be the business side of it
with Kaplan Professional, You've done somany other things business wise that you can
share how much you want to.But I know that you've got two different
books out Balancing act Teach, Coachmentor Inspire and the Balanced Business building organizational
(02:38):
trust and accountability through smooth workflows.So is this all about work life balance?
Is at your jam? It's abit more than that, but it
kind of starts with the balance betweenwork and life. I have had struggles
with that in the past, asmany senior executives struggle with quieting the ego
(03:02):
and being present and especially with familyand friends. That the constant chase of
the ideas and the growth and moreand more and more and more and more
gets in the way of really enjoyingone's life. And as you at the
(03:23):
top of the show pointed out inmy Personal Planning guidebook, really understanding and
connecting with one's personal purpose so thatyou can align that with the work that
you're doing. And when you alignyour personal purpose with the work that you're
(03:45):
doing, all of a sudden,this concept of work versus life starts to
kind of go away, and youare living your purpose through your personal life
and your and your professional life.You can bring more of your whole self
(04:06):
into the world of work. Youcan be more present and you know,
just generally more comfortable with the humanthat you are. I have two podcasts.
One is The Saturday Morning News,where I, you know, do
kind of a five to ten minutetalk on all sorts of different things.
(04:30):
And it's why it's called the Musebecause I muse about lots of stuff.
And this week I'm talking about mypersonal battle with imposter syndrome. So it
was really only after I connected withmy personal purpose that you know, those
feelings of am I good enough?Do I belong here? I'm a fraud?
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You know that, and all ofthat and the chase, chase,
chase, all that starts to settledown when you uncover your personal purpose and
alignment with your work. Do youthink that also could come with age because
I'm kind of finding that too,that the smaller things aren't as important.
Luckily, we grew up without socialmedia being on the ready like that,
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and I was able to raise mykids without a phone in my hand,
although I did have the VHS thingon my shoulder quite often. But I
can't imagine trying to go through allthat noise and chatter. Now it would
be harder to teach the younger generationthe balance because They can work from the
bus, the bathroom, the backyard, they can work from anywhere, and
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we didn't grow up that way.Well, you know, it's interesting.
I'm teaching. I'm finally back inthe classroom at the University of Wisconsin Lacrosse
after over twenty years of not beingable to have that part of myself come
out and play nice, which isreally cool. And in the class,
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which is based on my second book, I the first day class came in
whiteboard and I wrote down two words. I've got thirty four students out there
and they're all just wondering what I'mgoing to write down, and I wrote
down self love. That's how youopened your class. Yeah, yeah,
(06:29):
yeah, wow. These are theseare management students, right, and they're
all all statistics and accounting and financeand graphs and business and we got to
get stuff done. And here thisguy walks in, you know, former
CEO, and I write down selflove and they've all got these curious looks
(06:50):
on their faces, like what inthe heck are we in for? And
I turned around and I looked athim and I said, look, you
are not going to be able tobe great managers, great leaders and help
those around you achieve their dreams,their goals, their aspirations. If you
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don't love what's going on in herefirst, if you don't like what's going
on in between the ears, there'sno way that you can fulfill your dream,
your vision, your purpose of helpingothers. So this is where we
start class, and then it's allkind of fallen into place from there.
(07:36):
You absolutely got their attention. Thathas not ever been something, you know,
starting the class with two words,especially being that powerful and giving permission
to think that way, because mostwouldn't. It's all about the grind and
doing your best and seek it.You can't do your best if you don't
if you aren't settled within. Butthat's brilliant. Wow. Yeah, total
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bumps. Yeah. So I'm I'mreally I'm hopeful that that at least these
thirty four students or some subset ofthem are going to walk out of class
after this semester and have just alittle bit different perspective and know that it's
okay to explore how you feel aboutyour work and how it aligns with who
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you are as a human. Takethat forward and do that exploration a lot
sooner than I did, right,you know, chasing other people's dreams,
other people's ideas of success. Thatthat's just a train wreck waiting to happen.
It's it's permission to slow it downand do better from the inside out.
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I love that because they're gonna havea lot longer journey than we had.
You know. I I spent youknow, forty years in the world
of you know, grind and work, and they're going to live longer their
careers. They're gonna have multiple careers, they're gonna change careers. So getting
a handle on that sooner rather thanlater is going to be beneficial. I
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just adore that, and I think, uh, that can be your next
book. I'm sure you could goon about that, but I've already got
book three in the in the backhere. Well, of course you do,
because the last thing you're going todo is is stop. But I
think that's great. So when youdid mention imposter syndrome, I did catch
that episode, and I think that'sreally important just to touch on that.
(09:37):
How do we avoid or do wefind a way to embrace that which is
imposter syndrome? And there's not oneof us that hasn't felt it. Yeah,
Well, just recognizing that you arefeeling. That is uh is a
real first step, because you know, they are our emotion. You know,
(09:58):
everything is just jumbled up in thisa spaghetti which is our brains,
right, And so it'd be supercool if we could compartmentalize all of our
uh psychological challenges and work on oneat a time, and who I fix
this one? And who I fixthat one? No, they they they're
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crawling all over each other up there. The place to start, in my
humble opinion, is with defining purpose, why am I here? Why do
I exist? And allowing oneself tomeditate, to connect, uh and quiet
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the mind and and all that noiseput that you talked about these uh,
these damn digital devices that hand computersyou kids have, Yeah, these you
know, you know, just settingthem down And these are some of the
things that I'm talking about about withwith my class, about tools to be
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present in the world of work.So so where you ask a very specific
question, where you start is todefine that that your personal purpose mind is
to teach, coach, mentor andhopefully inspire. That's a tagline of my
first book. So now that I'vereally connected with that, I know that
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my job in life is to takewhat I've learned and help help pass it
along, pay it forward. Andthat makes me feel great. And so
if anybody's out there being nasty aboutwhat I'm up to, uh sure,
it hurts it always, you know, imagining that you can tune all that
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out and blissfully go through one's lifeand uh, you know, stop listening
to the negative things that other otherpeople have to say about you. Yeah,
yeah, yeah, that's all BS. You are going to listen to
it, you are going to feelfeel it. Sure. Learning how to
tamp those feelings down, tune outthe noise as best you can is is
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certainly a skill that that you continuallywork on and adopt. But you know,
you're you're never gonna get You're you'renever going to be able to tune
all that out. So learning howto live with that and use purpose as
your tool to come back to centerand go. Yeah, people are talking
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negatively about me, that's okay.Is there anything that they're saying that I
should be listening to and and kindof adjusting? And yeah, why does
it affect me? Right? What'sinside of me that it makes me even
care at all? Right? Yeah? Is there some kernel of truth to
that. Sure, let's explore that. Let's uh, you know, let's
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let some of that in, butlet's not let it weigh us down and
completely paralyze us from moving forward,which to many people it becomes paralysis.
And oops, I put myself outthere. Better never do that again.
That you know, never never gonnado that again. I'm not gonna not
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gonna go not gonna go there.So I'll just lock myself in my house
and never put myself out there.So right, find a way to be
grounded, find out why it affectsus at all, and keep doing the
thing. Because usually those that aresaying the bad things are just kind of
jealous or would never know how tostart, and so it's easier to spew
from a keyboard then to get upand take action. So I think this
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podcast is awful. Blah blah blah. Well what have you done? Yes,
right, show me what you've done, and then we'll have a conversation
and and thank you all. Listento what you have to say. I'm
not going to completely dismiss you,but you know, show show me your
successes, and show me your narrative, what you what you aspire to be,
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and then let's have a conversation together. What were you like as a
kid. Were you always just chilland just hey, everybody's cool, or
I'm going to be a CEO inthe sandbox, you know, picturing it
my mom. I don't remember awhole lot from when I was little.
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I'm I'm kind of glad about that. Actually, I have these warm,
fuzzy memories of being being a child. Uh and you know we I grew
up in a in a loving household, where now as an adult, I
know that there was some conflict therewith my between my parents. So it
wasn't all happy and hunky dory allthe time. But in my in my
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tween years and early teens, Iwas president of the student council. I
was a straight A student, etcetera, et cetera. And then at
sixteen, the wheels just start fallingoff the bus. I'm a I'm a
straight A student. I've got everythinggoing for me. And then drugs and
alcohol. Friend groups that were atthe end of the day didn't turn out
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to be great friend groups. Soall and and that imposter syndrome that we're
just talking about the phone, thewe didn't talk about fomo then but you
know this, do I belong doI? You know, should I be
here? And and then and thenthe drugs and alcohol that kind of smoothed
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all that over and and make itappear on the surface that that things are
okay. You know that that thentook me off fun on a path that
you can read all about in myfirst book, Balancing Act. Got I
didn't know it was going to beown juicy parts in there. Okay,
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we'll learn more. It's kind ofhalf autobiography, half business book. That's
so it's a great series of personallessons that, hey, this is what
I do. Uh, fun fact, don't do that or this is not
advisable. Yeah, that kind ofthing sounds like my first book. Yeah,
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here's my life lesson, don't dothe stuff I did. Yeah.
And so in early twenties, gottogether with the love of my life,
Linda, and we we've spent therest of the time together. We are
divorced and remarried. Fun other.I didn't know that exact Yeah, so
you know it's been uh, youknow, it's not all roses and unicorns
(16:56):
and puppet but you got two honeymoonswith this lady. Yeah, yeah,
absolutely, and two wedding anniversaries.Now that now both of us don't remember
because there's two, there's there's there'stwo too many, you know, we
just every day is the anniversary.So oh it was at early twenties,
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you know, like, wow,I got to get my act together.
Yeah, I got my Fortunately myparents were educator. Are were educators?
Are educators? That knowledge that Ihad to get back to school. The
it was not a great idea todrop out of high school, which I
did, uh and try to bea rock star. Bad idea, but
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you know, went back to schoolultimately got PhD. Wow. Yeah,
look at how look at that patternthat you divorced but then married your your
same wife again. You quit school, went back and did it better.
I'm sure the remarriage you don't gointo that lightly, and so you you
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tend to go, ah, that'snot working, Okay, let's do it
better. That's a pretty good pattern. If I could go back to earlier
versions of myself. On my show, I asked a time machine question of
all of my love that love thatyou know, what's the what's the message
that you would send to an earlierversion of yourself? I have many?
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Yeah, true? Who doesn't.But that is such a great question because
it's a way to tap back intoit and think, wow, you know,
I kind of forgive that younger selfthat was kind of stupid and thought
they knew everything. Yeah, yeah, but you did go ahead and one
of the signs behind me. Ihave grace, dignity, compassion, three
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of the words that I like tolive by, and those would be I'd
slip that piece of paper to myearlier self. Just give yourself some grace,
act with dignity, and have compassionfor both yourself and others. That
would have helped a lot. That'shuge. Would a younger us have listened,
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we might have said, oh,those those old people talk in their
talk, but maybe if you say, hang on to this piece of paper,
you're gonna need this. Had Ishown up not as me, but
as somebody has had I shown upas Geddy Lee, well now you know
who you can be for Halloween.Well, and you can hand those out.
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I don't have any idols, butif if I did, he would
be right up there. Oh that'samazing. I think that's great. Now
tell people again how we can findWe've got your two different podcasts. Let's
give those a plug. Yeah,so every all things Andy Temp, andrew
Tempty are at andrew Tempty dot com. Don't put a P in my last
(19:52):
name, there is no p.So and d R E W T E
M T E dot com. That'swhere all of my stuff is. I've
got two books, Balancing Act andthen The Balanced Business is a management operating
system. It's more of a seriousbusiness book on how to install my management
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operating system into your business, whichis a blend of organizational health and continuous
improvement. I've got the Balancing Actpodcast the Saturday Morning News and on May
the first, we're doing a liveversion of the Balancing Act podcast at the
Main in downtown Lacrosse. Will belive streaming it so that if you're not
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in Lacrosse you can still participate.All the net proceeds of the thirty five
dollars cost at the door are goingto educational scholarships at Western Technical College.
So you come see us at theMain, you're going to get You're going
to be able to watch three episodesbeing created in one evening, and I've
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got Interstate sound there, three camerasset up. It's like being at a
television show. So yes, itis actually a nice cool television show and
cool comedy club kind of a viberight. Oh, and the main downtown
historic downtown Lacrosse. It is afantastic venue. They spoil you there.
They've got this great stage. They'regoing to set up all the seating thirty
(21:22):
five at the door, and youare supporting scholarships. That's May first,
so don't miss may Day, MayDay. It'll be really fun. And
then the names of your podcast.We've got the Balancing Act podcast, and
then we can also find you withthe Saturday Mews, the Saturday Morning Mews,
and we just launched that as apodcast. I've been doing that on
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the website and with YouTube videos previously, but we just we just dropped twenty
four episodes out on Apple Podcasts andSpotify and all the all the places where
you can get your podcasts. Ilove that And got to plug the band.
You're the leader of the Midwest basedrock band called The Remainders, and
(22:08):
the band is active in a numberof fundraising events and committees in the Lacrosse,
Wisconsin area. And I know youtravel far beyond, but the Remainders,
if you want to give a shoutout where we can do that.
You have your own website for that, or a Facebook page where we can.
Yeah, we've got the Remainders dotcom. When you look at it
looks like they're Remainders, Remainders andwe we we have a Facebook page obviously,
(22:36):
and we have an album coming outthis summer. Oh fantastic. We
have original music that's out on Spotifyright now, so you can find us
on Spotify. But we have afull proper album. We're gonna press vinyl
and and you know, have ahave a real record that you can that
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you can hold onto and put ona turntable. Yeah, I love that
Vinyls coming back. That is amazing. So we've got a lot of show
notes to add just so everybody canfind the books, the podcast, the
May first event, the Remainders andall things Andrew Andy, Tempty, Nopee
(23:18):
and Tempty. And now I'm goingto ask you before I let you Skidadle.
I know you're busy, busy man, can you please share a dare
or prank story one you've done orhad done to you. Yes, so
I'm not a prank or they're kindof a guy. But when I was
probably twelve, maybe a little younger. My cousin and I. My cousin
(23:44):
Joe and I used to like tocamp in his mother and father's backyard,
so we'd set up a tent.So we're out there and the parents are
having a big party inside the house, lots of people coming over, and
Ray Stevens had a song called theStreak. I remember the Streak right,
(24:08):
So for your listeners, look itup. I'm sure it's out there.
It's called the Streak, Ray Stephens. So my cousin and I were sitting
in the tent and we go,this is a great idea. Let's go
streaking, and let's streak through thehouse. Now for the younger people,
(24:29):
they may not call it that.This is where we are sans clothing and
cruising fast. We are completely nakedand we are running our buns off.
Literally, my eleven year old cousinand I, we took all our clothes
off and we ran out of thetent, opened up the door, ran
(24:49):
through the house, came back out, totally mortified. Everybody in the house,
our parents were completely mortified, andwe were very, very proud of
ourselves. Do you recall any punishment, because that's always fun too to say,
Oh and I went without dinner orno now, because we woke up
(25:11):
the next morning and we both lookedlike our heads were hump were pumpkins because
we'd we'd you know, it wasrag weed season and we were all swollen
swollen up and so no. Sonow when you get allergies, do you
feel the need to strip, justjust asking for myself. No, it's
(25:34):
not, you know, parading aroundthe house sands clothing is uh, now
that the kids are out of thehouse is kind of satisfying, but right
right, naked time, I thinkthat comes with with with with age.
Anyway, I was about six orfive and my brother and sister dared me
to run outside naked, just runone time around the house. Mom was
(25:56):
in the backyard talking to the neighbor, and I did it, and of
course I didn't realize of course ivergoing to lock the door, and we
lived on main Street. They gotin big trouble. And yeah, and
now I like naked time too.You're more aerodynamic, you can get places
faster. I am so honored tohave chatted with you today. Andrew tempty
(26:18):
and remember that we can only bestrangers once. And I invite you to
stay weird. I am weird.This has been stranger connections with Lisa David Olson
You are not going to be ableto be great managers, great leaders,
and help those around you achieve theirdreams, their goals, their aspirations.
If you don't love what's going onin here first, if you don't like
what's going on in between the ears, there's no way you can fulfill your
(00:26):
dream, your vision, your purposeof helping others. Stranger Connections is the
embodiment of Lisa David Olsen's perspective ofwe're all just friends who just simply haven't
met yet. It's an exploration ofthe weirdly wonderful side of life and a
look at the single commonality we havewith each other, our differences. Slip
(00:46):
off your shoes, pour a cupof your favorite and let's meet this week's
barrel of quirks. Welcome to StrangerConnections, where I celebrate wonderfully weird people
and quirky stories. I'm your curiousbeast and Lisa David Olson, the practically
world famous interactive speaker and business humorist. So reach out to me if you
(01:07):
want to re energize your team,or have an improv workshop. Whatever you
want, reach out will make ithappen. Today. I am pretty thrilled
to have a guest on that I'veknown for a while, but we haven't
exactly gone out to lunch yet,so we're not exactly friends, but we're
darn close. And one of thethings that he says is the process of
getting to know yourself is difficult butdeeply satisfying. And he talks all about
(01:33):
the balancing act and we're going toget into that. And I happen to
have downloaded a free vie on hiswebsite, which if you're seeing the video,
it is a personal planning guide forPlease welcome Andrew Tempty, an author,
podcaster, educator, former CEO.He's even a musician and a lifelong
(01:55):
learner. Thank you so much forbeing here. And am I saying Andrew
or what are you today? Isit Andrew for business and Andy on stage?
It's a kind of just don't callme late for dinner. Please don't
on that meal we're going to havewhen we're actual friends. That's right.
Well, you're from the Lacrosse,Wisconsin area. Anybody that is around has
(02:17):
seen some of your work, whetherit would be the business side of it
with Kaplan Professional, You've done somany other things business wise that you can
share how much you want to.But I know that you've got two different
books out Balancing act Teach, Coachmentor Inspire and the Balanced Business building organizational
(02:38):
trust and accountability through smooth workflows.So is this all about work life balance?
Is at your jam? It's abit more than that, but it
kind of starts with the balance betweenwork and life. I have had struggles
with that in the past, asmany senior executives struggle with quieting the ego
(03:02):
and being present and especially with familyand friends. That the constant chase of
the ideas and the growth and moreand more and more and more and more
gets in the way of really enjoyingone's life. And as you at the
(03:23):
top of the show pointed out inmy Personal Planning guidebook, really understanding and
connecting with one's personal purpose so thatyou can align that with the work that
you're doing. And when you alignyour personal purpose with the work that you're
(03:45):
doing, all of a sudden,this concept of work versus life starts to
kind of go away, and youare living your purpose through your personal life
and your and your professional life.You can bring more of your whole self
(04:06):
into the world of work. Youcan be more present and you know,
just generally more comfortable with the humanthat you are. I have two podcasts.
One is The Saturday Morning News,where I, you know, do
kind of a five to ten minutetalk on all sorts of different things.
(04:30):
And it's why it's called the Musebecause I muse about lots of stuff.
And this week I'm talking about mypersonal battle with imposter syndrome. So it
was really only after I connected withmy personal purpose that you know, those
feelings of am I good enough?Do I belong here? I'm a fraud?
(04:54):
You know that, and all ofthat and the chase, chase,
chase, all that starts to settledown when you uncover your personal purpose and
alignment with your work. Do youthink that also could come with age because
I'm kind of finding that too,that the smaller things aren't as important.
Luckily, we grew up without socialmedia being on the ready like that,
(05:16):
and I was able to raise mykids without a phone in my hand,
although I did have the VHS thingon my shoulder quite often. But I
can't imagine trying to go through allthat noise and chatter. Now it would
be harder to teach the younger generationthe balance because They can work from the
bus, the bathroom, the backyard, they can work from anywhere, and
(05:42):
we didn't grow up that way.Well, you know, it's interesting.
I'm teaching. I'm finally back inthe classroom at the University of Wisconsin Lacrosse
after over twenty years of not beingable to have that part of myself come
out and play nice, which isreally cool. And in the class,
(06:05):
which is based on my second book, I the first day class came in
whiteboard and I wrote down two words. I've got thirty four students out there
and they're all just wondering what I'mgoing to write down, and I wrote
down self love. That's how youopened your class. Yeah, yeah,
(06:29):
yeah, wow. These are theseare management students, right, and they're
all all statistics and accounting and financeand graphs and business and we got to
get stuff done. And here thisguy walks in, you know, former
CEO, and I write down selflove and they've all got these curious looks
(06:50):
on their faces, like what inthe heck are we in for? And
I turned around and I looked athim and I said, look, you
are not going to be able tobe great managers, great leaders and help
those around you achieve their dreams,their goals, their aspirations. If you
(07:13):
don't love what's going on in herefirst, if you don't like what's going
on in between the ears, there'sno way that you can fulfill your dream,
your vision, your purpose of helpingothers. So this is where we
start class, and then it's allkind of fallen into place from there.
(07:36):
You absolutely got their attention. Thathas not ever been something, you know,
starting the class with two words,especially being that powerful and giving permission
to think that way, because mostwouldn't. It's all about the grind and
doing your best and seek it.You can't do your best if you don't
if you aren't settled within. Butthat's brilliant. Wow. Yeah, total
(08:00):
bumps. Yeah. So I'm I'mreally I'm hopeful that that at least these
thirty four students or some subset ofthem are going to walk out of class
after this semester and have just alittle bit different perspective and know that it's
okay to explore how you feel aboutyour work and how it aligns with who
(08:26):
you are as a human. Takethat forward and do that exploration a lot
sooner than I did, right,you know, chasing other people's dreams,
other people's ideas of success. Thatthat's just a train wreck waiting to happen.
It's it's permission to slow it downand do better from the inside out.
(08:50):
I love that because they're gonna havea lot longer journey than we had.
You know. I I spent youknow, forty years in the world
of you know, grind and work, and they're going to live longer their
careers. They're gonna have multiple careers, they're gonna change careers. So getting
a handle on that sooner rather thanlater is going to be beneficial. I
(09:15):
just adore that, and I think, uh, that can be your next
book. I'm sure you could goon about that, but I've already got
book three in the in the backhere. Well, of course you do,
because the last thing you're going todo is is stop. But I
think that's great. So when youdid mention imposter syndrome, I did catch
that episode, and I think that'sreally important just to touch on that.
(09:37):
How do we avoid or do wefind a way to embrace that which is
imposter syndrome? And there's not oneof us that hasn't felt it. Yeah,
Well, just recognizing that you arefeeling. That is uh is a
real first step, because you know, they are our emotion. You know,
(09:58):
everything is just jumbled up in thisa spaghetti which is our brains,
right, And so it'd be supercool if we could compartmentalize all of our
uh psychological challenges and work on oneat a time, and who I fix
this one? And who I fixthat one? No, they they they're
(10:18):
crawling all over each other up there. The place to start, in my
humble opinion, is with defining purpose, why am I here? Why do
I exist? And allowing oneself tomeditate, to connect, uh and quiet
(10:43):
the mind and and all that noiseput that you talked about these uh,
these damn digital devices that hand computersyou kids have, Yeah, these you
know, you know, just settingthem down And these are some of the
things that I'm talking about about withwith my class, about tools to be
(11:05):
present in the world of work.So so where you ask a very specific
question, where you start is todefine that that your personal purpose mind is
to teach, coach, mentor andhopefully inspire. That's a tagline of my
first book. So now that I'vereally connected with that, I know that
(11:28):
my job in life is to takewhat I've learned and help help pass it
along, pay it forward. Andthat makes me feel great. And so
if anybody's out there being nasty aboutwhat I'm up to, uh sure,
it hurts it always, you know, imagining that you can tune all that
(11:52):
out and blissfully go through one's lifeand uh, you know, stop listening
to the negative things that other otherpeople have to say about you. Yeah,
yeah, yeah, that's all BS. You are going to listen to
it, you are going to feelfeel it. Sure. Learning how to
tamp those feelings down, tune outthe noise as best you can is is
(12:18):
certainly a skill that that you continuallywork on and adopt. But you know,
you're you're never gonna get You're you'renever going to be able to tune
all that out. So learning howto live with that and use purpose as
your tool to come back to centerand go. Yeah, people are talking
(12:43):
negatively about me, that's okay.Is there anything that they're saying that I
should be listening to and and kindof adjusting? And yeah, why does
it affect me? Right? What'sinside of me that it makes me even
care at all? Right? Yeah? Is there some kernel of truth to
that. Sure, let's explore that. Let's uh, you know, let's
(13:05):
let some of that in, butlet's not let it weigh us down and
completely paralyze us from moving forward,which to many people it becomes paralysis.
And oops, I put myself outthere. Better never do that again.
That you know, never never gonnado that again. I'm not gonna not
(13:26):
gonna go not gonna go there.So I'll just lock myself in my house
and never put myself out there.So right, find a way to be
grounded, find out why it affectsus at all, and keep doing the
thing. Because usually those that aresaying the bad things are just kind of
jealous or would never know how tostart, and so it's easier to spew
from a keyboard then to get upand take action. So I think this
(13:50):
podcast is awful. Blah blah blah. Well what have you done? Yes,
right, show me what you've done, and then we'll have a conversation
and and thank you all. Listento what you have to say. I'm
not going to completely dismiss you,but you know, show show me your
successes, and show me your narrative, what you what you aspire to be,
(14:15):
and then let's have a conversation together. What were you like as a
kid. Were you always just chilland just hey, everybody's cool, or
I'm going to be a CEO inthe sandbox, you know, picturing it
my mom. I don't remember awhole lot from when I was little.
(14:35):
I'm I'm kind of glad about that. Actually, I have these warm,
fuzzy memories of being being a child. Uh and you know we I grew
up in a in a loving household, where now as an adult, I
know that there was some conflict therewith my between my parents. So it
wasn't all happy and hunky dory allthe time. But in my in my
(15:01):
tween years and early teens, Iwas president of the student council. I
was a straight A student, etcetera, et cetera. And then at
sixteen, the wheels just start fallingoff the bus. I'm a I'm a
straight A student. I've got everythinggoing for me. And then drugs and
alcohol. Friend groups that were atthe end of the day didn't turn out
(15:28):
to be great friend groups. Soall and and that imposter syndrome that we're
just talking about the phone, thewe didn't talk about fomo then but you
know this, do I belong doI? You know, should I be
here? And and then and thenthe drugs and alcohol that kind of smoothed
(15:50):
all that over and and make itappear on the surface that that things are
okay. You know that that thentook me off fun on a path that
you can read all about in myfirst book, Balancing Act. Got I
didn't know it was going to beown juicy parts in there. Okay,
(16:11):
we'll learn more. It's kind ofhalf autobiography, half business book. That's
so it's a great series of personallessons that, hey, this is what
I do. Uh, fun fact, don't do that or this is not
advisable. Yeah, that kind ofthing sounds like my first book. Yeah,
(16:33):
here's my life lesson, don't dothe stuff I did. Yeah.
And so in early twenties, gottogether with the love of my life,
Linda, and we we've spent therest of the time together. We are
divorced and remarried. Fun other.I didn't know that exact Yeah, so
you know it's been uh, youknow, it's not all roses and unicorns
(16:56):
and puppet but you got two honeymoonswith this lady. Yeah, yeah,
absolutely, and two wedding anniversaries.Now that now both of us don't remember
because there's two, there's there's there'stwo too many, you know, we
just every day is the anniversary.So oh it was at early twenties,
(17:18):
you know, like, wow,I got to get my act together.
Yeah, I got my Fortunately myparents were educator. Are were educators?
Are educators? That knowledge that Ihad to get back to school. The
it was not a great idea todrop out of high school, which I
did, uh and try to bea rock star. Bad idea, but
(17:42):
you know, went back to schoolultimately got PhD. Wow. Yeah,
look at how look at that patternthat you divorced but then married your your
same wife again. You quit school, went back and did it better.
I'm sure the remarriage you don't gointo that lightly, and so you you
(18:02):
tend to go, ah, that'snot working, Okay, let's do it
better. That's a pretty good pattern. If I could go back to earlier
versions of myself. On my show, I asked a time machine question of
all of my love that love thatyou know, what's the what's the message
that you would send to an earlierversion of yourself? I have many?
(18:26):
Yeah, true? Who doesn't.But that is such a great question because
it's a way to tap back intoit and think, wow, you know,
I kind of forgive that younger selfthat was kind of stupid and thought
they knew everything. Yeah, yeah, but you did go ahead and one
of the signs behind me. Ihave grace, dignity, compassion, three
(18:47):
of the words that I like tolive by, and those would be I'd
slip that piece of paper to myearlier self. Just give yourself some grace,
act with dignity, and have compassionfor both yourself and others. That
would have helped a lot. That'shuge. Would a younger us have listened,
(19:10):
we might have said, oh,those those old people talk in their
talk, but maybe if you say, hang on to this piece of paper,
you're gonna need this. Had Ishown up not as me, but
as somebody has had I shown upas Geddy Lee, well now you know
who you can be for Halloween.Well, and you can hand those out.
(19:30):
I don't have any idols, butif if I did, he would
be right up there. Oh that'samazing. I think that's great. Now
tell people again how we can findWe've got your two different podcasts. Let's
give those a plug. Yeah,so every all things Andy Temp, andrew
Tempty are at andrew Tempty dot com. Don't put a P in my last
(19:52):
name, there is no p.So and d R E W T E
M T E dot com. That'swhere all of my stuff is. I've
got two books, Balancing Act andthen The Balanced Business is a management operating
system. It's more of a seriousbusiness book on how to install my management
(20:15):
operating system into your business, whichis a blend of organizational health and continuous
improvement. I've got the Balancing Actpodcast the Saturday Morning News and on May
the first, we're doing a liveversion of the Balancing Act podcast at the
Main in downtown Lacrosse. Will belive streaming it so that if you're not
(20:37):
in Lacrosse you can still participate.All the net proceeds of the thirty five
dollars cost at the door are goingto educational scholarships at Western Technical College.
So you come see us at theMain, you're going to get You're going
to be able to watch three episodesbeing created in one evening, and I've
(21:00):
got Interstate sound there, three camerasset up. It's like being at a
television show. So yes, itis actually a nice cool television show and
cool comedy club kind of a viberight. Oh, and the main downtown
historic downtown Lacrosse. It is afantastic venue. They spoil you there.
They've got this great stage. They'regoing to set up all the seating thirty
(21:22):
five at the door, and youare supporting scholarships. That's May first,
so don't miss may Day, MayDay. It'll be really fun. And
then the names of your podcast.We've got the Balancing Act podcast, and
then we can also find you withthe Saturday Mews, the Saturday Morning Mews,
and we just launched that as apodcast. I've been doing that on
(21:45):
the website and with YouTube videos previously, but we just we just dropped twenty
four episodes out on Apple Podcasts andSpotify and all the all the places where
you can get your podcasts. Ilove that And got to plug the band.
You're the leader of the Midwest basedrock band called The Remainders, and
(22:08):
the band is active in a numberof fundraising events and committees in the Lacrosse,
Wisconsin area. And I know youtravel far beyond, but the Remainders,
if you want to give a shoutout where we can do that.
You have your own website for that, or a Facebook page where we can.
Yeah, we've got the Remainders dotcom. When you look at it
looks like they're Remainders, Remainders andwe we we have a Facebook page obviously,
(22:36):
and we have an album coming outthis summer. Oh fantastic. We
have original music that's out on Spotifyright now, so you can find us
on Spotify. But we have afull proper album. We're gonna press vinyl
and and you know, have ahave a real record that you can that
(22:57):
you can hold onto and put ona turntable. Yeah, I love that
Vinyls coming back. That is amazing. So we've got a lot of show
notes to add just so everybody canfind the books, the podcast, the
May first event, the Remainders andall things Andrew Andy, Tempty, Nopee
(23:18):
and Tempty. And now I'm goingto ask you before I let you Skidadle.
I know you're busy, busy man, can you please share a dare
or prank story one you've done orhad done to you. Yes, so
I'm not a prank or they're kindof a guy. But when I was
probably twelve, maybe a little younger. My cousin and I. My cousin
(23:44):
Joe and I used to like tocamp in his mother and father's backyard,
so we'd set up a tent.So we're out there and the parents are
having a big party inside the house, lots of people coming over, and
Ray Stevens had a song called theStreak. I remember the Streak right,
(24:08):
So for your listeners, look itup. I'm sure it's out there.
It's called the Streak, Ray Stephens. So my cousin and I were sitting
in the tent and we go,this is a great idea. Let's go
streaking, and let's streak through thehouse. Now for the younger people,
(24:29):
they may not call it that.This is where we are sans clothing and
cruising fast. We are completely nakedand we are running our buns off.
Literally, my eleven year old cousinand I, we took all our clothes
off and we ran out of thetent, opened up the door, ran
(24:49):
through the house, came back out, totally mortified. Everybody in the house,
our parents were completely mortified, andwe were very, very proud of
ourselves. Do you recall any punishment, because that's always fun too to say,
Oh and I went without dinner orno now, because we woke up
(25:11):
the next morning and we both lookedlike our heads were hump were pumpkins because
we'd we'd you know, it wasrag weed season and we were all swollen
swollen up and so no. Sonow when you get allergies, do you
feel the need to strip, justjust asking for myself. No, it's
(25:34):
not, you know, parading aroundthe house sands clothing is uh, now
that the kids are out of thehouse is kind of satisfying, but right
right, naked time, I thinkthat comes with with with with age.
Anyway, I was about six orfive and my brother and sister dared me
to run outside naked, just runone time around the house. Mom was
(25:56):
in the backyard talking to the neighbor, and I did it, and of
course I didn't realize of course ivergoing to lock the door, and we
lived on main Street. They gotin big trouble. And yeah, and
now I like naked time too.You're more aerodynamic, you can get places
faster. I am so honored tohave chatted with you today. Andrew tempty
(26:18):
and remember that we can only bestrangers once. And I invite you to
stay weird. I am weird.This has been stranger connections with Lisa David Olson
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