EP439: Is it a Fck Yes...Or Fear In Disguise. How to Discern the Difference Using The Enneagram

You’ve been circling a decision—you can feel it in your body. One moment you see yourself freer and bigger on the other side. The next, fear pulls the brake and whispers what if you blow up your life? You stall, wait for clarity, and call it timing, but deep down you’re not stuck because you don’t know the answer—you’re stuck because you don’t trust yourself to choose it. In this episode, Tracy breaks down how to tell the difference between fear in disguise and a true fuck yes—and gives you the five-step practice to move forward with clarity, courage, and compassion.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The difference between contracting fear and an expansive fuck yes.
• How each Enneagram center (instinct, heart, head) processes decisions.
• The one question each type must ask before leaping.
• Why fear can have a voice but not a vote.
• A five-step practice to check your motives and move forward aligned.

Key Takeaways (by Center):

Instinct Types (8, 9, 1)

• Hangup: Mistake reaction for clarity; resist discomfort.
• Edge: Ask if you’re grounded—or just avoiding vulnerability, peace disruption, or being wrong.

Heart Types (2, 3, 4)

• Hangup: Say yes for applause or no to avoid rejection.
• Edge: Ask—if no one clapped, would I still want this?

Head Types (5, 6, 7)

• Hangup: Overanalyze, overprepare, or chase shiny things for certainty.
• Edge: Ask—am I chasing safety/options, or trusting my true yes?

Quotes That Landed in My Bones:

• “Fear can have a voice, but it does not get a vote.”
• “A fuck yes will feel alive—even in the presence of fear.”
• “Your fear doesn’t get the final word. Your clarity does. Your calling does.”
  
  

Pause. Take inventory with compassion. Cross-check your yes or no through another center of intelligence. Then ask—if fear wasn’t driving, what would I choose? And finally—move. Action builds confidence. Decide with grace and conviction, and then take the leap.

Resources & Links

• Get your Enneagram Blueprint: https://tracyomalley.com/work-with-me
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