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March 22, 2023 56 mins
If you have already seen this episode on YOUTUBE this is the audio only portion of the video. If you have not seen the video, welcome Sibling Aundria to the podcast as she shares the sudden and tragic death of her brother. I am pretty late adding this as we met in November of 2022, but please enjoy. We thank Aundria for sharing her heart although very nervous. It takes courage and strength to share broken hearts and our siblings and I appreciate her, as well as other siblings who have joined on both audio and visual podcasting. If you would like to be a guest, I have a new website. www.survivingsiblinglossfmpodcast.org. Talk soon and love you all.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi, everybody.

Speaker 2 (00:04):
This is little Sister Chris, and I am here again
for another episode with another sibling. I'm so excited that
I get to have a sibling with me and you're
not just hearing.

Speaker 1 (00:17):
My voice on the podcast today.

Speaker 2 (00:19):
And I fortunately was able to meet this sibling this
year twenty twenty two. It was a happenstance where I
met her and a mutual friends barbecue back around Memorial
Day holiday, and I was like, oh my gosh, and
I believe this sibling saw me first somehow, and then

(00:40):
I was looking.

Speaker 3 (00:41):
Like, you know, she looked familiar, and then you.

Speaker 2 (00:47):
Know, it's like, oh my gosh, small world, small world.

Speaker 1 (00:52):
So I'm excited that she is here.

Speaker 2 (00:54):
She's going to share her story with us other siblings
who are.

Speaker 1 (00:58):
Listening out there or watching, depending on how we put
this out.

Speaker 2 (01:03):
And I just want to give her this space and
it's time to know that she is supported in telling
her story. Uh when we have some similarities and connections,
you guys who are listening, and uh, yeah, so we'll
get started. Thank you so much for coming in. You
look more marvelous. You look more marvelous. Yes, yes, yes, yes,

(01:25):
So what I'll do is I'll have you go ahead
and introduce yourself to the Surviving Sibling Laws Forgotten Warners podcast.

(01:51):
Yeah yeah, I am so glad that you are here.
The sibling is also a part of the Facebook group
and has been followed the Facebook group for a while
now and has given really good insight, has given really
good stories about her brother. And then she has other
siblings that are also part of the group, so that

(02:13):
has been helpful.

Speaker 1 (02:15):
So how many other siblings do you have?

Speaker 2 (02:23):
Okay, five mutual siblings?

Speaker 1 (02:27):
And I know that Rob was somewhere in the middle.
Where was he?

Speaker 4 (02:36):
Okay?

Speaker 5 (02:37):
Okay, so.

Speaker 2 (02:41):
Ohd is of six? So tell us about your relationship
with Rob.

Speaker 6 (03:05):
Oh yeah yeah.

Speaker 7 (04:36):
H.

Speaker 5 (04:44):
Yeah yeah.

Speaker 2 (04:46):
So talk to us about these past six years. What
have been your your battles? What have been your lessons
in these past six years?

Speaker 8 (05:06):
Mm hmm are you sir?

Speaker 9 (05:40):
Yes?

Speaker 8 (06:53):
Okay?

Speaker 10 (08:45):
Fo yeah.

Speaker 11 (10:00):
Attatatatas y.

Speaker 12 (12:18):
Yes if.

Speaker 5 (12:44):
If yes, yep.

Speaker 13 (13:54):
And when.

Speaker 7 (14:07):
Puffs if.

Speaker 14 (14:33):
If if s yeah.

Speaker 15 (15:57):
Yeah exactly assasssssssss.

Speaker 8 (16:24):
Yes proof.

Speaker 14 (17:33):
Yeah yo, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 5 (19:29):
Yeah yeah yeah mm hm hm yeah yeah.

Speaker 8 (20:46):
Yeah yeah yeah.

Speaker 13 (20:58):
Yeah ye.

Speaker 8 (21:32):
If yeah.

Speaker 5 (22:27):
Yeah is it.

Speaker 16 (22:57):
Yes yeah.

Speaker 17 (25:08):
Yeah yeah.

Speaker 8 (26:33):
Yeah yeah.

Speaker 4 (27:37):
Yeah okay.

Speaker 12 (29:29):
Yeah oh yeah.

Speaker 5 (29:43):
I'm due.

Speaker 3 (30:02):
Oh my gosh, yeah.

Speaker 5 (30:12):
Yeah m m h yeah.

Speaker 14 (31:04):
Yeah yeah yeah yeah.

Speaker 8 (31:32):
Yeah, this is yeah.

Speaker 5 (31:41):
Yeah yeah yeah yeah.

Speaker 2 (31:53):
You know where we are we you know as a people,
as a culture, we have some things that as books
and then you know, stuff that you've seen in American
movies just everything.

Speaker 5 (32:05):
Yeah m hm.

Speaker 8 (32:45):
Hm yeah.

Speaker 1 (32:52):
The lessons is gonna work.

Speaker 14 (32:56):
H yeah.

Speaker 1 (33:07):
Yeah yeah, yes, I feeling yeah yeah.

Speaker 6 (34:04):
Yeah yeah.

Speaker 4 (34:12):
Definitely yeah you yes.

Speaker 1 (34:16):
For those who are listening.

Speaker 2 (34:17):
And watching, I'm just letting you know that I had
given her some questions beforehand so she can be prepared,
because every everybody is different. People sometimes can just like
think of stuff off cuff, and then other people need
a list to kind of help out and help them
through what they're thinking.

Speaker 5 (34:37):
Uh.

Speaker 2 (34:37):
Because when you're when y'all know, whenever you're talking about
a sibling and talking about your experiences, sometimes all these
experiences can come.

Speaker 1 (34:45):
Down at you all at one time.

Speaker 18 (34:47):
Uh.

Speaker 2 (34:47):
And this is the pressure of being on a podcast,
and then you know, sharing what what to share, what
not to share.

Speaker 1 (34:54):
And all those things do happen.

Speaker 5 (34:56):
Uh.

Speaker 2 (34:56):
And I realized I've been doing this for three years,
so I'm a more comfortable Men say somebody who's just
coming in and trying to to share their story.

Speaker 1 (35:06):
But she did a.

Speaker 2 (35:07):
Modulous job of telling us information about her brother Rob,
her family dynamics, what has what has transpired since the
death of Rob, And I can connect with so many
of those things.

Speaker 5 (35:23):
And I heard you talk about art.

Speaker 2 (35:26):
Our sibling Earla, who has been on the podcast before
and is in the group. She does art projects throughout
when she's She's from Canada, uh so she does a
lot of those and she shares a lot of art
information and projects that she does for hospice and other
sibling groups that that really connected and that with another sibling.

(35:50):
And in just the cloud depression and things of that nature,
I know siblings out there who did not know exactly
what it was, like you said, didn't know it was
attached to grief, no clue, which can exasperate physical symptoms.
The other symptoms that you have that you're dealing with,

(36:12):
like what you said, rheumatoid and then fibermyologia.

Speaker 1 (36:15):
So yeah, the same thing here, major depression.

Speaker 2 (36:18):
Didn't know the cloud the cloud was very heavy, nighttime
was very heavy, the fall you said August to about
round May. And I'm gonna tell you that I'm gonna
tell you I knew when fall hit around like the
end of August, the days were getting shorter, and then
all of a sudden, it was like it was like

(36:39):
I could feel it in my chest. The days are
getting shorter. That means the night is longer. I don't
feel good. I just don't feel good until May when
it got lighter outside. So definitely connecting with your stories
on just how you are navigating through this grieving process,

(37:01):
because it's not you know, it affects you so deeply.
And I heard you say at your core, I've said
many times where I felt like my whole DNA change.
I mean, from from that time forward, I was not
the same person whatsoever as you were not. I've also

(37:23):
seen you on the Facebook group, so those of you
who don't know saxbook group is Siblings Lost the podcast,
that's the group name. But on this group, I heard
you say or read that you and your sister miracle
hopefully we'll have Miracle on in the future.

Speaker 1 (37:40):
That you guys have gotten closer since the death.

Speaker 5 (37:42):
Of your brother.

Speaker 1 (37:43):
So that has been a beautiful part of this tragedy.

Speaker 8 (37:49):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (37:49):
Yeah, so I'm I'm I'm really connecting with your story
and appreciating the infor about being vulnerable, appreciating the information
about being mindful.

Speaker 1 (38:08):
We have cell phones wherever.

Speaker 2 (38:09):
We go, and sometimes we can get lost in these
cell phones and just miss out on times and all
of this, and we don't realize it until a tragedy
strikes or somebody gets sick or somebody dies. That man,
I could have taken more pictures, but that day I
felt that or you know, I just didn't want to

(38:30):
do this, not just you know, all those things that
we can think of in the moment, but once the
moment passes and we really want those moments back.

Speaker 1 (38:38):
So definitely taking care of yourself too. That's a big,
huge one, I know for myself.

Speaker 3 (38:46):
Hi, baby girl, good it's gotten.

Speaker 1 (38:55):
So big since the last time you were on camera.
This has been a couple of years.

Speaker 5 (39:03):
Hey, oh my god.

Speaker 1 (39:09):
We hey, we had a little person come on in.

Speaker 3 (39:12):
But which is good.

Speaker 5 (39:16):
So I know we have made it through.

Speaker 2 (39:19):
They say post COVID, but you know, COVID is still
out there. But during this time, during COVID, we were
all isolated. All of us were isolated. Can you tell
us how you have survived through all the isolation through

(39:39):
twenty twenty and now coming back from where where we've
been because I heard you say you had a layoff
and all these different things, which I'm sure siblings out
there that has complicated a lot of things in the
past couple of years. How did you survive these past
two three years almost.

Speaker 19 (40:00):
Attatatatatas yeah.

Speaker 20 (41:07):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeh.

Speaker 5 (42:26):
Yeah yeah.

Speaker 18 (42:34):
Yeah yeah.

Speaker 3 (43:25):
Yeah yeah.

Speaker 1 (43:37):
Yeah, okay, you know where she know how she feels now?

(44:51):
Oh god, this way baby girl?

Speaker 2 (45:13):
Right yeah.

Speaker 12 (45:44):
Yeah yeah yeah, oh wow yeah.

Speaker 5 (46:30):
Oh it was it one long?

Speaker 2 (46:34):
So I wanted maybe the we're all opened back up.
It seemed like we only took like four months off,
but for real, we were open by twenty twenty one.

Speaker 6 (46:43):
Mhm yeah yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 5 (47:35):
It is yeah y m y yeah yeah, m.

Speaker 9 (50:16):
Yeah fo.

Speaker 3 (50:27):
Yeah that's good because you know.

Speaker 1 (50:36):
We opposite.

Speaker 15 (50:41):
M h m hm.

Speaker 5 (50:57):
Hm hm okay right.

Speaker 1 (51:30):
Yeah h.

Speaker 4 (51:52):
Yeah, h.

Speaker 5 (52:07):
Mm hmm yeah, yes, yeah.

Speaker 1 (52:21):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (52:22):
You know TikTok too.

Speaker 1 (52:25):
And I seen it on TikTok too on social media.

Speaker 5 (52:28):
Yeah yeah.

Speaker 1 (52:41):
Mm hmmm mm hmmm hmm, yes, yes, yes, yeah, oh
good good.

Speaker 2 (52:49):
You know, you know, hard time for everybody, and universally
we were grieving, and it triggered other griefs that we
had from our siblings and some of us love siblings
during COVID season. So I'm talking to you all out
there who are coming out of COVID and and dealing
with grief and you know the isolation of it all

(53:12):
and things of that nature. And we have heard our
siblings talk about, you know, writing to people, making cards,
using arts, connecting when she finally could connect.

Speaker 1 (53:24):
And now zoom is just the thing that we do now,
so that that's never really going away.

Speaker 2 (53:32):
Your Microsoft teams, all that stuff is not going away
any time or ever.

Speaker 1 (53:37):
We have leaped into that world.

Speaker 5 (53:41):
Uh huh.

Speaker 8 (53:47):
Yeah no, yeah, yeah, yes, I know, I know, yeah.

Speaker 21 (54:31):
Yes, yes, yeah.

Speaker 4 (54:56):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (54:58):
Definitely.

Speaker 2 (55:00):
Yay for therapy because I am a therapist that has
a therapist and I hated it. I wait so long
to get her. I should have had her years ago,
but money, I'm looking forward. Every time I see my therapist,
I'm like, oh yeah, yes, yes, yes, yes definitely. Well,

(55:20):
thank you so much for your time, Thank you for
saying that you were going to be a part of
the podcast and being a part of the group. I
derive a lot of connection strength from your stories and
just your presence of being here and sharing with your
other friends and with your siblings and your husband. And

(55:44):
it has been very, very It's kind of pulled on
my heart streams because it's the reason why I have
the podcast, because I know we are the forgotten mourners.
I know that it's a grief that a lot of
people just won't under understand until they step into it.
They can have some sympathy for it, they can be

(56:06):
there for you, but they just will not understand what
it's like to be shaken to their core, to their DNA.

Speaker 1 (56:13):
So yes, say thank you so much for being here,
and I love you my siblings.

Speaker 14 (56:19):
Yes, yes, yes, yes yes yes.

Speaker 2 (56:22):
So I will have hopefully have her back with her
sister sometime soon, and you guys should see on the
lookout for that in the future.

Speaker 4 (56:29):
Okay,
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