June 2, 2025 • 29 mins
What do you do if your fiance's dad tells you they're no good? Jack and Nikki answer that question and also discuss the wisdom of financing food, listeners challenge Jack to a "Poverty Off" and a woman faces the painful reality that her boyfriend probably doesn't see her as a long term option.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
If you're listening to the Jack and Nikki Show podcast
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Speaker 2 (00:17):
I'm going to go now to the text jewel line
because it's time for you asked for it. You yep,
you did ask for it, and now you're gonna get it.
Call us or text us with whatever is on your mind,
whatever you would like to discuss. Perhaps you have topic
(00:41):
you would like us to get into on the show.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
Okay, yes, that's exactly how it works.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
Sure, other shows will play a song, we'll analyze your
life because we care about you, the listener, and we
need filler material because it's a four hour show. So
we got a text here from this guy said, here's
the text. I asked my girlfriend's father for her hand
(01:09):
in marriage. Okay, so he's dating this woman, wants to
get married, wants to do the traditional thing and go
to the dad and say, hey, yeah, I'd like to
marry your daughter. Lovely woman, lovely, He continues, I was
shocked when he advised me to not marry her. What
he had a laundry list of reasons why I should
(01:30):
not marry his daughter, including she's lazy, unreliable, self centered, dishonest,
and she doesn't want to have kids. He said. If
I do marry her, I have his blessing though.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
Yes, So he's really confused right now, and in what
I considered be and hilariously awkward situation. So awkward, Yeah,
okay again eight eight eight seven seven seven sixty six forty.
You could text this as well. Let's see what you
guys have to say about this. And also, one of
(02:07):
the things I like to do in these situations is
try to find somebody who has experience in this situation.
This seems pretty rare to me. You generally don't have
parents talk trash about their own children, but I guess
it does happen obviously. So you know, what do you
do if you're in this situation? And I tell you what,
(02:29):
I suspect that the situation some people probably have been
in is maybe not the parent talking trash, but maybe
some people around them, friends and other family members and
stuff saying ooh, I wouldn't marry that person. That's a
bad idea.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
Sure, that makes sense.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
Yeah, but when it's coming from the dad, yeah, Now
I do have some thoughts on this, Nikki. Would you
like to jump in before I toss in some some analysis.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
Well, it's very.
Speaker 4 (02:56):
Interesting that the dad hases all these things to say
when you'd be like, oh, yeah, like it sounds like
he just should be pawning her off, like he wants
to and make sure she's gone if he has all
these horrible whatever flags he wants to wave around. But
also like a lot of the things that were mentioned,
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wouldn't the fiance have already or potential fiance have already
figured these things out?
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Possibly? Yes, And I thought of that. But love is blind, okay, yea,
love is blind, So you know there are probably other
things going on in that relationship that I imagine would maybe
maybe overshadow affect his ability to be objective about this woman.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
Okay, right, yeah, okay, okay.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Now what I would say to this text is, if
this is true what the dad is saying, this is
useful information for you. Yeah, okay, if she is self centered, dishonest, unreliable,
I mean, if if she is kind of a slug
and she's going to cause a lot of problems in
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your life, and the dad can see that and he's
telling you that right up front. If it's in fact true,
then you really should take this into consideration.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
Now, as Nicky said, hopefully you would have collected some
of this information along the way, but perhaps you've been
blinded by your love. But that's why we're here. Okay.
We can give you objective third party analysis along with
the rest of the listeners eight eight eight seven seven
seven sixty six forty, or you can text us. I
(04:37):
do have some additional thoughts on this, but I want
to wait and kind of see where you guys go
with it, and then we can wrap it up in
a nice little bow for this guy coming up. And
hopefully my goal is to by the end of this
segment have a solution for this man. Okay, okay, because
he's he's troubled, he's in a bad spot, and he's
(04:58):
turned his life to us, which we all agree is
the best possible thing he could have done.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
Oh absolutely, Okay.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Yeah, don't bother going to your family to talk about it,
don't see friends, counseling from a friend you know, don't
go to your preacher. No, no, you you send a
text into the Jack and Nicky Show and we'll get
it sorted out for you, Nicki Drake, what are we
saying on the text line?
Speaker 3 (05:23):
All right, let's see, I liked this one a lot.
Immediate red flag for questionable in laws.
Speaker 4 (05:30):
As a parent, I would never say that to someone
about my child, even if it was true.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
Oh wow, that's really interesting.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Emotion, famits.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
That's a whole other question, isn't it.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
I guess yeah?
Speaker 5 (05:44):
Right.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
I mean, look, just because somebody's your kid doesn't mean
that they're not awful, because every awful person has some parents,
right yeah. And if you know something about your kid
that's really damaging to somebody who's going to marry them,
do you have a moral obligon to tell that person?
Speaker 3 (06:01):
Right right? Yeah?
Speaker 4 (06:03):
I hope it's not just like with the the text
that came in. I hope it's not that like this
dad just doesn't like this kid, and like it's not
the favorite of a family, and like you just prefers
the other children.
Speaker 3 (06:15):
It just has like a grudge against this specific child.
I don't know. I'm hoping that's not the case. I
just could be.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
I can't remember where this story is from. I saw
this in the news earlier this week, but it was
a woman who killed her spouse, oh and then was
on the run. And then as you get into the story,
you find out this is her second spouse and she
also killed the first one and was in prison for
like thirteen years for that.
Speaker 6 (06:41):
What.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Yeah, Now I'm thinking maybe somebody could have given this
person the heads.
Speaker 3 (06:47):
Up background check.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
Yes, she murdered her first husband, right her, right, exactly? Okay,
all right, please continue.
Speaker 4 (06:56):
Okay, I think my wife's dad was just trying to
unburden himself by not sharing the important info.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
My wife completely changed after marriage.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
I'm assuming for the worst.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
I'm assuming for the worst as well.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
Okay, yeah, well that does happen. You know, we've talked
about that.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
Interesting.
Speaker 4 (07:14):
So that is a parent who didn't say anything.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
And this text are saying I wish he had.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
Yeah, yeah, interesting. Interesting.
Speaker 5 (07:24):
Yes.
Speaker 4 (07:24):
I had a boyfriend whose parents kept asking me if
I thought he was gaining weight and.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
Even showing me pictures of when he was thinner.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
What what's the.
Speaker 5 (07:35):
Point of that? Well?
Speaker 2 (07:36):
I think the point may have been, Look, he's heavy now,
and he's going to keep getting heavier. Okay, here's where
he started here, here's where he was when you came in, right,
here's where he is now, and here's our projection for
a decade from now. This is where we think he's
going to be.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
Okay, are they blaming her for this?
Speaker 4 (07:54):
No?
Speaker 2 (07:55):
I don't. It doesn't sound like it. I think they're
actually trying to warn this woman.
Speaker 3 (07:58):
Oh okay, yeah, okay, interesting.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Any additional text.
Speaker 4 (08:02):
We have a follow up of the dad that was
trying to unburden himself and the wife completely changed after marriage.
Speaker 3 (08:07):
Confirmed, definitely changed for the worst.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
I see. Well, Nikki, let's move on to the excellent
analysis portion of the program.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
Okay, the educational part.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
Well, look, this is what I would say to this guy.
Speaker 4 (08:23):
Who's psychology music to add to this, Well, it doesn't get.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
More psychological than this. That's pretty psychological. Okay. Like I
said earlier, if this information is true, then this is
useful information to him. But what I would suggest to
our text here is you're gonna have to ask yourself
this question, what do you know of the dad and
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his character? Okay, Because if you're getting this information from
a guy who is a straight arrow, who is historically
a faithful husband, good father, a reliable provider, that's one thing.
But if the dad is a liar, a cheater, and
a scumbag. That's another. So you're gonna have to consider
(09:11):
the source on this.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
So do you think this is some sort of like
test that the dad is like trying?
Speaker 2 (09:15):
Well, it could be, but no. What I'm suggesting is,
if somebody comes to me and says something awful about you, Okay,
what do I know of the person who's saying these
things about you? Is this somebody who is normally a good, decent, reliable, honest,
trustworthy person or is this somebody who stirs the poop
somebody who's right exactly? So you have to consider the source.
Speaker 3 (09:39):
That's true. Yes, you do have to consider the source.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
Okay, So I would start there, That's where I would start.
And then also, what do you know about your girlfriend's
relationship with her dad? Is that sour?
Speaker 3 (09:52):
Oh yeah?
Speaker 1 (09:53):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (09:53):
You know what kind of relationship does she have with him?
What have you learned about her relationship with her dad
over the time you've been dating? You generally talk about him.
Is it in glowing terms he's a great dad? Or
is it like, oh, dad, he's just the worst. I mean,
so it could just be that he really just doesn't
like her and he's trying to torpedo her relationship. I mean,
there are a lot of things here, and then something
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you touched on earlier, what do you know about your girlfriend?
What do you know about her when you look at
the things that he said about her, because he gave
you a very specific thing. She's lazy, she's unreliable, she's dishonest,
she's self centered. Okay, have you seen any of that
in her over the years or over the time you've
been dating mm hmm, because you could answer some of
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that yourself if you're just objective about it, if you're
honest about it, right, yeah, yeah, And she.
Speaker 4 (10:43):
May not be that way with him with that relationship too.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
That's a good point. Also, how is she with other people?
Speaker 3 (10:49):
How is she with other people?
Speaker 4 (10:50):
But also if the dad is somewhat of a narcissist,
then he's going to see everybody else as selfish and
you know all of that stuff.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
So that could very well be.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
But there's also that but yes, so again taking into
consideration the.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
Source, somebody texted in.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
Yeah, I got a couple of texts.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
Okay, good, what do you have?
Speaker 4 (11:11):
Okay, So this text is interesting for me. It always
tells me more about the parent than the child.
Speaker 3 (11:18):
When the parent is trash talking their own.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
Kid, well that's kind of a gray area because the
kid could be awful. It's possible the kid is. I mean,
what if your kid's in prison for murder, you know,
and you talk to the parent and they're like, he
was a good boy. No, no, we've listened to a
good boy. He's a murderer. Some people are terrible, and
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just because you're their parent, that doesn't change that.
Speaker 3 (11:44):
Sure.
Speaker 4 (11:45):
Yeah, okay, uh this text here? How long have they
been together?
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Which is a good question, a very good question.
Speaker 4 (11:51):
The woman I am with over ten years. Her father
said the same thing.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
So we just never married. Oh god, so you guys
are just together.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
You've been dating for ten years, but you won't pull
the trigger because your dad talk trash on Is that right?
Speaker 3 (12:05):
That's interesting, that's what sounds like.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
That's confusing because you know, you're a decade in then,
you you have had plenty of time to vet all
of this woman in anything her dad said about her.
You by now certainly know if that's true or not. Yeah,
I'd say, if you're still with her after ten years,
go ahead and pull the trigger. I think you're probably fine. There,
wouldn't you agree, I yeah, otherwise you would have split up.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
If you need to a lope, I can. I can
do that for you. Just let you know that out there, fuy.
Speaker 5 (12:35):
All right, you're good.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
All right. I saw another text popped in here. It
made me chuckle. The dad is married to her mother.
He knows how this story ends. Oh oh that is funny. Yeah,
people do a lot of times kind of turn into
their parents as they age.
Speaker 3 (12:54):
Yes, those car insurance commercials have taught us.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
Yeah, that's exactly right, that's exactly right. Look, I'll here's
the last thing I say on this and going back
to you know, the text that you just had about
the parent talking about the child, that tells you about
the parent and all this. Yeah, maybe, so, I really
think the key in all of this is what you
know about the dad who is telling you these things.
(13:18):
I really think that's that's the key. Yeah, because again again,
if this guy is a straight arrow, again, a faithful husband,
a good father, a reliable worker, he's been a pillar
for that family. Everybody respects him in the community, and
he's telling you that. Yeah, if Kyle Wigs says this
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kid is troubled, then you could probably take that to
the bank. But if he himself is of questionable character,
he just got out of prison, he's swigging a bottle
of whiskey, he's covered in tattoos, you know, and he
is trying to tell you what a terrible person's daughter is. Well, okay,
maybe he's not the best judge of character, right, Yeah,
(14:00):
so you're really going to have to consider the source.
Speaker 3 (14:02):
I agree, you do have to consider the source.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
Yep, all right, then, well, Nikki, once again we have spoken,
and I do believe that we have helped this man.
Speaker 3 (14:12):
Have we.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
I'd like to believe that the main thing is it's
over the Jack and.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
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Speaker 4 (15:08):
Yeah, I don't think this is a good idea for
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help you. If you have an unexpected you know, thing
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Speaker 3 (15:19):
You're like, oh my gosh, I didn't know.
Speaker 4 (15:20):
I'm going to have to replace this thing, and it's
very important, I need to do it right away.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
And it's expensive. Yes, yeah, then.
Speaker 4 (15:26):
Okay, cool, I can see how that will help you.
But for your lunch.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
Yeah, I think we're pretty much on the same page here. Yeah, yeah,
because there are Okay, first of all, let's talk about
being broke. Okay, let's just talk about being broke.
Speaker 6 (15:41):
Now.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
I've been very broken my life, and when I was
really broke, I just went through life at that point
with the understanding I'm too broke to buy things right now,
and I just have to accept that. Yes, yeah, now
I can try to find a work around. I can
get a bunch of credit cards and go ahead and
get everything I want now, But I'm going to be
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in an even bigger debt hole and things are going
to get even worse for me down the road. So
what I would do back then is suck it up,
be broke, drive the junk car when it broke down,
you know, use tape to fix it, just try to
get through, and then later I'm not in a big
debt hole. And it seems to me like if if
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you're that broke, that's the kind of person that's paying
for the door dash in four installments. You know, like
if you're ordering some food and you want to get
twenty dollars worth of food, and you're like, I'll pay
four installments of five dollars, maybe that's the time to
just go. You know what, I'm too broke to be
doing this right now. I'll just wait. Yeah, you know,
but like you said, if you, let's say, have a
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hot water heater that goes down, or a refrigerator stops
working or something that's that you have to have, well
now you don't really have any choice but to throw
that on a credit card and try to start paying
that off. But that's a necessity.
Speaker 3 (17:01):
Yes, yeah, I mean food's a necessity.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
Well it is, but delivered to your door from a
restaurant is not a necessity.
Speaker 4 (17:09):
Hey, with all the extra fees and everything, on top
of all of that.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
Yeah, like yeah, that's yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:15):
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financing your door dash and then you end up missing
payments and you end up in more debt, that's not
helping you. You may look at it like, oh, hey,
they're trying to help me out there, They're really not
what it is. It's helping them, yes, because they are
your debt holders, right, and you're going to be in
debt to them now down the road.
Speaker 4 (17:35):
Yeah, I'm trying to figure out like what door Dash
is getting out of this partnership, Like I haven't looked
into that to see like, oh, okay, well I.
Speaker 2 (17:42):
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the people.
Speaker 4 (17:45):
Who I didn't know if like financially on the back end,
like however many people like actually utilize this, this is
what you'll get or you know however that works.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
Yeah, that I don't know. But just generally speaking, if
you take people who go, well, I can't afford twenty dollars,
but I can afford five dollars in monthly installments, then
you're going to have more people using your service and
you're going to make more money.
Speaker 3 (18:09):
Sure, sure, I understand that.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
Yeah, all right, well there you go. What do you
think about my being poor theory? Sometimes you just have
to eat it and you just have to accept. Yeah,
I'm just broke right now. I just don't have it
right now, right.
Speaker 3 (18:24):
Yeah, it's fine. Just cook your own food, make a sandwich.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
Okay. Well, I think we're pretty much all on the
same page here. If you disagree, you know where to
find us. I want to get to this customer service
hack for you guys. But first, Nikki, I'm being challenged
to It looks like a poverty off oh jeez on
the text line here, and I have to respond to that.
(18:50):
I have to do it, Nikki, I've got.
Speaker 5 (18:52):
To do it.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
Yes, all right, Okay, check this out. I was talking
about being so broke, Yeah, that we tour Cheeseburger in half,
a ninety nine cent cheeseburger in half and split it,
says this texter. In high school, My best friend and
I were so broke.
Speaker 3 (19:08):
How broke were they?
Speaker 2 (19:09):
We would go through Long John's drive through and order
a box of crunchies and water because it was free,
at least it was back then. Oh wow, they give
you the crunchies. Yeah, just give them to.
Speaker 3 (19:20):
You free crunchies. Yeah, that's delicious.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
How about that. That's pretty broke.
Speaker 3 (19:24):
That is pretty broke.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
That's pretty broke. But I see your poverty and I
challenge you. Oh jeez, that's right. We my dopey high
school friends and I used to wait outside the Elkins
Hearties because at four o'clock in the morning they would
throw away their unsold chicken from the day. They would
take it and throw it in the dumpster, and we
would wait for them to do that and either talk
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them into giving it to us or just fishing out
of the dump Yeah. Yeah, but either way we ended
up with the chicken. Oh jeez, that's right. So I
see your story of poverty and I match you. Okay,
So balls in your now. If you guys would like
to engage in any type of a poverty off with me,
then have at it, okay, because believe me, that's gonna
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be tough. Okay, I've seen some things, nikky. Are you
ready now to visit the wonderful world of TikTok? Yes, okay,
let's do that TikTok.
Speaker 1 (20:20):
If you haven't heard of the TikTok.
Speaker 3 (20:21):
App, it's the app popping up on phones everywhere. TikTok
a TikTok app.
Speaker 5 (20:26):
TikTok past five hundred and million active uses.
Speaker 3 (20:28):
This is a TikTok trend going viral. Just put that
on TikTok.
Speaker 2 (20:33):
Well, somebody did. This. Woman Ashley Biz explains how she
was able to get her boyfriend's non refundable flight changed.
Let her explain it.
Speaker 7 (20:44):
Customer service reps have a bias that you can totally
use to your advantage. So I discovered it because I
was an assistant for so many years. I've had to
call customer service on behalf of other people and they
treat you differently based on who you are in relation
to the person that you're calling for. Like, that's the bias.
So I'll give you an example. My boyfriend needed a
flight changed. It was a nonrefundable flight. I was like, oh,
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I've gotten a non refundable flight changed.
Speaker 1 (21:08):
I can do this.
Speaker 7 (21:09):
So I called the airline. I gave them all the numbers.
They were like, well, who are you in relation to
this person? I was like, oh, I'm his girlfriend. They
wanted nothing to do with me. They were like, sorry,
it's non refundable. I was like, oh my god, why didn't,
I say, wife. I called back again, gave them the numbers,
I said wife. They still said, I'm sorry, it's non refundable.
So I called back one more time and I was like,
I'm his assistant. Not only did I get the flight changed,
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they gave him a slightly better seat. And I think
that it's a subconscious bias because once you say assistant,
they're like, oh, that person's job is on the line,
and they're way more likely to help you. Well, if
you have to get something really big or really important
done and you need to call customer service, make up
a name, pretend you are your own assistant, and I
promise you they are way more likely to help.
Speaker 3 (21:50):
That's interesting, isn't it. That's very interesting. Yes, they have
to try this at some point.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
I'm definitely gonna try this. Yeah, but I know I'll
get busted and then panic can hang out.
Speaker 3 (22:03):
Sure.
Speaker 2 (22:04):
Yeah, same as I'm like, I'm mister Loger's assistant, They'll say,
we just talked to you a few minutes ago. You're
clearly the same person that's volcanic. We know who you are, right. Yeah. Yeah,
I'm surprised she didn't get caught doing that because she
started saying she was the girlfriend and the wife and then.
Speaker 4 (22:18):
The assistant, right, and they're going to be marking down
the notes on the account usually, So that's very interesting.
Speaker 2 (22:25):
All right, Well you guys give that a shot. See
how that works out for you. Report yes, and then
we're pow, yeah, we do want to know.
Speaker 3 (22:33):
Yeah, I like this. I'm taking a lot of mental notes.
Speaker 2 (22:36):
Right, I see that. I see. I can tell it's
different because your eyes are spinning counterclockwise and they're normally
spending clockwise. Studio lines continuing to ring. I suspect it's
more people trying to challenge me in a poverty off
And I say, good luck with that. Is that why
you're calling? Let's hear it?
Speaker 5 (22:57):
All right? So back in the day, we used to
go to the Little Caesars at the end of the
shift because they would throw away all their pizza, all
their hot and ready pizzas, all their breadsticks, their chicken wings,
everything like that. So there was a guy that used
to work back there and we would go in about
the end of their ship and say, hey, you know,
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can you just put these in a trash bag tours
and set them beside the dumps, staring them in the
dumps dump, and so we had a good thing going
for a little while, you know, because he would just
bag them up and set them off to the side.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
Yeah, that's very smart. That's that's solid poverty planning there.
Speaker 4 (23:36):
I had a similar situation set up with a coffee shop,
and so at the end of their shift I would
be going into work overnights at the radio station, and
so at the end of the shift they would have
set aside all of the pastries and then whatever coffee
they were getting ready to dump, they would always have
a Venti ready for me.
Speaker 5 (23:56):
I thought, you're gonna say, they saved all of the
mess up orders for you at the end of your end.
Speaker 6 (24:03):
Here you go, all right.
Speaker 2 (24:04):
Well, thank you for calling and participating in our poverty office.
Let's get into it. This is going to be awkward
and uncomfortable and perhaps painful. Even studio lines are open
eight eight eight seven seven seven sixty six forty. You
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can text the show as well, if and you would like,
always happy to receive your textual messages. So this is
something Nicky stumbled onto yesterday on some online forum and
immediately took screenshot texted to me and she's like, look,
at this yep. Okay, let's get into the situation here,
(24:48):
and I have some analysis, and I'm sure you do
as well, and let's just see where everybody comes in
on this. Let's see if we all reach the same
consensus here.
Speaker 3 (24:56):
Okay, okay, oh, interesting, Okay, All right. Here the story.
Speaker 4 (25:00):
My boyfriend and I have been talking about moving because
our place right now is tiny and not very nice.
He just got a promotion, is about to make double
what I do, so we're excited about an upgrade. Now
that we're looking, he still wants to split rent fifty
to fifty. This means almost all my money will go
to rent while he is building up savings. I don't
want to hold us back from getting a better place,
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but I also don't want to drain my entire paycheck
just to keep up. I don't know how to bring
this up without it turning into a bigger issue. How
do couples usually handle finances when there is such a
big difference in income?
Speaker 2 (25:35):
M Okay, then would you like to begin with your analysis?
Speaker 4 (25:40):
Red flag, red flags everywhere, Woo woo, red.
Speaker 2 (25:44):
Flags, red flag Chinese communists?
Speaker 4 (25:49):
Yeah, do not split split rent fifty to fifty at
this point. It should be proportionate, like pay what you
if you are comfortable with what you're paying, now, continue
to contribute that much money, and then he needs to
make up the red it's his promotion.
Speaker 3 (26:00):
He's the one.
Speaker 4 (26:01):
Doubling you know what you're making. And yeah, so okay, yeah,
he is just looking out for himself in this scenario.
He obviously is not giving a hoot about you. So
that's another red flag.
Speaker 2 (26:16):
Yes, that's right.
Speaker 4 (26:18):
Maybe not even continue the relationship if you bring this
up and he still says, no, this is what we're doing.
Speaker 3 (26:23):
Yeah, okay, that's my analysis.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
That is your analysis.
Speaker 6 (26:28):
He is being a butthole analysis butthole sounds so wrong,
it really does. Let's make an official but hole. Okay, Jack, Well,
now I will tell you none of this is good
for her.
Speaker 3 (26:48):
None of it's good for her.
Speaker 2 (26:49):
None of this is good for her. Okay, this is
potentially catastrophic, yes, okay, And I will tell you before
I get to my worst case scenario here, that I
bounced this off of two women yesterday who both reached
the conclusion. Before I told them my conclusion, I just said,
(27:09):
what do you think is happening here? And they both
said the same thing, Okay, which is also my belief.
So let's break it down. Best case scenario. Best case scenario.
He does not understand Matha and is inconsiderate of her.
Speaker 3 (27:26):
That is the thing.
Speaker 2 (27:27):
That's the best case scenario.
Speaker 3 (27:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
Now the worst case scenario, in what I think is
the most likely scenario, he does not see her as
a long term mate and is not investing in the relationship.
He's not looking at her the way she's looking at him. Okay,
this is a guy who's not looking at her as
a wife, maybe the future mother of his children.
Speaker 3 (27:50):
Yeah, he's looking at her as a roommate.
Speaker 2 (27:52):
She's temporary in his eyes. Okay, So he's not investing
because a guy who is in love he's gonna invest
in that. Yeah, he's gonna. So this isn't even an
issue for a guy who wants to keep you around.
I don't think he does. I think this is probably
where it ends, and I don't think he cares. If
she says, well we should split, he's probably going to
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breathe a sigh of relief. And if she doesn't say it,
then he might. But this is this is very bad
for her.
Speaker 3 (28:19):
It's very bad.
Speaker 2 (28:20):
Yeah, so would you be would you be the third
woman then? Who would agree?
Speaker 3 (28:24):
Yes? Okay, Yeah, he sees her, he's looking for a roommate.
Speaker 2 (28:28):
They're not. Yeah, they're not. Again, they're not seeing each
other the same way in this relationship. She's got more
invested in it than he does. Yeah, yeah, okay eight
eight eight seven seven seven sixty six forty. You can
text this as well. We have spoken, we have offered
our analysis. This has been vetted by three women. Now
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and the laws of evolutionary psychology your witness
Speaker 3 (29:00):
Don't you be intu
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Speaker 2 (00:17):
I'm going to go now to the text jewel line
because it's time for you asked for it. You yep,
you did ask for it, and now you're gonna get it.
Call us or text us with whatever is on your mind,
whatever you would like to discuss. Perhaps you have topic
(00:41):
you would like us to get into on the show.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
Okay, yes, that's exactly how it works.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
Sure, other shows will play a song, we'll analyze your
life because we care about you, the listener, and we
need filler material because it's a four hour show. So
we got a text here from this guy said, here's
the text. I asked my girlfriend's father for her hand
(01:09):
in marriage. Okay, so he's dating this woman, wants to
get married, wants to do the traditional thing and go
to the dad and say, hey, yeah, I'd like to
marry your daughter. Lovely woman, lovely, He continues, I was
shocked when he advised me to not marry her. What
he had a laundry list of reasons why I should
(01:30):
not marry his daughter, including she's lazy, unreliable, self centered, dishonest,
and she doesn't want to have kids. He said. If
I do marry her, I have his blessing though.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
Yes, So he's really confused right now, and in what
I considered be and hilariously awkward situation. So awkward, Yeah,
okay again eight eight eight seven seven seven sixty six forty.
You could text this as well. Let's see what you
guys have to say about this. And also, one of
(02:07):
the things I like to do in these situations is
try to find somebody who has experience in this situation.
This seems pretty rare to me. You generally don't have
parents talk trash about their own children, but I guess
it does happen obviously. So you know, what do you
do if you're in this situation? And I tell you what,
(02:29):
I suspect that the situation some people probably have been
in is maybe not the parent talking trash, but maybe
some people around them, friends and other family members and
stuff saying ooh, I wouldn't marry that person. That's a
bad idea.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
Sure, that makes sense.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
Yeah, but when it's coming from the dad, yeah, Now
I do have some thoughts on this, Nikki. Would you
like to jump in before I toss in some some analysis.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
Well, it's very.
Speaker 4 (02:56):
Interesting that the dad hases all these things to say
when you'd be like, oh, yeah, like it sounds like
he just should be pawning her off, like he wants
to and make sure she's gone if he has all
these horrible whatever flags he wants to wave around. But
also like a lot of the things that were mentioned,
(03:19):
wouldn't the fiance have already or potential fiance have already
figured these things out?
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Possibly? Yes, And I thought of that. But love is blind, okay, yea,
love is blind, So you know there are probably other
things going on in that relationship that I imagine would maybe
maybe overshadow affect his ability to be objective about this woman.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
Okay, right, yeah, okay, okay.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Now what I would say to this text is, if
this is true what the dad is saying, this is
useful information for you. Yeah, okay, if she is self centered, dishonest, unreliable,
I mean, if if she is kind of a slug
and she's going to cause a lot of problems in
(04:05):
your life, and the dad can see that and he's
telling you that right up front. If it's in fact true,
then you really should take this into consideration.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
Now, as Nicky said, hopefully you would have collected some
of this information along the way, but perhaps you've been
blinded by your love. But that's why we're here. Okay.
We can give you objective third party analysis along with
the rest of the listeners eight eight eight seven seven
seven sixty six forty, or you can text us. I
(04:37):
do have some additional thoughts on this, but I want
to wait and kind of see where you guys go
with it, and then we can wrap it up in
a nice little bow for this guy coming up. And
hopefully my goal is to by the end of this
segment have a solution for this man. Okay, okay, because
he's he's troubled, he's in a bad spot, and he's
(04:58):
turned his life to us, which we all agree is
the best possible thing he could have done.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
Oh absolutely, Okay.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Yeah, don't bother going to your family to talk about it,
don't see friends, counseling from a friend you know, don't
go to your preacher. No, no, you you send a
text into the Jack and Nicky Show and we'll get
it sorted out for you, Nicki Drake, what are we
saying on the text line?
Speaker 3 (05:23):
All right, let's see, I liked this one a lot.
Immediate red flag for questionable in laws.
Speaker 4 (05:30):
As a parent, I would never say that to someone
about my child, even if it was true.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
Oh wow, that's really interesting.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Emotion, famits.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
That's a whole other question, isn't it.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
I guess yeah?
Speaker 5 (05:44):
Right.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
I mean, look, just because somebody's your kid doesn't mean
that they're not awful, because every awful person has some parents,
right yeah. And if you know something about your kid
that's really damaging to somebody who's going to marry them,
do you have a moral obligon to tell that person?
Speaker 3 (06:01):
Right right? Yeah?
Speaker 4 (06:03):
I hope it's not just like with the the text
that came in. I hope it's not that like this
dad just doesn't like this kid, and like it's not
the favorite of a family, and like you just prefers
the other children.
Speaker 3 (06:15):
It just has like a grudge against this specific child.
I don't know. I'm hoping that's not the case. I
just could be.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
I can't remember where this story is from. I saw
this in the news earlier this week, but it was
a woman who killed her spouse, oh and then was
on the run. And then as you get into the story,
you find out this is her second spouse and she
also killed the first one and was in prison for
like thirteen years for that.
Speaker 6 (06:41):
What.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Yeah, Now I'm thinking maybe somebody could have given this
person the heads.
Speaker 3 (06:47):
Up background check.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
Yes, she murdered her first husband, right her, right, exactly? Okay,
all right, please continue.
Speaker 4 (06:56):
Okay, I think my wife's dad was just trying to
unburden himself by not sharing the important info.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
My wife completely changed after marriage.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
I'm assuming for the worst.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
I'm assuming for the worst as well.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
Okay, yeah, well that does happen. You know, we've talked
about that.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
Interesting.
Speaker 4 (07:14):
So that is a parent who didn't say anything.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
And this text are saying I wish he had.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
Yeah, yeah, interesting. Interesting.
Speaker 5 (07:24):
Yes.
Speaker 4 (07:24):
I had a boyfriend whose parents kept asking me if
I thought he was gaining weight and.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
Even showing me pictures of when he was thinner.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
What what's the.
Speaker 5 (07:35):
Point of that? Well?
Speaker 2 (07:36):
I think the point may have been, Look, he's heavy now,
and he's going to keep getting heavier. Okay, here's where
he started here, here's where he was when you came in, right,
here's where he is now, and here's our projection for
a decade from now. This is where we think he's
going to be.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
Okay, are they blaming her for this?
Speaker 4 (07:54):
No?
Speaker 2 (07:55):
I don't. It doesn't sound like it. I think they're
actually trying to warn this woman.
Speaker 3 (07:58):
Oh okay, yeah, okay, interesting.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Any additional text.
Speaker 4 (08:02):
We have a follow up of the dad that was
trying to unburden himself and the wife completely changed after marriage.
Speaker 3 (08:07):
Confirmed, definitely changed for the worst.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
I see. Well, Nikki, let's move on to the excellent
analysis portion of the program.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
Okay, the educational part.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
Well, look, this is what I would say to this guy.
Speaker 4 (08:23):
Who's psychology music to add to this, Well, it doesn't get.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
More psychological than this. That's pretty psychological. Okay. Like I
said earlier, if this information is true, then this is
useful information to him. But what I would suggest to
our text here is you're gonna have to ask yourself
this question, what do you know of the dad and
(08:49):
his character? Okay, Because if you're getting this information from
a guy who is a straight arrow, who is historically
a faithful husband, good father, a reliable provider, that's one thing.
But if the dad is a liar, a cheater, and
a scumbag. That's another. So you're gonna have to consider
(09:11):
the source on this.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
So do you think this is some sort of like
test that the dad is like trying?
Speaker 2 (09:15):
Well, it could be, but no. What I'm suggesting is,
if somebody comes to me and says something awful about you, Okay,
what do I know of the person who's saying these
things about you? Is this somebody who is normally a good, decent, reliable, honest,
trustworthy person or is this somebody who stirs the poop
somebody who's right exactly? So you have to consider the source.
Speaker 3 (09:39):
That's true. Yes, you do have to consider the source.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
Okay, So I would start there, That's where I would start.
And then also, what do you know about your girlfriend's
relationship with her dad? Is that sour?
Speaker 3 (09:52):
Oh yeah?
Speaker 1 (09:53):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (09:53):
You know what kind of relationship does she have with him?
What have you learned about her relationship with her dad
over the time you've been dating? You generally talk about him.
Is it in glowing terms he's a great dad? Or
is it like, oh, dad, he's just the worst. I mean,
so it could just be that he really just doesn't
like her and he's trying to torpedo her relationship. I mean,
there are a lot of things here, and then something
(10:15):
you touched on earlier, what do you know about your girlfriend?
What do you know about her when you look at
the things that he said about her, because he gave
you a very specific thing. She's lazy, she's unreliable, she's dishonest,
she's self centered. Okay, have you seen any of that
in her over the years or over the time you've
been dating mm hmm, because you could answer some of
(10:36):
that yourself if you're just objective about it, if you're
honest about it, right, yeah, yeah, And she.
Speaker 4 (10:43):
May not be that way with him with that relationship too.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
That's a good point. Also, how is she with other people?
Speaker 3 (10:49):
How is she with other people?
Speaker 4 (10:50):
But also if the dad is somewhat of a narcissist,
then he's going to see everybody else as selfish and
you know all of that stuff.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
So that could very well be.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
But there's also that but yes, so again taking into
consideration the.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
Source, somebody texted in.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
Yeah, I got a couple of texts.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
Okay, good, what do you have?
Speaker 4 (11:11):
Okay, So this text is interesting for me. It always
tells me more about the parent than the child.
Speaker 3 (11:18):
When the parent is trash talking their own.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
Kid, well that's kind of a gray area because the
kid could be awful. It's possible the kid is. I mean,
what if your kid's in prison for murder, you know,
and you talk to the parent and they're like, he
was a good boy. No, no, we've listened to a
good boy. He's a murderer. Some people are terrible, and
(11:42):
just because you're their parent, that doesn't change that.
Speaker 3 (11:44):
Sure.
Speaker 4 (11:45):
Yeah, okay, uh this text here? How long have they
been together?
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Which is a good question, a very good question.
Speaker 4 (11:51):
The woman I am with over ten years. Her father
said the same thing.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
So we just never married. Oh god, so you guys
are just together.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
You've been dating for ten years, but you won't pull
the trigger because your dad talk trash on Is that right?
Speaker 3 (12:05):
That's interesting, that's what sounds like.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
That's confusing because you know, you're a decade in then,
you you have had plenty of time to vet all
of this woman in anything her dad said about her.
You by now certainly know if that's true or not. Yeah,
I'd say, if you're still with her after ten years,
go ahead and pull the trigger. I think you're probably fine. There,
wouldn't you agree, I yeah, otherwise you would have split up.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
If you need to a lope, I can. I can
do that for you. Just let you know that out there, fuy.
Speaker 5 (12:35):
All right, you're good.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
All right. I saw another text popped in here. It
made me chuckle. The dad is married to her mother.
He knows how this story ends. Oh oh that is funny. Yeah,
people do a lot of times kind of turn into
their parents as they age.
Speaker 3 (12:54):
Yes, those car insurance commercials have taught us.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
Yeah, that's exactly right, that's exactly right. Look, I'll here's
the last thing I say on this and going back
to you know, the text that you just had about
the parent talking about the child, that tells you about
the parent and all this. Yeah, maybe, so, I really
think the key in all of this is what you
know about the dad who is telling you these things.
(13:18):
I really think that's that's the key. Yeah, because again again,
if this guy is a straight arrow, again, a faithful husband,
a good father, a reliable worker, he's been a pillar
for that family. Everybody respects him in the community, and
he's telling you that. Yeah, if Kyle Wigs says this
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kid is troubled, then you could probably take that to
the bank. But if he himself is of questionable character,
he just got out of prison, he's swigging a bottle
of whiskey, he's covered in tattoos, you know, and he
is trying to tell you what a terrible person's daughter is. Well, okay,
maybe he's not the best judge of character, right, Yeah,
(14:00):
so you're really going to have to consider the source.
Speaker 3 (14:02):
I agree, you do have to consider the source.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
Yep, all right, then, well, Nikki, once again we have spoken,
and I do believe that we have helped this man.
Speaker 3 (14:12):
Have we.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
I'd like to believe that the main thing is it's
over the Jack and.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
Nikki show on WVAQ.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
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more convenient time like when you get paid. The orders
(14:41):
are interest free if paid off on time in for
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not paid on time, here comes the interest, right yes,
which is why Consumer Reports is warning people against doing this.
Don't do that, Consumer Report. It says, buy now, pay
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(15:04):
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Speaker 4 (15:08):
Yeah, I don't think this is a good idea for
door dash. There are some instances where, yes, this can
help you. If you have an unexpected you know, thing
pop up and.
Speaker 3 (15:19):
You're like, oh my gosh, I didn't know.
Speaker 4 (15:20):
I'm going to have to replace this thing, and it's
very important, I need to do it right away.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
And it's expensive. Yes, yeah, then.
Speaker 4 (15:26):
Okay, cool, I can see how that will help you.
But for your lunch.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
Yeah, I think we're pretty much on the same page here. Yeah, yeah,
because there are Okay, first of all, let's talk about
being broke. Okay, let's just talk about being broke.
Speaker 6 (15:41):
Now.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
I've been very broken my life, and when I was
really broke, I just went through life at that point
with the understanding I'm too broke to buy things right now,
and I just have to accept that. Yes, yeah, now
I can try to find a work around. I can
get a bunch of credit cards and go ahead and
get everything I want now, But I'm going to be
(16:01):
in an even bigger debt hole and things are going
to get even worse for me down the road. So
what I would do back then is suck it up,
be broke, drive the junk car when it broke down,
you know, use tape to fix it, just try to
get through, and then later I'm not in a big
debt hole. And it seems to me like if if
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you're that broke, that's the kind of person that's paying
for the door dash in four installments. You know, like
if you're ordering some food and you want to get
twenty dollars worth of food, and you're like, I'll pay
four installments of five dollars, maybe that's the time to
just go. You know what, I'm too broke to be
doing this right now. I'll just wait. Yeah, you know,
but like you said, if you, let's say, have a
(16:48):
hot water heater that goes down, or a refrigerator stops
working or something that's that you have to have, well
now you don't really have any choice but to throw
that on a credit card and try to start paying
that off. But that's a necessity.
Speaker 3 (17:01):
Yes, yeah, I mean food's a necessity.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
Well it is, but delivered to your door from a
restaurant is not a necessity.
Speaker 4 (17:09):
Hey, with all the extra fees and everything, on top
of all of that.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
Yeah, like yeah, that's yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:15):
Yeah. Just remember if if you're doing this, if you're
financing your door dash and then you end up missing
payments and you end up in more debt, that's not
helping you. You may look at it like, oh, hey,
they're trying to help me out there, They're really not
what it is. It's helping them, yes, because they are
your debt holders, right, and you're going to be in
debt to them now down the road.
Speaker 4 (17:35):
Yeah, I'm trying to figure out like what door Dash
is getting out of this partnership, Like I haven't looked
into that to see like, oh, okay, well I.
Speaker 2 (17:42):
Think they're they're getting more clientele than they would have
the people.
Speaker 4 (17:45):
Who I didn't know if like financially on the back end,
like however many people like actually utilize this, this is
what you'll get or you know however that works.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
Yeah, that I don't know. But just generally speaking, if
you take people who go, well, I can't afford twenty dollars,
but I can afford five dollars in monthly installments, then
you're going to have more people using your service and
you're going to make more money.
Speaker 3 (18:09):
Sure, sure, I understand that.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
Yeah, all right, well there you go. What do you
think about my being poor theory? Sometimes you just have
to eat it and you just have to accept. Yeah,
I'm just broke right now. I just don't have it
right now, right.
Speaker 3 (18:24):
Yeah, it's fine. Just cook your own food, make a sandwich.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
Okay. Well, I think we're pretty much all on the
same page here. If you disagree, you know where to
find us. I want to get to this customer service
hack for you guys. But first, Nikki, I'm being challenged
to It looks like a poverty off oh jeez on
the text line here, and I have to respond to that.
(18:50):
I have to do it, Nikki, I've got.
Speaker 5 (18:52):
To do it.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
Yes, all right, Okay, check this out. I was talking
about being so broke, Yeah, that we tour Cheeseburger in half,
a ninety nine cent cheeseburger in half and split it,
says this texter. In high school, My best friend and
I were so broke.
Speaker 3 (19:08):
How broke were they?
Speaker 2 (19:09):
We would go through Long John's drive through and order
a box of crunchies and water because it was free,
at least it was back then. Oh wow, they give
you the crunchies. Yeah, just give them to.
Speaker 3 (19:20):
You free crunchies. Yeah, that's delicious.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
How about that. That's pretty broke.
Speaker 3 (19:24):
That is pretty broke.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
That's pretty broke. But I see your poverty and I
challenge you. Oh jeez, that's right. We my dopey high
school friends and I used to wait outside the Elkins
Hearties because at four o'clock in the morning they would
throw away their unsold chicken from the day. They would
take it and throw it in the dumpster, and we
would wait for them to do that and either talk
(19:46):
them into giving it to us or just fishing out
of the dump Yeah. Yeah, but either way we ended
up with the chicken. Oh jeez, that's right. So I
see your story of poverty and I match you. Okay,
So balls in your now. If you guys would like
to engage in any type of a poverty off with me,
then have at it, okay, because believe me, that's gonna
(20:08):
be tough. Okay, I've seen some things, nikky. Are you
ready now to visit the wonderful world of TikTok? Yes, okay,
let's do that TikTok.
Speaker 1 (20:20):
If you haven't heard of the TikTok.
Speaker 3 (20:21):
App, it's the app popping up on phones everywhere. TikTok
a TikTok app.
Speaker 5 (20:26):
TikTok past five hundred and million active uses.
Speaker 3 (20:28):
This is a TikTok trend going viral. Just put that
on TikTok.
Speaker 2 (20:33):
Well, somebody did. This. Woman Ashley Biz explains how she
was able to get her boyfriend's non refundable flight changed.
Let her explain it.
Speaker 7 (20:44):
Customer service reps have a bias that you can totally
use to your advantage. So I discovered it because I
was an assistant for so many years. I've had to
call customer service on behalf of other people and they
treat you differently based on who you are in relation
to the person that you're calling for. Like, that's the bias.
So I'll give you an example. My boyfriend needed a
flight changed. It was a nonrefundable flight. I was like, oh,
(21:06):
I've gotten a non refundable flight changed.
Speaker 1 (21:08):
I can do this.
Speaker 7 (21:09):
So I called the airline. I gave them all the numbers.
They were like, well, who are you in relation to
this person? I was like, oh, I'm his girlfriend. They
wanted nothing to do with me. They were like, sorry,
it's non refundable. I was like, oh my god, why didn't,
I say, wife. I called back again, gave them the numbers,
I said wife. They still said, I'm sorry, it's non refundable.
So I called back one more time and I was like,
I'm his assistant. Not only did I get the flight changed,
(21:29):
they gave him a slightly better seat. And I think
that it's a subconscious bias because once you say assistant,
they're like, oh, that person's job is on the line,
and they're way more likely to help you. Well, if
you have to get something really big or really important
done and you need to call customer service, make up
a name, pretend you are your own assistant, and I
promise you they are way more likely to help.
Speaker 3 (21:50):
That's interesting, isn't it. That's very interesting. Yes, they have
to try this at some point.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
I'm definitely gonna try this. Yeah, but I know I'll
get busted and then panic can hang out.
Speaker 3 (22:03):
Sure.
Speaker 2 (22:04):
Yeah, same as I'm like, I'm mister Loger's assistant, They'll say,
we just talked to you a few minutes ago. You're
clearly the same person that's volcanic. We know who you are, right. Yeah. Yeah,
I'm surprised she didn't get caught doing that because she
started saying she was the girlfriend and the wife and then.
Speaker 4 (22:18):
The assistant, right, and they're going to be marking down
the notes on the account usually, So that's very interesting.
Speaker 2 (22:25):
All right, Well you guys give that a shot. See
how that works out for you. Report yes, and then
we're pow, yeah, we do want to know.
Speaker 3 (22:33):
Yeah, I like this. I'm taking a lot of mental notes.
Speaker 2 (22:36):
Right, I see that. I see. I can tell it's
different because your eyes are spinning counterclockwise and they're normally
spending clockwise. Studio lines continuing to ring. I suspect it's
more people trying to challenge me in a poverty off
And I say, good luck with that. Is that why
you're calling? Let's hear it?
Speaker 5 (22:57):
All right? So back in the day, we used to
go to the Little Caesars at the end of the
shift because they would throw away all their pizza, all
their hot and ready pizzas, all their breadsticks, their chicken wings,
everything like that. So there was a guy that used
to work back there and we would go in about
the end of their ship and say, hey, you know,
(23:19):
can you just put these in a trash bag tours
and set them beside the dumps, staring them in the
dumps dump, and so we had a good thing going
for a little while, you know, because he would just
bag them up and set them off to the side.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
Yeah, that's very smart. That's that's solid poverty planning there.
Speaker 4 (23:36):
I had a similar situation set up with a coffee shop,
and so at the end of their shift I would
be going into work overnights at the radio station, and
so at the end of the shift they would have
set aside all of the pastries and then whatever coffee
they were getting ready to dump, they would always have
a Venti ready for me.
Speaker 5 (23:56):
I thought, you're gonna say, they saved all of the
mess up orders for you at the end of your end.
Speaker 6 (24:03):
Here you go, all right.
Speaker 2 (24:04):
Well, thank you for calling and participating in our poverty office.
Let's get into it. This is going to be awkward
and uncomfortable and perhaps painful. Even studio lines are open
eight eight eight seven seven seven sixty six forty. You
(24:25):
can text the show as well, if and you would like,
always happy to receive your textual messages. So this is
something Nicky stumbled onto yesterday on some online forum and
immediately took screenshot texted to me and she's like, look,
at this yep. Okay, let's get into the situation here,
(24:48):
and I have some analysis, and I'm sure you do
as well, and let's just see where everybody comes in
on this. Let's see if we all reach the same
consensus here.
Speaker 3 (24:56):
Okay, okay, oh, interesting, Okay, All right. Here the story.
Speaker 4 (25:00):
My boyfriend and I have been talking about moving because
our place right now is tiny and not very nice.
He just got a promotion, is about to make double
what I do, so we're excited about an upgrade. Now
that we're looking, he still wants to split rent fifty
to fifty. This means almost all my money will go
to rent while he is building up savings. I don't
want to hold us back from getting a better place,
(25:22):
but I also don't want to drain my entire paycheck
just to keep up. I don't know how to bring
this up without it turning into a bigger issue. How
do couples usually handle finances when there is such a
big difference in income?
Speaker 2 (25:35):
M Okay, then would you like to begin with your analysis?
Speaker 4 (25:40):
Red flag, red flags everywhere, Woo woo, red.
Speaker 2 (25:44):
Flags, red flag Chinese communists?
Speaker 4 (25:49):
Yeah, do not split split rent fifty to fifty at
this point. It should be proportionate, like pay what you
if you are comfortable with what you're paying, now, continue
to contribute that much money, and then he needs to
make up the red it's his promotion.
Speaker 3 (26:00):
He's the one.
Speaker 4 (26:01):
Doubling you know what you're making. And yeah, so okay, yeah,
he is just looking out for himself in this scenario.
He obviously is not giving a hoot about you. So
that's another red flag.
Speaker 2 (26:16):
Yes, that's right.
Speaker 4 (26:18):
Maybe not even continue the relationship if you bring this
up and he still says, no, this is what we're doing.
Speaker 3 (26:23):
Yeah, okay, that's my analysis.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
That is your analysis.
Speaker 6 (26:28):
He is being a butthole analysis butthole sounds so wrong,
it really does. Let's make an official but hole. Okay, Jack, Well,
now I will tell you none of this is good
for her.
Speaker 3 (26:48):
None of it's good for her.
Speaker 2 (26:49):
None of this is good for her. Okay, this is
potentially catastrophic, yes, okay, And I will tell you before
I get to my worst case scenario here, that I
bounced this off of two women yesterday who both reached
the conclusion. Before I told them my conclusion, I just said,
(27:09):
what do you think is happening here? And they both
said the same thing, Okay, which is also my belief.
So let's break it down. Best case scenario. Best case scenario.
He does not understand Matha and is inconsiderate of her.
Speaker 3 (27:26):
That is the thing.
Speaker 2 (27:27):
That's the best case scenario.
Speaker 3 (27:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
Now the worst case scenario, in what I think is
the most likely scenario, he does not see her as
a long term mate and is not investing in the relationship.
He's not looking at her the way she's looking at him. Okay,
this is a guy who's not looking at her as
a wife, maybe the future mother of his children.
Speaker 3 (27:50):
Yeah, he's looking at her as a roommate.
Speaker 2 (27:52):
She's temporary in his eyes. Okay, So he's not investing
because a guy who is in love he's gonna invest
in that. Yeah, he's gonna. So this isn't even an
issue for a guy who wants to keep you around.
I don't think he does. I think this is probably
where it ends, and I don't think he cares. If
she says, well we should split, he's probably going to
(28:14):
breathe a sigh of relief. And if she doesn't say it,
then he might. But this is this is very bad
for her.
Speaker 3 (28:19):
It's very bad.
Speaker 2 (28:20):
Yeah, so would you be would you be the third
woman then? Who would agree?
Speaker 3 (28:24):
Yes? Okay, Yeah, he sees her, he's looking for a roommate.
Speaker 2 (28:28):
They're not. Yeah, they're not. Again, they're not seeing each
other the same way in this relationship. She's got more
invested in it than he does. Yeah, yeah, okay eight
eight eight seven seven seven sixty six forty. You can
text this as well. We have spoken, we have offered
our analysis. This has been vetted by three women. Now
(28:49):
and the laws of evolutionary psychology your witness
Speaker 3 (29:00):
Don't you be intu
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