June 30, 2025 • 31 mins
This week on the show: Special guest Joe "TV Boy" Brocado is forced into an awkward moral dilemma, Jack and Nikki demonstrate how to use a microwave to fake illness and get into the age old conversation about friendships between men and women.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
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Speaker 2 (00:17):
All right, Joe, let's get to the part of this
I was really looking forward to. So moments ago, you
and I were in the hallway talking with our Minister
of Information, Dave Wilson, and Dave pointed out that I'm
all dressed up in my little motorcycle costume because I'm
going to go hop on my bike. Assended the show's over,
and I'm wearing my Route thirty three T shirt. And
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I said that I got that at Yoakum's store there
at Seneca Rocks. They're very good people. And then and
that's when you stepped in and started boasting about how
what you like about the place is that you can
relieve yourself there and not buy anything.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
Now time out.
Speaker 4 (00:53):
Oh my gosh, that's what.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
He said, Joe Bricado, History's greatest monster. Yeah, talk your
way out of that whole, Joe.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
I was merely bringing up the question, Now, do you
feel bad using the restroom at a place if you
don't go in and buy something, Like if you go
in and get, you know, to a gas station but
don't actually get gas or anything inside of the store,
do you feel bad. It's like if you, like, when
I'm going around the state going to various games and
I stop at a Wendy's or for to use their
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Wi Fi, I feel obligated to get like a frosty
or something, or a coffee at a Starbucks, what have you.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
That's the question.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
Do you have to if you use a service of
the business.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Yes, buy something. That is a great question, and I
think we should delve into that, But I think not
forget that. It began with you boasting about going to
yourself boasting.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
It's the only thing.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
If you've driven to Seneca Rocks, you know what we're
talking about. It's the only thing around for a half hour.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
In each direction at least. Yeah, that's right.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
So, as a.
Speaker 3 (01:53):
Person who naturally feels guilt in any situation, yes, I
always buy a Gatorade or something, even if you don't
really want the gateor rate, because you're using the service.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Of the business. I'm totally on board with what you're saying. Joe.
I'm glad, I'm waiting for a disagreement. You brought this up.
Speaker 4 (02:08):
I mean, I think it depends on the establishment.
Speaker 5 (02:12):
Because we were driving to a Pirates game, and we
stopped at the outlets, well near the outlets, but there's
a gas station Wendy's like, right off the exit, and
I went in and I used the restroom, and I
walked out. I didn't purchase anything, didn't get a gas
or anything. I didn't feel guilty at all.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
And you looked over and that's when you saw a
girl resembling Wendy standing silently in the parking lot with
a single tear streaming down her cheek. Right, yeah, because
that's how society decays right there, that that kind of behavior.
All right, Joe, thank you, buddy. We appreciate it. Thanks, guys.
All right, I think this is a good question. This
is a great yeah, jumping off point right here, let's
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pose this.
Speaker 5 (02:53):
I did the same thing going to Louisbourg. I stopped
at a sheets, used the restroom, got back on the road.
I don't know, like, is that wrong?
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Should you not have done that? Eight eight eight seven
seven seven sixty six forty and call us? You can
text us at that number or at three five sixty
five to one. This is really to me a very
interesting question. As Joe said, if you go to a business,
you use their excellent facility, do you feel the need
morally to just buy something, anything, anything, just because you
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went in and used their facility. That is the question.
Let's go now to your calls eight eight eight seven
seven seven sixty six forty to get your policy on
this very important issue. You are on the Jack and
Nikki Show. What do you have for us?
Speaker 6 (03:42):
Well, I think it's normal to buy something off the
business if you if you use their bathroom, because I
usually do that at this business, a meantown called hot
Dignity Dogs.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
Okay, Dignity Dogs.
Speaker 6 (03:59):
Yeah, yeah, it's a real business.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
I believe you. I believe you. Okay. So you're saying
use the bathroom, buy something, yes, okay.
Speaker 5 (04:10):
Does does it make a difference if it's like a business, yes, absolutely,
like you know you're going into I don't know, like
you you know, something like that, or if it's a
gas station and it's at a rest stop type of
a situation, like do you really need to buy a
pack of gum?
Speaker 6 (04:30):
It's up to you. It's it's just my opinion.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
All right, very good. That's how she lives, Nikki Dragon.
You can do whatever you want, but she's sleeping easy
at night with a clean conscience. Man, thanks for the call.
Speaker 7 (04:41):
You're welcome.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
I like this woman. I like how she handled that. Yeah,
she just danced right around it. She was like, you
do whatever you want. I'm telling you how I live.
Impossible to argue with. I mean, yes, I love that though.
It's just such, it's so disarming. It's like debate that
all okay, we'll find all right, Uh, fund's continuing to dring.
Any texts that we need to get to before I
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go to more calls? Not currently okay, Studio line is
continuing to blink. You are up next on the Jack
and Nikki Show. Thoughts.
Speaker 8 (05:13):
All right, here's the rules of the game. I run
a route from basically Clarksburg down to Huttonsville and about
threm stop the day, well month, I'm sorry, they'd be impossible,
but you know about sixty thousand miles a month a year.
I'm sorry, a little nervous.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
No, you're fine, You're fine.
Speaker 7 (05:31):
Here's my rule.
Speaker 8 (05:32):
Okay, I do not know if I get to a
gas station and said, do not have a restroom. I
do not purchase them, especial if it's a town with
the only gas station in town, but it's a locally
owned place, I feel guilty the days I actually come
home with more drinks than when I left the house.
If it's a national chain, sheets seven eleven, what have you,
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I do not feel guilty just using the restaurant.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
Okay, okay, So if it's a national chain, you don't
feel guilty because you're thinking, is this is a big place.
They're making a lot of money from a lot of
people in a lot of ways. You not grabbing a
package of gum so you can pee. Is not going
to bankrupt this place. That's your thinking, right, local.
Speaker 8 (06:15):
I'll buy something once again, whether I need it or not.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Drink Yeah, okay, well that's that's one way to look
at it, you know. I mean, yes, it's going to
cost sheets, you know, a little bit of change. Him
going in there and flushing the toilets and whatever napkin
he uses. You know, somebody had to pay for that.
But he thinks they can take.
Speaker 8 (06:35):
The person in front of it.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
All works out, okay, very good. So that's how he
offsets it.
Speaker 4 (06:42):
He goes into that hasn't been flushed.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Yeah, there it is all right. Well sir, this again,
this is why we have the conversation. Thank you so much.
Have a great easter. You pretty good workaround. Yeah, you
can not have a guilty conscience if you don't buy
something if you simply go in and you look around
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for the unflushed toilet, because you've added no expense to
these people, especially if you provide your own paper towel. Okay,
so you go in there with some hand sanitizer in
your pocket. Sure you find a toilet that no one
has flushed, that has been used, you go ahead and
use that one. It had to be flushed anyway, whether
you're in there or not, So the net loss to
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the business is zero.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
There you go.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
This is his workaround. That's brilliant work. Yeah, it is
all right. So that's his policy. We have your policy.
I will now share my policy with you, Nikki. As
you know, I am a man of many theories.
Speaker 4 (07:42):
Yes you are.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
This particular topic falls under what I call my regular
customer theory. Okay, If I am a regular customer somewhere
and I routinely give them money, once in a while,
I might use the restroom or, for example, there's an
Exxon down from my house, I might stop there and
clean my windshield on my truck or something and keep
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moving because I'm there two or three times a week
spending money with them.
Speaker 4 (08:08):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
So if I am a regular customer and they routinely
make money from me, once in a while, you know,
maybe I'll take a nickel back in my direction for
flushing the toilet, Okay, And I think that's okay, That's
how I have it figured. Again, it's my regular customer
theory makes sense.
Speaker 4 (08:25):
Yeah, it does make sense.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
All right? Then, Well, another issue solved on the Jack
and Nikki Show.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
You're welcome the Nerve Center of North Central West Virginia
Jack Loger and Nikki Drake on one oh two WVAQ.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
Right now, it's time for some reason for us to
offer tips to the immoral and the dishonest. You got fired, why, well,
it's no wonder they finally caught you doing that in here?
Speaker 6 (08:54):
Working harder, hardly working?
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Am I? I thought you were working him working here?
Speaker 4 (08:58):
Are you're gonna get me fired?
Speaker 1 (09:00):
I'm working. I regret offending my coworkers.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
It's news from the world of employment, and it's a
tip on how to get out of going to work.
Apparently this is making headlines this morning. People are using
microwave ovens to get out of work.
Speaker 4 (09:21):
I like the creativity.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
Here's how they're doing it. They are using the microwave
to get it to beep to make it sound like
they're in the hospital. So when they call in to
say I can't come into work, I'm sick, they they're
beeping the microwave in the background and pretending like they're hospitalized,
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and it sounds a whole lot like this in theory.
Speaker 4 (09:48):
In theory.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
Okay, so this is an actual heart monitor.
Speaker 4 (09:51):
Here, so official.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
Yeah, this is what it would actually sound like. And
so the the beeps, they're going to be right on time. Okay,
this is the key. So this takes some skill to
pull this off. If you're going to call in and
let's be talking on the phone and.
Speaker 4 (10:06):
Your regular heartbeat, I mean, that's why rhythm.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Well, that's why I can't come in. Lit'ten how screwed
up my heart is? Oh my god?
Speaker 4 (10:14):
Right, So it doesn't really matter. You're pushing skills.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
Well, here's the thing. Managers are actually falling for this,
and they think these people are in the hospital and
they're giving them the day off work. But obviously the
backside of this is if you haven't been hospitalized, you're
using your microwave at your house. Eventually they're going to
figure that out and you're probably gonna get fired, right Yeah.
Imagine if you didn't come in and said I can't
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come in I'm hospitalized, and they find out your your apartment.
Speaker 4 (10:42):
Yeah yeah, all right, now you know you were discharged.
Speaker 7 (10:45):
We want to.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
Well immediately test this out because we have a microwave.
Actually I don't want to brag, but we have two
microwaves here at the station. Nikki's going to go to
the one in the hallway here right outside the studio. Okay,
And what I want you to do, Nikki, is if
you can simulate a call in. Okay, let's act like
you're calling me to say you can't make it in
and you are in the hospital, and then you're going
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to use the microwave. Okay, are you ready?
Speaker 7 (11:12):
All right?
Speaker 2 (11:13):
Here we go, Nikki. Now will demonstrate how this works
in reality, in real time. Okay, Let's move over here
to her phone. Nikki, can you hear me?
Speaker 5 (11:24):
I can hear you?
Speaker 2 (11:25):
All right? Very good? So you let me know when
you're ready to begin.
Speaker 4 (11:30):
I'm ready.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
Okay, here we go.
Speaker 5 (11:32):
I just had to hizen somebody out from using the microwave.
Speaker 8 (11:35):
But we're good.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
You chased somebody away from the microwave. Yeah, okay, all right?
Are you ready? Okay, I'm gonna act like I'm answering
the phone here and you're calling in sick. Here we go.
This is a nice improv class for you guys who
are getting your theater degree. You're studying to be thespians.
This out works, Hi, Jack and Nikki show.
Speaker 6 (11:59):
Jack, I'm sick.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
What's wrong?
Speaker 7 (12:02):
I can't come in?
Speaker 2 (12:03):
How sick?
Speaker 8 (12:04):
Are you in the hospital?
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (12:05):
My god?
Speaker 2 (12:05):
You're in the hospital.
Speaker 8 (12:08):
M hm?
Speaker 2 (12:09):
How bad is it?
Speaker 6 (12:12):
It's it's pretty bad.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
Is that the heart machines? Uh? Huh? Is that a
heart monitor? I hear? Oh? Oh god, Well I shouldn't
be laughing. You sound like you're dying.
Speaker 7 (12:29):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
You need to get that looked at right away. Look,
don't worry about I'll cover the show. Get a doctor
in there, open up that chest, cavity, massage the heart
and good luck. Okay, all right, and saying well there
you go, Nikki. That's that's it. You got it?
Speaker 4 (12:47):
How did it sound faint?
Speaker 2 (12:50):
It was hard to make out. Yeah, and you were
doing okay to you pushed it twice.
Speaker 5 (12:54):
Well, I didn't realize I was you can only hit
four numbers because then it fills up the and you
have to hit reset. And then I forgot to hit
reset and I hit a number and that's why I
did a double beef. So there is some skill to
the microwave pushing. And also I don't know where the
beep is coming from. So I was right in front
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of the microwave, So maybe I have to be behind
the microwave.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
Yeah, I guess stand behind the microwave. Call in and
then we'll also take X rays of your head later.
By the way, here's another way that you can do this. Okay,
here's where. Yeah, so if you really want to put
some effort into it, you could really sell it. Nikki Drake,
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what say we head back to the mental illness factory
that is TikTok okay TikTok.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
If you haven't heard of the TikTok app, it's.
Speaker 4 (13:48):
The app popping up on phones everywhere. TikTok TikTok app.
Speaker 9 (13:52):
TikTok has five kind a million active user.
Speaker 4 (13:55):
This is a TikTok trend going viral.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
Just put that on TikTok Okay, so we have a
tick talker asking people for their opinion on male female friendships.
All right, Okay, it's kind of a complicated situation. Yeah,
and she's looking for an answer to this very nuanced
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problem from mostly unreasonable, hysterical people on TikTok. Let's jump
in hip deep and see what we can accomplish.
Speaker 9 (14:27):
A friend of mine is a little bit controlling by
her own admission. Her husband has a newish female friend
and she doesn't like this friendship. She doesn't think that
they're having an affair or anything, but she feels like
it's not totally copasetic. There's something about it that's making
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her uncomfortable. So she said to her husband, I don't
want you to see this person anymore. And the husband said,
you are not gonna pick my friends, and I am
gonna still hang out with this person. I feel like,
if one person in the relationship has an issue with
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a friendship, you gotta cut it off. I still think
that the husband needs to cut it off.
Speaker 2 (15:22):
What say you? What do you do in this situation?
I find this very intriguing. It is very intriguing, It
really is, because this is not simple. It's not black
or white, No, it's not. It's very nuanced. And I
have a few takeaways here. Okay, would you like me
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to jump in?
Speaker 8 (15:42):
Sure?
Speaker 1 (15:43):
Go for it?
Speaker 2 (15:44):
All right? Well, first of all, good for him for
not being a bita doormat and saying you're not gonna
tell me who I can talk to. However, however, however, yeah,
the question is is he taking a principled stand there
or is he actually into this other woman and wants
to keep talking to her?
Speaker 3 (16:02):
Right?
Speaker 5 (16:04):
And either way, even if it is a principled stand,
there's still a better.
Speaker 4 (16:07):
Way to go about it.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
I think, what do you mean?
Speaker 5 (16:10):
Like, there's it's because it's nuanced. It's not just a
you can't tell me who to be friends with. There's
a hey, okay, you're feeling a sort of way. Why
are you uncomfortable with this friendship? Like it's a conversation.
Speaker 4 (16:23):
It's not just a you can't tell me what to do?
Speaker 2 (16:26):
Right?
Speaker 4 (16:26):
Yeah, because that's a problem in and of itself.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
Yeah, I agree with that. Yeah, yeah, I agree with
that nuance. Yeah, Okay, So here's something else. She said
that I found interesting. If your spouse has an issue
with your friendship with somebody, you need to cut that off,
which I think is fair as long as your spouse
is a reasonable person.
Speaker 4 (16:47):
That's where the conversation comes in.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
But yes, you know what I mean. So, because we
all know people who are overly jealous and controlling and ridiculous,
well that's not reasonable, right, But if if your spouse
is generally a reasonable person, and then they're like, eh,
you know what, this is making me uncomfortable, Okay, you
can have that conversation.
Speaker 4 (17:04):
Sure.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
However, she says at the beginning of this that her
friend is controlling by her own admission, So it sounds
like maybe she is not reasonable, and maybe she's reading
too much into this, right because of her controlling nature, right, right.
Speaker 4 (17:19):
Yes, and that's right.
Speaker 5 (17:20):
They did say that that she's controlling by her own.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
By her own admission.
Speaker 4 (17:25):
Yeah, that's interesting.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
And usually for somebody to get to the point where
they will admit to being controlling, they're really controlling, right,
because most controlling people don't even know that they're controlling, right, Yeah,
So yeah, okay, yeah.
Speaker 4 (17:37):
That's very interesting.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
There's much to discuss. And then the whole thing with
men and women being friends. I mean that again, that's
it's it's complicated, it's nuanced. There are a lot of factors. Yeah,
and thank god this is a four hour show because
we're going to get into them. I see, we've got
some reactions coming in already, lots of great reactions. Let's
go to the studio line right now, which seems to
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be having a little bit of trouble. I'm not sure
where this is on on our end, on their end,
but let's find out pick an end and go with it.
You were on the Jack and Nikki show.
Speaker 7 (18:08):
What you got him? I'm really glad that you guys brought.
Speaker 2 (18:17):
Your phone dropped out. Can you start over? Go ahead?
Speaker 7 (18:20):
Yeah, I just wanted to like, first of all, thank
you for bringing up this, like really sensy topic, because
I feel like this is probably a problem for a
lot of people, Like this came up in my marriage
as well.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
Okay, how did you handle it?
Speaker 7 (18:32):
So you know, before I met my husband, like, I
wasn't aware that men and women were friends, Like I
always just assumed if a man wanted to be friendly
with someone, it was with you know, intention and I
respectful humans. Oh, you know, you can value a woman
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for a person and not want anything else. So I really,
you know, I had to be uncomfortable. I had to
sit with it and talk it out with him. And
what really helped us was like I met his friend,
you know, like he would involve me. He would if
they went on to do something, I would go with
and I got way more comfortable. Yeah, and I think
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that that was just an awesome thing to do together.
It's like helped.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
Did we lose what is happening with her? What is
going on? I wanted to know? So I'm assuming then
that her her husband's friend was a woman. Yeah, obviously,
I mean, otherwise, why would she call with the story
would make no sense. But also I think just give
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up on this call here. Well, I think that it's
a good sign if your spouse has a friend of
the opposite sex and they actively include you in that friendship. Yeah,
that's an indicator that they're really not trying to hide
anything from you. Right yeah, right, so if right, and
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I think that was are good for her when she
said that, Hey, you know, we would all hang around
with each other and we'd do things. That's way better
than Hey, aren't you hanging around some woman from work.
You know what, let's not talk about that, right. Did
you have a date night with one of your coworkers.
What's with all the questions?
Speaker 5 (20:16):
Yeah, he was just like, well, hey, hey, there's nothing
wrong here, let's talk it out. They talked it out,
and then you know, that's good.
Speaker 2 (20:22):
Yeah, that's a good indicator for her.
Speaker 4 (20:24):
It's so nice.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
Yeah. Now with that set.
Speaker 4 (20:26):
Uh, with that set, with that said fancy butt.
Speaker 2 (20:30):
Well it is I've been known for my fancy butt. Yeah,
it is true that most men, if you're going to
play the numbers, most men do have intentions.
Speaker 4 (20:40):
Okay, if you play the numbers, if you.
Speaker 2 (20:41):
Play the numbers, yeah, sure, yeah, most guys do.
Speaker 4 (20:44):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
And this is all situational too. If a guy's buddying
up to you, you got to look at your situations.
Are you married, are you single? Is he married? Is
he single? Are you guys about in the same league
or are you You know that all factors into it, right,
So yeah, I mean this is good for her, but
generally speaking, you should be suspicious. Let's go to the
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mini texts, which, by the way, are a lot of
these are really good. Yes, you guys are pretty thoughtful
on this some pretty interesting takes. Go ahead, and Mae,
I appreciate the thought too.
Speaker 5 (21:15):
Yeah, okay, maybe this isn't the first time this has happened,
and she has ended other friendships of her husbands. Maybe
he finally has to put his foot down.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
That could very well be.
Speaker 4 (21:26):
That could be.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
Yep, those are There's some clues right there that could
lead you to that conclusion. Yes, again, starting with controlling
by her own admission and his reaction, which was, you're
not going to pick my friends. Yes, that does sound
like somebody who's been pushed.
Speaker 4 (21:41):
Yes, yeah it does.
Speaker 2 (21:42):
Okay, so maybe that's excellent analysis.
Speaker 4 (21:45):
Texter, Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 5 (21:46):
The husband should know his wife enough to know how
she would typically respond or feel about having a friendship
with another female. She may be controlling, but he chose
to marry her and chooses to remain married to her.
The marriage has to be the priority, and if it's
not the priority, then there is a larger problem.
Speaker 2 (22:03):
I totally agree with that. Marriag should always be your
priority over your friendships. Yes, you're very family. Your spouse
should be the number one person in your life. Yes,
I totally agree with that. However, ah fancy, but The
only caveat I would toss in there is when they're
saying you knew she was controlling when you married her.
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Maybe not. Sometimes people hide the crazy until they're married,
and so maybe he fell for the lobby and then
got to the room and found out it was a dump.
Speaker 5 (22:35):
Or it was an evolved trait that just kind of
happened over time because you know who knows.
Speaker 4 (22:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (22:41):
Yeah, so that would be my only issue that I
would take with that. It's a minor issue generally speaking,
to think I think they're right on.
Speaker 1 (22:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (22:47):
Yeah, this is a short and sweet one. If it
makes her tummy hurt, it makes her tummy hurt. Yeah,
I mean, like if she's uncomfortable with the friendship, Like
she's uncomfortable with the friendship, she's got that little hummy twinge, yes, intuition,
tummy hurt.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
Yeah, Sometimes you instinctively have that feeling and maybe you
can't articulate it and you can't point to anything specific,
but you're like, hey, my trick knee tells me spey
senses more than a friend. Yeah, wants to be anyway.
Speaker 5 (23:16):
Okay, Okay, let's see I've got another long one here.
Where is it the issue isn't necessarily about you being
uncomfortable or jealous about your husband being friends with another female.
The issue is that you don't trust your husband. You're
allowed to have a twinge of jealousy as long as
you recognize whether that jealousy is needed or not. If
you have no reason not to trust your husband, and
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just deal with being uncomfortable.
Speaker 2 (23:41):
That's fantastic. Yeah, that is well said.
Speaker 4 (23:44):
That's very well said.
Speaker 2 (23:45):
That's well said. You know. That's the thing. Anytime I'm
feeling something whatever, it might be the worst thing in Yeah,
that's right. When there's just that uneasiness that you have, right,
the anxiety that you get, I always ask myself the question,
do I have a legitimate reason to feel this way?
Can I point to a reason for why I feel
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this way? And if I can't, then I know, all right,
this is at another level. This is something internal and
I need to get ahold of this.
Speaker 7 (24:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (24:15):
Yeah, yeah, get a hold of yourself.
Speaker 2 (24:17):
Yeah, she's jack. Yeah, over here with my fancy butt.
Speaker 4 (24:22):
I've got one last text here for you. Are you ready?
This one's good. I think they need to nip it
in the bud real quick.
Speaker 5 (24:29):
My wife's friend bought her car, paying her bills and stuff,
and I was just like, whatever.
Speaker 4 (24:35):
He's married too. Next thing, I know, I get divorce papers.
Speaker 2 (24:38):
Yeah, that's uh. I don't want to victim blame here,
but you I think you should have seen that coming
when he's paying her bills and what a car buyer
or a car man. That's that's too far. That's too far.
You know what he did?
Speaker 4 (24:51):
Huh?
Speaker 2 (24:51):
He usurped. He's a usurper. That's a big red flag.
So let me just put this in a nutshell, just
using my own marriage as an example. Okay, my job
is to take care of Jessica, to protect her and
to solve her problems. This is my job. Bathroom door squeaky,
I put on new hinges, all right, issue with the car,
(25:13):
I fix it. Whatever, whatever is going on her, that's
my job. Now, if another man starts doing these things
for her, there's a problem because I'm being used and emasculated.
And that guy would know that he is doing that
to me, and that he is slowly moving her away
from me and toward him. He would know that. And
(25:38):
so this is all by design. So if you're a
guy and you see some other guy showing up in
your wife or your long term relationship, in their life,
and they're starting to kind of take over those things
that you normally deal with. You're being usurped, and it
won't be too long until that usurping puts you at
the curb. So this would be my warning to you.
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Wow yea, well, listen, Nikki, you've got you've got to
spot usurping and nip it in the bud. There's that
gavel we have spoken.
Speaker 1 (26:12):
The Jack and Nikki Show on wv AQ.
Speaker 2 (26:16):
Jack and Nikki with talk of a different kind of love.
Oh baby, now that's that's not the kind of love Nikki.
Speaker 4 (26:27):
That is No, it's not.
Speaker 2 (26:28):
It's not. Sadly, it's not. That is not the kind
of love we're talking about here. We're talking about the
kind of love where you get jerked around there it is. Well,
it's happened again, you guys. This was actually a few
days ago and we were going to get into it then,
but we had anything else to do. But today is
(26:49):
the day I think to do it. Oh boy, yeah,
because today is kind of a day of disillusionment.
Speaker 4 (26:54):
So it was a day of disillusionment.
Speaker 2 (26:56):
Let's talk about a woman who quickly became disillusioned on
her wedding day. After this happened, The groom in this
story went viral because he slammed his new bride's head
into their wedding cake as a prank.
Speaker 7 (27:09):
No.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
Yes. A video that has done gone viral shows the
bride quote looking visibly shocked and covered in purple frosting
as her new husband laughs hysterically.
Speaker 4 (27:21):
Oh no, purple frosting, not even like white frosting.
Speaker 2 (27:24):
Yes, Her husband, the artist warmally known as Prince, pushed
her head into the cake. He then gets her to
give him a reluctant high five. What yeah, I'm sorry,
I didn't get the name right. His name is Borat?
(27:45):
What yeah, I don't. I don't understand the thinking here,
and apparently neither is anybody else, because the reaction on
social media ranges from I'd be getting that marriage an
old too, and they were happily married for two hours? Yes,
with one person posing the question that I think you
and I posed immediately when we heard this, And here's
that question. What kind of man humiliates his wife on
(28:07):
their wedding day and then forces her to hie five
him afterwards? The worst, the worst, It's really weird.
Speaker 4 (28:14):
I mean, it's just how is this still happening? How
is this still a thing? Also purple, it's purple.
Speaker 5 (28:21):
It's gonna stain, it's gonna you can't just then the
hours and money that goes into the hair, that makeup
the dress, the whole, why it's layered for me, I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (28:32):
Okay, sure, yeah, I mean I take your point that
it would cause more problems than you know, just the
standard white wedding cake. Sure, yeah, but still yeah, yeah,
I think the principle stands regardless of the cake.
Speaker 4 (28:43):
Yes, regardless of the color of the frosted.
Speaker 2 (28:45):
Yes, having your face pushed into it. You don't do that,
my good.
Speaker 5 (28:49):
No matter which like the bride doesn't do it to
the groom, like it doesn't, it doesn't matter, Like, just
don't do it.
Speaker 4 (28:54):
It's not a great way to start off your marriage.
Speaker 2 (28:58):
No, it's really this is the thing that I was
coming back to in these situations. Okay, So let's let's
look at this. So she is described as looking visibly
shocked and covered in frosty.
Speaker 7 (29:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:13):
Right. If she was visibly shocked, then that tells you
she wasn't really anticipating this kind of behavior. He should
have known that maybe on her special day, that's not
the best time to push her head into.
Speaker 5 (29:33):
A case like maybe have if you, if you are
really into this cake thing, I don't know, to have
one waiting when you get out of the wedding in
your home and then you can shove her face into
the cake.
Speaker 4 (29:47):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (29:48):
Now you're kind of fetish sizes.
Speaker 8 (29:50):
I guess.
Speaker 2 (29:50):
Yeah, you're making it sound weird.
Speaker 4 (29:51):
I mean, but isn't it.
Speaker 2 (29:54):
Yeah, I don't know. Yeah, I don't.
Speaker 4 (29:57):
I don't want to shame anyone. I'm just it is
good offering another options.
Speaker 2 (30:02):
Shaming is good. I'm going to stand up for shaming. Yeah,
that's how. That's how you change behavior with shame.
Speaker 8 (30:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (30:07):
You shame people out of bad behavior by making them
ashamed of that behavior. Yeah, Shame's good. It's a good tool,
all right. Just uh, just one of the many tools
in the chest that we use here at the Jackie
Dickey Show shaming people. Eight eight A seven seven seven
sixty six forty. You can call us Texas at that number.
You can text us of course three five six, five
to one. Uh, I mean, are you with us on this?
Do you think it's pretty ridiculous and you know it.
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I mean again, it depends on the couple and if
they're both into it for some weird reason, if that's
their thing, you know, if.
Speaker 5 (30:38):
It was like a going to be able to smash
their face into the gig first.
Speaker 4 (30:43):
Also, was it the main cake that they were going
to cut up and serve to people.
Speaker 2 (30:46):
That's a very good question.
Speaker 4 (30:48):
Because waste of money there as well.
Speaker 2 (30:50):
Yes it is, Yeah, so many things. Hey, my cake
has a fake eyelash in it. Yeah, the bride's face
was pushed into it about five minutes ago.
Speaker 1 (31:02):
Well look to.
Speaker 2 (31:04):
Don't you guilty? And you
Speaker 8 (31:10):
M hm
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Speaker 2 (00:17):
All right, Joe, let's get to the part of this
I was really looking forward to. So moments ago, you
and I were in the hallway talking with our Minister
of Information, Dave Wilson, and Dave pointed out that I'm
all dressed up in my little motorcycle costume because I'm
going to go hop on my bike. Assended the show's over,
and I'm wearing my Route thirty three T shirt. And
(00:38):
I said that I got that at Yoakum's store there
at Seneca Rocks. They're very good people. And then and
that's when you stepped in and started boasting about how
what you like about the place is that you can
relieve yourself there and not buy anything.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
Now time out.
Speaker 4 (00:53):
Oh my gosh, that's what.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
He said, Joe Bricado, History's greatest monster. Yeah, talk your
way out of that whole, Joe.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
I was merely bringing up the question, Now, do you
feel bad using the restroom at a place if you
don't go in and buy something, Like if you go
in and get, you know, to a gas station but
don't actually get gas or anything inside of the store,
do you feel bad. It's like if you, like, when
I'm going around the state going to various games and
I stop at a Wendy's or for to use their
(01:20):
Wi Fi, I feel obligated to get like a frosty
or something, or a coffee at a Starbucks, what have you.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
That's the question.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
Do you have to if you use a service of
the business.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Yes, buy something. That is a great question, and I
think we should delve into that, But I think not
forget that. It began with you boasting about going to
yourself boasting.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
It's the only thing.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
If you've driven to Seneca Rocks, you know what we're
talking about. It's the only thing around for a half hour.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
In each direction at least. Yeah, that's right.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
So, as a.
Speaker 3 (01:53):
Person who naturally feels guilt in any situation, yes, I
always buy a Gatorade or something, even if you don't
really want the gateor rate, because you're using the service.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Of the business. I'm totally on board with what you're saying. Joe.
I'm glad, I'm waiting for a disagreement. You brought this up.
Speaker 4 (02:08):
I mean, I think it depends on the establishment.
Speaker 5 (02:12):
Because we were driving to a Pirates game, and we
stopped at the outlets, well near the outlets, but there's
a gas station Wendy's like, right off the exit, and
I went in and I used the restroom, and I
walked out. I didn't purchase anything, didn't get a gas
or anything. I didn't feel guilty at all.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
And you looked over and that's when you saw a
girl resembling Wendy standing silently in the parking lot with
a single tear streaming down her cheek. Right, yeah, because
that's how society decays right there, that that kind of behavior.
All right, Joe, thank you, buddy. We appreciate it. Thanks, guys.
All right, I think this is a good question. This
is a great yeah, jumping off point right here, let's
(02:52):
pose this.
Speaker 5 (02:53):
I did the same thing going to Louisbourg. I stopped
at a sheets, used the restroom, got back on the road.
I don't know, like, is that wrong?
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Should you not have done that? Eight eight eight seven
seven seven sixty six forty and call us? You can
text us at that number or at three five sixty
five to one. This is really to me a very
interesting question. As Joe said, if you go to a business,
you use their excellent facility, do you feel the need
morally to just buy something, anything, anything, just because you
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went in and used their facility. That is the question.
Let's go now to your calls eight eight eight seven
seven seven sixty six forty to get your policy on
this very important issue. You are on the Jack and
Nikki Show. What do you have for us?
Speaker 6 (03:42):
Well, I think it's normal to buy something off the
business if you if you use their bathroom, because I
usually do that at this business, a meantown called hot
Dignity Dogs.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
Okay, Dignity Dogs.
Speaker 6 (03:59):
Yeah, yeah, it's a real business.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
I believe you. I believe you. Okay. So you're saying
use the bathroom, buy something, yes, okay.
Speaker 5 (04:10):
Does does it make a difference if it's like a business, yes, absolutely,
like you know you're going into I don't know, like
you you know, something like that, or if it's a
gas station and it's at a rest stop type of
a situation, like do you really need to buy a
pack of gum?
Speaker 6 (04:30):
It's up to you. It's it's just my opinion.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
All right, very good. That's how she lives, Nikki Dragon.
You can do whatever you want, but she's sleeping easy
at night with a clean conscience. Man, thanks for the call.
Speaker 7 (04:41):
You're welcome.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
I like this woman. I like how she handled that. Yeah,
she just danced right around it. She was like, you
do whatever you want. I'm telling you how I live.
Impossible to argue with. I mean, yes, I love that though.
It's just such, it's so disarming. It's like debate that
all okay, we'll find all right, Uh, fund's continuing to dring.
Any texts that we need to get to before I
(05:04):
go to more calls? Not currently okay, Studio line is
continuing to blink. You are up next on the Jack
and Nikki Show. Thoughts.
Speaker 8 (05:13):
All right, here's the rules of the game. I run
a route from basically Clarksburg down to Huttonsville and about
threm stop the day, well month, I'm sorry, they'd be impossible,
but you know about sixty thousand miles a month a year.
I'm sorry, a little nervous.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
No, you're fine, You're fine.
Speaker 7 (05:31):
Here's my rule.
Speaker 8 (05:32):
Okay, I do not know if I get to a
gas station and said, do not have a restroom. I
do not purchase them, especial if it's a town with
the only gas station in town, but it's a locally
owned place, I feel guilty the days I actually come
home with more drinks than when I left the house.
If it's a national chain, sheets seven eleven, what have you,
(05:52):
I do not feel guilty just using the restaurant.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
Okay, okay, So if it's a national chain, you don't
feel guilty because you're thinking, is this is a big place.
They're making a lot of money from a lot of
people in a lot of ways. You not grabbing a
package of gum so you can pee. Is not going
to bankrupt this place. That's your thinking, right, local.
Speaker 8 (06:15):
I'll buy something once again, whether I need it or not.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Drink Yeah, okay, well that's that's one way to look
at it, you know. I mean, yes, it's going to
cost sheets, you know, a little bit of change. Him
going in there and flushing the toilets and whatever napkin
he uses. You know, somebody had to pay for that.
But he thinks they can take.
Speaker 8 (06:35):
The person in front of it.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
All works out, okay, very good. So that's how he
offsets it.
Speaker 4 (06:42):
He goes into that hasn't been flushed.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Yeah, there it is all right. Well sir, this again,
this is why we have the conversation. Thank you so much.
Have a great easter. You pretty good workaround. Yeah, you
can not have a guilty conscience if you don't buy
something if you simply go in and you look around
(07:05):
for the unflushed toilet, because you've added no expense to
these people, especially if you provide your own paper towel. Okay,
so you go in there with some hand sanitizer in
your pocket. Sure you find a toilet that no one
has flushed, that has been used, you go ahead and
use that one. It had to be flushed anyway, whether
you're in there or not, So the net loss to
(07:28):
the business is zero.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
There you go.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
This is his workaround. That's brilliant work. Yeah, it is
all right. So that's his policy. We have your policy.
I will now share my policy with you, Nikki. As
you know, I am a man of many theories.
Speaker 4 (07:42):
Yes you are.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
This particular topic falls under what I call my regular
customer theory. Okay, If I am a regular customer somewhere
and I routinely give them money, once in a while,
I might use the restroom or, for example, there's an
Exxon down from my house, I might stop there and
clean my windshield on my truck or something and keep
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moving because I'm there two or three times a week
spending money with them.
Speaker 4 (08:08):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
So if I am a regular customer and they routinely
make money from me, once in a while, you know,
maybe I'll take a nickel back in my direction for
flushing the toilet, Okay, And I think that's okay, That's
how I have it figured. Again, it's my regular customer
theory makes sense.
Speaker 4 (08:25):
Yeah, it does make sense.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
All right? Then, Well, another issue solved on the Jack
and Nikki Show.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
You're welcome the Nerve Center of North Central West Virginia
Jack Loger and Nikki Drake on one oh two WVAQ.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
Right now, it's time for some reason for us to
offer tips to the immoral and the dishonest. You got fired, why, well,
it's no wonder they finally caught you doing that in here?
Speaker 6 (08:54):
Working harder, hardly working?
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Am I? I thought you were working him working here?
Speaker 4 (08:58):
Are you're gonna get me fired?
Speaker 1 (09:00):
I'm working. I regret offending my coworkers.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
It's news from the world of employment, and it's a
tip on how to get out of going to work.
Apparently this is making headlines this morning. People are using
microwave ovens to get out of work.
Speaker 4 (09:21):
I like the creativity.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
Here's how they're doing it. They are using the microwave
to get it to beep to make it sound like
they're in the hospital. So when they call in to
say I can't come into work, I'm sick, they they're
beeping the microwave in the background and pretending like they're hospitalized,
(09:43):
and it sounds a whole lot like this in theory.
Speaker 4 (09:48):
In theory.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
Okay, so this is an actual heart monitor.
Speaker 4 (09:51):
Here, so official.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
Yeah, this is what it would actually sound like. And
so the the beeps, they're going to be right on time. Okay,
this is the key. So this takes some skill to
pull this off. If you're going to call in and
let's be talking on the phone and.
Speaker 4 (10:06):
Your regular heartbeat, I mean, that's why rhythm.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Well, that's why I can't come in. Lit'ten how screwed
up my heart is? Oh my god?
Speaker 4 (10:14):
Right, So it doesn't really matter. You're pushing skills.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
Well, here's the thing. Managers are actually falling for this,
and they think these people are in the hospital and
they're giving them the day off work. But obviously the
backside of this is if you haven't been hospitalized, you're
using your microwave at your house. Eventually they're going to
figure that out and you're probably gonna get fired, right Yeah.
Imagine if you didn't come in and said I can't
(10:40):
come in I'm hospitalized, and they find out your your apartment.
Speaker 4 (10:42):
Yeah yeah, all right, now you know you were discharged.
Speaker 7 (10:45):
We want to.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
Well immediately test this out because we have a microwave.
Actually I don't want to brag, but we have two
microwaves here at the station. Nikki's going to go to
the one in the hallway here right outside the studio. Okay,
And what I want you to do, Nikki, is if
you can simulate a call in. Okay, let's act like
you're calling me to say you can't make it in
and you are in the hospital, and then you're going
(11:10):
to use the microwave. Okay, are you ready?
Speaker 7 (11:12):
All right?
Speaker 2 (11:13):
Here we go, Nikki. Now will demonstrate how this works
in reality, in real time. Okay, Let's move over here
to her phone. Nikki, can you hear me?
Speaker 5 (11:24):
I can hear you?
Speaker 2 (11:25):
All right? Very good? So you let me know when
you're ready to begin.
Speaker 4 (11:30):
I'm ready.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
Okay, here we go.
Speaker 5 (11:32):
I just had to hizen somebody out from using the microwave.
Speaker 8 (11:35):
But we're good.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
You chased somebody away from the microwave. Yeah, okay, all right?
Are you ready? Okay, I'm gonna act like I'm answering
the phone here and you're calling in sick. Here we go.
This is a nice improv class for you guys who
are getting your theater degree. You're studying to be thespians.
This out works, Hi, Jack and Nikki show.
Speaker 6 (11:59):
Jack, I'm sick.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
What's wrong?
Speaker 7 (12:02):
I can't come in?
Speaker 2 (12:03):
How sick?
Speaker 8 (12:04):
Are you in the hospital?
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (12:05):
My god?
Speaker 2 (12:05):
You're in the hospital.
Speaker 8 (12:08):
M hm?
Speaker 2 (12:09):
How bad is it?
Speaker 6 (12:12):
It's it's pretty bad.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
Is that the heart machines? Uh? Huh? Is that a
heart monitor? I hear? Oh? Oh god, Well I shouldn't
be laughing. You sound like you're dying.
Speaker 7 (12:29):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
You need to get that looked at right away. Look,
don't worry about I'll cover the show. Get a doctor
in there, open up that chest, cavity, massage the heart
and good luck. Okay, all right, and saying well there
you go, Nikki. That's that's it. You got it?
Speaker 4 (12:47):
How did it sound faint?
Speaker 2 (12:50):
It was hard to make out. Yeah, and you were
doing okay to you pushed it twice.
Speaker 5 (12:54):
Well, I didn't realize I was you can only hit
four numbers because then it fills up the and you
have to hit reset. And then I forgot to hit
reset and I hit a number and that's why I
did a double beef. So there is some skill to
the microwave pushing. And also I don't know where the
beep is coming from. So I was right in front
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of the microwave, So maybe I have to be behind
the microwave.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
Yeah, I guess stand behind the microwave. Call in and
then we'll also take X rays of your head later.
By the way, here's another way that you can do this. Okay,
here's where. Yeah, so if you really want to put
some effort into it, you could really sell it. Nikki Drake,
(13:40):
what say we head back to the mental illness factory
that is TikTok okay TikTok.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
If you haven't heard of the TikTok app, it's.
Speaker 4 (13:48):
The app popping up on phones everywhere. TikTok TikTok app.
Speaker 9 (13:52):
TikTok has five kind a million active user.
Speaker 4 (13:55):
This is a TikTok trend going viral.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
Just put that on TikTok Okay, so we have a
tick talker asking people for their opinion on male female friendships.
All right, Okay, it's kind of a complicated situation. Yeah,
and she's looking for an answer to this very nuanced
(14:19):
problem from mostly unreasonable, hysterical people on TikTok. Let's jump
in hip deep and see what we can accomplish.
Speaker 9 (14:27):
A friend of mine is a little bit controlling by
her own admission. Her husband has a newish female friend
and she doesn't like this friendship. She doesn't think that
they're having an affair or anything, but she feels like
it's not totally copasetic. There's something about it that's making
(14:51):
her uncomfortable. So she said to her husband, I don't
want you to see this person anymore. And the husband said,
you are not gonna pick my friends, and I am
gonna still hang out with this person. I feel like,
if one person in the relationship has an issue with
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a friendship, you gotta cut it off. I still think
that the husband needs to cut it off.
Speaker 2 (15:22):
What say you? What do you do in this situation?
I find this very intriguing. It is very intriguing, It
really is, because this is not simple. It's not black
or white, No, it's not. It's very nuanced. And I
have a few takeaways here. Okay, would you like me
(15:42):
to jump in?
Speaker 8 (15:42):
Sure?
Speaker 1 (15:43):
Go for it?
Speaker 2 (15:44):
All right? Well, first of all, good for him for
not being a bita doormat and saying you're not gonna
tell me who I can talk to. However, however, however, yeah,
the question is is he taking a principled stand there
or is he actually into this other woman and wants
to keep talking to her?
Speaker 3 (16:02):
Right?
Speaker 5 (16:04):
And either way, even if it is a principled stand,
there's still a better.
Speaker 4 (16:07):
Way to go about it.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
I think, what do you mean?
Speaker 5 (16:10):
Like, there's it's because it's nuanced. It's not just a
you can't tell me who to be friends with. There's
a hey, okay, you're feeling a sort of way. Why
are you uncomfortable with this friendship? Like it's a conversation.
Speaker 4 (16:23):
It's not just a you can't tell me what to do?
Speaker 2 (16:26):
Right?
Speaker 4 (16:26):
Yeah, because that's a problem in and of itself.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
Yeah, I agree with that. Yeah, yeah, I agree with
that nuance. Yeah, Okay, So here's something else. She said
that I found interesting. If your spouse has an issue
with your friendship with somebody, you need to cut that off,
which I think is fair as long as your spouse
is a reasonable person.
Speaker 4 (16:47):
That's where the conversation comes in.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
But yes, you know what I mean. So, because we
all know people who are overly jealous and controlling and ridiculous,
well that's not reasonable, right, But if if your spouse
is generally a reasonable person, and then they're like, eh,
you know what, this is making me uncomfortable, Okay, you
can have that conversation.
Speaker 4 (17:04):
Sure.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
However, she says at the beginning of this that her
friend is controlling by her own admission, So it sounds
like maybe she is not reasonable, and maybe she's reading
too much into this, right because of her controlling nature, right, right.
Speaker 4 (17:19):
Yes, and that's right.
Speaker 5 (17:20):
They did say that that she's controlling by her own.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
By her own admission.
Speaker 4 (17:25):
Yeah, that's interesting.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
And usually for somebody to get to the point where
they will admit to being controlling, they're really controlling, right,
because most controlling people don't even know that they're controlling, right, Yeah,
So yeah, okay, yeah.
Speaker 4 (17:37):
That's very interesting.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
There's much to discuss. And then the whole thing with
men and women being friends. I mean that again, that's
it's it's complicated, it's nuanced. There are a lot of factors. Yeah,
and thank god this is a four hour show because
we're going to get into them. I see, we've got
some reactions coming in already, lots of great reactions. Let's
go to the studio line right now, which seems to
(18:00):
be having a little bit of trouble. I'm not sure
where this is on on our end, on their end,
but let's find out pick an end and go with it.
You were on the Jack and Nikki show.
Speaker 7 (18:08):
What you got him? I'm really glad that you guys brought.
Speaker 2 (18:17):
Your phone dropped out. Can you start over? Go ahead?
Speaker 7 (18:20):
Yeah, I just wanted to like, first of all, thank
you for bringing up this, like really sensy topic, because
I feel like this is probably a problem for a
lot of people, Like this came up in my marriage
as well.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
Okay, how did you handle it?
Speaker 7 (18:32):
So you know, before I met my husband, like, I
wasn't aware that men and women were friends, Like I
always just assumed if a man wanted to be friendly
with someone, it was with you know, intention and I
respectful humans. Oh, you know, you can value a woman
(18:53):
for a person and not want anything else. So I really,
you know, I had to be uncomfortable. I had to
sit with it and talk it out with him. And
what really helped us was like I met his friend,
you know, like he would involve me. He would if
they went on to do something, I would go with
and I got way more comfortable. Yeah, and I think
(19:13):
that that was just an awesome thing to do together.
It's like helped.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
Did we lose what is happening with her? What is
going on? I wanted to know? So I'm assuming then
that her her husband's friend was a woman. Yeah, obviously,
I mean, otherwise, why would she call with the story
would make no sense. But also I think just give
(19:39):
up on this call here. Well, I think that it's
a good sign if your spouse has a friend of
the opposite sex and they actively include you in that friendship. Yeah,
that's an indicator that they're really not trying to hide
anything from you. Right yeah, right, so if right, and
(19:59):
I think that was are good for her when she
said that, Hey, you know, we would all hang around
with each other and we'd do things. That's way better
than Hey, aren't you hanging around some woman from work.
You know what, let's not talk about that, right. Did
you have a date night with one of your coworkers.
What's with all the questions?
Speaker 5 (20:16):
Yeah, he was just like, well, hey, hey, there's nothing
wrong here, let's talk it out. They talked it out,
and then you know, that's good.
Speaker 2 (20:22):
Yeah, that's a good indicator for her.
Speaker 4 (20:24):
It's so nice.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
Yeah. Now with that set.
Speaker 4 (20:26):
Uh, with that set, with that said fancy butt.
Speaker 2 (20:30):
Well it is I've been known for my fancy butt. Yeah,
it is true that most men, if you're going to
play the numbers, most men do have intentions.
Speaker 4 (20:40):
Okay, if you play the numbers, if you.
Speaker 2 (20:41):
Play the numbers, yeah, sure, yeah, most guys do.
Speaker 4 (20:44):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
And this is all situational too. If a guy's buddying
up to you, you got to look at your situations.
Are you married, are you single? Is he married? Is
he single? Are you guys about in the same league
or are you You know that all factors into it, right,
So yeah, I mean this is good for her, but
generally speaking, you should be suspicious. Let's go to the
(21:07):
mini texts, which, by the way, are a lot of
these are really good. Yes, you guys are pretty thoughtful
on this some pretty interesting takes. Go ahead, and Mae,
I appreciate the thought too.
Speaker 5 (21:15):
Yeah, okay, maybe this isn't the first time this has happened,
and she has ended other friendships of her husbands. Maybe
he finally has to put his foot down.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
That could very well be.
Speaker 4 (21:26):
That could be.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
Yep, those are There's some clues right there that could
lead you to that conclusion. Yes, again, starting with controlling
by her own admission and his reaction, which was, you're
not going to pick my friends. Yes, that does sound
like somebody who's been pushed.
Speaker 4 (21:41):
Yes, yeah it does.
Speaker 2 (21:42):
Okay, so maybe that's excellent analysis.
Speaker 4 (21:45):
Texter, Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 5 (21:46):
The husband should know his wife enough to know how
she would typically respond or feel about having a friendship
with another female. She may be controlling, but he chose
to marry her and chooses to remain married to her.
The marriage has to be the priority, and if it's
not the priority, then there is a larger problem.
Speaker 2 (22:03):
I totally agree with that. Marriag should always be your
priority over your friendships. Yes, you're very family. Your spouse
should be the number one person in your life. Yes,
I totally agree with that. However, ah fancy, but The
only caveat I would toss in there is when they're
saying you knew she was controlling when you married her.
(22:26):
Maybe not. Sometimes people hide the crazy until they're married,
and so maybe he fell for the lobby and then
got to the room and found out it was a dump.
Speaker 5 (22:35):
Or it was an evolved trait that just kind of
happened over time because you know who knows.
Speaker 4 (22:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (22:41):
Yeah, so that would be my only issue that I
would take with that. It's a minor issue generally speaking,
to think I think they're right on.
Speaker 1 (22:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (22:47):
Yeah, this is a short and sweet one. If it
makes her tummy hurt, it makes her tummy hurt. Yeah,
I mean, like if she's uncomfortable with the friendship, Like
she's uncomfortable with the friendship, she's got that little hummy twinge, yes, intuition,
tummy hurt.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
Yeah, Sometimes you instinctively have that feeling and maybe you
can't articulate it and you can't point to anything specific,
but you're like, hey, my trick knee tells me spey
senses more than a friend. Yeah, wants to be anyway.
Speaker 5 (23:16):
Okay, Okay, let's see I've got another long one here.
Where is it the issue isn't necessarily about you being
uncomfortable or jealous about your husband being friends with another female.
The issue is that you don't trust your husband. You're
allowed to have a twinge of jealousy as long as
you recognize whether that jealousy is needed or not. If
you have no reason not to trust your husband, and
(23:39):
just deal with being uncomfortable.
Speaker 2 (23:41):
That's fantastic. Yeah, that is well said.
Speaker 4 (23:44):
That's very well said.
Speaker 2 (23:45):
That's well said. You know. That's the thing. Anytime I'm
feeling something whatever, it might be the worst thing in Yeah,
that's right. When there's just that uneasiness that you have, right,
the anxiety that you get, I always ask myself the question,
do I have a legitimate reason to feel this way?
Can I point to a reason for why I feel
(24:07):
this way? And if I can't, then I know, all right,
this is at another level. This is something internal and
I need to get ahold of this.
Speaker 7 (24:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (24:15):
Yeah, yeah, get a hold of yourself.
Speaker 2 (24:17):
Yeah, she's jack. Yeah, over here with my fancy butt.
Speaker 4 (24:22):
I've got one last text here for you. Are you ready?
This one's good. I think they need to nip it
in the bud real quick.
Speaker 5 (24:29):
My wife's friend bought her car, paying her bills and stuff,
and I was just like, whatever.
Speaker 4 (24:35):
He's married too. Next thing, I know, I get divorce papers.
Speaker 2 (24:38):
Yeah, that's uh. I don't want to victim blame here,
but you I think you should have seen that coming
when he's paying her bills and what a car buyer
or a car man. That's that's too far. That's too far.
You know what he did?
Speaker 4 (24:51):
Huh?
Speaker 2 (24:51):
He usurped. He's a usurper. That's a big red flag.
So let me just put this in a nutshell, just
using my own marriage as an example. Okay, my job
is to take care of Jessica, to protect her and
to solve her problems. This is my job. Bathroom door squeaky,
I put on new hinges, all right, issue with the car,
(25:13):
I fix it. Whatever, whatever is going on her, that's
my job. Now, if another man starts doing these things
for her, there's a problem because I'm being used and emasculated.
And that guy would know that he is doing that
to me, and that he is slowly moving her away
from me and toward him. He would know that. And
(25:38):
so this is all by design. So if you're a
guy and you see some other guy showing up in
your wife or your long term relationship, in their life,
and they're starting to kind of take over those things
that you normally deal with. You're being usurped, and it
won't be too long until that usurping puts you at
the curb. So this would be my warning to you.
(26:01):
Wow yea, well, listen, Nikki, you've got you've got to
spot usurping and nip it in the bud. There's that
gavel we have spoken.
Speaker 1 (26:12):
The Jack and Nikki Show on wv AQ.
Speaker 2 (26:16):
Jack and Nikki with talk of a different kind of love.
Oh baby, now that's that's not the kind of love Nikki.
Speaker 4 (26:27):
That is No, it's not.
Speaker 2 (26:28):
It's not. Sadly, it's not. That is not the kind
of love we're talking about here. We're talking about the
kind of love where you get jerked around there it is. Well,
it's happened again, you guys. This was actually a few
days ago and we were going to get into it then,
but we had anything else to do. But today is
(26:49):
the day I think to do it. Oh boy, yeah,
because today is kind of a day of disillusionment.
Speaker 4 (26:54):
So it was a day of disillusionment.
Speaker 2 (26:56):
Let's talk about a woman who quickly became disillusioned on
her wedding day. After this happened, The groom in this
story went viral because he slammed his new bride's head
into their wedding cake as a prank.
Speaker 7 (27:09):
No.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
Yes. A video that has done gone viral shows the
bride quote looking visibly shocked and covered in purple frosting
as her new husband laughs hysterically.
Speaker 4 (27:21):
Oh no, purple frosting, not even like white frosting.
Speaker 2 (27:24):
Yes, Her husband, the artist warmally known as Prince, pushed
her head into the cake. He then gets her to
give him a reluctant high five. What yeah, I'm sorry,
I didn't get the name right. His name is Borat?
(27:45):
What yeah, I don't. I don't understand the thinking here,
and apparently neither is anybody else, because the reaction on
social media ranges from I'd be getting that marriage an
old too, and they were happily married for two hours? Yes,
with one person posing the question that I think you
and I posed immediately when we heard this, And here's
that question. What kind of man humiliates his wife on
(28:07):
their wedding day and then forces her to hie five
him afterwards? The worst, the worst, It's really weird.
Speaker 4 (28:14):
I mean, it's just how is this still happening? How
is this still a thing? Also purple, it's purple.
Speaker 5 (28:21):
It's gonna stain, it's gonna you can't just then the
hours and money that goes into the hair, that makeup
the dress, the whole, why it's layered for me, I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (28:32):
Okay, sure, yeah, I mean I take your point that
it would cause more problems than you know, just the
standard white wedding cake. Sure, yeah, but still yeah, yeah,
I think the principle stands regardless of the cake.
Speaker 4 (28:43):
Yes, regardless of the color of the frosted.
Speaker 2 (28:45):
Yes, having your face pushed into it. You don't do that,
my good.
Speaker 5 (28:49):
No matter which like the bride doesn't do it to
the groom, like it doesn't, it doesn't matter, Like, just
don't do it.
Speaker 4 (28:54):
It's not a great way to start off your marriage.
Speaker 2 (28:58):
No, it's really this is the thing that I was
coming back to in these situations. Okay, So let's let's
look at this. So she is described as looking visibly
shocked and covered in frosty.
Speaker 7 (29:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:13):
Right. If she was visibly shocked, then that tells you
she wasn't really anticipating this kind of behavior. He should
have known that maybe on her special day, that's not
the best time to push her head into.
Speaker 5 (29:33):
A case like maybe have if you, if you are
really into this cake thing, I don't know, to have
one waiting when you get out of the wedding in
your home and then you can shove her face into
the cake.
Speaker 4 (29:47):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (29:48):
Now you're kind of fetish sizes.
Speaker 8 (29:50):
I guess.
Speaker 2 (29:50):
Yeah, you're making it sound weird.
Speaker 4 (29:51):
I mean, but isn't it.
Speaker 2 (29:54):
Yeah, I don't know. Yeah, I don't.
Speaker 4 (29:57):
I don't want to shame anyone. I'm just it is
good offering another options.
Speaker 2 (30:02):
Shaming is good. I'm going to stand up for shaming. Yeah,
that's how. That's how you change behavior with shame.
Speaker 8 (30:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (30:07):
You shame people out of bad behavior by making them
ashamed of that behavior. Yeah, Shame's good. It's a good tool,
all right. Just uh, just one of the many tools
in the chest that we use here at the Jackie
Dickey Show shaming people. Eight eight A seven seven seven
sixty six forty. You can call us Texas at that number.
You can text us of course three five six, five
to one. Uh, I mean, are you with us on this?
Do you think it's pretty ridiculous and you know it.
(30:31):
I mean again, it depends on the couple and if
they're both into it for some weird reason, if that's
their thing, you know, if.
Speaker 5 (30:38):
It was like a going to be able to smash
their face into the gig first.
Speaker 4 (30:43):
Also, was it the main cake that they were going
to cut up and serve to people.
Speaker 2 (30:46):
That's a very good question.
Speaker 4 (30:48):
Because waste of money there as well.
Speaker 2 (30:50):
Yes it is, Yeah, so many things. Hey, my cake
has a fake eyelash in it. Yeah, the bride's face
was pushed into it about five minutes ago.
Speaker 1 (31:02):
Well look to.
Speaker 2 (31:04):
Don't you guilty? And you
Speaker 8 (31:10):
M hm
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