August 26, 2024 • 17 mins
Sneaking ways people pleasing can show up in your life and how to work on taking your power back. Tips for making yourself a priority and for staying in alignment with the life you desire. Plus, a small habit that can have a big impact.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Welcome to the Joyschool podcast. Real talk about what it
takes to create your happiest, healthiest and most dynamic life.
And now here's your host, transformational life coach, happiness strategist
and best selling author, Christy ling Spencer.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Well, hello, my friends, and welcome to another episode. Thank
you so much for being here with me. I'm so
happy to everyone who tunes in and hangs out with
me each week. You guys are amazing, and I really
appreciate all the notes on social media and keep them
coming because I read all the reviews, I read all
the comments, and I really appreciate them so much. And
(00:42):
I'm so happy to hear when something on the show
hits with you and resonates or maybe inspires new ideas.
That just means everything to me. So thank you for
being here. I love this community and I love you
all so much. And I'm hanging out up in the
mountains this week, spending a great deal of time here
working remotely this summer, and it is so beautiful. The
(01:04):
sky is blue, the birds are out, there are tall
pine trees all around, and it is just really a
little slice of heaven. I was even thinking I maybe
need to hike off into the forest and record a
podcast episode for you all from the middle of the forest.
How cool would that be? Might have to do that
this week, So in the meantime, this episode is about
(01:29):
recovering from people pleasing, and I have to share with
you I myself am actually a recovering people pleaser. I
really believe highly sensitive people are prone to this trait,
and I myself am a highly sensitive person or HSP.
But it's not exclusive to highly sensitive people. We all
(01:50):
have a deep desire to be loved, and people pleasing
can be a result of fear that comes from that.
Fear of not being loved, fear of disappointing others, fear
of being judged when we make choices for ourselves or
decisions for our lives. And sometimes those fears can get
in the way of honoring what we truly want in
(02:13):
our heart and soul because we're so afraid of disappointing
a parent or a friend or what other people might
think of a bold choice in our life. And so
moving past that and really learning to sit with a
decision or a choice, no matter how small, and really
tune into your heart and soul about what you actually
want and letting go of what other people might think
(02:36):
is an art form and it takes practice, but it
can be life changing. So let's talk for a minute
about some of the ways that people pleasing shows up
in our lives. And this all used to be me
so much, and I've done so much work around it,
and I'm actually really proud of myself. And it's not
that I'm perfect. I mean, every now and then I
(02:57):
do find myself maybe being tempted to make a decision
based on what other people in my life might think.
But then now I catch myself and I'm like, wait
a minute, and I know in my heart that the
people who truly love me and are meant to be
in my life are going to support me and love
me even if they don't totally agree with all my
(03:17):
choices and decisions. And you know what, that's their issue anyway, right,
That's not my issue. The only person I am responsible
for pleasing and honoring when it comes to my personal
choices is me. And so here are some ways people
pleasing is kind of sneaky and shows up in your
life and we may not even notice it, right, And
(03:40):
these all used to be me so much. So the
first one is saying yes to something when your heart
is really telling you no, and you say yes to
avoid disappointing someone or disappointing other people. This could be
yes to an event or something that you really don't
want to go to. This could be yes to something
someone is trying to put on your plate and you
(04:01):
don't have room for one more thing on your plate,
but you just don't want to let that person down
or have them be upset with you for saying no.
And sometimes it takes strength, and it does take willingness
to disappoint people, and sometimes being true to yourself actually
takes being willing to piss some people off. And that
is a hard truth that comes around this. But again,
(04:23):
like I said earlier, you know, nine times out of ten,
ninety percent of the time this is their issue, right.
So another way that people pleasing can sneak up in
our life and kind of drag us down is in
the form of anxiety over our decisions. When we have
a lot of anxiety around a choice or a decision
(04:44):
in our life, a lot of times that comes from
worrying about what other people might think about your choice
or decision, and then that can cause anxiety to rise
up right. Also, there's analysis paralysis that can sneak in,
and then the people pleasing part of not wanting to
disappoint others really can take over. But when we can
(05:08):
be aware of it. Like I said earlier, I did
a lot of work around learning to catch myself in
these patterns and it makes all the difference. So when
you feel anxiety rising around a decision or a choice
you're going to make, really take a minute to examine
where that's coming from. It can be so helpful and insightful,
and sometimes it can even help you really see the
(05:31):
forest through the trees and making a decision all right.
Another way that this shows up, and this used to
be a big one for me, is taking on too
much or over extending yourself to try to make everyone happy,
taking away from your own interests and affecting your own
self care. Many moms can probably relate to this, but
(05:53):
taking on too much in your life and then feeling
stressed out about it and exhausting yourself. That often comes
from again not wanting to say no to things while
people try to put stuff on your plate or ask
you to go places or do things, and from not
wanting to disappoint others. But the bottom line is, if
we want to take the best care of ourselves and
(06:15):
experience a life and the way we dream of experiencing it,
we must learn to say no to the things that
are not either fitting into our schedule or not resonating
with our heart and our mind and our soul. Right
so important, And this, by the way, is going to
tie into our Joyschool habit at the end of the
show today that we're going to talk about in just
(06:36):
a little bit, so stay tuned for that. But it
is just so important to remember that we are not
here to people please all the people in our life. Now,
that's not to say don't do kind things and nice
things for others, And that's not to say don't consider
others when you're making your choices, right, you can consider them.
But considering people and making choices because of what other
(06:59):
people might think or how they might judge you or
out of fear are two different things. At the end
of the day, the person who really needs to be
happy with your choices is you. This took me so
long to learn. When you focus on making choices that
are aligned with the life you desire, you will truly
(07:19):
find that the right people are aligned with those choices
as well, and even if they don't agree or it
doesn't make them thrilled, you have to just be confident
and known that they're going to love you anyway, so
that you can let go of that fear. Right. So,
what are some of the ways that we can heal
this and teach ourselves to really be mindful about being
(07:42):
true to our own heart when it comes to making
choices and decisions in our life and not people pleasing. Well,
the first one is boundaries. So I've talked about boundaries
before on the show, and they are so important for
our health and happiness and creating our best life. Of
the most important things. When you decide on boundaries, right,
(08:03):
things you're going to say no to, things you're no
longer going to do or tolerate in your life. You
have to really memorize your boundaries. You have to memorize
them and make them part of your DNA. And this
takes practice and being super mindful because sometimes we can
set a boundary and then it goes right out the
window as soon as somebody asks us or makes us
a request that crosses that boundary. Right, So taking a
(08:26):
pause when you receive an invite to something, for example,
to ask yourself what you really feel before you answer,
and then being confident and okay with saying no or
disappointing people now and then and saying no with grace
and gratitude. You can say no with gratitude and engraceful
(08:46):
ways and in kind and lovely ways that actually don't
let people down at all. And so being confident in
that and practicing that is really an important part of
healing the behavior of people pleasing right. And I had
to do a lot of work around this once I
started setting boundaries in my life. In order to keep
them from flying out the window. I really had to
(09:08):
memorize them and then repeat them often many times in
my own heart and mind, and then recognizing those situations
when they would pop up and thinking to myself, okay,
this is a boundary here, How am I going to
stick to this? Right? So, another way we can work
to heal this is raising your personal standards and knowing
exactly what your standards are and then aligning your choices
(09:31):
and actions according to those standards. And this is something
else I've talked about on the show before. There is
nothing wrong with having high standards. And this doesn't mean
don't be super grateful and happy for your life as is,
but knowing what you deserve and having high standards that
align with the life you desire is so important. That
(09:53):
is part of actually being grateful for the life that
you're given, And like memorizing your boundaries and sticking to
those when you memorize your absolute musts, your absolute personal
standards when it comes to certain things, even if it's
just that you absolutely do not drink bottle water anymore.
(10:13):
You don't want those microplastics in your body. You don't
want to contribute to the landfills with the plastic bottles,
and then sticking to that right. It could be any
sort of personal standard that you want to create in
your life. Maybe it's the type of people that you
want to hang around. Maybe it's something going on in
your career that you want to shift you want to
raise your standard around. Whatever it is, maybe it is
(10:35):
putting more effort into getting ready each day and looking
and feeling your best right raising those standards. And when
you raise your own personal standards and you know what
they are and you align your choices and actions accordingly,
it becomes so much easier not to make choices and
do actions to people please others, to please other people,
(10:56):
because you know that those choices and actions are aligned
with your standards. So that's a great way to inspire
some healing around this area as well. Plus it's just
a great way to elevate your life. Having your set
of personal standards and knowing what they are. What are
the things that you want? What are the things that
you love in your life that you want to have
more often make them part of your standards, all right.
(11:19):
Another way is recognizing when a problem is someone else's
to take care of. This is a big one because
when you have a tendency to be a people pleaser,
which I still do now and then I catch myself,
but I used to be perpetually this way. It is
very tempting to think that we always have to clean
(11:39):
up everybody else's messes. But when we can recognize that
when a mess or a problem is absolutely someone else's
to take care of, and know that they will likely
grow and benefit from taking care of that mess, right,
so there are benefits to that, then it becomes a
lot easier to just let them do it. Let it
be their problem. It's not your job to be the
(12:01):
world's garbage cleaner upper. Let people be responsible for their
own messes. And I used to be the one who
would want to jump in all the time and help
everybody else with their messes and clean things up and
take charge of it all. And in the meantime, things
in my own life would fall away or fall into
a mess, right because I'm not present to take care
(12:22):
of my own messes, because I'm trying to clean up
everybody else's. And so really recognizing when something is not
your circus, not your monkeys, and sometimes that's even just
a great phrase, not my circus, not my monkeys, letting
it go and knowing that it is not your job
to always clean up everybody else's garbage and mess and
(12:42):
that doesn't mean don't be helpful, and that doesn't mean
don't jump in now. And then if you have the
time and the bandwidth and it's something that you know
you can offer some help with, right Or if it's
someone you love and you can see that they're kind
of falling apart and they really need help, of course,
that's a different situation. What I'm talking about here is
letting go of the habit of automatically defaulting to wanting
(13:05):
to clean up everybody's messes all the time, right, because
there's definitely a difference there, and being more mindful about
it can be very, very healing. And also sometimes when
something truly is not your problem and you know the
other person is going to benefit from figuring it out themselves,
it feels so good just to let go of it.
It really does, and you'll be proud of yourself when
(13:26):
you start doing this. It's a great feeling. So, like
I said, knowing the difference between doing things for other
people out of genuine love and kindness and when you're
doing them just to avoid disappointing them because you're afraid
of what they might think if you don't. That is
a skill and it takes a bit of work to
get good at, but once you commit to it, it
(13:48):
really is so healing and so freeing in big, big ways.
All right, So I hope you have found that relatable.
I think everybody on like let's say a scale one
to ten in some way is a bit of a
people pleaser now and then, So whether you're a one
or a two, or a nine or a ten like
I used to be, I mean, I would say, now,
(14:10):
I'm probably about a three ish. Sometimes I'm a four,
sometimes I'm a one. Every once in a while I'm
in the mood to be a zero, and you better
watch out. And every now and then I fall back
into maybe I have a moment where I'm an eight
or a nine, but I usually really try to catch
myself and be mindful and hover around the two to three. Right.
(14:30):
So just being super mindful and your journal can be
helpful with this, or looking at your calendar is a
great indicator of people pleasing And you know that being said,
that brings us to today's Joy School habit. And this
is the part of the show where I share a
small habit that can have big payoff. So today's Joy
(14:52):
School habit is around the first or so of each month,
take a five minute window to make a date with
your calendar and sit down and look at your calendar
for the month and see if there's anything there you
need to let go of or if it's missing something
important to you. Are you missing a lunch date with
(15:14):
a friend, do you need to get that logged onto
your calendar. Paying attention to the way we schedule our
life is a superpower. There's a quote I posted quite
a while back that said, is your schedule too full
to live fully? I'm going to say that again because
it's so powerful. Is your schedule too full to live fully?
(15:37):
That is a great question to ask yourself when you
sit down each month for your little calendar date. Really
try for the first of each month, but it could
be the day before or the day after, whatever works.
And just take five minutes each month. Make this a habit.
Look at your calendar, see if there's something you need
to let go of, See if there's something really important
to you that makes your life sing that is missing
(15:59):
from your skill, and get it in there. Such an
important thing to be super mindful and just doing this
monthly or even quarterly. I find it's easier to do monthly,
but there are a lot of people who like to
schedule themselves out quarterly. For me, that's a little difficult.
I'm a little bit more of a hey, let's go
next week kind of person, or even let's go tomorrow
kind of person. But whatever works for you. Everybody's different.
(16:23):
But the most important thing in here is to create
a regular date. Create the habit of a regular date
of sitting down with your calendar and looking at what
you need to let go of, what you need to
say no to, what you need to remove, and what
you need to add to it. All Right, my friends,
if you enjoyed this episode, I would so love to
(16:43):
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(17:05):
so far. Thank you so much, and once again, thank
you for being here with me. I love you all
so much, and remember you have the power to create
more amazing days, and more amazing days add up to
a pretty amazing life. Have a beautiful week, my friends,
and I will be back with you soon
Welcome to the Joyschool podcast. Real talk about what it
takes to create your happiest, healthiest and most dynamic life.
And now here's your host, transformational life coach, happiness strategist
and best selling author, Christy ling Spencer.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Well, hello, my friends, and welcome to another episode. Thank
you so much for being here with me. I'm so
happy to everyone who tunes in and hangs out with
me each week. You guys are amazing, and I really
appreciate all the notes on social media and keep them
coming because I read all the reviews, I read all
the comments, and I really appreciate them so much. And
(00:42):
I'm so happy to hear when something on the show
hits with you and resonates or maybe inspires new ideas.
That just means everything to me. So thank you for
being here. I love this community and I love you
all so much. And I'm hanging out up in the
mountains this week, spending a great deal of time here
working remotely this summer, and it is so beautiful. The
(01:04):
sky is blue, the birds are out, there are tall
pine trees all around, and it is just really a
little slice of heaven. I was even thinking I maybe
need to hike off into the forest and record a
podcast episode for you all from the middle of the forest.
How cool would that be? Might have to do that
this week, So in the meantime, this episode is about
(01:29):
recovering from people pleasing, and I have to share with
you I myself am actually a recovering people pleaser. I
really believe highly sensitive people are prone to this trait,
and I myself am a highly sensitive person or HSP.
But it's not exclusive to highly sensitive people. We all
(01:50):
have a deep desire to be loved, and people pleasing
can be a result of fear that comes from that.
Fear of not being loved, fear of disappointing others, fear
of being judged when we make choices for ourselves or
decisions for our lives. And sometimes those fears can get
in the way of honoring what we truly want in
(02:13):
our heart and soul because we're so afraid of disappointing
a parent or a friend or what other people might
think of a bold choice in our life. And so
moving past that and really learning to sit with a
decision or a choice, no matter how small, and really
tune into your heart and soul about what you actually
want and letting go of what other people might think
(02:36):
is an art form and it takes practice, but it
can be life changing. So let's talk for a minute
about some of the ways that people pleasing shows up
in our lives. And this all used to be me
so much, and I've done so much work around it,
and I'm actually really proud of myself. And it's not
that I'm perfect. I mean, every now and then I
(02:57):
do find myself maybe being tempted to make a decision
based on what other people in my life might think.
But then now I catch myself and I'm like, wait
a minute, and I know in my heart that the
people who truly love me and are meant to be
in my life are going to support me and love
me even if they don't totally agree with all my
(03:17):
choices and decisions. And you know what, that's their issue anyway, right,
That's not my issue. The only person I am responsible
for pleasing and honoring when it comes to my personal
choices is me. And so here are some ways people
pleasing is kind of sneaky and shows up in your
life and we may not even notice it, right, And
(03:40):
these all used to be me so much. So the
first one is saying yes to something when your heart
is really telling you no, and you say yes to
avoid disappointing someone or disappointing other people. This could be
yes to an event or something that you really don't
want to go to. This could be yes to something
someone is trying to put on your plate and you
(04:01):
don't have room for one more thing on your plate,
but you just don't want to let that person down
or have them be upset with you for saying no.
And sometimes it takes strength, and it does take willingness
to disappoint people, and sometimes being true to yourself actually
takes being willing to piss some people off. And that
is a hard truth that comes around this. But again,
(04:23):
like I said earlier, you know, nine times out of ten,
ninety percent of the time this is their issue, right.
So another way that people pleasing can sneak up in
our life and kind of drag us down is in
the form of anxiety over our decisions. When we have
a lot of anxiety around a choice or a decision
(04:44):
in our life, a lot of times that comes from
worrying about what other people might think about your choice
or decision, and then that can cause anxiety to rise
up right. Also, there's analysis paralysis that can sneak in,
and then the people pleasing part of not wanting to
disappoint others really can take over. But when we can
(05:08):
be aware of it. Like I said earlier, I did
a lot of work around learning to catch myself in
these patterns and it makes all the difference. So when
you feel anxiety rising around a decision or a choice
you're going to make, really take a minute to examine
where that's coming from. It can be so helpful and insightful,
and sometimes it can even help you really see the
(05:31):
forest through the trees and making a decision all right.
Another way that this shows up, and this used to
be a big one for me, is taking on too
much or over extending yourself to try to make everyone happy,
taking away from your own interests and affecting your own
self care. Many moms can probably relate to this, but
(05:53):
taking on too much in your life and then feeling
stressed out about it and exhausting yourself. That often comes
from again not wanting to say no to things while
people try to put stuff on your plate or ask
you to go places or do things, and from not
wanting to disappoint others. But the bottom line is, if
we want to take the best care of ourselves and
(06:15):
experience a life and the way we dream of experiencing it,
we must learn to say no to the things that
are not either fitting into our schedule or not resonating
with our heart and our mind and our soul. Right
so important, And this, by the way, is going to
tie into our Joyschool habit at the end of the
show today that we're going to talk about in just
(06:36):
a little bit, so stay tuned for that. But it
is just so important to remember that we are not
here to people please all the people in our life. Now,
that's not to say don't do kind things and nice
things for others, And that's not to say don't consider
others when you're making your choices, right, you can consider them.
But considering people and making choices because of what other
(06:59):
people might think or how they might judge you or
out of fear are two different things. At the end
of the day, the person who really needs to be
happy with your choices is you. This took me so
long to learn. When you focus on making choices that
are aligned with the life you desire, you will truly
(07:19):
find that the right people are aligned with those choices
as well, and even if they don't agree or it
doesn't make them thrilled, you have to just be confident
and known that they're going to love you anyway, so
that you can let go of that fear. Right. So,
what are some of the ways that we can heal
this and teach ourselves to really be mindful about being
(07:42):
true to our own heart when it comes to making
choices and decisions in our life and not people pleasing. Well,
the first one is boundaries. So I've talked about boundaries
before on the show, and they are so important for
our health and happiness and creating our best life. Of
the most important things. When you decide on boundaries, right,
(08:03):
things you're going to say no to, things you're no
longer going to do or tolerate in your life. You
have to really memorize your boundaries. You have to memorize
them and make them part of your DNA. And this
takes practice and being super mindful because sometimes we can
set a boundary and then it goes right out the
window as soon as somebody asks us or makes us
a request that crosses that boundary. Right, So taking a
(08:26):
pause when you receive an invite to something, for example,
to ask yourself what you really feel before you answer,
and then being confident and okay with saying no or
disappointing people now and then and saying no with grace
and gratitude. You can say no with gratitude and engraceful
(08:46):
ways and in kind and lovely ways that actually don't
let people down at all. And so being confident in
that and practicing that is really an important part of
healing the behavior of people pleasing right. And I had
to do a lot of work around this once I
started setting boundaries in my life. In order to keep
them from flying out the window. I really had to
(09:08):
memorize them and then repeat them often many times in
my own heart and mind, and then recognizing those situations
when they would pop up and thinking to myself, okay,
this is a boundary here, How am I going to
stick to this? Right? So, another way we can work
to heal this is raising your personal standards and knowing
exactly what your standards are and then aligning your choices
(09:31):
and actions according to those standards. And this is something
else I've talked about on the show before. There is
nothing wrong with having high standards. And this doesn't mean
don't be super grateful and happy for your life as is,
but knowing what you deserve and having high standards that
align with the life you desire is so important. That
(09:53):
is part of actually being grateful for the life that
you're given, And like memorizing your boundaries and sticking to
those when you memorize your absolute musts, your absolute personal
standards when it comes to certain things, even if it's
just that you absolutely do not drink bottle water anymore.
(10:13):
You don't want those microplastics in your body. You don't
want to contribute to the landfills with the plastic bottles,
and then sticking to that right. It could be any
sort of personal standard that you want to create in
your life. Maybe it's the type of people that you
want to hang around. Maybe it's something going on in
your career that you want to shift you want to
raise your standard around. Whatever it is, maybe it is
(10:35):
putting more effort into getting ready each day and looking
and feeling your best right raising those standards. And when
you raise your own personal standards and you know what
they are and you align your choices and actions accordingly,
it becomes so much easier not to make choices and
do actions to people please others, to please other people,
(10:56):
because you know that those choices and actions are aligned
with your standards. So that's a great way to inspire
some healing around this area as well. Plus it's just
a great way to elevate your life. Having your set
of personal standards and knowing what they are. What are
the things that you want? What are the things that
you love in your life that you want to have
more often make them part of your standards, all right.
(11:19):
Another way is recognizing when a problem is someone else's
to take care of. This is a big one because
when you have a tendency to be a people pleaser,
which I still do now and then I catch myself,
but I used to be perpetually this way. It is
very tempting to think that we always have to clean
(11:39):
up everybody else's messes. But when we can recognize that
when a mess or a problem is absolutely someone else's
to take care of, and know that they will likely
grow and benefit from taking care of that mess, right,
so there are benefits to that, then it becomes a
lot easier to just let them do it. Let it
be their problem. It's not your job to be the
(12:01):
world's garbage cleaner upper. Let people be responsible for their
own messes. And I used to be the one who
would want to jump in all the time and help
everybody else with their messes and clean things up and
take charge of it all. And in the meantime, things
in my own life would fall away or fall into
a mess, right because I'm not present to take care
(12:22):
of my own messes, because I'm trying to clean up
everybody else's. And so really recognizing when something is not
your circus, not your monkeys, and sometimes that's even just
a great phrase, not my circus, not my monkeys, letting
it go and knowing that it is not your job
to always clean up everybody else's garbage and mess and
(12:42):
that doesn't mean don't be helpful, and that doesn't mean
don't jump in now. And then if you have the
time and the bandwidth and it's something that you know
you can offer some help with, right Or if it's
someone you love and you can see that they're kind
of falling apart and they really need help, of course,
that's a different situation. What I'm talking about here is
letting go of the habit of automatically defaulting to wanting
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to clean up everybody's messes all the time, right, because
there's definitely a difference there, and being more mindful about
it can be very, very healing. And also sometimes when
something truly is not your problem and you know the
other person is going to benefit from figuring it out themselves,
it feels so good just to let go of it.
It really does, and you'll be proud of yourself when
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you start doing this. It's a great feeling. So, like
I said, knowing the difference between doing things for other
people out of genuine love and kindness and when you're
doing them just to avoid disappointing them because you're afraid
of what they might think if you don't. That is
a skill and it takes a bit of work to
get good at, but once you commit to it, it
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really is so healing and so freeing in big, big ways.
All right, So I hope you have found that relatable.
I think everybody on like let's say a scale one
to ten in some way is a bit of a
people pleaser now and then, So whether you're a one
or a two, or a nine or a ten like
I used to be, I mean, I would say, now,
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I'm probably about a three ish. Sometimes I'm a four,
sometimes I'm a one. Every once in a while I'm
in the mood to be a zero, and you better
watch out. And every now and then I fall back
into maybe I have a moment where I'm an eight
or a nine, but I usually really try to catch
myself and be mindful and hover around the two to three. Right.
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So just being super mindful and your journal can be
helpful with this, or looking at your calendar is a
great indicator of people pleasing And you know that being said,
that brings us to today's Joy School habit. And this
is the part of the show where I share a
small habit that can have big payoff. So today's Joy
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School habit is around the first or so of each month,
take a five minute window to make a date with
your calendar and sit down and look at your calendar
for the month and see if there's anything there you
need to let go of or if it's missing something
important to you. Are you missing a lunch date with
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a friend, do you need to get that logged onto
your calendar. Paying attention to the way we schedule our
life is a superpower. There's a quote I posted quite
a while back that said, is your schedule too full
to live fully? I'm going to say that again because
it's so powerful. Is your schedule too full to live fully?
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That is a great question to ask yourself when you
sit down each month for your little calendar date. Really
try for the first of each month, but it could
be the day before or the day after, whatever works.
And just take five minutes each month. Make this a habit.
Look at your calendar, see if there's something you need
to let go of, See if there's something really important
to you that makes your life sing that is missing
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from your skill, and get it in there. Such an
important thing to be super mindful and just doing this
monthly or even quarterly. I find it's easier to do monthly,
but there are a lot of people who like to
schedule themselves out quarterly. For me, that's a little difficult.
I'm a little bit more of a hey, let's go
next week kind of person, or even let's go tomorrow
kind of person. But whatever works for you. Everybody's different.
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But the most important thing in here is to create
a regular date. Create the habit of a regular date
of sitting down with your calendar and looking at what
you need to let go of, what you need to
say no to, what you need to remove, and what
you need to add to it. All Right, my friends,
if you enjoyed this episode, I would so love to
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hear from you over on Instagram or Facebook or any
of my social media communities, and please consider leaving a
review on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcast platform. They
mean so much. They truly do help the show, and
they help other people find the show who might all
so enjoy it. And of course I read them all
and I'm so grateful to everybody who's left to review
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so far. Thank you so much, and once again, thank
you for being here with me. I love you all
so much, and remember you have the power to create
more amazing days, and more amazing days add up to
a pretty amazing life. Have a beautiful week, my friends,
and I will be back with you soon
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