September 12, 2024 • 32 mins
In the latest episode of "The Kay Wats Podcast," Kay interviews Candice Denise, a coach and content creator. Denise discusses her transition from creative director to wellness coach. She focuses on empowering women over forty to embrace this new stage of life and teaching others how to confidently navigate any age.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
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excited about this week's gus.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
Y'all.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
That's right. I love when I get to interview kind
of like my hometown native. She doesn't know what I'm
born and raised from Baltimore, Maryland, so I am super
excited to have creator speaker coach. That's right, Miss Candice Denise.
Welcome to the podcast.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Oh my gosh, thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
Kay, I appreciated that welcome, and yes, you definitely surprised
me with this hometown love here.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
I'm like, wow, yes, I love it. I love when
I get to go and see like what we're doing
back home and just really just kind of like making
our way and people just understanding and knowing that we
just have like some really great talent and women that
are based in the DMB. So I just knew that
I wanted to have you on as a guest. But
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for people that are listening for the first time, never met,
you don't really know too much about you. Tell us
a little bit about who you are and exactly what
you do.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
So I am a content creator, a self care coach,
and a motivational speaker.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
I did not start off here. I started off.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
With an event planning background and so spent eleven plus
years in the event planning space, and then I moved
into creative directing a brand photoshoots for female entrepreneurs and
so it was really there when I started feeling this
call to move into a wellness and self care kind
of space. Because as I was working with these women
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and I would ask them how they were doing they
would tell me how their businesses were doing, but not
necessarily how they were and so it just led me
to say, you know what, I feel like I'm supposed
to help in a different way. I don't think it's
meant to be a creative director any longer. I think
I'm supposed to pivot because I recognize me in them.
I used to be that woman where I would talk
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about my business prior to talking about how I was doing,
because I don't know if I really was sure how
I was doing because I wasn't checking in with myself.
And so that's kind of what led me into this
content creator space of wellness and this self care coaching
and now motivational speaking as well, where I talk about
well being and just women's empower altogether.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
I love this well. One of the there were two
reasons why I really wanted to have this conversation with
you in this season, But one I want to kind
of like jump into the the last thing that you
said in regards to when you were doing these brand
photo shoots, people were saying, like, you know, what they
were doing, what the creative project was, but they weren't
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really sharing how they were doing. And the fact that
you picked up on that. I'm just really curious, like
what made you kind of like take note, Like these
women are talking to me all about their projects, about
their brand, about their work, but no one is saying
how they're feeling or did you just when you walked
into the space, you could just really sense like they're
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struggling and maybe I do need to just pose this
question to them just to show that I care and
that they are seen in this in this season, in
this time.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
That's a great question.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
And honestly, what helped me, I guess, to kind of
notice is that I heard myself in them, because that's
the first thing. It was like they sound familiar, and
the familiarity was myself. The second thing was that I
was hearing it so often. And as an entrepreneur, you're
supposed to kind of like pay attention to your clients
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and just so that you can do you know, great business,
So paying attention to like the needs that they're having,
you know, And in this sense, I was hearing them
talk about, you know, I need to do better about
taking care of me, but the business is great. So
I was hearing this, and so that was another thing
that kind of preempted me to say, hmm, let me
pay attention to this because it was happening so often.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
And then third to speak to what you said.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
I did feel a sense of when I walked into
the space into the photo shoot, this level of kind
of stress or there was always this hairy kind of
rush and you know, I'm just coming from something and
just this kind of you know, overwhelmed kind of moment,
and I would have to decompress them before we would
do the photo shoot, because of course I don't want
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you on camp are looking tints and feeling tense, and
so that comes across. So it was like, Okay, I'm
having to do that a lot. There's something else here happening.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
I love, I love I know that you specifically, you
really talk about the forty plus well being, and I
am entering into my last year of my thirties, which
comes with all of the fields. Okay, I'm sure you
you can relate. So this it comes with all the fields.
So one of the things that I am super grateful
for is that there's so much wisdom once you live
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your twenties and your thirties. So when you enter into
your forties, you feel a certain level of confidence because
you really kind of like have walked and really have
this wisdom and this understanding. You have some experience underneath
your belt. But then it also comes with other aspects
of it too. So I'm really curious when you talk
about the wellness for the forty plus, do you really
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feel like because it's catered to the season of life
that you're in, and you feel like there just hasn't
been a lot of women talking about what we need
and that stage of life. Or is it the fact that, hey,
I really do feel like there is just a missed
opportunity here to where people aren't specifically, like Taylor focused
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on women forty plus, Is there not enough content? Is
there not enough community for women in that demographic?
Speaker 3 (06:20):
Yeah, I feel like the latter what you said, because
I was seeing people say or women, rather, where are
my forty plus content creators?
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Where? Where are they?
Speaker 1 (06:31):
Right?
Speaker 3 (06:31):
Like, there's this whole it's more specifically. I saw that
probably on the TikTok side, I would see people saying,
I could see you know, tapp in tapping, because you know,
TikTok is a different kind of beast anyway, and so
people are very much more open.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
I feel like and just vulnerable.
Speaker 3 (06:46):
There, and so they were just like, where are my
forty plus year olds right? Like I need you to
tap in, Like I need you know, the aunties or
whatever people want to call it, you know, the group
right the Aunties to tappen if I cross it over
to the I mean, I don't have to be right,
you don't have to you don't have to be you
could be the big sister, the big cousin. But this
is kind of how people were saying it. I think
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because growing up people felt like, you know, when they
would see their aunties, they were probably in their forties
and fifties. I don't know, but I was hearing that
narrative like often, and it was feeling like maybe there
is a missed opportunity here, or maybe there is something
that needs to be catered specifically to that.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
And I feel like.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
When we think about age groups, like fifty is a milestone, right,
like people tend to say fifty and forty is too,
But we would hear so much about like your golden
years and all of these types of things, and then
thirty is like you kind of came into this like
official from young adulthood to womanhood so it's like it
felt like forties was the middle child, right, Like, there's
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the there's the little child that's significant, there's the big
the oldest child, but like the middle child was kind
of likeing loss in the sauce, And so it was,
you know, since I'm there, I felt like, why not
talk about this and kind of pass some batons back
to the next generation to say, hey, when you get
over here, here's what it may or may not look like.
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But just giving you a little food for thought, because
I don't feel like we had it as much. I
don't feel like that was something that was talked about.
And I feel like even companies are starting to cater
towards women in their forties. There's a big conversation around
perimenopause now because women that are in our forties, we're
starting to experience those things and our parents didn't talk
about that type of stuff.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
That's so true. Also, Okay, I really like the fact
that we're talking about like the forty plus and showing
up online because I do think that forty plus do
have a different approach to the content that they are
putting out there versus women in their twenties and even
women in their thirties. So I'm curious, like with you
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having an established kind of like online press and some brand, right,
and it seems like, can I just shout out the
fact how you just show up consistently like you're I'm like, cis,
where is the time listen? Talk about the time that's.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
You listen.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
I'm like, she ain't miss it a beat, just like
and she shows up for this podcast and you hear me.
But I wanted to shout out your consistency, but then
also talk about because I know that's not easy. I
know it's not easy to show up and put out
like valuable content right. That takes That takes time, that
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takes intention. But I also want to talk about as
you're showing up online and as you're showing up you know,
forty plus and and catering this content to forty plus,
what are some things and topics that you kind of
like focus on specifically, and and like what is the
area that you've seen that get them most feed back
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or responses from your following.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
Yeah, so I specifically talk about pro aging because I
think you know, we as the forty year olds are
the new forty, we're not looking like people would assume
we should look like in this age demographic, and so
talking about pro aging, right, like, there's this age positivity
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and so instead of making people afraid to get another
year older, talking about how to embrace it and you know,
how to even if it's not an easy thing to embrace,
but being able to do it, so pro aging. Talking
about self growth is another big kind of pillar for
me because I feel like there becomes this level of
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self awareness that you start to come into when you
hit your forties, and not that you didn't have it before,
but there's just something that kind of clicks, you know,
would you just start getting it? And that comes with growth,
And so I talk about that as well as self
care because and I was always talking about self care,
but really kind of talking about it at this stage
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in life, because again, I think it is essential that
we are taking care of ourselves because by this time,
you either have a family or you have you know,
significant others, you've got pets, you just got other people
that rely on you, and it's easy to get lost
in trying to make sure everyone else is okay and
lose sight of yourself. And so those are kind of
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the areas that I focus on the most between self care,
self growth, and pro aging. But I feel like the
content that tends to get like the yes is when
I lead with, you know, being forty at this age,
When I when I immediately say that.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Just drop it out there, that like drop it out.
Speaker 3 (11:50):
There, people are automatically like tuned in, like ears up,
what is she about to say? Yeah, And they feel
like there's a level of relatability that they can connect with.
And so it's interesting because if I could, I'd probably
make every video say forty plus.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
But for me sometimes it's a big.
Speaker 3 (12:08):
Exont dundee yeah, like very redundant to be like everything
for it and trying to come up with a creative
way to talk about this without.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
Sounding without trying to without trying to.
Speaker 3 (12:22):
Take away from another demographic or trying to make someone
else feel like they couldn't use this information too, you know.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
And that's not just for women, that's for men.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
That's for people who are you know, don't associate or
don't affiliate with being male or female like whatever. I
want people humans to be able to take what I'm
saying and be able to use it, even if my
demographic is primarily women, and even more now you know,
women in their forties, I still want to be able
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to give you a nugget that you could use in
your life in some kind of way or pass it
to someone else.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
What do you say to people that say that social
media is a young young man's game or young person's game, right, like,
because it do take some energy, I'm going to tell you,
like there's a hard stop for me, like this is listen,
I'm talking about the trends that we just didn't adapt to.
Because that's one of the things that I really do
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love about your platform as well, is it really seems
that the trends that are popping right now that you
didn't really pivot to fit the trend in order to
kind of like grow your your platform. And we're looking
at I'm just saying at least close to close to
three hundred and fifty thousand on Instagram. So I'm very
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curious for those that have been struggling and are redefining
and wanting to show up really intentionally in the season
of life and maybe they are entering into the forty plus,
maybe they are entering into the fifty plus and they
really feel like that they got a voice to something
that they want to say online, what type of incur
uragement can you offer to them to not get so
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consume and boggle down to the trends and just really
just focusing on what their intention and mission is behind
showing up on social media.
Speaker 3 (14:13):
Yeah, so first I would say, I just posted something
on TikTok the other day saying that your age is
your superpower.
Speaker 2 (14:20):
So no matter whether you are.
Speaker 3 (14:24):
Twenties, thirties, forties, fifties, you know, specifically because you asked,
is this a young man's game?
Speaker 2 (14:30):
I feel like.
Speaker 3 (14:30):
Your age is your superpower, and your experiences, your knowledge,
your awareness, your wisdom, somebody wants to hear it, and
so I don't feel like it's a young man's game.
I genuinely feel like it is anyone's game at this
point because of the fact where you are, someone wants
to hear about life where you are. There is another
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sixty year old out there who wants to hear about
how you're navigating career pivots because they're trying to navigate
a career pivot.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
Right.
Speaker 3 (15:00):
There's a forty plus year old out there who wants
to understand how it is to start a family at
you know, later in life. Maybe because they did it earlier,
and so I am like, look at your age as
a superpower, look at your life receipts as I like
to say, and use those to share with people because
someone out there wants to hear it and needs to
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hear it. I also feel like, you know, when you
were saying how to show up as yourself and the trends,
You're right, I did not follow the trends. I am
a person who oftentimes does. I don't follow most trends
in life. I've always marched to the beat of a
different drum. If everyone was going left, I wanted to
go right. It's just the nature of who I am.
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But I also felt like it's exhausting. So when you
talk about social media is exhausting keeping up, it's more
exhausting for me to try to keep up with a
trend because it's not naturally who I am. This is
although this is work and it takes a lot of work,
and I'm not saying it's an easy work. It doesn't
feel entirely is exhausting because I'm showing up in just myself. Right,
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So I'm just getting in front of a camera and
I'm talking this is who I am.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
This is what I do.
Speaker 3 (16:12):
And I think when I change this whole mindset of
trying to be like what others are doing or trying
to show up like others, it made things.
Speaker 2 (16:20):
It made the load a lot lighter.
Speaker 3 (16:22):
It made me feel like I wanted to show up
because I wasn't feeling like I was trying to recreate
or create something that just did not feel aligned with
who I am. I am a simple woman when it's
all said and done. You know, in the regard of
my content, I don't need a whole lot of fluff.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
It's just not me.
Speaker 3 (16:40):
I love it for others, but not for me. I
love that. I love watching those videos. I'm like, ooh,
this is dope girl, ooh yes two snaps like but
for me, keep it easy, peasy is where I am.
And I realized that people want that right. Some people
are just like, yes, can you give it to me?
Speaker 2 (17:01):
Easy? Simple?
Speaker 3 (17:02):
And I found my lane and so I just allowed
myself to be myself.
Speaker 1 (17:07):
I love that. So I'm really curious to know when
we talk about like the span of like how you
went from creative directoring and event planning and then kind
of like really started making your staple like and maybe
did you consider yourself a coach before a content creator
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or did you consider yourself a content creator? You're putting
out the content and then you started being able to
connect with the community, which then led to coaching opportunities
to build the business. I'm curious on what that looks like,
because clearly, if you're coming from event planning, if you're
coming from being a creative director, that is a business.
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And what I have found is that a lot of
people get confused on when they show up on social media.
They jump in and put out content, and then they're
trying to figure out, well, how does everyone else raiding
money and I'm not. And I've noticed that the most
successful people on social media when it comes to if
we're going to say success based on being able to
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convert their following into an actual financial and profitable business
are people that already had a mindset of business before
entering in versus trying to like I want to be
insta famous Now I'm you get what I'm saying. So
I'm just curious on what that process looked like for you.
Did you go in very intentionally being like, how do
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I'm converting this into a business? So this is going
to be my steps towards it or was it kind
of like, no, this is just an outlet for me
to where I get to share and I just happenstance
fell into make it in a business. No.
Speaker 2 (18:45):
I love happenstance.
Speaker 3 (18:46):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (18:49):
So yes, I actually already was in a business mindset
because that's just how I had been operating.
Speaker 2 (18:56):
So coaching was first for me. So you were absolutely right.
Speaker 3 (19:00):
I started off with coaching, so I worked with coaches
to learn how to be a coach. So I invested,
you know, let me get a business coach to teach
me how to coach others. And that was the mindset
I went into this with. And then I was like, well,
I'll put content out to market to clients so that
I can get coaching clients. So the content really was
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to market me as a coach to bring people in
to work with. Essentially, I saw that the content was
starting to take its own life form, and I said, oh, well,
this is something I should probably again tune into. I'm
seeing a pattern pay attention to. And I started seeing
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at that time the conversation about people turning into digital
content creators like that becoming a thing, and so I
was like, well, in true business form, maybe this is
another leg of my business that I shoul add on,
not taking away from coaching, but adding something on because
I do believe in multiple streams of income and I
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think it's just important to do as an entrepreneur, a
full time entrepreneur. And so when I saw that the
content was starting to get great feedback and then these
platforms were starting to monetize your content, it was like, well,
wait a minute, I think there's something here. And that's
when I started thinking differently about my content. It wasn't
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just about booking clients or marketing my services. It was
now marketing it was a duality. It was like marketing
my services, but also leveraging or you know, building more
so my digital content creation piece of my business. And
so ultimately that started bringing in brand opportunities, which led
me to believe this is a viable piece of business
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that I should keep.
Speaker 1 (20:55):
That was there were so many nuggets there. I felt
like that could be a whole separate segment. Yeah, because
I think even and this goes back to the wisdom y'all.
This goes back to if those that are listening, that
are kind of like, how do I rediscover, redefine, or
even just embrace this aspect of getting older. You have
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just proved how nothing is wasted. There's no experiences and
seasons and time that is wasted. So you've been able
to just pivot in such a purposeful and intentional way.
And I think one of the things that I can
testify to that has been very hard for me, especially
when it comes into pivoting, is that a lot of
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times I would just be afraid to either start from
scratch because or I would just give up altogether because
I was embarrassed of the pivot because I looked at
pivoting as that means I failed. So that's the reason
why I had to change. So instead of even having
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to have the messaging or communication behind the pivot, I
just said, you know what, I'm just done with it.
And I have found that there are so many people
that actually have gone through that, or experienced that, or
have been victims of like I just quit because I
just didn't want to admit that I had to pivot
because that way was no longer either working, or like
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you said, you paid attention to the market research of
what was happening when the digital content creators started going viral.
That was wisdom. You saw that this could be another
aspect of business, so how do we then connect it?
So there was just certain steps that you took. So
when we talk about pivoting and we talk about kind
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of like changing course or direction, can you just give
a little bit of insight on the top two things
that you kind of like analyze when you're about to
make a major pivot and rather that is professionally relationally,
like what two things that you assessment It's like, yep,
(23:03):
it's time for me to or is it that you
do it quarterly? Like as a business, you know every
single quarter there are certain aspects of the business that
need to be completed and done. There are certain assessments
like is it quarterly for you? Or are there two
questions that you ask before making any pivot?
Speaker 3 (23:19):
That's such a great question. I feel like it's definitely
not quarterly. It You can probably feel like that with
the number of pivots that I've made. But it's more
the first thing I'm doing is seeking guidance from God,
like that is my first step because none of this
is doable or possible within my own strength, and so
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I'm always going to the one who has given me
the gift, how to nurture the gift? What direction should
the gift go in? Like what talent avenue should I
be using the gift in?
Speaker 2 (23:54):
Now?
Speaker 3 (23:55):
Should I continue down this road? Or is there a
pivot that needs to have So I'm always seeking just
kind of like wisdom and guidance from the creator on
what to do there. If given this kind of green
light of yes, then I'm asking myself, okay, with this pivot,
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what feels aligned?
Speaker 2 (24:18):
What feels aligned with me with the.
Speaker 3 (24:22):
Gift that I have, and how can I add value
to something with it?
Speaker 2 (24:26):
Right? Because yes, is there a need out there?
Speaker 3 (24:29):
I mean there's a need for all kinds of things,
but I'm not aligned with being able to provide that need.
So I don't just go off of what the need is.
It needs to be the need aligns with me, with
my gifts, with my talent, with my abilities, my skill
set right, and is it something I actually desire to do?
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Because passion is one thing, but that's only going to
take you so far. You'll get tired after a while.
So I need to know the why to be able
to be rooted and anchored in a why that feels
like I want to do this, you know, I get
to make impact doing this, And I think those are
the biggest two things. I ask myself, is it going
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to you know, going to God about it? And then
asking myself does this align with you?
Speaker 2 (25:20):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (25:21):
Does this make sense for you? You know, because I'm there
are a lot of things I would love. I think,
Oh there's a need, but that doesn't make sense for
me to do it because it just doesn't fall within
my zone of genius.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
That's that's so good you literally that was going to
go And next question was kind of like you know
with the podcast, like what was the latest question that
you asked Gott. But I love the fact that you
are going to him just asking him in general kind
of like God, this gift, this blessing that you get.
What direction do you want me to go this? Where
do you want me to you know, put this gift in?
Like I love that. And looking at your platform and
(25:58):
listening to you, there are probably two things that I
really get and I'm very curious if that was your intention,
but there are two things that I really get when
I just kind of like watch your content, which is
there is a level of you just really dismantling shame
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around aging and just just owning the season and the
time that you're in. And I love that, and so
especially for women, especially for women of color, especially of
women of faith, because so many of us, as much
as we say that we go to the Lord and
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we ask, can we still struggle with shame of just
the progression and the pivots of life. We struggle there
and we walk with that shame. So when I'm looking
at your platform, when I'm listening to you, there just
seems to be like this, unashamed, unapologetic. This is where
we are, this is what we're doing, This is how
we're just going to move forward. So that's one thing
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that I get. The other thing that I get, too,
is when I think wellness is so big, it's so
broad right on what we seem to be well. But
another aspect is that you're very intentional and you're decision making,
and I think that sometimes, unbeknownst to us, we can
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be very flippant on the decisions that we make, and
then we're upset about the fruit that we have to
eat once we've made them. Yeah, and I it's true,
we don't want to eat that fruit. But you made
that flippant decision, and now you have to eat the
fruit of the decision.
Speaker 2 (27:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:44):
So I love the fact that it seems as though
like you're really coaching people to just to live unashamed,
but to be also just really do some reflection so
that you're not out here making flippant decisions, because then
you're just going to be in this constant cycle of
being a set off of eating the fruit of that
flippant decisions and then dealing with the shame of that
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flippant decision. So we're gonna be out here pro aging gracefully, y'all.
Then let's just not do that.
Speaker 2 (28:11):
Let's just do that.
Speaker 1 (28:13):
Let's just not do that. But to wrap up the
episode in a conversation, what for the people that are listening,
what would you like them to know about you? Where
can they find you? Is there anything special that you
have going on or entering into Q four? So maybe
just giving some some words of encouragement or maybe just
(28:34):
pointing them in a specific area for leading into this
last quarter of twenty twenty four, I would love for
you to share. Yeah, so I would say, well, first
I want to thank you for those two things that
you just mentioned, because it was never my intention. Actually
I did not intend to do that.
Speaker 3 (28:53):
I think I've just been sharing, and in my share,
which is a lot of the things.
Speaker 2 (28:59):
I'm sharing started with me.
Speaker 3 (29:01):
So the reflection, the giving myself, the grace to grow,
the grace to age gracefully, the gracefully all of these
things pro aging have all been things that I've worked through,
whether you know, in my own time or with my therapist,
has just been my own journey and I'm just sharing
it kind of out loud, and so I love that
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these these patterns are coming up and that you're receiving
that and anybody else, So thank you for that.
Speaker 2 (29:28):
I think in closing out.
Speaker 3 (29:30):
Our episode and just as we're coming into this last
quarter of this year, I would tell people continue to build,
you know, continue to build, because if you desire to
have twenty twenty five be the year of thrive, it
takes intentional action and that's how you build.
Speaker 2 (29:50):
But don't feel like you have to build big.
Speaker 3 (29:53):
It's okay to lay one brick at a time as
long as you're building, as long as you're moving, as
long as you're doing you know, a lot of times
we want to go to the deep end of the pool,
and we need to start at the kiddie pool. And
there's nothing wrong with learning to swim in each you know,
as each progression happens. And I think, if nothing else,
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if you really want to see this next year be
your year, whatever that means for you, continue to build now.
Don't wait until then. Don't wait until you have to
Oh my gosh, you know I gotta wait until next year.
It's like, no, what little things can you do right
now to help you be that version of yourself that
you want to be then? And I think once we
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start realizing that we're ever evolving, building doesn't start on
a certain day. You know, there's no magic power that
happens on January the first, Your January the first, your
new year is every day you get an opportunity to
wake up, that is your new year, that is your
personal new year that day. And so how do you
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start building now or continue to build towards that? And
it's okay if it takes time, it's okay. If your
cake doesn't bake immediately, you know, it's it's totally fine.
Do not allow yourself to get caught up in comparison,
because The reality is that we all have a journey,
and everyone's journey is different, but it doesn't make your
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journey any less significant if it takes you longer to
get where it is you're trying to be, or even.
Speaker 1 (31:26):
If you get there faster.
Speaker 3 (31:28):
So that's what I would say, build, continue to build
and take those steps without overwhelming yourself to do so.
Speaker 1 (31:38):
Okay, and that is canas Denise. Ladies and gentlemen, thank
you so much for sharing your wisdom with us. Thank
you for sharing your platform. I'm so thankful for you
and I just want to encourage you just to keep sharing.
And guys, definitely make sure that you go, like I'm sharing, subscribe,
go and follow her if you're not already following her
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at canis Denise on Instagram I'm guessing, as well as on.
Speaker 3 (32:01):
TikTok I'm by can just Denise on TikTok se had it.
Speaker 1 (32:06):
This is why I was like, come on, let's make
that correction. But guys, definitely make sure that you go
and follow her. Thank you for tuning in to this
week's episode of the KYS Podcast. Until next week, be blessed,
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Speaker 2 (00:47):
Y'all.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
That's right. I love when I get to interview kind
of like my hometown native. She doesn't know what I'm
born and raised from Baltimore, Maryland, so I am super
excited to have creator speaker coach. That's right, Miss Candice Denise.
Welcome to the podcast.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Oh my gosh, thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
Kay, I appreciated that welcome, and yes, you definitely surprised
me with this hometown love here.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
I'm like, wow, yes, I love it. I love when
I get to go and see like what we're doing
back home and just really just kind of like making
our way and people just understanding and knowing that we
just have like some really great talent and women that
are based in the DMB. So I just knew that
I wanted to have you on as a guest. But
(01:32):
for people that are listening for the first time, never met,
you don't really know too much about you. Tell us
a little bit about who you are and exactly what
you do.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
So I am a content creator, a self care coach,
and a motivational speaker.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
I did not start off here. I started off.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
With an event planning background and so spent eleven plus
years in the event planning space, and then I moved
into creative directing a brand photoshoots for female entrepreneurs and
so it was really there when I started feeling this
call to move into a wellness and self care kind
of space. Because as I was working with these women
(02:12):
and I would ask them how they were doing they
would tell me how their businesses were doing, but not
necessarily how they were and so it just led me
to say, you know what, I feel like I'm supposed
to help in a different way. I don't think it's
meant to be a creative director any longer. I think
I'm supposed to pivot because I recognize me in them.
I used to be that woman where I would talk
(02:33):
about my business prior to talking about how I was doing,
because I don't know if I really was sure how
I was doing because I wasn't checking in with myself.
And so that's kind of what led me into this
content creator space of wellness and this self care coaching
and now motivational speaking as well, where I talk about
well being and just women's empower altogether.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
I love this well. One of the there were two
reasons why I really wanted to have this conversation with
you in this season, But one I want to kind
of like jump into the the last thing that you
said in regards to when you were doing these brand
photo shoots, people were saying, like, you know, what they
were doing, what the creative project was, but they weren't
(03:18):
really sharing how they were doing. And the fact that
you picked up on that. I'm just really curious, like
what made you kind of like take note, Like these
women are talking to me all about their projects, about
their brand, about their work, but no one is saying
how they're feeling or did you just when you walked
into the space, you could just really sense like they're
(03:39):
struggling and maybe I do need to just pose this
question to them just to show that I care and
that they are seen in this in this season, in
this time.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
That's a great question.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
And honestly, what helped me, I guess, to kind of
notice is that I heard myself in them, because that's
the first thing. It was like they sound familiar, and
the familiarity was myself. The second thing was that I
was hearing it so often. And as an entrepreneur, you're
supposed to kind of like pay attention to your clients
(04:13):
and just so that you can do you know, great business,
So paying attention to like the needs that they're having,
you know, And in this sense, I was hearing them
talk about, you know, I need to do better about
taking care of me, but the business is great. So
I was hearing this, and so that was another thing
that kind of preempted me to say, hmm, let me
pay attention to this because it was happening so often.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
And then third to speak to what you said.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
I did feel a sense of when I walked into
the space into the photo shoot, this level of kind
of stress or there was always this hairy kind of
rush and you know, I'm just coming from something and
just this kind of you know, overwhelmed kind of moment,
and I would have to decompress them before we would
do the photo shoot, because of course I don't want
(04:59):
you on camp are looking tints and feeling tense, and
so that comes across. So it was like, Okay, I'm
having to do that a lot. There's something else here happening.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
I love, I love I know that you specifically, you
really talk about the forty plus well being, and I
am entering into my last year of my thirties, which
comes with all of the fields. Okay, I'm sure you
you can relate. So this it comes with all the fields.
So one of the things that I am super grateful
for is that there's so much wisdom once you live
(05:30):
your twenties and your thirties. So when you enter into
your forties, you feel a certain level of confidence because
you really kind of like have walked and really have
this wisdom and this understanding. You have some experience underneath
your belt. But then it also comes with other aspects
of it too. So I'm really curious when you talk
about the wellness for the forty plus, do you really
(05:50):
feel like because it's catered to the season of life
that you're in, and you feel like there just hasn't
been a lot of women talking about what we need
and that stage of life. Or is it the fact that, hey,
I really do feel like there is just a missed
opportunity here to where people aren't specifically, like Taylor focused
(06:12):
on women forty plus, Is there not enough content? Is
there not enough community for women in that demographic?
Speaker 3 (06:20):
Yeah, I feel like the latter what you said, because
I was seeing people say or women, rather, where are
my forty plus content creators?
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Where? Where are they?
Speaker 1 (06:31):
Right?
Speaker 3 (06:31):
Like, there's this whole it's more specifically. I saw that
probably on the TikTok side, I would see people saying,
I could see you know, tapp in tapping, because you know,
TikTok is a different kind of beast anyway, and so
people are very much more open.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
I feel like and just vulnerable.
Speaker 3 (06:46):
There, and so they were just like, where are my
forty plus year olds right? Like I need you to
tap in, Like I need you know, the aunties or
whatever people want to call it, you know, the group
right the Aunties to tappen if I cross it over
to the I mean, I don't have to be right,
you don't have to you don't have to be you
could be the big sister, the big cousin. But this
is kind of how people were saying it. I think
(07:08):
because growing up people felt like, you know, when they
would see their aunties, they were probably in their forties
and fifties. I don't know, but I was hearing that
narrative like often, and it was feeling like maybe there
is a missed opportunity here, or maybe there is something
that needs to be catered specifically to that.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
And I feel like.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
When we think about age groups, like fifty is a milestone, right,
like people tend to say fifty and forty is too,
But we would hear so much about like your golden
years and all of these types of things, and then
thirty is like you kind of came into this like
official from young adulthood to womanhood so it's like it
felt like forties was the middle child, right, Like, there's
(07:53):
the there's the little child that's significant, there's the big
the oldest child, but like the middle child was kind
of likeing loss in the sauce, And so it was,
you know, since I'm there, I felt like, why not
talk about this and kind of pass some batons back
to the next generation to say, hey, when you get
over here, here's what it may or may not look like.
(08:15):
But just giving you a little food for thought, because
I don't feel like we had it as much. I
don't feel like that was something that was talked about.
And I feel like even companies are starting to cater
towards women in their forties. There's a big conversation around
perimenopause now because women that are in our forties, we're
starting to experience those things and our parents didn't talk
about that type of stuff.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
That's so true. Also, Okay, I really like the fact
that we're talking about like the forty plus and showing
up online because I do think that forty plus do
have a different approach to the content that they are
putting out there versus women in their twenties and even
women in their thirties. So I'm curious, like with you
(08:57):
having an established kind of like online press and some brand, right,
and it seems like, can I just shout out the
fact how you just show up consistently like you're I'm like, cis,
where is the time listen? Talk about the time that's.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
You listen.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
I'm like, she ain't miss it a beat, just like
and she shows up for this podcast and you hear me.
But I wanted to shout out your consistency, but then
also talk about because I know that's not easy. I
know it's not easy to show up and put out
like valuable content right. That takes That takes time, that
(09:38):
takes intention. But I also want to talk about as
you're showing up online and as you're showing up you know,
forty plus and and catering this content to forty plus,
what are some things and topics that you kind of
like focus on specifically, and and like what is the
area that you've seen that get them most feed back
(10:01):
or responses from your following.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
Yeah, so I specifically talk about pro aging because I
think you know, we as the forty year olds are
the new forty, we're not looking like people would assume
we should look like in this age demographic, and so
talking about pro aging, right, like, there's this age positivity
(10:27):
and so instead of making people afraid to get another
year older, talking about how to embrace it and you know,
how to even if it's not an easy thing to embrace,
but being able to do it, so pro aging. Talking
about self growth is another big kind of pillar for
me because I feel like there becomes this level of
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self awareness that you start to come into when you
hit your forties, and not that you didn't have it before,
but there's just something that kind of clicks, you know,
would you just start getting it? And that comes with growth,
And so I talk about that as well as self
care because and I was always talking about self care,
but really kind of talking about it at this stage
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in life, because again, I think it is essential that
we are taking care of ourselves because by this time,
you either have a family or you have you know,
significant others, you've got pets, you just got other people
that rely on you, and it's easy to get lost
in trying to make sure everyone else is okay and
lose sight of yourself. And so those are kind of
(11:31):
the areas that I focus on the most between self care,
self growth, and pro aging. But I feel like the
content that tends to get like the yes is when
I lead with, you know, being forty at this age,
When I when I immediately say that.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Just drop it out there, that like drop it out.
Speaker 3 (11:50):
There, people are automatically like tuned in, like ears up,
what is she about to say? Yeah, And they feel
like there's a level of relatability that they can connect with.
And so it's interesting because if I could, I'd probably
make every video say forty plus.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
But for me sometimes it's a big.
Speaker 3 (12:08):
Exont dundee yeah, like very redundant to be like everything
for it and trying to come up with a creative
way to talk about this without.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
Sounding without trying to without trying to.
Speaker 3 (12:22):
Take away from another demographic or trying to make someone
else feel like they couldn't use this information too, you know.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
And that's not just for women, that's for men.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
That's for people who are you know, don't associate or
don't affiliate with being male or female like whatever. I
want people humans to be able to take what I'm
saying and be able to use it, even if my
demographic is primarily women, and even more now you know,
women in their forties, I still want to be able
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to give you a nugget that you could use in
your life in some kind of way or pass it
to someone else.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
What do you say to people that say that social
media is a young young man's game or young person's game, right, like,
because it do take some energy, I'm going to tell you,
like there's a hard stop for me, like this is listen,
I'm talking about the trends that we just didn't adapt to.
Because that's one of the things that I really do
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love about your platform as well, is it really seems
that the trends that are popping right now that you
didn't really pivot to fit the trend in order to
kind of like grow your your platform. And we're looking
at I'm just saying at least close to close to
three hundred and fifty thousand on Instagram. So I'm very
(13:41):
curious for those that have been struggling and are redefining
and wanting to show up really intentionally in the season
of life and maybe they are entering into the forty plus,
maybe they are entering into the fifty plus and they
really feel like that they got a voice to something
that they want to say online, what type of incur
uragement can you offer to them to not get so
(14:04):
consume and boggle down to the trends and just really
just focusing on what their intention and mission is behind
showing up on social media.
Speaker 3 (14:13):
Yeah, so first I would say, I just posted something
on TikTok the other day saying that your age is
your superpower.
Speaker 2 (14:20):
So no matter whether you are.
Speaker 3 (14:24):
Twenties, thirties, forties, fifties, you know, specifically because you asked,
is this a young man's game?
Speaker 2 (14:30):
I feel like.
Speaker 3 (14:30):
Your age is your superpower, and your experiences, your knowledge,
your awareness, your wisdom, somebody wants to hear it, and
so I don't feel like it's a young man's game.
I genuinely feel like it is anyone's game at this
point because of the fact where you are, someone wants
to hear about life where you are. There is another
(14:52):
sixty year old out there who wants to hear about
how you're navigating career pivots because they're trying to navigate
a career pivot.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
Right.
Speaker 3 (15:00):
There's a forty plus year old out there who wants
to understand how it is to start a family at
you know, later in life. Maybe because they did it earlier,
and so I am like, look at your age as
a superpower, look at your life receipts as I like
to say, and use those to share with people because
someone out there wants to hear it and needs to
(15:20):
hear it. I also feel like, you know, when you
were saying how to show up as yourself and the trends,
You're right, I did not follow the trends. I am
a person who oftentimes does. I don't follow most trends
in life. I've always marched to the beat of a
different drum. If everyone was going left, I wanted to
go right. It's just the nature of who I am.
(15:43):
But I also felt like it's exhausting. So when you
talk about social media is exhausting keeping up, it's more
exhausting for me to try to keep up with a
trend because it's not naturally who I am. This is
although this is work and it takes a lot of work,
and I'm not saying it's an easy work. It doesn't
feel entirely is exhausting because I'm showing up in just myself. Right,
(16:07):
So I'm just getting in front of a camera and
I'm talking this is who I am.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
This is what I do.
Speaker 3 (16:12):
And I think when I change this whole mindset of
trying to be like what others are doing or trying
to show up like others, it made things.
Speaker 2 (16:20):
It made the load a lot lighter.
Speaker 3 (16:22):
It made me feel like I wanted to show up
because I wasn't feeling like I was trying to recreate
or create something that just did not feel aligned with
who I am. I am a simple woman when it's
all said and done. You know, in the regard of
my content, I don't need a whole lot of fluff.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
It's just not me.
Speaker 3 (16:40):
I love it for others, but not for me. I
love that. I love watching those videos. I'm like, ooh,
this is dope girl, ooh yes two snaps like but
for me, keep it easy, peasy is where I am.
And I realized that people want that right. Some people
are just like, yes, can you give it to me?
Speaker 2 (17:01):
Easy? Simple?
Speaker 3 (17:02):
And I found my lane and so I just allowed
myself to be myself.
Speaker 1 (17:07):
I love that. So I'm really curious to know when
we talk about like the span of like how you
went from creative directoring and event planning and then kind
of like really started making your staple like and maybe
did you consider yourself a coach before a content creator
(17:28):
or did you consider yourself a content creator? You're putting
out the content and then you started being able to
connect with the community, which then led to coaching opportunities
to build the business. I'm curious on what that looks like,
because clearly, if you're coming from event planning, if you're
coming from being a creative director, that is a business.
(17:49):
And what I have found is that a lot of
people get confused on when they show up on social media.
They jump in and put out content, and then they're
trying to figure out, well, how does everyone else raiding
money and I'm not. And I've noticed that the most
successful people on social media when it comes to if
we're going to say success based on being able to
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convert their following into an actual financial and profitable business
are people that already had a mindset of business before
entering in versus trying to like I want to be
insta famous Now I'm you get what I'm saying. So
I'm just curious on what that process looked like for you.
Did you go in very intentionally being like, how do
(18:31):
I'm converting this into a business? So this is going
to be my steps towards it or was it kind
of like, no, this is just an outlet for me
to where I get to share and I just happenstance
fell into make it in a business. No.
Speaker 2 (18:45):
I love happenstance.
Speaker 3 (18:46):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (18:49):
So yes, I actually already was in a business mindset
because that's just how I had been operating.
Speaker 2 (18:56):
So coaching was first for me. So you were absolutely right.
Speaker 3 (19:00):
I started off with coaching, so I worked with coaches
to learn how to be a coach. So I invested,
you know, let me get a business coach to teach
me how to coach others. And that was the mindset
I went into this with. And then I was like, well,
I'll put content out to market to clients so that
I can get coaching clients. So the content really was
(19:23):
to market me as a coach to bring people in
to work with. Essentially, I saw that the content was
starting to take its own life form, and I said, oh, well,
this is something I should probably again tune into. I'm
seeing a pattern pay attention to. And I started seeing
(19:47):
at that time the conversation about people turning into digital
content creators like that becoming a thing, and so I
was like, well, in true business form, maybe this is
another leg of my business that I shoul add on,
not taking away from coaching, but adding something on because
I do believe in multiple streams of income and I
(20:07):
think it's just important to do as an entrepreneur, a
full time entrepreneur. And so when I saw that the
content was starting to get great feedback and then these
platforms were starting to monetize your content, it was like, well,
wait a minute, I think there's something here. And that's
when I started thinking differently about my content. It wasn't
(20:28):
just about booking clients or marketing my services. It was
now marketing it was a duality. It was like marketing
my services, but also leveraging or you know, building more
so my digital content creation piece of my business. And
so ultimately that started bringing in brand opportunities, which led
me to believe this is a viable piece of business
(20:51):
that I should keep.
Speaker 1 (20:55):
That was there were so many nuggets there. I felt
like that could be a whole separate segment. Yeah, because
I think even and this goes back to the wisdom y'all.
This goes back to if those that are listening, that
are kind of like, how do I rediscover, redefine, or
even just embrace this aspect of getting older. You have
(21:16):
just proved how nothing is wasted. There's no experiences and
seasons and time that is wasted. So you've been able
to just pivot in such a purposeful and intentional way.
And I think one of the things that I can
testify to that has been very hard for me, especially
when it comes into pivoting, is that a lot of
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times I would just be afraid to either start from
scratch because or I would just give up altogether because
I was embarrassed of the pivot because I looked at
pivoting as that means I failed. So that's the reason
why I had to change. So instead of even having
(22:00):
to have the messaging or communication behind the pivot, I
just said, you know what, I'm just done with it.
And I have found that there are so many people
that actually have gone through that, or experienced that, or
have been victims of like I just quit because I
just didn't want to admit that I had to pivot
because that way was no longer either working, or like
(22:21):
you said, you paid attention to the market research of
what was happening when the digital content creators started going viral.
That was wisdom. You saw that this could be another
aspect of business, so how do we then connect it?
So there was just certain steps that you took. So
when we talk about pivoting and we talk about kind
(22:42):
of like changing course or direction, can you just give
a little bit of insight on the top two things
that you kind of like analyze when you're about to
make a major pivot and rather that is professionally relationally,
like what two things that you assessment It's like, yep,
(23:03):
it's time for me to or is it that you
do it quarterly? Like as a business, you know every
single quarter there are certain aspects of the business that
need to be completed and done. There are certain assessments
like is it quarterly for you? Or are there two
questions that you ask before making any pivot?
Speaker 3 (23:19):
That's such a great question. I feel like it's definitely
not quarterly. It You can probably feel like that with
the number of pivots that I've made. But it's more
the first thing I'm doing is seeking guidance from God,
like that is my first step because none of this
is doable or possible within my own strength, and so
(23:43):
I'm always going to the one who has given me
the gift, how to nurture the gift? What direction should
the gift go in? Like what talent avenue should I
be using the gift in?
Speaker 2 (23:54):
Now?
Speaker 3 (23:55):
Should I continue down this road? Or is there a
pivot that needs to have So I'm always seeking just
kind of like wisdom and guidance from the creator on
what to do there. If given this kind of green
light of yes, then I'm asking myself, okay, with this pivot,
(24:16):
what feels aligned?
Speaker 2 (24:18):
What feels aligned with me with the.
Speaker 3 (24:22):
Gift that I have, and how can I add value
to something with it?
Speaker 2 (24:26):
Right? Because yes, is there a need out there?
Speaker 3 (24:29):
I mean there's a need for all kinds of things,
but I'm not aligned with being able to provide that need.
So I don't just go off of what the need is.
It needs to be the need aligns with me, with
my gifts, with my talent, with my abilities, my skill
set right, and is it something I actually desire to do?
(24:53):
Because passion is one thing, but that's only going to
take you so far. You'll get tired after a while.
So I need to know the why to be able
to be rooted and anchored in a why that feels
like I want to do this, you know, I get
to make impact doing this, And I think those are
the biggest two things. I ask myself, is it going
(25:14):
to you know, going to God about it? And then
asking myself does this align with you?
Speaker 2 (25:20):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (25:21):
Does this make sense for you? You know, because I'm there
are a lot of things I would love. I think,
Oh there's a need, but that doesn't make sense for
me to do it because it just doesn't fall within
my zone of genius.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
That's that's so good you literally that was going to
go And next question was kind of like you know
with the podcast, like what was the latest question that
you asked Gott. But I love the fact that you
are going to him just asking him in general kind
of like God, this gift, this blessing that you get.
What direction do you want me to go this? Where
do you want me to you know, put this gift in?
Like I love that. And looking at your platform and
(25:58):
listening to you, there are probably two things that I
really get and I'm very curious if that was your intention,
but there are two things that I really get when
I just kind of like watch your content, which is
there is a level of you just really dismantling shame
(26:19):
around aging and just just owning the season and the
time that you're in. And I love that, and so
especially for women, especially for women of color, especially of
women of faith, because so many of us, as much
as we say that we go to the Lord and
(26:39):
we ask, can we still struggle with shame of just
the progression and the pivots of life. We struggle there
and we walk with that shame. So when I'm looking
at your platform, when I'm listening to you, there just
seems to be like this, unashamed, unapologetic. This is where
we are, this is what we're doing, This is how
we're just going to move forward. So that's one thing
(27:01):
that I get. The other thing that I get, too,
is when I think wellness is so big, it's so
broad right on what we seem to be well. But
another aspect is that you're very intentional and you're decision making,
and I think that sometimes, unbeknownst to us, we can
(27:24):
be very flippant on the decisions that we make, and
then we're upset about the fruit that we have to
eat once we've made them. Yeah, and I it's true,
we don't want to eat that fruit. But you made
that flippant decision, and now you have to eat the
fruit of the decision.
Speaker 2 (27:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:44):
So I love the fact that it seems as though
like you're really coaching people to just to live unashamed,
but to be also just really do some reflection so
that you're not out here making flippant decisions, because then
you're just going to be in this constant cycle of
being a set off of eating the fruit of that
flippant decisions and then dealing with the shame of that
(28:04):
flippant decision. So we're gonna be out here pro aging gracefully, y'all.
Then let's just not do that.
Speaker 2 (28:11):
Let's just do that.
Speaker 1 (28:13):
Let's just not do that. But to wrap up the
episode in a conversation, what for the people that are listening,
what would you like them to know about you? Where
can they find you? Is there anything special that you
have going on or entering into Q four? So maybe
just giving some some words of encouragement or maybe just
(28:34):
pointing them in a specific area for leading into this
last quarter of twenty twenty four, I would love for
you to share. Yeah, so I would say, well, first
I want to thank you for those two things that
you just mentioned, because it was never my intention. Actually
I did not intend to do that.
Speaker 3 (28:53):
I think I've just been sharing, and in my share,
which is a lot of the things.
Speaker 2 (28:59):
I'm sharing started with me.
Speaker 3 (29:01):
So the reflection, the giving myself, the grace to grow,
the grace to age gracefully, the gracefully all of these
things pro aging have all been things that I've worked through,
whether you know, in my own time or with my therapist,
has just been my own journey and I'm just sharing
it kind of out loud, and so I love that
(29:21):
these these patterns are coming up and that you're receiving
that and anybody else, So thank you for that.
Speaker 2 (29:28):
I think in closing out.
Speaker 3 (29:30):
Our episode and just as we're coming into this last
quarter of this year, I would tell people continue to build,
you know, continue to build, because if you desire to
have twenty twenty five be the year of thrive, it
takes intentional action and that's how you build.
Speaker 2 (29:50):
But don't feel like you have to build big.
Speaker 3 (29:53):
It's okay to lay one brick at a time as
long as you're building, as long as you're moving, as
long as you're doing you know, a lot of times
we want to go to the deep end of the pool,
and we need to start at the kiddie pool. And
there's nothing wrong with learning to swim in each you know,
as each progression happens. And I think, if nothing else,
(30:17):
if you really want to see this next year be
your year, whatever that means for you, continue to build now.
Don't wait until then. Don't wait until you have to
Oh my gosh, you know I gotta wait until next year.
It's like, no, what little things can you do right
now to help you be that version of yourself that
you want to be then? And I think once we
(30:40):
start realizing that we're ever evolving, building doesn't start on
a certain day. You know, there's no magic power that
happens on January the first, Your January the first, your
new year is every day you get an opportunity to
wake up, that is your new year, that is your
personal new year that day. And so how do you
(31:01):
start building now or continue to build towards that? And
it's okay if it takes time, it's okay. If your
cake doesn't bake immediately, you know, it's it's totally fine.
Do not allow yourself to get caught up in comparison,
because The reality is that we all have a journey,
and everyone's journey is different, but it doesn't make your
(31:21):
journey any less significant if it takes you longer to
get where it is you're trying to be, or even.
Speaker 1 (31:26):
If you get there faster.
Speaker 3 (31:28):
So that's what I would say, build, continue to build
and take those steps without overwhelming yourself to do so.
Speaker 1 (31:38):
Okay, and that is canas Denise. Ladies and gentlemen, thank
you so much for sharing your wisdom with us. Thank
you for sharing your platform. I'm so thankful for you
and I just want to encourage you just to keep sharing.
And guys, definitely make sure that you go, like I'm sharing, subscribe,
go and follow her if you're not already following her
(31:58):
at canis Denise on Instagram I'm guessing, as well as on.
Speaker 3 (32:01):
TikTok I'm by can just Denise on TikTok se had it.
Speaker 1 (32:06):
This is why I was like, come on, let's make
that correction. But guys, definitely make sure that you go
and follow her. Thank you for tuning in to this
week's episode of the KYS Podcast. Until next week, be blessed,
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