GETTING YOUR LIFE UNCLOGGED WITH MONIQUE STUBBS-HALL

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Join us Thursday, November 13th at 11:00 AM EST on The Kim Jacobs Show for an inspiring conversation with Monique Stubbs-Hall! She is a powerhouse of purpose, leadership, and transformation!

Monique was recently recognized at the Who’s Who in Black Charlotte 10th Anniversary Awards Ceremony!You will be inspired to learn how Monique continues to shine as a multifaceted leader — blending entrepreneurship, community advocacy, and storytelling that empowers lives.

Blending her Bahamian roots with her impact in Charlotte, Monique’s journey embodies resilience, authenticity, and service. As the Founder of the Grooming Greatness Foundation and Executive Director of the Brooklyn Collective, she’s changing the narrative for communities and inspiring others to do the same.

Don’t miss this episode as Monique shares how mindset, meaningful relationships, and purpose-driven leadership can transform your life and business.

“A rich lifestyle has nothing to do with money but everything to do with mindset and meaningful relationships.” – Monique Stubbs-Hall

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Listen, we have a great show lined up for you.
I'm your host, Kim Jacob's better known as the Balance Doctor.
And all of our guests that come on there either
people that have overcome some tremendous odds in their own
lives as they balance this thing called life, or they're
experts and they're here to share tips and strategies that
will help you better balance and manage your life. Grab

(00:22):
your virtual seats and let's get ready for some real,
relevant and relatable content on today's episode of The Kim
Jacobs Show. That Jacob Well, hello everyone, and welcome to
this episode of The Kim Jacob Show, where we are

(00:45):
bringing balance to the world. Guess what we're doing at
one household at a time. And today we have with
us our very special guests and this woman wait until
you hear all that she's bringing to the world to
make it a better place. We have Monique Stubbs.

Speaker 2 (01:02):
How are you, Monique?

Speaker 3 (01:04):
I'm doing great? Thank you.

Speaker 1 (01:06):
I oh, you know, and my life is just better
because you're in it, I promise you. I feel like
my spirit is uplifted whenever I'm even in your virtual presence,
you know.

Speaker 4 (01:16):
Oh that's beautiful. I feel the same way though, and.

Speaker 1 (01:21):
I know here everybody that's tuning in, we are balancing
life in real time. So sometimes you'll see us in
different facets in the car, at the grocery store, and
at the art gallery, you name it. We're everywhere because
that's what life is all about, being able to just
balance it and doing it the way that God intends

(01:43):
for us to salt this earth. So I'm really glad
to have you here today, Monique, thank you, happy to
be here. All right, y'all, listen, grab your virtual seats,
make sure you let every I see all of you
all already hopping in. I want you all to be
active participants. Make sure that you type any comments, questions,

(02:03):
and anything that you'd like to learn from our guests today.
We will definitely do everything we can to get it answer.
Today we're talking about how to just get unclogged, how
to untlog your life, and that's a whole training in itself.
A conference. This woman does a conference pertaining to it,
but from a visual perspective. I know many of you

(02:25):
hear it on the radio broadcast, but from a visual perspective,
she actually has a plunger and we're going to talk
a lot about that today, but let me introduce. Let
me introduce our special guests that's here with us. Monique
stubs Hall is a multifaceted leader whose career seamlessly blends entrepreneurship,

(02:47):
community advocacy, and personal development. She has over three decades
of experience in hospitality, sales management, and business development. She
has honed a unique ability to inspire and empower individuals
and organizations of like, and her journey is truly it's

(03:07):
a testament to resilience, purpose, and transformative power. This woman
is a force to be reckoned with a storyteller, and
everything that she does is masterfully weave together. I'm not
going to go through every detail because I want her
to share her own life's journey with you, but welcome
Monique stubs Haul to the Kim Jacob.

Speaker 3 (03:29):
Shall Oh, thank you, thank you.

Speaker 1 (03:32):
I'm gonna give you a chance to talk now so
that we can just learn more about you.

Speaker 2 (03:37):
There's so much to you.

Speaker 1 (03:38):
We know you from this professional woman that brings such
grace and dignity and integrity and style and compassion. I
could go on and on and on with adjectives to
this world, but really, if you would just take us
back and just talk to us about where do some
things begin. For Monique back in the day, where did

(03:59):
your life life really start to take shape to become
who you are today.

Speaker 4 (04:05):
So, first of all, thank you so much for having me.
You know, I love some intentional and meaningful conversations. So
this is beautiful. I'm you know, I'm going to go
all the way back to my youth and my upbringing
because I mean, that is my foundation.

Speaker 3 (04:23):
That's where where it all starts.

Speaker 5 (04:25):
Right.

Speaker 4 (04:25):
So I am a native of Nasau, Bahamas, so you know,
I tell people I'm a Bahama mama. And and so
when my family migrated to the United States, we moved
to an area called Columbia, Maryland. What I can say
at the time I was seven and and my parents

(04:47):
one always made sure we maintained our love of culture
and our understanding our upbringing and background being being from
the islands, and that was always something in important. But
what I came from was a family, a father and mother,
and I have a sister.

Speaker 3 (05:07):
And my parents were.

Speaker 4 (05:09):
Very, very very strict when it came to specific things. One,
they were definitely spiritual people individuals, and they instilled that
in us. And so therefore there was high moral standards,
and when it came to our presence, yes, and how

(05:32):
my dad wanted to see his family show up, that
was extremely.

Speaker 3 (05:37):
Important to him.

Speaker 4 (05:38):
I mean so much so that my dad would say,
tell my mom when when we go out, the girls
can wear four pieces of jewelry and airrings count as two.

Speaker 5 (05:51):
Oh.

Speaker 4 (05:52):
He was that specific. One two or three ponytails, not
a whole bunch of boobles, bobs and bops.

Speaker 2 (05:59):
Okay.

Speaker 4 (06:00):
And when we traveled, we couldn't just get on an
airplane in some shorts.

Speaker 3 (06:05):
And I'm talking about we were little girls.

Speaker 4 (06:07):
We couldn't get on the airplane in shorts and T
shirts and whatever. No, we had our dresses, our bobby socks,
and our patent leathers.

Speaker 3 (06:17):
Okay.

Speaker 4 (06:17):
So my dad had he was suited and tied, and
my mother had on her cute little dress. And what
I learned early in my life was that how we
show up a difference, because as a family, somehow we
would always end up in first class, even though we

(06:39):
didn't pay for it, but it was it was our presentation.
And I learned very early that it really does matter.
And so that was the standard my dad used to
make us He had the old school we remember the
old school tape recorders that.

Speaker 3 (06:58):
Had the microphone with the big ball. Yeah, and he would.

Speaker 4 (07:01):
Plug plug the microphone into tape recorder and he would
make us read. I was seven, my sister was four.
We had to lead into the microphone. He would play
it back and he said, now when you got to
the period, what did you do?

Speaker 3 (07:16):
Did you stop? What do you do when you come
to comma?

Speaker 5 (07:19):
Did you pause?

Speaker 3 (07:20):
Right?

Speaker 4 (07:21):
So that's how they taught us proper speech, properdiction, and
this is how to this day. You know, people laugh
at me because they're like, Monie, you speak so properly.
That's how I was brought up, Like I was trained
on how to uh to speak and how to master

(07:44):
this English language in a in a dignified manner.

Speaker 3 (07:49):
Right. So this is the foundation. So who I am today.

Speaker 4 (07:55):
Is who I've always been since I was seven years
old because this is the example that I had entrepreneurship
because my dad opened his first architectural firm when he
was twenty one years old.

Speaker 3 (08:10):
My mother worked.

Speaker 4 (08:11):
My mother worked in that architectural firm with him, and
they worked together in business all the way until they
retired their.

Speaker 3 (08:20):
Business when they went on a religious sabbatical. So I
have a love.

Speaker 4 (08:27):
For showing up with a standard of excellence, and I
do it unapologetically. I will never change who I am
because it is my foundation.

Speaker 1 (08:39):
Oh I am, so I feel like I know your
family at this point. I appreciate your parents and the
fact that at an early age, when you didn't know
that it would matter so much at this phase of
your journey, that they were grooming you. Even we talk
a lot about grooming greatness because that's which you are

(09:01):
really rooted in, but grooming greatness came from your true foundation.
Your parents saw something in you that they saw that
was futuristic that you would have never known that that
you were being molded or shaped developed into becoming this
great woman that you're going to become.

Speaker 3 (09:22):
Did you no? No?

Speaker 4 (09:25):
And And because of how they instilled these qualities in
us at such a young age, how we move and
what we do and how we show up, it's natural,
you know, it's not. This isn't something we force, This
isn't something we have to pretend. This is who we
are because that is what was instilled in us early on,

(09:49):
and it was the expectation, right, we have this standing
joke in our family about how our dad took us
to King's Dominion and had a and tie on and
we were like, now.

Speaker 3 (10:02):
Daddy, now, daddy.

Speaker 4 (10:04):
He said, that's just extra Okay, what are we doing?
Why this is so embarrassing?

Speaker 5 (10:09):
Right?

Speaker 4 (10:10):
My dad had this thing about when he steps out
the threshold today he's eighty one, and he when he
steps out he is suited.

Speaker 3 (10:18):
And tied every day. Oh, it's just who he is.

Speaker 4 (10:22):
And so but when we went to King's Dominion with
this man with this his suit that we're like, you know,
we're like at this point, we're like preteen. We're like, Daddy, really,
this is so embarrassing. Are you really doing this? He said, Well,
you never know who you'll bump into. And he said,
and it would be a shame if the day that
you bump into someone that could change the trajectory of

(10:44):
your life, you were not looking presentable and not confident
enough to accept the opportunity.

Speaker 3 (10:51):
Wow, what he said, That's how it was. He didn't care.
He was like, he would fine in his suit and
tie at King's Dominion.

Speaker 1 (10:59):
Right, Monique, I notice may be a really bizarre request,
but if you can arrange for me to interview your
dad and your mom. Please, I promise you it would
be just such a great honor. Or better yet, you
interview them, because it might be some things happening in
your own future that you can we'll talk about that
off camera. But let me tell you, let me tell you,

(11:19):
this is a story to be told. It reminds me
of a lifetime movie based on true events, but in
a great way, not some horror story, but one where
a family groomed, parents groomed greatness. And here the outcome
is so telling and true that if you utilize these

(11:41):
principles at an early age, it can really change the
trajectory of the child's life. So how important is that
for parents today that you may minister to or teach
to be able to instill similar principles like your parents
deal with you.

Speaker 3 (11:57):
Yeah, I mean it's just so important to me.

Speaker 4 (12:00):
We are living in a society where our youth would
look at me and say, you're just so old fashioned.
You know, you're just so you know, you know, they.

Speaker 3 (12:11):
Like to say that. And I said, you know, if
holding to a.

Speaker 4 (12:15):
Standard of excellence is old fashion, I will be old
fashioned all day long. Because here's what I know. What
I know is that it makes a difference how you
show up get I have an opportunity to be in
rooms that I would not have an opportunity to be

(12:36):
in rooms if people couldn't figure out how I would
show up. Right, They know that I am consistent. They
know that they don't have to guess will I be
this way today or that way tomorrow? Is Miss Moe
gonna walk in in a suit and tie and healed
up today and tomorrow she's going to have on the

(12:56):
club dress with her breast hanging out in her bottom
hanging out at the bottom. They don't have to worry
about that because what they know is that every time
she shows up for the past.

Speaker 3 (13:10):
Thirty five forty years of.

Speaker 4 (13:12):
Her adult life, she is consistent. And that's about They
know that's about it, right there.

Speaker 3 (13:20):
Yeah, that's it.

Speaker 4 (13:21):
And so that that right there allows people to feel
comfortable with opening up doors of opportunity for you because
they know you're not going to turn out to be
an embarrassment, right They know that you move with excellence
and that you deserve to be in those rooms. And

(13:41):
so I think it's a lesson. It's a lesson for
parents in despite what the world is saying with regards
to attire and oh, just you just got to be yourself.

Speaker 3 (13:55):
And you know, so now we got young.

Speaker 4 (13:57):
Ladies walking around with no raws on and and and
you could see straight through their clothing and because they're
just being them. Well, you know, there's a time and
a place. That's what I tell people. There is a
time and a place for everything.

Speaker 3 (14:14):
Right.

Speaker 4 (14:14):
And so if you say that you you want your
children to be in certain arenas, then there's a standard.
And it's okay, their standards all around us. And so
you have a choice. Either you're gonna you're gonna teach
them that there is a time and a place for
everything that's biblical, or you are gonna let them be

(14:39):
loose and and have certain opportunities closed to them. And
it's just it's just what life is. And and you
can't be mad, you know. I a lot of times
I talk to the youth and they say, well, you
should just be able to do you, And I said,
but you.

Speaker 3 (14:56):
Can do you. But those corporations have the option to
do them.

Speaker 4 (15:04):
And if they're doing them, it's not doing you because
you want to do you and you don't want to
adhere to a standard.

Speaker 3 (15:12):
You can't be mad.

Speaker 4 (15:14):
Go be an entrepreneur, you know, go and do some
you know something something else where those kind of things
would be acceptable. But you know, just understand that they
have a right to have standards too. They have a
right to decide who they want to represent their brands,

(15:36):
and you can't be mad about that.

Speaker 1 (15:39):
I love the wisdom that you're sharing today. For those
of you that maybe just tuning in. We're talking today
with Monique steps Haul and we're talking about getting unclogged
in life. How do you really maneuver your life to
get your mind, your spirit, your heart, your body unclogged.
And it starts really with the mindset. And so one

(16:02):
of the things that I really value from you as
you talk about mindset over money, is there an instance
that you can share when that really became a realization
for you that this thing is not just about me
making a dollar, This is about beginning in my mind.

Speaker 4 (16:19):
Yeah, I mean it's a as you're moving through life's journey,
you have constant mind shifts that you have to make
right because as when you're in your twenties, your perspective
is different. I literally just wrote an article about this
yesterday on substack. When you're in your twenties, you have

(16:41):
a certain perspective because you've only had but this much
life that you've lived, right, so your perspective is here,
it's narrow, and you're seeing things from a twenties mindset.
I mean, we already know the frontal part of your
brain doesn't even develop till around twenty six. You're definitely
going to be looking at things from a different perspective.

(17:03):
When you get into your thirties, you've now experienced life.
Maybe you've been married, maybe you have a few children,
and your career decisions tend to shift because now if
you're starting started have started a family, between childcare costs
and all the things, you know, you shift in the

(17:24):
way you maneuver and what you thought your future was
going to be in the twenties, Now that you have
a family, you realize there's things some things end up changing.
In your forties, now you've been you've got some life
under you, and now your perspective and mindset is different.
And then you hit fifty, and it is a whole

(17:46):
another game. It's a whole nother game because at fifty
you realize that I have hit halfway the halfway mark,
and I only have X amount of years left on
this earth, and how am I going to make them
meaningful and as impactful? And then how am I going

(18:10):
to begin building a legacy that is what becomes important
to you because now you're on the halfway mark. Now
I'm approaching sixty, and my mindset is completely different because one,
I'm just I'm unapologetic about who I am, what my

(18:33):
journey is, what I want out of life, and I'm
making it very clear that my peace is my primary
objective and that is non negotiable. Right, So mindset is
just so huge, and I think that we have to

(18:55):
get unclogged depending on what our life's journey look like.
And for most of us that are by this age,
we've done been through some things, a whole a whole
lot of stuff, and so as a result, we just
we just see life differently and we have to be
able to pivot and recognize that things are important that

(19:16):
are not. So my quote that says basically that a
rich lifestyle has nothing to do with money, but everything
to do with meaningful relationships and mindset. And the reason
I say that is because when I was a single parent,
thrown into my first single parent in situation after going

(19:40):
through a separation divorce.

Speaker 3 (19:42):
It was tough. You know.

Speaker 4 (19:44):
I had come from my parents' house in the marriage,
and I thought this was my forever. And I had
three small children and the first time in my life
that I had to figure out how to survive on
my own with three small children.

Speaker 3 (20:00):
And that stuff wasn't easy. It was hard, you know.

Speaker 4 (20:04):
And so I remember those days when I had zero
in my bank account, when I wasn't rock bottom, I
was under the rock. Actually, when the bank account wasn't zero,
it was negative, right, And so I talk about that

(20:24):
when I speak to people, because I say, you know,
there are times in your life when you have to
learn how to detach your happiness and joy from that
bank account.

Speaker 3 (20:35):
That's right, that's right. And so in those years I
had to learn that you.

Speaker 4 (20:39):
Know, what, Monique, you may not have financially what you want,
but you do have richness in your life. You have
a beautiful family of beautiful children you know to be
grateful for, right. You have friends around you that are support,

(21:00):
you have beautiful parents, right, And so I had to
start thinking about the things I'm grateful for and the
things that truly mean something that make my life rich
outside of what that bank account looks like.

Speaker 3 (21:13):
And if we didn't learn in COVID that you.

Speaker 4 (21:16):
Can have it today and it be gone like that
right as people were dropped, losing jobs and.

Speaker 1 (21:24):
Close losing life over a million exactly.

Speaker 4 (21:28):
And so so if you haven't learned how to detach
yourself and your joy and happiness from what that bank
account says, it's a skill that I encourage you to
work on because tomorrow brings a whole new set of
things that you might not even ever anticipate, and you

(21:50):
have to learn that building meaningful relationships is really the superpower,
not what is in your banking.

Speaker 1 (22:00):
Out that's beautiful, wise advice and everything that you were sharing.
It resonated with me because there are some times that
I that I've been I was homeless. Actually, when I
consider a person homeless as a person that does not
have a house to go to, and I have my children,
and so it's not always that everything so far back

(22:22):
in the past. It's some things that we go through
on an ongoing basis, but everyone looking in may not
know the details of your story. And still being able
to keep your wits about you, your professionalism, your joy,
your peace is definitely a skill. How do you recommend
people actually implement that skill set or infuse that into

(22:46):
their lives some kind of way if they really don't
know where to begin with that process.

Speaker 3 (22:53):
I think there's a couple of things, right. I think it's.

Speaker 4 (22:59):
It's one learning what I what I always refer to
as positive mirror talk. Right when I was going through
some of my deepest, darkest times, and I mean, I'm well,
I tell people, see, I'm very transparent, like I have
no reason to hide.

Speaker 3 (23:17):
You know, the depths that I've been through.

Speaker 5 (23:19):
I have.

Speaker 4 (23:19):
I've been through anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts, I've been down
all them roads. Medication for all of those things, and
in just in order for me to survive. Right, But
one of the things that I used to do, I
would stand. I would force myself, no matter how much
I hated doing it, but I would stand in front

(23:40):
of the mirror and I would say, Nique, you are
not your circumstances. You are not your circumstances. You are
not your circumstances, LENI, this is temporary. This is temporary.
This is temporary, right, And so I had to keep
feeding myself the positive affirmations, because when you have no

(24:02):
one else around.

Speaker 3 (24:02):
You to do that, you have to do it for yourself.

Speaker 4 (24:05):
Right, So it starts mindset, starts with how you view yourself, right,
and so we have to take accountability for that, and
and and whatever.

Speaker 3 (24:17):
We got to tell ourselves.

Speaker 4 (24:18):
We got to write lipstick on the mirror and give
ourselves those positive affirmations. If we got to record it
on our phones. Look now we've got technology. If we
got to record it on our phone that play it
back to ourselves right when we're feeling in those spaces.
We got to keep feeding ourselves positive things. Secondly, is
who are you around?

Speaker 1 (24:43):
So if you see me doing stuff because I'm actually.

Speaker 4 (24:49):
Choose your circle wisely. You know that's always helped me
is that I've had a positive circle of influence and
I've I tend to associate myself with people who are
where I would like to be. And so even though
my circumstances may not look the way I want them to,

(25:10):
you know, I'm not going to hang around people who
are where I am because if you if I'm if
I'm at rock bottom, well I don't even say rock bottom.

Speaker 3 (25:19):
I always say I was under the rock.

Speaker 4 (25:22):
If I'm under the rock right and the rock is
on top of me, I can't be around the people
who are down in the dirt under the rock with
me get out of here, to get out, So I
gotta be I gotta hang around the people who are
on the other side of the rock. And who are
you know, where I would like to be, or who've

(25:43):
been through a similar journey as me and have have
overcome and can now give me some resources, some encouragement,
you know, and can help direct me so that I
can keep my head straight right in order for me
to move from the circumstances I'm in into a more

(26:07):
positive direction. So I would say it's how you talk
to yourself and secondly, who you choose to be around.

Speaker 1 (26:18):
That's excellent advice. How you talk to yourself and who
you surround yourself with.

Speaker 2 (26:23):
So who you choose, who you choose to.

Speaker 1 (26:28):
Be around, making sure because later you want to make
sure you can capture these notes. I am encouraging you
to be taking notes on today's conversation because when we
do this show, we're talking about how to bring balance
to the world, to bring balance into your household, and
we're doing that with wonderful guests like Monique Stuffs Haul.

(26:48):
Vicki l Evans is on and she said, Hey, it
took me forty six years to discover my worth. I'm
now sixty six years old, and nothing or no one
will make me doubt me now. She never doubts herself now.
Any comment you want to say to.

Speaker 3 (27:06):
That, Yeah, Vicky, I know, Vicky, Vicky, that's Amen to that.
Amen to that. And so you know that's exactly what
I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (27:17):
It's how we speak to ourselves, what we pour into ourselves,
regardless of what other people think, regardless of I am
in a space in.

Speaker 3 (27:30):
My life now and I know Vicky Vicky's on the
same page.

Speaker 4 (27:34):
Is that I really don't care whether someone agrees with me,
doesn't agree with me, how they feel about me, It
doesn't matter because what matters is how I feel about
myself and what I know about me.

Speaker 3 (27:53):
So you know, it's what I know to be the
truth about me.

Speaker 4 (27:58):
So you can be out there feeding all kind of
lies about who I am and.

Speaker 3 (28:04):
This and that and that you don't know me, then
that's right. I don't know me.

Speaker 4 (28:08):
I know me, I know my value, I know my worth,
and I don't even have to try to justify it.
I'm not I'm in a space where I'm just not
interested in that. That's not even a conversation. Why do
I need to justify who I am? If you have
a problem with me and you want you want, you

(28:30):
need all these explanation. It's not the energy I need
to even be around, because right now you're interfering with
my peace.

Speaker 3 (28:39):
I just don't have the energy for that anymore.

Speaker 4 (28:42):
I mean, you know, back in my thirties and forties,
maybe I worried about those kind of things, but no more.

Speaker 3 (28:50):
Yeah, I'm good completely.

Speaker 1 (28:54):
I'm with you, Biggy, and I'm with you guys too,
So it must be some kind of love that we
can be in a sister value keep the Peace club,
I don't know what you want to call it. Put
that as part of your Unclogged conference, because we have
to keep the peace, and I want to know where
that space is for me to feel comfortable, to just detach, unmask,

(29:16):
whatever you need to do to make sure that we're
just being here now. I talk a lot about that
in a book that I wrote. Anyway, your book, let's
talk about your book, your book, Unclogged Targeting the top
ten mindset cloggers to business success. Monique Douglas, you have,
that's what the author name there is. That's our stage name.

(29:38):
But anyway, because everybody got a different little, you know,
stage name thing. But it's really Monique Stubbs Hauled. That's
our government name. Okay, all right, So talk to us
about the concept behind this book, Unclogged and what you
want readers to take away from it.

Speaker 3 (29:57):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (29:58):
You know, I've been coaching women in business and a
few good men for actually thirty years thirty a little
over thirty years of my life, which a lot of
people don't know that about me.

Speaker 3 (30:11):
You know, you can change names of your businesses and.

Speaker 4 (30:16):
What you know, but the work that you do, the
work I have done, has been over thirty years of
coaching individuals and helping them to build business and to
understand business and understand their brand, understand that they are
a brand. And so after working with hundreds and hundreds

(30:37):
of people over all these years, I was sitting back
one day and I said, you know, what would I
say are the top ten unique things that from all
the people I've worked with, what would be the top
ten things that hold them back from their business?

Speaker 3 (31:00):
Success.

Speaker 4 (31:01):
Yes, And that is what motivated me to write the book, right,
because it was like there's common denominators in in in
why people need coaching, why they need help, lots of
different reasons, but there were kind of ten that kind
of rose up and I said, oh, yeah, these are

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the things.

Speaker 3 (31:26):
And so what I did.

Speaker 4 (31:29):
I said, but you know, I could talk through the
whole book, but I said, let me. Let me go
back and think about women that I've helped in their business. Yeah,
and let me or we've had conversations where I've been
able to shed some light on some things for them
to make the light a little brighter, and let me

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go back and think about who would be ten individuals
that actually these were the cloggers that when I at
the time that they and I experience consulting or coaching together,
these were the things they were dealing with at that time.
So I also saw that in each one of these individuals,

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I saw a book.

Speaker 3 (32:12):
I saw them as potential.

Speaker 4 (32:15):
Authors, even though they themselves may not have seen them
to be such. And so I said, I'm going to
make them. I'm going to have them contribute to this
book one so that they could see their own words
in print and understand that their story is valuable. And
two because what they experience and what I helped them

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overcome tied into the topic of getting unclogged.

Speaker 3 (32:43):
So there are ten that are in this book, ten
individuals that you get to hear about where I interviewed them.

Speaker 4 (32:53):
Because these were the issues that they were experiencing within
their own business and I was able in some way
to help them get beyond that.

Speaker 1 (33:02):
So that that's really the premise of the book. Now,
in the beginning of the book, it does have my story,
and I told my story from the standpoint of how
many times have I been unclogged and telling it from
the standpoint of we don't just get unclogged once in

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our life.

Speaker 4 (33:27):
Getting unclogged is consistent. It's we get stopped up consistently
and we have to learn how to.

Speaker 3 (33:35):
Continue to unclog ourselves.

Speaker 4 (33:37):
But my point was I've been unclogged lots of times,
but what has happened is I've learned how to get
unclogged faster the more I do it.

Speaker 3 (33:51):
Right.

Speaker 4 (33:51):
And so that's the thing that the more I do it,
the faster I'm able to get myself out of those
situations or change my mindset quicker, and I think it's
made me the ability to be more resilient or as
I say, to use my BBA, my bounce back ability.

Speaker 2 (34:10):
Bounce back ability.

Speaker 1 (34:12):
I remember so many terms that you've used along the years,
the thirty years that you're talking about, because I believe
I've known you every bit of over twenty if I'm
not mistaken. And this transformation that I've seen, but it's
been a consistent thing, it's not even a transformation. You
have consistently shown up as this same person that people

(34:34):
may see on the cover of a magazine. When you
meet Monique, you're meeting this same person in person. It's
not a persona, it's not an alter ego. This is
Monique and this is who she is in every aspect
of her life. And so that makes it just a
really authentic, fun experience that we're not trying to pull

(34:58):
something out of somebody to become this great individual. God said, well,
let me just say it this way. The Word of
God talks about you coming before kings and queens. Sometimes
we're looking at that to be the king or queen
of a country in different things. We have queen, in
my opinion, Queen Monique stuffs haul right in Charlotte, North Carolina.

(35:23):
And so anytime an honor is bestowed upon you, I'm
honored to be able to witness it because you're making
a tremendous difference in so many people's lives. And I've
went back and I found this is a really really
old picture, probably I think it was like twenty years ago,
and I just want to pop it up because these women,
I'm there over there in the corner. I see Nancy,

(35:46):
I see Raquel, I see you, Christine, Flinda, Lashonda, Donna, all, y'all,
I see all of these people here. Jerry, Pam. Listen,
you have been a part of so many people's lives,
and you've changed their lives well beyond those ten that
are in the book.

Speaker 2 (36:05):
So they may never appear in a.

Speaker 1 (36:07):
Book in the book Unclogged, but you have really helped
people unclog their mind.

Speaker 3 (36:14):
So what what what do you?

Speaker 1 (36:17):
What do you think is the reason that people get
stuck in their mind so much? It's a reason behind that.
What what holds people back from success?

Speaker 3 (36:29):
It's your life's journey.

Speaker 4 (36:33):
I am a firm believer in and and at this age,
having experienced you know, I've been through three marriages, three divorces,
I've been through, you know, just ups, downs, turn around,
topsy turvy, all the things, right, And I believe that
our life's journey really seriously impacts the way that we move.

(36:58):
The reason that I feel that I have had this
ability to bounce back in the resilience that I do
is because, unlike a lot of people, I had a
strong foundation, Okay, right, And I think that a lot

(37:18):
of people aren't blessed with that.

Speaker 3 (37:21):
So if you if you grew up in an environment where.

Speaker 4 (37:28):
You had you were told constantly you were nothing, you
would never amount to anything you were. You know, if
you were physically abused, mentally abused, emotionally abused, if you
had trauma, such major trauma in your formative years, right,

(37:52):
then that sometimes carries through your life and how you
respond to things that happened to you. Right.

Speaker 3 (38:01):
I always thank my parents, you know, for building me.

Speaker 4 (38:04):
Now, you know, some things that have happened to me
in my life has been because of my own poor choices. Right,
So they gave me the foundation, they gave me a
spiritual background. But I had to come to a point
where I made wise decisions based on that foundation, Right,

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so whenever I chose to do it Monique's way, well,
then we end up with a situation.

Speaker 3 (38:33):
Right, So you you you.

Speaker 4 (38:40):
And so so you know, I, like I tell people
I'm not because I had a strong foundation, doesn't mean
that I am not privy to things happening to me
that are not positive, that are not good. You know,
I life hits me, hit me like it's hit many
other and that's of different ways. And so most of

(39:02):
my traumas have happened after I left my parents' house.

Speaker 3 (39:07):
Right, Unfortunately, right, I didn't have the shelter.

Speaker 1 (39:09):
And the protection of them, Right, it happened after I
left my parents' house. And so so there's there's you know,
those things impact the way that we function, the way
we move, the way we think.

Speaker 3 (39:23):
Right about ourselves.

Speaker 4 (39:26):
If even if if you had a strong foundation, but
you ended up marrying more narcissists, right, well, then you're
gonna end up having someone that's feeding you all these
negative things. And if it's been a long period of
time that you've been with that person, you start to
almost believe the things that they have been gaslighting and

(39:46):
everything else with you about right, and so so again,
but I believe that even though I've experienced all those things,
the addictive behaviors, all of these things, it is the
strong thing foundation that I had from the very beginning
that causes my mindset to be just a little different

(40:07):
than maybe what some others have. And so that's where
I believe that a lot of this starts. Now, there's
things that create insecurities in us. Of course, the funny
thing is one of the ten things in the book
about getting on Clogged is image insecurities. Yes, it's it's

(40:29):
your your lack of the ability to if your technology challenged. Okay,
it's have disorganization. These are things that are in those
top ten, Yes, because these are things that cause people
to not be able to be successful. Right Sometimes you

(40:52):
just gotta hire someone to help you get organized, or
you need to bring in someone to help you organize
your schedule, you know, whatever that looks like, you know.
And so there are other things that impact our mindset
aside from.

Speaker 3 (41:10):
You know, how we grew up and all of those things.

Speaker 4 (41:13):
But there are other things that also impact our ability
to move forward and be successful.

Speaker 2 (41:19):
Oh, I'm loving this conversation, and so listen.

Speaker 1 (41:23):
The image insecurities, not being organized, if you're not organized,
you can't expect to have a good outcome.

Speaker 2 (41:28):
Technologically, I don't even know.

Speaker 1 (41:29):
If that's the right word, but anyway, technically, So tell
you Dad, don't be judging me.

Speaker 4 (41:33):
Technological technical, technological, yeah, difficulty.

Speaker 2 (41:38):
Anyway, technical.

Speaker 1 (41:39):
And if you are not technically sound, if you're not
technically sound, then that's where some insecurities come in as well.

Speaker 2 (41:47):
It's going to cause a problem.

Speaker 1 (41:48):
And Vicki actually says that life happens to us. All
good people are not exempt from life challenges, but knowing
who to turn to, which is God in challenging times.
Great comments, Vicki, thank you so much, she said, listen,
I see another book.

Speaker 2 (42:05):
This is Monique.

Speaker 1 (42:09):
That's a greater I love you, Vicky, I love you,
I love you, I love you. Vicky l Evans is
actually one of our Freestyle Friday experts here on the
Kim Jacobs Show, and she actually is the we call
her the Woman of Many Hats. So she comes on
and she talks about being a domestic violence thriver, knowing
your worth, being able to deal with acting and playwright

(42:32):
and all of the awards that she's won. So I'm
really honored that you took the time to be here
in the studio audience, VICKI, my mom is on too,
and she said, hey, that's great, right now, I know
me and my mom is in her seventies and who
I am. She said, please do not disturb my peace.
It will not and cannot be allowed.

Speaker 3 (42:54):
At all.

Speaker 4 (42:55):
Period at the period A full sentence, A full sentence,
A full sentence.

Speaker 1 (43:00):
And then Vicky also said, I really don't care. I
just don't care basically what other people think.

Speaker 4 (43:07):
You can't.

Speaker 3 (43:09):
Oh, there's many there's too many lives to change. Tomorrow
is not promised.

Speaker 4 (43:16):
So when you get to a certain age, you just realize,
like what is really important and what is not? And
you know, for me, my life has always been a
life of service, and so because of that, I just
don't have time, energy, or interest to be consumed in minutia.

Speaker 3 (43:38):
So my focus is who is Who do we need
to impact? Who do we need to help? Who? Do
you know?

Speaker 4 (43:45):
How can I be more involved in my community? How
can I help my children to be more well adjusted?

Speaker 3 (43:53):
How? You know? That's my interest right now?

Speaker 4 (43:56):
I just I don't have time for any of those
kind of discussions that are going to lead to nowhere.

Speaker 2 (44:02):
Yeah, that's some good stuff.

Speaker 1 (44:04):
And speaking of which, in community contributions recognition, you were
recently honored at Who's Who in Black Charlotte at the
tenth anniversary celebration that was on November seventh, and you
received the twenty twenty five Most Influential Award and it
was presented by Truest Bank and I was and Ronda

(44:26):
Calwell as the person that spearheads the project. But I
want to just talk to you and find out what
did that award mean to you to receive that honor.

Speaker 3 (44:36):
Yeah, I thought it was.

Speaker 4 (44:38):
When they sent me the visual the graphic, I was like, wow,
you know, listening to me among the twenty twenty five
most Influential, I thought that was that was.

Speaker 3 (44:51):
Definitely humbling for me.

Speaker 4 (44:55):
With so many amazing individuals in our city that do
such amazing work as well, maybe don't get a chance
to get the recognition. But for me, that just kind
of represents what my motto in my life is.

Speaker 3 (45:10):
And my motto is.

Speaker 4 (45:13):
That I want to stop smell the roses, pick one
and pass it on. And so when you live, when
I'm as I'm living a life of service. When I
see awards a recognition like that, I just say, great,
it means that I'm doing what I'm supposed to be doing,
which is making an impact. And so a positive impact.

(45:36):
Let me put that, because you can you can make
an impact?

Speaker 3 (45:39):
Now will it be positive? You can do something?

Speaker 4 (45:43):
So so am I making a positive impact? And so
if if others recognize that, that's that's, you know, wonderful.
But I'm gonna keep doing it no matter what, even
if nobody recognizes it. It's the fact that I know
that I'm doing what I'm supposed to be doing. And
so I was there celebrating all of the other four

(46:03):
hundred and thirty five individuals who were in the Who's
Who in Who's Who in Black Charlotte publication, and I
applaud every single one of them because they are all
working hard to do great work in our community.

Speaker 2 (46:21):
They really are. I was so honored to be there.

Speaker 1 (46:24):
I lost my voice at that time, so you heard
me whispering im It's like, okay, this is a ridiculous camp.
And the doctor told me, hey, you're gonna need to
rest your voice for a couple of weeks.

Speaker 3 (46:35):
I was like, what, I don't had on time for that?

Speaker 1 (46:38):
Oh, nobody's time to be resting no voice for no
couple of weeks. So y'all are hearing me push through,
but I'm making it happen to interview you, Monique. I
really wanted it to be similar timeframe to when you
received that honor. So listen, I want to find out
too from you. How would anyone that's an entrepreneur, because
you're like an extraordinary entrepreneur, extraordinaire, how would people pick

(47:03):
a business that's in alignment with their purpose?

Speaker 2 (47:06):
Do you have any suggestions?

Speaker 4 (47:11):
You know, I always tell people when you pick a business,
pick something you enjoy. Like it's really that simple, right,
Because you know, it's funny because I've branded myself as
one brand, multiple doors, like VICKI, I do a lot
of different things.

Speaker 3 (47:31):
Now other people, and again this has to do with
what we're talking about.

Speaker 4 (47:36):
Other people may look at me and they say, oh,
Monique just does too much.

Speaker 3 (47:41):
She's here there.

Speaker 4 (47:42):
I love the people that call me and say, oh,
she's You're just everywhere I see you, everywhere.

Speaker 3 (47:47):
I see you, and so what and so my point
is it may be a lot for you, but it's
not for you. What you see me doing is for me.
It's what it's the.

Speaker 4 (48:02):
Gifts I have that I love every single thing I do,
and I'm unapologetic about the fact.

Speaker 3 (48:09):
That you see me here there and there there, because for.

Speaker 4 (48:13):
The work I do, I need to be out what
you want me to be in my house, locked up,
cooped up somewhere, and I can't impact people.

Speaker 3 (48:21):
No, I have chosen. The career I have chosen is
because I love people.

Speaker 4 (48:30):
So yes, I'm gonna be everywhere, and I don't have
a problem with that because it's what I enjoy.

Speaker 3 (48:36):
I've chosen to pick a career that I love.

Speaker 4 (48:40):
So if you have a problem with the fact that
I'm everywhere, that's your problem. You need to deal with
that in your own head. Because Monique doesn't have a
problem with it. Monique enjoys all the things that she
does because it allows community to be a part of
the things that I do. Right, So, I am a storyteller.

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I am I'm a storyteller in multiple ways.

Speaker 3 (49:07):
Right.

Speaker 4 (49:08):
So, I write and creatively produce video productions of the
story behind people's brands. I write and produce love of
legacy stories for those who want to document their matriarchs
and patriarchs having their voice heard so that it can
carry on for the next generations. I curate art exhibitions.

(49:29):
That's just storytelling on walls. I am a poet, that's
just another form of storytelling. I'm a public speaker. That's
another form of storytelling. Right, So everything I do makes sense,
one brand, multiple doors. Yes, you're gonna sing me everywhere.
I'm unapologetic about it because I love everything I do.

(49:51):
Can you say that about what you do?

Speaker 5 (49:53):
Oh?

Speaker 3 (49:53):
As you pick, that's how you pick.

Speaker 4 (49:58):
What you want as your business, what you love doing,
because when it's what you love doing, it ain't work well.
I thank you because I feel like this was a
counseling session even for me to further put a stamp
of approval on the fact that I am out here
salting the earth. I'm not about to go to my
grave and my gifts and my talents be angry with

(50:20):
me because they were putting my body. As Les Brown say, ah,
I'm gonna do what he talks about, live full, die empty.

Speaker 2 (50:26):
Salting the earth is not about one little sprinkle.

Speaker 1 (50:29):
It's about being out here, leaving no stone unturned to
do everything that God is requiring us of us to
help pull some other people along this journey and help
pull them out of being in a stump mode. Girl,
are you gonna motivated me so much? Let me let
you all know we're doing a training, the training, and
I say we, I said, like as if it's me
and Monique, but no, I'm.

Speaker 2 (50:48):
Actually doing the training.

Speaker 1 (50:50):
The training to teach people how to start your own
virtual show from scratch. So if you have a gift,
you have a talent, you have a you're motivational, speaking
off all of these different things, but people don't have
a place to have a one stop shop location to
connect with you.

Speaker 2 (51:08):
I'm doing this.

Speaker 1 (51:09):
Training that's starting in the next couple of weeks. Here
we only take five students. I have three already, so
were on space for two more. And I would encourage
you to go ahead and reach out seven O four
nine four four three five three four.

Speaker 2 (51:23):
It's a six week training.

Speaker 1 (51:24):
In each week we learn a component that helps you
ultimately launch your audio, your video, and your television network
ready show. So you are in for a tremendous treat.
You can learn more by just contacting me at Kim
Jacobshow at gmail dot com or calling seven O four
nine four four three five three four and I'll be

(51:46):
happy to give you more information, Monique Grooming Greatness. We
got to give so many different components that we're talking
about here, but your Grooming Greatness Foundation talk to us about.

Speaker 3 (51:57):
That too, please.

Speaker 4 (51:59):
Yes, that's my heart. So you know you heard what
my foundation was. And what I realized as I began
maturing is that not all young persons have that kind
of an upbringing. I had an upbringing. I didn't have
a poverty upbringing. You know, my family we traveled in

(52:22):
all over the world. We we we had this thing
about fine dining. It was our sport. So while other
families were playing soccer and and and all the things,
basketball and all the things, my family's sport was fine dining.
And so we when we traveled, that's what we did.
My mother had the old school, y'all, remember the Triple

(52:44):
A book.

Speaker 3 (52:45):
The Triple A book.

Speaker 4 (52:47):
It had all it had all was it a four
to three star, four star, five star city it would
be and all that, And she used to mark out
where whatever city we were going to be traveling to,
she would have the five star restaurants, and then that's
where we went to enjoy lots of good food.

Speaker 1 (53:04):
And so.

Speaker 4 (53:06):
So for me, because the way I grew up culture
fine dining theater. We had a subscription to the Morris
Mechanic Theater in DC when I was coming up, and
so my my sister and I we were operas and
and you know plays, and which is my love for
the arts comes from the exposure that my parents gave me.

Speaker 3 (53:29):
And so when I thought about other young people who
just don't.

Speaker 4 (53:33):
Have that opportunity, I said, why can't I start something
where one, we're teaching our youth from underserved communities image
and etiquette and you know, proper speech and carriage, you know,
healthy habits including finance, budgeting, and at the same time

(53:55):
exposed them to how do you conduct yourself in the theater?
Taking them to the theater, using my leveraging my community
partnerships to be able to provide opportunities for these youth
whose families probably could not afford. It's not a priority
for them to be going to the theater, okay, because

(54:18):
we know what four tickets to the theater for a family, right,
you know, cost, And so for me to be able
to add no charge take them to the theater, the opera,
the orchestra, to create formal atmospheres for them.

Speaker 3 (54:33):
To be in these are.

Speaker 4 (54:35):
These are all things that I just felt this was
my way to bless these youth in the community. And
so I'm proud to say that this year is our
eleventh year operating as a nonprofit. Yeah, I love that
picture that was I took a group of ten to Charleston,
South Carolina for an overnight stay.

Speaker 3 (54:55):
It was amazing.

Speaker 4 (54:57):
But you know, grooming and etiquette, it seeps through every
aspect of my life and what I pour into others
because I think it's that important. And so yeah, so
my foundation eleven years running here in Charlotte, and.

Speaker 1 (55:15):
It has been very helpful and impactful, and I've seen
many young people go on to attend colleges, universities, They're
receiving scholarships. They are prepared at a different level than
most students because they've gone through your Grooming Greatness program.
They don't even think. They don't have the same mindset.

(55:35):
And it's not that they think that they're better than
anybody else. They just know who they are, They know
who God has created them to be and I love it.

Speaker 2 (55:43):
I absolutely love your program.

Speaker 1 (55:45):
Now the Brooklyn Collective, I know with Cram and a
bunch of topics, and that's why you really need to
just be one of our freestyle Friday experts where you
come on on a Friday and you make the topics
expertise whatever it is that your area of expertise is.

Speaker 2 (55:59):
Which which is.

Speaker 1 (56:00):
Groom and greatness unclogging Brooklyn Collective. We'll come up with
a title for you, but then you share tips about
that in a five to seven minute period each.

Speaker 2 (56:10):
Time you come on. Let's just understand this Brooklyn Collective.

Speaker 1 (56:14):
I want to learn a little bit more about that
because it preserves silvery and building opportunity at the same time.

Speaker 4 (56:20):
Right, So my passion is the preservation of historic spaces
for them to be utilized for cultural experiences, visual and
performing arts. And so the Brooklyn Collective, which is a
collective of three buildings, two of which are historic, and

(56:44):
it's called Brooklyn because two of these buildings are two
of only four that are left from the neighborhood known
as Brooklyn and Charlotte. And the Brooklyn Collective sits on
South Bovard Street, which was the Black Wall Street Charlotte
in the early late eighteen hundreds through the early to

(57:05):
mid nineteen hundreds before it was torn down as a
result of urban renewal, and so having representing these this
block of our history here in Charlotte has just been very,
very important to me to make sure that we keep

(57:25):
these stories alive, because when we stop talking about our heritage,
our history, it goes away, it goes away. And so I,
you know, I'm very privileged to be able to represent
that history and tell those stories here in the Queen City.

Speaker 1 (57:45):
I'm just gonna put and I was trying to save
some of all of these images, but it's too many.
So I'm just gonna pop this up because it's so
rich to be able to even see it visually, and
so I did it in Google search right quick, so
we can at least see that imagery of it. I
think someone's calling your phone, Monique, so I'll see you

(58:05):
when you come back in. But so this is some
imagery from the Brooklyn Collective, and Monique will be right
back in. But you can see just the rich history.
And for her to have such a passion to make
sure that we don't lose the connection with the Brooklyn

(58:25):
Collective is it's just very endearing. It's so many things
that people may normally not care about. But I love
the fact that Monique cares about how great our young
people are and who are they going to ultimately become.
So she's helping to build a legacy and to help

(58:47):
create in them the importance of leaving a lack a
lasting legacy for their children, which are future generations that
she's impacting. And so I tell you what I'm going
to also just share. I'm going to share her website too,
because this website is.

Speaker 2 (59:06):
Let me find that for you. This website is absolutely beautiful.

Speaker 1 (59:11):
You can learn more about Monique right here on her website,
which is Monique monique stubs dot com. And let me
see I see you backstage, Monique. I'll put you back in,
all right, can you hear me?

Speaker 2 (59:28):
Monique? All right, go back out and come all the
way back in.

Speaker 1 (59:33):
So Monique, I'll just because I'll have her share a
closing comment as well when she comes back in. But
she's balancing her life and dealing with actually was dealing
with an emergency situation and stopped to still do this interview.
So I just want to commend her and thank her
for taking the time to even be here on this
time with us here on the Kim Jacobs Show. So

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what I will do is I pulled up her website
because I just wanted to s Sometimes it's always good
to get a visual. Your story is the soul of
your brand. It gives your business purpose, your customers connection,
and your legacy meaning. And so when you go and
visit Monique stubs dot com, you're going to learn more
about her philanthropy work, her storytelling, how she is impactful

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as a leader, an author, a global speaker, a moderator.
If you're looking for a speaker to come to your conference,
you definitely want to get Monique Steps to come over
and speak and learn more about the different books and
how she operates in media, the awards and the services.
It's an endless connection when you get the opportunity to

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connect with Monique Stubs Hall. There are some other awards
that she also recently and we pull you back in
some awards that she recently received the pl ZS Fashion
Marketing Fashion Icon Award and she is definitely a fashion
and here's also her speaking and hosting at an event.

Speaker 2 (01:01:05):
Let's see she is.

Speaker 1 (01:01:07):
Also a Woman of Style Award, founder of Grooming Greatness Foundations.
So a lot of organizations honor and recognize Monique Stuffs
Haul for her work. These are just some other images
that I wanted to share because she had sent some
of these beautiful pictures in, Monique, can you hear me?

Speaker 2 (01:01:25):
By chance?

Speaker 1 (01:01:27):
Sometimes whenever you have to go out and come back in,
so go out and come back in. But here's another
beautiful award that is being presented as well, So I
just wanted to make sure I put some of those
up for you all. And I will tell you that
I have been honored and privileged to have her on today.

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Let me take a moment two to go back to
the studio audience and see if there are any additional
comments that's been coming in.

Speaker 2 (01:01:58):
Okay, I'm going to read this once she comes back
on so that she can get a chance to hear
it right quick.

Speaker 1 (01:02:05):
And in the meantime, I will tell you all if
I think she just popped back in. Let's see, all right,
this is this is awesome. I see lots of pictures
still backstage, and I'll pop some more of them up.
But Monique, I'm gonna bring you back in. Are you
back in? Mohen?

Speaker 5 (01:02:24):
I am back in?

Speaker 3 (01:02:25):
I said, whoa whatever.

Speaker 1 (01:02:27):
Oh, sometimes when a phone call comes in, it'll just
kick the whole thing out or somebody sent a text,
especially if you're on the phone.

Speaker 2 (01:02:33):
They do all man of stuff. But we still together.

Speaker 1 (01:02:37):
So I do want to give you the opportunity to
just acknowledge and talk about any of these beautiful pictures
that were submitted.

Speaker 5 (01:02:43):
Yes, that's my one of my grandchildren.

Speaker 1 (01:02:45):
Three.

Speaker 5 (01:02:45):
I'm a gamma. I have three grandchildren. Now I love it.

Speaker 4 (01:02:50):
That's my four year old enzo enso being so happy
with Grandma. This is one of the art galleries that
I curate art for Christian Jacobs in Gastonia. That was
our unclogged conference that we just did in September. That.

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Those are my other two grandchildren. That's Peyton and Holiday. Yes,
they're my heart. They they are really you know, the
why my kids and my grandkids those are the why.
And yeah, just enjoy when I get to spend time
with them.

Speaker 1 (01:03:33):
Yeah, they would be like they would be like, I know,
I know you did not uh not put my picture
up right, Okay a whole situation.

Speaker 2 (01:03:41):
They were like, you ended the show and did not.

Speaker 5 (01:03:43):
Yes, let me put a couple o my kids. M h,
I have four children.

Speaker 1 (01:03:50):
Yeah, we pull those in and we are going to
definitely acknowledge them.

Speaker 5 (01:03:55):
Look at yes. So these are my three three of
my three daughters, yes, and my son Gordon.

Speaker 2 (01:04:05):
You have a beautiful, beautiful family.

Speaker 4 (01:04:07):
And so your daughter is getting married, yes, August eighth,
she just got married in August.

Speaker 5 (01:04:13):
And yeah, so those are those are all the all
the joys?

Speaker 1 (01:04:19):
Now are you actually are you doing the same thing
that your parents did with you regarding your children?

Speaker 4 (01:04:27):
Yeah? I mean, you know, my kids they laugh at
me all the time because see, I'll check check them
in a minute.

Speaker 5 (01:04:32):
I'm like, mm mm, is that.

Speaker 4 (01:04:33):
What we're doing today? You know, because it's a different generation, right,
And so the thing the thing with them is they
they they may make choices and the way that they
dress and all the things because of the times we're
in and and whether I like it or not, you know,
they're grown.

Speaker 5 (01:04:52):
So they do what they do.

Speaker 4 (01:04:54):
But when it's time to show up, they know how
to show up, right, They know how to show up.
They as my mother would say, they have brought up see,
so they know how to They know how to. One
thing I can say about my kids is that they
know how to communicate. They know how to communicate because

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I have taught them those skills and they are very
fluent in the way that they speak and conduct themselves professionally,
and so I loved I love that that they've carried
that on.

Speaker 5 (01:05:29):
So it's a beautiful thing.

Speaker 1 (01:05:31):
Well, people have taken an opportunity to type paragraphs, so
I just want to make sure I acknowledge a couple
of these final comments, and then I'll get a closing
comment from you. Monique, we need to partner and have
a summer camp. I'm in theater and she does instruction.
She actually coached my son in acting, so she was
my son's acting coach as well. I'm in theater. I'm

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an instructor coach. If you choose to start that program,
please let her know.

Speaker 5 (01:05:57):
So definitely will definitely will, all right.

Speaker 1 (01:06:00):
Ellis Bradley said, Monique, I promise I will never say
to my daughter, girl, you are everywhere all over the place,
because describing yourself, you just described my daughter. She loves
assaulting the earth and living in full life. Kim VICKI
and Monique continue.

Speaker 2 (01:06:19):
To live a full, enjoyable life, is what she said.

Speaker 1 (01:06:23):
And then Justine said, I've been to the one on
Brevard Street near the bus terminal up town, Charlotte. Great
history of Brooklyn in North Carolina. I especially love it
because I'm from Brooklyn, New York, where I experience great
culture diversity that she's talking about. All right, y'all, thank

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you and thank you so much for sharing your greatness,
is what Lady Jay also said. So listen, everybody, it
has been an honor and a privilege to be here
with you today on the Kim Jacob Show, hearing from
my super special guest Monique stubs Haul, and I think
that she's brought better balance to us today. If anything

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i thank you. So much monique, closing comment how do
people stay connected?

Speaker 5 (01:08:02):
With, you okay.

Speaker 4 (01:08:06):
First, of all thank you. So much it's been. A,
pleasure yes you can stay connected with Me. ON instagram
i just started a new account after having been shut
out for over. A year but it's mo dot Stubs.
On LinkedIn It Is monique Stubs. Dash hall or you
can go to My Website monique stubs dot com and

(01:08:27):
reach out to me through my. Contact page i'm very
accessible and, would love would love to connect with any.

Speaker 2 (01:08:34):
Of you so there was one final thought that you wanted.

Speaker 1 (01:08:38):
To leave and the people that, MAKE comments i would
just encourage you to go back and listen. To Them
Because justine hilliard said that she's been on She Loves
barbard street because she's Actually, From Brooklyn, new york.

Speaker 3 (01:08:49):
So she really.

Speaker 5 (01:08:50):
Appreciates that that's, good stuff.

Speaker 2 (01:08:52):
Good stuff thank you for sharing. Your Greatness.

Speaker 1 (01:08:56):
Ellis brawley says she promises to never tell me AGAIN
that i should not be out here in the.

Speaker 3 (01:09:01):
EARTH apologize i, LOVE it i absolutely.

Speaker 5 (01:09:07):
Love it my Closing. Thoughts uh comment is really just.

Speaker 4 (01:09:15):
Very simple it's despite life's ups, and downs we must
take time to enjoy. The journey we cannot live this
entire life and just not, have joy not find, our
peace and not find. Our happiness and, so yes we're
gonna have all the, crazy happen the ups and, the

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downs and the ebbs and the flows and all. The
things but within that we have to acquire the ability
to enjoy. The journey i've been through, a LOT but
i can't say every single thing has been. Bad times
i've had a lot of good, times too And so
i've trained myself now to reflect on, the goodness, you

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know all the, good things the, good times and that's
what helps me to. Get through so that is my encouragement.
To everyone find, your joy find, your peace and be unapologetic.

Speaker 5 (01:10:15):
About.

Speaker 1 (01:10:15):
It hmm there you, have, it everyone our, Special Guests, Monique,
stuffs paul don't be apologetic about your greatness And what
god has given you. To do i'm so grateful that
you all tuned into today's Episode Of The Kim. Jacobs
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on saturday nights at Nine Pm Eastern. Standard Time, ALL
right i also want to let you all know that
we Have the Walk By faith network event that's. Coming
up It's Called What god Has For you Is. For
you it is Happening, On wednesday november nineteenth from twelve to.

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Three pm we have a group of, business entrepreneurs faith
based entrepreneurs that Love the lord and love.

Speaker 2 (01:11:09):
Some money to be able to partner together and have.

Speaker 1 (01:11:11):
Business relationships our guest speaker Has Been bernice feaster and
you can get the tickets on event bright by Typing
in Walk By. Faith Network, all, Right everybody i'm.

Speaker 2 (01:11:23):
Just grateful.

Speaker 1 (01:11:23):
I'm grateful, i'm grateful. Appreciate you how do people get
your book autographed?

Speaker 2 (01:11:29):
By you not just Going? To amazon how do they
get an autographed copy of?

Speaker 4 (01:11:32):
This book they would have to order it online and
then and then connect, with ME and i would be
happy to meet them and sign it.

Speaker 5 (01:11:41):
For them look, at.

Speaker 2 (01:11:42):
That y'all y'all can't get nicking curb side.

Speaker 1 (01:11:44):
Of system Thank you monique for blessing us because it's
been a beautiful time that we've spent. Together TODAY and
i love YOU and i, appreciate.

Speaker 5 (01:11:51):
You love, you too and thank you, so much and
thank you.

Speaker 1 (01:11:54):
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