Brian David Porter. I am a minister, a published author, a website designer, a Certified Life Coach and a motivational speaker. I’m blessed to have a motivational podcast called “Brian’s Place “ on YouTube and Spotify that’s currently in its 9th season. started it in October of 2019. I call it “The Podcast That Obedience Built” because that’s truly how it got started with obedience. I love being able to inspire people and help change the trajectory of their lives. There is also a book for every season of the podcast. So the same awesome episodes and interviews you can watch on YouTube, you can also read in a book. I transcribed everything. As of today I have 5 books ( 2 poetry books, 1 motivational book, and 2 podcast based books as of today).
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The blood over your life. Evenif you do something wrong, don't run
from the world. Repent and runto the word. God pass his arms
open to you. The Creator gotyour front, you got your back,
He got your side. You didn'tknow that you didn't have to run and
high that you will both get toeven when your backside. And let's ride
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with the angels. There's no needto cry. We'll tell you why you
are the apple upper side and you'llnever leave it. This paper never dies,
never dies, never cries. Onlyyou can never turn this back.
Since spies all eyes on the onethat makes your host rise. The Devil's
the mines right before our very dives. Satan dies can reach your for that
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prize. Pass the skies into God'syour prize. We're a pressure, but
give you that un about that mosewith the mains of twine. I do
my thing the way that God grantedup the mock snake, the brothers.
We are here, we are here, we are back, We are back.
Wow. Yeah track yeah, yeah, I think I think my wife
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thought that that was a rap andbecause she's so cute. Yeah that was
yeah, And I'm working on myrhymes. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah,
I mean for the anointing of youknow, the lyricists to come forth.
Alaiyah. Yeah what she said.I'm mister devil slay, missus devil
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slayer. We have the love chapters, right, we are, we are,
we are the Love chapter. JerryAll Kerry the Batman, our producer
listening to the Positive twenty one radionetwork. Yeah, we just say hey,
hey, hey, everybody, toall of our colleagues, followers,
our fans, our congregates, andindividuals who who are hunkering down wherever they're
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at to get this word. Youknow, you know, I just thank
God because you know when I meanhunkering down, I mean they got bullets
flying over their head. They're they'rehiding in caves, They're they're all around
one little radio trying to get thisword, this message. People that are
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there are in the lands that areoppressed, where if you find if they
find out that you're praising God ortalking about the love of Christ, they
will arrest you. Yeah, theywill arrest you. They'll you'll be ostracized,
you you might not never be seenagain. This is real. Yeah,
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just just just because you're professing thename of Christ talk so so us
here in the states. We don'tknow how good we got it. We
don't know how good we got Wedon't know. There are some there are
some places. There's some cultures thatt s if we speak on marriage,
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where the women don't get to pickout her spouse, this is true.
The family picks out the spouse forthe woman. This is true. Okay,
so we're talking about somebody that yyou might the woman might not even
be a RelA uh relatable to theman, might not even like uh,
the woman might not be attracted to. And the family goes ahead and and
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and and picks out the the uh, the wife and and the husband.
They they and the children don't haveno say so in the matter. Now,
I'm I'm not trying to diss anyculture, but that's like, you
know, we got so much freedomshere that we don't even realize. Well,
from what I understand, speaking toa woman from culture that does t
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uh still perform arrange marriages. SomeSometimes the children don't mind because there's that
level of trust factor there that theybelieve that the parents know them best or
know them well. It might workfor some and maybe not for all.
But from her, from her experienceor from her mouth. I should say
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she didn't mind. She she becausethere's, like I said, this level
of trust that has been built sinceshe was a child. She it's like,
oh, well, I know,my mom is not gonna like pick
somebody that, you know, leaveme hanging. She's gonna pick somebody that's
appropriate for me. Shee see whatI'm saying. Because I had to talk
to how to talk about that withher? And I said, hmm,
okay, interesting, pap, you'refrom my rib. You're pulling on my
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bone. Why are you going againstme? Do that? Chapters and Yeah,
listen, we've been talking about theawesotiness of God. Yeah, and
the awesoiness of God in marriage iswhat we're talking about now. As you
can see. Yeah, as youcan see, we have such a beautiful
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flow of me and my wife,a synergy, a synergy. So God
knew what he was doing when whenI sought my wife and she sought me.
He knew what he was doing,you know, because he knew that
it would be to a point wherewe would be this time talking to over
one hundred and fifty different countries,people in over one hundred and fifty different
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countries, and the synergy that wehave because he knew that it was going
to touch people's lives. Amen.Amen, Yeah, without further ado,
and we are bringing back someone whois not a stranger to the room.
More than a friend to the room. He's a brother to the room.
He is family to speaking of family, family, a brother and soon to
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be husband, a man of Godon probably when we had first started the
podcast, and we walk him back. So I'm going to step aside and
allow the men to discuss, youknow, what they need to discuss.
But we are bringing on I'm justgoing to introduce him. We have mister
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Brian David Porter, mister prophetic asback on the show to discuss all things
married, married marriage, married lifein Jesus name. Welcome back to the
love chapter. Yeah, mister BrianDavid Porter, you're there, Brian,
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Brian, you're there. Ye,outstanding. All right. At this point
in time, I'm going to havemy as the authority in this marriage,
as the leader, the head ofthe household in this marriage. I am
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I'm excusing my wife right now asthe as the big man in charge.
Okay, because this is this,this is going to be a mono e
mono thing is gonna be about themen talking, the men of God,
not just the men, but themen of God talking about marriage. You
down, you down, mister Porter. Sounds great? Yes, all right,
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all right, so bye, baball right with that being said,
you see how she smiling and stuff. Yeah, but no, no,
just this is We're gonna break thisdown. We're gonna break this down.
And man, Brian, talk tome. Man, man, I've been
I've been really great, really beengreat, enjoying this awesome journey with God
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and all that He is literally bringingme into Amen. You know from watching
where David Brian came from, BrotherBrian, Minister Brian, where he came
from, to where he's at now, I mean everything, everything is just
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uh increased. You know. Iremember at the start of twenty twenty four
we said, we said that theprophetic word was in twenty twenty four you're
going to soar, You're going toscore. And God has you scoring and
soaring right now. At this point. You found you, you found yourself
a woman of God, a loveboo you go. And I mean,
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I mean, you know it's reallygood to see you know, with you
with your faith, with your faith. Okay, I've seen you at points.
I don't want to call them lowpoints, but we'll call them because
because even though you were always atlow points, you praised God so much
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you would have never thought it wasa low point. You know. It's
like you never looked at your situation. You just looked at God. And
so given even your low even yourvalleys, seemed like like you was at
the top of the mountain, youknow. And now and now the faith
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that you professed everything is manifesting rightbefore our eyes. It's a beautiful thing,
don't you think. Wow, I'mgrateful for that. Guess. Yeah?
So where should we begin? Andman? What? Uh? Let's
talk. Let's let's let's hop rightinto it. Your love booth, your
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woman of God, your fiance talk. How did you guys meet? How
did it go down? Man?It's funny because right before we met,
I had actually given up looking forthe right one, because you know,
eight billion people in the world,that's that's a lot. So I was
just still clearly vague. I feltHoly Spirit lead me to create a profile
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on a dating site, and Iwas like, Lord, are you sure?
I haven't been on any type ofdating site since back in the eight
Black planet Black Voice. But nevertheless, I created a profile on this dating
site called Christian Mingle, and abouta week later that's when I came across
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Michelle's profile. Wow. It caughtmy gaze and caught my attention. Wow
wow, And yeah, so Ireached out your message her and she messaged
me back, and we started messagingone another. And at first, you
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know, she seemed real cool,and I thought she'd be a great guest
to have on my motivational podcast becauseshe was doing some awesome things. She
had just released the book, shespeaks at conferences, she does in her
healing counseling sessions with people. SoI had her on and then we kept
talking. And so you had heron a show on one of your shows,
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go ahead, And so I hadher on the podcast and we continued
to talk, and the more wetalked, I found myself inquiring of God
more like, okay, Lord,she seems real cool. So we we
met in person and it was awesomebecause she literally lived like maybe twenty five
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minutes for me mm hm. Andso we met in person at this park
and just sat and talked and wouldtalk more of the phone and really got
to get to know one another,and then she she invited me to her
church and I knew that guy.When I moved back down to this area,
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I knew that God was leading meto a new ministry. So I
went to her church and right awayGod is like this is it? So
I'm like okay. And so thenour relationship began to develop austo in friendship
and then into a relationship. Andof course at first it was asking God
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and it was just like, justspend more time with her, really get
to know her, and so Idid, and we started seeking God together
on what his plans worked for us, and we found we were edited in
the right direction. And I hada vision board and everything pretty much on
the vision board. She is aboveand beyond it. And yeah, back
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in December, on my birthday,December twenty sixth I proposed to her,
and obviously she said yes. Iproposed to her at my parents' house because
I told her I wanted to builda home with her. And I proposed
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to her in front of in frontof my parents because it's because of them
that I am the man that Iam today. And I'm proposed to them
in front of the Christmas tree onmy birthday because I figured the best gift
I could give myself was the ripthat God had prepared for me. And
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so obviously she said yes. Andactually on tomorrow, which is March twenty
thirty, we will be getting married. Wow. Wow, Wow, Now
I can understand why my wife callsyou the poetic prophetic because that, first
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off, the way that you justsaid everything was very poetical. And the
way that you you when I saypoet, uh put you and the way
that you and the way that youdid it that was that was that was
poetically romantic, and it spoke volumesabout the honor and respect the man that
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you are and the love and whatyou put in. And she could tell
this is serious, yeah, andthere are some things in between that.
So like we didn't everyone was surprisedwhen we announced we were engaged, because
no one knew we are a couple. Like the We didn't post anything on
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social media. We didn't tell anyonebecause we really wanted to use that time
to seek God first without the openof everyone else. So it was awesome.
Well, let me tell you somethingyou didn't hire eno and from my
wife, because my wife knew fromthe very beginning. She knew from the
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very beginning. You see, I'mon my business. I don't get involved,
you know, I just but mywife she she speaking of prophetic She
already knew she is the first daythat she was on your podcast. My
wife already knew that this was goingto be the one because you know,
we remember we prayed on this.We prayed on this, remember, and
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yeah, and uh and you knowmy wife, she she's pretty good.
She has an eye for that.Yeah, you know, but I want
to go back because you know,everything that you're saying is, of course
it's God. But I mean theway that this thing happened. Now,
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let's go back to the Christian Manglething, okay, because you know,
there was a time when I thatI was strictly against dating website and all
of that type of stuff because Ijust, I just I was never with
that. But you are not thefirst person that I know that went specifically
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to Christian mingle and and uh foundtheir love, you know. And so
I mean and and and guess what. They they're married, all the couple,
all the all the guys that Iknow that did that, all the
women that I know that did that, they found their mate, didn't found
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their spouse on Christian mingo. SoI'm not co signing it, Okay,
what I'm saying is that it's notlike it's unheard of. And for this
was funny. I saw on Ithink it was Instagram or Facebook, they
had this deacon or he was apriest or, a pastor, and he
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actually went on TikTok and asked toHe was saying, Hey, I'm available,
I'm single, and I'm looking fora wife or anybody who's interested,
Uh, come reach out to me. And people were laughing at him or
whatever the case, but you knowhe was even he turned towards social media
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to to try to find his loveall to make himself available. So what
I'm saying is is that uh,to the to the to the to the
audience and the listeners, Uh,you you have to be led by God.
Be led by God. If youreally and truly want to get married,
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uh not married, but find aspouse of of of a likable or
relatable synergy. You might be ableto find him through the website. Going
I'm going. I was just gonnasay it definitely helps to find a purpose
partner, someone who's going in thesame direction as because there's many planes in
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the side, without all the planesare going in the same direction. Wow,
say that again. Say that again. For the for the audience,
speak up, Speak up, saythat again, because your voice is a
little low there. I was saying, there's many planes in the sky,
but not every plane is going inthe same direction. So, for instance,
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you're on a plane from you're fromNew York to California. You don't
want to get and you don't wantto connect with someone who's trying to go
to Florida. That's not what thedirection you're headed. So being intentional about
finding the right one that God askedfor you is important. And the first
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part of that starts with becoming thatright one, not only waiting for the
right one, but becoming the rightone. Because I believe there's like a
supernatural magnet inside all of us thatwill attract in the sense what we are
or what we need. So youknow, you hear people talk about they
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always find themselves in batter relationship afterbetter relationship after batter relationship, and they
tend to easily blame the other person. But if you look at it to
come and denominate her and all theserelationships as you so you know, becoming
the right one is the first stepto finding the right one. Outstanding,
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outstanding. Wow. So let's goback. And that was very poetical.
You're just a poet that My wifewas right when she said you're poetic prophetic.
I mean, it's just, man, every time you speak, you're
saying something that's poetic and it's propheticand you know, wow, okay,
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So in saying that, right,so you gave up looking for the right
one. You gave up because thereason I gave up because it was tough
until the church I used to goto the majority of the people in that
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congregation were sixty years old and older. And then you know, I would
go home church and work, andat work there was no one catching my
eyes. So I'm like, okay, lord, I had to see,
like, you know, okay,Lord, I don't want to limit you.
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I know you're able to use whatevermeans it have with me. So
I was just, you know,just gave him my yest and clear as
day, I heard say, youknow, create a creative profile. Hm
hmm, it's a mingo hmm.Wow, okay, because pretty much right.
I didn't use for me. Idid the same thing I just I
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let go on. Let God.You know, for me, I was
I was that person that was searchingon my own and I would just get
with women. And you know,God, I specifically heard from God that
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I'm looking at the wrong i'msocially lookingin the other direction with most of the
women that I uh decided to getwith, and God was telling me to
go into an opposite direction. AndI never listened to him, and I
wound up did the right relationship justdid not work until I just said,
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Okay, God, you know what, I give up. I give up.
I'm leaving it to you. You'llshow me in what direction I need
to go to. And I wasjust sorry. I was just gonna say
it to Austin because it's at thatpoint when we give up that God gives
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in. Mmm, you're right,You're totally right, yep. Because because
because when we give up, ooh, this is interesting. When we give
up, we allow God the opportunityto give in, because it's only because
we're not listening to him that hecan't give in. He's given in,
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but we ain't listening, you know. But once we give up, I
guess we totally community connect with herlike like you said, somebody, you
said, a spiritual magnet. Whoelse is the best spiritual magnet to go
to? Then to God or toget the spiritual magnet in you get it
from God. So when you tuneinto God frequency, you you you,
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you, you now are magnetize tohim because now you're listening to him.
You're listening to him through what hesays, do visions. Uh, just
just when you know when you Noahthat you're up in the right place at
the right time, and that's that'sthat's basically what happens. And then you
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know it when you when you sensethat synergy with it with the person that
you that you decided to step outon when you decided to do the Christian
mingle thing that you set up yourprofile and then you're talking to this to
this woman, you're just obeying Godbecause you're talking to it. You found
up worthy to be on your onyour podcast, and then you on the
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podcast and then and as you know, you guys are out of park and
boom the park led to the sparks, right, yeah, and I'm not
love just one thing, you know, like that scripture that says God's strength
is made perfect and weakness. Youknow, it's not in our strength that
drength can't come. And we're walkingin our strength. You know, one
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has to back down so his drengthis only made perfect and in our weakness.
Yes, ye're absolutely right, Yeah, yeah, yeah, because right
right when when where we keep strong, where we keep strong, and a
lot of times we just got toadmit it. We got to admit that
we're weak. You know, wegot our willpower as humans, we're so
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we're so fickle. We're so proudthat we're proud we're fickle. We're proud
of our sickleness. And even whenwe don't understand it, when we don't
get it, even we're confused,even when we're chaotic, we still want
to forge your head, forge yourhead, like we know what we're doing
instead instead of just giving it upto God's all right, you know,
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a god take the wheel, takethe wheel, and so our God is
the key, you know, beingat his heart. You know, in
order it's one thing to pray fora woman after God's heart, but in
order to pray for a woman afterGod's heart, that moves my school at
his heart, because it's almost likeyou're going around at Amusement Park under you
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lost your child, and the child'sat the Lost and Crown Place Worthy shifting
so you can find it. Butif you're looking everywhere else for the child,
you won't find me. Amazing asamazing, that is just this.
This is some good stuff. Didyou listen to Jerry Roy's Positive Power twenty
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one Radio network where I'm the LoveChapters and mister Devil Slayer and I'm hanging
with the demon Stumper Brian David PorterOkay, and we're just rocking it out.
Uh, this is the Mono emono episode. I've I've asked my
wife to step out of the studiojust so that could be me and Brian
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and breaking it down so that othermen of God know what it takes,
we know what it really takes forGod to lead them to their to their
red. If you will hallelujah,mister Porter. Well, she surprised when
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you dropped the dropped the hammer onher at at your parents house. Did
she know what's going down or wasit a total surprise? Sir? She
was totally surprised because it was mybirthday, so she thought we were getting
dressed up to go celebrate, celebratemy birthday, and right before we walked
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out the door, I told herI wanted us to take pictures. So
my parents came with us in theliving room where the tree was, and
they wondering why I was walking aroundwith my big heavy coat to take pictures.
But the ring bots it wouldn't fitin my pocket, and so I
didn't want to have the ring boxout and I opened then, you know,
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like have my mom be like,what's that? Right? Right?
Every question? So I have thisbig jacket and then finally I got him
from the tree and dropped them oneme and took the ring botched from under
the jacket and then everything made sense. And yeah, so so you surprised
her and your parents. Yeah,nobody knew that is so wonderfully romantic and
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fantastic at the same time. Soyou had to be led by God in
order to get all that done,right. Yeah, he gave me the
vision, the detailed vision of everything, like maybe four months prior. M
hmmmm. Wow. So had youguys been talking about marriage? Had you
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guys been discussing it, you know, for the the the institution of marriage
and making it happen. Yeah,we had definitely been been talking about it,
because you know, that was thedirection that we are heading. And
we weren't just you know, datingto be dating. We were you know,
together with intentionality, which was theeventual goal of marriage. So we
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had talked about it, and eveneven as a couple, we've gone through
we've gone through canceling, a sixweek canceling course, just just as we
were talking about it. We wantto see what God is doing, and
you try to learn as much aswe could. Let me tell let me
talk to the men for a second. Let me let me let me.
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I want to talk to y'all.Can I talk to y'all? Let me
talk. I want to talk,all right. Let me tell you guys
something. Let me tell you guyssomething. Okay, let me talk to
you right through radio land. It'svery important that one you gotta be communicative.
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You gotta talk to your mate,you gotta talk to your woman.
You've gotta at the outset, allright. I don't care whether you're young
or whether you're older. You gotto know what your intentions are. If
God is leading you to the onethat you can flow with through the woman
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of God, that you can flowwith, if you believe that God has
led you to your proverbs thirty onewoman. Okay, then you got to
know what your intentions are for aproverb thirty one woman, because a proverb
s thirty one woman is looking tosettle down, they're looking to get married,
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they're looking for their bow ass.Okay, so you gotta you gotta
make sure just like mister Porter said, you gotta make sure you know what
your intentions or what is your intentionality, what is her intentionality? No doubt,
no doubt that you know women theywant to get married. Okay,
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Okay, so you gotta know.Once you know that there's a synergy,
that there's a flow, you gottabe ready to talk. You gotta be
ready to communicate with with with withyour who probably your future spouse, that
hey, this is my intentions.Everything that Brian David is saying is almost
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exactly the same way that happened withme and my wife. Okay, we
let at the outset of us goingon maybe our second day, maybe maybe
maybe the second time we got together, and our first date was in the
church. Okay, we met outof church picnic. But I think our
second or third date, we waslike, listen, the person that's gonna
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be for me. They got tobe ready to get married. They they're
gonna have to want this, sowe ever pursue anything. That's what you're
That's what we gotta want to do. That's what we've got to That's what
that's what the intentions are. WhenI here there is some happy, gold
lucky relationship and then bam out,No, we're doing this. We're doing
this for the long haul. Weset out we that was the outset and
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it went down. And another thing, there is nothing wrong with pre mapped
up counseling. Brother Porter and asister Michelle, they did it for six
weeks. Me and my wife wedid it for a year and a half.
We did barre the counseling for ayear and a half because both for
both of us we had some pride, proud obnoxious, no proud people.
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We were just proud people, andso we had to we had to cut
all that prior to side and wewent to counseling because we had we had
some stronghold there. We are somehot towns that needs to be knocked down
and that needs to be decapitated,and premamital counsel is the place where you
can get it. Done. Thepremiumity council will bring you to an end
of yourself. And uh, that'sand that's why our marriages lasted as long
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as it has, you know,and not dwindled and dwindled and bumbled and
fumbled like we don't know what we'redoing because we went to pre marvital counseling.
So there's your prequisite per requisite rightthere. Uh, letting God,
letting go, letting God, lettingGod guide you, communicating with your spouse,
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of communicating with your loved one onceyou once you, once you understand
that there's a synergy communicating with yourloved one knowing what your intentions are premarital
counseling, my right, David Porter. Yeah. Important. Then also a
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big key is you have to behonest with yourself. H m hmmm hmm.
That's true. And what better wayto be honest with yourself than by
going to God. You know,I went to God. You know,
my wife she's so she so Ijust love it so much because I can
remember at the outset of this,I told her where I was working,
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and she would she would show upat my job just to say hi,
just just just to say hi.You know. So I had to go
to God and I was like,well, I was like, God,
you know, what's what's going onwith this one? Right here? She's
coming to my job. If Iask for food, she's bringing food to
the job. As quick as shebe she came, she'd be going.
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She she's out. You see himsay. But the point, the point
is that, you know, Ihad to go to God. I said,
Okay, God, what is mywhat are my intentions with with this
woman of God? And where amI going? You know? So he
had to he had to show methat I had to be He had to
show me what everything is about andwhat is my honest intentions? And I
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would say, huh, okay,well you know what, here we go.
I'm going to pursue her. AndI asked her on a date and
it all started from there. NowI'm click clack. Now you're about to
be click clack too, Brian,click clack. You ready for that?
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Yeah, you're of some journey.Wow, Brian. Let me tell you,
man, what can you tell themen out there, the men of
God out there that are that thatare seeking marriage? I would share say,
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instead of or in the midst ofyour desire to be married, to
work on yourself to become the bestversion of yourself. Because if you're bringing,
if you're praying and believing God fora woman who's at one hundred percent,
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and then she comes and then you'reonly like at fifty percent, that's
that's not good. So if youwork on yourself and because you don't want
to enter into the marriage as alesser version of yourself when you know you
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could have been a better version ofyourself, that's uh, that's real,
real important. And one thing Shaddyis also important. I don't really care
for snakes, but one thing Ido appreciate about them is that they understand
the times and seasons. They knowwhen to shed, and they realize what
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may have worked for them before.Although it was great for before, it's
no longer needed for them now norfor their future. So they are able
to shed. And so that's important, being able to shed off old mindset,
all the way of doing things andcoming into terms as you enter began
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to enter into government, coming intoterms that there's no there's no I in
the words, and that championships arenever won by a single person, whether
it's the real will. Theory isthat let Vincelmbardi Tophian and in football that
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they're always won by a team.So you know, being I have that
unity is is extremely important when themberingthat you are a team. That's what
I would say, teamwork. Teamworkmakes the dream work. This is so
true. Wow, Brian, youyou speak with a wisdom does way way
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beyond your age. So that gotto be God as well, because you
I mean, it's everything that you'resaying is like ringing bells and stuff.
And that's that's that's very important tothe body of Christ. See, because
if you use God, you knowyou're using the most wisdomatic being that ever
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was. So why not use God? Why not use God? Uh?
If you guys listen to our pastepisodes with mister Porter, you you can
hear of the the increase that hascome into his life. You can hear
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about the where he started and wherehe's at now. It's you and then
and and and and then you'll knowwhen you are led by God, when
you're led by him the correct way, he makes it happen. He he
makes it for you to make ithappen. He makes it for you to
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uh be guided by him. Soyou could find out how he made it
all happen, you know, Butyou gotta just step out on faith.
You got to step out, yougotta you gotta know that when you're led
by God, that He's going tolead you to the green of pastors and
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Brian David Porlis has living their lifenow. Brian, I want to put
you on a hot seat. Kay, put you on the hot seat.
I have a question for you,just out of the blue, and I'm
sure you're going to have the answeralready. What does marriage mean to you
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too? Me? Marriage means beingable to walk in an awesome institution of
God's covenant with your best friend.Hm hmm. I like the walking and
covenant with your best friend. AndI think that's the problem. I think
I believe that what happens is thatsometimes people walk into marriage without being friends
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and being a best friend best friends? What to you is the best friend?
What do you mean by best friend? I want to I want you
to break it down so that theman knows and that the woman is listening.
She could take no as well,but the man. What does the
man need to know? What abest friend really? What is your example
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of a best friend? So abest friend as it pertains to your wife.
And you take the imagery an exampleof of the of the courts you
know, of the courts of God. You have the out of court,
you have the inner court, andthen you have the holies of holies,
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where the most intimate place happens betweenyou know, you and God. So
in the natural the outer court roadsthat would resemble you and your relationships with
associates. You know, everyone inthe out of court, they're just associates.
People you work with, their paston a buy on a daily basis.
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They're just a solciate friend. There'sthose people on the inner court who
who are good friends, who you'rein test with and you hang out with.
They're just good friends. And thenyou have the holies of holies,
and everyone can't go into. Everyone'sallowed in the out of court, some
people are allowed in the inner courtthat the holies of holies, everyone can't
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go in and li Likewise, inthe real sense of the relationship, that's
the place that should only be reservedfor for God. You and your best
friend, and you know you're shouldn'tbe spouse or your spouse, you know,
so when I say best friend,I mean you should not just love
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your spouse, but it definitely helpsto like them as well. You should
like, you know, hanging outwith them. I believe that's that's important.
Now, okay, gentlemen of God, you see it. You heard
it with your own eyes, withyour own ears, I should say,
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or the eyes of your ears.Now see that your best friend is somebody.
It's not in the outer court,it's not an intercourt, but has
surpassed out of an intercourt and nowis in the holiest of holies. Somebody
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who you could share your issues with. Somebody you could share your your most
intimate times with somebody who doesn't thrownin your face, that accepts you how
you are, and wait for Godto make you grow. Have you grow?
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I can tell with a surety,a spiritual surety. I can hear
it all in brother David's voice.You David, you Brian, you have
you. The confidence in which youspeak is to times more than the last
time you was on the show.The the strength, the power of your
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words, and you're just even morehumble with it. But I could just
tell you're ready, You're ready forthe plunge up, Yes, I I
am. You know it's it's ait's a great blessing. It's almost like
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you know, as a young boyyou play Mario Brothers, and what good
is going through all that trouble ofdodging, walking mushrooms and getting small get
big and capturing them flag and savingthe princess if if you never level up.
So it's so important to level up. Otherwise you're just going from you
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know, one three hundred and sixtyfive day pier to the next without you,
without any growth. So I'm I'mgrateful for growth up. Gentlemen,
you want to you want to grow, You want to grow. You better
find yourself a proverb stirdy one woman. You better be guided by God to
find yourself a proverb thirty one woman. Cause I'll tell you what my proverb
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thirty one woman. I was.I was, I was. I was
in school to be a pastor.But it wasn't until I met her that
she that we became pastors. Okay, that I might not be a pastor
today the way that I was supposedto be if it wasn't for me finding
my love Boom and God guided meto her because I was through and Brian,
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and that's what it is. Youknow, I'm I'm sure that she
is there. You know, we'rerunning out of time, we're running out
of the time. But I'm sure, Brian quickly that since she's coming to
your life, your confidence is booming. Now now, I'm sure you came
into the relationship. You know,you don't want to premium the counselor.
I know you had a hundred.I know she's at a hundred, and
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both of y'all together make a thousand. Okay, So I'm sure that her
being in your life has strengthened you, strengthen even your faith. Uh just
just just and and and have youmore focused than you've ever been than you've
ever been? Okay? Am Iright in saying that? Yeah, because
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you leveled up. If you wasn'tlevel, you leveled up now. Uh
and you're you was on you wasalready on level, but now you're leveling
up. Wow, you're batting itdown the hatchets man, And you know
that's a great thing as well.Man. Listen, listen, we're gonna
have you back on the show,but this time we're gonna bring your wife
on too if she can. Iwant, I want, we had a
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mono, we mono, I want, I want I want the ladies to
get on and have a woman woman, Okay, get it on, so
they could teach the woman of Godhow they can go about the courting process,
the relationship process, the pre maritalprocess that leads up to marriage.
Amen. And then that'd be awesome, thank you so much. All right,
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how can they reach you on ifanybody? Because I want them to
listen to your podcast too, man, I want them to hear the real
wisdom where it's all coming from.Amen. And then my motivational podcast is
currently in its ninth season. Istarted in twenty nineteen. It's called Brian's
Place. I am Post three sPlace, and that can be found on
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Spotify as well as on YouTube aswell as on Anchor FM and Google podcasts.
Amen. Amen, all right,brother Brian, we'll talk to you
soon. And for anybody, foranybody who was looking to know what marriage
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is all about, you got toknow Jesus. You got to know Jesus.
And the only way to get toknow Jesus is by repeating after me,
now's the time, Heavenly Father.I'm a sinner and I don't want
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to sin anymore. I recognize thatChrist sacrifices life on the cross for me,
for my sins, for my iniquities, for my infirmities, for my
guilt. And I want him tocome into my life right now to shape
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me, hold me, and moldme into where you God want me to
be. I repent of my sins, which means I make one hundred and
eighty degree turn to do God whatyou want me to do, which is
live a holy life. Thank youGod for having Jesus answer my life.
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And Jesus Mighty name. Amen.If you said that prayer, you are
now on your way to being theProverbs thirty one woman. If you're a
woman that God meant you to be. And if you're a man, you'd
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be that bow as. Yeah,you'd be that Jesus that God wants you
to be in life, not justin marriage, but in life. You
took the plunge up and now you'resaying, there's a thousand angels in heaven
right now that are ready to bestowupon you the blessings that God has for
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you, the anointings. And ifyou want to know your place, if
you want to know your place inthe Kingdom, you can reach out to
us. We can we can helpyou, We can help you find out
what you're calling is, if whatchurch to attend even what Bible to read?
All right, Uh, reach outto us at UFL Ministries I N
(49:28):
t L at gmail dot com.You can reach my me and my wife.
Oh boy, this is her partthat she does all of this stuff.
You can reach out to us.I think my I think my gram
is Matthew's Dayne the pastor or somethinglike that, eod on I g y'all.
And we're also on Facebook Devil SlayersKids weiyn UFL. And we are
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also on ig individually doing the pastorand at pastor Ki and his new Facebook
is Matthew's pastor Dwayne. See that'swhat they'refore seeing. Help Nate, help
Nate, help me help it allright, we gotta go, y'all.
Thank thanks Brian for coming to theshow again. Uh, like we always
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say, yeah, we love youand only God, Jesus Holy Spirit love
you for now. That's right.Let me tell you why when stop God,
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God to talk about God. God, you don't know what I'm talking
about. Let me tell you God, and check this out. God.
Let me bring it down to youJesus. Toward the time God stop,
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make the first uness,
The blood over your life. Evenif you do something wrong, don't run
from the world. Repent and runto the word. God pass his arms
open to you. The Creator gotyour front, you got your back,
He got your side. You didn'tknow that you didn't have to run and
high that you will both get toeven when your backside. And let's ride
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with the angels. There's no needto cry. We'll tell you why you
are the apple upper side and you'llnever leave it. This paper never dies,
never dies, never cries. Onlyyou can never turn this back.
Since spies all eyes on the onethat makes your host rise. The Devil's
the mines right before our very dives. Satan dies can reach your for that
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prize. Pass the skies into God'syour prize. We're a pressure, but
give you that un about that mosewith the mains of twine. I do
my thing the way that God grantedup the mock snake, the brothers.
We are here, we are here, we are back, We are back.
Wow. Yeah track yeah, yeah, I think I think my wife
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thought that that was a rap andbecause she's so cute. Yeah that was
yeah, And I'm working on myrhymes. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah,
I mean for the anointing of youknow, the lyricists to come forth.
Alaiyah. Yeah what she said.I'm mister devil slay, missus devil
(01:34):
slayer. We have the love chapters, right, we are, we are,
we are the Love chapter. JerryAll Kerry the Batman, our producer
listening to the Positive twenty one radionetwork. Yeah, we just say hey,
hey, hey, everybody, toall of our colleagues, followers,
our fans, our congregates, andindividuals who who are hunkering down wherever they're
(02:02):
at to get this word. Youknow, you know, I just thank
God because you know when I meanhunkering down, I mean they got bullets
flying over their head. They're they'rehiding in caves, They're they're all around
one little radio trying to get thisword, this message. People that are
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there are in the lands that areoppressed, where if you find if they
find out that you're praising God ortalking about the love of Christ, they
will arrest you. Yeah, theywill arrest you. They'll you'll be ostracized,
you you might not never be seenagain. This is real. Yeah,
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just just just because you're professing thename of Christ talk so so us
here in the states. We don'tknow how good we got it. We
don't know how good we got Wedon't know. There are some there are
some places. There's some cultures thatt s if we speak on marriage,
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where the women don't get to pickout her spouse, this is true.
The family picks out the spouse forthe woman. This is true. Okay,
so we're talking about somebody that yyou might the woman might not even
be a RelA uh relatable to theman, might not even like uh,
the woman might not be attracted to. And the family goes ahead and and
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and and picks out the the uh, the wife and and the husband.
They they and the children don't haveno say so in the matter. Now,
I'm I'm not trying to diss anyculture, but that's like, you
know, we got so much freedomshere that we don't even realize. Well,
from what I understand, speaking toa woman from culture that does t
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uh still perform arrange marriages. SomeSometimes the children don't mind because there's that
level of trust factor there that theybelieve that the parents know them best or
know them well. It might workfor some and maybe not for all.
But from her, from her experienceor from her mouth. I should say
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she didn't mind. She she becausethere's, like I said, this level
of trust that has been built sinceshe was a child. She it's like,
oh, well, I know,my mom is not gonna like pick
somebody that, you know, leaveme hanging. She's gonna pick somebody that's
appropriate for me. Shee see whatI'm saying. Because I had to talk
to how to talk about that withher? And I said, hmm,
okay, interesting, pap, you'refrom my rib. You're pulling on my
(04:34):
bone. Why are you going againstme? Do that? Chapters and Yeah,
listen, we've been talking about theawesotiness of God. Yeah, and
the awesoiness of God in marriage iswhat we're talking about now. As you
can see. Yeah, as youcan see, we have such a beautiful
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flow of me and my wife,a synergy, a synergy. So God
knew what he was doing when whenI sought my wife and she sought me.
He knew what he was doing,you know, because he knew that
it would be to a point wherewe would be this time talking to over
one hundred and fifty different countries,people in over one hundred and fifty different
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countries, and the synergy that wehave because he knew that it was going
to touch people's lives. Amen.Amen, Yeah, without further ado,
and we are bringing back someone whois not a stranger to the room.
More than a friend to the room. He's a brother to the room.
He is family to speaking of family, family, a brother and soon to
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be husband, a man of Godon probably when we had first started the
podcast, and we walk him back. So I'm going to step aside and
allow the men to discuss, youknow, what they need to discuss.
But we are bringing on I'm justgoing to introduce him. We have mister
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Brian David Porter, mister prophetic asback on the show to discuss all things
married, married marriage, married lifein Jesus name. Welcome back to the
love chapter. Yeah, mister BrianDavid Porter, you're there, Brian,
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Brian, you're there. Ye,outstanding. All right. At this point
in time, I'm going to havemy as the authority in this marriage,
as the leader, the head ofthe household in this marriage. I am
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I'm excusing my wife right now asthe as the big man in charge.
Okay, because this is this,this is going to be a mono e
mono thing is gonna be about themen talking, the men of God,
not just the men, but themen of God talking about marriage. You
down, you down, mister Porter. Sounds great? Yes, all right,
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all right, so bye, baball right with that being said,
you see how she smiling and stuff. Yeah, but no, no,
just this is We're gonna break thisdown. We're gonna break this down.
And man, Brian, talk tome. Man, man, I've been
I've been really great, really beengreat, enjoying this awesome journey with God
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and all that He is literally bringingme into Amen. You know from watching
where David Brian came from, BrotherBrian, Minister Brian, where he came
from, to where he's at now, I mean everything, everything is just
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uh increased. You know. Iremember at the start of twenty twenty four
we said, we said that theprophetic word was in twenty twenty four you're
going to soar, You're going toscore. And God has you scoring and
soaring right now. At this point. You found you, you found yourself
a woman of God, a loveboo you go. And I mean,
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I mean, you know it's reallygood to see you know, with you
with your faith, with your faith. Okay, I've seen you at points.
I don't want to call them lowpoints, but we'll call them because
because even though you were always atlow points, you praised God so much
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you would have never thought it wasa low point. You know. It's
like you never looked at your situation. You just looked at God. And
so given even your low even yourvalleys, seemed like like you was at
the top of the mountain, youknow. And now and now the faith
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that you professed everything is manifesting rightbefore our eyes. It's a beautiful thing,
don't you think. Wow, I'mgrateful for that. Guess. Yeah?
So where should we begin? Andman? What? Uh? Let's
talk. Let's let's let's hop rightinto it. Your love booth, your
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woman of God, your fiance talk. How did you guys meet? How
did it go down? Man?It's funny because right before we met,
I had actually given up looking forthe right one, because you know,
eight billion people in the world,that's that's a lot. So I was
just still clearly vague. I feltHoly Spirit lead me to create a profile
(10:01):
on a dating site, and Iwas like, Lord, are you sure?
I haven't been on any type ofdating site since back in the eight
Black planet Black Voice. But nevertheless, I created a profile on this dating
site called Christian Mingle, and abouta week later that's when I came across
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Michelle's profile. Wow. It caughtmy gaze and caught my attention. Wow
wow, And yeah, so Ireached out your message her and she messaged
me back, and we started messagingone another. And at first, you
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know, she seemed real cool,and I thought she'd be a great guest
to have on my motivational podcast becauseshe was doing some awesome things. She
had just released the book, shespeaks at conferences, she does in her
healing counseling sessions with people. SoI had her on and then we kept
talking. And so you had heron a show on one of your shows,
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go ahead, And so I hadher on the podcast and we continued
to talk, and the more wetalked, I found myself inquiring of God
more like, okay, Lord,she seems real cool. So we we
met in person and it was awesomebecause she literally lived like maybe twenty five
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minutes for me mm hm. Andso we met in person at this park
and just sat and talked and wouldtalk more of the phone and really got
to get to know one another,and then she she invited me to her
church and I knew that guy.When I moved back down to this area,
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I knew that God was leading meto a new ministry. So I
went to her church and right awayGod is like this is it? So
I'm like okay. And so thenour relationship began to develop austo in friendship
and then into a relationship. Andof course at first it was asking God
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and it was just like, justspend more time with her, really get
to know her, and so Idid, and we started seeking God together
on what his plans worked for us, and we found we were edited in
the right direction. And I hada vision board and everything pretty much on
the vision board. She is aboveand beyond it. And yeah, back
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in December, on my birthday,December twenty sixth I proposed to her,
and obviously she said yes. Iproposed to her at my parents' house because
I told her I wanted to builda home with her. And I proposed
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to her in front of in frontof my parents because it's because of them
that I am the man that Iam today. And I'm proposed to them
in front of the Christmas tree onmy birthday because I figured the best gift
I could give myself was the ripthat God had prepared for me. And
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so obviously she said yes. Andactually on tomorrow, which is March twenty
thirty, we will be getting married. Wow. Wow, Wow, Now
I can understand why my wife callsyou the poetic prophetic because that, first
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off, the way that you justsaid everything was very poetical. And the
way that you you when I saypoet, uh put you and the way
that you and the way that youdid it that was that was that was
poetically romantic, and it spoke volumesabout the honor and respect the man that
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you are and the love and whatyou put in. And she could tell
this is serious, yeah, andthere are some things in between that.
So like we didn't everyone was surprisedwhen we announced we were engaged, because
no one knew we are a couple. Like the We didn't post anything on
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social media. We didn't tell anyonebecause we really wanted to use that time
to seek God first without the openof everyone else. So it was awesome.
Well, let me tell you somethingyou didn't hire eno and from my
wife, because my wife knew fromthe very beginning. She knew from the
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very beginning. You see, I'mon my business. I don't get involved,
you know, I just but mywife she she speaking of prophetic She
already knew she is the first daythat she was on your podcast. My
wife already knew that this was goingto be the one because you know,
we remember we prayed on this.We prayed on this, remember, and
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yeah, and uh and you knowmy wife, she she's pretty good.
She has an eye for that.Yeah, you know, but I want
to go back because you know,everything that you're saying is, of course
it's God. But I mean theway that this thing happened. Now,
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let's go back to the Christian Manglething, okay, because you know,
there was a time when I thatI was strictly against dating website and all
of that type of stuff because Ijust, I just I was never with
that. But you are not thefirst person that I know that went specifically
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to Christian mingle and and uh foundtheir love, you know. And so
I mean and and and guess what. They they're married, all the couple,
all the all the guys that Iknow that did that, all the
women that I know that did that, they found their mate, didn't found
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their spouse on Christian mingo. SoI'm not co signing it, Okay,
what I'm saying is that it's notlike it's unheard of. And for this
was funny. I saw on Ithink it was Instagram or Facebook, they
had this deacon or he was apriest or, a pastor, and he
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actually went on TikTok and asked toHe was saying, Hey, I'm available,
I'm single, and I'm looking fora wife or anybody who's interested,
Uh, come reach out to me. And people were laughing at him or
whatever the case, but you knowhe was even he turned towards social media
(17:17):
to to try to find his loveall to make himself available. So what
I'm saying is is that uh,to the to the to the to the
audience and the listeners, Uh,you you have to be led by God.
Be led by God. If youreally and truly want to get married,
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uh not married, but find aspouse of of of a likable or
relatable synergy. You might be ableto find him through the website. Going
I'm going. I was just gonnasay it definitely helps to find a purpose
partner, someone who's going in thesame direction as because there's many planes in
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the side, without all the planesare going in the same direction. Wow,
say that again. Say that again. For the for the audience,
speak up, Speak up, saythat again, because your voice is a
little low there. I was saying, there's many planes in the sky,
but not every plane is going inthe same direction. So, for instance,
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you're on a plane from you're fromNew York to California. You don't
want to get and you don't wantto connect with someone who's trying to go
to Florida. That's not what thedirection you're headed. So being intentional about
finding the right one that God askedfor you is important. And the first
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part of that starts with becoming thatright one, not only waiting for the
right one, but becoming the rightone. Because I believe there's like a
supernatural magnet inside all of us thatwill attract in the sense what we are
or what we need. So youknow, you hear people talk about they
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always find themselves in batter relationship afterbetter relationship after batter relationship, and they
tend to easily blame the other person. But if you look at it to
come and denominate her and all theserelationships as you so you know, becoming
the right one is the first stepto finding the right one. Outstanding,
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outstanding. Wow. So let's goback. And that was very poetical.
You're just a poet that My wifewas right when she said you're poetic prophetic.
I mean, it's just, man, every time you speak, you're
saying something that's poetic and it's propheticand you know, wow, okay,
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So in saying that, right,so you gave up looking for the right
one. You gave up because thereason I gave up because it was tough
until the church I used to goto the majority of the people in that
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congregation were sixty years old and older. And then you know, I would
go home church and work, andat work there was no one catching my
eyes. So I'm like, okay, lord, I had to see,
like, you know, okay,Lord, I don't want to limit you.
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I know you're able to use whatevermeans it have with me. So
I was just, you know,just gave him my yest and clear as
day, I heard say, youknow, create a creative profile. Hm
hmm, it's a mingo hmm.Wow, okay, because pretty much right.
I didn't use for me. Idid the same thing I just I
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let go on. Let God.You know, for me, I was
I was that person that was searchingon my own and I would just get
with women. And you know,God, I specifically heard from God that
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I'm looking at the wrong i'msocially lookingin the other direction with most of the
women that I uh decided to getwith, and God was telling me to
go into an opposite direction. AndI never listened to him, and I
wound up did the right relationship justdid not work until I just said,
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Okay, God, you know what, I give up. I give up.
I'm leaving it to you. You'llshow me in what direction I need
to go to. And I wasjust sorry. I was just gonna say
it to Austin because it's at thatpoint when we give up that God gives
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in. Mmm, you're right,You're totally right, yep. Because because
because when we give up, ooh, this is interesting. When we give
up, we allow God the opportunityto give in, because it's only because
we're not listening to him that hecan't give in. He's given in,
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but we ain't listening, you know. But once we give up, I
guess we totally community connect with herlike like you said, somebody, you
said, a spiritual magnet. Whoelse is the best spiritual magnet to go
to? Then to God or toget the spiritual magnet in you get it
from God. So when you tuneinto God frequency, you you you,
(22:55):
you, you now are magnetize tohim because now you're listening to him.
You're listening to him through what hesays, do visions. Uh, just
just when you know when you Noahthat you're up in the right place at
the right time, and that's that'sthat's basically what happens. And then you
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know it when you when you sensethat synergy with it with the person that
you that you decided to step outon when you decided to do the Christian
mingle thing that you set up yourprofile and then you're talking to this to
this woman, you're just obeying Godbecause you're talking to it. You found
up worthy to be on your onyour podcast, and then you on the
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podcast and then and as you know, you guys are out of park and
boom the park led to the sparks, right, yeah, and I'm not
love just one thing, you know, like that scripture that says God's strength
is made perfect and weakness. Youknow, it's not in our strength that
drength can't come. And we're walkingin our strength. You know, one
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has to back down so his drengthis only made perfect and in our weakness.
Yes, ye're absolutely right, Yeah, yeah, yeah, because right
right when when where we keep strong, where we keep strong, and a
lot of times we just got toadmit it. We got to admit that
we're weak. You know, wegot our willpower as humans, we're so
(24:25):
we're so fickle. We're so proudthat we're proud we're fickle. We're proud
of our sickleness. And even whenwe don't understand it, when we don't
get it, even we're confused,even when we're chaotic, we still want
to forge your head, forge yourhead, like we know what we're doing
instead instead of just giving it upto God's all right, you know,
(24:47):
a god take the wheel, takethe wheel, and so our God is
the key, you know, beingat his heart. You know, in
order it's one thing to pray fora woman after God's heart, but in
order to pray for a woman afterGod's heart, that moves my school at
his heart, because it's almost likeyou're going around at Amusement Park under you
(25:10):
lost your child, and the child'sat the Lost and Crown Place Worthy shifting
so you can find it. Butif you're looking everywhere else for the child,
you won't find me. Amazing asamazing, that is just this.
This is some good stuff. Didyou listen to Jerry Roy's Positive Power twenty
(25:30):
one Radio network where I'm the LoveChapters and mister Devil Slayer and I'm hanging
with the demon Stumper Brian David PorterOkay, and we're just rocking it out.
Uh, this is the Mono emono episode. I've I've asked my
wife to step out of the studiojust so that could be me and Brian
(25:53):
and breaking it down so that othermen of God know what it takes,
we know what it really takes forGod to lead them to their to their
red. If you will hallelujah,mister Porter. Well, she surprised when
(26:14):
you dropped the dropped the hammer onher at at your parents house. Did
she know what's going down or wasit a total surprise? Sir? She
was totally surprised because it was mybirthday, so she thought we were getting
dressed up to go celebrate, celebratemy birthday, and right before we walked
(26:36):
out the door, I told herI wanted us to take pictures. So
my parents came with us in theliving room where the tree was, and
they wondering why I was walking aroundwith my big heavy coat to take pictures.
But the ring bots it wouldn't fitin my pocket, and so I
didn't want to have the ring boxout and I opened then, you know,
(27:00):
like have my mom be like,what's that? Right? Right?
Every question? So I have thisbig jacket and then finally I got him
from the tree and dropped them oneme and took the ring botched from under
the jacket and then everything made sense. And yeah, so so you surprised
her and your parents. Yeah,nobody knew that is so wonderfully romantic and
(27:29):
fantastic at the same time. Soyou had to be led by God in
order to get all that done,right. Yeah, he gave me the
vision, the detailed vision of everything, like maybe four months prior. M
hmmmm. Wow. So had youguys been talking about marriage? Had you
(27:55):
guys been discussing it, you know, for the the the institution of marriage
and making it happen. Yeah,we had definitely been been talking about it,
because you know, that was thedirection that we are heading. And
we weren't just you know, datingto be dating. We were you know,
together with intentionality, which was theeventual goal of marriage. So we
(28:19):
had talked about it, and eveneven as a couple, we've gone through
we've gone through canceling, a sixweek canceling course, just just as we
were talking about it. We wantto see what God is doing, and
you try to learn as much aswe could. Let me tell let me
talk to the men for a second. Let me let me let me.
(28:40):
I want to talk to y'all.Can I talk to y'all? Let me
talk. I want to talk,all right. Let me tell you guys
something. Let me tell you guyssomething. Okay, let me talk to
you right through radio land. It'svery important that one you gotta be communicative.
(29:03):
You gotta talk to your mate,you gotta talk to your woman.
You've gotta at the outset, allright. I don't care whether you're young
or whether you're older. You gotto know what your intentions are. If
God is leading you to the onethat you can flow with through the woman
(29:34):
of God, that you can flowwith, if you believe that God has
led you to your proverbs thirty onewoman. Okay, then you got to
know what your intentions are for aproverb thirty one woman, because a proverb
s thirty one woman is looking tosettle down, they're looking to get married,
(29:59):
they're looking for their bow ass.Okay, so you gotta you gotta
make sure just like mister Porter said, you gotta make sure you know what
your intentions or what is your intentionality, what is her intentionality? No doubt,
no doubt that you know women theywant to get married. Okay,
(30:23):
Okay, so you gotta know.Once you know that there's a synergy,
that there's a flow, you gottabe ready to talk. You gotta be
ready to communicate with with with withyour who probably your future spouse, that
hey, this is my intentions.Everything that Brian David is saying is almost
(30:44):
exactly the same way that happened withme and my wife. Okay, we
let at the outset of us goingon maybe our second day, maybe maybe
maybe the second time we got together, and our first date was in the
church. Okay, we met outof church picnic. But I think our
second or third date, we waslike, listen, the person that's gonna
(31:06):
be for me. They got tobe ready to get married. They they're
gonna have to want this, sowe ever pursue anything. That's what you're
That's what we gotta want to do. That's what we've got to That's what
that's what the intentions are. WhenI here there is some happy, gold
lucky relationship and then bam out,No, we're doing this. We're doing
this for the long haul. Weset out we that was the outset and
(31:29):
it went down. And another thing, there is nothing wrong with pre mapped
up counseling. Brother Porter and asister Michelle, they did it for six
weeks. Me and my wife wedid it for a year and a half.
We did barre the counseling for ayear and a half because both for
both of us we had some pride, proud obnoxious, no proud people.
(31:51):
We were just proud people, andso we had to we had to cut
all that prior to side and wewent to counseling because we had we had
some stronghold there. We are somehot towns that needs to be knocked down
and that needs to be decapitated,and premamital counsel is the place where you
can get it. Done. Thepremiumity council will bring you to an end
of yourself. And uh, that'sand that's why our marriages lasted as long
(32:15):
as it has, you know,and not dwindled and dwindled and bumbled and
fumbled like we don't know what we'redoing because we went to pre marvital counseling.
So there's your prequisite per requisite rightthere. Uh, letting God,
letting go, letting God, lettingGod guide you, communicating with your spouse,
(32:42):
of communicating with your loved one onceyou once you, once you understand
that there's a synergy communicating with yourloved one knowing what your intentions are premarital
counseling, my right, David Porter. Yeah. Important. Then also a
(33:06):
big key is you have to behonest with yourself. H m hmmm hmm.
That's true. And what better wayto be honest with yourself than by
going to God. You know,I went to God. You know,
my wife she's so she so Ijust love it so much because I can
remember at the outset of this,I told her where I was working,
(33:29):
and she would she would show upat my job just to say hi,
just just just to say hi.You know. So I had to go
to God and I was like,well, I was like, God,
you know, what's what's going onwith this one? Right here? She's
coming to my job. If Iask for food, she's bringing food to
the job. As quick as shebe she came, she'd be going.
(33:50):
She she's out. You see himsay. But the point, the point
is that, you know, Ihad to go to God. I said,
Okay, God, what is mywhat are my intentions with with this
woman of God? And where amI going? You know? So he
had to he had to show methat I had to be He had to
show me what everything is about andwhat is my honest intentions? And I
(34:15):
would say, huh, okay,well you know what, here we go.
I'm going to pursue her. AndI asked her on a date and
it all started from there. NowI'm click clack. Now you're about to
be click clack too, Brian,click clack. You ready for that?
(34:36):
Yeah, you're of some journey.Wow, Brian. Let me tell you,
man, what can you tell themen out there, the men of
God out there that are that thatare seeking marriage? I would share say,
(34:58):
instead of or in the midst ofyour desire to be married, to
work on yourself to become the bestversion of yourself. Because if you're bringing,
if you're praying and believing God fora woman who's at one hundred percent,
(35:24):
and then she comes and then you'reonly like at fifty percent, that's
that's not good. So if youwork on yourself and because you don't want
to enter into the marriage as alesser version of yourself when you know you
(35:44):
could have been a better version ofyourself, that's uh, that's real,
real important. And one thing Shaddyis also important. I don't really care
for snakes, but one thing Ido appreciate about them is that they understand
the times and seasons. They knowwhen to shed, and they realize what
(36:07):
may have worked for them before.Although it was great for before, it's
no longer needed for them now norfor their future. So they are able
to shed. And so that's important, being able to shed off old mindset,
all the way of doing things andcoming into terms as you enter began
(36:32):
to enter into government, coming intoterms that there's no there's no I in
the words, and that championships arenever won by a single person, whether
it's the real will. Theory isthat let Vincelmbardi Tophian and in football that
(36:53):
they're always won by a team.So you know, being I have that
unity is is extremely important when themberingthat you are a team. That's what
I would say, teamwork. Teamworkmakes the dream work. This is so
true. Wow, Brian, youyou speak with a wisdom does way way
(37:21):
beyond your age. So that gotto be God as well, because you
I mean, it's everything that you'resaying is like ringing bells and stuff.
And that's that's that's very important tothe body of Christ. See, because
if you use God, you knowyou're using the most wisdomatic being that ever
(37:45):
was. So why not use God? Why not use God? Uh?
If you guys listen to our pastepisodes with mister Porter, you you can
hear of the the increase that hascome into his life. You can hear
(38:07):
about the where he started and wherehe's at now. It's you and then
and and and and then you'll knowwhen you are led by God, when
you're led by him the correct way, he makes it happen. He he
makes it for you to make ithappen. He makes it for you to
(38:31):
uh be guided by him. Soyou could find out how he made it
all happen, you know, Butyou gotta just step out on faith.
You got to step out, yougotta you gotta know that when you're led
by God, that He's going tolead you to the green of pastors and
(38:52):
Brian David Porlis has living their lifenow. Brian, I want to put
you on a hot seat. Kay, put you on the hot seat.
I have a question for you,just out of the blue, and I'm
sure you're going to have the answeralready. What does marriage mean to you
(39:13):
too? Me? Marriage means beingable to walk in an awesome institution of
God's covenant with your best friend.Hm hmm. I like the walking and
covenant with your best friend. AndI think that's the problem. I think
I believe that what happens is thatsometimes people walk into marriage without being friends
(39:42):
and being a best friend best friends? What to you is the best friend?
What do you mean by best friend? I want to I want you
to break it down so that theman knows and that the woman is listening.
She could take no as well,but the man. What does the
man need to know? What abest friend really? What is your example
(40:06):
of a best friend? So abest friend as it pertains to your wife.
And you take the imagery an exampleof of the of the courts you
know, of the courts of God. You have the out of court,
you have the inner court, andthen you have the holies of holies,
(40:28):
where the most intimate place happens betweenyou know, you and God. So
in the natural the outer court roadsthat would resemble you and your relationships with
associates. You know, everyone inthe out of court, they're just associates.
People you work with, their paston a buy on a daily basis.
(40:49):
They're just a solciate friend. There'sthose people on the inner court who
who are good friends, who you'rein test with and you hang out with.
They're just good friends. And thenyou have the holies of holies,
and everyone can't go into. Everyone'sallowed in the out of court, some
people are allowed in the inner courtthat the holies of holies, everyone can't
(41:13):
go in and li Likewise, inthe real sense of the relationship, that's
the place that should only be reservedfor for God. You and your best
friend, and you know you're shouldn'tbe spouse or your spouse, you know,
so when I say best friend,I mean you should not just love
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your spouse, but it definitely helpsto like them as well. You should
like, you know, hanging outwith them. I believe that's that's important.
Now, okay, gentlemen of God, you see it. You heard
it with your own eyes, withyour own ears, I should say,
(41:57):
or the eyes of your ears.Now see that your best friend is somebody.
It's not in the outer court,it's not an intercourt, but has
surpassed out of an intercourt and nowis in the holiest of holies. Somebody
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who you could share your issues with. Somebody you could share your your most
intimate times with somebody who doesn't thrownin your face, that accepts you how
you are, and wait for Godto make you grow. Have you grow?
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I can tell with a surety,a spiritual surety. I can hear
it all in brother David's voice.You David, you Brian, you have
you. The confidence in which youspeak is to times more than the last
time you was on the show.The the strength, the power of your
(43:06):
words, and you're just even morehumble with it. But I could just
tell you're ready, You're ready forthe plunge up, Yes, I I
am. You know it's it's ait's a great blessing. It's almost like
(43:28):
you know, as a young boyyou play Mario Brothers, and what good
is going through all that trouble ofdodging, walking mushrooms and getting small get
big and capturing them flag and savingthe princess if if you never level up.
So it's so important to level up. Otherwise you're just going from you
(43:51):
know, one three hundred and sixtyfive day pier to the next without you,
without any growth. So I'm I'mgrateful for growth up. Gentlemen,
you want to you want to grow, You want to grow. You better
find yourself a proverb stirdy one woman. You better be guided by God to
find yourself a proverb thirty one woman. Cause I'll tell you what my proverb
(44:15):
thirty one woman. I was.I was, I was. I was
in school to be a pastor.But it wasn't until I met her that
she that we became pastors. Okay, that I might not be a pastor
today the way that I was supposedto be if it wasn't for me finding
my love Boom and God guided meto her because I was through and Brian,
(44:40):
and that's what it is. Youknow, I'm I'm sure that she
is there. You know, we'rerunning out of time, we're running out
of the time. But I'm sure, Brian quickly that since she's coming to
your life, your confidence is booming. Now now, I'm sure you came
into the relationship. You know,you don't want to premium the counselor.
I know you had a hundred.I know she's at a hundred, and
(45:00):
both of y'all together make a thousand. Okay, So I'm sure that her
being in your life has strengthened you, strengthen even your faith. Uh just
just just and and and have youmore focused than you've ever been than you've
ever been? Okay? Am Iright in saying that? Yeah, because
(45:25):
you leveled up. If you wasn'tlevel, you leveled up now. Uh
and you're you was on you wasalready on level, but now you're leveling
up. Wow, you're batting itdown the hatchets man, And you know
that's a great thing as well.Man. Listen, listen, we're gonna
have you back on the show,but this time we're gonna bring your wife
on too if she can. Iwant, I want, we had a
(45:50):
mono, we mono, I want, I want I want the ladies to
get on and have a woman woman, Okay, get it on, so
they could teach the woman of Godhow they can go about the courting process,
the relationship process, the pre maritalprocess that leads up to marriage.
Amen. And then that'd be awesome, thank you so much. All right,
(46:14):
how can they reach you on ifanybody? Because I want them to
listen to your podcast too, man, I want them to hear the real
wisdom where it's all coming from.Amen. And then my motivational podcast is
currently in its ninth season. Istarted in twenty nineteen. It's called Brian's
Place. I am Post three sPlace, and that can be found on
(46:38):
Spotify as well as on YouTube aswell as on Anchor FM and Google podcasts.
Amen. Amen, all right,brother Brian, we'll talk to you
soon. And for anybody, foranybody who was looking to know what marriage
(47:02):
is all about, you got toknow Jesus. You got to know Jesus.
And the only way to get toknow Jesus is by repeating after me,
now's the time, Heavenly Father.I'm a sinner and I don't want
(47:22):
to sin anymore. I recognize thatChrist sacrifices life on the cross for me,
for my sins, for my iniquities, for my infirmities, for my
guilt. And I want him tocome into my life right now to shape
(47:49):
me, hold me, and moldme into where you God want me to
be. I repent of my sins, which means I make one hundred and
eighty degree turn to do God whatyou want me to do, which is
live a holy life. Thank youGod for having Jesus answer my life.
(48:15):
And Jesus Mighty name. Amen.If you said that prayer, you are
now on your way to being theProverbs thirty one woman. If you're a
woman that God meant you to be. And if you're a man, you'd
(48:37):
be that bow as. Yeah,you'd be that Jesus that God wants you
to be in life, not justin marriage, but in life. You
took the plunge up and now you'resaying, there's a thousand angels in heaven
right now that are ready to bestowupon you the blessings that God has for
(49:01):
you, the anointings. And ifyou want to know your place, if
you want to know your place inthe Kingdom, you can reach out to
us. We can we can helpyou, We can help you find out
what you're calling is, if whatchurch to attend even what Bible to read?
All right, Uh, reach outto us at UFL Ministries I N
(49:28):
t L at gmail dot com.You can reach my me and my wife.
Oh boy, this is her partthat she does all of this stuff.
You can reach out to us.I think my I think my gram
is Matthew's Dayne the pastor or somethinglike that, eod on I g y'all.
And we're also on Facebook Devil SlayersKids weiyn UFL. And we are
(49:53):
also on ig individually doing the pastorand at pastor Ki and his new Facebook
is Matthew's pastor Dwayne. See that'swhat they'refore seeing. Help Nate, help
Nate, help me help it allright, we gotta go, y'all.
Thank thanks Brian for coming to theshow again. Uh, like we always
(50:14):
say, yeah, we love youand only God, Jesus Holy Spirit love
you for now. That's right.Let me tell you why when stop God,
(50:35):
God to talk about God. God, you don't know what I'm talking
about. Let me tell you God, and check this out. God.
Let me bring it down to youJesus. Toward the time God stop,
(50:58):
make the first uness,
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