Sideshow Episode 239

Tony's  trip to AZ.

Mingo's Birthday!!! Next week!!

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, everybody, welcome back to the side show. My

(00:02):
name is Mingo. Wow, you really let go of the
trying the extra names.

Speaker 2 (00:08):
Yeah, I would like put the THEK on that one.

Speaker 3 (00:13):
What she What does she have to say to you
for you to finally get it that I haven't said
to you.

Speaker 2 (00:19):
It comes. It's a lot more coming from her than
it is from you.

Speaker 1 (00:25):
It was either quitit or you don't hear. Is that
what you mean?

Speaker 2 (00:30):
I think I just mentioned this before, but the I
don't know how when you start watching TV, if like
the old people commercials are still on. Yes, uh, there's
one that's called sky Rizzy, some sort of a medicine,
So that comes on a lot, like every day. And

(00:50):
when that comes on, you know, I'll go tone Rizzy
and she just like shakes her head. She can't stand
it that she right, don't he hates that one?

Speaker 1 (01:01):
That's hilarious.

Speaker 3 (01:03):
This weekend, you went out to Phoenix for Manny's dad
Many's birthday.

Speaker 2 (01:09):
Yeah, how was that? It was good? It was real good.

Speaker 1 (01:17):
Well, yeah, sounds really exciting.

Speaker 2 (01:19):
No, it's just I don't know where to start. I
don't know if I should start from the beginning or
just start from the party and then go backwards.

Speaker 1 (01:25):
No, start from the beginning. Okay, start at the beginning,
jump to the end, and then go to the party.

Speaker 2 (01:32):
Uh. My car, my wife and I have, we have
our own cars. My car, you know, nothing wrong with it,
but you know it's got like twenty two inch rims
with low profile tires.

Speaker 1 (01:47):
It's a perfect going out of the town car.

Speaker 2 (01:49):
And so I don't like taking it out of the town.
What it's a as as I tell my wife, which
she doesn't like as well. It's nicknamed the pitmobile. Okay,
it's not for traveling. It's for you know, cruising around town.
It's the pitmobile. And then when she drives it, I say,
you can't drive it. You ain't a pimp. Follow what

(02:10):
I'm saying. Uh huh, because you know who I am?
What a pim? Okay, So uh, when we go out
of town, what we've been doing is we take my
mama's car. My MoMA has a toyto Camri Okay. And

(02:30):
that really started when we just go visit my daughter. Okay,
you know I don't want to get I don't want
to be in LA and have somebody pull up up
with a gun and say get out, I'm taking your ride.
They're not gonna take a camera.

Speaker 1 (02:43):
Ain't nobody gotta checked that? What years your three.

Speaker 2 (02:45):
Hundred uh two thousand and nine?

Speaker 1 (02:47):
I think, ain't nobody pulling up on you with a gun?
Is still your sixteen?

Speaker 2 (02:52):
Man? If we walked, if we walk to your driveway
right now and say and told people which car you're
gonna want, they're gonna want mine, okay, trust me.

Speaker 1 (03:01):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (03:03):
So, plus, my mom's car doesn't get driven that much.
She doesn't drive anymore, so it's got to get you know,
you gotta drive a car every once in a while, right,
and even more than that. So we took it to
La the weekend.

Speaker 1 (03:18):
What years academy?

Speaker 2 (03:20):
I think it's twenty twelve.

Speaker 3 (03:23):
Okay, it's a lot of miles on it, not very
much like eighty eighty thousand.

Speaker 1 (03:28):
That's pretty good.

Speaker 2 (03:28):
My my Crisher got eighty two.

Speaker 1 (03:31):
You' got eighty two thousand miles on it.

Speaker 2 (03:33):
Yeah, yeah, I told you pitmobile.

Speaker 1 (03:36):
So we just have got the big rims so they're
spinning less.

Speaker 2 (03:43):
So, like I said, we take it to my daughter's house.

Speaker 1 (03:46):
You know.

Speaker 2 (03:47):
Plus, you know in La, dude, you're getting door things.
Is it's horrible out there, trust me.

Speaker 1 (03:53):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (03:55):
Took it to La no problem, you know, everything was cool.
So I told him, mom, but take it again next
weekend to Phoenix. She was like, ooh, whatever, I don't
drive it. Friday. I was ready to leave. Friday was
Manuel's Manuel's birthday, right, so I don't know if he's
going out to dinner with his old lady. I don't
know what they're doing. So I was, you know, I

(04:18):
hit him up at about three point thirty. I said, Yo,
I'm about to leave. Is it cool? I mean, you're home,
you can you know I've rolled about eight You gonna
be good. And so he actually facetimes he back and
he's like, man, we're waiting on you. So his dad
is there, his uncle Rick is there, his cousin Tony's

(04:41):
there is because the Dino's there. I don't know if
his brother was there. He's got another cousin. I was there,
like FaceTime. I was like, oh shit, okay, I didn't
know it was like that, you know what I'm saying.
So I'm like, all right, I'm out. I'm four hours, kid,
I'm there. I pull out a driveway and I swear
to God, the car was kind of like shaking, like

(05:03):
it just didn't feel right. I was like, man, I
should just go rent a car. And I still didn't
want to take my car, but I was just like,
I should just go rent a car. I was like,
by the time I do that, it's gonna be at
least another two hours. Go home, catch a new to
the airport, get a car, come back, load the new

(05:27):
car up. I'm going back. That's gonna put me back
two hours. What could go wrong? Right? My lady told
me to go get win shit wipers because Friday we
had some weird weather. On Friday starts rain. So I
did that, took off about an hour into the to

(05:52):
the drive. Dude, it was raining a hard kid, So
going into just past yeah drive right before Coachella, right
after Coachella, before like Desert Center, dude. This started rating buckets, kid.
And then it's funny because you can see like lightning
out in the in the desert, which is weird. So
I'm rolling and I didn't realize, dude, they got solar

(06:14):
farms out there, really, dude, Miles of solar panels, miles
and miles of solar panels.

Speaker 1 (06:23):
So why is electricity so expensive? Dog.

Speaker 2 (06:26):
It looked like a humongous lake out there because it
was just blash. Yeah, and then I noticed that there aren't.
And the reason I noticed because on the way back
they were like tilted facing the sun, right the west sun.
And when I came was coming back, they were like
straight up and down because of the noon sun. You

(06:48):
know what I'm s so like something controls them to
to face the sun. It's a trip anyways, three hours
into the drive, kid, Now I'm on cruise control, going
to eighty three hours into the drive.

Speaker 1 (07:03):
Which means that there's nothing to the left and nothing
to the right.

Speaker 2 (07:07):
And there ain't been nothing for the last couple hours.
It ain't gonna be nothing for at least another half
an hour of the check engine light starts blinking. Oh
sh and that traction light, you know, it's got a
little car with like the road kind of behind it
right that comes on. But nothing seems wrong, And I'm like, okay,

(07:31):
at one point, as you do when you got cruise control,
you gotta break because if you can't, if you roll
up on somebody, you gotta break, you know, work around it,
and then you can hit resume, and you know how
the car kind of speeds up on its own. Right, Well,
that happened, and when it happened, it kind of like jerked,
and Bro, the RPMs shot up to like five and

(07:51):
a half and the speedometer went from eighty to seventy,
and Bro, I was starting trying to give a gas
to see what was going on, and it wouldn't move.
It wasn't slowing down below seventy. But the RPMs, like
I said, we're at like five and a half. Six
is redlining six and a half. I think, Okay, so

(08:13):
I know nothing about cars, but I know I'm not
gonna be able to sustain what I'm doing for the
next hour.

Speaker 1 (08:22):
Right So.

Speaker 2 (08:24):
I'm thinking in my head, Okay, what am I gonna do?
What am I doing? What am I doing? Tow truck?
If I got to call it tow truck? Okay, I'm
only an hour out to Mango's house. I gotta get
to Manos house because I got speakers for the party,
so you know, I gotta get there. I can't know
a little bit about cars, not.

Speaker 3 (08:42):
From three and a half hours away, but I got it.
I get what you're saying.

Speaker 2 (08:47):
And I was thinking about calling a rob because he
knows about cars. Okay, Now, I just didn't want to
call you guys because I'm three hours away. I don't
want you guys even thinking about having you probably wouldn't
have thinking about coming to get me, Okay. Rob would
have been like, dude, give me three hours. I'll be there.

Speaker 1 (09:06):
But like for you an hour away from me.

Speaker 2 (09:10):
I didn't want to call Manny because he's got house guests.
I don't want dam worrying about me, you know what
I'm saying. So like, now I'm you know, fucked my uncle?
Do me go New York. He used to be a
mechanic too. He got no there's no way for him
to come and help me, right, So I'm like, I'm
gonna call him, call him up. He's like, Yo, I

(09:31):
don't know. I told him exactly what happened. It's like,
I have no idea sound was like, something's going on
with your transmission. It's not shifting gears. It's locked up
in a high gear or a low gear, and it's revn.
So he says, uh, he confirmed, Yo, you can't drive
it like that for long because you're gonna burn something out.

(09:54):
So he says, dude, pull over, and I'm like, bro,
I'm in the middle of nowhere, kid, What if I
pull over and I can't get going again?

Speaker 1 (10:02):
You know?

Speaker 3 (10:03):
You know what would have been perfect for you on
this on this mission, we're doing a couple of things.
Uh would have been a survival bag and a gun.
I'm just saying, middle of nowhere. I don't know if
you've seen the hills, have eyes, Probably good to have

(10:25):
a gun.

Speaker 1 (10:26):
Uh.

Speaker 3 (10:27):
Survival bag would have had a way to start fire,
would have had a little bit of snacks, a little
way to keep you warm.

Speaker 2 (10:32):
You know. I wasn't concerned about that per se. It
was more of if you get a hold. If you
can get a hold of a tow truck driver, it
ain't like he's probably gonna come straight out. So if
I'm an hour out from a major city, you about
three hours, yeah, exactly. And again that's cool. I'm all
right with that because I gotta get there right. So

(10:54):
he tells me pull and I'm like, dude, And there's
an off ramp coming up. In off ramp that seems
to go nowhere, you know what I mean. You can
go left or right off the off ramp, but where
is it going? Because you can still see miles and
where is that going? But okay, So I get off
the next off ing, I hang up with whatever. I
was like, look, i'll give you a call back. Let

(11:15):
me see what I'm gonna do. So I take the
off ramp. I hit my brakes. As soon as I
hit my brakes, bro everything went back to normal. RPMs
went to like two two and a half. I was
able to give a gas it, you know, I got
more speed. The traction and the attraction solid light and
the blinking engine light was still going, but at least

(11:38):
it was. I was able to drive it right. So
I got up to the off ramp, stopped. Everything seemed fine,
just went back onto the on ramp and took off.
So I'm good. I was straight. I called my uncle back,
told him what happened. He says there's something called like
he believes him to call a shifting solenoid. He goes,

(12:02):
Dad might be going bad. It's not shifting like it should, right.
So I was like, all right, cool, So I make
it to Manon's house. Don't say a word, right, get there.
About an hour into it, I parked in front of
his house. He tells me, yo, I'm gonna have you
parking the back. I was like, cool, I jumped in

(12:24):
the car, turned it on.

Speaker 1 (12:25):
He didn't want nobody to see in the car.

Speaker 3 (12:30):
Yeah, park that shit out back, bringing down my property value.

Speaker 2 (12:34):
The lights didn't go on, so I thought, okay, cool,
I'm straight. Didn't even think twice about it anymore. So
I get there, Like I said, his cousins were there,
his uncle, his dad. So we're, you know, we're talking,
and I meet his cousin, one of his cousins I've
never met before, and Manuel says, hey, man, you guys

(12:57):
actually met before. Now again, remember man, you and I
have been cool since eighty seven, eighty eight, right, so
a lot of shit's happened. I shouldn't even say that
from eighty eight. Let's say the eighty eight to when
I got married ninety six, A lot of things could
have happened. And those time, I've been to a lot
of his family functions, a lot of kingsna's and all
that kind of good stuff. So there was a party

(13:21):
for his cousin, a graduation party when she graduated high school.
I don't know. I don't remember if she graduated same
year we did, or she might have graduated in ninety
What was her name, Rocky Raquel after Okay, So we
went to the party.

Speaker 3 (13:38):
She was the hot cousin, right, And I know that
you can't say yes right now, but if you were
the tony at that age, was she the hot one?

Speaker 2 (13:47):
Then she might have been a hot one for you
because she's very white, she's very light complected and as ai.

Speaker 1 (13:56):
Yeah, so for you, Yeah, seen her through a screen door?

Speaker 2 (14:01):
What's he hot? She was?

Speaker 1 (14:04):
All right?

Speaker 2 (14:04):
I mean, you know, does man's cousin? I don't know.
So there was a party and at towards the end
of the night, I took it upon myself to say, yo,
you're tired, time to go to bed, you know what
I'm saying. So I went. It was at it was
actually held at his grandmother's house. So I just went
to the living room, got on her couch and just

(14:26):
went to sleep, you know what I'm saying. Oh, So
at one point somebody came and like shook me and
woke me up.

Speaker 1 (14:36):
Your car's on fire.

Speaker 2 (14:37):
I don't even think I drove. I don't even think
I had a car at that time. Hey, but he goes, hey, man,
they're they're asking for you outside, and I was like,
oh shit, okay, so I get up. I don't know
who this dude is, you know what I'm saying. I
get up. I start walking to the back door, and
I noticed he starts climbing into the on to the couch,

(15:01):
and it hit me, I don't know anybody here who's
gonna be asking for me. Manuel Maurice. Yeah, it's like,
I mean, I just met a couple of his cousins,
you know what I'm saying. So I turned around, like, yo, man, no, no, no, no,
it's my bed.

Speaker 1 (15:18):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (15:18):
He got up, he started giggled, and you know, he
walked away. Uh So I went back to bed. So
he that's my cousin that did that to you, and
he didn't remember it, of course. I mean that's probably
thousands of He probably has thousands of stories about that himself.
Uh So I met him again and like, I don't

(15:42):
know if you remember his uncle Bobby. He was a carpenter.
So if you or anyone that's listening comes to my house,
I have in my dining room there's a bar has
all the alcohol. You know, the doors that got you know,
the drawers. His uncle actually made that for me. Custody
made that for me, I was yeah, we were talking
about He asked me if I still had it, and

(16:03):
I was like, yoh yeah, because it's actually it's not
like a cabinet that you buy the store and you
slide in. You know what I'm saying. It's actually made
for that. So it's not like, you know, I'm not
going to replace it. What am I going to replace
it with him? If somebody else make one. And then
his uncle Rick. He's older than us, of course, not

(16:25):
that much older though, maybe ten years maybe seven to ten.

Speaker 1 (16:30):
I'm going to say, okay, yeah, yeah, he was older than.

Speaker 2 (16:34):
When I think I spoke about when Man and I
really first started hanging out, was either eleventh grade or
twelfth had to be eleventh grade. We were talking about
we had a class together, and he's every Monday he
would tell me his stories about him going to Pasadena
party and stuff. And then before Easter break he said,

(16:59):
what are you doing for I'm like just chilling home.
He said he was going to his grandmother's house in
Mexicali and they party out there and he was like, yo,
you want to roll? And I was like yeah, whatever,
I mean, dude, I don't know him. You know, I
know him from this class. I was about it, and
then that during that week, my mom comes into my bedroom.
She's like, hey, there's two guys walk knocking out the

(17:21):
door for you. I go outside, is Manuel and this
other dude, and man, he was like, yo, you're ready
to go? Like, where are we going? He's like, I
told you we're going to MEXICALI. I was like, fuck it,
let's roll. Let me go get my clothes, I'll go pack.
I don't know Manuel, and it turns out his uncle,
Rick was the other dude that was with him.

Speaker 3 (17:41):
Oh that's fucking hilarious. What'd your mom say? Like, what
do you mean you're going?

Speaker 2 (17:45):
You know, I'm really surprised. She I don't remember saying much.

Speaker 1 (17:49):
Wow.

Speaker 2 (17:50):
And that's honestly, that's kind of odd. I mean, I
mean eleventh grade. That means I'm what sixteen seventeen. Yeah, Mama,
I'm out going to Mexicali for the weekend with these
guys that I barely know. This guy and I don't
even know who that is.

Speaker 3 (18:03):
I think there would have been a lot of shit
happening at my door if I, hey, mom, dad, I'm
going to.

Speaker 1 (18:07):
Mexico with these two guys.

Speaker 3 (18:09):
Well fuck you are, cause who knows what kind of
shit I'd be bringing back or what I was getting into.

Speaker 1 (18:18):
Fuck that.

Speaker 2 (18:20):
Yeah, Like because his uncle Rick was older than us.
I mean after that point, like I said, Many and
I were joined at the hip, right, So whenever we party,
I mean uncle Rick came with us, so he was
the one I always got all the alcohol and stuff.

Speaker 1 (18:36):
You know.

Speaker 2 (18:36):
The big thing was we go to Sam's Club and
get them course like party balls. You know what I'm saying. Oh, dude,
good times, great time. His cousin Tony is a DJ.

Speaker 1 (18:49):
I don't think I know him.

Speaker 2 (18:50):
He actually DJ'ed my wedding, you know what I'm saying.
It's like it was great. I seen Tony maybe ten
years ago. Last time, what man, you got married? I
don't even know how long man have been married. Now.
I think that was the last time I saw his
cousin Tony. But again, you know, just seeing all these
people I haven't seen in years, he was real cool.

(19:12):
While we were at the party, Manuel tells me, do
you remember my dad's His dad had a homie that
lived in Coachella. His name was Victor, and Victor had
a son named Little Victor. Little Victor was probably six

(19:33):
years younger than us. I really like this kid. He's cool.
He was a cool kid. You know what I'm saying.
He's like, hey, man, remember my dad's homie Victor from Coachella.
I was like, yeah, he was at his son, Little Victor.
I was like, yeah, he was there here. I was like, no, shit.
So when I started talking with Little Victor and shit,
seeing how he was doing his electrician. Now he was

(19:55):
real cool dude. He was a real cool kid. And
I even told him. I was like, yo, I said,
a you know, I always thought you was a cool kid. Man.
You know. When we were talking, he's like, man, I
really liked you too. I thought he was cool. I
was like, oh, that's good. But one thing he mentioned
I had totally forgot about this. While we were talking.
He says, hey, man, you still got that hat, that
baseball cap. And I was like, which cap was at?

(20:19):
He says, do you remember that you had a black
cap that had a bone on on the on the
top and it lit up you hit a button and
it would light up that one dog that was a
pimp cap right there. You No, I have no idea
where it's at. And I wish I did. I mean,
it was like when that technology first came out, you

(20:40):
know it behind it was, you know, on the inside
I had was a battery, little triple a battery with
a little button, and it was just like when it
lit up, it was like kind of greenish.

Speaker 1 (20:49):
That's funny. Dog And did what did did you say?
T bone? No?

Speaker 2 (20:52):
I just had the bone and it's just lit up.

Speaker 1 (20:56):
That's hilarious.

Speaker 2 (20:58):
My man said, you still have that had? Oh that
was the best. Though, Sunday comes around and I'll get
back to the party in a second, but that's more
like stories that I'm gonna tell about that I heard.
But we'll just jump to the ride home Sunday morning.

(21:20):
You know, I get up, I pack up my equipment
throwing the car. Man was actually Man's got a German
Shepherd that she's like two years old. She's like really rambunctious.
So they actually took her to a dog sitter for
the weekend because it's too many people for her, right,
So he was actually out picking her up when I
woke up and was doing my thing, so I was

(21:43):
ready by the time he got home. He was like, Man,
you leave it already. He was like ten nine thirty.
I was like, yeah, bro, you know that drive. He's like,
you know, we can hang out. I still got my
family here, Like you know me, kid, I gotta get home.
I gotta have some hours at home because they I'm
gonna feel like I didn't have any time off. I

(22:03):
gotta i gotta relax. So he was like all right.
So I bounced and uh dude, no lights, no nothing,
and I'm like everything was back to normal, filled up
the car with gas, I'm straight hit the cruise control
at eighty and I was gone, had my tunes, I

(22:25):
was straight. An hour into the drive, the lights came
back on. Now here's what's weird. This is around the
same area that the lights came on coming because I
still got three hours ahead of me now because it
happened an hour into the drive, so I'm like, I'm

(22:45):
just gonna ride until see what happens. The lights came out,
but there were no problems during the trip. At one
point there was an eight line, So guess what happens.
It shifted into a lower gear and start to or
higher gears, you know, started going faster and it locked
up again. Oh shit, So I just tapped on the break,

(23:07):
it released it and I just manually with gas pedal
just went up the hill, no problems. That happened maybe
two or three times during the trip back home, and
I was able just to again hit the brake. I
was straight. Came back rolling into town. Call them old lady.

(23:30):
She's like, I'm watching football. You want to pick up lunch.
I was like, cool, I'm gonna go to Popeyes, you know,
give me some fried chicken. Right pulled up to Popeyes,
ain't right there and bring me the dunes off the freeway.

Speaker 1 (23:44):
You like their You like their uh potatoes and Cajun gravy.

Speaker 2 (23:49):
Yeah good. Their fries are good and sandwich is good.

Speaker 1 (23:53):
I like that stuff better than the regular stuff at KFC.

Speaker 2 (23:56):
Oh, no, caves is better. You're tripping games. He's better
all the way around. Kid, don't sleep on. So I
get back in my car, got the food, got in
the car. Somebody knocks on my passenger window. I rolled
on the window. That's what's up, he says.

Speaker 1 (24:15):
Yo.

Speaker 2 (24:15):
I'm assuming you don't know. Your front tires really tore up.
So I get out. Bro, it's like peeling. It's all
like shredded on the outside to the top of the outside.
The tires look brand new. But dude, they were tore up. Yeah,

(24:37):
excuse me, that tire was tore up.

Speaker 1 (24:40):
Did you find out they're probably like the original tires?

Speaker 2 (24:45):
No, But what I think it is is because they
just sat in one hundred and twenty degree weather without
moving for months at a time, they got dry rot.
So from from Popeyes to my house, I drove like
forty five kid, I took Varner. I didn't get on
the freeway. I took Ramon Road again, forty five miles

(25:08):
an hour. Here I am and.

Speaker 1 (25:09):
Why he did that? Because it's Sunday and no shops
are open.

Speaker 2 (25:12):
What am I gonna go shop for tire? Oh yeah,
I'm gonna have to handle that during the week, kid.
I got Popeyes right next to me. I got my
old lady waiting on me. I'm going home, kid, I
need time, Okay. So, but the thing is, for three
hours on a freeway in the middle of nowhere, going
eighty miles an hour, anything could have happened at that

(25:34):
point because I never looked at that side.

Speaker 1 (25:38):
Somebody was looking out for you, Doug.

Speaker 2 (25:40):
Dude, I have to agree with you on that one.

Speaker 1 (25:41):
The big man was looking out for you, dude, because
eighty for that tire to calm part like that, you
did hit the brakes and flip that motherfucker dog.

Speaker 2 (25:51):
And the funny thing is when that light came on
on my way home, yeah, I was like I was
doing like uh stages. I was like, man, if I
could just make it to court site before something happens.
If something happens, let it happen at court site because
I can just roll into like McDonald's. Just sit there,
you know what I'm saying, right, But I was cool.

(26:12):
Then I was like, Okay, I'm gonna hit the border,
California Arizona border. They got that flying jade at that
truck stop. That's really big. I said, Yo, if anything happens,
let me just at least make it there. And I
was good. I passed the California border. I was like, well, shit,
I'm in California now, so I should be good because
if a tow truck comes, you know, I'm just I'll

(26:35):
be able to make it home. It's still early enough.
I'm good. I'm straight kid, And I made it all
the way home.

Speaker 3 (26:42):
You made it all the way home on that tire,
on that tire emptied your shit out at your house
and took it back to your mom. Didn't tell the shit,
didn't tell hey, don't worry about don't go anywhere in.

Speaker 1 (26:54):
The car because the tires met up. I'll take care
of it this week.

Speaker 2 (26:58):
I did tell her that, but I no, I kept
the car. My car was at her house. So I
got a new I got four new tires, aren't it nice?
Took it to a mechanic that I use. He put
his little computer on the thing. Yeap, Yo, nothing is
saying that you have a misfire on cylinder six. Now.
I don't know what that means.

Speaker 3 (27:20):
It could be it could be the wire, the spark
plug wire. It could be a filed spark plug.

Speaker 2 (27:26):
But would that caused that problem? Because he's like, yo,
I'm not seeing anything wrong with his cruise control. I'm
not seeing anything wrong. It's not telling me anything about
a transmission issue.

Speaker 3 (27:38):
No, but it could it could, like I guess it
could impede how the the RPM is to get you
to get it to shift. Really yeah, because that's like,
that's like having all three tires on a car that

(28:00):
has four tires and each one spinds gets power at
a different time. So like let's say your your front
tire gets power, and then the other front tire gets power,
and then the background is supposed to get power, but
that tire is missing, and then the next tire gets power.

(28:20):
So to be power power nothing power to make you know,
see what I'm saying. So that's kind of like what
your engine's doing. So it's you know, four cylinders, you
got power power, no power, power power power, no power power.
So it's instead of instead of giving you power, it's
like it's taking a deep breath. Does that make sense, Yes,

(28:42):
So you're not get so instead of continuing the power
to propel you forward, there's a pause in the system.
And so it's it's making those three work harder and
it's not getting that power out of that third bank.

Speaker 2 (28:56):
So I'm glad you mentioned the spark plugs because he
was like, have you replaced the spark plugs at all
in this thing? I was like, you know what, I
really don't know. He's like, yeah, we're gonna start with
the spark plugs. We'll give you like a tune up.
He might have mentioned about some transmission fluid. He's like,
you know, that's pretty much all I can do because

(29:16):
it's not really saying anything else. So I was like,
all right, cool, so I might have to do that
on Saturday.

Speaker 3 (29:21):
So then a lot of times too, is like the
wires that go from the spark plugs to the engine, right,
so they'll arc there because they're they're they have rubber
around the wire, but there's electricity running through those wires.
So they could send electricity to the spark plug to

(29:44):
spark to ignite the gas inside the engine to combust
to create the explosion for their too, for the power.
But sometimes when those wires get brittle, they can cause
an arcs. So it's sending power to the spark plug,
but it's also sending power to the block, to the

(30:06):
underside of the hood, to whatever's closest to wherever it
decides to send that power, and that could that could
create that misfire as well.

Speaker 2 (30:17):
Yeah, you speaking Greek to me right now, kid? How
often here' supposed to change those.

Speaker 3 (30:25):
I here probably, I don't know, maybe every fifty thousand,
I don't know, right, They last quite a while, but
you know, depending on depending on the car and if
it's always sitting outside as a go inside, how often
it's driven.

Speaker 1 (30:42):
You know what I mean. There could be a multitude.

Speaker 3 (30:44):
Of of reasons why, and sometimes it's just because.

Speaker 1 (30:47):
It is.

Speaker 2 (30:50):
M Well, hopefully it'll get handled.

Speaker 1 (30:53):
Yeah, well it sounds like it. Sounds like he's on
the Oh yeah, you sound like he's on the right track.

Speaker 2 (30:56):
Sounds like it. So while I was there, you know,
talking to people, I'll give you one story. For example,
I can't.

Speaker 3 (31:04):
Believe hold on, no, I can't believe that you drove
from the fucking border. Actually, you drove from Arizona all
the way back to your house on the tire that
was pulling apart.

Speaker 2 (31:20):
Yeah, why didn't you.

Speaker 1 (31:23):
Just put the.

Speaker 2 (31:27):
Spar on it from Popeyes?

Speaker 1 (31:30):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (31:30):
Because of my Popeyes. I'm almost home, So what would
have happened?

Speaker 1 (31:36):
If the tire would have blown on the way home.

Speaker 2 (31:38):
I'd have changed it. You ain't never gotten a flat
before while driving?

Speaker 1 (31:47):
Well? Yeah, but if I pull.

Speaker 3 (31:50):
Over and saw that my tire was doing that, I
probably would have just went ahead and changed it before.

Speaker 1 (31:57):
It blew.

Speaker 2 (31:58):
It was hot, I had I had Popeye's chicken. Come on, kid,
if I do, I'll eat. And another thing, if I
just drove for three hours at eighty miles an hour,
let me try and get home in fifteen minutes. Feel me, Well, here's.

Speaker 1 (32:22):
The other thing. Here's the other thing. I'm not gonna lie.
Two things.

Speaker 3 (32:27):
When I took the last time, when I took that
the escalate to Vegas, something similar happened. I drove all
the way to Vegas, and as soon as we drove
into where the gas station and lights in Vegas started,
one of the tires had shred, and I pulled off

(32:48):
the road and I saw that it was coming apart.
I said, all right, well, I'm not gonna change it.
Let's just get to the hotel. We'll take the side streets.
So I took the side streets and got to the hotel.
Then when and then went about a new tire the
next day.

Speaker 2 (33:02):
See what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (33:03):
That way it was done and over with the similarity
in your story. And if it was me, I probably
would have done the same. Shit is because you had
all your speakers.

Speaker 1 (33:13):
And in the trunk right.

Speaker 2 (33:14):
Yeah, I didn't even think about that.

Speaker 1 (33:17):
We had to pull all that shit out, and.

Speaker 2 (33:19):
I didn't check the spare tire was even good.

Speaker 1 (33:22):
Well that's probably the original one.

Speaker 2 (33:24):
Yeah, Oh, you don't switch shows, do you.

Speaker 1 (33:27):
Well, they get cracks just like any other tire.

Speaker 2 (33:30):
Oh yeah, I don't know you should. Yeah, but uh,
the the cameras stayed at my house on Monday. Everything
was fine. Tuesday afternoon, when I got off of work,
I drove it to the tire spot on that same tire.
I was straight, kid, Then you.

Speaker 3 (33:50):
Should have gone to Big Old Tires ever having that
special where you get like three tires and the fourth
ones for free, and they.

Speaker 2 (33:56):
Just charged you more for the three tires.

Speaker 1 (34:04):
Not everybody's out to get to you, Anthony Rizzle, Jesus chriming.

Speaker 2 (34:12):
While we were there and talking, man, you told this
story about one of his uncles. Okay, he was telling
me that, you know, older than him. Of course, in
the late seventies when all those karate movies, the Bruce
Lee was hot. You know what I'm saying. Apparently his uncle,

(34:32):
his uncle was like late teens, already twenties at this point,
and apparently the dude could fight like he would always
get the fights, and he knew how to fight.

Speaker 1 (34:43):
Like Bruce Lee or no, it's a straight fight.

Speaker 2 (34:45):
Okay, So watching these Bruce Lee movies, he thought he
could do karate. Some man was saying that. He said
that when he would get into a fight, he would
do he move his arm. I was like, karate man,
and do you know what I'm saying. And then when
he started fighting, he just do street fighting. He just

(35:06):
start fighting and he'd win the fight. So he thought
he was a self appointed karate master without taking a lesson,
you know what I'm saying. So he said he was
like at a party or something, and he was on
a balcony like like cover patio, you know, you're standing
on the balcony type deal, and either a cousin of

(35:27):
his or one of his homeboys was getting to a fight,
you know, below them. So he said, dog, he decided
he was gonna jump off the balcony, do a flying kick,
land and start fighting like they do in the karate movies.

Speaker 1 (35:50):
And why not, he said.

Speaker 2 (35:54):
He landed on his back. He said he had to
sit there.

Speaker 1 (36:00):
He had to lay there for a little bit trying
to catch his brother.

Speaker 2 (36:02):
And then he got up and like he couldn't walk
because he was all, you know, he was in pain.
So he had to walk home like oh man, you know,
like real slow, like you know, dragging his leg right.
And the funny what had me dying too? Was, he said, Man,
he said that, the dude said, and in all actuality,
I swear to god, I thought my parts were going

(36:24):
to make those those sounds like in the Karate movies,
like like flying through the air. Oh man, I was screaming, kid, Wow, Uh.

Speaker 3 (36:42):
How long you got to be the beliefs and ship
like that?

Speaker 1 (36:46):
Crazy?

Speaker 2 (36:46):
He's got another cousin, dude. I asked to make sure
it was okay for me to talk about this. He
he wasn't. He was in jail for life. He was
in is it for life?

Speaker 1 (37:01):
Wait a minute? What do you mean?

Speaker 2 (37:03):
Was well, he's no longer there. He was at the party.

Speaker 1 (37:08):
He was at the party.

Speaker 2 (37:09):
Yeah, and he just got out like maybe a month
or two ago. He's been in jail for thirty three years.

Speaker 1 (37:16):
How the fuck are you in jail for life?

Speaker 2 (37:18):
And then that's the question, that's the question I asked.
When when the opportunity arose, all right, when his cousin
wasn't around, I hit a man, you know, and I
was like, yo.

Speaker 1 (37:28):
Man, I said, what was his brother's nickname?

Speaker 2 (37:32):
No name is going to be told about this, And
I was like, yo, man, I said, he was in
jail for life. He's like yeah, he was. He goes.
It was a shock that he got out. He was
not supposed to get out. We just got a phone
call one day saying he's being released. So I was like, well,
what happened? I said, what was he murder?

Speaker 1 (37:52):
Hi? You receiving a call from the San Quentin Detention Center.

Speaker 3 (38:00):
Yes, we're calling to let you know that, Uh, Peterbaganya
is going to be let go and then will be
here to pick him up.

Speaker 1 (38:07):
Holy shit.

Speaker 2 (38:08):
So he was up for murder, up from murder.

Speaker 1 (38:10):
He was doing time for murder.

Speaker 2 (38:12):
Doing time for murder.

Speaker 1 (38:13):
Supposed to be a life sentence.

Speaker 2 (38:14):
Supposed to be life. Here's but here's the thing. There's
a couple of things. It was his third strike.

Speaker 1 (38:20):
Oh shit.

Speaker 2 (38:21):
And he didn't actually kill the person.

Speaker 1 (38:24):
No, no, he's innocent.

Speaker 2 (38:25):
Well, his his homeboy did. They were trying to rip
off a liquor store and either the clerk or the
owner came and found him and came with a bat. Well,
they fought, the other buddy grabbed the bat and the
due died. So here's the fucked up part. The kid

(38:47):
that actually did it was like seventeen. So the kid
they actually did it was already released and man was
cousin was in there for life?

Speaker 1 (39:00):
Wow? So was the kid sentenced for the Was he
up for murder as well?

Speaker 2 (39:06):
Or what was his I would assume he got put
away from murder, but because he was seventeen, I guess
there was a time limit.

Speaker 3 (39:15):
It would have been like a co conspirator or Wow,
just because he was under eighteen, there was a time limit.

Speaker 2 (39:21):
I guess he got let he gotta let go. So
apparently in California, Uh, some new.

Speaker 1 (39:29):
Go ahead, I'm sorry.

Speaker 3 (39:30):
Maybe it was because he was it was like his
first strike instead of his third.

Speaker 2 (39:35):
Who the kid? I don't know, he man, you didn't
go into detail.

Speaker 1 (39:38):
Maybe that's what it was, but go ahead, I'm sorry.

Speaker 2 (39:40):
Uh. So something had passed in California or they were
doing something in regards to the prison system. They said,
you know, like model prisoners. You know, we're looking at
giving people second chances. Da, da da, depending on what
you know, what the crime is, all that kind of
good stuff. Okay, So apparently Mayo's cousin fell into that

(40:01):
category because he didn't actually do the crime. You know,
he was in there for three strikes. The first two
weren't necessarily that bad, but because it was his third strike.
He was in there. He was a model prisoner, so
he got released after thirty three years.

Speaker 1 (40:20):
Ho.

Speaker 2 (40:21):
Shit, So now figure thirty three years ago is what
nineteen ninety one? Okay, imagine what we were doing in
ninety one.

Speaker 1 (40:34):
To come three years after graduation.

Speaker 2 (40:37):
To come out now, kid, Like, I was thinking about it. Man,
you know, we were talking because well, here's the other thing.
He had to go or he's in or had to
go into a transition home.

Speaker 1 (40:50):
When he came out because he had to turn eighteen,
oh when he came out.

Speaker 2 (40:52):
When he came out, and they like manual and all
the relatives were like, yo, because the dude's parents are
still alive and they're morning happy to bring them home.
And they're like, yo, why don't you just go home
while you got to go to the transition home? And apparently,
I mean, which makes total sense. The guy was like,
yo're gonna help me figure out how to get like

(41:13):
d driver's license, how to apply for a job now
you know all that stuff. And that got me thinking, Yo,
my man went in before they were even pagers or
at least pages that we used.

Speaker 3 (41:26):
He went in before there was computers, bro before the Internet.

Speaker 2 (41:31):
Apparently his sister got on an iPhone and he's bugging
out off of FaceTime. And wouldn't you, I mean you
figure we we went through the the the stages of yeah,
of a page, Well dude, h well, no, Corla's phones
were already out well you know, big as antenna. But

(41:52):
you figure Pager went to a regular phone, went to
like a flip phone, the star tack to the Motorola
walkie talkie, you know what I'm saying, and then did
the invention of the iPod to now everything is on

(42:14):
your phone.

Speaker 1 (42:16):
That's crazy.

Speaker 2 (42:17):
You come out there's no payphones. Where are the payphones?
You know what I'm saying. Think about it, I mean,
I guess and this transition home kind of helped you
catch up.

Speaker 1 (42:27):
You see all that shit?

Speaker 2 (42:29):
Holy shit, bro, dude, that's a trip that would be
I don't know what I would do.

Speaker 3 (42:37):
He missed a lot of good shit going on ninety
because ninety so ninety one would have been the year
that Tyson got arrested, but he was no, he was
arrested in ninety two, tried it in ninety two and sentenced.

Speaker 1 (42:59):
Them two for the rapes.

Speaker 3 (43:03):
Really okay, ninety two so ninety one. That was the
last year of Bush senior.

Speaker 2 (43:14):
Damn.

Speaker 1 (43:15):
And then that following year.

Speaker 3 (43:18):
Would have been Bill Clinton's first year. That was also
ninety two, was the twenty fifth Olympics.

Speaker 2 (43:34):
Dog he missed Tyson biting off holy Field's ear. Yo,
he missed all kinds of stuff. Holy shit, dude, bro,
he's man. He said that, like he would help out,
like around the house and stuff, you know, getting ready
for the party and whatnot. Right, And they asked him,

(43:56):
like to just to sweep up in this one area,
and man, he was like, yo, my man. Like the furniture,
he'd move it, sweep all under it, move the furniture back,
like I mean, that's what they did in that in prison.
You know, he do it. He was just like, yo, bro,
I'm just you know how I asked him. How I

(44:18):
was able to ask him about you know, what was
he out for? Da We were at a store called
Total Wine. We were picking up some alcohol and and
it was funny because his cousin was looking at the
buzzballs and uh, he was like reading the packaging and stuff.

(44:39):
And I was telling him. I was like, yo, man,
I said, my kids told me those things are strong.
They taste like shit, but they'll fuck you up. And
he was like, yeah, he goes, I got one of
these back home, and I liked the bottle, so I
cut the top off and I was going to plant
a plant in it because I like the shape of

(44:59):
the bottle. And my sister got mad at me, because
she's like, I could have violated my parole had they
seen me with this thing. He goes, I don't even
know what it was. I found it on the fruit
on the ground. It was just trash. It's just because
it was around. I liked it, and I just wanted
to plan a plan in it. I was like, man,
but uh, total wine. I've never done it here, and

(45:22):
I don't know if you can. But over there, at
least they got like a cold room. You go back there,
you get kegs, you get cold beer, you walk into
the freezer section.

Speaker 1 (45:34):
I didn't know that.

Speaker 2 (45:35):
I don't know if they do it out here. I've
never seen it out here. But back there, you know,
you walk in with a with a with a cart
and you put a keg of beer on there and
you roll out with it. So his cousin said, I'll go.
When we brought it to the cars, cousin was like, yeah,
I put the cart back, and we're like cool. And

(45:55):
his cousin was taking a long time, and you know
there's the cart return right there by the first parking spot.
And uh so when the dude came back, I mean
he was gone for a minute, kid, okay, And my man,
he was like, yo, what happened? Who'd you go? He goes,
I took the cart back. He's like, but where he goes? Well,
I took it back where we got it from, and

(46:17):
he was you walked all the way to the back
of the store and returned it into the freezer. He
was like, oh yeah, it's like you know what I'm
saying that Jesus he was like, he was like that okay.
He was like, oh, yeah, he goes, But I would
have just dumped it right here in this fucking parking spot.
It's just again, you're institutionalized, and that's you know, everything
gotta go back to where it was.

Speaker 1 (46:38):
Yeah, you don't have to think for yoursel.

Speaker 2 (46:40):
Yeah, it's the trip.

Speaker 1 (46:42):
When and how everybody tells you it is.

Speaker 2 (46:44):
That was a trip, dude. But he was a real
nice guy, real nice guy.

Speaker 3 (46:51):
Give him a couple of months, bro, let him be
out and people deal with deal with assholes and shit
like that that that are different than than how you
deal with people inside. Right, I'm just saying, could you
ever go to jail? How do you think you're doing jail?

Speaker 2 (47:09):
I don't think I do very well. But you know,
now that I'm older, I don't think I could have
handled it when I was younger. No, no, but now
I'm not as pretty as I used to be. And
you know, or whatever, it is what it is, all right.
I mean the food would suck, that's for sure.

Speaker 3 (47:28):
I was saying, is it baloney sandwiches and ah jello?
Oh no, I'm good, bro, I ain't trying to go
to jail.

Speaker 1 (47:39):
I'm good. That's the hell of a fucking.

Speaker 2 (47:44):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (47:44):
Bro. The question is how do motherfuckers.

Speaker 3 (47:46):
Go and eat eat baloney sandwiches, a little thing of
milk and some jello and maybe an apple and get
so goddamn big these motherfuckers out here taking creatine and
doing stacks and all kinds of shit.

Speaker 2 (48:07):
Honestly, honestly, because dude, you all you do is work
out all day, all day long. So that's it. Oh
you can if you want to, I should say, out here.
You know, you still got danger, you still got life
to deal with. My wife, one of her co workers,
her son for a minute, was getting into a bodybuilding

(48:29):
and he had to get like sponsors because you don't work, okay,
so you got to get sponsors to pretty much give
you money so you could buy the foods that you
need and so you could just work out all day
unless you're rich of course. Wow, And that's what he
was doing. He was looking for sponsors stuff like that.

Speaker 1 (48:51):
That's crazy. Hey, Uh, my name is Wan Pablo.

Speaker 3 (48:58):
I'm going to jail. I need some somebody will buy
me tang. Should probably shouldn't say that going into jail, right,
What else could they buy that's not called tang?

Speaker 2 (49:14):
So while we were there, also Ada, her husband had
a story. Kid uh, Tom Tom, I didn't catch the
beginning of the story I caught. I missed the very
beginning on actually what happened.

Speaker 1 (49:27):
He seems like a really nice guy.

Speaker 2 (49:28):
Oh he's a real cool dude, My man. I guess
where they live. They live, like, let's say, on a lake, okay,
right right right, and they have the docks. So I'm
just gonna assume because this is the part I missed
he was on a boat and he was going from
the boat to the dock. Okay, okay, so let's just

(49:51):
say that that's where how this started. My man grabbed
the ladder to the dock that's in the water, correct,
and got electrocuted. He was grabbing hold of it and
it was being electrocuted. Okay, he was able to let go,

(50:13):
fell in the water and was still being electrocuted.

Speaker 1 (50:20):
God damn.

Speaker 2 (50:22):
He said he was able to. He said the only
thing he could do was get back on the ladder.

Speaker 1 (50:31):
That was shocking.

Speaker 2 (50:32):
That was shocking him because he was still getting shocked
in the water. He said, he got like I think
he said, maybe two steps on the ladder and jumped
onto the to the wooden uh planks of the planks
of no, of the of the dock. Bro Apparently there
was something going on with some wiring. Maybe it was

(50:55):
touching the metal of the ladder under the water.

Speaker 1 (50:59):
Wow. So when did they renamed the place?

Speaker 2 (51:01):
Dog? He's got to go to court with him because
he I mean, and this is the reason why I
think is where he lives. Because he was like, look,
I don't I'm not trying to get you guys money.
I just you got to pay for my medicals stuff
because he had to get to go to the hospital.
He's I don't know how long ago it was, but
he says he still has pains and like joints like

(51:21):
where you know, like let's say your elbow stuff like that. Right,
he said, don't feel right, bro, that's nuts.

Speaker 1 (51:33):
Yeah, that's fucking crazy.

Speaker 2 (51:34):
And oh, anyways, they said they won't even talk to him.
Got to talk to the lawyers. Really, so he's got
to get a lawyer probably to him all that kind
of good stuff.

Speaker 1 (51:46):
He got to figure out what the problem was real
quick because.

Speaker 2 (51:49):
Well apparently, I mean there were witnesses because there were
people that helped him when he when he jumped out,
jumped out into the dock, like people came running. So
it ain't like it's a you know he said. She said,
type deal.

Speaker 1 (52:02):
Have you ever spent a lot of time on a boat.

Speaker 2 (52:06):
To find a lot of time to find a boat
because I go on my cruises.

Speaker 3 (52:10):
No, I'm talking about a boat that you got to
on the wooden plank and step from the wooden plank
onto the boat.

Speaker 2 (52:17):
I've gone on those, Yes, I mean for the day.

Speaker 1 (52:21):
About how many times ten are they when you go.

Speaker 3 (52:27):
Is it with like people you know or is it
with companies that are running.

Speaker 1 (52:35):
The boat trip?

Speaker 2 (52:36):
I guess okay, Well, like James has a boat, so
we would always go on him. And that's seats let's
say six people.

Speaker 1 (52:45):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (52:45):
Then there I went on a fishing boat with Cindy.
Remember Cindy, her husband Dan. He would go out like
once a year with somebody's. They invited me once and
that was a pretty big boat. Okay, you know you
can go downstairs. They got like a bed down there,
stuff like that, and I got see zig.

Speaker 1 (53:05):
When you were going to get on.

Speaker 3 (53:10):
It, probably I'm assuming you're gonna say no, and I'll
explain why. Did at any point when you went to
go get on, did it seem like the boat was
walking in and out?

Speaker 2 (53:24):
Yes, And here's the problem. Prior to going to the marina,
we stopped at seventy eleven and I got some drama. Drama, Okay,
I didn't and you're supposed to take it like half
an hour before you need it. At least, I didn't

(53:45):
realize we were so close to the marina. So and
this is no lie. As I'm opening the package, as
we're walking down the dock. It's like a little chapstick container. Okay,
I try to pour a couple into my hand as
I'm trying to get as I'm also trying to get

(54:05):
on the boat, and they all fell in the water. Yep,
dead ass because that, like you said, the dock and
the boat were not matching.

Speaker 1 (54:14):
How close were you to falling into the water.

Speaker 2 (54:15):
I wouldn't say I was close.

Speaker 3 (54:17):
Like you stepped on the boat and all of a
sudden it started creeping on And you're like, well, I.

Speaker 2 (54:20):
Know, I wouldn't say that, but you can't see the
water in between, and yeah, and you're spreading your legs
pretty good to get on there. Yeah, and you can't
look like a bitch doing it because then everybody's gonna
make fun of you.

Speaker 1 (54:31):
Fuck that I fell on the water once, did you? Yep?

Speaker 3 (54:34):
Because what I did was what I did was I
stepped onto the boat. But what I did is I
made the mistake of stepping onto the boat with my
dominant leg so to where I stepped on on my
right leg. Right had I stepped on on my left leg,
I could have had the strength in my right leg.

Speaker 1 (54:54):
They show off and still land on the boat.

Speaker 3 (54:57):
Does that make sense, yeah, But because I did it
the other way, I was like trying to figure out
what fuck how am I gonna And then by the
time I just came up with my plan, I was
doing the fucking splits over the water, and I was like, well,
you got some fucking going in today.

Speaker 2 (55:14):
You didn't hurt yourself? No, no, that shit is no joke.

Speaker 1 (55:20):
Fuck.

Speaker 3 (55:20):
I was fucking mad brand new casewists and the water.
M ah you motherfuckers.

Speaker 2 (55:27):
Like when I went on there fishing trip, dude, I
got sick as a dog. Oh, I was so sick.
I actually by myself, was on the front of the
boat because it was a pretty good sized boat, right,
and just laid there like on the hood of the boat,
if you will, right, and just laid their kid because I.

Speaker 1 (55:42):
Could be calling all right, bow no, no, l just
to bow yeah bow.

Speaker 2 (55:50):
I just laid their kid. Did do anything.

Speaker 1 (55:53):
Fucking green as can be? Right?

Speaker 2 (55:54):
And what was a trip is fifteen minutes on the
car ride home, I felt myself snap out of it,
like I was sick just riding when we left, right,
and then do it within fifteen minutes too, I just
felt to just leave my body and I was like normal.
I was like, just go eat man because I'm starving
because I couldn't eat all day.

Speaker 3 (56:15):
I was wow, I'm, I'm, I'm. I was pretty good
on the boat. I didn't I never really got I
never got sick. Sebastian was okay, my little however, just
getting on the boat instantly turned like greenish white. He

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was just I don't feel good. And then we rode
the boat over to like the little island. Everybody got off,
you know, hanging out on the island. As soon as
he hit dirt, kind of like you said, a couple
minutes later, he was.

Speaker 1 (56:53):
Finally wanted to run around and play.

Speaker 3 (56:55):
Yeah, but as soon as he got back on that boat,
it's like morning is like mornings takes right away.

Speaker 2 (57:03):
On the big cruise ships, you don't feel like the swaying.
But one year we did one year there was like
a storm and the boat was swaying. You could feel it.
That was a trip.

Speaker 1 (57:16):
That's got to be scary as ship. Dude.

Speaker 2 (57:23):
I don't know how a boat really balanced itself, because
it goes it goes down to be so narrow, right,
you know what I'm saying. How it could because I
if it was even if if it sat lower to
where there's a big diameter touching the water.

Speaker 1 (57:43):
That would make more sense.

Speaker 2 (57:44):
That would make more sense.

Speaker 3 (57:48):
Well, but maybe maybe it does because the it being
that that coming down to a point like that or
being that sharp, gives the boat its depth.

Speaker 2 (57:59):
Yeah, I don't know how far under the water it goes.
I can't imagine it going that far though.

Speaker 1 (58:07):
Well, it's got to be.

Speaker 3 (58:08):
It's it's it's deep enough to where the engines are
below it.

Speaker 2 (58:14):
Yeah, but I mean I'm assuming there's more from the
from the water up than there is from the water down.
As far as the actual boat itself. Now, like a
bike I or a motorcycle, I understand while it's moving
how it might be able to balance itself. But while

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it's just sitting there, Yeah, I don't know, because the
boat weighs a ton.

Speaker 1 (58:45):
Kid, that's kind of a weird question.

Speaker 2 (58:48):
I don't get it.

Speaker 1 (58:56):
Yeah, that's weird.

Speaker 3 (59:00):
Because they well, I mean, I'm assuming it's gotta be
level on both sides that, yeah, because it's not like
it goes, you know, pointing up to a square, right,
All that shit's rounded, So what's really You're right, what's
holding it up?

Speaker 2 (59:21):
The trip? Mm?

Speaker 1 (59:22):
Hmmm.

Speaker 2 (59:23):
And when you go to the front or the back
or the bow, if you will, you know, it goes
to a point, like when you're on the deck. It
does go to a point. So it's not like it's
a square or a big circle. I don't get I
don't wrong.

Speaker 1 (59:43):
Yeah, I don't worry. That's crazy.

Speaker 2 (59:47):
I had another conversation with someone else at the party
that you might be able to share some insights on okay,
and I hope I'm not uh breaching a source object.
Got this friend here we go. He's fifty years old.

(01:00:09):
I believe he's fifty now. Always been single, you know,
he goes out on dates, he does that, might have
a girlfriend here or there, but for the most part,
always been single. And he was asked which I never
thought to ask and makes total sense, Yo, why did

(01:00:29):
you never how come you never got married? Now his
answer kind of made sense. He worked, He works in law.
It's not a lawyer, but he works in law.

Speaker 1 (01:00:50):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (01:00:51):
He for a very very long time worked for a
family family law attorney okay, and majority of their cases
were divorces.

Speaker 1 (01:01:06):
So he saw some shit.

Speaker 2 (01:01:07):
He saw some shit okay, and he saw some shit
that is downright not even fair. And he was like,
why do I want to deal with that? Why would
I want to deal with that? And he said, look,
but check, Oh you'll be married twenty something years and

(01:01:29):
everything's good. You know, eight of you been married such
so many years. These my parents have been married for
so many years. I get it, but what I've seen
I couldn't handle it. If I had to go through that,
I don't know how I would handle it. Now. I
understand when someone gets divorced and when it happens when

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it's fresh, I'm never getting married again because of what
they just went through. I can see that. But then
a certain percentage, if not a big percentage, get remarried.

Speaker 1 (01:02:04):
How long did that guy work for the lawyer.

Speaker 2 (01:02:07):
I'll probably say fifteen years give her take.

Speaker 1 (01:02:12):
That dude was jaded ten years ago. Fuck that.

Speaker 3 (01:02:20):
Well, I'm sure he's seen some fucking people be really,
really nasty.

Speaker 2 (01:02:24):
And some of his buddies, I mean, I guess his
lawyer had to help, not have had to, but you know,
helped some of his buddies, a couple of them, I know.
And he's like, dude, what about such and such. I
was like, yeah, he goes, dude, nicest guy in the world.
I was like, yeah, you're right. He goes the shit
his ex wife was saying about him that wasn't true,

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that I knew for a fact wasn't true, and he
got railroaded, and then the kids don't talk to him
because of the shit that she's told them.

Speaker 3 (01:02:55):
The good thing about that, though, is that the kids
come around. They figured out after a while.

Speaker 2 (01:02:59):
And this particular guy, he said, they're starting to come around.

Speaker 3 (01:03:02):
They're older now, they start to realize and they see
shit for themselves and they're like, oh, wait a minute,
that's that.

Speaker 1 (01:03:09):
Can't okay, I get it now. Yes, it's it's that
part of it when it gets nasty like that, because
you know, you got to figure.

Speaker 3 (01:03:24):
Like, okay, so like you and your wife, we all
know her, all of us kind of grew up together, right, right,
So something went wrong, not now, but maybe back in
the hey day, because you guys, no, I'll probably still today.
So if something went wrong, one of you is going

(01:03:46):
to over exaggerate the stories to make yourself seem right,
and the other person is not gonna say shit. So
you know, you better start thinking about how you want
your stories. Because your wife's not gonna say anything, and
you're gonna be.

Speaker 1 (01:04:05):
I'm just kidding.

Speaker 3 (01:04:06):
I'm just kidding, because so there's what is it, seven
seven stages of seven stages of divorce or seven stages
of whatever of anger, So you know they go through
all these things and and like like, if your wife
were to come to you and be like, I'm done,

(01:04:28):
you got to understand she's been done for a while,
and she's already been through being upset, giving you an
extra shot, Is it me?

Speaker 1 (01:04:39):
Is it him?

Speaker 3 (01:04:40):
Blah blah blah whatever whatnot, and then finally just being done.

Speaker 1 (01:04:44):
Fuck it, I'm out.

Speaker 3 (01:04:47):
To where if you're a guy and you're oblivious and
they come to you with that, you're like, wait, wait,
hold on, wait, what happened? Like you're fucking seeing somebody
and done all that, there's no communication. You flip out
because you think it's because of another dude, and she's
just like, no, I'm just tired of your dumbass, and
I'm tired of this, that and the other thing. And

(01:05:08):
if you don't give that person, which had you really
paid attention and cared enough before, you could have fixed
the problem and you wouldn't be where you are.

Speaker 1 (01:05:21):
Makes sense?

Speaker 2 (01:05:24):
It makes sense? Is that speaking from experience?

Speaker 3 (01:05:28):
No shit, But I'm just saying like, but it's because
it's natural everybody. Everybody, nobody wants to be wrong, nobody
wants to be the villain, right, So somebody's gonna somebody's
gonna exaggerate the story and be like, oh no, he
did this, he did that, he did this, but never

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gives the lead up.

Speaker 1 (01:05:53):
It's like those videos on TikTok.

Speaker 3 (01:05:54):
They give you the video of somebody, some black kid
beaten up on a white team teacher, but they don't
give you the build up. Or they'll you know, two
guys fighting and they don't give you the build up
or like what caused it?

Speaker 1 (01:06:09):
What was the lead up to that point? Makes sense? Yeah,
So like if you and your wife broke up and
you had already decided a while ago that you wanted
to break up, by the time you tell your stories,
you've already.

Speaker 3 (01:06:23):
Devised it to her. Like, look, man, I did everything
I could. I took this class, I listened to her,
I went and did we went and did those wine
and painting classes. We went and did you know, wine
and dinner to where we went, and you know, they
give us the.

Speaker 1 (01:06:43):
Have you ever been to those classes.

Speaker 2 (01:06:44):
No, I know what you mean though, Like.

Speaker 3 (01:06:47):
Where you go and you even created dinner together, and yeah,
you know I went there with her, like she asked.
I did everything she wanted. It just wasn't enough. So
you try to paint yourself in a good light as
the victim, so that way everybody looks at her and
be like, oh, she just.

Speaker 1 (01:07:04):
She's such a contusion, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (01:07:10):
That they lay all the blame on her and now
you get to keep the friends in a divorce.

Speaker 2 (01:07:17):
But what he dealt with of the cases were bad, okay,
but they're supposed to be. That's why they're there. You
can't base a relationship because of that. If you worked

(01:07:43):
at Kentucky Fried Chicken and you see how the chicken
is made, that that doesn't mean you go to another
restaurant and you don't order the chicken because you know
how Kentucky Fried Chicken does it follow what I'm saying,
because he's seen the shit end of the stick, right, Okay,
he's seeing the Kentucky Fried Chicken how it was made.

(01:08:04):
But you can't. That's not across the board. That's not
you know, you go to a nice restaurant gets a
fried chicken.

Speaker 3 (01:08:12):
Yeah, that's a bad example, is it. Yeah, yours? Yours
should have been. Not everybody makes their chicken the same way,
and that's.

Speaker 2 (01:08:19):
Not what Okay, Not everybody makes their chicken the same way.

Speaker 1 (01:08:24):
Yeah, it's kind of what you know.

Speaker 2 (01:08:26):
He knows how the hot dog is made. No, that's
a bad one, but you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (01:08:35):
Yes, but here's the thing, not not all, not all
divorces are are bad, some are amicable. Where it gets ugly,
imien is money where money is involved.

Speaker 3 (01:08:49):
Like let's say, okay, let's say your wife didn't work,
never worked while you guys were married. You made all
the money, Okay, You were able to buy her her car,
You paid off the house, you sent the kids to school.

Speaker 1 (01:09:05):
Your money paid for the house.

Speaker 2 (01:09:08):
Right, all that, and I can isn't it our money?

Speaker 3 (01:09:16):
So let me ask you a question. If you woke
up every day and had ten dollars when you woke up,
but before you left the house, you.

Speaker 1 (01:09:30):
You had to give five dollars to your worst enemy. Okay,
how would you feel? Would you be okay with that?

Speaker 2 (01:09:38):
No?

Speaker 3 (01:09:39):
Okay, then until you have to fucking do that, you
have no say or no, realm okay, But.

Speaker 2 (01:09:46):
Then but then that's just like saying, if she stayed
home with the kids and you worked all the time
and she took care of them, are they her kids?

Speaker 1 (01:09:56):
No?

Speaker 2 (01:09:57):
Exactly, it's not your money. It's the households money, just
like they're our kids.

Speaker 1 (01:10:03):
No.

Speaker 3 (01:10:05):
If I go to a if I go to a
soda machine and I put in my dollar and I
order a pepsi and a pepsi comes out, is that
my pepsi or the machine's pepsi?

Speaker 2 (01:10:16):
It's your pepsi?

Speaker 3 (01:10:17):
Right, So why would it be her kids? If she
stays home and takes care of the kids. But I
put all the money into it for her to stay.

Speaker 2 (01:10:26):
At home Because you're saying it's your money.

Speaker 1 (01:10:28):
Right because I earned it because I go to work.

Speaker 2 (01:10:31):
Well, she raised them, they're hers.

Speaker 3 (01:10:33):
No, because I gave her the money to do that.
So she's basically an employee. You see what I'm saying,
Like if I it's like if I put my money in,
like I put my dollar into a pepsi machine and
I pull a pepsi out, that's my pepsi. That's not
the machine we traded for that dollar. You see what
I'm saying, just like I. Look, you're gonna stay home.

(01:10:57):
We're gonna have children together.

Speaker 1 (01:11:00):
You want to stay home and take care of them, all,
go to work, all make sure that you have all
the amenities.

Speaker 2 (01:11:05):
All right, So you're doing what you're what you signed
up to do, right, And she's doing what she signed.

Speaker 1 (01:11:10):
Up she's staying home with the children.

Speaker 3 (01:11:11):
Okay, But now, but now you're saying you're not happy,
you don't want to be here with them, don't be here.
This is my house, there are my kids. You can
go now bye.

Speaker 1 (01:11:23):
You see what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (01:11:28):
Yeah, I see what you're saying. I just don't think
it works.

Speaker 3 (01:11:31):
That way because there's a thin, a super thin line
between love and hate. Because see it right now, and
this is this is where, this is where someone like
you and Hilda don't understand this perspective, this perspective because

(01:11:51):
you guys still love and respect each other. But once
that love and respect is gone, right, you gotta know,
Hilla knows way more shit about you, and you know
a lot of shit about Hilda, right right to where
the both of you would become each other's worst enemy.

(01:12:16):
When you walk away and you try to make yourselves
the victim in the relationship, and then that's what creates
the animosity, the ugliness. And then she's gonna say, well,
you know, I stayed home with the kids. I deserve half.
Well wait a minute, and then she's gonna leave, and

(01:12:37):
she's gonna say, okay, well I was never working while
while he was while we were married, So he's gonna
have to give me alimony to cover my expenses and
you and she's gonna yeah, but when you get fired
from a job, they don't they don't have to pay you, Okay,
three months, just like everybody.

Speaker 2 (01:12:57):
Else, she gotta collect that and playing for somebody, she
can go to work, she can, you know what I mean.

Speaker 1 (01:13:05):
She's not doing the same job anymore, So just.

Speaker 2 (01:13:09):
Like anybody else, she's doing the same job. If you
ain't doing the same job, she's still got to take
care of them.

Speaker 3 (01:13:15):
She's doing the same job at a different company. She
no longer with my company, so she gotta she gotta
figure out somewhere else. And then then then she's smart
enough to figure out, well, wait a minute, Tony would
have to pay me alimony until I get married again,

(01:13:35):
so I could get that twenty thousand dollars a.

Speaker 1 (01:13:37):
Month, pull money that Tony's gonna give me, and I
could live with you know, Dexter, Saint John or whoever
she gonna Yo.

Speaker 2 (01:13:47):
I got a cousin, a cousin of a cousin. He's
with a woman that they're doing that they won't get
married because she's getting on them. She's getting alimony, dead
ass exactly right.

Speaker 3 (01:14:00):
Like you know, I'm just gonna sound really fucking wrong,
but fuck it, we're talking about it. So I said,
you know, I always said that I wouldn't mess with
a woman that had kids, But I paid a lot
of money in child support.

Speaker 1 (01:14:16):
Right over the years for my kids.

Speaker 3 (01:14:20):
So what would be so bad if I went out
with a chick that had a couple of kids that
she was getting paid on, and you know, I was
able to go over and enjoy a few meals at
her house with her and her and her kids on
her ex husband's dime. She's getting some of my own
money back.

Speaker 2 (01:14:36):
Right, you paying it into the system, right, I put
my dime in it. You know what I'm saying. I'm
just saying, was your divorce nasty?

Speaker 1 (01:14:54):
No? No, Me and me and my ex wife, we talked.
I was like, look, here's the deal.

Speaker 3 (01:15:03):
We keep those kids the main focus of what the
fuck we're doing, and we'll never have to talk to
each other or deal with each other. If there's whatever,
whatever the kids need, they need, anything they need, I
got it. Whatever however I gotta get it, I'll get it.
She didn't ask for she didn't ask for alimony. She
just asked for the money.

Speaker 1 (01:15:24):
For the kids. I was able to do that. I
was able to you know.

Speaker 2 (01:15:27):
Okay that money for the kids. Do you think it
was a fair amount? Yeah, okay, Because that's another thing
he mentioned. He was like, Dode, I seen guys get
railroaded by the by the court system, and he says,
and some of them the judges were like, yeah, you
should not be paying as much, but the law says

(01:15:49):
you have to pay in these guidelines based on whatever
it is they're basing it on.

Speaker 3 (01:15:54):
So what they do is they take they take what
you make, and they take what she makes, divide that,
and then they could take up to twenty three percent
of your salary. So if you made one thousand dollars
a month, they could take up to two hundred and
fifty dollars of that per child damn per child. So

(01:16:20):
if you have three kids, that's seven hundred and fifty dollars
out of your thousand dollars that they could take. Now,
let's say you worked at that job for a year
and then you got to let go. She goes on
welfare because you can't pay she's collected welfare. You got
to pay back Riverside County and they could take up

(01:16:41):
to fifty percent of your wages. Plus they're charging you.
Are you ready thirteen percent per day on what you're behind.
That's why these guys end up, you know, thirty forty fifty,
one hundred and fifty two hundred thousand dollars behind in

(01:17:04):
child support and they're never able to get out of it.

Speaker 2 (01:17:08):
It kind of makes sense because, like he was saying
that just one particular person, I was like, you're honor,
how can I afford that? And apparently the jug is like,
I totally understand where you're coming from, and I'm sorry,
but this is what has to be done. I know
you can't, but this is according to the chart, this

(01:17:32):
is where you're at. He's like, I can't afford. I understand,
but this is I can't do nothing about it. My
anthetize and he's like, fuck our buddies, Like, fuck dad,
I'm never dealing with that shit.

Speaker 1 (01:17:46):
Yep.

Speaker 2 (01:17:47):
I remember when I was in high school, my mom
got a check from whomever whoever deals with UH child
support and it was it was I don't know how
much it was, but it was it was a decent
sum of money. And turns out it was they just

(01:18:13):
took part of my dad's check or or a lot
of US check and UH and just like took it
and like back child support.

Speaker 3 (01:18:29):
So they could take your your income tax. So if
you've been paying all year, then fuck that. Next year,
I'm gonna give me a good a good chunk of
change back from the I R s yop.

Speaker 1 (01:18:43):
Nope, they'll take it and give it to her.

Speaker 2 (01:18:44):
She called my mom, you know, telling her that she
to give trying to get I don't know he was
trying to be smooth, I want to say. He was
just being blunt. You know, I need that money back,
And she was like, look, I didn't do it. I
didn't like go to the office and say I want
money that it just came and you ain't getting it back.

(01:19:06):
You know, jes it for your kids. You ain't been
paying it again. I'm not. I didn't go looking for it,
but yo, and he was pissed.

Speaker 3 (01:19:16):
Wow, good thing he was back in New York California.

Speaker 2 (01:19:21):
But here's the other thing, though, are you a post
marriage now? I know we've spoken about this before, and
because I just and the dude's happy. Don't get me wrong,
he ain't like I'm looking for a wife. I can't. No,
he's just like, shit, I'm good because he, as he
put it, he's got friends with benefits, right, and he's
good with that. But I would just hate to think

(01:19:44):
that he's avoiding it based on that.

Speaker 3 (01:19:51):
I I you know, I I've always I have liked
the idea of marriage. But from what I've seen in
the history, what I've seen in the past, and from
people around me, it doesn't seem like there's the same
kind of ideology behind marriage as there used to be.

(01:20:19):
Makes sense, Yeah, that that idea of you know, you
get married once and blah blah blah and married forever
and that hole.

Speaker 1 (01:20:30):
You're not fucking going anywhere. We're gonna fucking figure it out.

Speaker 3 (01:20:33):
If you're not happy, go to the room and relax
for a while, come back out, have yourself some fucking
ice cream, go to bed, and we'll try it again tomorrow,
you know what I mean. Like people don't do that anymore,
And the idea of building something with somebody and doing

(01:20:54):
all that and letting go of those of that year
of fuck what if it doesn't work out?

Speaker 1 (01:21:03):
Uh, seems a little overwhelming. See.

Speaker 2 (01:21:06):
But it's almost like to me, it seems like he's
going into a saying it's not gonna work out, so
I'm not gonna bother with it.

Speaker 3 (01:21:17):
Well, no, I think you're I think you got married
at a different time and you you were lucky enough
to find somebody with the same ideology. We're doing this,
we're doing it once. We're neever fucking gonna go anywhere
you did.

Speaker 2 (01:21:36):
So everybody buckle up. Everybody did. Sometimes it just doesn't
work out. But you can't from the gate say I
don't think it's gonna work out. I mean, how do
you go into it saying that.

Speaker 3 (01:21:50):
Well, I don't I don't think. I don't think you
I don't think you do. But I think what you
do do is what you do do. It's kind of like,
let's see, how am I gonna explain this one to you?

Speaker 1 (01:22:04):
All right?

Speaker 3 (01:22:04):
So Let's say let's say you're building a pool and
you've put in a certain kind of pump in a pool,
and that that pool didn't that pump didn't work for you.
It gave you all kinds of problems. You tried and
tried and tried, and you told yourself, I'm just I'm

(01:22:27):
not gonna change out the pump.

Speaker 1 (01:22:31):
And you you.

Speaker 3 (01:22:32):
Fixed it, and you tried and you worked with that
pump and it just didn't work.

Speaker 1 (01:22:36):
And one day it just failed. There's nothing you could do.
It's just you.

Speaker 3 (01:22:41):
You you talk to it, you fucking rubbed sand on it,
you'd whatever, and the pump just didn't want to work.
You finally had to spend all that money and change
the pump. What are the chances of you buying the
same kind of pump.

Speaker 1 (01:23:03):
For that pool?

Speaker 2 (01:23:04):
Slim to none?

Speaker 1 (01:23:05):
Same thing.

Speaker 2 (01:23:06):
No, I got a better way of saying it.

Speaker 1 (01:23:08):
Okay, come with it.

Speaker 2 (01:23:12):
You're a leak detection company for pools. Okay, all you
do and this is in regards to my friend. Okay,
he's the leak detecting company. Okay, he goes to every
pool he goes to, he's gotta fix a leak. Sometimes
they gotta break up concrete. Sometimes they gotta drain a
pool and dig and drill out the bottom and get

(01:23:33):
to the pipe underneath the pool, fix it and patch
it back up. So to him, he doesn't want to
build a pool at his own house because it's gonna leak,
because all he sees are leaking pools.

Speaker 1 (01:23:47):
You what he's gonna do. He gonna buy one of
them new rubber pools.

Speaker 2 (01:23:54):
But you see what I'm saying, That's what I meant
to the analogy about the contective for chicken. All you're
seeing is the bad stuff when there are plenty of
other pulls out there that have no problems. But because
your job is just to deal with the bad ones,
you don't want to build one yourself because you're afraid
is gonna go bad.

Speaker 3 (01:24:12):
That makes a little more sense, Yeah, But I think
it's it's kind of like that old adage of how
many times you gonna put your hand in the fire
before you figure out that.

Speaker 2 (01:24:24):
But in regards to him, he's not sticking his hand
in the fire at all.

Speaker 1 (01:24:28):
Because he's smart.

Speaker 3 (01:24:28):
He learned early he saw somebody else stick their hand
in the fire with fucking third degree burns, And now
they only have knuckles.

Speaker 2 (01:24:39):
But but there might not be even a fire to
begin with, so he's that much safer.

Speaker 1 (01:24:46):
You know.

Speaker 2 (01:24:47):
Again, he's happy there and I'm not trying to if
he's listening, I don't want to convince him to get married.
It's just again, I just think he's so jaded because
of what he did he's dealt with. It's like, and
he can honestly say, hey, I know marriages work out.
Look at you, look at this, look at that, look
at man's parents, look at my parents, and it's like, Okay,

(01:25:11):
did you see this? Not all bad? He's like nah,
because when it's bad, it's bad.

Speaker 1 (01:25:15):
But but but here's the thing.

Speaker 3 (01:25:17):
How can you how can you say that his lifestyle
is wrong and yours is right?

Speaker 1 (01:25:26):
Who's to say?

Speaker 3 (01:25:28):
Because where he's at right now, like right now, I
wouldn't get married. I might, you know, have my sidepiece
or have you know a couple of girls that I
go out and see or whatever, whatever the situation.

Speaker 2 (01:25:40):
Why wouldn't you get married for the.

Speaker 3 (01:25:43):
Same reason, Like I've seen too much, I'm not I
don't I don't want to, like especially now since I
mean I got divorced in two thousand and eight and
it's twenty fourteen. I haven't been in any kind of
real relationship. I don't need somebody. If I get up
and I go towards the root, where you going, Well,
the fucking bathroom is down the hall.

Speaker 1 (01:26:04):
Where then you think I'm going.

Speaker 3 (01:26:10):
Hey, I'm gonna go. I'm gonna hang out with T
Bowe and the dudes. I'll be back later. Well, how
are you gonna be?

Speaker 2 (01:26:15):
Well?

Speaker 1 (01:26:16):
However, fucking lad, I want I know what time I
go to work tomorrow. Like, you know what I mean?

Speaker 2 (01:26:21):
Yes, and again you've been You've you've done both roads. Okay,
I get it. He ain't done both roads. He's just
been told what that road will take, what potentially can
happen if you went down that road. So he's like, yeah,
I'm gonna avoid that road. Yeah what Hey, you guys

(01:26:43):
tip give me shit because I don't try food.

Speaker 1 (01:26:46):
Well let me okay, but let me ask you a question.

Speaker 3 (01:26:49):
If somebody told you, hey, Tony, we're gonna go hiking tomorrow,
if you take the trial the trail on the right,
it's gonna be nice and it'll be a simple climb up,
smooth that's not not too bumpy. Take you about an

(01:27:09):
hour to get there, hour and a half the most, right.
But if you take this trail on the.

Speaker 1 (01:27:14):
Left there, it may take you in circles, it may
take you here or there. You may come up to
a wall.

Speaker 3 (01:27:25):
You're gonna have to kind of figure out how to
climb over it, and then once you're over it, there
may not be another two easy.

Speaker 2 (01:27:33):
No, easy, that's not You can't say that because what
you're saying is the marriage road is pretty much if
you go down this road, you know when you when
you break up, when you get a divorce, it's gonna
get really nasty. You don't go into the relationship thinking
that is what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (01:27:52):
Well, I'm not.

Speaker 3 (01:27:53):
But every every relationship has its issues, right. The only
reason why yours doesn't is because you.

Speaker 1 (01:28:00):
Choose not to argue.

Speaker 3 (01:28:06):
From what From what you've said, it's like, oh, well,
you know whatever she wants, I just don't I choose
not to argue.

Speaker 1 (01:28:12):
I just you know whatever.

Speaker 3 (01:28:15):
There's never been anything big enough for you to want
to argue about.

Speaker 1 (01:28:20):
Is that fair to say? Am I off?

Speaker 2 (01:28:22):
No, you're just fair to say so.

Speaker 3 (01:28:25):
Not everybody's relationship is like that. Not everybody has that same.

Speaker 2 (01:28:30):
But not every marriage and divorced either and a contentious
divorced to boot and what contentious?

Speaker 1 (01:28:41):
No, not every marriage ends in divorce.

Speaker 3 (01:28:45):
But how much of I guess it comes down to
how much of yourself are you willing to set aside
to continue on.

Speaker 1 (01:28:57):
That marriage?

Speaker 3 (01:29:00):
How how important is it to you to stay with
that person that you're willing to let go of things
that you're certain beliefs Now, let.

Speaker 2 (01:29:18):
Me let me isn't at the point of marriage?

Speaker 3 (01:29:20):
No, let me let me because you know, we keep
going back and talking and we say, you know, your
your your marriage, your marriage. But again, your marriage isn't
the normal in what we're talking about and what drives

(01:29:40):
people to divorce. So let's say in your marriage instead
of being you know, happy or at least we'll say happy.
Right if if he'll had cheated on you and wanted

(01:30:01):
to go out every night, and you're like, fuck, I
gotta stay home. I gotta get up a four o'clock
in the morning to go to work. Oh that's okay,
I don't go into work till ten.

Speaker 1 (01:30:09):
I'll be fine. Or tomorrow's my day off. I'll be good.
I'll sleep all day while you're at work.

Speaker 3 (01:30:14):
Right, And didn't do the things that you guys do
to share time together, like, hey, tomorrow's my day off.

Speaker 1 (01:30:22):
No you can't record, No you can't.

Speaker 3 (01:30:25):
You're gonna spend the day with me, right if you
if you're not willing to give up those times to
do that, and you're okay with doing that, as opposed
to saying, well, you know, I kind of want to.
I want to spend time with you, but I gotta go.
I want to I want to go record. I want

(01:30:46):
to go do this. If if it meant arguing about it,
what you would just be like, oh no, no, you're right.
I'll just you know, I'll let them know that we
can't record.

Speaker 1 (01:30:59):
We'll choose another.

Speaker 3 (01:30:59):
Day to where some guys would be like, fuck man,
you get time to go hang out with your friends
and go do all this shit. I'm asking for a
couple hours a week and I can't and I can't
have that, Like I can't what about my time? What
about what do I So? If that give and take
isn't in that relationship, right and if you're okay giving

(01:31:21):
up that portion of yourself to placate the other person,
it's going to be much easier for you. Makes sense,
it does. If the person that you're with doesn't care
enough about you to make that time and wants to
go do all of the things that they want to

(01:31:43):
do and not allow you any room for you to
be with your friends or.

Speaker 1 (01:31:48):
Go do things with your family or brother or sister, whatever.
There's an issue there and there's a reason why that
person's trying to keep you in step. Makes sense, Yes, So.

Speaker 3 (01:32:05):
Not every relationship is built the same. You and your
wife have have chosen to you know what, I love
you enough to do this, but we're gonna do this.

Speaker 1 (01:32:16):
And you guys, you guys have so many similarities to
where we're not. You're not the conventional marriage at this point,
You're not. You're not the norm anymore.

Speaker 3 (01:32:29):
You see what I'm saying You guys, if we were
talking about fucking happy days, you guys, would you know,
be right along, right along the line with everybody, because you,
guys are the house where everybody goes. You're the place
where everybody hangs out. You know, you're the You're the
center of other relationships. Go to time and and you know,

(01:32:51):
pleasure time.

Speaker 1 (01:32:52):
Does that make sense?

Speaker 2 (01:32:53):
Yes?

Speaker 3 (01:32:54):
To where some relationships are dealing with uh anger issues
or have you know, alcohol issues or have cheating issues
on both sides.

Speaker 1 (01:33:10):
You know what I mean.

Speaker 3 (01:33:10):
And there's so many different things that there's no focus
on the relationship, no focus on the family unit. Neither
one of them are willing to Okay, we're doing this
the wrong way. What if we did this to make
it better? What if we chose to do this and
you guys come together? Not you guys not when I

(01:33:33):
say not, you listeners, people came together and said, Okay,
what we're doing doesn't work. How are we going to
fix it. I'm willing to stop this. I'm willing to
give this up. I'm willing to give that up. Okay,
bab you know what. You're right, I've been selfish. I'm
gonna go ahead and all stop doing this. I'll stop

(01:33:54):
doing that. Let's come together to make this work. Not
a lot of people know how to do that. Not
a lot of people don't have the same communication skills
ass and as woke and as communicative as the world
has become, people still don't know how to communicate.

Speaker 1 (01:34:13):
With each other. Does that make sense?

Speaker 2 (01:34:16):
Yes?

Speaker 3 (01:34:17):
And that's that's what creates that issue in relationships, because
now it's a different kind of power struggle because women
no longer are okay being the complacent wife. They want

(01:34:38):
to be heard, they want to be able to do
their own thing, they make money for the relationship, They
blah blah blah, they want to be treated equally, blah
blah blah. Well, I'm not gonna treat you equally. You're
not a dude. So let's get that out of the
way first. You know what I'm saying, Like, let's get
that out of the way first. I'm not saying that

(01:34:59):
you belong in the kitchen or that these are your things,
but let's just be honest with each other and say, hey,
you know what, there are some roles that are just
the roles of who you are by nature, right, Like
you know, cleaning, doing laundry, picking up, that's quite often
a woman's A woman will walk in and see something

(01:35:21):
out of place.

Speaker 1 (01:35:22):
They'll fix it, they'll pick it up.

Speaker 3 (01:35:25):
I mean, how many times do you hate I left
something here on the counter, What drawer did you stick
it in?

Speaker 1 (01:35:31):
It happens, right. That doesn't happen in my.

Speaker 3 (01:35:34):
House because fucking nobody puts anything in drawers, right, Because
it's me and two boys in this house.

Speaker 1 (01:35:40):
So it's just a different time.

Speaker 2 (01:35:50):
But when you say equal, I'm not going you you're
not a man. There's certain roles that we take, right,
It's still equal. It's just different jobs that are being done.

Speaker 1 (01:36:02):
Right.

Speaker 2 (01:36:03):
So I mean, I mean, I think my wife and
I are equal, and I would even venture to say
that she does more than me. So I mean, but
it's equal.

Speaker 3 (01:36:14):
Can I ask you a question, Yes, how many times
has she gotten on the roof to put up the
lights for Christmas?

Speaker 2 (01:36:22):
Never?

Speaker 1 (01:36:23):
So it's not equal.

Speaker 2 (01:36:24):
No, it is equal because well, because how many times
have I done the laundry throughout the year? I go
up down the roof once or twice, put them up,
bring them down?

Speaker 1 (01:36:33):
Right?

Speaker 2 (01:36:33):
Okay?

Speaker 1 (01:36:34):
Because there are certain roles for a husband, yes, and
certain roles for a wife. Now those two things.

Speaker 3 (01:36:41):
Let's say your wife was doing all the shit inside
and you come home and park your truck, go inside,
take a shower and sit down. You don't throw the trash,
you don't clean up outside, you don't clean the fucking pool,
you don't help her with whatever.

Speaker 1 (01:37:01):
You're fucking Well, you're pretty close, You're really yeah, you're
pretty close.

Speaker 2 (01:37:08):
That's why I say she probably does more stuff. Than
I do.

Speaker 1 (01:37:12):
But again, she's the man in the relationship. I'm just
sucking up.

Speaker 3 (01:37:22):
But but you know, but but that works for you guys. Yes,
but again, you guys again are a different kind of
people than you. Guys have been together since fucking high
school and you've known each other.

Speaker 1 (01:37:40):
For how long before you got married?

Speaker 2 (01:37:45):
Oh you ask me?

Speaker 1 (01:37:46):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (01:37:49):
Eight years?

Speaker 3 (01:37:51):
So by eight years, you fucking know what you're getting right,
you know what I mean? You guys have talked about
all of you know whatever, whatever and if and since
you made it past the seven years. You you made
it past a seven year itch. If there was gonna
be any cheating, it would have happened in there, and
you should be good going forward.

Speaker 2 (01:38:12):
Okay, uh h, I'm just gonna say one more. I'm
just gonna end do with this.

Speaker 1 (01:38:18):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (01:38:19):
All I'm saying is again, you guys, tell me, how
do you know you don't like it? If you don't
try it, motherfuckers.

Speaker 1 (01:38:29):
I tried it.

Speaker 2 (01:38:31):
I if I don't, if I haven't tried something, how
do I know if I don't like it.

Speaker 3 (01:38:35):
I'm lucky enough that I came away from the fire
with all my fingers.

Speaker 2 (01:38:40):
You know what I'm saying, so for the buddy to say, yeah,
I've seen so much shit I don't want to get it,
I'm like, well, you can't base it on that though,
But you know, it worked again. It worked for him.
It works great for him.

Speaker 1 (01:38:54):
But hold on, let me let me.

Speaker 3 (01:38:57):
The difference between what you're talking about with him seeing
all that shit and be like, oh, fuck that, I
don't want any part of that right and you saying
I don't want to eat that done, and I'm good.
It's because you haven't seen the same amount of people
say no, I don't like that. That shit tastes like shit.
I got sick when I ate that. Fuck that that
tastes nasty. Everybody around you. Hey, dude, that shit tastes

(01:39:19):
fucking bomb.

Speaker 1 (01:39:20):
You should stret That's the difference. That's the difference.

Speaker 2 (01:39:25):
This guy he also like he's always been in good shape,
and uh so we got to talking about that as well,
and he told me, you know, he because I explained
to him the my weight laws and then how I
put on six pounds with cinna button and he was like, dude,
I got a sweet tooth. I was like, no, you

(01:39:46):
don't got a sweet tooth like I got a sweet tooth.
He goes, no, I got a sweet tooth. And I
was like, I gotta have dessert every night. He's like, yeah,
I'm just about like that too. I say, so, what
do you do? Have you ever heard of the ninja creamy? No, dog,
I read it by my leg. She's already she's already
slapping it down. But you make your own ice cream?

Speaker 1 (01:40:10):
Oh with what is that? Condensed sweet and condensed milk?

Speaker 2 (01:40:15):
I mean, I don't know the ingredients. But he's like, dude,
I do that, and you know, but you know, I'll
put bananas in it. You know, I'll put fruit in it.
I'll put you know, I'll use honey instead of sugar,
you know, so it's just not so much garbage in it.
Then then in a you know, a regular tub of
ice cream, and he's like, and you can make it

(01:40:37):
like regular ice cream where you got scoop with the spool.
You can make it like uh, like a Wendy's frosty.
And I'm like, you just changed the blades or whatever.

Speaker 1 (01:40:47):
Well, they said that if you take.

Speaker 3 (01:40:52):
Chocolate, milk and cool whip and mix it together and
freeze it, that it never totally there's something else in
there that I'm missing, and you freeze it, it never freezes,
and it's it's like a Wendy's what do you call it?
It's just cool whip and something chocolate. I don't remember
what it is. But let me ask you a question,

(01:41:14):
because you brought this up. Something happened the other day
where I saw something and I thought, that's fucking crazy.
Who the fucking vented butter? Because butter isn't just something
that you walk up on. It's not a fruit that

(01:41:37):
fell out of the fucking tree. It's it's milk fat
that you gotta sit and work.

Speaker 2 (01:41:45):
Is that what I mean by churning your own butter?

Speaker 1 (01:41:47):
Yeah? So you've never seen a so that it looks
like a.

Speaker 3 (01:41:53):
Probably about ya tall, and it's round on top, and
then it's a cylinder that comes down. It's small, smaller
on tom and it works his way down and then
they have like a stick that's smashes and they just
and they sit there and a woman sits between their
legs and jerk the butterstick off and wait till the

(01:42:16):
wait till the milk fat becomes better.

Speaker 1 (01:42:20):
How the fuck did anybody.

Speaker 2 (01:42:21):
Come up with that ye plant that you could add
to that list?

Speaker 1 (01:42:26):
How the fuck did they come up with? Hey, if
you add sugar.

Speaker 3 (01:42:31):
And whatever else to that cow milk and stick it
in the ice overnight, you'll have a nice cold treat
in the morning.

Speaker 1 (01:42:43):
We put some berries in it.

Speaker 2 (01:42:45):
Isn't somebody a long time ago told me, you make
you on ice cream, but you gotta use salt.

Speaker 1 (01:42:50):
Yes, what's the salt do for the ice?

Speaker 3 (01:42:53):
Because it makes the ice colder longer because they have
those they have those machines kind of like what a
butter machine looks like, but they pour the so it's like, uh,
like it looks like a double boiler, you know what
that is? No, So on the outside it has a
pot and then on the inside it has a smaller pot.
So on the outside of the smaller pot goes the ice,

(01:43:17):
and then your ingredients for the ice cream goes in
the middle. You put the top on it, and then
you pour rock salt all on the ice, and you
put the other lid on it and crank it and
crank it and crank it, and within I don't know,
half an hour, I guess, you have ice cream.

Speaker 1 (01:43:36):
And the ice cream.

Speaker 3 (01:43:37):
The ice stays nice and cold because it squeezes together
with the with the salt makes it kind of chunk.

Speaker 2 (01:43:42):
Well, he's say, in regards to that cream that ninja creamy,
you have to you don't. You have to wait a day.
You have to put in a freezer when you're done.

Speaker 1 (01:43:50):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (01:43:50):
So he's like, sometimes I'll forget to make it and
I won't have anything for that day.

Speaker 1 (01:43:55):
A ninja freezy, ninja creamy, ninja creamy TikTok. I don't know,
probably right, everything's on.

Speaker 2 (01:44:04):
But he was like, dude, there's so many different flavors
you can make. You put protein powder in it. You know,
you know you don't taste the protein powder, but there's
just so waiting, you know, to do it. If you
really have that sweet tooth and you don't want you know,
you just want to know exactly what you're putting in it.
I was like, man, came my aldadyes like, cause one

(01:44:26):
day my son and I were shopping at Costco or
Sam's Club, and remember the soda stream you make your
own soda.

Speaker 1 (01:44:36):
Oh yeah, you add like.

Speaker 2 (01:44:37):
A carbon carbon it to a big jug and they
had different syrups. So, you know, my son was like,
oh my god, look at this. We can make our own. Sorry,
I bought it, you know, something to do with the kids.
She never let me live that down. So and she
mentioned it. You remember soda stream? Where's that now? Huh?
I'm like, all.

Speaker 1 (01:44:56):
Right, is it in the box in the garage?

Speaker 2 (01:44:58):
It's gone somewhere of it away probably?

Speaker 1 (01:45:02):
What did? The soda? Tastes more like just carbon water
than No.

Speaker 2 (01:45:05):
It just tasted like the knockoff brand, like Doctor Thunder,
you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (01:45:11):
Right, right?

Speaker 2 (01:45:12):
And if I remember right, it was a little bit
of work too, you know, to do it, it goes
flat quickly. It's something you gotta drink fast, so.

Speaker 1 (01:45:20):
You gotta pump air into it. Right.

Speaker 2 (01:45:22):
Uh. I don't remember exactly how the machine worked, but yeah,
you fill it up, you put that syrup in it,
you seal it up, push a button and it shoots
like carbon it in it to give it the bubbles.

Speaker 1 (01:45:37):
Yeah, I'll just take regular od cocon you know what
I'm saying. I'm good.

Speaker 3 (01:45:43):
The other day my boys were laughing at me because
I ordered a big old fucking tub a Tang Tang.

Speaker 1 (01:45:49):
Yeah you remember Tang? Yeah?

Speaker 2 (01:45:52):
They still make it?

Speaker 1 (01:45:53):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (01:45:55):
Yeah, powder the morns juice brother man, I bought this
uh uh tea. It's a powdered tea like you know,
you get like the Lipton tea and it's usually like
tea and lemon and you mix it right. Well, I
found one that's much much better than Lipton is. It

(01:46:18):
actually tastes like tea, a much better flavor.

Speaker 1 (01:46:21):
Lemonee. It's really good.

Speaker 3 (01:46:23):
Well, they they had one that I've been trying to
fucking order it, and I'll order it.

Speaker 1 (01:46:28):
Oh no, it's a substitution. So I finally got. They
sent me one that was I want the Raspberry one,
and I've been able to.

Speaker 3 (01:46:36):
They just sent me peach. And the peach one's really
good too, man. Peach, Yeah, peach tea and it's like, uh,
I think it's called C four tea.

Speaker 1 (01:46:49):
It's really good. You try it out.

Speaker 2 (01:46:51):
I'm not a real big tea drinker, except one day
five years ago, six years ago, one of my customers
gave me a diet peach tea Snapple.

Speaker 1 (01:47:03):
Oh yeah, I was off the snap it off fucking
around when it comes to tea.

Speaker 2 (01:47:07):
Good.

Speaker 3 (01:47:07):
So there's this lady, her name is Karen, lives about
four houses down for me. I've known her since I
was four. She came to the house to introduce herself,
like our second day in that that house where I
grew up, right, and we've known her forever, and it's
super nice lady. But she used to she used to

(01:47:30):
lay out when I was a kid. And so that
was fucking fifty forty nine years ago, right, forty nine Wait,
oh shit on fifty three, So like forty eight years ago,
forty seven years ago. Right, she'd lay out and she
looked good, right, But she would always have a jug

(01:47:52):
of tea out in the sun, like she would put water,
hang the bags in there, and then the jug would
set out in the front yard until it turned brown.

Speaker 1 (01:48:04):
She used to make the best tea, was that right? Yeah?

Speaker 3 (01:48:07):
That s I don't know what it is about sun
made tea. It's so much better, although it could have
been just because there was a sexy lady in a
bikini handed me tea. The only problem was she didn't
put no sugar in it, so you go take it up.

Speaker 2 (01:48:21):
And I think that's why I never really liked tea,
because Mike, when we first moved to California, my cousins
did that same thing, put it outside with the bags
in it. And you know you're drinking like that. To me,
it tastes like dirty water.

Speaker 3 (01:48:33):
Yeah, sugar, that shit my mom did. She would make
it the same way sometimes, but sometimes she'd forget, so
she'd make it on the stove where.

Speaker 1 (01:48:43):
She'd boil the tea.

Speaker 3 (01:48:44):
My old lady does it that way and then put
a cup and a half of sugar at least and
the tea and.

Speaker 1 (01:48:50):
Then some water. Be like I felled my too, fell
out with that one. Mama. I was good just to
ride amount of sugar, but ship. Yeah, dude, back in
the day, you got any birthday shoutouts? You're thing going
on this week? Oh?

Speaker 2 (01:49:09):
Done already?

Speaker 1 (01:49:10):
Oh we had about we had an hour and hour fifty.
You still got start to talk about you want keep going?

Speaker 2 (01:49:16):
Uh no, not for this episode. But I do want
to talk about the the last school shooting. I want
to know your thoughts on it. Bang bang, We'll talk
about that next week, all right. Uh. My sister La Letty,

(01:49:36):
her birthday is this Sunday, Sunday.

Speaker 1 (01:49:39):
Sunday.

Speaker 2 (01:49:39):
Fail's wife, Phil's wife, All right, what up? Phil? Also
our high school friend Sandra, her birthday's that same Sunday.

Speaker 1 (01:49:49):
Oh nicey birthday Sandra.

Speaker 2 (01:49:50):
Happy birthday, Sandra. Uh. Raymond, who had the first kid
of the Side Show podcast. He just found out that
his second is going to be a girl.

Speaker 1 (01:50:02):
Wow.

Speaker 2 (01:50:02):
So congratulations Raymond.

Speaker 1 (01:50:04):
Congratulations.

Speaker 2 (01:50:05):
He hit me with a fun fact. That will be
grandchild number eight for his mother.

Speaker 1 (01:50:11):
Wow.

Speaker 2 (01:50:12):
And they're all girls.

Speaker 1 (01:50:15):
There will all be girls, Raymond. Listen.

Speaker 3 (01:50:18):
I hope I'm not putting your business out on front street.
But if you want to, if you want to have
a boy, you need to stop smoking weed. Weed kills
the baby boys in your ball set.

Speaker 2 (01:50:32):
Just to let you know, uh and uh. Some people
hit me up. I want to know if I'm ever
gonna talk about money again and again, I just you know.
So here's a little tip, one of many that will
come here, one of many, something that I exercise. It

(01:50:57):
was just something that you want to buy, Okay, nothing big.
I'm not talking a frigerator, car, those you should be
saving up for. But if you ever want to buy
something and you ask yourself, can I afford this? Should
I buy it? Do I really? Can I really afford it?
My recommendation is if you could buy two, then you

(01:51:18):
could buy the one. If you cannot buy two at
that particular moment in time, then you should not buy it.
That's how you could know if you could afford something.
Tell me something you've bought recently.

Speaker 1 (01:51:31):
I haven't bought anything recently.

Speaker 2 (01:51:35):
Something you've bought that you didn't know if you should
buy because if you could afford it or not? Your
wallet you Louavatar wallet, that was a long ass time. Okay, Well,
I'm just saying that's something like, if you could buy
two of them, then you can afford it, and if
you can't, then just set money aside for it, and
then when you could, when you set money aside for something,

(01:51:59):
I personally don't see a problem with you buying it.

Speaker 3 (01:52:01):
I always said, if you're gonna buy a wallet, if
it's gonna cost you everything in your wallet, why buy it.
You ain't gonna have shit to put in it. I
think that's what Tony's trying to say, just being nice
about it.

Speaker 2 (01:52:14):
If you could buy two of them, then you can
if then brand new shoes you want to buy. If
you could buy two pairs, then you can buy the one.

Speaker 1 (01:52:21):
I think I'm just gonna start waiting till my birthday
pre you go. Should I got this ship figured out?
Have you worn them yet, No, I ordered a shirt
that's gonna look right, dude. I can't step out in
brand new shoes and be like, oh, I'm gonna get
a shirt that matched later. That's not the way that works. Tony.
You act like you don't know me, there anybody else.

(01:52:45):
That's it, that's it cool. Oh you know what tomorrow is?

Speaker 3 (01:52:52):
Uh, Manny my first cost it's his birthday tomorrow, So
happy birthday, Manny.

Speaker 1 (01:52:59):
I don't even know if you listens, and I think
that's it, right.

Speaker 2 (01:53:06):
Cool.

Speaker 1 (01:53:06):
If you miss you, you weren't important. And just if we
missed you and you're not important, remember that's Tony's job,
all right. Guys, Hey, thanks for listening. I love you guys.
See you next week.

Speaker 2 (01:53:20):
Peace,