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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Did you know a marriage stops thriving when the individuals
stop evolving.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Let's go about loving them the way that God intend life,
experience to ship, God help transform.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
So it says cough of made to mention of a
marriage stops thriving when individuals stop evolving. I have a
question though, in addition to that, are you still the
same person after you said I do? Did you change?
Did we change as a couple? So, Copper, do you
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think you changed after you we said I do?
Speaker 1 (01:00):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (01:02):
So do you think you changed for the better? Do
you think you changed a whole lot? A little bit?
Like what changed for you?
Speaker 1 (01:13):
I mean I looked at myself differently, I felt different.
I went to sleep feeling different. So I don't know
what changed.
Speaker 4 (01:22):
But I know when I went to sleep at it,
I said, I do. I was tired. I'm like, I.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Was tired, due you wasn't tired anyway.
Speaker 4 (01:33):
I was tired, not that tired. Hey, how tired I was?
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Because I was there?
Speaker 3 (01:40):
I was e Well, no, you're right, I mean no,
I was tired. But again, it was just the hypeness.
It was the excitement at the same time.
Speaker 4 (01:48):
I do you know after bringing in all them gifts,
you know, and and you know the the did.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
I try to bring you in?
Speaker 4 (02:00):
I don't remember if I try to bring you in
over the threshold. I think I tried. I think we
talked about it or considered it.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
I don't remember which door we came in, if it
was the front or the back door.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
I think we tried to do the front door, but
you know you had on your you know, hey, y'all,
I just want again, let me back up for a moment.
There's a totally off topic. We clean out our storage
area and we came across our wedding stuff and kindfo
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pulled out her slip from the wedding, and the slip,
I'm like, if y'all listened to one other episode, the
last episode or one episode whatever it is, when it's
airs and she talks about Bridgerton, that slip made me
think about Bridgeton.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
Oh yes, I had about good twenty five layers that was,
and then you did dress itself had another ten layers.
So for all of those that were there at the reception,
and it was time to remove the guard belt, and
I sat in that chair and I thought I could
just like pull up and get to it. No, I
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had to keep pulling and pull, like I was like
digging and digging to get to my leg. I couldn't
find my leg underneath that dress. I think you did
all that, and then you still had to like find
your way right, yeah, through all those layers. So yeah,
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that was a lot of layers, a lot of layers.
So yeah, we've grown since then. I don't wear as
many layers.
Speaker 3 (03:39):
Oh yeah, yeah, we've learned that we need to be
more simple, you know. But in that space of growth,
I learned a lot about myself. I might have been
more ready than I had envisioned of saying I do.
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There was a lot of nerves leaning up to us
to even get to a point of saying I do.
There was a lot of moments of saying, hey, you
know what, We're gonna light this candle, not tip it
over and put everybody on fire in the first row.
Speaker 4 (04:12):
You know, there was you know, there were.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
You know, hey, being a part of a new family,
all all the other type of stuff. So so you intentionally,
I know, for myself, I had to intentionally be open
enough to say, hey, I'm a part of something different,
I'm a part of something greater. And in that we
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had to understand that because we were church goers.
Speaker 4 (04:44):
That were how we were going to grow.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
Spiritually as well, you know, and I think some of
those things. Even after saying I do now you you,
the script changes a little bit to say, you know what,
I gotta be intentional in.
Speaker 4 (05:07):
This space, right.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
I know we've talked about that part of being intentional
on another episode, but just to go a little bit
deeper into the intentionality, you know, you want to grow,
you know, I think you marry somebody that you have
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connection with, but you're only connecting. I think in certain areas,
certain points connect. But then once you move in with
that person, once you deal with them on a day
to day basis, more pieces of you connect with that person.
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And when those things connect and they align, then their
result is growth. And Maurice gave the little part about
our unity candle situation. We had a unity candle, so
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they both were the individual candles were lit by our mothers,
so they stay lit the entire ceremony, and then we
didn't do the unity candle until somewhere midway or towards
the end. You know, I think you exchange rings and
then you do the unity candle. So we didn't plan
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very well on how long those individual taper candles were
going to be on fire. I don't recall that we
even trimmed the wick properly before having them lit. So
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when the time came on that nice Chris, it wasn't
Chris on that warm September evening, and we decided to
move our individual candles and light the unity candle with
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a very large wick that was exposed.
Speaker 4 (07:23):
It was about to be a fire. It was about
to be a fire.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
It was the beginning of of of the fire of
our marriage. Was it was lit, It was it was.
All I can say is our marriage was lit from
that point on. Because Maurice's little face he talks about
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me and my expressions.
Speaker 4 (07:52):
Yeah, I was like, yes, I had the biggest old face.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
And it's so funny because you up with acolytes, so
you worked with candles, yes, for ten years probably if
not more.
Speaker 4 (08:06):
Oh, it was a whole heck of lot.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
More so the fact that you were a little taken
aback by these candles, because you know, again in church,
you lit them all the time and you put them
out with the snuffer.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
You know.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
That's but I don't know why your face.
Speaker 3 (08:24):
Was just like because that jawn was on fire, that
jawn was high, like like it's like those type of
things where you see a flame thrower and you'd be like, well, dag, like.
Speaker 4 (08:41):
How hot is that?
Speaker 1 (08:42):
And so then you have these two individual flames woo
like I said, and the wick was long, so that
makes the flame larger, and then you bring those two
together mm hmm't becomes twice as large, and uh yeah,
I don't know where the snuffer was.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
I don't.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
I think we kept our individual candles lit.
Speaker 4 (09:06):
I don't remember because I.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
Was just because that was the whole thing, like, hey,
you know, we're still as we're talking about in this episode,
is that you want to grow together, but you also
want yourselves to continue to grow individually. So I think
we kind of didn't want to blow ours out, so
I guess, and I'm happy I think we didn't because
who knows where.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
First of all, I don't even know how they went
out after we walked out, Like, I don't remember any
of that. All I remember is that fire was was ridiculous, yea,
And maybe, like you said.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
The community candle, we didn't keep the tapers, so I think,
I mean.
Speaker 3 (09:38):
And so if that was any indication of how our
marriage was going to be. I mean, it was befitting,
but I think also.
Speaker 4 (09:49):
I wanted to blow it out.
Speaker 3 (09:51):
But then if you blow it out, then all the
wax and everything else would have blown on other people.
And you don't know if the fire was going to
go out, and like, yeah, it was whoa like I was,
I was not. I was I was in awe of
the fire. Yes, And so because of transition wise, because
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of us not planning that very well, we're also planning
very well for the marriage as a whole because part
of this process of getting married, there are some things
that you probably need to talk about, right so, but
there are some things that you don't know. So for
an example, like there's no way to say, well, Kafa,
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you know we're twenty I was twenty four and he
was twenty six. So there's no way to say, all right, Kafa,
Well when we are in our very late forties and
you're dealing with gout. You know I'm dealing with gout.
You know, how do we deal with that?
Speaker 2 (10:49):
Right?
Speaker 4 (10:50):
You know? How you expect for that to be handled?
You know, when I have that flare.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
Up and you know I was wishing and thinking about gout.
I think we did think about, hey, how are we
going to raise a family those types of things like,
but even with that, not having that experience with anyone near.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
Us, Okay, all right, confince, so all right, so maybe
I won't go twenty years in the future. Maybe I'll
just go two years in the future of saying, your babe,
do we know we had to take out a loan
for these diapers?
Speaker 4 (11:23):
Like, your babe, do we know that this this little boy? Right?
I think it was the what's it, Maurice?
Speaker 3 (11:31):
That that or I can't remember who it was where
you know, we had to go and start getting the
powdered milk, the similar stuff or whatever it was, and
realizing that, you know what, we have to beg borrow
and steal from everybody that we know in order for
us to get this.
Speaker 4 (11:47):
We didn't know.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
We didn't have those type of conversations, you know why,
because we didn't know, right, We didn't know that it
was going to cost us, you know, like, in all honesty,
I probably should have given blood every week in order
for me.
Speaker 4 (11:57):
To get that done.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
Not that, but again, we.
Speaker 4 (12:02):
Didn't have those conversations though, and we didn't do our research.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
Again, who are we going to get research from?
Speaker 4 (12:08):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (12:09):
Maybe we should have I mean one of our favorite
pastimes where hey, let's go in the store and let's
daydream about this. Maybe somebody should have just sat us down, like,
you know what needs to happen in.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
The baby aisle.
Speaker 3 (12:21):
Well, that's what I'm getting to saying. I think that
somebody needs to have a I don't know what retailer
needs to hear this or whatever it is, but I
think that y'all need to have a consultant in the store, right, Like, Hey,
you can go in here and get your bridal registry
and hey, you could buy all you want, but you
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need to have a consultant right there with that to say, hey,
you know what if you buy this, right, if you
put this on your registry, what is the real care
with that? So if you buy this, then you need
to go buy bars soap or Bar's soap, or you
need to go buy Murphy's oil, or you need to
buy you know, in order for you to preserve this
stuff if you want to keep it very long and
if you want, hey you wanted a baby shower, understand
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that this ten thousand dollars.
Speaker 4 (13:08):
Carriage is not gonna last you two babies.
Speaker 3 (13:10):
It's only gonna last you one sot. The next carriage
that you get unique because you're going if you plan
on having more than one baby. This this carriage right here,
Yes it has a car seat built in, right, but
if you got two babies, guess what you need another
car seat, homie. So guess what the next car seat
will now cost you. This one costs ten thousand, The
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next one will cost you twelve thousand, seven hundred and
fifty nine dollars and ninety eight cents. So then if
now you need a booster seat, and yes it's a
whole lot less plastic, but guess what that was gonna
cost you twenty seven thousand dollars.
Speaker 4 (13:47):
Right So, and because of because.
Speaker 3 (13:50):
We're looking two or three years in the future, right so,
we need to have consultants at these places. And I
think it's a great business model, to be honest, it could.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
I thought you're really going to go another way with it.
I think, you know, because when you're growing up, at
least for little girls, you know, when you have you know,
Kpfa and Marie sitting in the cheek, you know, tree
K I S S I n G. First comes love,
then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage.
So hey, I think when you register for marriage for
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a wedding and you're doing a wedding registry, I think
the consultant should say, hey, in a year or two,
you maybe having a baby. Let's just go walk through
that aisle with you. Let's just you know, begin to
to plan out what that registry would look like, so
that you kind of have in your mind, you know.
Speaker 4 (14:48):
So the wedding gifts your baby gets from the beginning,
it can.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
It can.
Speaker 4 (14:53):
Let's start.
Speaker 3 (14:54):
Let's start to stack it now, because if we don't
plan on having kids for another two to five years,
we got in storage because guess what if we get
in five years.
Speaker 1 (15:04):
Might be recalled. So I'm just saying, like, let let
the folks know those who are let the happy couple
know all happy couples that are out there. If you're
about to get married, think about just walking through the
baby section, uh, so that you're prepared so you can
start that savings now. I think it's a savings account,
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you know, like not.
Speaker 4 (15:27):
For college, just just for just see you need.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
I think the parents should do the college savings. But
I think once you get married, and you know, because
people when you go to a bridal register, a bridal party,
is that what it's called. No, yeah, a bridal party,
and no it's not called a bridal party. Whatever it's called.
Where the ladies get together and they open up gifts
and things like that. They actually they play these games,
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you know what I mean? And the games are you
know how many babies you want to have and when
you want to start? And you know what did you
what do you want the kids to look like? And
what do you want them to call? Whatever the games are.
I think from there the conversation should be, well do
you know how much it's going to cost?
Speaker 3 (16:14):
So, so you want to turn from a party into
life sucks?
Speaker 2 (16:20):
Like?
Speaker 4 (16:21):
Is that what you want?
Speaker 1 (16:22):
I mean, it depends. I mean again, for us, it
was difficult because no one else at our age and
our friends were married or having kids, or.
Speaker 3 (16:31):
We weren't close like so, so do I have cousins
that are just a few years older than me, right?
And so those cousins had babies that were again not
too much older than what our kids right now, yes,
and so, but we weren't as close as we are today, right,
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you know? And so and they're my first cousins. They're
not even like down the line cousins. They're first cousins.
I wasn't that close, But that's part of that is
because I wasn't that close to my dad's family at
that time either.
Speaker 4 (17:03):
Right.
Speaker 3 (17:04):
But if we could have had the conversation, now, I'm
gonna be honest with you, I can think of one
person if we would have talked to them, they were like.
Speaker 4 (17:14):
Dude.
Speaker 3 (17:15):
Now you can replace the word dude with other words
because of the person I'm talking about. Right, But if
she would have said, and I can almost see her face,
I'm talking about Nana.
Speaker 4 (17:29):
How would Nane really.
Speaker 3 (17:30):
Respond if we said we wanted to have kids? She
she probably would have said, choose another profession, right, She
probably wasn't do something else with your life, right where
my cousin Tanika might have been a little more receptive
to having kids.
Speaker 4 (17:50):
You get what I mean? You know? So, So, in
all reality, it all depends on who you talk to.
Speaker 3 (17:59):
So can we sit there and had that type of
conversation to say, hey, you know what, do you gonna
have these babies? Understand what the real financial cost is
but hey, you know the challenge with that is, guess what,
nobody's gonna get married again? You know, the family structure
is already struggling, you know. But I think these are
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real conversations that we need to have of understanding what
it means to support that dream, Like if we have
a dream of having a family, we have a dream
of getting houses, buying houses, getting cars, having a healthy
lifestyle or whatever it is. We need to have those
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type of conversations, not just from a together perspective, but
also understand from an individual, right, you know, and understand
what is the origin of that, because there's some things
that I might dream of.
Speaker 4 (18:59):
That if you don't know the real origin.
Speaker 3 (19:03):
And for that particular time, because the origin can shift
as you get older, because of now you're away from
that moment or that situation.
Speaker 1 (19:15):
Because right now, that's what we're saying, we're growing, we're evolving,
you know, more layers of being put on or more
layers are shed, you know, shedding and coming off.
Speaker 3 (19:23):
That's why I said the origin would change because now
because now I could honestly say to you, Kauf, you
know why I really said this or why I really
said that, Because right now I'm giving you as you
stated earlier, what's the person that you're seeing?
Speaker 4 (19:36):
Right?
Speaker 3 (19:36):
Are you getting the real Maurice or not? You're getting
the twenty four year old Maurice versus the thirty four
year old Maurice, and then a forty four year old
Maurice is like a copa.
Speaker 4 (19:47):
Guess what, babe, here's a real deal.
Speaker 3 (19:52):
I didn't like that because of whatever, and I was
too embarrassed to tell you at twenty four go and
everything else.
Speaker 1 (20:01):
Or you didn't know again, a lot of things at
twenty four. We don't know everything. We haven't experienced a
lot in life. But as we grow, as we mature,
that things change, and it should we should grow. We
should continue to learn each and every day something new,
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something you know, even if it's not anything new, Like hey,
i just learned a better way to do something, you
know what I mean. So it may not be totally new,
but I've learned a more efficient way of doing something.
So with that, we're changing, we're evolving, and we do
that as individuals. And then I think communicating with your partner,
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communicating with your family, whomever you know, to let them know, hey,
I've learned something new. I've evolved, I've changed, I've upgraded
a little bit, and then that helped the relationship because
you're bringing something new to the table, and I think that's,
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you know, a great thing. But also the couple, the
relationship can grow and change as well as we as individuals,
grow and change. So I encourage everybody to look at
themselves and figure out how you've grown, how you've changed,
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and share that with somebody else. What you what you've
learned about yourself, what you've learned about the world. Because
this world is changing. It ain't the same old world
that it used to be. So you know, life, life
around us is changing, and we then change with it.
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Even if we think we're not, we are.
Speaker 4 (21:57):
So I'm not a butterflo are.
Speaker 1 (22:00):
You don't change?
Speaker 4 (22:02):
Okay, uh huh, not at all. I just stayed the
same with Maurice.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
You don't look the same. I won't let you know.
And a lot of things that sounds so bad, say
something good, like so.
Speaker 4 (22:21):
You're gonna justify, like, well, there was some things that.
Speaker 1 (22:23):
You used to do that were bad. Did you don't
do anymore? Praise God, Hallelujah, thank you Jesus.
Speaker 3 (22:30):
Okay, I don't know what that could be, especially for
you to like I should have pressed a bond.
Speaker 1 (22:38):
But you want to know what it is.
Speaker 4 (22:43):
I'm scared, especially the way you said it.
Speaker 1 (22:45):
Were communicating, We'll be scared. So Maurice and I first
got together married, mhm, it was me first married. It
was definitely within this first or second year of marriage.
I used to rush up stairs to go to sleep.
Oh yes, before he did, because he used to tease
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me because he would go to sleep so quickly and
be so sound asleep. He would tease me in his sleep.
He would taunt me because he was able to sleep
and I couldn't fall asleep, or I couldn't stay asleep,
or I was just not comfortable whatever, especially when I
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was pregnant. But yeah, so he had a way of,
you know, teasing me that he was able to sleep.
Speaker 3 (23:41):
So I'm gonna read between the lines, right, and I
think this is what it is. Because as our kids
had gotten older, I think they used.
Speaker 4 (23:51):
To talk about this as well. This is what I'm considering.
Speaker 3 (23:54):
I'm not sure if this is what it is, but
it got fixed later on because again when we talk
about out growing and not having a conversation about health, right,
sometimes you don't always you're not aware of certain things right,
and you.
Speaker 4 (24:08):
Just assume that there are things that you just don't
do right.
Speaker 3 (24:13):
And part of that is because you are asleep, you're
not aware of what the world really experiences you sleep.
So the experience that i'm because I'm thinking it is
is that you can hear me breathing. Yeah, you can
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just get breathe out, you know, what's how to put it.
And then and so I didn't realize what was really
going on, even from a real.
Speaker 4 (24:51):
Health perspective, right.
Speaker 3 (24:53):
But now here's the thing, though, I don't recall Confa
saying that to me prior to us. You know, it's
not like I've never taken a nap in front of
her before, So I don't recall her ever saying Maurice, yo,
you and that log you and that saw whatever you're doing, yo,
you you getting paid.
Speaker 4 (25:10):
Homie, like you make a lot of money right versus
you know.
Speaker 3 (25:15):
Now, I don't think I'm like that right now, not
not as close you know as we sleep right now.
Speaker 1 (25:21):
But see, no, no, no, nowhere near that at all,
you know.
Speaker 3 (25:27):
And so some of that too is understanding what the
health challenges were. Whatelse was whatever else was going on,
taking better care of yourself, you know, whatever it is, right,
you know. So there are some things that you again,
you just don't know. And I hear a lot of
people say, you know, I don't snore, yo, Really you
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serious about that? You think about that? So so I
used to think the same way sometimes about coplight.
Speaker 4 (25:56):
Oh a little baby, she don't snore?
Speaker 2 (25:59):
Wow?
Speaker 4 (26:00):
What what? Nah? Catch her on a good day? Who
you know?
Speaker 1 (26:08):
And some alas like it's flipped because you know, Maurice
stopped teasing when he sleeps, and now it's become, you know,
part of my life and and I'm like him, like
when he would tease me earlier in our marriage when
he was sleeping, it would get so good to him
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that he had to wake up and like they're like, wow,
that was really really good sleep. And I'm the same,
Like I wake up like, oh wow, that was really
good sleep. Like I caught myself there. I heard I
heard I heard me, I heard me teasing. I need
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to fix that.
Speaker 4 (26:56):
So yes, oh god.
Speaker 3 (27:06):
Oh she's killing me, y'all. That's a that's a perfect
way of explaining, like you got problems.
Speaker 1 (27:15):
Yeah, I heard that on on social media and somebody
was saying that their their spouse teases them that they
get to sleep and the other person doesn't.
Speaker 3 (27:23):
Yeah, that's a that's perfect, Like that's a that's a
great way of explaining, like you need to get checked out.
Speaker 4 (27:30):
So you got problems.
Speaker 1 (27:31):
I didn't think you needed to get checked I grew
up with someone who snores.
Speaker 3 (27:35):
Yeah, I understand that, but the reality is is that
but it became a problem, you know, because Cop would be.
Speaker 4 (27:42):
Like, I'm so tired, Maurice, I'm just so tired.
Speaker 1 (27:47):
I guess that I would try to get upstairs before
he would, so I could like try to fall asleep
before him.
Speaker 3 (27:51):
And then and then here's the thing though, here's the
other part of that too. She would try to get
upstairs and be, you know, get up there before me,
and you know, I'm in a playful mood and now
I want to play and tickle and all this other
type of stuff, which makes her stay up even longer.
Speaker 4 (28:05):
Right, and then we'll be like, all right, it's time
to go to sleep. I'm out.
Speaker 3 (28:10):
I'm sorry, babe's morning time already.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
Like I would push them and you know, tap them
and oh no, I don't you know, like come on turnover, please,
And he turned over for a little while, then back
to it, singing his song.
Speaker 4 (28:29):
They got all the time.
Speaker 1 (28:33):
Yeah, you you like to sing.
Speaker 4 (28:36):
You know so so yeah, so you know.
Speaker 3 (28:40):
On that note, please, if it's a goal to have
your your spouse to not snore anymore, you know, you
need to have that kind of kind of conversation, right,
you need to be open, have open communication of Yes,
I think that we need to talk about some health
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changes that we need to do. Right, We need we
need we need to we need to figure out whether
you need a new pillow or that. Right, you know,
we need to understand that. Hey, from a financial perspective,
in order for you to get better sleep, we need
to invest in a better pillow and or a better mattress,
whatever it is, craftmatic, whatever it is. Right, I don't
care if you gotta go backwards to go to a
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whole new water bed. You get what I'm saying that,
whatever it might be, I don't know, that's a good question. No,
That's why I brought it up. But you know, so
from from a communication perspective, communicate what your goals are, right,
you know, this time next year, I am determined for
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you to no longer singing in my ear when I'm
trying to sleep, because guess what, it's not healthy for
both of us. And on top of that, the flip
side of that, because the times when when I was
in those challenges, I mean, Kapfu would kind of lay back,
you know, and have her head cocked all the way back,
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like the back of her head touch on her back,
and there was so much air coming out of her nose,
and so we had to adjust readjuste like, hey, Kaufuo,
don't you want to put your head down a little bit,
do you?
Speaker 4 (30:12):
Conversations?
Speaker 3 (30:13):
Yes, right, you know, and some of that might have
been Maurice, you're singing way too loud.
Speaker 4 (30:17):
I got to get away from it, right.
Speaker 3 (30:19):
So you know, it's all these challenges that you don't
know until you, you know, are with that individual, right
you know, So set goals, whether they're financial, whether they
are health related, even when we talk about you know,
church situations like hey have some goals even from a
spiritual perspective, right, you know, And so yes, we're making
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fun of it.
Speaker 4 (30:43):
You know.
Speaker 3 (30:44):
Again, this is part of marriage and being in that
relationship and knowing each other a little bit and being
able to have that open conversation where you're not offended
by the situation, you know, and so, and being also
open minded enough to say, oh, while, all right, I
got that you're talking about me, But can you can
I still laugh at it?
Speaker 4 (31:05):
Right?
Speaker 3 (31:06):
Can I still enjoy it? And versus having and being
all uptight about it? No, it's not. I mean for us,
this is what works for us. I can't guarantee it
to work for you, but try it. Have some fun
with it, yeah, she said. She looked at someone talking about, Hey,
you're teasing me because you can sleep and I can't.
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I mean, that's a very nice and polite way of saying.
Speaker 4 (31:31):
You know that you're enjoying life and I'm not. I
understand that, right.
Speaker 3 (31:38):
So how do you ensure that you having those type
of communications with your spouse, with your loved one, whoever
it might be, you know? So, as we all continue
to evolve and to grow, let's let's ensure that our
marriage grows with it, not just as us as individuals,
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but us as a couple that we're growing together. So
share those moments. Yo, I like sushi. Now maybe that
person likes you sushi also, maybe? Right, So let's enjoy
this wonderful moment together. So let's talk. And I think
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each and every one of you for coming on to
the show today. Listen to the show today, and I
would prefer if you, as Coffee used to say back
in the day, stay fit, Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. We
have some other channels coming up very shortly that you'll
get more content, more information, whatever it might be. And
if you're having challenge, I'm sorry that was my tea.
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And if you having some challenges with understanding who you
are and what you're going through or whatever it is,
feel free to buy the World White Not Workbook to
understand yourself. Get a copy or your spouse and y'all
can work on it together. So please, please please enjoy yourselves,
and you know, stop snoring. Talk to you later.