June 19, 2025 • 11 mins
What is your internal voice saying? Are you telling yourself you can't do something or you aren't good enough? It's time to reframe our self talk into something positive. Be kind to yourself.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
You are listening to the on Purpose podcast. Honor the
Brave was founded by retired law enforcement officer Jeff Wolfgang
and his wife Xana after Jeff was injured in the
line of duty. It's their way of giving back to
the first responder a military community through real estate. If
you're a military or first responder, passed or present buying
our selling a home, Honor the Brave connects you with
(00:22):
trusted realtors nationwide and gives back through their Brave Benefits.
You receive an amount equivalent to ten percent of your
agent's commission as a thank you, and additional five percent
goes to a charity you choose, impacting first responders or
military families, and you'll receive a handmade wooden flag honoring
your service. Visit Honor the Brave dot com. We've got
your six what's up, everybody, and welcome to episode three
(00:47):
oh seven. That's three hundred and seven episodes we've been
created over six years now. It's just crazy. Blows my mind.
We've had that kind of consistency and that you're here
with us and we're thankful and that I got to
tell you this is the last episode we'll be recording
from Florida and the Hideaway Campground where we've been hanging
out for the last four months, which is by far
(01:11):
the longest day we've had anywhere since we hit the
road in twenty twenty one. So I want to say
thanks to the Hideaway Campground for having us. It's been
an awesome time down here. If you're in the Nature
Coast area of Florida, hit them up. It's a good place.
It's perfect accommodations to camp, have your luxuries, but still
be in nature, and I want to thank them. So
(01:33):
this week, I want to talk about we are what
we say we are right, we are what we say
we are. We become what we say we become. And
I'm talking about that internal voice that we all have
right that voice that can either reaffirm us, reassure us
and help us move forward, or that helps create doubt insecurity, fear.
(01:58):
And one of the things that can came across recently
that really struck with me is most internal voices. Most
of our internal voices are really just an external voice,
a voice we heard from somebody else that we let
in and stuck with us a lot of times, just
from your parents. It's from a coach, a teacher, somebody
that had a position of influence over you, and whatever
(02:20):
they said has stuck with you and become your internal voice.
So what is that? The nice thing is we can
control our internal voice. We can reprogram an internal voice
if we become mindful about it and purposeful about it
and intentional and what we allow in and what we
(02:41):
allow to stay there, right, we can reframe it. What
if about telling ourselves I'm so dumb I can't do something?
We tell ourselves I enjoy this challenge. Or instead of
saying I can't or I never could, how about we say,
(03:02):
how about we bring in a resource or friend that
maybe has knowledge that can help us grow? Right, we
get to see obstacles and challenges any way we want.
They're either going to be limits to where we can become,
to where we can go, or there will be opportunities
to grow. And sometimes that growth isn't even us. Sometimes
that growth is by relying on an associate. I love
(03:24):
to call them, right, and associate or a friend that
has that knowledge and they just need you to reach
out to them to help impart it. Right, say, what
we say to ourselves becomes our reality. If we tell ourselves.
We're lacking, we can't, we won't, then most likely we're not.
(03:47):
If we look for the wrong in ourselves and our circumstances,
it bleeds over, it's hard to carry over, or it's
hard to find the good in the world or the
people around us. Right say, if we want to start
seeing the good and things, but first you see the
good in ourselves. Create the habit of seeing the good
in ourselves by becoming our best cheerleader, our coach, the
(04:11):
voice of possibility for our life and those around us. Right,
Too many times we have an idea, or we pass
off ownership of the voice that goes in our head
is to somebody else. Well, I had this, this bad circumstance,
I had this bad teacher. My parent was critical of
(04:32):
this that at some point we got to stop. Okay,
wait to say, what do I want in my brain?
What voice do I want? And let's reframe it, Let's
take practice at it, let's work at it. Right. Just
the other day, I went on a run around the
campground that'd been it was going to be longer than
(04:54):
any run I've ever done, right, I it was twenty miles.
I've only done thirteen before, and I'm gotten into running.
I like to challenge. I like that when I run,
I know there's gonna be pain, I know there's gonna
be discomfort. I know there's going to be a time
when I want to quit. I enjoy that. I know
(05:15):
that once I reach that point where I want to quit,
I'm starting to get better because up until that point,
I'm just in my same comfort zone. I'm good up
to that point because I've already been there before. I'm
simply retracing the steps or the actions that got me
to that point. But on this day, I knew it
was gonna come, and I knew I was gonna stick
(05:35):
it out and go way further than I ever have
because I have big goals. I have things I want
to accomplish, and going into that, I know, Okay, when
I get to that point, I'm gonna have a choice
on the self talk. I'ma have a choice on what
I let in. Is it gonna be the pain my
toe hurting, how far it is, how many more laps
I gotta do, how hot it is all these things?
(05:59):
Or do I want to take ownership of what I'm
gonna say? And so a lot of these times when
I'm out on these long runs or these hikes, and
I get a chance to go inward. I like to
kind of think about conversations, think about what I want,
to tell myself what I want. It's an active meditation.
(06:21):
A lot of times I'm engaging with myself. I'm talking
to myself. I'm finding truth about myself. I'm dismissing lies
about myself. I'm getting rid of stuff I've said to
myself that no longer serves me or helps make me better.
So on that day, when I'm running and I started
getting to that point and I can either stop and
(06:41):
go backwards or continue forward my inner dialogue, the first
thing I wanted to say is thanks to my past self,
the young Jared, the teenage Jared, the professional version of myself,
and say thanks that what all the day went through,
All those different versions of me persevered through, learned about
(07:05):
the highs, the lows, the tears, the laughs, the heartaches,
the high fives, That all the things those versions of
me went through, I'm thankful for because they went through it,
I now have the option on this day to keep
running or stop. I have the luxury of moving forward
(07:29):
or resting right. And it's only because of what I've
done in the past. I have that choice today. But
before I answer that question and make that decision of
what I want to do right now, I also have
to think about future Jared seventy five or eighty year
old Jared. What is he looking back at me right
(07:51):
now hoping I do. Is that version of me thinking
and this guy needs a day off? Or would they
be excited? Then I push myself that I ran further
than I ever have and what they say, thanks, thanks
for doing that. Maybe this action today gets future Jared
(08:12):
one more dance with Andrea. Maybe the exertion and the
pain I went through on this day gives me one
extra time at the playground with grandkids in the future.
Or if I stop make the pain go away? Would
(08:34):
future Jared look back and go, ah, maybe tomorrow he'll
push himself for me. Right, you're seeing myself talk. I
believe in what I'm doing. I encourage myself to push,
knowing that when I get to that point, I'm about
to get better. And then I find a way to
(08:58):
reflect on the gratitude of earning the pain. Right Like
I didn't get the discomfort by taking it easy. I
didn't get to the point I wanted to quit by
doing what I'd done. So I'm grateful that the past
version of me went through whatever they went through to
get to the point where a current version of me
has a choice. I'm grateful for that, and I'm also
(09:21):
grateful to me. I'm grateful for the chance to give
something to the future version of myself that they're going
to want to have, and that day, believing in me
sharing this discussion with Andrea and Gene are a fantastic
winter neighborhood decided to go run with us. Maybe that
(09:44):
sparks them to believe in themselves, and it sparks them
to reframe how they talk to themselves, and then the
ripple flat goes to where now all of a sudden,
they're influencing their circle by a belief and seeing the
good and not getting caught up in all the bad.
(10:05):
So I ask you this week, team, let's come together
and work on reframing our inner voice, what we're going
to let in, what we're going to say to ourselves.
Let's become our own best support system to encourage us
to dream with us, to see the good in us
and return the world around us. Because maybe just maybe
(10:31):
you'll become the light that ignites the same spark and
someone close to you. But we'll never know if we
don't turn it on in ourselves. Have an awesome week, everybody.
Thank you so much for being here, and if you've
got anything out of this episode or any of the
other three hundred and six previous episodes, please help us out.
Go to your favorite podcast apps, our social media Instagram,
(10:54):
primary or LinkedIn YouTube like subscribe, share, or you know what,
it's free, go to all of the do it all,
and then engage with us every now and then shoot
us a comment, tell me the favorite parts of the
episodes on social media. You'd be amazed at how many
people want to support shows but won't comment on your
stuff even though it's making a difference and it's crazy,
(11:15):
but those little comments, that little engagement is what helps
continue to propel us forward and move to reach more people.
Because remember, our goal here is to be the most
impactful podcast in the world. That means we're changing people's lives.
We can only do it with you, so thank you
so much for being here. Let's reframe how we talk
to ourselves, Reframe within our head and light our spark
(11:37):
and see where it goes. Have a great week everybody,
and remember team life is far too short to live
any other way than on purpose. We'll see you all
again next week
You are listening to the on Purpose podcast. Honor the
Brave was founded by retired law enforcement officer Jeff Wolfgang
and his wife Xana after Jeff was injured in the
line of duty. It's their way of giving back to
the first responder a military community through real estate. If
you're a military or first responder, passed or present buying
our selling a home, Honor the Brave connects you with
(00:22):
trusted realtors nationwide and gives back through their Brave Benefits.
You receive an amount equivalent to ten percent of your
agent's commission as a thank you, and additional five percent
goes to a charity you choose, impacting first responders or
military families, and you'll receive a handmade wooden flag honoring
your service. Visit Honor the Brave dot com. We've got
your six what's up, everybody, and welcome to episode three
(00:47):
oh seven. That's three hundred and seven episodes we've been
created over six years now. It's just crazy. Blows my mind.
We've had that kind of consistency and that you're here
with us and we're thankful and that I got to
tell you this is the last episode we'll be recording
from Florida and the Hideaway Campground where we've been hanging
out for the last four months, which is by far
(01:11):
the longest day we've had anywhere since we hit the
road in twenty twenty one. So I want to say
thanks to the Hideaway Campground for having us. It's been
an awesome time down here. If you're in the Nature
Coast area of Florida, hit them up. It's a good place.
It's perfect accommodations to camp, have your luxuries, but still
be in nature, and I want to thank them. So
(01:33):
this week, I want to talk about we are what
we say we are right, we are what we say
we are. We become what we say we become. And
I'm talking about that internal voice that we all have
right that voice that can either reaffirm us, reassure us
and help us move forward, or that helps create doubt insecurity, fear.
(01:58):
And one of the things that can came across recently
that really struck with me is most internal voices. Most
of our internal voices are really just an external voice,
a voice we heard from somebody else that we let
in and stuck with us a lot of times, just
from your parents. It's from a coach, a teacher, somebody
that had a position of influence over you, and whatever
(02:20):
they said has stuck with you and become your internal voice.
So what is that? The nice thing is we can
control our internal voice. We can reprogram an internal voice
if we become mindful about it and purposeful about it
and intentional and what we allow in and what we
(02:41):
allow to stay there, right, we can reframe it. What
if about telling ourselves I'm so dumb I can't do something?
We tell ourselves I enjoy this challenge. Or instead of
saying I can't or I never could, how about we say,
(03:02):
how about we bring in a resource or friend that
maybe has knowledge that can help us grow? Right, we
get to see obstacles and challenges any way we want.
They're either going to be limits to where we can become,
to where we can go, or there will be opportunities
to grow. And sometimes that growth isn't even us. Sometimes
that growth is by relying on an associate. I love
(03:24):
to call them, right, and associate or a friend that
has that knowledge and they just need you to reach
out to them to help impart it. Right, say, what
we say to ourselves becomes our reality. If we tell ourselves.
We're lacking, we can't, we won't, then most likely we're not.
(03:47):
If we look for the wrong in ourselves and our circumstances,
it bleeds over, it's hard to carry over, or it's
hard to find the good in the world or the
people around us. Right say, if we want to start
seeing the good and things, but first you see the
good in ourselves. Create the habit of seeing the good
in ourselves by becoming our best cheerleader, our coach, the
(04:11):
voice of possibility for our life and those around us. Right,
Too many times we have an idea, or we pass
off ownership of the voice that goes in our head
is to somebody else. Well, I had this, this bad circumstance,
I had this bad teacher. My parent was critical of
(04:32):
this that at some point we got to stop. Okay,
wait to say, what do I want in my brain?
What voice do I want? And let's reframe it, Let's
take practice at it, let's work at it. Right. Just
the other day, I went on a run around the
campground that'd been it was going to be longer than
(04:54):
any run I've ever done, right, I it was twenty miles.
I've only done thirteen before, and I'm gotten into running.
I like to challenge. I like that when I run,
I know there's gonna be pain, I know there's gonna
be discomfort. I know there's going to be a time
when I want to quit. I enjoy that. I know
(05:15):
that once I reach that point where I want to quit,
I'm starting to get better because up until that point,
I'm just in my same comfort zone. I'm good up
to that point because I've already been there before. I'm
simply retracing the steps or the actions that got me
to that point. But on this day, I knew it
was gonna come, and I knew I was gonna stick
(05:35):
it out and go way further than I ever have
because I have big goals. I have things I want
to accomplish, and going into that, I know, Okay, when
I get to that point, I'm gonna have a choice
on the self talk. I'ma have a choice on what
I let in. Is it gonna be the pain my
toe hurting, how far it is, how many more laps
I gotta do, how hot it is all these things?
(05:59):
Or do I want to take ownership of what I'm
gonna say? And so a lot of these times when
I'm out on these long runs or these hikes, and
I get a chance to go inward. I like to
kind of think about conversations, think about what I want,
to tell myself what I want. It's an active meditation.
(06:21):
A lot of times I'm engaging with myself. I'm talking
to myself. I'm finding truth about myself. I'm dismissing lies
about myself. I'm getting rid of stuff I've said to
myself that no longer serves me or helps make me better.
So on that day, when I'm running and I started
getting to that point and I can either stop and
(06:41):
go backwards or continue forward my inner dialogue, the first
thing I wanted to say is thanks to my past self,
the young Jared, the teenage Jared, the professional version of myself,
and say thanks that what all the day went through,
All those different versions of me persevered through, learned about
(07:05):
the highs, the lows, the tears, the laughs, the heartaches,
the high fives, That all the things those versions of
me went through, I'm thankful for because they went through it,
I now have the option on this day to keep
running or stop. I have the luxury of moving forward
(07:29):
or resting right. And it's only because of what I've
done in the past. I have that choice today. But
before I answer that question and make that decision of
what I want to do right now, I also have
to think about future Jared seventy five or eighty year
old Jared. What is he looking back at me right
(07:51):
now hoping I do. Is that version of me thinking
and this guy needs a day off? Or would they
be excited? Then I push myself that I ran further
than I ever have and what they say, thanks, thanks
for doing that. Maybe this action today gets future Jared
(08:12):
one more dance with Andrea. Maybe the exertion and the
pain I went through on this day gives me one
extra time at the playground with grandkids in the future.
Or if I stop make the pain go away? Would
(08:34):
future Jared look back and go, ah, maybe tomorrow he'll
push himself for me. Right, you're seeing myself talk. I
believe in what I'm doing. I encourage myself to push,
knowing that when I get to that point, I'm about
to get better. And then I find a way to
(08:58):
reflect on the gratitude of earning the pain. Right Like
I didn't get the discomfort by taking it easy. I
didn't get to the point I wanted to quit by
doing what I'd done. So I'm grateful that the past
version of me went through whatever they went through to
get to the point where a current version of me
has a choice. I'm grateful for that, and I'm also
(09:21):
grateful to me. I'm grateful for the chance to give
something to the future version of myself that they're going
to want to have, and that day, believing in me
sharing this discussion with Andrea and Gene are a fantastic
winter neighborhood decided to go run with us. Maybe that
(09:44):
sparks them to believe in themselves, and it sparks them
to reframe how they talk to themselves, and then the
ripple flat goes to where now all of a sudden,
they're influencing their circle by a belief and seeing the
good and not getting caught up in all the bad.
(10:05):
So I ask you this week, team, let's come together
and work on reframing our inner voice, what we're going
to let in, what we're going to say to ourselves.
Let's become our own best support system to encourage us
to dream with us, to see the good in us
and return the world around us. Because maybe just maybe
(10:31):
you'll become the light that ignites the same spark and
someone close to you. But we'll never know if we
don't turn it on in ourselves. Have an awesome week, everybody.
Thank you so much for being here, and if you've
got anything out of this episode or any of the
other three hundred and six previous episodes, please help us out.
Go to your favorite podcast apps, our social media Instagram,
(10:54):
primary or LinkedIn YouTube like subscribe, share, or you know what,
it's free, go to all of the do it all,
and then engage with us every now and then shoot
us a comment, tell me the favorite parts of the
episodes on social media. You'd be amazed at how many
people want to support shows but won't comment on your
stuff even though it's making a difference and it's crazy,
(11:15):
but those little comments, that little engagement is what helps
continue to propel us forward and move to reach more people.
Because remember, our goal here is to be the most
impactful podcast in the world. That means we're changing people's lives.
We can only do it with you, so thank you
so much for being here. Let's reframe how we talk
to ourselves, Reframe within our head and light our spark
(11:37):
and see where it goes. Have a great week everybody,
and remember team life is far too short to live
any other way than on purpose. We'll see you all
again next week
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