No Name Calling

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Episode Transcript

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Hello, Hello, Hello, thankyou, thank you for joining the Relevance
a Factor, a Veron Development inspiredpodcast. Hello, Hello, Hello,
Happy, Happy, Happy New Year. Everyone. It's Veron devellomy chiming In.
I am a business strategist as wellas a therapist, and I specialize

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in helping you go from stuck tounstoppable in life and or business. So,
guys, we are in twenty twentyone. Can you believe it?
Can you believe it? I can'tbelieve it. We're here, and so
I wanted to come on and justspeak with you guys, or to share

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some information with you about no namecalling. Actually, this month is coining
the No Name Calling Month, andI just want to share some insights with
you, if you will, tohelp you navigate through Every month, I'll
be bringing mental health discussions. Actuallyyou'll probably hear more frequently than you ever

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have before with me. So again, the focus today is on no name
calling. I know, I know, I know, I know this sounds
juvenile, but listen, there arepsychological facts of how name calling does many
thoughts stopping effects on one's self esteem. The evidence is that it isn't just

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what happens to us, but alsohow we criticize ourselves for what happened to
us that leads to adverse psychological effects. The adverse effects of name calling and
or verbal demoralization oftentimes presents itself intherapy sessions, and for many it actually

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is the culprit of what brings themin for therapy. With me, name
calling has lasting psychological implications like symptomsof anxiety, depression, substance use and
dependence, panic disorders, social anxiety, eating disorders, personality disorders which is

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a mood disorder, and inability tobear child and unhealthy relationships. Yeah,
name calling constantly name calling effects orconstant name calling effects one psyche. Actually,
sometimes it's just not that the physicalact of name calling, but the

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implied behavior. So if someone tellsyou you that you're stupid or you're dumb,
then guess what. Over time youwill begin to actually believe what that
person has said to you. Action, do speak louder than words. Be

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careful with what you say and howyou say. What you say to everyone,
not just a select fore you,not just you know, your best
friend or your boo, but todistrive to treat everyone actually the same.
Although someone may act as though yourwords and or actions. Don't bother them

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know that they do. There isan impact if you have to retreat to
name calling. If you have todo that for twenty twenty one and beyond,
I'm going to redirect to you toasking yourself, why do I feel
the need to say this or dothis to this person or to myself?

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Because we can also be very negativetowards ourselves. Seek guidance if you're feeling
stuck there. If you need anadditional assistance, of course, you can
contact yours truly or find yourself atherapist in your area that can help you.
Oftentimes, the name calling is aresult of negative self esteem or self
worth within yourself, so asking yourselfwho has hurt me or made me feel

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this way before? Can be insurmountable. Asking yourself how did I respond?
How did my thoughts change about myselfafter that experience? Now I know that
negative words have negative impacts, nowthat you are aware of that and you

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have been, but maybe this podcastis actually impacting you a little bit different.
Thinking about how someone has treated youin a past, or what someone
has said to you or done toyou in a past. I want you
to also act yourself. How doI seek to avoid this from happening with

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those I love, and how doI express and extend the same grace to
myself. Again, some of thisrequires some processing with a professional and seek
help if you need it. Normalizeaccepting others for who they are. We

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can't change people, We have toaccept people. Another topic in no name
calling is cyberbullian. This is notonly for adults. So we see trolls
constantly online. There's not much tosay about them but to actually block them.
But sometimes this bullion is in theform of someone you may know or

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someone that you've had a bad experiencewith. People will result to whatever they
have learned to make themselves feel betterabout themselves. For me personally, I
actually ignore them and I block themif necessary. They get no reaction for
me whatsoever. We want to doeverything we can guys to maintain our peace,

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becomeing less self critical and more selfcompassionate. That's actually associated with the
following, so ye a greater perceiveabilityto cope with life, improvement in distress,
improvement in well being and reduce psychologicaldistress, improvement and depression, improvement
in social anxiety, improvement in panicdisorder. Furthermore, some research actually has

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shown that it is the reduction inself criticism that predicts the improvement in distress
and improvement in personality process symptoms.So you guys have heard the same before.
Sticks and stones may break your bones, but words or hurt me.
I want to rephrase that, sosticking stones may break your bones and words

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do hurt you. I want you, guys, for twenty one and beyond,
to mind your words again. Januaryis the month of no name calling.
I hope that you find this messageto be very, very informative.

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I want to leave you with anaffirmation, and you can say this in
the morning and the afternoon as oftenas you need to. An affirmation is
something that you speak out loud toaffirm yourself, to affirm your thoughts,
to bring your life and your actionsin alignment with your words. So the
affirmation for today is I act fearlesslywhile taking wise measures to protect myself.

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I act fearlessly while taking wise measuresto protect myself. I want to thank
you all for joining the Relevancy FactorSuite again. I am veron Devellomy.
Hey y'all, Hey, I amback and I'll be bringing more content with
you. I'm also going to belaunching a new course which is going to
be a sixty day program in whichwe will explore the Book of Exodus in

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the Bible together. I am so, so, so very excited about this
course that I'm bringing to you guys, So stay tuned. It has not
launched yet. If you follow meonline, you've seen me post about it
and there's a link, so youwould just use that link. Just stay
tuned to it. I'll drop moreinformation as we get closer to that time,
but for twenty twenty one and beyond, I want you to mind your

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words, guys. I want youto know that you are relevant. Smellet
someone, hug someone and show someonethe love of God today and again,
know that you are relevant. Youare relevant. Visit me all on verondebelomy
dot com. Bye bye for now. Hello, Hello, Hello, thank

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you, thank you for joining TheRelevancy Factor, a Verondabellamy inspired podcast,