16. The Power of Your Clitoris

Do you know the Power of Your own Clitoris? What? Listen in as OEV breaks it down and why you should care.

Episode Transcript

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Welcome to the Ships and Sex Podcastswith your host Octavi E. Vance aka
o EV, the Big Sister ofyour ships and the Harriet Tibman of your
sex life. This is the podcastthat gets you from frustration to liberation and
your ships and your sex by exposingthe ills our relationships and the refrustration and
repression of our sex lives. Arethey gone guns dry finas to do this

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for the life? Did you saymake guns don will get it? I
feel just the ship Sunset? Theygone guns dry famas to do this for
life? Did you say make gunsdon will get it off? Feel just
the ships in sex? Mom?Yeah, what's up? What's up?
What's up? Everyone? Thank youfor joining me in the episode sixteen of

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the Ship Your Sex Podcast with ChickGirl, Oh e V Octavi E.
Advance, your favorite sexologists and Ihelp high achieving women embrace, own and
protect their sexuality in order to createthe ships and sex life of their dreams
without compromising their faith. And todaywe're going to be talking about the power

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of the clitteris. Oh yes boo, the power of the clitterists, and
I want you to get it onthis day. There is power in your
clitteris. Don't have me start churchup in here now, but no,
let's get started. I want tojump right in because I want to share
with you some history when it comesto the female orgasm and it's relation to

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the clitterists, of course, andI want to tell you where we are
today. So by the end ofthis episode, it should have you not
only taken everything in that I saidand that I shared, but also it
should have you empowered, all right. This episode should have you empowered about
your sexuality, your body, youall right, So let's get it.

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There have not been consistent studies donethe course of time on the female sexuality,
the female orgasm, etc. Infact, it's something that they recently
started doing in the last thirty toforty years and they've been more consistent.
But let me also tell you something. The majority and I mean the heavy

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majority of these studies have been conductedby men. And I want you to
remember that they have not been primarilydone by women. They have been primarily
done by men, and I meanheavily done by men. Okay, Like
over ninety percent of all the studiesthat have been done in history have been

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done by men. Okay, Mostscientists but have been done by men.
And that's very key to remember becausehoney, this is our body. Why
are we not studying more collectively ofour body? And that is why I
do what I do to help womenlearn more about their body and to embrace,

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own and protect their sexuality. Bythe end of this episode, you
go to know more on why Ido what I do. So let's talk
about one of the first ever studiesthat was reportedly done. This was done
back in the medieval times, andthey used to believe that female orgasms were
required in order to produce a baby. All right. So there was this

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medieval scientific theory based upon sexual reproductionthat had a pretty strong role for a
lady's orgasms, all right. Basically, they thought it was absolutely not me
absolutely okay, absolutely required if sexwas going to produce a baby. See,
in those days, they actually believethat women's sexual organs were exactly like

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men, except inverted like they like. They really believed that, and so
they put a lot of pressure onwomen during those times because think about it,
if they believed that, that meansthat they believed women should ejaculate when
they come. That's why they werepush for a woman to come as well
as the man. Now we knowthat men didn't had no problems because they

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had no problems then they have noproblems today. But this was a lot
of stress on women at that timebecause women we don't come like we don't
always come like men. Women there'sonly a certain percentage of women who actually
ejaculate like men when they come right. So they needed proof that she was
actually having an orgasm because they believethat's how heirs, you know, seeds,
babies were created. So that wasa huge thing in media with times.

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Imagine the stress women were under todo this. I bet they were
so glad when they got pregnant,like, damn, I'm tired of performing
for y'all. So that was themedieval times. And then in the eighteen
hundreds, they did a few studies, right, they did a few studies

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when it as it pertains to femaleorgasms, and they came up with female
sexual tension was diagnosed as hysteria orwandering womb, y'all. I'm sorry for
laughing, but I'm just like,how ridiculous they were doing these studies on
women, primarily white women that is, and they were basically saying that female
sexual tension was a kind of femalespecific nervous condition that drove a woman completely

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insane and required pelvic massage and douchingto relieve it. All right. This
is the eighteen hundreds, all right, And did y'all know this particular study
is what led to the invention ofthe vibrator. Why that may have benefited
many women. It's just that thereason in behind it, y'all. Okay,

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i'manna stop laughing, all right,But the reason behind it was the
doctors didn't want to keep wasting theirtime manipulating the intimate parts of their patients,
their female patients, to stop themfrom going insane, all right,
So they developed vibrators to say,hey, we'll just put this on the
glitterist meg it come, and we'regonna help them to not go insane,
y'all. I think some of thewomen I probably enjoyed this study, right

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because basically they were saying was thatwomen having an orgasm were seen as medical
necessity to prevent the woman's womb fromdriving them up the wall. I'm sure
they got tired of that, don'tget me wrong. Having a vibrator to
do this all day every day,that was just a bit much, but
I'm saying I think initially they probablyenjoyed it. But anyway, so now

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we're in the nineteen forties and that'swhen they discovered that women actually masturbate,
y'all. I mean, like theydidn't. Really this is hot, listen.
This is how much men did notknow about our bodies. And actually
women was exploring their bodies and whatnot, but they was keeping it on the
hush hush, right, But theydiscovered in nineteen forties that women masturbate,

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and that was because of the scientist, once again, a male scientist by
the name of Afrikinci. He dida huge sexual survey which actually the survey
helped to demystify the orgasm for womenand other sexual behaviors of women. So
we're getting there, right, we'regetting there. He came along and I
guess he was really intrigued. Theysaid, Hey, I'm going to go

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around and I'm gonna talk to theseladies. We're gonna do these studies,
we're gonna do these questions, we'regonna do this survey, and we're going
to find out some things. Becausethe study was actually really thorough. Y'all
can look this up and he uncoveredinteresting facts that still influence how we think
about the female orgasms and how they'reachieved to this very day. So if
you don't want to look this up, it was a Kinci report and in

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that survey, it was reported thatforty percent of the women got their first
orgasm from masturbation. Yeah, theydidn't even know women touched themselves. So
and girl, please don't think thatjust because the study was done in the
nineteen forties that that was the firsttime we've masturbated. Please don't think that
masturbation has been around forever. Now, then we get to the nineteen sixties

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and they have all of these scientifictheories that abound surrounding the female orgasm.
So in the sixties they wanted toknow what the the hell was the female
orgasm for now, look at thisthing. They're not wondering what men's orgasms
before. The male orgasm was evolutionary, right, It was evolutionary because they

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know that when a man ejaculated insideof a woman, she had the ability
to get pregnant and have his baby. So him coming was evolutionary. Us
coming. As they continue to doa study here and there, over time
meant what so At first they thoughtshe got an orgasm in order to have

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baby. Both man and woman gotan orgasm in order to produce a seed.
Then there was like, we don'twant her to go insane. The
female sexual tension is driving her sane. We don't want to mess up the
wound. So we got to makeher orgasm so it will stop her from
going crazy. Basically, and thennow they're like, Okay, why does

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she come if her coming doesn't producea baby, and if her coming doesn't
stop her from having female you know, sexual tension, what's the foot of
her orgasm? Because the man's justevolutionary, but what is hers? And
when I say they came up withall kinds of things in the sixties,
y'all, that was this book calledThe Naked Ape by this guy named Desmond

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Morris, and he was talking aboutthe female orgasm might have developed to make
males proved that they had determination,gentleness, tenderness, and all other qualities
required to bring one thing to fruition, that all good factors in a good
father for one's own children. Soour orgasm was about the man in being

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a good father. Okay, Sobasically the purpose of our orgasm was so
that men could be good fathers,y'all, I'm telling you this is hilarious.
Now, there was another study thatwas done, y'all. Now this
is actually intriguing. Let me tellyou what it said. Other scientists doing
that time, the few other scientistswho was doing studies on the female orgasms

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suggested that the female orgasm has nothingto do with monogamy at all, but
it was a way of bonding withmultiple sex partners. Mm hmm. That
it's a way of helping fertility bysucking the sperm through vaginal spasms, and
that having an orgasm raises a female'slikelihood of having lots of sex, thus

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improving the probability that the species willsurvive. Did y'all hear that? And
look, nobody they you know whatthey said. They said, nobody want
to hit on a definitive explanation onthat one yet. But that's when they
started realizing that women could have multipleorgasms, basically back to back orgasms.
So basically, we had these fewstudies on the table and that's how we

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looked at female orgasms until about thetwo thousands. And in the two thousands
they start talking about the health benefitsof us having orgasms. So scientists begin
to line up to prove what femaleorgasms were good for. They were like,
if it didn't have a specific sexualreproductive function, surely it did some

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health related stuff, right, Soas they did studies in the two thousands,
they did fine that orgasms in womenhave been discovered to improve mood and
emotional closeness, regulate administration, improvebrain function, boost white blood cell levels,
and immune systems. But one ofthe biggest ones helps with pain.

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Now I can tell you from experiencethat that's pretty much true, but I
hope y'all get in the point ofwhere I'm leading to this. So it
was like, I won't say ityet, I'll wait Anyway, Basically,
they begin to encourage women to havethem because these were good enough reasons to
have one. It's like taking yourvitamin. It's like, here you go,
have an orgasm. It's gonna boostsome health benefits for you. But

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that brings me to this overall point, the power of your clitterists. I
want you to understand something. Ifyou don't understand nothing else, understand this.
Your clitteris has one job pleasure.And if you notice, then all
of these studies not one of themmentioned pleasure. It's like they needed a

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reason all these years for a reasonfor us to come, for a reason
for us to orgasm. It hadto be for reproductive reasons. It had
to be this not drive us crazyso we can have babies. Back leads
back to reproductive reasons. It hadto be to help men be better in

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being fathers. Pretty much back downto reproductive reasons. Then there had to
be health benefits. Now this wasn'tnecessarily reproductive reasons, but it was more
like, okay, so since wecan't figure out the reason you should even
have orgasms to begin with, becauseit's not evolutionary, then this helped keep
you healthy, probably for reproductive reasons, so this will help you with fertility

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or something like that. My wholepoint is the glitterists, we have a
clitterist. Its only job is pleasure. Over all of the years when they
did do a study, they wereso intrigued by why we have a clitterist
and why do we orgasm? It'slike, do you get what I'm saying?

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There had to be a reason whywe orgasm. It could not ever
be for pleasure. It could notever be for self satisfaction. It could
not be for sexual satisfaction with aman or more than one man. It
had to be a reason for usbecause men orgasm was evolutionary, women's orgasms

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were not. So. Therefore,what is the purpose? What is the
purpose if there's no reason to createbabies, or if it's no reason to
create better fathers, if it's noreason to stop you from going crazy,
what is the reason for it tokeep you healthy? At the end of

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the day. And this is whatI love about human anatomy, especially women's
women's anatomy, because I am woman. Hear me speak, hear me share,
hear me enlighten you. The mostHigh made us different for a reason.
It's like God was saying, I'mgonna make her a woman, and

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I'm going to give her these bodyparts that are different from men. And
these body parts are not just tofeed or nurse a baby, but these
body parts are to feel sexual plasure sexual pleasure. And have y'all noticed,
not only in the studies that Ishare with y'all, just over time,

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even in religious organizations, everything isagainst us receiving sexual pleasure. Have
y'all noticed the message that's collectively taughtin most churches in America and pretty much
anyway in the world. Really meanto think about it collectively or taught to
women or don't have sex before marriage. Right, it's not collectively taught to
men and in only your people thattry to argue this all alone. No,

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it's taught to singles. No,it's not collectively. It is not
taught to men and women collectively.It is taught to women. We can
look at shows on TV, movies, we can look in our societies and
whatnot. I we were just havinga conversation on the new series bel Air,

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and many people were set about itbecause they said it didn't remind them
of the wholesome family sitcom from backin the nineties with Will Smith on the
Fresh Prince of bel Air. Andthey were talking so much about the bel
Air show being dysfunctional, and Isaid, if you want to really talk
about dysfunction, so was the familyin the sitcom? They was like,

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well, how you know, No, it wasn't. It was a wholesome
family. I said, that wasanything but wholesome family if you depending on
what you define as functional and dysfunction. But how is it? How was
it okay? And no one evergot in an uproar about anything that the
character Will did, as it pertainsthe sex. He was literally a teenager,
late teens, sleeping with multiple girlsand even slept with a forty five

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y're a woman on the show,and there was no uproar behind that episode.
We all saw it, we allact like it was normal because it
was a boy, a man havingsex with women of any age. But
let's flip that let that had beenHilary or Ashley or any woman. It
was cool for Will to do,but it was never It would not have

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been cool for any of the otherfemale characters to do so. The message
then was it's okay for men todo this, For boys and men to
do this, The message has alwaysbeen it's not okay for us to do
it. That message has been inchurches, in entertainment. That message has
been in society, in our cultureand our communities, in our churches,

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in our entertainment. You could hearit in songs. You can see it
in television shows, you can seeit in the movies, you can see
it in place. A woman's sexualityhas always been judged, it has always
been put down, It has alwaysbeen rejected collectively. That is we don't
allow women to be sexually expressive andsexually free. Because even right there when

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I said that, you think sexuallyfree and sexually expressive means to have sex
all over the place and do anythingand with everyone. You think that because
that's how you see it with men. So you like, no, no,
women can't do that. Yet,Please remember when men are out doing
these things, who are they doingit with women? Because sex is to
be experienced is actually a connection thatwe have with human beings. We connect

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with human beings sexually. That's oneof the ways we connect. But even
if we want to break this downfurther, how about this. When we
say men's orgasms are men's ejaculations areevolutionary, it's to produce children. Okay,
let's say we go with that.And if we say breast on women
is to feed nurse a baby,Okay, we'll go with that. If

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we're to talk about our body partsand what they do and the reason for
them being, okay, let's gowith that. But when we get to
the clitterists, Hey, when weget to the glitterists, what's her reason
for existing? Why is she here? Why is she only on a woman?

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Why does she have over eight thousand, even fifteen thousand nerve endings.
Why does she orgasm? Her beingstimulated has nothing to do with reproduction.
Her being stimulated has nothing to dowith nursing a baby. Her being stimulated
is nothing evolutionary. Why is shehere? The answer is only one thing,

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pleasure. That's simple pleasure, andshe's tired of being ignored because it's
the one body part that collectively womenignore the most because we have been conditioned
to do so. We have beenconditioned to believe she is only to be
touched in marriage with a man.She is only worthy of him having access

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to She is unworthy unless it comeswith a man, unless a man is
attached to it, and that manbetter be your husband. So you ignore
this body part until you are married. No one gives a damn. Collectively,
No one gives a damn if youare thirty nine years all, never

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been married, still a virgin.No one gives a damn. If you
forty two and unmarried, you stilldon't touch her. No one gives a
damn. If you're thirty nine yearsold and unmarried, you do not touch
her. No one gives a damnif you are forty six unmarried, horny
as hell, don't matter. Youdo not touch her. It's a sin,

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it's wrong, it's elicit. Noone cares. You don't touch her
unless you're connected to a man inmarriage. I'm just here to say one
thing you're clitterist is the only bodypart you have, Ladies, that is
for pleasure. What will you dowith her? Because the bottom line is

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the power of the clitterists is pleasure. You have been conditioned to believe pleasure
is wrong, it's hedonism. It'shorrible. You should never access pleasure unless
it's always something you gotta do tohave that pleasure. But yet our bodies
say differently. Our body say,hey, I'm here, this part of

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me is here. I'm horny.I need to be touched, I need
to be stimulated. She talks toyou, your clitters talks to you all
the time. You just ignore her. And how would you feel if you
were ignored? When you were ignored? Do you feel worthy when you are
ignored by other human beings that you'repart of, attached to whatever type of
relationship? Do you feel love?Do you feel amazing? Do you feel

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worthy? Do you feel needed?Do you feel embraced? So now think
about that when it comes to yourclitterist. See what I'm saying, it's
already causing you to feel uncomfortable becausebeing conditioned with so much shame and guilt
and condemnation, all in repression andsuppression, religious sexual oppression. You've been

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told all your life life just aboutof what not to do when it comes
to her that you could get pregnant. Uh huh, you can't get pregnant
in sex. Sure, I'll protectsex with a man ejaculating in you with
his evolutionary sperm. Yes, youcan. It's possible, very possible.
But what that got to do withyour glitterists, Bo, that's not what

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that got to do with your glitterists. That's your glitterists. Remember, the
glitterists does not produce babies. Listen, the clitterists don't even produce bonds,
emotional and sexual bond. The glitteristonly does one thing, pleasure. That's
it. I'm not even going towell, I'm done, I am gone.

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I hope you got what I'm talkingabout. Like, really think about
that, really, sit down,sit with yourself and think about that.
You have a clitterist and it's onlythere for one thing. That is pleasure,
and she got it for you.Booth. It's up to you what
you do with her, how youacknowledge her, how you salute her,

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embrace her, respect her, orignore her, repress her, shun her.
It's solved to you. I ain'tsaid nothing but what the clitterists do
and what everybody wanted a reason forwhat the clitterists do. It's simply pleasure.
The few studies that they've done andthe time that they took to do
it, they needed a reason,and yet the reason is simple pleasure.

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That's the power of your clitterist pleasure. All Right, I'm done, Boo,
we ain't made it through another episode. Thank you so much for listening.
And again, I am your favoritesexologist. I'm tv evan aka o
ev your favorite sexologists, and Ihelp high achieving women of faith embrace on
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