April 14, 2025 • 6 mins
Got follow my friend/colleague Dr Regina Lark @drreginalark for more info on Emotional Labor! She is the best! I share a moment I had! https://www.reginalark.com/emotional-labor/
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
This started out to be a phone call to a friend,
but I decided I'm going to make it a larger
thing and share with you guys. Hi, I'm the super organizer.
This is the super organized show. Little shorts and that's
so short. Help help short. I'm James I Jenius organizer.
My friend doctor Regina Lark, somebody I respect who's amazing
(00:27):
in my business. Uh, talks about emotional labor. You're like,
what's that. Let'll tell you a second. But I had
my own emotional labor momentum. Oh, I guess I was
gonna call her to tell her this. So I'm actually
putting this in a video also audio to you. You
(00:47):
see either way. I listen to it and I'm gonna
tagger and you can see it and everything. But it's
something maybe just maybe chuckle. But it's a serious day
of baby chuckle. Let's see. I would say serious. I
mean it's it's serious enough, but not like diter but
it is something that maybe chuckle. I totally thought of
her as how good she is all right emotional labor,
(01:09):
so she could more eloquently tell you what it is.
She has the book on it, she has talk on it,
she has I mean she Gina Lark dot com. Go
there and there's a whole section on it. But the
basics is, for most households we say most, not all,
but most households over the years today there's a woman
(01:29):
in it. Chances are she's running the household, which means
she's also handling everything in the ecosystem that goes on
that household. She now Gina, Regina and I always talk
about the ketchup and staring with the Kenser. There's no ketchup.
I got what happened upon the Hamburgers because there's always
(01:50):
ketchup in the house somehow magically appears. Chances are there's
a woman who runs the house to make sure the
ketchup is always on the list, goes to the storage,
just ketch up those when it's getting Oh you know,
emotional labor is a lot of those, a lot of responsibilities.
They're just kind of unsung, unslow. They just helped run
a house officially. And yes, there are some men out
(02:14):
there who are you are doing things and are helping
all that. But but the whole point emotional labor and
why I had a moment is because in my household,
there's no women it's just me. My brother and I
run the household in terms of all the stuff that
goes on an ecosystem. I handle all the repairs, the maintenance,
the cleaning. But though he and I both do our
(02:38):
own grocery shopping, our own toiletry shopping, but I buy
toilet paper, the paper towels that we both use, and
the trash bags, all the detergent we share, all that.
I'm usually on top of everything. I mean, you know,
life gets busy. It totally gets me. I I I
(03:00):
from a lot of people, and a lot of women
out there understandings who run households or house managers. I
understand people go, how do you do it? We just
do it. You just just put one foot in front
of the other. You just do it right. Some of
it's muscle memories. I'll just happened, it's it's already ingrained
in there. So for me. Plus, I'm also an organizer
as yes now, so I try to make sure everything,
you know, everything's in order, and not time I do.
(03:21):
I don't want to get stuff. My brother comes to
the room and says, James wear the paper towel. He does,
just a pair of towels and that as you see
another one, James, where are the trash bags? We've had
a roof free model, so I've been busy doing stuff around.
So look and now here's the deal. Oh I got
(03:42):
trash bags. Not the right size. I got plenty of
the small one. You can't see this. Get here. These
are small, small ones, medium sized ones. But guess what, kids,
I ran out of the large ones. And if and
(04:03):
I will say, he kind of looked at me and
looked weird. I felt weird. I'm like I always have always,
I mean, I'm always so hyper conscious about that. And
he kind of go, okay, I guess not to wait.
And I felt bad, you know, I said we you know,
I can't remember everything all the time. I say it
(04:23):
to myself out loud, but I felt better. It was
it was even like you made me feel worse or bad,
even yell up me or nothing, just kind of like, okay,
I guess I have to wait and get some now.
You know. I want Amazon last night and bought something
they come today. But I was just like about a
bunch that was kind of oh my god. So then
we start when we were standing started looking, he goes, okay,
we're because we're in we have a laundry room. He goes,
(04:43):
so do we have enough this or enough thing? So
we started looking around. Yeah, he actual started looking around.
I go, I wonder if we do. But I said,
we at at this moment, I have enough of those
things of launching items. But he's I said, I'm always
looking out for more. Because he's wanting to say. I was,
you know, toilet papers. If I don't to me toilet
pay perper towels, you know enough because you're gonna use
(05:05):
the rest of your life whatever tilet paper. But that
and he came to me for toilet paper and I
had some, so it was just kind of funny for me.
I started I kind of started laughing, but I felt bad.
I liked me a want to just reach over and
get what I need, and usually I do. But if
you if I re counted my week, everyone in the
(05:26):
world go, James, we understand why you we have forgotten.
You probably saw there getting low, made note of it
somewhere and you just didn't get them. You know, a
lot of stuff has happened. It's a lot of stuff
happened this week, so it's it's totally okay. Then I
didn't remember that, but that's kind of a thing that
you know, It's always on my mind as I run
this house, the things that we need for this house
(05:48):
nice and I saw I get it with me A
phone calls and I check off with my girl. I
was like, no, I went, I'm like this larger because
somebody at home I actually relate to this. And I
want you guys to go over to Regina Lark's website
and look at me because you may be going through
stuff don't even realize when it comes to running households
and said, so short, that's it we're talking about. That's it.
(06:09):
I bought some more. They're on their way today. I'm
not gonna run out ever again, no day. But I'm
very excited for that. And that is glad that there's
a name, kind of name for it and uh support
for it. And so thanks to my friend doctor Regina Lark.
Of course, I'm James jr. Uh. I'm on also Schudia
Platforms and super Organizers sub organize the show and James
(06:29):
Lon and JJV you can follow me wherever you want,
however you want. And the regular show, of course is
Monday's here on JLJ Media Audio and Vigo and YouTube.
Last Fine
This started out to be a phone call to a friend,
but I decided I'm going to make it a larger
thing and share with you guys. Hi, I'm the super organizer.
This is the super organized show. Little shorts and that's
so short. Help help short. I'm James I Jenius organizer.
My friend doctor Regina Lark, somebody I respect who's amazing
(00:27):
in my business. Uh, talks about emotional labor. You're like,
what's that. Let'll tell you a second. But I had
my own emotional labor momentum. Oh, I guess I was
gonna call her to tell her this. So I'm actually
putting this in a video also audio to you. You
(00:47):
see either way. I listen to it and I'm gonna
tagger and you can see it and everything. But it's
something maybe just maybe chuckle. But it's a serious day
of baby chuckle. Let's see. I would say serious. I
mean it's it's serious enough, but not like diter but
it is something that maybe chuckle. I totally thought of
her as how good she is all right emotional labor,
(01:09):
so she could more eloquently tell you what it is.
She has the book on it, she has talk on it,
she has I mean she Gina Lark dot com. Go
there and there's a whole section on it. But the
basics is, for most households we say most, not all,
but most households over the years today there's a woman
(01:29):
in it. Chances are she's running the household, which means
she's also handling everything in the ecosystem that goes on
that household. She now Gina, Regina and I always talk
about the ketchup and staring with the Kenser. There's no ketchup.
I got what happened upon the Hamburgers because there's always
(01:50):
ketchup in the house somehow magically appears. Chances are there's
a woman who runs the house to make sure the
ketchup is always on the list, goes to the storage,
just ketch up those when it's getting Oh you know,
emotional labor is a lot of those, a lot of responsibilities.
They're just kind of unsung, unslow. They just helped run
a house officially. And yes, there are some men out
(02:14):
there who are you are doing things and are helping
all that. But but the whole point emotional labor and
why I had a moment is because in my household,
there's no women it's just me. My brother and I
run the household in terms of all the stuff that
goes on an ecosystem. I handle all the repairs, the maintenance,
the cleaning. But though he and I both do our
(02:38):
own grocery shopping, our own toiletry shopping, but I buy
toilet paper, the paper towels that we both use, and
the trash bags, all the detergent we share, all that.
I'm usually on top of everything. I mean, you know,
life gets busy. It totally gets me. I I I
(03:00):
from a lot of people, and a lot of women
out there understandings who run households or house managers. I
understand people go, how do you do it? We just
do it. You just just put one foot in front
of the other. You just do it right. Some of
it's muscle memories. I'll just happened, it's it's already ingrained
in there. So for me. Plus, I'm also an organizer
as yes now, so I try to make sure everything,
you know, everything's in order, and not time I do.
(03:21):
I don't want to get stuff. My brother comes to
the room and says, James wear the paper towel. He does,
just a pair of towels and that as you see
another one, James, where are the trash bags? We've had
a roof free model, so I've been busy doing stuff around.
So look and now here's the deal. Oh I got
(03:42):
trash bags. Not the right size. I got plenty of
the small one. You can't see this. Get here. These
are small, small ones, medium sized ones. But guess what, kids,
I ran out of the large ones. And if and
(04:03):
I will say, he kind of looked at me and
looked weird. I felt weird. I'm like I always have always,
I mean, I'm always so hyper conscious about that. And
he kind of go, okay, I guess not to wait.
And I felt bad, you know, I said we you know,
I can't remember everything all the time. I say it
(04:23):
to myself out loud, but I felt better. It was
it was even like you made me feel worse or bad,
even yell up me or nothing, just kind of like, okay,
I guess I have to wait and get some now.
You know. I want Amazon last night and bought something
they come today. But I was just like about a
bunch that was kind of oh my god. So then
we start when we were standing started looking, he goes, okay,
we're because we're in we have a laundry room. He goes,
(04:43):
so do we have enough this or enough thing? So
we started looking around. Yeah, he actual started looking around.
I go, I wonder if we do. But I said,
we at at this moment, I have enough of those
things of launching items. But he's I said, I'm always
looking out for more. Because he's wanting to say. I was,
you know, toilet papers. If I don't to me toilet
pay perper towels, you know enough because you're gonna use
(05:05):
the rest of your life whatever tilet paper. But that
and he came to me for toilet paper and I
had some, so it was just kind of funny for me.
I started I kind of started laughing, but I felt bad.
I liked me a want to just reach over and
get what I need, and usually I do. But if
you if I re counted my week, everyone in the
(05:26):
world go, James, we understand why you we have forgotten.
You probably saw there getting low, made note of it
somewhere and you just didn't get them. You know, a
lot of stuff has happened. It's a lot of stuff
happened this week, so it's it's totally okay. Then I
didn't remember that, but that's kind of a thing that
you know, It's always on my mind as I run
this house, the things that we need for this house
(05:48):
nice and I saw I get it with me A
phone calls and I check off with my girl. I
was like, no, I went, I'm like this larger because
somebody at home I actually relate to this. And I
want you guys to go over to Regina Lark's website
and look at me because you may be going through
stuff don't even realize when it comes to running households
and said, so short, that's it we're talking about. That's it.
(06:09):
I bought some more. They're on their way today. I'm
not gonna run out ever again, no day. But I'm
very excited for that. And that is glad that there's
a name, kind of name for it and uh support
for it. And so thanks to my friend doctor Regina Lark.
Of course, I'm James jr. Uh. I'm on also Schudia
Platforms and super Organizers sub organize the show and James
(06:29):
Lon and JJV you can follow me wherever you want,
however you want. And the regular show, of course is
Monday's here on JLJ Media Audio and Vigo and YouTube.
Last Fine
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