May 19, 2024 • 59 mins
In part one of this two part series, we unpack the emotional and mental connection between the actual physical clutter we have acquired in our personal spaces and the clutter we may be dealing with in our minds.
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Cluttered spaces are the physical manifestation ofcluttered minds. Let's unpack that. Let's
do this. You're listening to thethoughts of a blog queen podcast with your
host Renee a Woman. Hey,y'all, y'all know what time it is.
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Y'all know what that sound means.That means I am ready to pour
into you. All right? SoI got There are three affirmations for this
entry. I want you to takethose put them in your pocket, but
don't forget to share them, sharethem with other people. All right,
So here are your affirmations after mNumber one is I deserve to move through
life with ease. I deserve tomove through life with ease. Affirmation number
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two I am deserving of healthy relationshipswith those who value me. I am
deserving of healthy relationships with those whovalue me. And Affirmation number three is
I have the knowledge and ability toachieve everything I want. I have the
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knowledge and ability to achieve everything Iwant. All right? So all right,
you guys. Those are your threeaffirmations. Thank you, guys for
tuning in to another entry. Happyself care Sunday. If you are listening
to this on the day that theepisode dropped or just happy, whatever day
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it is, whenever you're tuned intothis, but if it is self care
Sunday, you guys, know thatmy wish is for you or that you're
doing something that is for you.You're doing something that you love, You're
doing something that comforts you, you'redoing something that nurtures you. You're doing
something that is promoting your own selfcare. No one else is just your
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own, all right. So youguys, as you can see by the
title of this entry, entry thirtyeight, welcome back again, you guys,
and if you're new to listening,welcome, Thank you guys for tuning
in. Thank you guys for takingthe time out to come and check out
the thoughts of a blog queen podcast. I appreciate that. And I hope
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that you stay around through the endof this entry, and I hope that
maybe you might just come back andvisit me again for entry number thirty nine
and forty and forty one and soon and so forth. All right,
so you guys, let's talk aboutcollutter. So yeah, about the clutter.
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And let me just say this inadvance, you guys, I am
doing a lot of different experimenting withthe sound systems that I am using.
So I am praying on everything.I did multiple testing on the sound system
that I'm using right now, soI am hoping that everything is okay on
this end. So I hope thatyou guys can hear everything clearly and everything
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is good to go. But anyway, so let's talk about clutter. So
the quote cluttered spaces are the physicalmanifestation of a cluttered mind, And I
think that that makes perfect sense,right, because when you have cluttered spaces,
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like what is clutter? Clutter isjust the accumulation of a lot of
stuff, right, It se accumulationof a lot of things that you may
or may not even need, right, but they're just they're in a space
somewhere in your home, in youroffice, in your car, wherever that
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you've just you just keep accumulating thisstuff, right, It's just a lot
of it's just messy, it's nottidy, it's not organized. It's clutter,
right, And sometimes we tend tokeep clutter in our homes. And
I wanted to talk about it inthis particular entry because I wanted to see
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if I can help myself and helpthe person that is intrigued by this particular
entry to see if we can unpacka little bit of the connection between how
there might be clutter in our mindsand that is why we tend to keep
accumulating all of this stuff. Sothe psychology, I'm gonna get a little
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bit deep with you, guys.I'm not a psychologist, right, but
I try to do a little bitof research and things when I want to
talk about certain things, right,I try to just enlighten myself so I
can come back and I can sharewith you guys. Right, So,
the psychology behind a person that accumulatesclutter is that they're holding on to some
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things. And this is something thatthese are things that and I don't mean
physically, I mean mentally, Imean emotionally, right, And I'm gonna
just I'm gonna preface this by saying, maybe or may not There may or
may not be an issue. Youknow, some of some of y'all might
just be messy and y'all just needto get it together and get them get
rid of some of his stuff.Right. So there's that we got that
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out the way, right. Soif you don't feel like there's any any
anything else going on with why youkeep continuing to clutter spaces around you.
Then it's just because you're messy.That's fine. This may not resonate with
you, But I want to talkto the people who continue to do this
and who have realized that they mightbe at a place in their life where
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they're overwhelmed and they continue to doit right, Because I'm not saying that
a person just cannot have just aweek where you know, by Friday,
the end of the week, theirhouse is just messy and they go in
tidy up and that just automatically,you know, because that happens too,
right, But there's a difference injust your house being messy for the week
and you get on your around youhaven't gotten around to straighten it up,
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and then there's actual clutter, Clutterin your closets, clutter in multiple spaces
in your house, right, Andso you don't want to deal with stuff,
so you put it in a particulararea and you just throw it there.
Right. This can be in theform of a closet, a storage
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space, a junk drawer. Howmany junctrawers do you have in your house?
Right? This could be a garagefull of things that you're just holding
on to that you keep saying you'regonna get rid of, but for some
reason you don't get around to it. Right. So when we talk about
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the psychology of clutter, there wasa study that Princeton did and in this
study, it states that the accumulationof items is tied to emotional reasoning,
right, and that retaining possessions mightbe linked to fears of scarcity or attachment
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to the past. So let's talkabout that. Let's talk about fears of
scarcity. How many times have youthought about something? And listen, I
come from a place of experience.I know this. I I did this
for you. I kept holding onto clothes and shoes and I items.
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I would hold onto them because Ifelt like, what if I need it
one day? What if I canuse it? Right? So so I
understand it. Again, listen,this is a safe space. And I
talk from a space of either experience, understanding, empathy, or I just
recognize it, right, And soI wanna talk about it so I can
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help whoever I can help, hopefully, or at least guide or at least
bring awareness at the very least.Right. So, having a fear of
scarcity, thinking that you might needsomething one day, I have. I
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used to do that all the time. Like you guys ever get something that
you have to put together, AndI just wanted to turn that down a
little bit. But you guys everget something that you had to put together
and it would come with like extratools and or extra things, right,
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or extra screws or whatever. Like, I would hang on to things like
that, right, And that mightnot necessarily be like I mean that might
that might be a smart thing todo, right, because you might you
never know when you'll need something.But that right there is the statement that
I would always use in my reasoningfor holding on to just an abundance of
things. I never know when Imight need something. And in doing this,
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like I would accumulate just a lotof stuff, right, So in
terms of like clothes, so let'sjust talk about the closet. Right.
For a long time, I wouldhang on to things thinking that, like,
what if I approach a season inmy life where I'm not able to
get things that I need or thingsthat I desire. That's where it was
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coming from. It was more socoming from like what if I get to
a point in life that I justI'm not able to get, Like I'm
gonna need to hang on to stuffbecause what if I'm not able to get
something? And that, right thereis like overthinking. I am definitely a
certified overthinker, and so sometimes Igo way far beyond and I will think
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of the worst case scenario. Andthat's due to anxiety, right But I
would think about if I would evercome to a period in my life where
I would not be able to provide, and I was like, well,
I need to have extra things.I need to have just I need to
make sure I have multiples of thisand multiples of that, just in case
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I can't. You know, Iever, I'm just ever in need,
right that a fear of scarcity,fear that I might not ever be able
to see this type of thing again, or might not ever be able to
get this, or they may notever have this. You do shopping shopping
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a lot of people that kind ofhave a little bit of issue with spending
and overspending. They will buy thingsand they will get multiple colors of things
of one thing, two and threecolors of one thing because they want to
make sure that they just have thesethings. And this is how we're accumulating
things. And again, you guys, please make sure that you're understanding that.
I'm not trying to say that theway that you choose to buy certain
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things that automatically means that you're cluttering. You just have to be mindful of
what you're doing and just you know, listen to what I'm saying because it
will make sense to the person thatit makes sense to. But having that
that fear of scarcity, like justthinking that you better get extras, you
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better get extras because maybe they're gonnaall be gone at some point, right
and you're just accumulating a lot ofthings and you're spending extra out of this
idea in your mind that you haveto have it right then and there,
you have to have it. Soclutter. I feel like clutter and overspending
and a lack of budgeting those canall be connected. And then on the
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opposite end of that, they saidthat retaining possessions could come from an attachment
to the past. So when wetalk about an attachment to the past,
let's talk about some of the thingsthat you're holding on to that are linked
to the past. And y'all knowexactly where I'm going to go with this
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example. When we're talking about relationships, how long ago will you hold on
to things that are linked to theperson that you had to end that relationship
with. You will hang on tothings. You will hang onto things,
especially when you're fresh out of thatrelationship, you'll hang on to stuff,
right, And a lot of timeswhen we're in the middle of that toxic
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cycle, we would hold onto thingsand we would use that as a way
to draw that person back in,or they would try to use that as
a way to get back in,whereas like, yeah, I need to
come and get my stuff, oryou need to come and get your stuff,
knowing full well they don't need thisstuff, or you know full well
they don't really need it. Butthat's that cycle. That's that cycle of
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like pull and push, tug ofwar and leaving the door open to get
back in. Right. But whenit is done, and when it is
over and you're still holding on tosome of the things that are connected to
this person that you had to letgo of, then there is an emotional
attachment there and that is what youneed to try to cut ties with.
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So then you have to let goof these things, and you have to
figure out what in your mind iskeeping you from letting go of those things
when I had to let go ofthe relationship that hurt me the most.
When I had to there was alot of things that I had, and
I'm gonna be really honest, Ihad to let go of those things.
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Like in phases. I could notjust get rid of everything all at once.
And you know what I was thinkingof. I was thinking about,
what if this isn't it? Whatif this isn't it, and what if
this person comes back in my lifeand then I don't have these things anymore?
I still want to hang on tothese things because I was still holding
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on to the idea that this wasa relationship that was going to be what
I needed in my life. SoI'm holding on to it, right,
And I was trying to hold onto things. But do you realize that
not only are you holding onto thephysical things attached to that person, but
you were holding onto an energy ofthat person. Yes, things contain energy
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and not just physical things. Pictures. How many pictures in your phone are
you still holding on? And I'mtelling you, in this particular relationship,
like I had tons and tons andtons and tons of photos, right,
I had lots of photos and Ididn't want to let go of this stuff.
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And then because I was trying toget over on myself, right,
Like, let me tell you,so, I would have like my actual
photo album in my phone, butnot only did I have the photo album
in my phone, but my phonemy photos automatically linked to like my Google
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photos. Right, So I wouldbe like, Okay, I'm gonna delete
these photos in my out of myphoto app. But in the back of
my mind, deep down inside,I knew I still had backup photos in
the you know, in my Googleapp. So it was a process for
me, right, And I'm tellingyou, I literally and it was just
different places in my phone where Iliterally had to go through and I had
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to on different times and at differentpoints in my healing journey did I had
to go through and I had toremove these photos and these reminders of this
particular person. But I was hangingon to it. And I realized,
you know, we talk about healing, and we talk about how heal,
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you know, like for me,I at least I talk about it.
I feel like, you know,you never really know how long healing is
actually gonna take. And who's tosay healing ever really stops. But I
noticed that as I went through andI released attachments and things that I had
and photos and things. It felta little bit better each time afterwards,
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as hard as it was for meto actually get rid of it. And
I'm and I'm telling you, Ireally try to get over myself. But
I really had to be intentional aboutit, right because you know, you
can delete something and it's really notdeleted. You gotta really delete it off
of these phones. You gotta reallydelete the stuff. But then I found
myself as I went further down onmy healing journey, I felt I found
myself really really getting rid of thesethings videos and just think, you know
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what I mean, The first thefirst step I had to that I had
to get rid of. And thisis what I want to encourage you to
do. If you're still trying toyou know, we're talking, we're still
talking about clitter, you guys,So stay with me on this. But
there's there's a there's a there's aconnection to all of this. But the
first thing that you're gonna have todo is you're gonna have to get rid
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of that that that text thread.And I know that that's not that's not
gonna be easy. And if youare like me, like you have.
You may have had a very long, detailed text thread, right, and
when you're with someone and you're youlove with someone, you might go back
and you might read text messages thatyou shared and it might be good things,
it might be bad things, especiallyif you're words of affirmation type of
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person. You go back and youread some of the things that a person
says. That's the person that youwere spending your life with. So you
go back and you read those things. You have to start with deleting that
text thread. Sis let delete it. You have to unless you're hanging on
to it for some sort of likeother reason, like legal reasons, and
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you need it like proof or somethinglike that, you know what I mean.
If it gets if it's deep likethat, then I get it.
But like outside of that, youhave to start with getting rid of that,
and then you slowly move into gettingrid of the photos and the videos
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and things like that. But Ihad to literally go through my phone.
I had to go through my closetfor old you know, things that this
person left or you know what Imean. I had to go through I
had to find pictures, like actualphysical pictures that I had, like in
my office like I had it.But it was a phase and it was
a process, and it didn't allhappen at once. It didn't. It
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took some time because there was anemotional attachment there. But there was a
clutter of things that I was holdingonto in my house that was attached to
this person, that was connected tothis person. And I was hoping to
try to feel better and hoping toheal. But how can I do that
if I still have these things inmy life? So that's what they're talking
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about. They're talking about an attachmentto the past. And I was most
definitely attached to that past. Sothat's one form of how we hold on
to something and how that is clutter. Clutter is not just like I want
you guys to still take clutter asliteral, but I want you to also
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like use the clutter as just kindof like the analogy, like the metaphor.
It's just a bunch of things inthe physical form, right, But
mentally, the clutter is just theaccumulation of something that you cannot let go
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of. So when we talk aboutthe spaces that we frequent a lot our
homes are office space. What doesyour office space look like what is your
office desk look like? Is youroffice desk cluttered? And if so,
how are you functioning at work?And this is a question that I want
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you to ask yourself. When weget into part two of this entry,
we're gonna talk more about the selfreflective questions and ideas that you can ask
yourself. But this right here,like if you have clutter, if you
have a cluttered desk or a clutteredoffice space. You know, a lot
of us are working remotely or workfrom home, we have our own office
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space, or even if you don'thave your own office space, but just
how is your office space wherever itis? How does it look as they're
clutter there? And if it is, how are you functioning in your role?
How easily are you getting frustrated?How are you or are you just
operating in this just this chaos.When I start a new week, like
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by the time I get to Friday, I realize how I'll have just all
of these notes and things everywhere I'llhave You know, there will be I'm
gonna be honest, there will beaccumulation of just like random little things,
notes and things posted, notes ofthings. There might be you know,
just whatever we just random notebooks andjust things that have accumulated that I have
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pulled out and that I've used overthe week. And by the time Friday
comes, I have all of thisstuff in my all my desk space.
And if I don't, if Idon't deal with it right then and there
and I come back to it Monday, like, I have to get myself
together Sunday, I have to goback and I have to check my space
and I have to make sure thatI clear everything, I put everything back
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in order. I have to,you know, just kind of get myself
together. But I have to dothat Sunday before I go back into my
office. I have a home officetoo, right, so I have to
before I go back to that spaceon Monday morning. I have to it.
Like I can't walk into it andstart the tid end up and start
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the organizing and start to getting ridof stuff on Monday morning before I start
work. No, make sure youdeal with that before you start work.
Deal with that Sunday night, ordeal with that Saturday morning when you're doing
your cleaning, because you don't wantto go down and try to start work
and have to deal with the chaosfirst. The chaos that is the clutter
on your desk, because that's notgonna start your day off on a positive
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note. It's already gonna start You'realready gonna be a little bit overwhelmed by
everything that you need to organize firstbefore you even log in or clock in
or whatever it is that you do, before you even deal with anybody else,
you already having to deal with youryour space that you have to work
in for however many hours out ofthe day. So don't deal with that
one Monday morning, because that's you. You're you're asking, You're asking to
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start the week off on the wrongfoot by doing that, So deal with
that prior, right, So that'sjust talking about but but just think about
that and think about how you maneuverand how you're functioning at work. When
we when you become really self awareof things, you're gonna pay attention to
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more things. You're gonna pay attentionto how easily you get frustrated. You're
gonna pay attention to how like youknow, like for me, like I
am so when I when I maneuverthrough like my emails and things like I'm
I'm organizing everything, I'm putting everythingin folders that need to go there wherever
they need to go. Like aslike I can't like I don't wanna move
on to the next thing until Iam organizing where everything goes. I have
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a folder for everything, Like youknow what I mean. I'm not trying
to like sift and dig through thedeleted box or the archive, but like
I know what specifically is gonna goin my archive box, what's gonna be
deleted. I'm not gonna deal withwhat's gonna go in this folder? This
folder, this folder. This ishow I function. This is an organized
system. This is what helps meto stay on task and stay on top
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of things. And this is whatgives me just a a a little bit
more of a relief when it comesto how I function and what I'm doing
with my job. Right, wewe gotta have some sort of organized system,
and I'm gonna talk about that,and I I'm gonna come back to
that because I'm gonna talk about reasonswhy we cluttered, and that's that's actually
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one of the solutions. But soso again, when we're like we we
talked about the emotional attachments and howthings can be connected to the person from
the past, and then we're talked. We talked about like having clutter at
work, when you're at home,what spaces in your home do you have
clutter? Oftentimes it's like closets,hall closets, you know, the closets
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in our bedroom where we have wherewe you know, our main things are
clothes and shoes, there might bea lot of clutter there. So I
have this book, and this bookis what actually inspired me to do this
entry and talk about just clutter.And the book it is a number one
New York Times bestseller. There werethree million copies of this book sold,
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right, And it's not a verynew book. I'm pretty sure it's been
out for a while. But thebook is called The Life Changing Magic of
Tied Up, and it's the subtitleis The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing.
And this is by Marie Kondo,right, And so in this book,
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she is like a professional people goto her to get She gets paid
to help people like tidy up andorganize and she has found the connection between
that and like actually getting their lifetogether. Right. So, I'm still
working my way through the book,but there were definitely some gems throughout what
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I've read so far. But thisbook, it tells it just talks about
how as you work on tidying upthe spaces around you that you have to
operate in on a regular basis,how that is going to help you to
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get focused, and how your mindsetis a big part of that. But
how you start to tidy up andhow you view organizing and things like that.
These these are this is directly connectedto the clutter that you'll commun uh
accumulate and just basically just like howy how you'll operate right, And so
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it's it's an interesting book and Ido recommend it if you feel like that
might be something that you deal withon a regular basis as far as dealing
with clutter in your home, youknow what I mean? Like and and
and cause ya, what what dowe be saying? Life be life?
And right when we're a mother andwe're a wife, and we we have
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and we work, we just havedifferent things that we just got a lot
going on, right, We're overwhelmed. We're overwhelmed, and so we just
we we w. I think weget to a point where we just we
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look for the convenience, right,And I think that the convenience sometimes to
just put something in a specific space, and we think that because we can't
see it, we're good to go, right. But in this book,
in this book, she's talking abouthow you can't just consider just putting something
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in a specific space and think andbecause it's out of the way, think
that that is like the solution thatyou solved the problem. Right. So,
aka, the junk drawer, wethrow the drunk. We have the
junk drawer, right, because that'sjust where we put some of the most
random shit in our house in thatdrawer. Right. But when you think
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about the jun when you y'all,when you think about the junk dure,
just think about what's in your junkdrawer. And I'm telling you, after
I got through a certain point ofthis book, I definitely got up and
took my ass in there to gowork on the the junk drawer, cause
I had a junk drawer and andthe junk drawer is just something that is
just in households. It's just it'sjust the custom way, right. And
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you know what, we may neverget rid of the junk drawer. We
may never, but I do wantto encourage you to to to consistently go
through the junk drawer at least andsee what's in there and make sure you're
not hanging on to stuff cause ofthe cause there was, y'all, there
was so much stuff in that drawerthat I didn't even need. But I'm
so accustomed to putting those types ofrandom things in that drawer. It's just
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like it's like second nature to me. But when I actually thought about it,
and I read this book and shegathered me together, I went to
the drawer and I was like,look at all of this that I don't
even need. It was like,yeah, okay, I see what she
did there. But when she's talkingto you in the book, she's basically
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saying that, you know, whenyou put your house in order, you
begin to put your affairs in order, and you put your past in order,
and as a result of doing this, you can see very clearly what
you need in your life and whatyou don't, and what you should do
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in your life and what you shouldn'tdo. It's so much deeper than just
having this stuff in your life andjust holding on to it and just not
wanting to let go of it.There's a whole other level to getting rid
of these things. But you know, they say that people people can't change
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their habits right without first changing theirway of thinking, right, because what
do we always talk about? Everythingis mindset. That's literally almost turning it
into the tagline of this podcast,cause I feel like I say it every
entry, but it's true, right, because everything is mindset, and if
we can channel into that, we'llrealize how how much of that it is
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is, like how that has todo with so much of the things that
we do in our life. Right, So when you try to like w
like talking about the juncture when you'rejust put you're just putting things in this
designated area, right, and you'rethinking, Okay, just put it in
a drunk drawer. It's out ofthe way. It's not out, it's
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not it's you know, when youhave to clean up for the day,
you putting this stuff in this storageroom, or you're putting stuff and it's
out of the way and you don'tphysically see it. But that's not dealing
with it. You have to startwith discarding things first. You have to
discar You have to start with thatis the real solution to g you know,
working through your clutter. You haveto first discard the things that you
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know you really don't need. Iknow y'all see where I'm going with this.
I know y'all hear it, andI know y'all hear it. Discard
the things you know you really don'tneed. Get rid of the things.
What is the bigger picture? Whatdo you wanna do with this? How
is this thing serving you? Whatis the benefit of hanging on to it?
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Do you really need it? Whenthey say, like when you and
I apologize, if you hear likebackground noise where I'm recording today, there's
there's a lot of things going onwhere I'm you know, there's things going
on. So if you can hearthe background, I'm I'm sorry about that.
But so discarding the things that youknow you don't need. Where are
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you going to use this particular thing? Where are you going to use it?
Do you really need it? Haveyou used it in the past few
years? Has this thing been touchedby you? Think about all of the
things that you have in your closet, the clothes that you have. Have
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you actually used it within the pastfew years or are you just hanging on
to it because you don't want tolet go of it. I feel like
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if we can begin to figure outand begin to look at things for what
they really are, we'll be ableto clearly see why we don't need them.
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So when you think about the thingsin terms of the physical things,
think about the people in your lifethat you need to discard, Think about
the connections to people that you needto discard. Think about the habits in
your life that you need to discard. Because these things are no longer serving
you anymore. You no longer needthem, you have no need for them.
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You will approach a season in yourlife and this is kind of like
a transitional season, and and anda lot of times, you know this
was a part of the study too. When we approach a transitional season in
life, there will be a cH there. There's a very high chance
that we may begin to accumulate Cif something stressful happens, if a big
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life change occurs, there's a veryhigh chance that we are going to begin
to clutter some things, because thatis how that is our mental reacting,
that's how we're responding to what justhas transpired in our life. And we
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have to be able to work throughthat. And we get stressed out,
we get overwhelmed, and that isjust what we're physically doing, and sometimes
we don't even see it. Ittakes. It takes like, have y'all
ever listened Have y'all ever watched theshow Hoarders? Me and my best friend
we watch this show all the timeand sometimes we get a few little funny
little laughs out of it, butin reality, it's really not funny.
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It's not laughing at the people.But just you know, y'all, not
those shows are. But when youthink about the like Hoarders, they have
gotten to a point. If youwatch that show, these people have gotten
to ridiculous amounts of clutter in theirhome, and every single time something they
have gone through something, there's alwaysa connection to why they have gotten to
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the point that they're at. Andyou may not be at hoarder status,
but it just goes to show youthat when a huge life change happens,
a death, a loss of somethingor someone, a financial burden, or
change that has really impacted us ina negative way, just something major in
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our life. When that changes,that is that is usually the catalyst for
what people who are considered psy psychologicallyconsidered hoarders. There has that's what has
happened that there was a catalyst tothat and something major happened in their life
to where that was the beginning ofsomething. There was some there may have
been a trauma, and that isa response to a trauma. People deal
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human beings. Listen, we arewe are unique and we respond to things
in different ways. And clutter isjust a very common response to dealing with,
you know, stress and anxiety andbeing overwhelmed. But that's what they
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say, like that transitional season,that is what that is what happens.
So I really just want you toI want you to take a look at
some of the connections and some ofthe things that you need to discard,
and not only the clutter in yourlife, but I want you to think
about some of the things in yourlife that that that you might need to
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start really deciding is does this goin the need pile or does this go
in the discard pile? Because once, listen, when you start to get
rid of some things, and I'mgonna talk about that in part two,
but listen, it feels good whenyou let go of stuff. You feel
you feel light, You really doyou feel light. But when you are
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dealing with clutter in your spaces,even like when I said, like in
your workspace, when you're dealing withclutter, you are going to start building
up like almost like a blockage.Even creatively, you can build a creative
block when you are accumulating too manythings that you don't need. The creativity
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is creativity is an energy. Ifyou're a writer and you're trying to write
a book, for example, andyou're not, you don't really have a
free flowing environment. The creativity isnot going to flow the way that you
want it to flow. It's not. So I wanna talk about some of
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the reasons why, which I kindof was already doing that, but I
really wanna get into the reasons why, and I wanna get into a problem
and a solution for each of thesereasons. I got four things for you,
and then I'm gonna wrap this up. So the four reasons why we
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f why we clutter. Starting withthe first reason is because obviously there's just
too much stuff. We just havetoo much stuff, and that I don't
feel like it's mos resonates most withour closets, our closet spaces. Do
something with this stuff. You haveto eliminate the access right and there are
ways that you can benefit that.So what I UH had to start doing
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is start organizing and getting things together. So because well, one thing that
I always do, you always canjust donate. You can always donate the
things that you don't need, theextra things that you have, which I
do that. I have done thatreligiously over the years. I've always just
given away things, loads of it, and I'll always feel better when I
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do it. But there's also onthe on the other side of that,
you can sell things. So theproblem problem number one for clutter is because
we have too much stuff. Thesolution to that eliminate the excess. What
can you do with the excess stuff? Just figure out the plan for the
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excess and execute the plan. Justdo it. Don't think about it anymore.
Especially when this is stuff, whenwe're talking about just a whole bunch
of clothes and shoes and bags andaccessories and just things like that that you're
just keeping it here and there,eliminate the access Sometimes you just have to
just like just cut it short andjust get rid of the stuff. Don't
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even try to come up with aplan for it. I know a person
and I mean, oh my gosh, this person has so much stuff and
The response to everything is, oh, I know I could probably, I
could probably sell that, but likelisten, you've been thinking about selling that
for years, the same stuff you'vebeen thinking about selling, but you haven't
done it. You're holding on toit. So if you after a certain
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point, if you haven't sold it, just let it go. Eliminate the
access, all right. Problem numbertwo and why we clutter, which is
what I just touched on. We'rein that transitional season. Something changed,
something that we're having to go throughchanged, and we're overwhelmed, so we
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don't want to deal with the organizing. We're not dealing with the tidying up
and the cleaning. The best wayto probably get through that is to start
with the small, Start with smalltasks on how you can maneuver through it,
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especially if you're feeling overwhelmed. Thisis all you know, you gotta
kind of see where you're at,start with some of the small tasks and
work on those. Even though nowin the book, now on the contrary
to that, I want to tellyou that the author is talking about how
that's not always the answer, becauseshe does argue to say that when you
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are trying to deal with a bunchof cluttering bunch of a bunch of other
things. We always hear the advicewill just start small, you know,
just work on a little bit ata time. But then she goes on
to say, if you are justdealing with a little bit at a time,
you're kind of mentally telling yourself thatyou got time, and you're not
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really going to see the impact ofwhat it is that you're trying to work
on, right, because you're justworking on a little bit, right,
You're working on a little bit eachday, so you're kind of just putting
yourself in a mode of like,well, I'm gonna just do this today
and I'll always you know, wesettle, right, It's kind of like
we settle we talk ourselves out ofactually being effected at what we're trying to
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do. And it's just like I'mjust do a little bit today, and
I'll do a little bit tomorrow andthen i'll knock the rest. I'll have
it done by the end of themonth. Before you know it, this
this one project turned into a monththing. But really, she says that
you should power through. You shouldreally just power through, because when you
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power through something and you knock itout, you'll begin to see how empowered
you feel by getting something, bygetting whatever it was that you were trying
to get done. She says thatif you use the right method and concentrate
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your efforts on eliminating clutter thoroughly andcompletely within a short span of time,
you'll see instant results, and thatwill empower you to keep your space in
order there thereafter. So she's basicallysaying, if you power through and you
get it done right then and there, you're gonna be like, oh my
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god, I did this. It'skind you're kind of like training your brain.
Oh my god, I did this. I got this knocked out,
and then you're gonna be ready tomove on to the next thing, cause
you're gonna see how good it feels. But if you just keep delaying everything
and you keep putting everything off,when you only say okay cause you know,
we try to sucker out of it, and you're like, well,
you know, I I am this, or I am working on this,
or you know, I do youknow? I have no cause you're not
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gonna you're not gonna get the results. You're not gonna you're not gonna be
able to see how it feels.You're putting off the benefit of this whole
process of getting rid of the clutter. So if you say, set the
goal that you're gonna get this done, set that goal for that day,
and knock it out in that day, you know, within reason, if
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this is something that you know youcan do with in the day, just
get it done, because then you'relike you're, you're, you'll be motivated.
Then then you'll be ready to moveon. Maybe you know, if
you have a house full of clutter, obviously you might not be able to
get it done in a day.But knock one project out per day,
if it's if it's if it's clutterin every room, commit to dealing with
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the clutter in that space in thebedroom that day. Get it done that
day by any means, necessarily getit done that day before you end that
day, and then you'll see whatthat feels like. And then the fourth
problem that that that they say isa reason why we are dealing with clutter
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is because which is which is veryironic. You're a perfection You could be
a perfectionist, and if you knowin your mind that you cannot perfect what
it is that you're trying to do, then you just don't do it at
all because you know that you're notequipped to do it, so you don't.
So you do nothing. And thiscould be like, you know,
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like, let's say you're in aspace and you're in a house and you've
really been trying to move, andyou want to purchase a new home right
and you might not be in thebest financial state to be able to move.
You've outgrown your space, You're readyto get into a bigger house with
more space, and you haven't beenable to do that. And so because
you've outgrown this space, you're accumulatingall of these things and you definitely need
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more space. But and you knowwhat you want to do with your space.
You know what you want, butit's like you want it to be
such a very specific way, andyou know that you need this this one
piece of this puzzle to come togetherfor it to be that way, but
it can't be, and so youjust don't do anything at all. This
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is where you use the solution toThis is where you use visualization. You
visualize what your space would look like, You visualize what your home would look
like, even if you're not inthat dream home that you have yet,
even if you haven't been able toget approved for that home loan to get
that new house just yet. Whatwould it be like if you were in
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that space? Use that and manifestthe space that you're in now when you
guys think about it and you listento these entries. The one thing that
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I have that I have to askfor you to do is to always be
really honest with yourself. Really behonest with yourself about where you're at,
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what you've been doing, what hasn'tbeen working, what you haven't tried,
what you did try and isn't working, but you're still doing it anyway.
We gotta really be honest with ourselves, and self awareness is a big part
of the success of anything. Honestlybeing self aware, understanding what role you're
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playing in the problem so that thenyou can then come up with a solution.
Operating in chaos is not always agreat thing. That is not a
skill. I don't care what y'allsay, And sometimes people say that I
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remember I would say that, Yeah, I kind of operate best in chaos.
I operate best under pressure. That'snot always the best thing. That
shouldn't be something that you strive todo. When I was reading through the
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book. She had a little statementin the book, and she said,
to truly cherish the things that areimportant to you, you must first discard
those that have outlived their purpose.Did y'all hear that no hold on you?
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Was moving around, you was doingsomething else. I don't think you
heard me. Let me say thatpart again. To truly cherish the things
that are important to you, youmust first discard those that have outlived their
purpose. All of the things thathave outlived their purpose in your life.
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You have to let go of thosethings so that you can really really embrace
what you got going on right now? Ooh, do y'all realize how deep
that goes? Do y'all realize itwhat that means? If you really want
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to embrace and enjoy a new seasonin your life, how are you going
to do that? If you arehanging on to things that have outlived their
purpose. You don't need that anymore. You don't need that person anymore.
So you don't need like that personhas showed you they are, what they're
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capable of doing, and how theyare no longer serving the purpose in your
life. Right, so you haveto let that person go. And letting
that person go means letting go ofthe things that that person did to you.
Does that mean that you will forget? Absolutely not. But in what
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way are you going to be ableto let go of those things so that
you can move on and embrace somethingbetter for you? When you want to
embark on a new season in yourlife, when you want to embark on
a new journey and you want afresh start, you gotta discard some thing,
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says, And it might be alot, and it might be hard
to do, but you will notregret it. You just you just first
have to do it. So thereis a part too, and I'm let
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me Okay, there is a parttwo. So I'm gonna go ahead and
just wrap this this this part upso we can get into get into the
next part of this. So Iwant to leave you with your journal,
your self discovery journal prompt. Geton board with us. Make sure you
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have a journal, because I'm goingto give you a journal prompt for each
entry. And I want you guysto really think about it, and I
want you guys to put it inyour journal. I want you to guys
to reflect on it, and Iwant you guys to write about it.
Okay, So your Self Discovery Journalprompt is what is something that you will
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regret later if you don't do itnow? So I want you to think
about that. Think about that,and think about what we've been talking about.
We've been talking about clutter. We'vebeen talking about cluttered minds, we've
been talking about cluttered hearts. Ooh, listen, what do you need to
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do? What are you gonna ifyou don't do it now? What are
you gonna regret later on? Ifyou don't do it right now? There
might be some things that you willregret if you keep hanging on to things
and not realizing how hanging on tothese things is creating an attachment, an
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emotional attachment, a mental attachment,and how that mental attachment is restraining you
from growth, the growth that youneed to embark on the new season.
Listen, do y'all really hear me? Are y'all really listening right now?
If you don't let go of someof that stuff now, you are going
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to regret it later because you aregonna miss out on a lot of great
things right now if you don't letsome of that stuff go. All right,
So I want to just I'm gonnastop right there and we'll get into
part two. I want to talkabout really quick, just a couple of
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Cluttered spaces are the physical manifestation ofcluttered minds. Let's unpack that. Let's
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So here are your affirmations after mNumber one is I deserve to move through
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deserving of healthy relationships with those whovalue me. And Affirmation number three is
I have the knowledge and ability toachieve everything I want. I have the
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you guys. Those are your threeaffirmations. Thank you, guys for
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own, all right. So youguys, as you can see by the
title of this entry, entry thirtyeight, welcome back again, you guys,
and if you're new to listening,welcome, Thank you guys for tuning
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maybe you might just come back andvisit me again for entry number thirty nine
and forty and forty one and soon and so forth. All right,
so you guys, let's talk aboutcollutter. So yeah, about the clutter.
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And let me just say this inadvance, you guys, I am
doing a lot of different experimenting withthe sound systems that I am using.
So I am praying on everything.I did multiple testing on the sound system
that I'm using right now, soI am hoping that everything is okay on
this end. So I hope thatyou guys can hear everything clearly and everything
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is good to go. But anyway, so let's talk about clutter. So
the quote cluttered spaces are the physicalmanifestation of a cluttered mind, And I
think that that makes perfect sense,right, because when you have cluttered spaces,
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like what is clutter? Clutter isjust the accumulation of a lot of
stuff, right, It se accumulationof a lot of things that you may
or may not even need, right, but they're just they're in a space
somewhere in your home, in youroffice, in your car, wherever that
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you've just you just keep accumulating thisstuff, right, It's just a lot
of it's just messy, it's nottidy, it's not organized. It's clutter,
right, And sometimes we tend tokeep clutter in our homes. And
I wanted to talk about it inthis particular entry because I wanted to see
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if I can help myself and helpthe person that is intrigued by this particular
entry to see if we can unpacka little bit of the connection between how
there might be clutter in our mindsand that is why we tend to keep
accumulating all of this stuff. Sothe psychology, I'm gonna get a little
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bit deep with you, guys.I'm not a psychologist, right, but
I try to do a little bitof research and things when I want to
talk about certain things, right,I try to just enlighten myself so I
can come back and I can sharewith you guys. Right, So,
the psychology behind a person that accumulatesclutter is that they're holding on to some
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things. And this is something thatthese are things that and I don't mean
physically, I mean mentally, Imean emotionally, right, And I'm gonna
just I'm gonna preface this by saying, maybe or may not There may or
may not be an issue. Youknow, some of some of y'all might
just be messy and y'all just needto get it together and get them get
rid of some of his stuff.Right. So there's that we got that
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out the way, right. Soif you don't feel like there's any any
anything else going on with why youkeep continuing to clutter spaces around you.
Then it's just because you're messy.That's fine. This may not resonate with
you, But I want to talkto the people who continue to do this
and who have realized that they mightbe at a place in their life where
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they're overwhelmed and they continue to doit right, Because I'm not saying that
a person just cannot have just aweek where you know, by Friday,
the end of the week, theirhouse is just messy and they go in
tidy up and that just automatically,you know, because that happens too,
right, But there's a difference injust your house being messy for the week
and you get on your around youhaven't gotten around to straighten it up,
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and then there's actual clutter, Clutterin your closets, clutter in multiple spaces
in your house, right, Andso you don't want to deal with stuff,
so you put it in a particulararea and you just throw it there.
Right. This can be in theform of a closet, a storage
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space, a junk drawer. Howmany junctrawers do you have in your house?
Right? This could be a garagefull of things that you're just holding
on to that you keep saying you'regonna get rid of, but for some
reason you don't get around to it. Right. So when we talk about
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the psychology of clutter, there wasa study that Princeton did and in this
study, it states that the accumulationof items is tied to emotional reasoning,
right, and that retaining possessions mightbe linked to fears of scarcity or attachment
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to the past. So let's talkabout that. Let's talk about fears of
scarcity. How many times have youthought about something? And listen, I
come from a place of experience.I know this. I I did this
for you. I kept holding onto clothes and shoes and I items.
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I would hold onto them because Ifelt like, what if I need it
one day? What if I canuse it? Right? So so I
understand it. Again, listen,this is a safe space. And I
talk from a space of either experience, understanding, empathy, or I just
recognize it, right, And soI wanna talk about it so I can
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help whoever I can help, hopefully, or at least guide or at least
bring awareness at the very least.Right. So, having a fear of
scarcity, thinking that you might needsomething one day, I have. I
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used to do that all the time. Like you guys ever get something that
you have to put together, AndI just wanted to turn that down a
little bit. But you guys everget something that you had to put together
and it would come with like extratools and or extra things, right,
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or extra screws or whatever. Like, I would hang on to things like
that, right, And that mightnot necessarily be like I mean that might
that might be a smart thing todo, right, because you might you
never know when you'll need something.But that right there is the statement that
I would always use in my reasoningfor holding on to just an abundance of
things. I never know when Imight need something. And in doing this,
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like I would accumulate just a lotof stuff, right, So in
terms of like clothes, so let'sjust talk about the closet. Right.
For a long time, I wouldhang on to things thinking that, like,
what if I approach a season inmy life where I'm not able to
get things that I need or thingsthat I desire. That's where it was
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coming from. It was more socoming from like what if I get to
a point in life that I justI'm not able to get, Like I'm
gonna need to hang on to stuffbecause what if I'm not able to get
something? And that, right thereis like overthinking. I am definitely a
certified overthinker, and so sometimes Igo way far beyond and I will think
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of the worst case scenario. Andthat's due to anxiety, right But I
would think about if I would evercome to a period in my life where
I would not be able to provide, and I was like, well,
I need to have extra things.I need to have just I need to
make sure I have multiples of thisand multiples of that, just in case
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I can't. You know, Iever, I'm just ever in need,
right that a fear of scarcity,fear that I might not ever be able
to see this type of thing again, or might not ever be able to
get this, or they may notever have this. You do shopping shopping
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a lot of people that kind ofhave a little bit of issue with spending
and overspending. They will buy thingsand they will get multiple colors of things
of one thing, two and threecolors of one thing because they want to
make sure that they just have thesethings. And this is how we're accumulating
things. And again, you guys, please make sure that you're understanding that.
I'm not trying to say that theway that you choose to buy certain
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things that automatically means that you're cluttering. You just have to be mindful of
what you're doing and just you know, listen to what I'm saying because it
will make sense to the person thatit makes sense to. But having that
that fear of scarcity, like justthinking that you better get extras, you
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better get extras because maybe they're gonnaall be gone at some point, right
and you're just accumulating a lot ofthings and you're spending extra out of this
idea in your mind that you haveto have it right then and there,
you have to have it. Soclutter. I feel like clutter and overspending
and a lack of budgeting those canall be connected. And then on the
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opposite end of that, they saidthat retaining possessions could come from an attachment
to the past. So when wetalk about an attachment to the past,
let's talk about some of the thingsthat you're holding on to that are linked
to the past. And y'all knowexactly where I'm going to go with this
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example. When we're talking about relationships, how long ago will you hold on
to things that are linked to theperson that you had to end that relationship
with. You will hang on tothings. You will hang onto things,
especially when you're fresh out of thatrelationship, you'll hang on to stuff,
right, And a lot of timeswhen we're in the middle of that toxic
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cycle, we would hold onto thingsand we would use that as a way
to draw that person back in,or they would try to use that as
a way to get back in,whereas like, yeah, I need to
come and get my stuff, oryou need to come and get your stuff,
knowing full well they don't need thisstuff, or you know full well
they don't really need it. Butthat's that cycle. That's that cycle of
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like pull and push, tug ofwar and leaving the door open to get
back in. Right. But whenit is done, and when it is
over and you're still holding on tosome of the things that are connected to
this person that you had to letgo of, then there is an emotional
attachment there and that is what youneed to try to cut ties with.
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So then you have to let goof these things, and you have to
figure out what in your mind iskeeping you from letting go of those things
when I had to let go ofthe relationship that hurt me the most.
When I had to there was alot of things that I had, and
I'm gonna be really honest, Ihad to let go of those things.
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Like in phases. I could notjust get rid of everything all at once.
And you know what I was thinkingof. I was thinking about,
what if this isn't it? Whatif this isn't it, and what if
this person comes back in my lifeand then I don't have these things anymore?
I still want to hang on tothese things because I was still holding
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on to the idea that this wasa relationship that was going to be what
I needed in my life. SoI'm holding on to it, right,
And I was trying to hold onto things. But do you realize that
not only are you holding onto thephysical things attached to that person, but
you were holding onto an energy ofthat person. Yes, things contain energy
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and not just physical things. Pictures. How many pictures in your phone are
you still holding on? And I'mtelling you, in this particular relationship,
like I had tons and tons andtons and tons of photos, right,
I had lots of photos and Ididn't want to let go of this stuff.
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And then because I was trying toget over on myself, right,
Like, let me tell you,so, I would have like my actual
photo album in my phone, butnot only did I have the photo album
in my phone, but my phonemy photos automatically linked to like my Google
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photos. Right, So I wouldbe like, Okay, I'm gonna delete
these photos in my out of myphoto app. But in the back of
my mind, deep down inside,I knew I still had backup photos in
the you know, in my Googleapp. So it was a process for
me, right, And I'm tellingyou, I literally and it was just
different places in my phone where Iliterally had to go through and I had
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to on different times and at differentpoints in my healing journey did I had
to go through and I had toremove these photos and these reminders of this
particular person. But I was hangingon to it. And I realized,
you know, we talk about healing, and we talk about how heal,
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you know, like for me,I at least I talk about it.
I feel like, you know,you never really know how long healing is
actually gonna take. And who's tosay healing ever really stops. But I
noticed that as I went through andI released attachments and things that I had
and photos and things. It felta little bit better each time afterwards,
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as hard as it was for meto actually get rid of it. And
I'm and I'm telling you, Ireally try to get over myself. But
I really had to be intentional aboutit, right because you know, you
can delete something and it's really notdeleted. You gotta really delete it off
of these phones. You gotta reallydelete the stuff. But then I found
myself as I went further down onmy healing journey, I felt I found
myself really really getting rid of thesethings videos and just think, you know
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what I mean, The first thefirst step I had to that I had
to get rid of. And thisis what I want to encourage you to
do. If you're still trying toyou know, we're talking, we're still
talking about clitter, you guys,So stay with me on this. But
there's there's a there's a there's aconnection to all of this. But the
first thing that you're gonna have todo is you're gonna have to get rid
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of that that that text thread.And I know that that's not that's not
gonna be easy. And if youare like me, like you have.
You may have had a very long, detailed text thread, right, and
when you're with someone and you're youlove with someone, you might go back
and you might read text messages thatyou shared and it might be good things,
it might be bad things, especiallyif you're words of affirmation type of
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person. You go back and youread some of the things that a person
says. That's the person that youwere spending your life with. So you
go back and you read those things. You have to start with deleting that
text thread. Sis let delete it. You have to unless you're hanging on
to it for some sort of likeother reason, like legal reasons, and
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you need it like proof or somethinglike that, you know what I mean.
If it gets if it's deep likethat, then I get it.
But like outside of that, youhave to start with getting rid of that,
and then you slowly move into gettingrid of the photos and the videos
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and things like that. But Ihad to literally go through my phone.
I had to go through my closetfor old you know, things that this
person left or you know what Imean. I had to go through I
had to find pictures, like actualphysical pictures that I had, like in
my office like I had it.But it was a phase and it was
a process, and it didn't allhappen at once. It didn't. It
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took some time because there was anemotional attachment there. But there was a
clutter of things that I was holdingonto in my house that was attached to
this person, that was connected tothis person. And I was hoping to
try to feel better and hoping toheal. But how can I do that
if I still have these things inmy life? So that's what they're talking
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about. They're talking about an attachmentto the past. And I was most
definitely attached to that past. Sothat's one form of how we hold on
to something and how that is clutter. Clutter is not just like I want
you guys to still take clutter asliteral, but I want you to also
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like use the clutter as just kindof like the analogy, like the metaphor.
It's just a bunch of things inthe physical form, right, But
mentally, the clutter is just theaccumulation of something that you cannot let go
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of. So when we talk aboutthe spaces that we frequent a lot our
homes are office space. What doesyour office space look like what is your
office desk look like? Is youroffice desk cluttered? And if so,
how are you functioning at work?And this is a question that I want
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you to ask yourself. When weget into part two of this entry,
we're gonna talk more about the selfreflective questions and ideas that you can ask
yourself. But this right here,like if you have clutter, if you
have a cluttered desk or a clutteredoffice space. You know, a lot
of us are working remotely or workfrom home, we have our own office
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space, or even if you don'thave your own office space, but just
how is your office space wherever itis? How does it look as they're
clutter there? And if it is, how are you functioning in your role?
How easily are you getting frustrated?How are you or are you just
operating in this just this chaos.When I start a new week, like
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by the time I get to Friday, I realize how I'll have just all
of these notes and things everywhere I'llhave You know, there will be I'm
gonna be honest, there will beaccumulation of just like random little things,
notes and things posted, notes ofthings. There might be you know,
just whatever we just random notebooks andjust things that have accumulated that I have
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pulled out and that I've used overthe week. And by the time Friday
comes, I have all of thisstuff in my all my desk space.
And if I don't, if Idon't deal with it right then and there
and I come back to it Monday, like, I have to get myself
together Sunday, I have to goback and I have to check my space
and I have to make sure thatI clear everything, I put everything back
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in order. I have to,you know, just kind of get myself
together. But I have to dothat Sunday before I go back into my
office. I have a home officetoo, right, so I have to
before I go back to that spaceon Monday morning. I have to it.
Like I can't walk into it andstart the tid end up and start
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the organizing and start to getting ridof stuff on Monday morning before I start
work. No, make sure youdeal with that before you start work.
Deal with that Sunday night, ordeal with that Saturday morning when you're doing
your cleaning, because you don't wantto go down and try to start work
and have to deal with the chaosfirst. The chaos that is the clutter
on your desk, because that's notgonna start your day off on a positive
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note. It's already gonna start You'realready gonna be a little bit overwhelmed by
everything that you need to organize firstbefore you even log in or clock in
or whatever it is that you do, before you even deal with anybody else,
you already having to deal with youryour space that you have to work
in for however many hours out ofthe day. So don't deal with that
one Monday morning, because that's you. You're you're asking, You're asking to
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start the week off on the wrongfoot by doing that, So deal with
that prior, right, So that'sjust talking about but but just think about
that and think about how you maneuverand how you're functioning at work. When
we when you become really self awareof things, you're gonna pay attention to
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more things. You're gonna pay attentionto how easily you get frustrated. You're
gonna pay attention to how like youknow, like for me, like I
am so when I when I maneuverthrough like my emails and things like I'm
I'm organizing everything, I'm putting everythingin folders that need to go there wherever
they need to go. Like aslike I can't like I don't wanna move
on to the next thing until Iam organizing where everything goes. I have
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a folder for everything, Like youknow what I mean. I'm not trying
to like sift and dig through thedeleted box or the archive, but like
I know what specifically is gonna goin my archive box, what's gonna be
deleted. I'm not gonna deal withwhat's gonna go in this folder? This
folder, this folder. This ishow I function. This is an organized
system. This is what helps meto stay on task and stay on top
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of things. And this is whatgives me just a a a little bit
more of a relief when it comesto how I function and what I'm doing
with my job. Right, wewe gotta have some sort of organized system,
and I'm gonna talk about that,and I I'm gonna come back to
that because I'm gonna talk about reasonswhy we cluttered, and that's that's actually
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one of the solutions. But soso again, when we're like we we
talked about the emotional attachments and howthings can be connected to the person from
the past, and then we're talked. We talked about like having clutter at
work, when you're at home,what spaces in your home do you have
clutter? Oftentimes it's like closets,hall closets, you know, the closets
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in our bedroom where we have wherewe you know, our main things are
clothes and shoes, there might bea lot of clutter there. So I
have this book, and this bookis what actually inspired me to do this
entry and talk about just clutter.And the book it is a number one
New York Times bestseller. There werethree million copies of this book sold,
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right, And it's not a verynew book. I'm pretty sure it's been
out for a while. But thebook is called The Life Changing Magic of
Tied Up, and it's the subtitleis The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing.
And this is by Marie Kondo,right, And so in this book,
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she is like a professional people goto her to get She gets paid
to help people like tidy up andorganize and she has found the connection between
that and like actually getting their lifetogether. Right. So, I'm still
working my way through the book,but there were definitely some gems throughout what
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I've read so far. But thisbook, it tells it just talks about
how as you work on tidying upthe spaces around you that you have to
operate in on a regular basis,how that is going to help you to
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get focused, and how your mindsetis a big part of that. But
how you start to tidy up andhow you view organizing and things like that.
These these are this is directly connectedto the clutter that you'll commun uh
accumulate and just basically just like howy how you'll operate right, And so
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it's it's an interesting book and Ido recommend it if you feel like that
might be something that you deal withon a regular basis as far as dealing
with clutter in your home, youknow what I mean? Like and and
and cause ya, what what dowe be saying? Life be life?
And right when we're a mother andwe're a wife, and we we have
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and we work, we just havedifferent things that we just got a lot
going on, right, We're overwhelmed. We're overwhelmed, and so we just
we we w. I think weget to a point where we just we
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look for the convenience, right,And I think that the convenience sometimes to
just put something in a specific space, and we think that because we can't
see it, we're good to go, right. But in this book,
in this book, she's talking abouthow you can't just consider just putting something
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in a specific space and think andbecause it's out of the way, think
that that is like the solution thatyou solved the problem. Right. So,
aka, the junk drawer, wethrow the drunk. We have the
junk drawer, right, because that'sjust where we put some of the most
random shit in our house in thatdrawer. Right. But when you think
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about the jun when you y'all,when you think about the junk dure,
just think about what's in your junkdrawer. And I'm telling you, after
I got through a certain point ofthis book, I definitely got up and
took my ass in there to gowork on the the junk drawer, cause
I had a junk drawer and andthe junk drawer is just something that is
just in households. It's just it'sjust the custom way, right. And
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you know what, we may neverget rid of the junk drawer. We
may never, but I do wantto encourage you to to to consistently go
through the junk drawer at least andsee what's in there and make sure you're
not hanging on to stuff cause ofthe cause there was, y'all, there
was so much stuff in that drawerthat I didn't even need. But I'm
so accustomed to putting those types ofrandom things in that drawer. It's just
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like it's like second nature to me. But when I actually thought about it,
and I read this book and shegathered me together, I went to
the drawer and I was like,look at all of this that I don't
even need. It was like,yeah, okay, I see what she
did there. But when she's talkingto you in the book, she's basically
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saying that, you know, whenyou put your house in order, you
begin to put your affairs in order, and you put your past in order,
and as a result of doing this, you can see very clearly what
you need in your life and whatyou don't, and what you should do
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in your life and what you shouldn'tdo. It's so much deeper than just
having this stuff in your life andjust holding on to it and just not
wanting to let go of it.There's a whole other level to getting rid
of these things. But you know, they say that people people can't change
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their habits right without first changing theirway of thinking, right, because what
do we always talk about? Everythingis mindset. That's literally almost turning it
into the tagline of this podcast,cause I feel like I say it every
entry, but it's true, right, because everything is mindset, and if
we can channel into that, we'llrealize how how much of that it is
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is, like how that has todo with so much of the things that
we do in our life. Right, So when you try to like w
like talking about the juncture when you'rejust put you're just putting things in this
designated area, right, and you'rethinking, Okay, just put it in
a drunk drawer. It's out ofthe way. It's not out, it's
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not it's you know, when youhave to clean up for the day,
you putting this stuff in this storageroom, or you're putting stuff and it's
out of the way and you don'tphysically see it. But that's not dealing
with it. You have to startwith discarding things first. You have to
discar You have to start with thatis the real solution to g you know,
working through your clutter. You haveto first discard the things that you
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know you really don't need. Iknow y'all see where I'm going with this.
I know y'all hear it, andI know y'all hear it. Discard
the things you know you really don'tneed. Get rid of the things.
What is the bigger picture? Whatdo you wanna do with this? How
is this thing serving you? Whatis the benefit of hanging on to it?
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Do you really need it? Whenthey say, like when you and
I apologize, if you hear likebackground noise where I'm recording today, there's
there's a lot of things going onwhere I'm you know, there's things going
on. So if you can hearthe background, I'm I'm sorry about that.
But so discarding the things that youknow you don't need. Where are
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you going to use this particular thing? Where are you going to use it?
Do you really need it? Haveyou used it in the past few
years? Has this thing been touchedby you? Think about all of the
things that you have in your closet, the clothes that you have. Have
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you actually used it within the pastfew years or are you just hanging on
to it because you don't want tolet go of it. I feel like
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if we can begin to figure outand begin to look at things for what
they really are, we'll be ableto clearly see why we don't need them.
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So when you think about the thingsin terms of the physical things,
think about the people in your lifethat you need to discard, Think about
the connections to people that you needto discard. Think about the habits in
your life that you need to discard. Because these things are no longer serving
you anymore. You no longer needthem, you have no need for them.
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You will approach a season in yourlife and this is kind of like
a transitional season, and and anda lot of times, you know this
was a part of the study too. When we approach a transitional season in
life, there will be a cH there. There's a very high chance
that we may begin to accumulate Cif something stressful happens, if a big
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life change occurs, there's a veryhigh chance that we are going to begin
to clutter some things, because thatis how that is our mental reacting,
that's how we're responding to what justhas transpired in our life. And we
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have to be able to work throughthat. And we get stressed out,
we get overwhelmed, and that isjust what we're physically doing, and sometimes
we don't even see it. Ittakes. It takes like, have y'all
ever listened Have y'all ever watched theshow Hoarders? Me and my best friend
we watch this show all the timeand sometimes we get a few little funny
little laughs out of it, butin reality, it's really not funny.
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It's not laughing at the people.But just you know, y'all, not
those shows are. But when youthink about the like Hoarders, they have
gotten to a point. If youwatch that show, these people have gotten
to ridiculous amounts of clutter in theirhome, and every single time something they
have gone through something, there's alwaysa connection to why they have gotten to
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the point that they're at. Andyou may not be at hoarder status,
but it just goes to show youthat when a huge life change happens,
a death, a loss of somethingor someone, a financial burden, or
change that has really impacted us ina negative way, just something major in
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our life. When that changes,that is that is usually the catalyst for
what people who are considered psy psychologicallyconsidered hoarders. There has that's what has
happened that there was a catalyst tothat and something major happened in their life
to where that was the beginning ofsomething. There was some there may have
been a trauma, and that isa response to a trauma. People deal
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human beings. Listen, we arewe are unique and we respond to things
in different ways. And clutter isjust a very common response to dealing with,
you know, stress and anxiety andbeing overwhelmed. But that's what they
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say, like that transitional season,that is what that is what happens.
So I really just want you toI want you to take a look at
some of the connections and some ofthe things that you need to discard,
and not only the clutter in yourlife, but I want you to think
about some of the things in yourlife that that that you might need to
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start really deciding is does this goin the need pile or does this go
in the discard pile? Because once, listen, when you start to get
rid of some things, and I'mgonna talk about that in part two,
but listen, it feels good whenyou let go of stuff. You feel
you feel light, You really doyou feel light. But when you are
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dealing with clutter in your spaces,even like when I said, like in
your workspace, when you're dealing withclutter, you are going to start building
up like almost like a blockage.Even creatively, you can build a creative
block when you are accumulating too manythings that you don't need. The creativity
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is creativity is an energy. Ifyou're a writer and you're trying to write
a book, for example, andyou're not, you don't really have a
free flowing environment. The creativity isnot going to flow the way that you
want it to flow. It's not. So I wanna talk about some of
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the reasons why, which I kindof was already doing that, but I
really wanna get into the reasons why, and I wanna get into a problem
and a solution for each of thesereasons. I got four things for you,
and then I'm gonna wrap this up. So the four reasons why we
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f why we clutter. Starting withthe first reason is because obviously there's just
too much stuff. We just havetoo much stuff, and that I don't
feel like it's mos resonates most withour closets, our closet spaces. Do
something with this stuff. You haveto eliminate the access right and there are
ways that you can benefit that.So what I UH had to start doing
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is start organizing and getting things together. So because well, one thing that
I always do, you always canjust donate. You can always donate the
things that you don't need, theextra things that you have, which I
do that. I have done thatreligiously over the years. I've always just
given away things, loads of it, and I'll always feel better when I
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do it. But there's also onthe on the other side of that,
you can sell things. So theproblem problem number one for clutter is because
we have too much stuff. Thesolution to that eliminate the excess. What
can you do with the excess stuff? Just figure out the plan for the
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excess and execute the plan. Justdo it. Don't think about it anymore.
Especially when this is stuff, whenwe're talking about just a whole bunch
of clothes and shoes and bags andaccessories and just things like that that you're
just keeping it here and there,eliminate the access Sometimes you just have to
just like just cut it short andjust get rid of the stuff. Don't
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even try to come up with aplan for it. I know a person
and I mean, oh my gosh, this person has so much stuff and
The response to everything is, oh, I know I could probably, I
could probably sell that, but likelisten, you've been thinking about selling that
for years, the same stuff you'vebeen thinking about selling, but you haven't
done it. You're holding on toit. So if you after a certain
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point, if you haven't sold it, just let it go. Eliminate the
access, all right. Problem numbertwo and why we clutter, which is
what I just touched on. We'rein that transitional season. Something changed,
something that we're having to go throughchanged, and we're overwhelmed, so we
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don't want to deal with the organizing. We're not dealing with the tidying up
and the cleaning. The best wayto probably get through that is to start
with the small, Start with smalltasks on how you can maneuver through it,
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especially if you're feeling overwhelmed. Thisis all you know, you gotta
kind of see where you're at,start with some of the small tasks and
work on those. Even though nowin the book, now on the contrary
to that, I want to tellyou that the author is talking about how
that's not always the answer, becauseshe does argue to say that when you
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are trying to deal with a bunchof cluttering bunch of a bunch of other
things. We always hear the advicewill just start small, you know,
just work on a little bit ata time. But then she goes on
to say, if you are justdealing with a little bit at a time,
you're kind of mentally telling yourself thatyou got time, and you're not
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really going to see the impact ofwhat it is that you're trying to work
on, right, because you're justworking on a little bit, right,
You're working on a little bit eachday, so you're kind of just putting
yourself in a mode of like,well, I'm gonna just do this today
and I'll always you know, wesettle, right, It's kind of like
we settle we talk ourselves out ofactually being effected at what we're trying to
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do. And it's just like I'mjust do a little bit today, and
I'll do a little bit tomorrow andthen i'll knock the rest. I'll have
it done by the end of themonth. Before you know it, this
this one project turned into a monththing. But really, she says that
you should power through. You shouldreally just power through, because when you
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power through something and you knock itout, you'll begin to see how empowered
you feel by getting something, bygetting whatever it was that you were trying
to get done. She says thatif you use the right method and concentrate
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your efforts on eliminating clutter thoroughly andcompletely within a short span of time,
you'll see instant results, and thatwill empower you to keep your space in
order there thereafter. So she's basicallysaying, if you power through and you
get it done right then and there, you're gonna be like, oh my
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god, I did this. It'skind you're kind of like training your brain.
Oh my god, I did this. I got this knocked out,
and then you're gonna be ready tomove on to the next thing, cause
you're gonna see how good it feels. But if you just keep delaying everything
and you keep putting everything off,when you only say okay cause you know,
we try to sucker out of it, and you're like, well,
you know, I I am this, or I am working on this,
or you know, I do youknow? I have no cause you're not
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gonna you're not gonna get the results. You're not gonna you're not gonna be
able to see how it feels.You're putting off the benefit of this whole
process of getting rid of the clutter. So if you say, set the
goal that you're gonna get this done, set that goal for that day,
and knock it out in that day, you know, within reason, if
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this is something that you know youcan do with in the day, just
get it done, because then you'relike you're, you're, you'll be motivated.
Then then you'll be ready to moveon. Maybe you know, if
you have a house full of clutter, obviously you might not be able to
get it done in a day.But knock one project out per day,
if it's if it's if it's clutterin every room, commit to dealing with
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the clutter in that space in thebedroom that day. Get it done that
day by any means, necessarily getit done that day before you end that
day, and then you'll see whatthat feels like. And then the fourth
problem that that that they say isa reason why we are dealing with clutter
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is because which is which is veryironic. You're a perfection You could be
a perfectionist, and if you knowin your mind that you cannot perfect what
it is that you're trying to do, then you just don't do it at
all because you know that you're notequipped to do it, so you don't.
So you do nothing. And thiscould be like, you know,
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like, let's say you're in aspace and you're in a house and you've
really been trying to move, andyou want to purchase a new home right
and you might not be in thebest financial state to be able to move.
You've outgrown your space, You're readyto get into a bigger house with
more space, and you haven't beenable to do that. And so because
you've outgrown this space, you're accumulatingall of these things and you definitely need
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more space. But and you knowwhat you want to do with your space.
You know what you want, butit's like you want it to be
such a very specific way, andyou know that you need this this one
piece of this puzzle to come togetherfor it to be that way, but
it can't be, and so youjust don't do anything at all. This
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is where you use the solution toThis is where you use visualization. You
visualize what your space would look like, You visualize what your home would look
like, even if you're not inthat dream home that you have yet,
even if you haven't been able toget approved for that home loan to get
that new house just yet. Whatwould it be like if you were in
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that space? Use that and manifestthe space that you're in now when you
guys think about it and you listento these entries. The one thing that
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I have that I have to askfor you to do is to always be
really honest with yourself. Really behonest with yourself about where you're at,
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what you've been doing, what hasn'tbeen working, what you haven't tried,
what you did try and isn't working, but you're still doing it anyway.
We gotta really be honest with ourselves, and self awareness is a big part
of the success of anything. Honestlybeing self aware, understanding what role you're
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playing in the problem so that thenyou can then come up with a solution.
Operating in chaos is not always agreat thing. That is not a
skill. I don't care what y'allsay, And sometimes people say that I
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remember I would say that, Yeah, I kind of operate best in chaos.
I operate best under pressure. That'snot always the best thing. That
shouldn't be something that you strive todo. When I was reading through the
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book. She had a little statementin the book, and she said,
to truly cherish the things that areimportant to you, you must first discard
those that have outlived their purpose.Did y'all hear that no hold on you?
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Was moving around, you was doingsomething else. I don't think you
heard me. Let me say thatpart again. To truly cherish the things
that are important to you, youmust first discard those that have outlived their
purpose. All of the things thathave outlived their purpose in your life.
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You have to let go of thosethings so that you can really really embrace
what you got going on right now? Ooh, do y'all realize how deep
that goes? Do y'all realize itwhat that means? If you really want
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to embrace and enjoy a new seasonin your life, how are you going
to do that? If you arehanging on to things that have outlived their
purpose. You don't need that anymore. You don't need that person anymore.
So you don't need like that personhas showed you they are, what they're
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capable of doing, and how theyare no longer serving the purpose in your
life. Right, so you haveto let that person go. And letting
that person go means letting go ofthe things that that person did to you.
Does that mean that you will forget? Absolutely not. But in what
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way are you going to be ableto let go of those things so that
you can move on and embrace somethingbetter for you? When you want to
embark on a new season in yourlife, when you want to embark on
a new journey and you want afresh start, you gotta discard some thing,
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says, And it might be alot, and it might be hard
to do, but you will notregret it. You just you just first
have to do it. So thereis a part too, and I'm let
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me Okay, there is a parttwo. So I'm gonna go ahead and
just wrap this this this part upso we can get into get into the
next part of this. So Iwant to leave you with your journal,
your self discovery journal prompt. Geton board with us. Make sure you
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have a journal, because I'm goingto give you a journal prompt for each
entry. And I want you guysto really think about it, and I
want you guys to put it inyour journal. I want you to guys
to reflect on it, and Iwant you guys to write about it.
Okay, So your Self Discovery Journalprompt is what is something that you will
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regret later if you don't do itnow? So I want you to think
about that. Think about that,and think about what we've been talking about.
We've been talking about clutter. We'vebeen talking about cluttered minds, we've
been talking about cluttered hearts. Ooh, listen, what do you need to
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do? What are you gonna ifyou don't do it now? What are
you gonna regret later on? Ifyou don't do it right now? There
might be some things that you willregret if you keep hanging on to things
and not realizing how hanging on tothese things is creating an attachment, an
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emotional attachment, a mental attachment,and how that mental attachment is restraining you
from growth, the growth that youneed to embark on the new season.
Listen, do y'all really hear me? Are y'all really listening right now?
If you don't let go of someof that stuff now, you are going
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to regret it later because you aregonna miss out on a lot of great
things right now if you don't letsome of that stuff go. All right,
So I want to just I'm gonnastop right there and we'll get into
part two. I want to talkabout really quick, just a couple of
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announcements you guys. I want totalk about a sponsorship and advertising average opportunities.
If you guys are interested in sponsoringthis platform, there are a couple
of different ways that you can do. So please email me Blog Queen Podcasts
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if you subscribe to the podcast,which there will be a link in the
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wanna customize whatever it. You know, your sponsorship subscribing to the actual podcast
unlocks some things that we can workon together. It's not just you having
access to a podcast entries that noone else does. There's more. I'm
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into you. So there's different waysthat you can subscribe, and once you
become a subscriber, you are anofficial sponsor, and so we'll talk about
how we can how we can workon that. Check out the thoughts of
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is the thoughts of a block Queencolumn. Check out some of the things
that I've written. I got someblogs over there, nice little blogs,
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me on my Instagram. All ofthat stuff, y'all know I'm gonna put
it in the show notes. Butyeah, I appreciate you guys, I
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really do. And I've been gettingwonderful feedback lately from some listeners that I
have. I haven't checked my analytics, so I don't know. I don't
know where I'm getting streamed the mostyet. I haven't checked on that.
Last month it was Florida, Floridawas Florida was showing out and Florida was
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streaming me. So I need Ilike to check and see where I'm gonna
stream the most. But all inall, I've been getting just a few
I've been hearing a little bit ofthis, a little bit of that,
but it's been positive and I lovethat. I love that I love and
I hear from you guys that listen. So again, if you're a new
listener and you're tuning in today,I hope that you hope that you kind
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of got an idea of how Imaneuver through these entries and how I like
to try to speak to the heartsof my audience. I appreciate you guys
taking your time out. You couldhave been doing one hundred and one other
things right now other than tuning intomy podcast. But you just understand that
when you tune in and you streamthis episode, that helps me. That
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helps me, and that's that's boostingme in just a little way, right.
It's just a baby step in theright direction. And what I'm trying
to do in ways that I'm tryingto expand the platform and build on things
and be creative with these things.So I just appreciate it. I dis
appreciate everybody that that gives me thatfeedback. If you guys have tuned in
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leave a review on Spotify. Youcan leave your thoughts over there. I
would I would appreciate it, Butyou guys can always reach out to me.
I'm working on some things with subscribers. I am getting the uh private
Facebook group organized for some new subscribersthat I'm getting. It's it's coming together.
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So again, just you guys knowhow to reach me. You can
d on me, dm me onany social media that you happen to follow
me on dm me there, emailme and we'll we'll we'll we'll get in
contact and we will work out whateverit is that we need to work out.
Again, you guys, I appreciateyou tuning in. Happy self care
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Sunday, and until next time youguys, Peace and blessings to the Thoughts
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