May 26, 2024 • 49 mins
PT 2” Out with the old, in with the new…ways of thinking.” To wrap up this 2 part series I am breaking down how 5 self reflecting questions can guide us through the process of clearing out the mental “clutter” that could potentially have an impact in different areas of our lives.
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Let's do this shout out. You'relistening to the thoughts of a blog Queen
podcast Thought with your host Love Renee, a woman thought and a Hey,
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y'all, welcome back to into thirtynine of Thots with Block Queen podcast.
I am your host, lad andthey also known as Block Queen. Y'all
know what that sound means. Ifyou're new here, you might not know
what that sound means. But ifyou aren't new, then you know that
that means it's time for you tobring your cups and let me fill them
up. All right? So Igot our three affirmations for this entry,
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and yeah, take these with you, y'all know, put them in your
pocket, put them up for later, use them tomorrow morning, and share
them with others. Because that's whatwe do. We into others. We
feel our own cups up, andthen we pour into others, and then
we make sure that we come backand we refiel our own cups, right
because we cannot, absolutely cannot pourfrom an empty cup. All right,
So you guys ready for these threeaffirmations? All right, let's get it.
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And I got them. I gotthree, I got a good three
good ones. We're gonna give it. I'm gonna give you affirmation and self
believe, self care, and selflove. Okay, So affirmation number one,
I believe in myself and my potentialfor greatness. I am the architect
of my destiny and I am fearlessin pursuing my goals. That is your
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affirmation and self belief, all right. Affirmation number two is in self care.
I find strength and vulnerability. Igive myself permission to heal from the
things that hurt me. I maketime to process strong emotions, all right.
And then your third and final affirmationis in self love, and it
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is I am loving, loved andlovable. I love myself, I accept
myself, and I support myself.All right. So those are your three
affirmation for this week. All right. So you guys, welcome back.
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Welcome back to another entry. Thisis part two of our Clearing her Clutter
series. This is only two parts. So if you tune in today and
you didn't check out the first part, go back one episode, tune into
that, and then come back here, mate, back over here. It's
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not absolutely necessary if you didn't listento the last entry, but it's good.
We talked about clearing out our clutter. Part one, we talked more
about the focus on the physical thingsthat are around us and how they are
attached to mental clutter. Right.And so the second part, which I'm
hoping that I can deliver this toyou shorter than the first, is we're
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gonna go through these five self reflectivequestions that you can ask in assisting you
with this process of clearing out theclutters. So today we're kind of focusing
more on the mental side of it, if you will, Like, we're
gonna get into kind of like thereasoning, and I wanna always give you
guys maybe like just something to thinkabout, something to kind of reflect on.
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And then I'm gonna give you guysyour journal prompt. I hope you
guys are keeping a journal of yourthoughts. I will I stand for a
journal and listen, I'm gonna alwaysencourage it. I'm gonna always take part
in it. I'm gonna always pushyour guys to journal your thoughts because I'm
telling you, when you are onany kind of journey, any healing journey,
any self love journey, any typeof journey, when you go back
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and you look at some of thethings that you've written down and how far
you've come. Baby, it's agood feeling to see how far you've come.
It's a good feeling to see howyour mindset on certain things have changed.
And I mean when you journal,like your journalists, your safe spacejournal
is the space that that that nobody, you know, nobody gets some of
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the thoughts that go into the journal. You are raw, you are real,
You are rare in your your opinionsand your thoughts and things. You
just you put it there. Andthat's never be not authentic in your journal.
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Always be whatever you're thinking in thatmoment, whatever you're feeling, whatever
you're doubting, whatever you're promoting,whatever you are trying to forgive yourself for,
whatever you're trying to forgive someone elsefor, whatever you're angry about,
whatever anything. Always journal it becauseI'm telling you how fulfilling it is to
go back and look at something andsee what you've overcome, See how something
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may have changed your perspective, seesee how the growth. The growth is
documented. A journal is a bookof documented growth. And I'm telling you,
and when we're much much much older, and we go back and you
save these journals and keep them upfor safe keeping, and when we're much
much older. It's gonna be somethingto sit back and read all of the
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things that we that we went through. So anyways, yeah, let's let's
let's get into this. I soagain, we're okay, we're talking about
clearing out our clutter. We're talkingabout all of the things that keep us
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tied to things, right, sowe're talking about the clutter in our spaces
where we are the most, inour homes specifically, is what I wanted
you guys to focus on. AndI wanted you guys to actually try to
tackle getting some of the clutter out. And let me just take a moment
to shout somebody out. Shout outto a good social media connection friend,
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Schaitavia for her wonderful to report thatshe's given thus far. And I was,
so, I I was like,I was like, I was like
a proud mama. She did anamazing post on on TikTok and she uh,
she cleared out her she was shelistened first of all, she supports
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my platform fully and she listened tothe last entry and she did the work,
y'all. She actually did the workand she found like it to be
helpful, you know, and didthe th from what she's saying, like
she actually did the work and shedid a post and she got around to
finally clearing the clutter in her closet, and I love that for her.
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I appreciate her so much. Itis amazing. I'm getting off topic,
but I have to, like,I just wanna, I just wanna put
this out there in in into thespace because people that support me. I
always wanna support people, but shesh people that you it. It's it's
amazing how we make these connections onlineacross the internet spaces with people that we've
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never met, and how they becomereally important to us, really important to
our growth, really important to ourplatforms, and they support us from afar.
They support us without thinking twice.And we don't always get that energy
in our actual world, right,So anytime you come across it, you
appreciate it and you want to giveback, but you want to always try
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to pour into people without the expectationof getting anything back. And I feel
that genuinely from her. I supporther. Listen, she uh listen.
She she does workouts and she doesmorning meditation, and her workouts are amazing.
They're they're they're really fun. AndI I've caught. I finally got
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to catch one cause I was like, listen, I need you to do
these on the weekends because she wasdoing them during the week with and she
finally like started to incorporate them onthe weekends. But anyways, Yeah,
she she's good. She's good,and I wish nothing but the best and
all of the things that she wantsfor herself. I send that energy her
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way because it's genuine. It's notjust that I'm gonna support you just like
you know, just how I'm gonnajust support you online just because I'm gonna
you know, no, it's nevergave that with her, and so I
want you guys to make sure youconnect with her. I'm gonna have her
information in the show notes as well, so that you guys can find her
on your social media on Instagram andon TikTok and yeah. But anyways,
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so back to what we were talkingabout, the clutter. So we're going
to use this entry and we're goingto talk about five self reflecting questions that
we can ask ourselves when we're thinkingabout the clutter that we're trying to clear
through our minds and not just ourphysical spaces, just the clutter that we
have in our minds, and I'mgoing to use for the four a's of
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self. I'm going to use thoseas points to give you these questions,
right, and so I'm gonna staywith you. We're gonna go through these
questions and we're gonna try to breakthem down. And yeah, so we're
gonna we're gonna talk about the awareness, the analysis, the alternatives, and
the action. But we're gonna doWe're gonna have two action steps because I'm
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gonna give you five self reflective questions. So if you don't have your journals,
go get your journals. Go getyour journals, and let's let's get
this. Let's get this going,and don't forget. We're gonna do a
journal prompt at the end of this. And I want you, guys,
if you uh do this journal prompt, email me, message me, dm
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me wherever you're connected to me andlet me know. Yeah. All right,
So let's talk about self reflecting onhow we can clear out our spaces.
First of all, let's talk aboutthe awareness of it, cause in
order to do anything, you gottabe a aware, right, You've got
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to be aware of what it isthat you are trying to do what you're
trying to accomplish. So, interms of the awareness of clearing out our
mental clutter, what is the extentof the clutter and how has it been
affecting you? All right, that'syour first question, y'all. What is
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the extent of my clutter and howhas it been affecting me? That's the
awareness of it. So when youhave a cluttered mind, and you're aware
that you have a cluttered mind,and what are the signs of having a
cluttered mind? First and foremost,it's the cluttered spaces. But there's exhaustion,
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there's a feeling of overwhelm, likean overwhelming feeling. There's procrastination,
there's lack of motivation, there's anxiety. These are all signs of having a
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cluttered mind. So what is theextent of it and how has it been
affecting me? Well, this iswhat we were talking about. When you
have a cluttered mind. The firstphysical thing that you may see, aside
from the physical the physical things thatyour body may be experiencing, is it's
the spaces. So that is anotherthat is like you're the first indicator that
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you might just be going through.You might just have too much going on
in the in the in the inthe mind, and you need to start
figuring some things out, because ifit's taken away from the things that you
want to do, if it iscausing you to procrastinate, that is my
biggest sign of when I have acluttered mind, because I begin procrastinating one
thing. Procrastination, and I canhonestly tell you, guys, has been
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my biggest weakness when it comes tomy goals. And so with that,
I understand that that is a resultof a cluttered mind. And then that's
when I get to start s clutteringthings up in my spaces, specifically in
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my office space. So I haveI have identified and I have become aware
that when I have a cluttered mind, I begin to procrastinate. That is
my own personal sign of cluttered Clutterness. Is clutterness a word? I don't
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know, y'all. Clutterness? Imade it a word? Who I made
it a word? Procrastination is mypersonal sign of having a cluttered mind.
So that is the awareness of it. What is the extent of my clutter
and how has it been affecting me? These are the questions, These are
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your s, These are the questionsthat you need to answer, because these
are the things that are gonna helpus to get to where we need to
be at the end of this cause, I want you guys to work on
this. I want you guys towork on it. I want you guys
to journal about it, and Iwant you guys to actually try to do
something to help get through this.Because we can be our best selves.
We can be or at least bea close version of our best selves,
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because you know, we're not alwaysgonna be the best our best self.
We can be a a close versionof our best self, but sometimes we
have to actively continue to work andwe can always get better. Is there
ever really an end to our bestself? Or can we continue to keep
growing so we can be a versionof our best self when we start working
on these types of things, right, these these, this is these,
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This is the work that we wannado, and we're doing this together,
y'all. I cannot stress this enough. I speak from experience, I speak
from observation, I speak from researchI've done. I speak from just coming
from a place of wanting to domy own self work. And I want
to take you guys with me whilewe're doing the self work. Right,
This is not coming from a placeof like judgment. This is not coming
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from a place of some of acoach trying to sell a program or someone
who has a degree in psychology oranything like that. No, this comes
from a place of the self help. The girlies who want to do the
self help, the self work.We're trying. We're trying to do some
things, and so in order tobe successful things we're trying to do.
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This is the type of things thatwe do that we really got to pay
attention to and take it serious.We got to make these things a priority,
just like we make anything else.Our jobs, our businesses, our
families, our relationship, marriage,kids, the gym, all of these
things. The self work, theseare priorities too. All right, let's
move into the next part, thenext question, questionnumber two. And we're
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gonna use the analysis for question numbertwo because remember I'm giving you, guys,
the four as of self reflection,and this is how we're gonna give
you your five self reflecting questions.So we already went through the awareness.
That was the first step. Wegotta be aware of what it is that
we're trying to clear out. Wegot to be aware of the fact that
we have a cluttered mind. Questionnumber two the analysis of it? What
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are the spaces that I need towork on? What are the spaces that
I need to work on? Sowe need to make an analysis. What
is the analysis of this? Whatare the spaces that I need to work
on? Like I, just likeI was telling you guys about my friends,
I tell you she identified and shethe analysis that she really came to
grizzly. She really needed to workon her closet. That was the space
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that she needed to start with.That was the physical space that she needed
to start with in order to beginto try to work on clearing her mind.
She needed to work on her closet. For me, it was spaces
in my office, individual spaces inmy office where I will keep clutter.
That's where I had to start tacklingfirst. And the closet is that's another
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beast. Yeah, yeah, Ineed to do my closet too, Cause
you can have an organized closet,you can have a clean closet, but
you can still have clutter in acloset. Because remember, clutter can still
be very much organized. Clutter canalso just be a collection of things that
you just no longer need. Doesn'tnecessarily mean that it has to be messy
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or out of place or unorganized,but there's still clutter when you have a
collection of things that you don't need. Yeah, okay, the analysis,
So what are the spaces that Ineed to work on? So when you
physically identify the spaces that you needto work on, whether it's in your
office, it's your closet, ifit's a storage space, whatever the physical
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spaces are, what are the mentalthings that you need to work on?
So, like I just told you, for me, it's a procrastination.
So what am I procrastinating on?What am I procrastinating on? This directly
affects some of the goals I havewith writing because one of the big major
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things that I'm trying to accomplish isgetting a very specific written project completed.
And because I have so many thoughtsand so many ideas and so many just
overwhelming feelings of not getting it right, not putting out what I want to
put out exactly, I procrastinate onit and that's holding me back. So
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I need to space that I needto work on. Is the goal that
is connected to the writing project.I need to figure out ways that I
can clear that out. So howcan I do that in terms of me
completing a writing project? What doI need to do? So then that's
where I need to do do adeep dive and to figure out what I
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can do to assist me with thiswriting project, and I and you sort
there. So once you figure outand once you've done an analysis of the
spaces that you need to work on, then that's where you start clearing things
out. That's where you start organizingthings that may come in the form of
do I need to connect with thepublicist, which is something that I've been
thinking about. Do I need toconnect with a writing coach? Do I
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just need to do a little bitmore research online? Like what do I
need to do? And I wantyou guys to visually when you figure out
the analysis of what you're trying todo, I want you guys to visually
put this put this information out,So whether that is making a list using
your journal, and also when wetalk about journals, y'a, you guys
like have multiple journals. Listen,I got a manifestation journal, I have
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a personal journal, I have awork journal. I gotta I gotta break
these things down I have a journalthat I use to for inspiration for the
things that I'm trying to work on. Like a creative journal. I have
just my personal life journal. Ihave the journal, the manifestation journal specifically
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just has the things that I amtrying to manifest and that and that's what
I said, that's an amazing thingto go back to when you start writing
down and journaling about the things thatyou're trying to manifest, and then you
go back and look at all ofthe things that actually manifest, y'all,
I'm telling you, it's it's it'san amazing feeling. So visually, visually
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put these things out. Visually writethese things out so you can see it.
Get a whiteboard in your office spaceand write it out, write it
out, see it, see whatyou need to work on. This helps
in manifesting as well. Write thevision, make it plain, right,
That's what they say. Listen,that's scripture. But but y'all know,
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I'm not gonna I'm not gonna getreligious on y'all. But that's scripture.
Write the vision and make it plain, see what see what it is that
you're trying to do. That's howthat's that's how we're connecting that to the
analysis. So that was question numbertwo self reflective question number two, what
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are the spaces that I need towork on? And then make a list,
use a journal, get you awhiteboard, get you a bulletin board,
pen some posted notes, whatever youneed to do to visually see it.
That's what I want for you,guys. I want you guys to
see what it is that you're tryingto do. All right, let's move
along. I'm determined to get y'allout of here quicker today because last part
one't was over an hour I thinkso. But also I don't want to
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rush through this because I want youguys to get it. I want us
to get it. So the thirdquestion, the alternatives, is connected to
the alternatives What is the plan?And what could I do to resolve whatever
the plan is? How can Iavoid it? So that was kind of
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like three my bad job. Thatwas kind of like three and one that
was like that was like that waslike the third question with A B and
C. There was levels too.There was levels to question number three,
So what is the plan? Whatcan I do to resolve any like quirks
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in the plan, any any anyflaws in the plan, what can I
do to resolve it? And thenhow can I avoid those kinks in the
plan? Because there will be kinks, but you'll come across those kinks like
as you're trying to go through theplan. But you gotta first come up
with a plan. So let's uselet's continue to use me as the example.
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So if I know that procrastination isthe result of of my cluttered mind,
and I know that it is affectingme getting writing goals done, what
is the plan? What is theplan? What is the resolution for the
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for the for the this, forthis plan? So you wanna and and
that's where you go back to theanalysis. So you put all of these
things into an action plan, right, which we're coming up on action.
We put everything into a plan andthen we figure out what what is the
resolution at the end of this plan? If there are five steps to your
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plan, what is the resolution?What is it that you want to see?
Ultimately we're talking about clearing the clutterin our minds, right, So
that's the big plan. But likeI just said, there's levels to this.
We gotta get through this, wegotta work through this. It just
it just you know what I'm saying, we gotta, we gotta ease into
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it. It's not just gonna happen. And sometimes guess what Plan A might
not be. It might not begiven. So then we gotta do the
Plan B. And for me,as an overthinker, as a big time
I'm overthinker. I listen, yourgirl always got a plan A, I
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got a Plan B. And I'mgonna be teeter totterant on a Plan C
this and kse Plan B faull likethat's me and I don't know, you
know what, We'll come back tothat because I don't know if that's you
know, that might be a goodthing, and that might be that I
know it's an anxiety thing. Butyeah, that's how I am. I
always gotta have a plan for something, especially when it comes to things like
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this. But I think in thiscase that's a good thing to have a
plan. So we want the planand we want to figure out what it
is that the resolution is gonna beas the result of this plan, and
then when we discover any kinksident,we're gonna figure out how we can avoid
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that. So, like I justsaid, when we have plan A and
we have Plan B, if planIf if for whatever reason, Plan A
all through and we have to goto Plan B, what did we learn
when we were working through Plan Athat we can apply to Plan B?
How can we avoid the kings fromPlan A? So for me, what
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I figured out is that I can't. I have to give myself more space.
Y'all heard me say this before spaceand grace. I have to give
myself more space and grace on things. Because if you are a person that
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just is so strict on yourself andyou want to just push yourself to have
things done and be and be donein a perfect way, and you put
yourself the pressure on yourself, that'swhere you're gonna that's where you're gonna drop
the ball ultimately. So when yougive yourself that space and grace, that's
how you that's how you're better.You're you're better, you're better uh equipped
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to deal with whatever it is thatyou're trying to deal with, or you're
better equipped to like execute the planand be successful at whatever it is.
So time management falls into some ofthe things that affect me personally or that
I struggle with, and then I'mtrying to figure out all of these different
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ways all of these ways to cutcorners when it in terms of time,
and then and then I get overwhelmedby that too. So that's adding on
to the plate of things that I'vealready got in my mind. So that's
so it's it's when you start approachingthese kinks in your plans, that's when
you start, like at adding onto the clutter. And so one of
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the things that I had to doto avoid that particular issue is that I
had to stop trying to work oncertain projects during the week because I didn't
have the time. Number one,because you know, I still work at
I work at nine to five.And so I figured out that when I
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was trying to go from one extremeof work to the other without giving myself
that space and grace in between toeven reset my brain and my thinking,
I was just trying to dive rightinto it because listening, there's only so
many hours in the day, andI just feel like, no, that
wasn't working for me. I'm notsaying that that doesn't work for other people.
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It very male that they may verywell maybe how you get things done,
and if it works for you,I'm not here to change anything that
works. It didn't work For me, I wasn't giving myself enough space and
grace in between working eight to fiveand then getting off at five, trying
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to eat something really quick, andthen trying to jump into my own things.
I could not do that. SoI had to dedicate a very specific
time and intentional time to work onthings that had nothing to do with my
day job. That's the space andgrace. That's how you That's how you
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do that, all right? Andthen the fourth a quote unquote fourth A
is action. And then I'm gonnagive you two self reflective questions that fall
under action, because I told youguys, I have five reflective self reflective
questions for you. So the firstaction question is what steps in what order
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am I going to take to getmy spaces cleared? So this is where
you have taken the analysis, Youhave gone through the alternatives, and now
and that plan that you that you'vecome up with that you've decided this is
what I need to do. Sonow what are the how am I How
are you gonna execute it? Whatsteps in what order? That's the first
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action plan, And you're gonna goback to the analysis and you're gonna write
these things down because you may nothave did that before, but I want
you to be very specific, veryintentional, and very purposeful when you put
these things in order, because theorder they matter. So what steps in
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what order am I gonna take toget my spaces cleared? What are you
gonna do? What you're gonna do? Is this? How? How are
you gonna do it? And thenthe second action question and the final the
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fifth and final what follow up andfollow through process will I follow? To
avoid this clutter from reoccurring, becauseby the time you get here, you
should have figured out a way andsort it through. And listen, there's
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not a time limit on this.This may not happen in a day,
This may not happen in three days, this may not happen in a week.
But by the time you get toask your second action question, you
should have sorted through and you shouldhave based on the four questions prior to
this final question, you should havefigured out a flow or at least guide
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an idea. And at this pointthis is where this is where we go
in. This is where we implement, This is where we implement, This
is where we dive, and thisis where we Okay, we stand on
business here, this is where we'regonna do it because we can talk about
it. We can talk about it, we can talk about it, we
can see you know, you cancome here and you can listen to me
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all day long and you can say, oh yeah, that sounds good,
or you can come here you cansupport, or you can and know on
the back in your mind, thisis something that you really need to work
on. But are we gonna bea part of them? Are we gonna
be a part of the of thepeople that actually implement Are we gonna be
a part of the people that actuallygo through with what it is that we're
trying to go through with. Sowhat follow up and follow through process will
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I follow to avoid this clutter fromreoccurring? Because once you get this space
cleared out and you've accomplished it andyou feel good about it, it can
be so easy to get back intoa cluttered space again and guess what it
might happen. It might happen again. Clutter occurs, It can be a
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reoccurring thing. It can be unfortunately. But when we figure out the way
that we can, like you knowwhat I'm saying, work through it,
breathe through it. Once we figurethat out, then it's just like,
Okay, we're tackling it, likewe're tackling all of our other things that
we have to tackle in life.It c you know, we get to
it and it's not a problem becausewe've figured out how we ourselves personally can
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master working through our clutter. Andthat's just like, you know, seasonally,
we might need to clear out ourclutter in our closets or wherever the
spaces that we needed to clear out. We might have to do that.
Seasonally, we might have to dothat at the end of the month.
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I'm telling y'all, right now,I'm gonna have to clean out my little
drunk drawer probably like at the endof the month. I already know this,
but I'm looking forward to using thatas kind of like a little mental
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tool because as I'm clearing out myjunk drawer and I'm getting rid of removing
and I'm throwing away and I'm organizingit, I'm just sorting through that junk
drawer at the end of the month, I'm using that as a mental uh
catalyst to sort through whatever it is. Do it I it is that's going
on through my mind that I needto sort through. At the same time,
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it's representation is what it really is. I'm telling you, and I'm
encouraging you to go through and I'mfin and find a space in your home
that is cluttered. And I'm askingyou or I'm encouraging you to use that
as a representation for your mind.And like, are y'all with me?
Use that if it's the closet,as you are going through and sorting and
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and and removing things and finding outwhat goes, what stays, what's gonna
be donated, what's no longer good? Like, as you're doing this,
use this mentally figure it out.I'm telling y'all it it works. I've
promise you guys, it works.It helps, It really helps. And
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I'm telling you that it's not gonnabe an end all, be all type
of deal. You will probably haveto do this. M You know,
I'm talking about it because I experiencedit. I do this all the time.
I clear my clutter all of thetime. Spiritually. Oh I should
have did three parts cause we couldtalk about spiritual clutter. We could talk
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about that, but that's the Yeah, that should have been a bonus.
Maybe I might throw that in there, but I'm I'm not I'm not I'm
not gonna do that, but listenwhen I need to do it. R
when I need to clear some spiritualclutter. Baby, my higher power speaks
to me in that shower and letsme know what I need to what I
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need to clear out. And Ilet that. I let that water that
falls down on me and then goesdown to drain. That's clearing out the
clutter, the spiritual clutter. AndI had an amazing it's self care Sunday,
y'all know, today's self care Sunday. And I had an amazing experience,
amazing shower experience. Oh it wasin me, it was in me
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and on me. Baby, ButI digress, I digress. I'm not
gonna talk about the spiritual clutter.I'm not gonna do it. But if
you know, you know, ifyou know, you know, it's all
I'm gonna say. So our finalquestion, again, if you missed it,
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what follow up and follow through processwill I follow to avoid the clutter
from reoccurring? Because even though Isaid it might reoccur, and it's very
likely to, we want to tryto prevent it from happening after a week
or after a month seasonally would bebetter, right if we don't. If
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we if we're able to get throughand be able to do this type of
this type of exercise, this typeof self help exercise, maybe seasonally four
times a year, that would begreat. Some of us might need it
every month. I just told y'all, I'm probably gonna be clearing my junk
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drawer every at the end of everyat the end of every month. But
I but I look forward to that. I find the benefit in a lot
of things, and I find theconnection and a lot of things that I
do, and that's that's how Iam able to kind of create a lot
of the things that I create andshare with my community. So, yeah,
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those are the five self reflective questionsI can do this. I'm'a run
through'em really quick to make sureyou have them, cause I want you
guys to write them down. Questionnumber one awareness What is the extent of
my clutter and how has it beenaffecting me? Question number two analysis,
what are the spaces that I needto work on? And you're gonna make
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a list, use a journal,get a whiteboard, et cetera. Cause
we wanna visualize it, we wannasee it, you wanna write it down.
Question number three alternatives, what isthe plan? What can I do
to resolve any kinks in the plant? And how can I avoid these kinks?
Question number four Action action step numberone? What steps in what order
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am I going to take to getmy spaces cleared? And Question number five
Action step number two what follow upand follow through process? Will I follow?
I hope that that made sense toyou guys. Will I follow?
To avoid the clutter from reoccurring.So when you start doing these things,
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and when you start implementing them intoyour daily routine or your wee routine,
or your monthly routine, however youwant to prioritize this, let me tell
you what is gonna happen when youstart learning how to clear out your clutter.
You want to know what's gonna happen. You're gonna start shifting. Things
are gonna start shifting. And Imean this in the best way possible.
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Things are going to shift. Shiftingis gonna be the result of you clearing
out your clutter, because then you'regonna start seeing things clearly. You're gonna
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start paying attention. You're gonna startpaying attention to the things that you need
to work on. You're gonna startpaying more attention to the things that are
just useless. Shifting, Hm,Can that be our work word of the
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year. Do we already have aword of the year. I think I
said on a few episodes our wordof the year was still We've been because
we've been stuck on accountability for aminute. Shifting. Shifting is the word
of the year. Shifting is ourtwenty twenty four word of the year because
I know, personally I've been doinga lot of shifting and I saw something
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I want to tell you guys whatI found that I read and I thought
it was very It made perfect sense. It says, as you are shifting,
you will begin to realize that youare not the same person you used
to be. The things you usedto tolerate have become intolerable. Come on,
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when you once remained quiet, youare now speaking your truth. Okay,
where you once battled and argued,you're now choosing to remain silent.
And that was the one for me. You're beginning to understand the value of
your voice, and there are somesituations that no longer deserve your time,
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energy, and focus. This iswhat we are trying to do. We
are trying to shift. But wecannot shift when we have cluttered minds.
So that's why we are working onthese cluttered spaces so that we can cl
clear our cluttered minds, so thatwe can begin to shift. Cause when
you tryna shift and and and yourbrain is cloudy and you got too much
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going on, you shifting, butyou ain't moving nowhere, You just shifting
in t in place. No,we really tryna shift. We really tryna
shift because what we don't realize isthat we are out here. Listen,
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y'all know that trend that's going onright now on TikTok talking about we're paying
off each other's debts. I know, y'all know, if you're hanging out
on TikTok, you know about thiswhole paying off each other's debt. Well,
listen, this is what we do. We are paying off people's mental
debts. And you know what we'reusing to pay for it. We're using
our time, we're using our energy, and we're using our focus. This
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is what we're using to pay offpeople's mental debts. Because people are coming
to us, people are coming aroundus, people are coming into our spaces,
and people are hanging around in ourlives, and they're bringing this energy
to us and we are using welisten, we are paying it with attention.
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So and we're doing this because wegot so much other stuff going on.
We're not realizing that this is apart of the problem. This is
a part of the problem too.We're using time, energy, and focus.
Do y'all know how expensive time andfocus is? Baby? Are y'all
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listening? Do y'all know how expensivetime, energy and focus is? So
if you are going to use that, there needs to be an exchange of
currency. If I'm using my time, my energy, and my focus on
you, there needs to be anexchange. This needs to be an equally
beneficial exchange, because you can't justbe coming to me bringing this energy that
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is not serving me, that iscluttering my life, that is cluttering my
mind. You can't just be comingto me because we cool, because we're
connected, because we're family, becausewe're friends, because no, and think
that that's no. I may havebeen letting that slide for a while,
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but guess what, I'm starting toshift. That's what we do, and
we shift in so now we cansee that this is not beneficial and where
we're finding the things that are notbeneficial to us. We're working on those
things. We're not gonna continue totry to be so active in areas that
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are not working for us. We'renot gonna be on the list of strong
people in twenty twenty five and forthe rest of twenty twenty four, we're
not gonna be on. We're gonnasit that one out. Let's sit that
one out. I'm sitting it out. I already sat it out. I
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listen, we are sitting the strongfriend out or the strong woman. Sit
this one out. I'm telling y'all, we keep attending those festivities, and
no, I don't want to goto that one again. I don't wanna
attend. I'm gonna be absent fromthe strong, from the strong person.
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I'm gonna be strong where I needto be strong, But I can't continue
to be strong for everybody else becausethat's taking a toll on me. And
I want to be able to continueto poor, but I cannot do it
from an empty cup. Yeah,y'all know, y'all know this. Y'all
(44:20):
already notice I'm just co signing.I'm just a co signer. I'm just
bringing it to your attention and makingsure that you're hearing it, because sometimes
we don't hear it. We don'thear it. People are not telling us
this. Our friends and our familyare not necessarily telling us this. Sometimes
they are. If they are,that's great, but some of us we're
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not hearing it. It's not beingbrought to our attention that we're doing too
much for other people, that we'redoing too much in other areas, and
that we're not doing enough for ourself, self help, self work. This
is how we increase our self worth, our self life of it all it
Listen, it all makes sense.It all makes sense. I promise you
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it's all connected and it's all gonnawork together. But I just we just
have to be intentional about it.We just have to be intentional about it.
Listen, I feel so good today. So for self care Sunday,
I decided what I'm gonna do,because as you're listening to this, it
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should be it's gonna be self careSunday. But what I decided that I'm
gonna do for self care Sunday isI am going to get some vitamin C
in me. I'm gonna do af a new vitamin C facial. I'm
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gonna eat some fresh cold oranges.I'm just feeling like, you know,
I'm feeling real like like I Iwant them, I need, I need
vitamin C. And so I'm gonnaThat's what I'm gonna be intentional about.
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That's that's what I'm That's what I'mgonna try to be intentional about, and
I am going to do it,Like I wanna focus on my sacral ch
chakra. I don't know how manyof you that are listening to this,
like you know, really pay attentionto your chakras, but I wanna,
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I wanna, I wanna pay Iwanna focus on my my sacral chakra and
which is connected to self gratification,and so I want to. I like,
that's just what I'm feeling. I'mfeeling like I want my vitamin C.
I'm feeling like I want all ofthe things. I'm gonna incorporate a
(46:59):
new yoga pose into my routine todayand get the blood flowing and show myself
some appreciation and yeah, so selfcare Sunday. I hope you guys are
doing something for yourself. Do somethingfor yourself, something that has nothing to
do with anybody else, nothing todo with the kids, nothing to do
(47:20):
with Bay, nothing to do withHubby, Mama, Auntie, cause nobody
this is this is your dasis,remember that. Kay. So before we
close this out, you know,I'm gonna give you guys your journal prompt.
I want you guys to journal itand write about it. Let's talk
about it. If you follow me, you know where to find it.
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So your journal prompt before we closethis thing out is this. What is
one thing that always holds me back? And what if it didn't hold you
back? Wa is one thing thatalways holds me back? And what if
it didn't? That's your journal problem. I want you guys to write about
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it. Listen, I'm gonna headout of here because I don't want to
take any more of your time.I appreciate you for spending this time with
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Thank you guys again for always showingup. Shout out to Florida once
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again. Last month they were responsiblefor streaming my podcast the most. I
have not checked the ANAM for May, but at the end of the month,
I am very curious to see whereI am being streamed to the most.
But shout out to Florida again becausey'all have been streaming me and I
love that. I love that forme. I love that I'm being listened
(49:15):
to and I'm being heard in Florida. So you guys, thank you guys
for tuning in and as always youguys, I love you And until next
time, peace and blessings. Let'sdo this. You're listening to the thoughts
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Let's do this shout out. You'relistening to the thoughts of a blog Queen
podcast Thought with your host Love Renee, a woman thought and a Hey,
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y'all, welcome back to into thirtynine of Thots with Block Queen podcast.
I am your host, lad andthey also known as Block Queen. Y'all
know what that sound means. Ifyou're new here, you might not know
what that sound means. But ifyou aren't new, then you know that
that means it's time for you tobring your cups and let me fill them
up. All right? So Igot our three affirmations for this entry,
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and yeah, take these with you, y'all know, put them in your
pocket, put them up for later, use them tomorrow morning, and share
them with others. Because that's whatwe do. We into others. We
feel our own cups up, andthen we pour into others, and then
we make sure that we come backand we refiel our own cups, right
because we cannot, absolutely cannot pourfrom an empty cup. All right,
So you guys ready for these threeaffirmations? All right, let's get it.
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And I got them. I gotthree, I got a good three
good ones. We're gonna give it. I'm gonna give you affirmation and self
believe, self care, and selflove. Okay, So affirmation number one,
I believe in myself and my potentialfor greatness. I am the architect
of my destiny and I am fearlessin pursuing my goals. That is your
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affirmation and self belief, all right. Affirmation number two is in self care.
I find strength and vulnerability. Igive myself permission to heal from the
things that hurt me. I maketime to process strong emotions, all right.
And then your third and final affirmationis in self love, and it
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is I am loving, loved andlovable. I love myself, I accept
myself, and I support myself.All right. So those are your three
affirmation for this week. All right. So you guys, welcome back.
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Welcome back to another entry. Thisis part two of our Clearing her Clutter
series. This is only two parts. So if you tune in today and
you didn't check out the first part, go back one episode, tune into
that, and then come back here, mate, back over here. It's
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not absolutely necessary if you didn't listento the last entry, but it's good.
We talked about clearing out our clutter. Part one, we talked more
about the focus on the physical thingsthat are around us and how they are
attached to mental clutter. Right.And so the second part, which I'm
hoping that I can deliver this toyou shorter than the first, is we're
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gonna go through these five self reflectivequestions that you can ask in assisting you
with this process of clearing out theclutters. So today we're kind of focusing
more on the mental side of it, if you will, Like, we're
gonna get into kind of like thereasoning, and I wanna always give you
guys maybe like just something to thinkabout, something to kind of reflect on.
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And then I'm gonna give you guysyour journal prompt. I hope you
guys are keeping a journal of yourthoughts. I will I stand for a
journal and listen, I'm gonna alwaysencourage it. I'm gonna always take part
in it. I'm gonna always pushyour guys to journal your thoughts because I'm
telling you, when you are onany kind of journey, any healing journey,
any self love journey, any typeof journey, when you go back
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and you look at some of thethings that you've written down and how far
you've come. Baby, it's agood feeling to see how far you've come.
It's a good feeling to see howyour mindset on certain things have changed.
And I mean when you journal,like your journalists, your safe spacejournal
is the space that that that nobody, you know, nobody gets some of
(04:04):
the thoughts that go into the journal. You are raw, you are real,
You are rare in your your opinionsand your thoughts and things. You
just you put it there. Andthat's never be not authentic in your journal.
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Always be whatever you're thinking in thatmoment, whatever you're feeling, whatever
you're doubting, whatever you're promoting,whatever you are trying to forgive yourself for,
whatever you're trying to forgive someone elsefor, whatever you're angry about,
whatever anything. Always journal it becauseI'm telling you how fulfilling it is to
go back and look at something andsee what you've overcome, See how something
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may have changed your perspective, seesee how the growth. The growth is
documented. A journal is a bookof documented growth. And I'm telling you,
and when we're much much much older, and we go back and you
save these journals and keep them upfor safe keeping, and when we're much
much older. It's gonna be somethingto sit back and read all of the
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things that we that we went through. So anyways, yeah, let's let's
let's get into this. I soagain, we're okay, we're talking about
clearing out our clutter. We're talkingabout all of the things that keep us
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tied to things, right, sowe're talking about the clutter in our spaces
where we are the most, inour homes specifically, is what I wanted
you guys to focus on. AndI wanted you guys to actually try to
tackle getting some of the clutter out. And let me just take a moment
to shout somebody out. Shout outto a good social media connection friend,
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Schaitavia for her wonderful to report thatshe's given thus far. And I was,
so, I I was like,I was like, I was like
a proud mama. She did anamazing post on on TikTok and she uh,
she cleared out her she was shelistened first of all, she supports
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my platform fully and she listened tothe last entry and she did the work,
y'all. She actually did the workand she found like it to be
helpful, you know, and didthe th from what she's saying, like
she actually did the work and shedid a post and she got around to
finally clearing the clutter in her closet, and I love that for her.
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I appreciate her so much. Itis amazing. I'm getting off topic,
but I have to, like,I just wanna, I just wanna put
this out there in in into thespace because people that support me. I
always wanna support people, but shesh people that you it. It's it's
amazing how we make these connections onlineacross the internet spaces with people that we've
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never met, and how they becomereally important to us, really important to
our growth, really important to ourplatforms, and they support us from afar.
They support us without thinking twice.And we don't always get that energy
in our actual world, right,So anytime you come across it, you
appreciate it and you want to giveback, but you want to always try
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to pour into people without the expectationof getting anything back. And I feel
that genuinely from her. I supporther. Listen, she uh listen.
She she does workouts and she doesmorning meditation, and her workouts are amazing.
They're they're they're really fun. AndI I've caught. I finally got
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to catch one cause I was like, listen, I need you to do
these on the weekends because she wasdoing them during the week with and she
finally like started to incorporate them onthe weekends. But anyways, Yeah,
she she's good. She's good,and I wish nothing but the best and
all of the things that she wantsfor herself. I send that energy her
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way because it's genuine. It's notjust that I'm gonna support you just like
you know, just how I'm gonnajust support you online just because I'm gonna
you know, no, it's nevergave that with her, and so I
want you guys to make sure youconnect with her. I'm gonna have her
information in the show notes as well, so that you guys can find her
on your social media on Instagram andon TikTok and yeah. But anyways,
(08:35):
so back to what we were talkingabout, the clutter. So we're going
to use this entry and we're goingto talk about five self reflecting questions that
we can ask ourselves when we're thinkingabout the clutter that we're trying to clear
through our minds and not just ourphysical spaces, just the clutter that we
have in our minds, and I'mgoing to use for the four a's of
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self. I'm going to use thoseas points to give you these questions,
right, and so I'm gonna staywith you. We're gonna go through these
questions and we're gonna try to breakthem down. And yeah, so we're
gonna we're gonna talk about the awareness, the analysis, the alternatives, and
the action. But we're gonna doWe're gonna have two action steps because I'm
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gonna give you five self reflective questions. So if you don't have your journals,
go get your journals. Go getyour journals, and let's let's get
this. Let's get this going,and don't forget. We're gonna do a
journal prompt at the end of this. And I want you, guys,
if you uh do this journal prompt, email me, message me, dm
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me wherever you're connected to me andlet me know. Yeah. All right,
So let's talk about self reflecting onhow we can clear out our spaces.
First of all, let's talk aboutthe awareness of it, cause in
order to do anything, you gottabe a aware, right, You've got
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to be aware of what it isthat you are trying to do what you're
trying to accomplish. So, interms of the awareness of clearing out our
mental clutter, what is the extentof the clutter and how has it been
affecting you? All right, that'syour first question, y'all. What is
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the extent of my clutter and howhas it been affecting me? That's the
awareness of it. So when youhave a cluttered mind, and you're aware
that you have a cluttered mind,and what are the signs of having a
cluttered mind? First and foremost,it's the cluttered spaces. But there's exhaustion,
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there's a feeling of overwhelm, likean overwhelming feeling. There's procrastination,
there's lack of motivation, there's anxiety. These are all signs of having a
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cluttered mind. So what is theextent of it and how has it been
affecting me? Well, this iswhat we were talking about. When you
have a cluttered mind. The firstphysical thing that you may see, aside
from the physical the physical things thatyour body may be experiencing, is it's
the spaces. So that is anotherthat is like you're the first indicator that
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you might just be going through.You might just have too much going on
in the in the in the inthe mind, and you need to start
figuring some things out, because ifit's taken away from the things that you
want to do, if it iscausing you to procrastinate, that is my
biggest sign of when I have acluttered mind, because I begin procrastinating one
thing. Procrastination, and I canhonestly tell you, guys, has been
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my biggest weakness when it comes tomy goals. And so with that,
I understand that that is a resultof a cluttered mind. And then that's
when I get to start s clutteringthings up in my spaces, specifically in
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my office space. So I haveI have identified and I have become aware
that when I have a cluttered mind, I begin to procrastinate. That is
my own personal sign of cluttered Clutterness. Is clutterness a word? I don't
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know, y'all. Clutterness? Imade it a word? Who I made
it a word? Procrastination is mypersonal sign of having a cluttered mind.
So that is the awareness of it. What is the extent of my clutter
and how has it been affecting me? These are the questions, These are
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your s, These are the questionsthat you need to answer, because these
are the things that are gonna helpus to get to where we need to
be at the end of this cause, I want you guys to work on
this. I want you guys towork on it. I want you guys
to journal about it, and Iwant you guys to actually try to do
something to help get through this.Because we can be our best selves.
We can be or at least bea close version of our best selves,
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because you know, we're not alwaysgonna be the best our best self.
We can be a a close versionof our best self, but sometimes we
have to actively continue to work andwe can always get better. Is there
ever really an end to our bestself? Or can we continue to keep
growing so we can be a versionof our best self when we start working
on these types of things, right, these these, this is these,
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This is the work that we wannado, and we're doing this together,
y'all. I cannot stress this enough. I speak from experience, I speak
from observation, I speak from researchI've done. I speak from just coming
from a place of wanting to domy own self work. And I want
to take you guys with me whilewe're doing the self work. Right,
This is not coming from a placeof like judgment. This is not coming
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from a place of some of acoach trying to sell a program or someone
who has a degree in psychology oranything like that. No, this comes
from a place of the self help. The girlies who want to do the
self help, the self work.We're trying. We're trying to do some
things, and so in order tobe successful things we're trying to do.
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This is the type of things thatwe do that we really got to pay
attention to and take it serious.We got to make these things a priority,
just like we make anything else.Our jobs, our businesses, our
families, our relationship, marriage,kids, the gym, all of these
things. The self work, theseare priorities too. All right, let's
move into the next part, thenext question, questionnumber two. And we're
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gonna use the analysis for question numbertwo because remember I'm giving you, guys,
the four as of self reflection,and this is how we're gonna give
you your five self reflecting questions.So we already went through the awareness.
That was the first step. Wegotta be aware of what it is that
we're trying to clear out. Wegot to be aware of the fact that
we have a cluttered mind. Questionnumber two the analysis of it? What
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are the spaces that I need towork on? What are the spaces that
I need to work on? Sowe need to make an analysis. What
is the analysis of this? Whatare the spaces that I need to work
on? Like I, just likeI was telling you guys about my friends,
I tell you she identified and shethe analysis that she really came to
grizzly. She really needed to workon her closet. That was the space
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that she needed to start with.That was the physical space that she needed
to start with in order to beginto try to work on clearing her mind.
She needed to work on her closet. For me, it was spaces
in my office, individual spaces inmy office where I will keep clutter.
That's where I had to start tacklingfirst. And the closet is that's another
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beast. Yeah, yeah, Ineed to do my closet too, Cause
you can have an organized closet,you can have a clean closet, but
you can still have clutter in acloset. Because remember, clutter can still
be very much organized. Clutter canalso just be a collection of things that
you just no longer need. Doesn'tnecessarily mean that it has to be messy
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or out of place or unorganized,but there's still clutter when you have a
collection of things that you don't need. Yeah, okay, the analysis,
So what are the spaces that Ineed to work on? So when you
physically identify the spaces that you needto work on, whether it's in your
office, it's your closet, ifit's a storage space, whatever the physical
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spaces are, what are the mentalthings that you need to work on?
So, like I just told you, for me, it's a procrastination.
So what am I procrastinating on?What am I procrastinating on? This directly
affects some of the goals I havewith writing because one of the big major
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things that I'm trying to accomplish isgetting a very specific written project completed.
And because I have so many thoughtsand so many ideas and so many just
overwhelming feelings of not getting it right, not putting out what I want to
put out exactly, I procrastinate onit and that's holding me back. So
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I need to space that I needto work on. Is the goal that
is connected to the writing project.I need to figure out ways that I
can clear that out. So howcan I do that in terms of me
completing a writing project? What doI need to do? So then that's
where I need to do do adeep dive and to figure out what I
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can do to assist me with thiswriting project, and I and you sort
there. So once you figure outand once you've done an analysis of the
spaces that you need to work on, then that's where you start clearing things
out. That's where you start organizingthings that may come in the form of
do I need to connect with thepublicist, which is something that I've been
thinking about. Do I need toconnect with a writing coach? Do I
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just need to do a little bitmore research online? Like what do I
need to do? And I wantyou guys to visually when you figure out
the analysis of what you're trying todo, I want you guys to visually
put this put this information out,So whether that is making a list using
your journal, and also when wetalk about journals, y'a, you guys
like have multiple journals. Listen,I got a manifestation journal, I have
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a personal journal, I have awork journal. I gotta I gotta break
these things down I have a journalthat I use to for inspiration for the
things that I'm trying to work on. Like a creative journal. I have
just my personal life journal. Ihave the journal, the manifestation journal specifically
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just has the things that I amtrying to manifest and that and that's what
I said, that's an amazing thingto go back to when you start writing
down and journaling about the things thatyou're trying to manifest, and then you
go back and look at all ofthe things that actually manifest, y'all,
I'm telling you, it's it's it'san amazing feeling. So visually, visually
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put these things out. Visually writethese things out so you can see it.
Get a whiteboard in your office spaceand write it out, write it
out, see it, see whatyou need to work on. This helps
in manifesting as well. Write thevision, make it plain, right,
That's what they say. Listen,that's scripture. But but y'all know,
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I'm not gonna I'm not gonna getreligious on y'all. But that's scripture.
Write the vision and make it plain, see what see what it is that
you're trying to do. That's howthat's that's how we're connecting that to the
analysis. So that was question numbertwo self reflective question number two, what
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are the spaces that I need towork on? And then make a list,
use a journal, get you awhiteboard, get you a bulletin board,
pen some posted notes, whatever youneed to do to visually see it.
That's what I want for you,guys. I want you guys to
see what it is that you're tryingto do. All right, let's move
along. I'm determined to get y'allout of here quicker today because last part
one't was over an hour I thinkso. But also I don't want to
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rush through this because I want youguys to get it. I want us
to get it. So the thirdquestion, the alternatives, is connected to
the alternatives What is the plan?And what could I do to resolve whatever
the plan is? How can Iavoid it? So that was kind of
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like three my bad job. Thatwas kind of like three and one that
was like that was like that waslike the third question with A B and
C. There was levels too.There was levels to question number three,
So what is the plan? Whatcan I do to resolve any like quirks
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in the plan, any any anyflaws in the plan, what can I
do to resolve it? And thenhow can I avoid those kinks in the
plan? Because there will be kinks, but you'll come across those kinks like
as you're trying to go through theplan. But you gotta first come up
with a plan. So let's uselet's continue to use me as the example.
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So if I know that procrastination isthe result of of my cluttered mind,
and I know that it is affectingme getting writing goals done, what
is the plan? What is theplan? What is the resolution for the
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for the for the this, forthis plan? So you wanna and and
that's where you go back to theanalysis. So you put all of these
things into an action plan, right, which we're coming up on action.
We put everything into a plan andthen we figure out what what is the
resolution at the end of this plan? If there are five steps to your
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plan, what is the resolution?What is it that you want to see?
Ultimately we're talking about clearing the clutterin our minds, right, So
that's the big plan. But likeI just said, there's levels to this.
We gotta get through this, wegotta work through this. It just
it just you know what I'm saying, we gotta, we gotta ease into
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it. It's not just gonna happen. And sometimes guess what Plan A might
not be. It might not begiven. So then we gotta do the
Plan B. And for me,as an overthinker, as a big time
I'm overthinker. I listen, yourgirl always got a plan A, I
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got a Plan B. And I'mgonna be teeter totterant on a Plan C
this and kse Plan B faull likethat's me and I don't know, you
know what, We'll come back tothat because I don't know if that's you
know, that might be a goodthing, and that might be that I
know it's an anxiety thing. Butyeah, that's how I am. I
always gotta have a plan for something, especially when it comes to things like
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this. But I think in thiscase that's a good thing to have a
plan. So we want the planand we want to figure out what it
is that the resolution is gonna beas the result of this plan, and
then when we discover any kinksident,we're gonna figure out how we can avoid
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that. So, like I justsaid, when we have plan A and
we have Plan B, if planIf if for whatever reason, Plan A
all through and we have to goto Plan B, what did we learn
when we were working through Plan Athat we can apply to Plan B?
How can we avoid the kings fromPlan A? So for me, what
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I figured out is that I can't. I have to give myself more space.
Y'all heard me say this before spaceand grace. I have to give
myself more space and grace on things. Because if you are a person that
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just is so strict on yourself andyou want to just push yourself to have
things done and be and be donein a perfect way, and you put
yourself the pressure on yourself, that'swhere you're gonna that's where you're gonna drop
the ball ultimately. So when yougive yourself that space and grace, that's
how you that's how you're better.You're you're better, you're better uh equipped
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to deal with whatever it is thatyou're trying to deal with, or you're
better equipped to like execute the planand be successful at whatever it is.
So time management falls into some ofthe things that affect me personally or that
I struggle with, and then I'mtrying to figure out all of these different
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ways all of these ways to cutcorners when it in terms of time,
and then and then I get overwhelmedby that too. So that's adding on
to the plate of things that I'vealready got in my mind. So that's
so it's it's when you start approachingthese kinks in your plans, that's when
you start, like at adding onto the clutter. And so one of
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the things that I had to doto avoid that particular issue is that I
had to stop trying to work oncertain projects during the week because I didn't
have the time. Number one,because you know, I still work at
I work at nine to five.And so I figured out that when I
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was trying to go from one extremeof work to the other without giving myself
that space and grace in between toeven reset my brain and my thinking,
I was just trying to dive rightinto it because listening, there's only so
many hours in the day, andI just feel like, no, that
wasn't working for me. I'm notsaying that that doesn't work for other people.
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It very male that they may verywell maybe how you get things done,
and if it works for you,I'm not here to change anything that
works. It didn't work For me, I wasn't giving myself enough space and
grace in between working eight to fiveand then getting off at five, trying
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to eat something really quick, andthen trying to jump into my own things.
I could not do that. SoI had to dedicate a very specific
time and intentional time to work onthings that had nothing to do with my
day job. That's the space andgrace. That's how you That's how you
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do that, all right? Andthen the fourth a quote unquote fourth A
is action. And then I'm gonnagive you two self reflective questions that fall
under action, because I told youguys, I have five reflective self reflective
questions for you. So the firstaction question is what steps in what order
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am I going to take to getmy spaces cleared? So this is where
you have taken the analysis, Youhave gone through the alternatives, and now
and that plan that you that you'vecome up with that you've decided this is
what I need to do. Sonow what are the how am I How
are you gonna execute it? Whatsteps in what order? That's the first
(29:04):
action plan, And you're gonna goback to the analysis and you're gonna write
these things down because you may nothave did that before, but I want
you to be very specific, veryintentional, and very purposeful when you put
these things in order, because theorder they matter. So what steps in
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what order am I gonna take toget my spaces cleared? What are you
gonna do? What you're gonna do? Is this? How? How are
you gonna do it? And thenthe second action question and the final the
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fifth and final what follow up andfollow through process will I follow? To
avoid this clutter from reoccurring, becauseby the time you get here, you
should have figured out a way andsort it through. And listen, there's
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not a time limit on this.This may not happen in a day,
This may not happen in three days, this may not happen in a week.
But by the time you get toask your second action question, you
should have sorted through and you shouldhave based on the four questions prior to
this final question, you should havefigured out a flow or at least guide
(30:45):
an idea. And at this pointthis is where this is where we go
in. This is where we implement, This is where we implement, This
is where we dive, and thisis where we Okay, we stand on
business here, this is where we'regonna do it because we can talk about
it. We can talk about it, we can talk about it, we
can see you know, you cancome here and you can listen to me
(31:07):
all day long and you can say, oh yeah, that sounds good,
or you can come here you cansupport, or you can and know on
the back in your mind, thisis something that you really need to work
on. But are we gonna bea part of them? Are we gonna
be a part of the of thepeople that actually implement Are we gonna be
a part of the people that actuallygo through with what it is that we're
trying to go through with. Sowhat follow up and follow through process will
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I follow to avoid this clutter fromreoccurring? Because once you get this space
cleared out and you've accomplished it andyou feel good about it, it can
be so easy to get back intoa cluttered space again and guess what it
might happen. It might happen again. Clutter occurs, It can be a
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reoccurring thing. It can be unfortunately. But when we figure out the way
that we can, like you knowwhat I'm saying, work through it,
breathe through it. Once we figurethat out, then it's just like,
Okay, we're tackling it, likewe're tackling all of our other things that
we have to tackle in life.It c you know, we get to
it and it's not a problem becausewe've figured out how we ourselves personally can
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master working through our clutter. Andthat's just like, you know, seasonally,
we might need to clear out ourclutter in our closets or wherever the
spaces that we needed to clear out. We might have to do that.
Seasonally, we might have to dothat at the end of the month.
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I'm telling y'all, right now,I'm gonna have to clean out my little
drunk drawer probably like at the endof the month. I already know this,
but I'm looking forward to using thatas kind of like a little mental
(32:58):
tool because as I'm clearing out myjunk drawer and I'm getting rid of removing
and I'm throwing away and I'm organizingit, I'm just sorting through that junk
drawer at the end of the month, I'm using that as a mental uh
catalyst to sort through whatever it is. Do it I it is that's going
on through my mind that I needto sort through. At the same time,
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it's representation is what it really is. I'm telling you, and I'm
encouraging you to go through and I'mfin and find a space in your home
that is cluttered. And I'm askingyou or I'm encouraging you to use that
as a representation for your mind.And like, are y'all with me?
Use that if it's the closet,as you are going through and sorting and
(33:44):
and and removing things and finding outwhat goes, what stays, what's gonna
be donated, what's no longer good? Like, as you're doing this,
use this mentally figure it out.I'm telling y'all it it works. I've
promise you guys, it works.It helps, It really helps. And
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I'm telling you that it's not gonnabe an end all, be all type
of deal. You will probably haveto do this. M You know,
I'm talking about it because I experiencedit. I do this all the time.
I clear my clutter all of thetime. Spiritually. Oh I should
have did three parts cause we couldtalk about spiritual clutter. We could talk
(34:30):
about that, but that's the Yeah, that should have been a bonus.
Maybe I might throw that in there, but I'm I'm not I'm not I'm
not gonna do that, but listenwhen I need to do it. R
when I need to clear some spiritualclutter. Baby, my higher power speaks
to me in that shower and letsme know what I need to what I
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need to clear out. And Ilet that. I let that water that
falls down on me and then goesdown to drain. That's clearing out the
clutter, the spiritual clutter. AndI had an amazing it's self care Sunday,
y'all know, today's self care Sunday. And I had an amazing experience,
amazing shower experience. Oh it wasin me, it was in me
(35:15):
and on me. Baby, ButI digress, I digress. I'm not
gonna talk about the spiritual clutter.I'm not gonna do it. But if
you know, you know, ifyou know, you know, it's all
I'm gonna say. So our finalquestion, again, if you missed it,
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what follow up and follow through processwill I follow to avoid the clutter
from reoccurring? Because even though Isaid it might reoccur, and it's very
likely to, we want to tryto prevent it from happening after a week
or after a month seasonally would bebetter, right if we don't. If
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we if we're able to get throughand be able to do this type of
this type of exercise, this typeof self help exercise, maybe seasonally four
times a year, that would begreat. Some of us might need it
every month. I just told y'all, I'm probably gonna be clearing my junk
(36:20):
drawer every at the end of everyat the end of every month. But
I but I look forward to that. I find the benefit in a lot
of things, and I find theconnection and a lot of things that I
do, and that's that's how Iam able to kind of create a lot
of the things that I create andshare with my community. So, yeah,
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those are the five self reflective questionsI can do this. I'm'a run
through'em really quick to make sureyou have them, cause I want you
guys to write them down. Questionnumber one awareness What is the extent of
my clutter and how has it beenaffecting me? Question number two analysis,
what are the spaces that I needto work on? And you're gonna make
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a list, use a journal,get a whiteboard, et cetera. Cause
we wanna visualize it, we wannasee it, you wanna write it down.
Question number three alternatives, what isthe plan? What can I do
to resolve any kinks in the plant? And how can I avoid these kinks?
Question number four Action action step numberone? What steps in what order
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am I going to take to getmy spaces cleared? And Question number five
Action step number two what follow upand follow through process? Will I follow?
I hope that that made sense toyou guys. Will I follow?
To avoid the clutter from reoccurring.So when you start doing these things,
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and when you start implementing them intoyour daily routine or your wee routine,
or your monthly routine, however youwant to prioritize this, let me tell
you what is gonna happen when youstart learning how to clear out your clutter.
You want to know what's gonna happen. You're gonna start shifting. Things
are gonna start shifting. And Imean this in the best way possible.
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Things are going to shift. Shiftingis gonna be the result of you clearing
out your clutter, because then you'regonna start seeing things clearly. You're gonna
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start paying attention. You're gonna startpaying attention to the things that you need
to work on. You're gonna startpaying more attention to the things that are
just useless. Shifting, Hm,Can that be our work word of the
(39:00):
year. Do we already have aword of the year. I think I
said on a few episodes our wordof the year was still We've been because
we've been stuck on accountability for aminute. Shifting. Shifting is the word
of the year. Shifting is ourtwenty twenty four word of the year because
I know, personally I've been doinga lot of shifting and I saw something
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I want to tell you guys whatI found that I read and I thought
it was very It made perfect sense. It says, as you are shifting,
you will begin to realize that youare not the same person you used
to be. The things you usedto tolerate have become intolerable. Come on,
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when you once remained quiet, youare now speaking your truth. Okay,
where you once battled and argued,you're now choosing to remain silent.
And that was the one for me. You're beginning to understand the value of
your voice, and there are somesituations that no longer deserve your time,
(40:07):
energy, and focus. This iswhat we are trying to do. We
are trying to shift. But wecannot shift when we have cluttered minds.
So that's why we are working onthese cluttered spaces so that we can cl
clear our cluttered minds, so thatwe can begin to shift. Cause when
you tryna shift and and and yourbrain is cloudy and you got too much
(40:29):
going on, you shifting, butyou ain't moving nowhere, You just shifting
in t in place. No,we really tryna shift. We really tryna
shift because what we don't realize isthat we are out here. Listen,
(41:00):
y'all know that trend that's going onright now on TikTok talking about we're paying
off each other's debts. I know, y'all know, if you're hanging out
on TikTok, you know about thiswhole paying off each other's debt. Well,
listen, this is what we do. We are paying off people's mental
debts. And you know what we'reusing to pay for it. We're using
our time, we're using our energy, and we're using our focus. This
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is what we're using to pay offpeople's mental debts. Because people are coming
to us, people are coming aroundus, people are coming into our spaces,
and people are hanging around in ourlives, and they're bringing this energy
to us and we are using welisten, we are paying it with attention.
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So and we're doing this because wegot so much other stuff going on.
We're not realizing that this is apart of the problem. This is
a part of the problem too.We're using time, energy, and focus.
Do y'all know how expensive time andfocus is? Baby? Are y'all
(42:04):
listening? Do y'all know how expensivetime, energy and focus is? So
if you are going to use that, there needs to be an exchange of
currency. If I'm using my time, my energy, and my focus on
you, there needs to be anexchange. This needs to be an equally
beneficial exchange, because you can't justbe coming to me bringing this energy that
(42:28):
is not serving me, that iscluttering my life, that is cluttering my
mind. You can't just be comingto me because we cool, because we're
connected, because we're family, becausewe're friends, because no, and think
that that's no. I may havebeen letting that slide for a while,
(42:49):
but guess what, I'm starting toshift. That's what we do, and
we shift in so now we cansee that this is not beneficial and where
we're finding the things that are notbeneficial to us. We're working on those
things. We're not gonna continue totry to be so active in areas that
(43:15):
are not working for us. We'renot gonna be on the list of strong
people in twenty twenty five and forthe rest of twenty twenty four, we're
not gonna be on. We're gonnasit that one out. Let's sit that
one out. I'm sitting it out. I already sat it out. I
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listen, we are sitting the strongfriend out or the strong woman. Sit
this one out. I'm telling y'all, we keep attending those festivities, and
no, I don't want to goto that one again. I don't wanna
attend. I'm gonna be absent fromthe strong, from the strong person.
(43:59):
I'm gonna be strong where I needto be strong, But I can't continue
to be strong for everybody else becausethat's taking a toll on me. And
I want to be able to continueto poor, but I cannot do it
from an empty cup. Yeah,y'all know, y'all know this. Y'all
(44:20):
already notice I'm just co signing.I'm just a co signer. I'm just
bringing it to your attention and makingsure that you're hearing it, because sometimes
we don't hear it. We don'thear it. People are not telling us
this. Our friends and our familyare not necessarily telling us this. Sometimes
they are. If they are,that's great, but some of us we're
(44:44):
not hearing it. It's not beingbrought to our attention that we're doing too
much for other people, that we'redoing too much in other areas, and
that we're not doing enough for ourself, self help, self work. This
is how we increase our self worth, our self life of it all it
Listen, it all makes sense.It all makes sense. I promise you
(45:06):
it's all connected and it's all gonnawork together. But I just we just
have to be intentional about it.We just have to be intentional about it.
Listen, I feel so good today. So for self care Sunday,
I decided what I'm gonna do,because as you're listening to this, it
(45:30):
should be it's gonna be self careSunday. But what I decided that I'm
gonna do for self care Sunday isI am going to get some vitamin C
in me. I'm gonna do af a new vitamin C facial. I'm
(45:52):
gonna eat some fresh cold oranges.I'm just feeling like, you know,
I'm feeling real like like I Iwant them, I need, I need
vitamin C. And so I'm gonnaThat's what I'm gonna be intentional about.
(46:15):
That's that's what I'm That's what I'mgonna try to be intentional about, and
I am going to do it,Like I wanna focus on my sacral ch
chakra. I don't know how manyof you that are listening to this,
like you know, really pay attentionto your chakras, but I wanna,
(46:37):
I wanna, I wanna pay Iwanna focus on my my sacral chakra and
which is connected to self gratification,and so I want to. I like,
that's just what I'm feeling. I'mfeeling like I want my vitamin C.
I'm feeling like I want all ofthe things. I'm gonna incorporate a
(46:59):
new yoga pose into my routine todayand get the blood flowing and show myself
some appreciation and yeah, so selfcare Sunday. I hope you guys are
doing something for yourself. Do somethingfor yourself, something that has nothing to
do with anybody else, nothing todo with the kids, nothing to do
(47:20):
with Bay, nothing to do withHubby, Mama, Auntie, cause nobody
this is this is your dasis,remember that. Kay. So before we
close this out, you know,I'm gonna give you guys your journal prompt.
I want you guys to journal itand write about it. Let's talk
about it. If you follow me, you know where to find it.
(47:43):
So your journal prompt before we closethis thing out is this. What is
one thing that always holds me back? And what if it didn't hold you
back? Wa is one thing thatalways holds me back? And what if
it didn't? That's your journal problem. I want you guys to write about
(48:06):
it. Listen, I'm gonna headout of here because I don't want to
take any more of your time.I appreciate you for spending this time with
me. If you want to getin contact with me and talk about sponsorships,
advertisement, please email me directly atBlog Queen Podcasts at gmail dot com.
Don't forget to check out the Thoughtsof a Blog Queen column on the
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(48:30):
all my social media and I willhave it down on the show notes.
You can reach out to me.You can connect with me any kind of
way you need to connect with me. Message me, I'm here. Yeah.
Thank you guys again for always showingup. Shout out to Florida once
(48:53):
again. Last month they were responsiblefor streaming my podcast the most. I
have not checked the ANAM for May, but at the end of the month,
I am very curious to see whereI am being streamed to the most.
But shout out to Florida again becausey'all have been streaming me and I
love that. I love that forme. I love that I'm being listened
(49:15):
to and I'm being heard in Florida. So you guys, thank you guys
for tuning in and as always youguys, I love you And until next
time, peace and blessings. Let'sdo this. You're listening to the thoughts
of a blog, queen podcast,a woman and a
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