February 10, 2021 • 12 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:07):
Okay, So I got a message from someone a couple
of weeks ago, and I get messages about every day, Eddie,
would you look at my strengths, Eddie. I have a
problem with this, Eddie. I have a problem with that.
And what I love about these messages I really do
is they can easily be turned into episodes for my podcast.
So this great question comes from a friend who reached
(00:29):
out to me. His wife is or is or was
building a network marketing business, and she was pretty successful.
But there's a transition happening in the family and so
she's for certain reasons, having him take a step back,
and he wants to take over. But what's happening here,
and what's this exact same thing to happen to me,
(00:51):
is that he's only really watched the business or seeing
how that his only example, his only real example of
the business watching his wife, and so watching his wife
do things, it's very natural and for all of us
to go, oh, okay, well this is how this person
does it. That must be how it's done, right. And
(01:12):
when you're not actively exposing yourself to multiple different ways
of doing the same things, then you what happens is
you end up getting pigeonholed. Now I'll give you an example.
So I'm my wife and I We've built a business
with doTerra, and we've been very successful at it. But
I've as I've grown and as I've moved into the
(01:33):
leadership roles with that business, I have noticed right over
the years that the most successful people in this business,
not one of them does it the exact same way.
So as I've grown and I've learned from other leaders
and so on, and my wife has grown and learned
from other leaders, I get more and I get exposed
(01:55):
to more and more different ways of doing things. And
so what I've realized is that not just network marketing,
but all things are done in a unique way. No
one does anything the same. Yet so many of us
want to find the secret, the formula, the right way
to do it so that I can just get to
success as fast as possible. And it is really purely
(02:19):
personified in the situation where you have one spouse doing
the business and the other spouse watching or supporting or
you know, whatever whatever level. So how this worked out
for me, and what I want to do is I
want to give the spouses out there who are trying
to take a more active role in the their spouse's
network marketing business. I'm going to give you a really
(02:40):
good word of advice and a tip that's going to
help you ultimately assume maybe assume leadership, or even just
join your spouse. So when when we were first building,
the very first day we started building network marketing business,
my wife was focus pumped and we had a very
series issue happened to our daughter had a major health issue,
(03:04):
and the products that we were using with Dotera were
really making a difference, right, It was really helping. And
the biggest thing that she noticed, where I should say
we both noticed, was that it was empowering us to
do a lot of things at home and really help
the situation. And so we just kind of wanted to
pass that empowerment onto other people. Now. Mind you, when
(03:25):
we first started the network marketing business, it was like
the day I got fired. The second time it was.
That day was when we decided we're going to do
this business. My wife came from pure focus determination. We're
going to do this, We're going to be successful. I'm
going to make this happen. I'm tired of other people
having a say in our families finances, and so on, right,
(03:50):
And I was coming from a I am beaten down,
I am hating who, I am desperation. So when we
first started, I just like my wife, was calling everyone
we knew to invite them to learn. What we learned
about these products was really because they made a difference
for our lives, and we wanted to just make sure
(04:12):
that our business was about empowering people, and so that's
all we focused on, just building them, you know. Building
the business meant for us was sharing products. And because
I came from pure desperation, obviously I was really bad
at it right away. And my wife, who came from
pure like I'm going to help people and I'm going
to help my family. She was very effective and we
(04:33):
did a lot of things really well. That she did
a lot of things really well. And then we hit
a rank called silver and like, oh my gosh, this
is really cool. It's like the first leadership rank with
the company, and like, oh wow, we can really do
this now we hit silver. I say that very lightly. Really,
my wife hit silver. After my first month of getting
(04:55):
kicked in the face more than I had ever been
kicked in the face before, I couldn't I quit. I dropped.
I said, I can't do this, but I will support you. Babe.
You do this, You're ready, You're obviously moving forward, and
I love it. I'm going to take care of everything else.
And I became the full on stay at home dad
and all I did. That was my plan, right, My
(05:15):
plan was just to go ahead and just take care
of everything else so my wife could be free to
learn how to build a network marketing business her way,
and so she would travel, she would do a lot
of online stuff because we lived in California. We live
in Utah, and we knew nobody in Utah. Everybody we
knew was in California, you know, all these things. So
(05:36):
for a good like year and a half, like, my
wife was traveling a lot and doing the business, and
I was doing all the stay at home dad stuff,
and you know, a lot of people were helping us
financially because we needed it, we really did. And we
were just barely like I wouldn't even say we were
making it financially. We were struggling constantly. And finally my
(05:58):
wife starts to just it and she starts to get
really good at it, and we hit a rank called silver,
which is the first leadership rank had a lot of
trouble transitioning to gold. But it was during that transition
that I got another job. I took a job just
to make ends meet, to make a few extra bucks,
and I was selling credit repair over the phone. So
after we hit the rank of gold, we were doing
(06:20):
really well enough for me to quit that job and
come back home and again support the family one hundred percent.
Now was that point where I hit a major wall,
and it was this, I mean, we had success right
where my wife had success. Right, I was able to retire,
basically not stop working for people. But I hit a
major wall, and that wall was I've been watching my
(06:42):
wife do this business for so long that my only
exposure was how she was doing it. And the second
I jumped in, I knew very early on that repeating
the words that she said, saying things that she said,
doing the things that she did exactly the way she
did that I watched her do it. I had all
(07:04):
these theories in my head of how it should go,
but my only exposure was the way my wife was
doing it, and so obviously I hit I struggled so much,
and the worst was of it was when I invited
somebody over to our home to hear about the business opportunity,
(07:26):
and I had because I was telling her I had
just quit my job, so this is a legit business opportunity.
And I was so bad at it that the person
took some information that I had for her and she
ran out of my house like I, Well, she ran emotionally,
but maybe she physically just kind of like I need
to get out of here. She went right from her
chair to the front door, left, and I never could
(07:49):
never get her back on the phone again, never saw
her again, like she was the She worked the front
desk at the gym I used to work at, I
used to work out at, and she stopped working there.
Like that's how bad it was. And so here's the
advice that I would give to any spouse to shift
is to do what I did, which is to abandon
(08:10):
all ideas of what you think is network marketing and
start looking at how you personally have ever invited somebody
to something, how you've ever brought value to another human being,
how you have ever asked a person to consider looking
at their products, or consider the business opportunity or whatever,
(08:33):
or just consider things, and at the same time start
getting exposed to how everyone does this. One of the
things we created for the people that I worked with
in Dotera especially, we created a website called Strengths of
Diamonds dot com. Just give you an example of this,
(08:55):
and we're going to wrap up on this. Strengths of
Diamonds dot Com was created because I am just sick
and tired of seeing so many people trying to do
anything really, but in particular do network marketing, and believing
that they're not going to be good enough, or they
can't or they have to do it a certain way.
And so on this website, I interviewed thirty of the
(09:16):
top leaders in the company, the cream of the crop,
the best builders, and we took it. I took their
strengths and I interviewed them and I broke down their
strengths and we discussed how they uniquely, infinitely uniquely built
the business their way, and I exposed that to the
world so that you and everybody else can stop comparing
(09:39):
yourself to other people unfairly. You want to know how
to do things your way. Start getting exposed to a
lot of the ways that other people do things and
realize there is no one way. There's just your way,
and then you take a look at your strengths and
you need this. This is going to be a really
pivotal tool for you. So start using your strength thanks
(10:00):
to see how you've already done the basic things that
are required to build a network marketing business or anything
done it your way, how you've already been successful in
the unleasure Strengths community. What we provide is the tools, right,
you've got the tools, which is how to use your strengths, report,
the education, how to apply it to network marketing, how
(10:21):
to apply it to online marketing, how to apply it
to your marriage, how to apply it to your parenting,
and so on, all the things that we're doing going forward.
And we and I put that up there so that
we understand that that those two things are wonderful. But
you need a community of people to do this with
in order to do this fully, authentically and quickly. And
because that's what made a difference for us, being in
(10:43):
a community of people that we're already doing it and
that we could you know, we could lean on, we
can get inspiration and energy from. So unleasure strengths dot
com join the community, be a part of this so
that you can see We've got the tools with your
Strengths Report, We've got the education with how to apply
it to anything you want to do right now, even
(11:04):
if like right now, the number one thing I'm focusing
on is teaching people how to be leaders, teaching people
how to be leaders who develop leaders. And the most important,
which is the one that I'm working on right now myself,
is to help how to be a leader who develops leaders,
who develop leaders, and when you're at that level, you
are in legacy. That's what I want from my life.
(11:24):
I want to leave a legacy for other people being
a leader who develops leaders, who develops other leaders. Is
the way that training is coming up in the Unleash
your Strengths community, and you sign up and join the
community at unleash your strengths dot com. Okay, that's it.
I hope you got value from this, my friends. I
hope it has helped. And for any of you that are
struggling with this kind of thing, feel free to message
(11:45):
me or just join the community and you can learn
how to apply your strengths and do things your way.
Have an awesome day, my friends, and we'll see you
on the next episode. Four
Okay, So I got a message from someone a couple
of weeks ago, and I get messages about every day, Eddie,
would you look at my strengths, Eddie. I have a
problem with this, Eddie. I have a problem with that.
And what I love about these messages I really do
is they can easily be turned into episodes for my podcast.
So this great question comes from a friend who reached
(00:29):
out to me. His wife is or is or was
building a network marketing business, and she was pretty successful.
But there's a transition happening in the family and so
she's for certain reasons, having him take a step back,
and he wants to take over. But what's happening here,
and what's this exact same thing to happen to me,
(00:51):
is that he's only really watched the business or seeing
how that his only example, his only real example of
the business watching his wife, and so watching his wife
do things, it's very natural and for all of us
to go, oh, okay, well this is how this person
does it. That must be how it's done, right. And
(01:12):
when you're not actively exposing yourself to multiple different ways
of doing the same things, then you what happens is
you end up getting pigeonholed. Now I'll give you an example.
So I'm my wife and I We've built a business
with doTerra, and we've been very successful at it. But
I've as I've grown and as I've moved into the
(01:33):
leadership roles with that business, I have noticed right over
the years that the most successful people in this business,
not one of them does it the exact same way.
So as I've grown and I've learned from other leaders
and so on, and my wife has grown and learned
from other leaders, I get more and I get exposed
(01:55):
to more and more different ways of doing things. And
so what I've realized is that not just network marketing,
but all things are done in a unique way. No
one does anything the same. Yet so many of us
want to find the secret, the formula, the right way
to do it so that I can just get to
success as fast as possible. And it is really purely
(02:19):
personified in the situation where you have one spouse doing
the business and the other spouse watching or supporting or
you know, whatever whatever level. So how this worked out
for me, and what I want to do is I
want to give the spouses out there who are trying
to take a more active role in the their spouse's
network marketing business. I'm going to give you a really
(02:40):
good word of advice and a tip that's going to
help you ultimately assume maybe assume leadership, or even just
join your spouse. So when when we were first building,
the very first day we started building network marketing business,
my wife was focus pumped and we had a very
series issue happened to our daughter had a major health issue,
(03:04):
and the products that we were using with Dotera were
really making a difference, right, It was really helping. And
the biggest thing that she noticed, where I should say
we both noticed, was that it was empowering us to
do a lot of things at home and really help
the situation. And so we just kind of wanted to
pass that empowerment onto other people. Now. Mind you, when
(03:25):
we first started the network marketing business, it was like
the day I got fired. The second time it was.
That day was when we decided we're going to do
this business. My wife came from pure focus determination. We're
going to do this, We're going to be successful. I'm
going to make this happen. I'm tired of other people
having a say in our families finances, and so on, right,
(03:50):
And I was coming from a I am beaten down,
I am hating who, I am desperation. So when we
first started, I just like my wife, was calling everyone
we knew to invite them to learn. What we learned
about these products was really because they made a difference
for our lives, and we wanted to just make sure
(04:12):
that our business was about empowering people, and so that's
all we focused on, just building them, you know. Building
the business meant for us was sharing products. And because
I came from pure desperation, obviously I was really bad
at it right away. And my wife, who came from
pure like I'm going to help people and I'm going
to help my family. She was very effective and we
(04:33):
did a lot of things really well. That she did
a lot of things really well. And then we hit
a rank called silver and like, oh my gosh, this
is really cool. It's like the first leadership rank with
the company, and like, oh wow, we can really do
this now we hit silver. I say that very lightly. Really,
my wife hit silver. After my first month of getting
(04:55):
kicked in the face more than I had ever been
kicked in the face before, I couldn't I quit. I dropped.
I said, I can't do this, but I will support you. Babe.
You do this, You're ready, You're obviously moving forward, and
I love it. I'm going to take care of everything else.
And I became the full on stay at home dad
and all I did. That was my plan, right, My
(05:15):
plan was just to go ahead and just take care
of everything else so my wife could be free to
learn how to build a network marketing business her way,
and so she would travel, she would do a lot
of online stuff because we lived in California. We live
in Utah, and we knew nobody in Utah. Everybody we
knew was in California, you know, all these things. So
(05:36):
for a good like year and a half, like, my
wife was traveling a lot and doing the business, and
I was doing all the stay at home dad stuff,
and you know, a lot of people were helping us
financially because we needed it, we really did. And we
were just barely like I wouldn't even say we were
making it financially. We were struggling constantly. And finally my
(05:58):
wife starts to just it and she starts to get
really good at it, and we hit a rank called silver,
which is the first leadership rank had a lot of
trouble transitioning to gold. But it was during that transition
that I got another job. I took a job just
to make ends meet, to make a few extra bucks,
and I was selling credit repair over the phone. So
after we hit the rank of gold, we were doing
(06:20):
really well enough for me to quit that job and
come back home and again support the family one hundred percent.
Now was that point where I hit a major wall,
and it was this, I mean, we had success right
where my wife had success. Right, I was able to retire,
basically not stop working for people. But I hit a
major wall, and that wall was I've been watching my
(06:42):
wife do this business for so long that my only
exposure was how she was doing it. And the second
I jumped in, I knew very early on that repeating
the words that she said, saying things that she said,
doing the things that she did exactly the way she
did that I watched her do it. I had all
(07:04):
these theories in my head of how it should go,
but my only exposure was the way my wife was
doing it, and so obviously I hit I struggled so much,
and the worst was of it was when I invited
somebody over to our home to hear about the business opportunity,
(07:26):
and I had because I was telling her I had
just quit my job, so this is a legit business opportunity.
And I was so bad at it that the person
took some information that I had for her and she
ran out of my house like I, Well, she ran emotionally,
but maybe she physically just kind of like I need
to get out of here. She went right from her
chair to the front door, left, and I never could
(07:49):
never get her back on the phone again, never saw
her again, like she was the She worked the front
desk at the gym I used to work at, I
used to work out at, and she stopped working there.
Like that's how bad it was. And so here's the
advice that I would give to any spouse to shift
is to do what I did, which is to abandon
(08:10):
all ideas of what you think is network marketing and
start looking at how you personally have ever invited somebody
to something, how you've ever brought value to another human being,
how you have ever asked a person to consider looking
at their products, or consider the business opportunity or whatever,
(08:33):
or just consider things, and at the same time start
getting exposed to how everyone does this. One of the
things we created for the people that I worked with
in Dotera especially, we created a website called Strengths of
Diamonds dot com. Just give you an example of this,
(08:55):
and we're going to wrap up on this. Strengths of
Diamonds dot Com was created because I am just sick
and tired of seeing so many people trying to do
anything really, but in particular do network marketing, and believing
that they're not going to be good enough, or they
can't or they have to do it a certain way.
And so on this website, I interviewed thirty of the
(09:16):
top leaders in the company, the cream of the crop,
the best builders, and we took it. I took their
strengths and I interviewed them and I broke down their
strengths and we discussed how they uniquely, infinitely uniquely built
the business their way, and I exposed that to the
world so that you and everybody else can stop comparing
(09:39):
yourself to other people unfairly. You want to know how
to do things your way. Start getting exposed to a
lot of the ways that other people do things and
realize there is no one way. There's just your way,
and then you take a look at your strengths and
you need this. This is going to be a really
pivotal tool for you. So start using your strength thanks
(10:00):
to see how you've already done the basic things that
are required to build a network marketing business or anything
done it your way, how you've already been successful in
the unleasure Strengths community. What we provide is the tools, right,
you've got the tools, which is how to use your strengths, report,
the education, how to apply it to network marketing, how
(10:21):
to apply it to online marketing, how to apply it
to your marriage, how to apply it to your parenting,
and so on, all the things that we're doing going forward.
And we and I put that up there so that
we understand that that those two things are wonderful. But
you need a community of people to do this with
in order to do this fully, authentically and quickly. And
because that's what made a difference for us, being in
(10:43):
a community of people that we're already doing it and
that we could you know, we could lean on, we
can get inspiration and energy from. So unleasure strengths dot
com join the community, be a part of this so
that you can see We've got the tools with your
Strengths Report, We've got the education with how to apply
it to anything you want to do right now, even
(11:04):
if like right now, the number one thing I'm focusing
on is teaching people how to be leaders, teaching people
how to be leaders who develop leaders. And the most important,
which is the one that I'm working on right now myself,
is to help how to be a leader who develops leaders,
who develop leaders, and when you're at that level, you
are in legacy. That's what I want from my life.
(11:24):
I want to leave a legacy for other people being
a leader who develops leaders, who develops other leaders. Is
the way that training is coming up in the Unleash
your Strengths community, and you sign up and join the
community at unleash your strengths dot com. Okay, that's it.
I hope you got value from this, my friends. I
hope it has helped. And for any of you that are
struggling with this kind of thing, feel free to message
(11:45):
me or just join the community and you can learn
how to apply your strengths and do things your way.
Have an awesome day, my friends, and we'll see you
on the next episode. Four
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