10 Things God Expects Out Of Christian Fathers

10 Things God Expects Out Of Christian Fathers
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Chapters:
0:00 - Intro
1:08 - 1. Every father needs to know the heavenly father
2:03 - 2. Every father needs a spiritual father
3:22 - 3. Every father first needs to be a good man
4:56 - 4. God wants fathers to turn their hearts to their children
6:45 - 5. A godly father loves the mother of his children
7:32 - 6. Christian father loves and cares for his children
8:18 - 7. A godly father provides for his children
8:52 - 8. Fathers ought to instruct their children
9:49 - 9. Fathers ought to discipline their children
10:48 - 10. Fathers, don’t provoke your children to anger
12:44 - Outro

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:06):
Welcome to Last Subject Podcast. Our mission at Vlatimir Subject
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Speaker 2 (00:19):
Episode, ten Things God Expects of Godly Fathers. Now, for
some of you, you probably have heard the news recently
I became a father. We've been married for thirteen years
and we couldn't have children, and about a year ago
my wife got pregnant and as of the time of recording,

(00:41):
my son, little boy Sammy, a Bundle of Joy, is
about five months of age. And so I've been looking
into the fatherhood as well as when I was a
youth pastor, you know, I was aware and around a
lot of the consequences of teenagers growing up without a
godly father. I was very fortunate to grow up in

(01:02):
a family where my dad was a godly man. I'm
the oldest of five. My grandfather from my mother's side
that had sixteen children, and then from my father's side,
they had five children, and he was a pastor. I've
seen good models of what it means to be a
godly dad, but today I won't be necessarily referencing the

(01:23):
models that I've seen. But we're going to take a
look at the scriptures. What does the Bible teach about
us being a godly father? Now? The first thing is
that every father needs to know the heavenly Father. Second Corinthians,
chapter six, verse eighteen. It says, I will be a
father to you, and you shall be my sons and
my daughters, says the Lord Almighty. See Jesus's term father

(01:48):
appeared sixty five times in the Sunopti Gospels and over
one hundred times in the Gospel of John. It's a
very sharp contrast to fifteen mentions of God being a
father in the Old Testament. So just fifteen times in
the Old Testament and over one hundred times in the
Gospel of God. So the Bible reveals to us God

(02:11):
as a heavenly father. And I believe that you can't
really be a father until you know what your heavenly
father he empowers you to be earthly godly father. The
second thing that God expects of every father is every
father needs a spiritual father. First Corinthians, chapter four, verse fifteen,

(02:33):
and says, for though you may have ten thousand instructors
in Christ, yet you do not have many fathers. For
in Christ, Jesus I have begotten you through the Gospel.
See this speaks of having godly mentors in our life.
You know, you might have grown up where your physical dad,
biological dad wasn't there. He was absent, and while he

(02:54):
decided your history, it's your choices today that decide your destiny.
You must understand is that God wants you to choose
your environment spiritual family where you can have godly men, pastors, leaders,
small group leaders influence you toward godliness. And for some
of us this is crucial because we come from a

(03:14):
family where no godly example was given to us. So
we need to seek out a godly environment where a
godly man will be able to walk alongside and guide
us toward godliness. Every dad needs a spiritual father in
his life. Maybe sometimes it can come in the form

(03:35):
of a book, a podcast, or a video, where some
spiritual man can influence you toward godliness, thus making you
a better father for your children. Number three, every father
needs to be a good man. First Kings, chapter two,
verse two, it says, I go the way of all
the earth. Be strong therefore and prove yourself a man

(04:00):
Rinthians thirteen eleven and says, when I was a child.
I spoke as a child, I understood as a child,
I thought as a child. But when I became a man,
I put away childish things. See, you are born a male,
You become a boy, and then you become a man.
You become a husband, and then you become a father. Now,

(04:20):
many people they go from a male to a father.
They skip the boyhood stage, or they get stuck at
boyhood stage and they don't become a man. Some don't
become husbands. They become fathers without being husbands. A boy
is a proper stage for a teenager, but sooner or
later we need to graduate from that and become a man.

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You are a male by birth, but you are a
man by choice. A boy is somebody who is passive.
A man is assertive. A boy lives for a moment,
a man plans for future. A boy looks for a girlfriend,
a man looks for a wife. A boy speaks, man acts.
A boy is possessive. A man is protective. A boy
plays games. A man's shoulders responsibilities. A boy tells others

(05:06):
he is a man, but man quietly lives it. A
boy makes experiences, a man makes progress. A boy makes
the men's a man serves, a boy, lies in, cheats
and deceives, but a man always tells the truth. Number four,
God wants fathers to turn their hearts toward children Malica,
Chapter four, ver six. And he will turn the hearts

(05:26):
of the fathers to the children, and the hearts of
the children to the fathers, lest they come and strike
the earth with the curse. We see there's a curse
on the land today. A Pure Research Center study of
one hundred and thirty countries show that USA has the
highest rate of children in single parent households. Twenty three

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percent of US children live in the single parent households.
The global average is seven percent in China, three percent
in Nigeria's four percent in Indians five percent. Rate is
over three times higher than the global average. Fathers have
not churned their hearts to the children. Billy Graham said,

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a good father is the one of the most unsung, unpraised, unnoticed,
yet one of the most valuable assets in our society.
Pope John twenty third said it is easier for a
father to have children than for a children to have
a real father. Let that sink in. It is easier
for a father to have children than for children to

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have a real father see turn your Heart toward children,
and then the Bible says, children, turn your hearts toward fathers.
If you don't churn your heart toward children. According to
the America First Policy Institute, a family is more likely
to be poor, the children are less likely to succeed.
They are more likely to be in jail. They are
more likely to suffer from substance abuse. They are more

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likely to be sexually promiscuous. They are more likely to
suffer from mental health problems. They are more likely to
be involved in the violent crime. They are more likely
to be at risk of obesity, and their overall health
and happiness is more likely to be undeclined. Number five.
A godly father is someone who loves the mother of

(07:13):
his children. Ephesianship five, verse twenty five is his husbands
love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church
and gave himself for her. Someone said this that the
best thing a father can do for his children is
to love their mother. One of the biggest mistakes dads
make is think that their relationship with their wife is

(07:35):
the second priority, and as long as they spend a
lot of quality time with their children, that is the
greatest investment. But see, we teach what we know, we
reproduce who we are. We don't want children who grow
up having broken relationships. We need to model godly relationships
with our spouses to impart that to our children. Number six,

(07:56):
A Christian father loves and cares for him children. Psalm
one of three, verse thirteen says, as a father pities
his children, so the Lord pities those who fear him.
In First John three to one, it says, behold what
matter of love the Father has bestowed on us? That
we should be called the children of God. See, God

(08:18):
bestows love upon us, and that's what Christian fathers need
to do. A lot of times people think that being
a father means being a provider and being a disciplinary,
which is good. It has its place. But if we
don't release love, a lot of these children later on
suffer from this wound father wound because they haven't experienced

(08:38):
that affirmation and that love. Number seven. A godly father
provides for his children Matthew seven, seven through eleven. Jesus
doesn't directly speak about fathers providing for their children. Still,
Jesus uses the analogy of a father giving good gifts
to his children to illustrate God's willingness to give good

(08:59):
things to those who ask of him. In Firs. Timothy
five eight, it says, if anyone doesn't provide for his
own and especially those of his household, he has denied
the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. This verse
emphasizes the responsibility of a man to take care of
his family's needs. Number eight. Fathers ought to instruct their children.

(09:20):
In Proverbs Chapter four, verses one through two, it says, here,
my children, the instruction of a father. Give attention to
no understanding, for I give you good doctrine. Do not
forsake my law As a father. You're not only somebody
who knows the heavenly father, who have spiritual fathers in
his life. Someone who turns your heart toward your children,

(09:42):
someone who is a man, someone who loves your wife.
But you have to instruct your children. You got to
teach them. This doesn't mean you got to be a teacher,
but to them, you are their teacher. It doesn't mean
you have to be a pastor to everyone, but to
them you are the pastor. Instruct them in the ways
of righteousness and ways of integrity. In the ways of honesty,

(10:03):
in the ways of good work, ethic, in the ways
of purity, in the ways of punctuality, in the ways
of treating other human beings, in the ways of righteousness
and godliness. Number nine, fathers ought to discipline their children.
Proverbs thirteen twenty four says he who spares his rod
hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him diligently.

(10:25):
Proverbs twenty two to fifteen says the rod of discipline
drives away folly, but sparing the rod spoils the child.
Discipline in your child does not mean you hit your child.
You spank them, but spanking really only works for ages
two through six when all other correction forms have failed.

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Don't spank your child with your hand. You don't use
your hand to drive nails. You will use a tool
like a hammer. Same thing is with discipline. Your hand
is for loving, for leading, and for holding. It's not
a tool of discipline. That's why belt is always the
best and better option. But it's also very important that

(11:07):
discipline is never done in anger, Otherwise it will and
it leads us. Two point ten. Fathers, do not provoke
your children to anger. Ef Jesius, Chapter six, verse four.
And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath,
but bring them up in the training and admonition of
the Lord. When you discipline your child, when you correct

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your child, and you do it in anger, you provoke
them to anger. It leaves scars on the very deep levels.
It doesn't form their character, it breaks their self esteem.
Don't make your child take responsibility for your emotions. Regulate
your own emotions. Don't make them responsible for why you're mad.
Take responsibility for your anger. Don't speak death over a child.

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Don't compare your child to someone else. Don't use the
scripture under your father and your mother during a heated conflict.
Don't tell the child has a demon just because they
disagree with you. Disagreeing with an adult is not a
sign of demonization. Don't tell them that they will read
what they sew because they don't listen to you. There's
a high chance you're the one that's reaping what you've sowed.

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And another thing is when children are no longer kids,
but they've become adults, don't treat them as kids anymore.
Respect their boundaries as they become adults. It's their space. Knock,
ask for permission to enter. Don't just barge in, ask them,
don't just tell them, because what that does is it
builds within them an adult, and then later on they

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can extend that training to someone else because you have
extended it to them. Now, these are the ten things
that I believe the Lord expects of the fathers. Are
there any that I have missed? Perhaps share with me
in the comments below, experience you've had with your father,
some of the good things that were done to you,
and maybe some of the things that you do not

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