Embracing Differences & Unity Communities with Adrianna Rowe

Join us for an inspiring episode of Walk In His Ways Impact Voice Podcast. We will be speaking with Adrianna Rowe about her nonprofit organization RAAVE DFW which is situated in Dallas Fort Worth Texas Metropolitan Area focused on raising Autism Awareness through volunteering and events.

Episode Transcript

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Cloth if you don't know your mostplayer crows like you want to party the
team. Hello everyone, my nameis Fredman Jackson Junior, and you're listening
to the Walking His Way Impact Whatwas podcast broadcast from the Dallas for Hot
Texas, Miss Probity area today mightget the extraordinary individual with an amazing mindset

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a harder giving Mike Guess has overtwelve years of experience with the public school
as well private therapy practice. Sheused to find a nun private organization Rave
DFW. And you're honor and pleasureto have my gifts on here. Of
course, go ahead and diuce yourselfto the audience and thank you again.
I know you're a very productive woman, but I thank you once again taking

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time like you're adest the schedule tobe here on the podcast. So go
ahead and dice yourself to the lovelyaudience this morning here on Walking This Way
in fact What's podcast? Ill,thank you. I appreciate your time too
as well. I know we're bothvery busy and thanks to this opportunity to
be on here excited. So alittle bit about myself. I was a

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speech pathology major in college and thenso I did speech pathology for a year,
and then I taught in a privateschool and then from there I was
like, I'm the best teacher here, Like this isn't the place for me,
Like I need to grow. It'smy first year, you know what
I mean. I didn't want tobe the best. I wanted to go
somewhere where I could learn and grow. And so then from there I taught

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for a while and I kept runninginto behaviors and autism and I didn't know
what to do. I got akid slap me, and I'm like,
what am I supposed to do withthis? And then back in the day
like slap them back, but likeyou can't do that. So then I
started researching and I found Applied BehaviorAnalysis, which is ABA, and so

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I worked there for two years andI taught me a lot of what I
knew, and so then from thereI went to the private school sector,
and my initial goal was to trainother teachers and help them be more knowledgeable.
But then I realized I kind offound my passion with helping the children

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and their parents be successful within theircommunity. And so that's kind of how
shifted from wanting to be like ateacher trainer to like just focusing on my
community and the kids, because say, you know, children are the future,
but they really are right now.So what we're doing right now is
gonna predict or set the platform fortheir future. So that's how I got

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here and that's also my life,which she was saying on how to reinstruct
when it comes to dealing with youwith autism, because the first thing people
read to they want to they reactone way, but they needed to do
it a whole another way. SoI like how you put that on emphasis

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on how they handle a whole lotbetter because it's like back in the day,
if you ask your parents, wholove our parents, you ask some
of a particular question, or youwas curious about anything, they're high let
that fuss at you, but justreally just breaking down what's going on so
we get a better understanding with all, like getting get a good understanding,

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solid like how you put that,because we like said, we flopped the
handle for all the wrong reasons.Instead of saying, you know what this
is, something's going on and whatI don't know, Let me get with
someone who's an expert in that areato help me get a clear understanding.
Drop your pride, get your egoout of the way. You don't know

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everything, give with someone who canhelp you once again, all by getting
get a gun understanding. And ittakes a special individual as yourself to do
the work that you're doing. Igive you your flowers and give your roses,
because everybody knocked it out for thisword, but this very few you
that are doing this word giving back, and it's a pleasure that you're doing

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that. I and I look atyour work, your body of work,
and how you're having fun doing whatyou're doing. So laborate more on that.
Doing something that you love to do, waking up every morning like,
hey, I'm cut out to dothis, I was born to do this,
I was made to do this.What is that experience like for someone

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who wants that experience waking up doingsomething that they love to do, prepare
doing something that they despise. Well, first of all, I give a
shout to my mom. Every kindand good thing that I've ever done is
because she was such a kind heartedsoul that I owe the world nothing but

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kindness and to show them what it'slike to have the kind soul. And
it wasn't always like that. Youknow, they say, if you try
to do your hobby. They're probablynot hiring. But I love kids,
and within that I found what makesme happy. Best friend is my also

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my president. And people wait alifetime to find like a business partner of
the same ideas. I only haveto wait eight years. And so it's
an amazing feeling to have someone thatwants to help just as much as I
want to and advocate, and soit feels good, like I really enjoy
I love helping, and I'm gladthat I'm in Dallas that has a market

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and a need to provide services andthe support to do what I want to
do, but just help and justthe community outreach. And I know you
said earlier, you said about theunknown and people not knowing what to do.
You know, the fear of theunknown is what drives not knowing or
not understanding something is what drives fear. So whether it's be with police or

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it's with other people, stand byers, or fearful of kids as autisms.
They see a kid in the tantrum, they don't know what to do.
I mean the fear of the unknown. COVID. You know that scared people
is the fear of the unknown.We don't know, we're research and figuring
it out. I mean, evenlike the AIDS pandemic, the fear of
the unknown always scares people and youcan think unrationally and not handle things appropriately.

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So my goal is to raise autismawareness and just disabilities in general,
and so that way educate kids andadults so we're not driven by fear.
Instead, we're driven by actual knowledgeand hands on experience. Because I don't
want to say I'm going to sithere and train you, but I want
to offer opportunities for you to getback to the community and interact with people

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that may have disabilities or abilities asyou could say, right, And like
I said, this goes on everyday in our community. That goes with
every day in our world. Itgoes on every day in our society.
It goes every day in the workplace, the schools, all the other grades.
Stuff that comes about, and weknow that autism doing They may actually

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are the youth being booked when itcomes to autism. Do they do they
experience any type of bullying or thingsof that nature because you don't understanding.
Well, now, the good newsis about this new generation. They're not
like us in the nineties. They'revery more accepting because you got to think

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they grew up with the black president, they grew up with having gaged,
being allowed to be married. Sothey're a lot more woke than what we
are and more accepting. However,unfortunately, sometimes it's my kids that do
the bullying because autism is a socialdisorder and they don't necessarily know how to
play appropriately. So we have totrain them. And so that's part of

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the thing. Like I've gone tothe park with the mom in the past,
in twenty twenty one when it washot, it was hot already in
May, and I go after workat five, and I would show her
model to her what to say toher son and how to transition them and
how to interact, and because Iwant them to have the social skills.

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But they scared of the kids thatagain after them and push them off the
swing or whatever it may be.And so I would go with the parent,
but I wouldn't tell the kid whatto do. I would tell the
parent what to say. I don'tknow if you've ever had dog trainings before,
and the dog would listen to thetrainer, but not the owner.
And so that will happen a lot, like the kids would listen to me
the therapist, with the teacher,but then not to the parents. So

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I realized to get back to thecommunity to make the full circle. I
come in and interact as like aparent trainer in the community wherever it may
be. So so it's all aboutputting the time in an ilka or when
it comes to the individual, likeI said, being more recepted. Okay,

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like you said with the doll trainer, they more there, there could
be more exclusive with the training compairentsof the owner goes back, but put
it in the time and the energyonce again going back with all I getting
get a good understanding, and that'sgoing going bibly for a moment. We
used to read that Pascher's trips withthose I don't know, nobody's affiliate or

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they beliefs, but it says inproperty with all that getting get a good
understanding. So we know that theunderstanding plays a role in all this that's
going on. So I like thatbecause we tap it into something now where
we'll start to address the elevant inthe room more and more now because compared

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to back in the day and Iwas born, and I was going to
eighty two, and I was youknow born an a nineties. Well I'm
still a young man, but youjust want to take shots. It's all
good, it's all love, butit's just the one. Oh, having
these uncomfortable conversations. Well it maybe uncomfortable us because we never had these

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conversations. But now people are havingthese conversations on the regular basics compared to
the eighties and nineties where where we'renot having these conversations. We was not
talking about six. We learned moreabout six on now outside. This is
the you know, this is amature show, but we're more talking about
six on the outside. We're friends. We was you know, we were

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exposed to things on the outside.So when it came to talking about these
things, and the way parenting waswas okay, if I have a issue,
I have a problem where they understandor where I get fussed at and
we get like I'm talking at you, I'm fussing at you, but I'm

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not understanding, and be what iscoming from that? If I get to
good understanding, hit me out here. Oh yeah. So like with autism,
typically if the kids already like escalatedand behavior and up set, I
back up and give them their space. The example I always give is if
you have a significant other and thenyou have that gap and you're like shut

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up, like get out of myface. Like kids need that too,
and so I back up, andthen usually once they seek calm, we'll
do g escalation techniques. Then Istill give consequences for their actions. Just
because you got upset and you hitme or ran away, we de escalated

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you. So now there be consequenceslike more work, got positive punishment,
So more work whatever it may be, because you could have just sat down,
but now you have to do fiveworksheets. And positive punishment is something
the police use speeding tickets you speed, They add to your situations called the
seatbelt clicker ding ding ding ding ding. You hear that and you put your

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seatbelt on. So I give consequences, but then I'll also replace that behavior.
So say, for instance, thekid wanted was transitioning off a toy
the iPad, and they're like no, they scream and they go into behavior,
So I de escalate, give consequences, then practice handing over the iPad

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to me. So if they've alwaysdone it the wrong way, how would
they ever know how to do itthe right way. So it's always important
to go back and practice the rightway. They got positive practice. So
I gave your con de escalated,you left you long. I gave you
your consequences. Now I'm going toshow you the right way and reinforce you

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for doing that. And sometimes peopledon't want to listen. I'm even going
to ramp. I've had a kidbefore that back that see was escalator.
He used to run. So thefact that he just sat down and was
there and a particular person went tohis face and he went screamed at a
loud and gave her the bird withboth fingers and she's like, do you
know what he to me? AndI was like, was he a safety

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concern? Is he hurting others?Was he albeing? Did he hurt someone
another? Give them leaven alone?Just act. He'll come down like if
he's escalated and you up here inhis face like, what goodness that gonna
do? I mean, you havemade sense, said, we gotta come

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into I thought before going in thethird. I want to give a big
shout to missus Jones on the YouTubeside. Big shout to Charlotte National YouTube
side shout out to uh. Iwant to say miss and miss d on
the YouTube side, be shout toCarl Rob's I don't want now. I
never wanted to forget the people pluggingin what is this morning? Thank you

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y'all are the ones who make thispodcast successful. Y'all the ones who made
ray d f W successful because youbelieve in what the unique individuals are doing.
So we never wanted forget y'all.Miss Mayor, I'm saying Miss Mary
and the you two side don't wantto get her. Everybody's tipping in this
morning. Marcella's I don't want tomiss nobody's name. If I say miss

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him or miss be, you know, I don't want to. I don't
want to push you nobody name becauseI know people pushing my name. You
know it's firm and some people sayfarming the premium. But anyway, I
just want to read the comment bshots Carl robertson the comment session. He's
always talk it out and give examplesso they can understand. That's that's what
it's all about. I know youmissed this esselation. I know that's something

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that's part about job pair. Youknow, I work within the law enforcement
field, so that seeing you,well, it's a lot of them there
and and it's a lot of themthere. But you be amazed on how
these these young individuals get it wasjust a top behavior and then a lot

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of these got these young men thatwere around. Did you get caught up
in these situations? Did you getit? All about being accepted, want
to be like want to follow incrowd, but you get to talk to
these kids. These kids have goodintentions, but they just made they just
made a bad mistake. Problem itdrives from that is that if you have

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autism or ADHD. With autism,they call it camouflaging. You don't have
a personality of your own typically,so you adapt to the behaviors that are
around you, and that's how youget into the crowd. And then adds
impulsiveness where you impulsively. I knowan adult out at add anyway Walmart instole

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a big TV as if he's gonnaget away with it, and he got
arrested and they're like, why didyou do that? He's like, well,
my friends ask me too. Justthat impulsiveness, just like without thinking
of the consequences. So that's whyit's important that you I do but give
consequences so laid on the line,they can think like, oh wait,
when I do this X, Y, Z, he could possibly happen.

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But you know what, what wouldhave happened if we would have these conversations
growing up, like like, okay, you want to do a certain thing,
but break down the consequences, Likeyou say it, well, if
you do this X, Y,and Z, what happen if you shoo
that? We have consequences or badconsequences to work and getting the paychecks good?

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You know, you know, right, but you think about it.
Yeah, you and T got thefirst autism intervention program and I think nineteen
ninety four or ninety six, soif you do the math, two years
to graduate, so it wasn't reallyuntil two thousand and eight, so we
were really staffed enough and aware enoughto even know what autism was. We

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thought it was just a bad kidin class and didn't know how to act,
you know what I mean. You'rejust like, why is he throwing
a chair or that kind of weirdgerson you grew up with awkward. Let's
a little bit weird because we didn'tknow like you just right now and we
can make a difference. And I'mglad you brought that up because you take
it to a whole another. Notgonna take a quick commercial break, and

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after this commercial bread, we're gonnajump right back into our Q and a
conversation. And by the way,ladies and gentlemen, the name of this
episode is called Embracing Differences and UnitingCommunities. So wherever you may be watching
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you're watching us from. Also,if you have statements, leave your statements
in the coming session. And ifyou have questions, put in the coming
session. And I know, mylovely kids, we be glad to answer
your question as well. Community ina little bit so much right, because
I will go with my but Iwill go with my cowboys had today.
But I didn't want to disrespect youlike a forty nine first, but I'm

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deciding I didn't want to dispeit youlike this. So anyway, that's another
rye games. But we converger justright backings acc andate conversation. Terror County
just spent eighteen million on what girl? They just spent eighteen million dollars sending

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inmates to Garza County because all fourof our jails are filled here and I
know it's because these courts are backedup. This is a problem. But
Mark, I know you can helpfix this. Okay, I know what
I need to do. I'm MarkClayton, Judicial candidate for Terran County Criminal

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District Court. Too. I promiseto continue serving and protecting the citizens of
Terran County by following the law,upholding our constitution, ensuring fair and equitable
sending to you ruling firmly but withcompassion. I need you to make your
mark in twenty twenty four. Runto the polls and vote for me,
because your life depends on it.Hey, it was a bear about what

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back here on the Walking This Waysimpact was podcast. I also want to
get a big shot to my newestdriver frame will reach the drive to the
YouTube channel Walking This Way if thatwas podcast. So thank you very much,
missus. Miss Jones says, thanksfor sharing your knowledge. As the

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last said, if you'll have questions, go ahead and ask questions because this
is this is a learning environment becausewhat we don't know can help us in
the long run. It did notjust with didn't with Because I know adults
deal with autism, or a friendmay have autism, family members, everyone
knows someone or even that weird personyou haven't worked, I say, weird

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in your life looking off about them. It's usually well, yes, hey,
but you know it. It reallymade sense. And I also get
bit shots to glad Water, Texaswater. Okay, nobody knows that run

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from Okay, Oh you're a countrygirl. Gosh, you're not a girl
from from the country. The country, you're okay, but okay, okay,
all right, big Tyler Texas inthe house. Hey, I think
you are amazing. Shirley Thompson,Yeah, I got you, all right,

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So a big shout out to missThompson as well. Watching this from
Tyler Saces. So I appreciate everybodythat's tuning in this morning. You're getting
all this love this morning. Sohow does that feel? Getting all this
love and support all from people thatreally support you what you're doing. And
I just hope this love and supportcan go throughout the community because it's not

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for me. It's about what Ican do for the community. And like
getting out there getting support. Uh. People see things that they can help
out that they need help with.Maybe I can help them with their kids,
you know, I can Maybe theynever taken their kits to their get
a haircut, or they need helpwith the grocery store. So it's more
about getting the knowledge out there andnot being so fearful. And you said

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something earlier and I'm want to cutyou off. I forget you said people
in the workforce. So you know, we do most for the homeless.
Last year we did fifteen hundred miles. Last four year before we did twelve
hundred. There's multiple reasons why dothat. One someone's like, why do
you want to mills for? Iwants taking help themselves. Statistically speaking,
that's going to be one of myclients or my kids parents can die,

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somebody can take advantage of them,take their disability check. Oh yeah,
so I want to help that waytoo. The kids come together, So
have typical peers, and I havethe kids with autism coming together, and
I literally back up. They mighthave little tipples and they work it out
and they organize it, and inmy mind, it's given the kids with

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autism skill sets to work with otherkids. It's also giving those kids exposure
to working with kids with autism becausethese may be our future leaders, our
future community helpers, and when theyget older and they may work with the
kid or an adult that has aspergers, they will have experience instead of like
out asking them and knowing how toadjust different people and being a leader or

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a boss, you've got to adjustor a person when you want to be
good at it, because how youresponded person A and how you responded person
B isn't the same. So withmy mills at the home, it's wanted.
It does good for the community.People help me, shops lines cloud,
they help support me. I friendswith gotta help support me with that
as well. But it gives thekids the job skills that social interactions.

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So what if this kid becomes apolice officer one day. They've worked with
kids that have autists and they seemthey're stemming or what may be perceived as
weird. So it's actually giving allaround leadership skills and community volunteering events and
giving them exposure. So it's notjust I'm feeding them homeless, you know,

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like I said, could be mykids. And it's giving these kids
skill sets and they're not having tobe so fearful. They're being exposed to
they're having to work with them andwork together and guide them. And that's
my baby, right. And youmentioned something you said some and you said
some earlier when we said when wesay when you go through the phone and

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homeless, they give themselves a lotof if you look at it, and
I said all the time too,a lot of people that's homeless have mental
issues. And they was either theywas they was put away from family members
didn't want to deal with them anymorebecause you got when you're dealing with someone
who has mental issues, that's technicallyreally a full time job. Oh,

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they really take care of them.They medication. If they don't, they
stop. And that's another thing,they stop the medication. Mental illness hereditary.
I always say sometimes that apple don'tdrop down at dangless dangles. So
typically if they not every child,but like typically if the kid has some

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mental health issues, someone else intheir family has it as well, you
know. So it's a it's acomplex thing. And so like I said,
I just want to help them earlyon and try to reframe their brain.
Because someone want's asking what's my clientsfor students' biggest accomplishment? And I

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start to sit and think about aminute, is it honestly trusting me saying
that no, your brain is wrong. Stop listening to your brain and what
I'm telling you that you're I'm right, and like you actually believe in me
and trusting me and listening to me. And so what is I see a
comment? Yeah and yeah, andthese are a want student from a low

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income school, so some of themhave personality experience what it's like to go
what it's like to go hungry thatour school they have, we have kids
that personally know what it's like toget hungry. So I've also ask excuse
me, where I've done backpack mealson the weekends for kids, and my
friends are so great they'd be sendingme like little instant mashed potatoes and stuff.

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And I would do meals for kidsas well, But it's putting them
on the giving side instead of thereceiving side, so it reinforced its empathy
and understanding. Everyone falls on ahard time, So I'm allowing opportunities for
them to just not be on thereceiving end so they can give back as
well, because sometimes when you're juston the receiving end, you never know

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what it's like to give back.It kind of becomes get stuck there and
it's just like you can't get outof it. And so I'm allowing our
low income students to have that empathy. But oh that sucks to be hungry,
Like it's really sad, Like,let's help them out. So it's
good for them to be on thegiving and not just the receiving end.

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Thank you, Marcella. Yeah.So basically a lot of them now,
a lot of them are themselves.You know what I'm saying. It's all
about in their mind, it's allI gotta survive because I don't have anyone
else to help me. So it'slike being appreciable to help they get,
you know, and not being treatedas a castaway or a minute to society

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per se. But realize, Itaught tablet generations where it's tablets raising your
kids. I think every parent doesthat. But it's just like a tablet,
like it's a kidding But yeah,I like, and I gotta get
this shot to Miss Jackson I hadon the show last Wednesday as she was

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talking about within her family and shethey have family scaled the time for family,
like getting together, having meals together, like in forced and not saying
I don't say the word force,but bringing back that that structure, bringing
back that communication. They to talkabout things back back when the pandemic hit
back in twenty twenty, A lotof people say they consider that a blessed.

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Some people didn't like it, youknow, just the suicide radis stuff
went up. But I'm not goingto talk about that. But people say
they really enjoyed that pandemic because theygave them time to relearn their family member
on, relearn themselves, because theygot a chance to be a sit down
and actually communicate talk about things.Because think about it, we in this

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in general, in this world nowwhere everything comes to going we're distracted by
social media, We distracted to buyour cell phone, our tablets, I
pads, all this stuff is goingon, But then we forget about the
one that's at home who is dealingwith a lot of stuff, who might
have question a about a lot ofthings, concerned about a lot of things,

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don't know how to talk, knowhow to come and say. You
know, but I'm glad now thatwe're being more receptive of each other,
that we can actually sit down andtalk without having judgment. If that makes
sense. Yes, it's like thefear of the unknown. So we're trying
to do things so we don't castjudgment. We have understanding and empathy and

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you know, like I said thenthat that's the most important part of it.
And you know, so we dolike to the mills for the homeless,
but you said understanding each other.So that's my baby is also my
policing events. Thank you, Charlotte. That was my baby because I think

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it Elijah Elijah Mccoalvin, I believethat was his name. Don't quote me.
He was a kid that was walkingin Colorado and got killed above cops
whatever Internet rumors. He had autism. He need a massage sabist And that
one just broke my heart because Icould see my kids were clients going to
trade school and being a massage serbistone because you don't have to talk,

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you know, social disorder. Andthen too, it's a good trade to
have. And so after I sawthat case, I really really wanted to
do something. And like, Ihave friends, so I sit there and
watch all these police brutality videos,all this sadness, was like, but
what are you actually gonna do aboutit? Like sitting here and being sad

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is gonna do nothing but make mesad. So and then I met Marissa
and like I said, my presidentand then me and her just go and
so we're doing our next event inApril. We got props with cops,
and the cops come and they comeand do board games and chug Award.
We have bubbles hands on. Becausesomeone was like, they should read a

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book. I'm like, nah,they should see how these kids act.
Because I had one particular per minion, that's what I'll call him, a
minion. He runs in front ofthe cops. He runs, he's like
and the cop was like, what'swrong with him? I'm like, oh,
he's done. He's done for theor I had one minion. The

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cop tries to give him a stickerand the kid was like and then finally,
hey, take the sticker. Buthe'd understand this kid was sensitive to
textures that weren't dry. So inthe outside world, not knowing anything about
autism, you may have thought thathe was being non compliant, which I

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guess technically wasn't. But it wasa sensory based problem, if that makes
sense. So it wasn't him tellingcop no because I don't want to do
it, but to him like cringingat the thought of something wet that's not
dry. It's like detrimental to him. It's like sensory overload, and so

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important for the cops to kind ofsee that because the cop was like,
oh, I thought I was doingsomething wrong. It's like, no,
it's just a sensory issue, youknow, and then I so it's very
important to see those little things.So someone's like, oh, you want
to train the cops, Like no, no, no, no, no,
no no no. I want toprovide opportunities for the cops and my

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kids to engage. And you gotto think, to go back to what
I said, my kids mental health, not all of them can can be
genetic. So some of the kidshave probably already had negative police interactions that
weren't positive with family members or howeverwhatever it may be. So I create

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these opportunities to at least have acouple positive interactions. You know, if
the cops pull you away from yourdad and slam them down on the ground,
and then you also have mental healthissues as well. You're traumatized by
that police experience and you have mentaldisabilities, abilities, whatever you want to

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call it. So it's like adouble waning. So we need these positive
interactions and as well as my sosomeone they're being negative. They're like,
well, what if not all thecops come. I was like, well,
all hosts multiple events and eventually,you know, when a Karen caused

(33:15):
the cop on my kids for beinga little weird because of the aspergers,
They're like, you know that kid, you know he was at the program
at that school, or oh,I've seen a kid like him before.
This is how we approach it.Let's give him face. He's not a
threat, you know, simple words, you know, but say what he
has to say. I got maybede escalate, don't pull out the guns,

(33:36):
you know. So it's just togive the cops exposure. Maybe his
partner didn't go, but he went, you know, And so it's all
about just getting that exposure within thecommunity and as well. Another case that
touched me was that behavior specialist inFlorida. He was out on the street
with his client. His client wasrunning away and i'd leave the cops the

(34:00):
shot or chased them, and hewas like hey, And I mean this
kid was grown up. He waslike thirty. He was intellectually delayed,
playing the truck in the middle ofthe road. And I guess the cop
was fearful because the adult was perceivedto be non compliant. I mean he's
playing the Tonga truck truck in themiddle of the road. So and the

(34:21):
therapist got shot. Not touched myheart because that's me. Those are my
friends, registered behavor technicians. We'reworking with the kids in the community.
And you know, I've almost hadthe cops calling me. When I had
a client we were at a restaurantand he started having a tantrum, so
I took him outside and gave himplace played ignoring, turned my back.

(34:44):
This woman walks into the restaurant,kid you not and goes just a kid
outside crying? Do we need tocall the cops? And the mom checked
her. She's like, no,that's his therapist. He has all just
working through it. But my thoughtwas this was kids crying, So you're
gonna call the cops and tell allthe kids crying, like you're wasting their

(35:08):
time, wasting my time, andlike why why did the cops the calls
the kids crying? To my point, the kid's lower STU syconomic status and
a special ed have a ninety percenthired increase of having police encounters than their
typical peers. And that's just themthat the restaurant a lady wants to call

(35:31):
the cops on me if you startintention expose them to what's not in their
everyday lives exactly. But a lotof my kids are even unable to go
to restaurants, or go get ahaircut, or go to a movie theater.
One of my clients, his firstyear this summer is able to finally

(35:51):
go to a movie theater. Canyou imagine having a kid or not being
able to go to a movie,you know, or ever take kids to
get a haircut. So I justgo there and support the pants for that.
So going to a restaurant, soon, to the kids crying,
what are you gonna call it?Talks for? It's just like but I

(36:13):
guess the fear of the unknown.They don't know they see it, keep
crying and throwing the fit, andso one just ignoring it and giving them
in their space. I gainst thenineties you used to pop power power,
getting in their face. Instead stepback and like let me know when you're
ready. Well, you know,I'm glad you brought that up. I'm
gonna take another Commercy Week commercial break, and I want to talk. I'm

(36:36):
gonna time in on that about thepolice and law enforcement like this won't jump
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(37:00):
power, yet none of the will. I not only need to see you
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at the polls and thank you foryour votes. Hey, what's up?
Very about went back here on thewalk in this way? MPa podcast well
broadcast right here in the d fW Dallas work Worth, Texas metropolitan area.

(37:21):
I love being here in DFW,being here, being three years now,
just to interact with extraordinary interviews.Yourself, who's doing something positive.
You turn your dream into reality andyou're giving back and that's a beautiful thing
that it's a blessing to that.And that's also And keep up the great

(37:43):
work. I said, your mindset, you have the hard for it,
you have a vision for you havea drive for it. Keep up the
great work, and I give youyour roses. Okay, it takes a
very unique individual as yourself to dothis. We allow for you allways want
to chase the bad, chase thebag, but you got here helping changing
lives. And now that you're educatingother individuals on how to deal with autism,

(38:07):
how to be patient, that's thenother thing. Being patient, be
impatient, and we have we havesome people teenchers, fans not they're not
loan, they have they be soimpatient. But you're teaching individuals how to
have patience. When yeah, andthat's it because we so quick the one
of fus fus fuss, but we'renot really Once again, somebod earlier you

(38:32):
talk about the fear unknown. Hthen just going back to it all I
get and get a good understanding.Just imagine how far we would be.
It would just really take time outto get some good understanding, some clarity
on what's going on, you know, just like we so quick to flop
the handle. But then you realizeonce you read these individual stories on what

(38:59):
happened in the life, would transpirein their life and how they demonstrate that,
it'd be like wow, dang,and then they would deal with all
that until you read a story andget the information on these on these individuals,
like wow that this stuff is goingon every day. Yeah, definitely.
I think a lot of people havea problem with control, so they

(39:22):
think by you, just like ifyou have an argument with your significant other
and you want to get the lightsword and last word and last word in.
Yes, as someone who cuts hair, it can be really intense sensory
wise for someone with autism. Yes, thank you. Justin the sound that's
sound, the feeling, the vibration, the visual, seeing the razor blades

(39:45):
and all that, so it's true. Then the smells, the oils,
you know, it's a fuel touchsmell that's hitting all your sensory points and
separate tastes. So the haircut oneis a big deal. Like when I
went with the p we did stories, conditioning, we warned the haircut lady,
and you know, we sat withthem and we did a lot of

(40:07):
different behavior techniques reinforcing like every minute, giving them an MM or pairing their
favorite thing. I'm not an iPadperson, however, if when a kid
doesn't eat food or when they don'tget a haircut, put the iPad.
That's a favorite enforcer. Let's getyou to eat something more than milk.
I'll feed you some yogurt iPads.You can keep watching the iPad. So

(40:31):
you pair their favorite reinforcer with anon preferred ask, such as a haircut,
because it also helps clients with eating. I've had clients that would only
drink milk at six years old.We're at a client that only ate jello
and putting it and I'm like,no, I want you to have a

(40:51):
social life. I want you togo out and date. What do we
do as adults. You should goout and eat and drink. That's literally
all we do, like at dinnerday. So I want my kids to
function and have friends, to beable to go out to eat. You
know, you can't have putting everyrestaurant you go to. So that's another
way, Like I want to makethem be functional and have friends. Right.

(41:13):
Also, you need to be anadministrative level to spread your knowledge through
a district. Your expertise can helpwith teach your attention and student behavior.
I really appreciate that. I don'tknow. I don't want to say your
name wrong. Jerry D. Ireally miss d appreciate administrative role. That's

(41:39):
a lot of politics, a lotof politics, and I really want to
help kids and be on the ground. And I haven't found a district yet
that would allow me to be anadministrative level to be on the ground and
help kids and not just seeing kidsas numbers and pending in here and there.

(42:00):
I would it's the opportunity word toarise where I give be on administrative
level to actually help kids and helpteachers in the community. I would love
that Miss D. Miss D isin the is in the coming session from

(42:22):
three and one services. Be shoutto miss D. Yeah, no prod
together, awesome, awesome, soshe's in the coming said she's a great
job, of course, thank you, Miss depportunity. She said she was
gonna time in and watching everything else. I appreciate her taking time out her
protess the schedule watching us this morningand she said good inflo of course and

(42:45):
amazing, So thank you once again. And there also a few that's on
the YouTube side. Go ahead andstarts on YouTube channel. You'll get shown
like this all the time. I'malways interviewing extraoring their individuals on a weekend
basis every Tuesday, when the Saturdaymorning, because like I said, I
want people to go back and listento the episode we're talking about. You

(43:06):
get something different out of it becausewe all helping. We're all about evolving
and we're all about growing. AndI want to talk about how law enforcement
now are getting to learning about theautism. They taking classes on ease things,
the estalation classes now because lawsuits comingto play a test of force.

(43:30):
That's a hard one because you canread all you want to. I mean,
reading is good. That's a start, right, that's good. The
law enforcements are working on the escalationand reading it. So y'all do that
on the outside and then I canbring you the kids to apply it because
it's a reading it and experience it. It's good to have that book knowledge.

(43:52):
But when you're on the ground,you know what I mean, it
can still be a little bit scarysomebody. To reduce that fear, so
mom, force or doing the training, uh, doing the instalation, and
then I can have a safe environmentand no one's called the cops on them
yet and you're interacting. So toreduce that fear factor, you know,

(44:13):
to understand better, and that's atweenwhat it is to reduce the fear on
both parties because at the end ofthe day, you want to protect yourself
ce I a couple of your ownassets because you don't want to get lawsuits
or volved. You can lose everything, so well suits. I don't want

(44:36):
my kids on the news shot,you know what I'm saying. I don't
want to see my kids shot ortaste. I know that's not bad,
but like this, when I readthose stories, I'm like, that's my
baby, right, because you gottarealize some some and I'm not. And
we thank God for our law enforcementreally do. Yes here you guys think

(44:58):
the way bashing because I'm right,but because you have some people who are
here and they can go overboard.We're trying to detain an individual that makes
seem what I'm saying right because thekid and then you're driving up emotion.
It's logic because fear is an emotionalan emotion, so you gotta learn to

(45:22):
figure out how to contain that emotionand then think logically in the crisis.
And I can be kind of scared. When you're someone that has a mental
diagnosis, you just don't know whatyou're just like, you freget out yourself
and then you got me irrational,you know, it's hard. Like I
first started working with a kid andone kid just slapped the mask oude and

(45:44):
me like how I was like,well, I know I can't get them
back to my bosses right here,So what am I supposed to say that?
And the first thing you want todo, and that's another thing too,
is some haul off and hit you. Your front response is to hit
him back, or if you dohit them back your own or if you

(46:09):
don't with thin yourself, you weak. So all that stuff plays a role
in someone's psych right, go ahead, that's back to people want to control.
I mean, I told you whenthe kids sat out and gave the
lady of the bird because he wasfine. But people think they're more in

(46:29):
control when they get that last wordin or when they're in your face.
They think, like backing up andgiving you space, you're actually one to
control because you're the one that's irrationaland can't handle your emotions. So I'm
stepping away. But people think beingin control is being in your face telling
you this, this and not andit's like nobody's winning at this point.

(46:50):
They're not listening to you. They'reescalated, like, but it's control.
A lot of the times like wantedto get control of the situation. People
don't realize back up and taking yourbreath and analyzing it is being in control
right most definitely. And also I'mgonna talk ideas how can individuals support you
and the work that you're doing.How can they be a part of the

(47:14):
ravee here in DFW. Yes,okay, So we're on TikTok right,
Rave DFW. It's RAVEDFW on Facebook, Rave DFW on TikTok, and Rave
DFW on Instagram. And starting nextweek, me and Marisa I have my
president. We're going to start puttingcontent on YouTube because I kind of tell

(47:37):
I told you kind of the basisof what we do. But like on
YouTube, we're gonna focus on likethe behavior reduction, What does positive punishment
look like, what does positive practicelook like? What is correct behavior actually
look like? Like? You canhave you on here again. I can
fill up another hour with you will. But because it's so so much and

(47:58):
so broad with everything, because it'sAsperger's autism, mental health, it's such
a big broad thing. But yeah, so we're on TikTok, Facebook,
Instagram, and we're starting content onYouTube. There'll be more gear specific to
training and helping parents and teachers onwhat they can do. Also on my

(48:21):
social media's I'll make sure I postyou can always donate cash app Hey Balzel,
we have an Easter d kind eventMarch twenty third. I'm hosted by
Rade Brand more than two thousand eggs. It's gonna be in Grand Prairie.
Come out and bring your kids.We also do We've done adaptive yoga.
This summer, I'm taking on aproject wes Me. I'm gonna do an

(48:45):
adaptive basketball camp for kids with disabilities. And it can just be mental diagnosed.
It is not necessarily physical. BecauseI've ran some kids that are high
functioning just on the outside looking in, you make they're a little bit bad,
but they just have autism. Sowe've supported them at their basketball games

(49:05):
and their practices. And I haveone kid he has severe autism, But
like, why not develop those skillsnow because when he's in high school he
can be included. He can playon JB and varsity. He may not
be in a simple genet classes,but if he has a athletic skill,
who are we to deny him ofthat? So let's start working and giving
them those opportunities to participate in sportswith a great way to them be included,

(49:30):
you know. So that's the thingI'm on the target this summer is
hosting. I'm doing adaptive yoga andZoom. But I'm really excited to do
basketball. I've never thought in amillion years I'll be teaching adapted basketball.
I'll get real creative, but definitely. But as fall as on social media,
I said, my YouTube be moregeared toward training parents and helping and

(49:52):
given examples of how to do thingsthat we did talk about. Man,
that's what's up right there. Isaid, we all lie straming, but
live streaming on Facebook live with livestreaming on YouTube. Also we're live streaming
on X. Everybody know where Xis. That's Twitter. So we all
live streaming on all major platforms.So we all live streaming on Twitter right

(50:14):
now on X So I got moremore of that too. So I remember,
everybody don't do Twitter, like Idon't do Twitter. Twitters, but
forget the Twitter is kind of messy. But I don't know what Twitter.
I know you get a lot offollowers, but a lot of people people.
I think there be some fake peopleon there that follow you. It's

(50:37):
like weird kind of way. Youmay get some real individuals, but then
you got some fake robotic individual followon Twitter line. We all lin shreaming
on Twitter, but we all livestreaming on Twitter right now this morning.
And also this episode it's gonna beuploaded on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, our
Heart Podcasts, all social media platformthis episode will be on. So this

(51:00):
episode is going all around the worldif we gain live stream, and also
they can go back and hitch thereplay on Spotify and I are in Apple
podcasts as well. Nobody repressed withtime. So you have any words of
advice, anytime of wisdom that youwant to leave here with the audience.

(51:21):
And also plugging once again, pluggingall your information. So again follow me
on Facebook, Rave DFWS Rave withtwo a's r A A v E DFW,
Facebook, Instagram, TikTok and we'restarting on YouTube content next week.
That's a great way to support.Just watching you can see what events we

(51:43):
do have coming up, the Eastercoming gout, I have the prox with
cons event coming up and so elscoming up. Make sure get everything I'm
doering meals with the honus and Ican always eat help with that, whether
it be like my lines have familybrand shot out. They're making all the
sandwiches for me, have another groupmaking the desserts for me. So it's

(52:06):
a lot of help. Like youcan either donate money or donate your time,
but either way you're giving back toyour community. I really enjoyed looking
forward to listening to more. Thankyou, Charlotte, thank you, thank
you, thank you, thank you, thank you. The words. It's
just if anything else, leave withkindness. And if you ever come across

(52:31):
a crisis or anything like that,sometimes the best thing to say is nothing.
The best things say is nothing whenthe moment's intense and a lot of
things are going on and you don'tknow, like, just step back and
just be quiet. Yeah, juststep back, So be kind, try

(52:53):
to things, watching not emotionally,and when things are chaotic and crazy,
just you know, be whiet.And that's it. That's why we got
two years and one mouth. Youknow, you gain more about listening,
be quick to here, slow tospeak. If we apply it to our

(53:13):
life. There thinking about how welladvanced will be if we be quick to
hear and slow to speak. Becausewe don't know everything and we think we
know it, we really don't atall. The shot to Hank James,
big shouting on the YouTube side,thank everybody for watching the youth side as
well. So we appreciate everybody,but we won't hold nobody else. This

(53:36):
is Saturday. We know this todaya risk. Today, I'm just a
teacher out in the communities. Iappreciate you taking your time and listening.
I really do. Thank you everyone. Thank you for having me on the
show and faking me and working withme. Than now, oh no,
crown, I said, keep itthe great work. I give you a
roses right now. So keep upthe great work, knowing that your work

(54:00):
is not done in vain, andyour labor's love is not forgotten because it
take you a very unique individual yourself, like I said earlier, to do
what you're doing, and that's trulya blessing. So like I said,
you're a very dot the woman.I want to hold you up. Besh
out to your mom of course,be shot out to her for race a
great daughter. So like I said, y'all have a great, great Saturday.

(54:22):
I was back here Tuesday night,seven pm on the primetime episode of
Walk in This Way Impact with podcast. Remember love yourself, respect yourself,
under yourself, Tell yourself, I'mgreat. Tell yourself I'm a genius.
Tell yourself I'm smart. Tell yourselfI'm beaubile to the flow. Tell yourself
I'm handsome to the lady. Tellyourself I'm gorgeous. Tell yourself I am
successful, And tell yourself that mylife is on fire, and I say

(54:47):
I'm living a great life. Setgoes, set on well, weekly goals,
monthly goos, year ago, keepyou a life successful. Didn't say
what am I doing? That's notas for what do I need to do
to be successful? And get thatBOYD list? Oh yeah, most definitely,
most definitely. So like I said, they know what. They keep

(55:07):
your life going too. You know, you set your goals, keep your
life more interesting, put together mentalnotes of those who you have a mental
What if you don't like to keepit mentally, Uh, just write it
down, you know what I'm saying. Work on your life. No,
this is your time to work inyour life, you know, redesign your

(55:30):
life, write it down. Newage people putting notes on your phone,
send videos to yourself of goals.Some people don't like to write, you
know, new voice memos, differentkind of ways. So yeah, definitely,
But some type of tracking single journal. I take notes right because I'm
all about the mindset and I'm allabout dealing with the mindset. Change your

(55:52):
mind, you change your life.You know, you gotta think highly of
yourself. Don't wait till everybody else. I say this too. Why it's
not gonna come to your front dooruntil you get your life together. It's
not gonna happen. You gotta geout there and make it happen and get
out of the why me, poorme, Noah, get out there and
making it happen. The world iswaiting on you and so uh and anxiety,

(56:16):
so like for me it is astruggle, like I have to make
myself cut up and go and makemyself get up and do these things.
And I don' want to hold youup, but even some simple tasks getting
up, brushing your teeth. Peopleanxiety, it's literally like not have it
for us with like make ourselves andlike make less and goals and do because

(56:37):
like you said, no one's gonnabe stepping on your door, so or
making you do it. You gottaget up and do it. And someone
that struggles with the diagnosis like yougotta get up. Yeah, and I
and that's The thing about it isthat dealing with this a whole nother episode.
But ain't nobody is that dealing withthe dealing with the self, dealing
with the ego because I remember,and I'm just I know I had it

(56:59):
like I gotta work there this morning, and I know one of my coworkers
he was staying over. He wasjust saying, man, I don't feel
like staying I don't feel like stayingover. But I would tell him that
the mindset, that's your ego talking. Because if you fall into what your
ego is saying, you're gonna you'regonna feat yourself and you're gonna feel bad
about it. You know the sourceof it all when your feelings get hurt,

(57:21):
it's your ego. But you're right. We can have a whole nother
episode and talk about an adult livingwith add and anxiety and how you do
how do you deal with then,how do you process that and how do
you move beyond that into you canuse have a lot being a teacher on
your nonprofit right, somebody asks youthis, we be writing booksing it?
We are you thinking? Are youwriting? Will you be writing books in

(57:44):
their future? Or if that's somethingthat's on your on your list to do
or you know, it's been onthe back of my mind, been on
the back of my mind. I'vestarted just kind of writing ideas and stuff.
But the ad D part, it'sharder for me to organize thoughts like
the hands on and all that andmaking bulletin lists. But the book part

(58:08):
I would definitely have to ask forhelp. Someone has a more I'm an
orange personality, which we can getinto that on another day, which means
I have big ideas and my CEOpresident, God bless her, she's good
at getting those big ideas and puttingthem in little things and then together we
can It can't work, but yeah, definitely the entrepreneur, but I love

(58:32):
it. That's another about But Isaid, just keep with the great work,
keep the fire going and all theother good stuff. Like said,
ladies, and I'm gonna let y'allgo. I know you so much up
appreciate it. Oh yeah, itis so y'all. Go. Like I
said, y'all go and enjoy y'allSaturday, be back here Tuesday night here

(58:52):
on the Walking This Way in Paintwhat was podcast? Enjoyed the stabbing of
course, and we have to staypease everybody. Johnny Domino set that up.
You know, every time I dosomething, I got to keep it
real with myself. I got toput everything in the man of a book

(59:13):
and one day God, you gottastay prayed up. Man, you gotta
stay prayed up. I don't likegetting heaven sometimes make it hard to breathe
gets prayed up. Talk to hima line. You know that ain't either
you exud but do this for me. Praying up what you always telling him?

(59:37):
And I feel you on the othertime, y'all out side. We
all got a place at the time. You got got time to come.
The bottom line, you gotta stayprayed up. Thought we must die waiting
my time to go. I wantyou to know hold right up. Let
him know how you got choice onthis buck. What's just say choice when

(59:59):
he side you cry when they goingit do the rain in the storms.
You gotta keep pressing nor shooting him. But knowing me, your seasons gonna
change. But you better know thatyour season go change in your time gonna
come and like to be a beeand never see a day that beat did
run the shore. But life isfor living. Yeah, so bleive what
you're living. What is where youtelling guy what you feeling when you sitting

(01:00:19):
twice better, taking till you canhear him and then tell you how to
make it and show you how tobattle. Because it's a more in the
main treaty and you make it somefos in your faces, but the rain
thing given to the swift. Yougotta paste it because life is a journey
and the I'm gonna keep praying,so they put me on a journey.
I don't like he's having some timemaking hard to breed. You gotta stay
praying up the line that ain't eitherto it, set out or do it

(01:00:46):
for me fighting up on the otherside and you on the other side.
We all got clay to the timeand that the bottom line time coming.
We mouth die. When is mytime to go? I want you to
know come she at feel like I'mcursed, but I know that I'm blessed.

(01:01:12):
I smile on the ground, butI know that I'm stressed. My
partner got murker. We just lethim the rest. Now at the gun
store, buy bullet proof vest Ijust can't find a church. Terror know
it in the service. I lookat them and mother's up got me nervous
and trump stand up. Thought theyhe would spend a bless me to drink
head. It's life to the ladwalk right past me. Cold up,
hold up, hullo, ain't praying? No, why hold up? Pull
up? Pullermember back. As achild wanted to be like mis My grandma

(01:01:34):
bought me reading. Couldn't a showher cause she had I beating with those
with the days when it all felteasy. Now get the pressed. When
I turn on the TV. Ineed me a blessing or pray for me,
trying to get my soul right becausejudgment day coming, I know is
heaven. Some time may get hardto breed up the line that ain't easy

(01:01:57):
to it sound, but judy forme. He paid up and I see
you on the other side. Weall got to play this time, and
that the bottom line way up.Then we my tie to this dedication.

(01:02:19):
You know, I stay prayed.Everybody that's not here no more one love
shout out to my dog here withthe key, mister Roland on the Good Talk.