The Alien Experience

Join us for a conversation with Vesha Royal on the Alien Experience.

Episode Transcript

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on here with me this evening,a straordinary interview that I came across on

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social media not too long ago.I like her, her style, her
swab on, what she's coming from, what she's representing, and it's all
coming in a positive life. Andtonight's episode it's called the alien and Experience.
And my guess is tonight is gonnatake us on this extraordinary experience,
what eliot experience it's all about?So V, what's up which you.

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Thank you once again. Take yourtime, your best to get from on
the show. So go ahead anddo yourself to This great audience is watching
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I am V. The way youpronounced the name on the fire is
the Shaha Royal but for short V, and I'm known as mother Alien.
Yeah that's and I said, Iappreciate you once again coming on the show.
Just give us a rundown. Youknow who is V? Who is
the extraordinary individual that stands before ustonight here on the show. Okay,

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So I'm V the new and improved. I guess I started out kind of
moving to Dallas trying to find myway. I'm about my business. So
I ended up falling into consulting mybusiness consulting, and then my cousin tricked

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me into going to a casting callwhen I didn't know what they were,
and I ended up modeling. Andthat's how I ended up consulting in the
entertainment industry. So now I havemy purpose in life is to make a
positive impact. So with all theexperiences I've had, modeling and all the

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great people I met, all thecreatives. We come together and we mentor
leadership, life development. We dothat for the community, and we do
it in a dope way. Man, I'm a big crist Us, So
I live by the purpose, youknow, and we do things, We
drift, we do everything, andwe teach the community how to be positive.

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And I like that. And Iknow you mentioned earlier v you know
finding yourself and you know you transition, he said to Texas, and and
to find yourself. We know thatthat is that's always gonna be a journey
because we always look finding ourselves,knowing who we are, learning who we
are, developing who we are.And we know that we posted involved all

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the time. So elaborate more whereyou say, you know finding yourself.
And that's something that's funny to heartonight because we always trying to find ourselves.
On they say, being a betterversion of ourselves. Celebrate more on
we mentioned finding yourself. Well,so for me, it was more of

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like I was getting everything that peoplewanted, but it wasn't my purpose.
It wasn't a lie with what Godhad for me. So I spent a
few years in what I call thepits of Hell because it's fun. I
had a great time. Now I'mdoing my shout out potentials and twigs who

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always do my hair, you know, keep it classy but keep it edgy
kind of thing. But I meanto get here and to not really just
get lost in the I call itthe streets, like the pits of Hell.
The streets is all of that,especially as a model, where you
have people who's coming to you andthen you're about your business, so a

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lot of people enter in through businessand then tear up your house and things
like that. It was hard forme to grow up as a woman because
a lot of people haven't experienced whatI experience. They see it on TV.
So now I'm out here with noguidance. My parents are pastors,

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you know, so I make mistakes. I roll around, I do everything
that I need to do in themoment. I'm not to myself, Oh
you're being this way, or ohyou're being that way. It took some
of the really good friends to comearound and tell me that I'm hey,

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you gotta calm down. I don'tknow what's going on. Or sometimes they
say I understand, but this ishow we're going to handle it, you
know, and that kind of helpedme evolve because my intention was never to
upset anyone, you know. Sowhen you want to be better, you
start to do that, and thenyou reach one teach one you mentor that

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person who you see act like youonce did, who also have good intentions,
you know, you mentor them,and then that's pretty much what Planet
B is about, that transition thatyou're asking for for me, I want
to make it easier for the nextperson. And I like that, you

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know, just you create your ownworld, you create your own universe,
which we are created beings, ofcourse, but putting things perspective of how
you want your life to be andhow you see where things are going,
where things are heading, which isvery good. I like that, and
growing like questions. You know,everybody has questions, you know, we

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questioned this, We questioned that inyour household, will you be adele to
question a lot of things and getthe answers you're looking for or have to
go other places for answers. Know, a lot of time we have conversations,
you know, sometimes parents made maynot know or they be of the
business of their building or how theywas raised. Because now when the time
now where airthing is wide open,everything is open, And when we were

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growing up, had these type ofconversations, but we didn't start having these
experiences that were still outside the home. So in your home was it more
okay? I asked questions, Iget to answer. How was that so
in my house? And see Ishared this to my mama. Y'all didn't
tell me that y'all was gonna beasking questions like this. But in my

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house, no, there was nofor what I'm trying to do and how
I needed to be molded. Imean, you got what do you expect
for a mother who's trying to doher best with a free spirited daughter.
And she don't believe in nothing thatI'm doing. She don't mean nothing.

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She doesn't believe in anything that I'mdoing. I'm half naked taking pictures.
I'm out here prancing and dancing.I'm out here, get my hot heart
broken way. She ain't never heardbefore. Drug stucks best friends, that's

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not best friends, Like I mean, you have to understand my parents took
a path where, yeah, theyhad a pre twenty one life, because
you know, when you're country,you grow up fast early. But then
after that you're like married and stufflike that. So for me to be
really just single, who am Igonna? I sure can't talk to my

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mama about six No, no way. I tried and that didn't work.
And it's not always throwing the Bibleat me, but somebody's got to be
your strict moral compass. Like,no, I won't ever be that person
that she wants me to be.But you know, she's telling me,

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I'm straying off very far, youknow what I'm saying. And for me,
that started an identity the crisis becauseI didn't have I mean it was
before alien like I just didn't havethat free spirit support. So like I
was improper for my mom. Iwas not athletic enough for my dad to

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come to my basketball games. Doingdancing and doing acting was impractical. So
get a corporate job. Now,I love corporate things. So I didn't
got out here in Dallas and thewhole world got handed to me. I'm
having an identity crisis. All I'mdoing is trying to be somebody for somebody,
and no, I could not askthose questions, so it's no guidance.

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I hit my head. I hitmy head real hard and it makes
my vife. So we have comstays like this on Charlotte Time. You
know, growing up especial when itcomes to religious things of that nature of
experiencing things, to question these things, and it's all about wondering and growth
and curiosity, say you know whatI'm feeling this way or what this is

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or what that is without getting thethird degree. And you mentioned identity crisis,
learing who you are and I reada book before it's break. The
first we have to do is breakaway from what other individuals think about us.
You know you have used the peopleused to say all the time,
well what people gonna say, whatthe neighbor's gonna say? On what they're

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gonna say? And we was alwaysconditioned to worry about what other people think.
In your advice, what can yougive someone who wants to break the
algorithm of not being a prisoner ofother people opinions? Well, the opinions
that I was a prisoner of isI'm an attractive person and I'm too sexy

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to be a Christian. So it'sthose type of opinion or I didn't did
this and that, so I don'tdeserve to teach, or I don't deserve
to do this, even though everybodyaround me gets a positive impact, It's
not about that. Y'all don't knowwhat it feels like to go to your

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own birthday dinner and to have yourown family say, oh, I like
your hair. Can you please notgo back to looking like a clown?
Do you know what that feels like? And for you to have to smile
through that at the age of thirtysomething, You know, like there's certain

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things like even when I corrected myself, I had to forgive myself because the
men that were coming around knew theold meat. And there would be one
or two things. They either treatedme like I was easy, or they
treated me like they didn't want todate me because I wasn't wifey type,
which neither was true. I wasjust growing, all right, all right,

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all right. So my advice topeople who are against opinions, listen
to them because there's truth in them, and you decide how great you want
to be. But don't listen tothem for them to tell you who you
are. Right, that would bemine. Hey, befo, we're going

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we got miss Evans out of Philadelphia. She said, hello, So thank
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to FoST it coming about this niceshow, go right ahead, like say
that this was all about elevation andgrowing and that that's what it is.
It's all about growing, taking yourtime, knowing who you are. You

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know you don't have to. Youknow, it's the breakaway from the society.
You know, society taught us togo to school, get a job,
doing a job forty years, andget the retirement. And that's what
we thought life was all about untilsomeone decide, you know whatever, I

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don't want to go along with society. And I was meant to be here
for a reason. Excuse me.I was meant to be here for a
reason. I was meant to havea purpose, they say, But not
waste time. Not not to beon here just existing, but living.
What you say about that? Beingplaced on here, just to live,

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not just exist lives. We wereexisting for so long until you know what
one that we made it but ourmind it was time to live. What
you want to say about that?You create your own reality. Where I
get started, shout out to VinceMan. You see he talking. You
have the right to speak elevation,higher foundations. We speak positivity here on

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this planet. You create your ownreality. I was living. You gotta
live. You know, I'm livingand existing right so to exist here?
I was existing. I was existing. I call myself a servant leader.
Servant comes before leader, just likestudent comes before athlete. Right. So

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I was existing for other people andI was never living for myself, right,
So it's kind of like to existmeans that you're here, you're going
through the motions, you're doing theright things, you're helping your people,
you might be even walking in yourpurpose. However, living means that you

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have You're probably making some mistakes,you're probably having some spicy you're having to
rely on God in some way becauseyou're trying to live the life that you
want to live, right, Becauseyou know, we to the point,
well, you know, I'm gladnow that we are learning to love ourselves,

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learning put ourselves first. You know, we was always taught to put
everything else first. You know,if you believe in yourself, you're of
the devil. You know what I'msaying. They say little stuff like that.
But always believe in God was good. We're supposed to. But faith
with our words is dead, right, So if you believe in God and
believe in God, but at thesame time, we got to do our

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part here as well. And thengoing to according to scripture, when God
said, let us make man imagein our likeness and gave us dominion,
which is me rude government in theearth. God gave us the tools.
It's up to us to utilize thosetools. And a lot of time people
think, Okay, I'm praying,can you pray? But faith with our

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worst stay. You still have putin the word, You still have to
grind, You still have to useall the abilities that God gave us.
You know, even he talks aboutthe talent. You know, everybody has
a guilt. It's up to us. Up to us you like that guilt.
Now, He's not gonna force youto do anything at all. At
the end of the day, youare a free more age. You can
do whatever you want to do.But at the same time, it's consequences

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by our decision, whether it's gonnabe good or bad. See what you
want to say about that. Ifeel like you talk about prayer like this
garant. Prayer is not a guarantee. You can pray and you can get
exactly what you want, or youcan pray and not get anything at all,

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because it's not joking as God's planning. So let's start there just because
you're praying. If you're praying andyou're not getting it, you probably need
to be thanking God that is,or you probably need to ask God to
make you ready for it. Now, y'all know, I watch anime.
Anytime you try to use the poweryou're not ready for it, they body
deteriorate. That's what happens every singletime for my anima people out there.

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Every time they use a quirk power, anything that they're not ready for but
they've been asking for, is destructionto their body. That's symbolic. And
you know what, And I'm like, I'm glad you said that. You
remember Solomon when Solomon Solomon asked forwhat he needed. You know, he

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about be in the position of leadingpeople, and you know he didn't have
the wisdom to do it, sohe asked off what he needed and God
under his prayer, God, hedidn't ask a long life, he didn't
asker that, he didn't answer that, and God branting him what he needed.
And that's it. We was taughtto treat God as an atm instead

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of saying, go before him,say God, give me what I need.
I need the wisdom. I'm aboutto be in this position and I
need the wisdom to be the discernbetween good and bad. And He gave
him that. And you said somethingto their point, you be praying and
you did not get it. It'sbecause maybe you wouldn't you're not not ready

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for it. But if we justgo to and go before God and ask
them what we need while we're hereon earth, Give me the wisdom,
give me the knowledge to understanding.Everything in the Word is about knowledge and
understanding, right, because I readingearlier in Jeremiah when he said, give
you pastors after his own heart,that shall feed you with the knowledge and

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understanding. Which one to say aboutthat? To tap into the knowledge of
understanding, knowledge of understanding is saidobjective. It's about the faith, okay,
because your knowledge and my knowledge isdifferent. For example, I believe
that angels are aliens, ding dingding ding Ding. Angels are not of

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this world. Are aliens of thisworld? No angels are aliens, So
there you go, another little tippitof planet feed while we're aliens. But
AnyWho, my understanding of the Bibleand your understanding of the Bible might be
a little bit different. So whenyou talk about knowledge the wisdom, there's

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things that wisdom and knowledge that Godgives people that other people will deny.
So that's why I say it's subjective. But one thing that will be consistent
is the blood of Jesus is infaith. You gonna feel it if it's
right, you gonna feel it ifit's wrong, because God not gonna let

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you walk off. Even when Iwalked off, I I was feeling it,
but I was just walking. Okay. One thing that's consistent is faith
that will give you the knowledge andwisdom. I pray for this when I
went through my job season. Okay, so listen my prayer. I was
getting what I wanted, but Iwasn't because I was getting all the superficial

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things, but all the things thatmattered. The best friend that's supposed to
be there since day one wasn't bestfriend. I seen demon in my boyfriend's
faces, real demons. I hada demon on my neck, physically a
demon on my neck, praying inthe pits of hell, just thinking I'm
making a positive impact and had missedthe day of church tithing, nothing like

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that. But you can see iton me. It's wearing on me.
All this stuff, all this youthfulnessis new. I didn't even have an
eyebrow at one point. So let'sjust be clear that this is faith talking
now. But I prayed for thisbecause one thing is is if God was
gonna make the leader that I prayedto be, I had to go through

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hell because there's no way I cantouch the people who he want me to
touch. There's no way. There'sno way. There's no way a church
lady would a swoop in some someskint old hills is gonna go into somewhere
where they rapping and they smoking weedand doing all of that, and be
able to get them the church.That's where I met my Bible study leader.

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So I knew I was in theright place to serve, but I
was in danger because where I'm serving, I can get lost. So God
had to take me through some thingsto be able to pull them in.
There's no way, So judge mefor my scars. They be because the
people who I saved need to besaved. You know what It's all about

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the realness, and I appreciate youfor that, you know, just being
yourself. They say transparency, butwe like about it, you being yourself.
That's what people see. Even ifStripter tells us we're in the world,
we're not of the world, youknow, being the alien. Of
course, Yeah, I'm in theworld, but I'm not of the world,
which I don't move and operate howthe world moves and operate. I

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move and operate in a whole differentlevel. Even he said, my way
is not your ways, my thoughtsand like you're oh, so that whole
level that ailing experience and how canindividuals ain't know? What if you?
I do believe that people wants tobe free, and we know that starts
here, you know, bound downin a mental prison. We could be

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walking around physically free, but stilllocked up in that mental prison. What
you say about that, it's notIt's gonna take more than you to get
out of it, and you're gonnahave to believe you're you're the weakest link.
That's when the hum humility comes in. That's when you go into the
wilderness. Because it wasn't until II looked at myself and I was like,

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I shouldn't be doing this or peopleare, and I had to humble
myself. Even now, I cantell y'all my weak link is how much
I care for people. I amone of the firms, I am one
of the meanings, but people comearound because I genuinely care. I am
very, very highly influenced by thepeople who I keep close to, me,

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so I don't keep people close tome abandonment issues right because I'm highly
influenced them. So most of thetime, when for example, if I
like somebody, I might be readyto marry him in two weeks and guy's
like nope. But I got todeny myself because if not, I'll get
off a purpose or it's chasing money. When I lost, I've come from

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privilege. Okay, my mama setme up right. You know, I'm
from Houston, but I'm good hood, good, good Okay, So like
my mama set me up right.So when it comes to being mentally free,
you got free yourself of yourself becauseyou're spoiled to some things that you

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don't even know that's holding you back. Caring for somebody shouldn't hold you back,
but it will. Doing the thingsthat your parents taught you shouldn't hold
you back, but it will.Because if I talk to my mama is
in a corporate environment, I cannottalk to people how my mama talk to
people, period And I had tolearn that and I lost playing friends,

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business partners and everything. But Iwasn't free until I was like, I
want to be this instead of saying, oh, it's them that takes a
lot of prayer, and not justprayer for it to be free, but
prayer God changed me. Prayer,God make it to where I like it.
I like what you have. Iam okay with these things, because

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you won't be so in order tobe free, be okay with the things
that you're not okay with, orbe not okay with the things that you
are okay with, right because weknow not I had not been the ad
before. I had not, butI know when they show commercials or they
just tell people meant you have aproblem, and aa, it's like you

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have to that's the first step ofrecovery. It's a meeting you have a
problem, and that's something we haveto do. We have to admit where
we at, how we want toget out of it. That's all freedom,
and that's all we're gonna get abreakthrough. But if we don't,
if we don't confess to it orwere ment to the hey I need help,
we're still gonna be in that runt. We're still gonna be in that

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hell. We're still gonna be inthat willingness. Like you said, humble
yourself. And that's really coming backto humbl I say say, you know
what, Hey, this ain't working. It's happen to me. Made some
changes, and I need to helpthem make these changes. It's all about
growing, evolving and helping each other. Being a being, an inspiration for
each other, hold each other accountable, inspire each other, motivate each other,

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but hold each other accountable that wecan make this thing word like,
Hey, you're not by yourself,You're not in this alone. I'm ryan
with you, walking with you,be there for you, be there for
each other, iron sharping iron right. So we have to sharpen each other.
And it's a lot that we don'tknow. I don't know everything.
I know you don't because it comesto growing every day. So we still
learning. And I love this thisit's quote that that a man back in

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my hometown because Richally, I'm fromAlabama, from Mobile, Alabama. Shocked
in my hometown of Mobile. I'vebeen living here in the DF dove for
three years and I remember years agothis man he told his son, I'm
not a grown man. I'm sowhen he told his son that he's telling
his son, hey son, I'mgrowing, I'm I'm not having mastic wrong.

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You have grown. You think youknow it all. Now I'm still
growing. And that's how anop poltedmy own life fee that, Hey,
I'm a growing man because I'm goingto learn something right out of the show.
I'm going to learn something different.You know what I'm saying. You
show me some different you know whatI'm saying. Well, it's when you

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look at the Bible. When youlook at the Bible, right, and
you're studying the Bible, right.So some people use Bible as a tool,
as a sward or as a protector. Some people use the Bible from
a place of healing. Some peopleuse the Bible from a place of wisdom
learning what's going on in the world. But when you look at the Bible

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as a whole, it is ultimatelya guide in all of those people's lives.
So when you say the first stepto admit, that's the first step
of salvation as well. Right,And then once you start confessing and things,
you are safe. So when youlook at anything in your life where

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you're trying to grow to something better, there will probably be a step where
you admit, believe, or confessyour abcs to salvation. Because the Bible
is a guide on how to liveyour life and how to actually be successful.
So it's not just like Jesus repeatedhis lessons over and over again.

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He didn't do things just once.He had to say things multiple times.
You have to show them multiple times. You will have to apply a lesson
multiple times. The lesson of growthis in the lesson of salvation. Because
Jesus is a bridge. So inorder to get from one place to the
other, you need to say inJesus' name, right, So in order

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to get from here to there,at minute, I believe, confess,
become saved. Jesus is the bloodto get you to the other side.
You want to grow, Admit youhave a problem, believe that you can
get over it, and confess thatyou will get there. Right you start
to manifest. You only think forward, you never think backward. Okay,

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the only one, the most infamousperson who looked back turned into salt.
So just you look forward instead oflooking back, go over the bridge.
Yeah, I mean, that's whywe have a real view mirror. For
the very viror was behind us andwe look forward, you know, we

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get so called looking at real mirrorwas behind us instead of what's going on
before us. I like how youput that, that's very awesome. On
how you said, and then whatyou were talking. It was going to
a saying but all like getting getunderstanding, and you said, it's some
very very important be that. Thisis not a one and done thing.
It's not just oh God got it, boom, that's it. No,

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this is ongoing and it's something thatwe have to go over and over and
over and over and over again tillwe get away and bid it in our
subconscious mind because everything be and youknow this everything's But then it's not.
It's not the out of it's notout here. You know, we want
to look for out here. It'slike, no, it's in here.

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We have to put it out ofit. It's already in us in my
own opinions. Up. We haveto put it out of us cause we're
seeking for answers from here here hereon our side. Oh, I'm going
and I gotta get the the money, clothes and status. But then you
steal empty on the inside. You'restill not happy with yourself. You know,

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I gotta do these to please people. Okay, you know here it
is, but guys, tell theother guys. Man you want to get
the woman get into the gym.Even the woman your money up, get
you got buy nice clothes. Nowyou're doing it for other people. But
if you want the nice body,you should do it to be healthy.
You do it for yourself. Wewant the nice clothes, you do it
for yourself. You want the money, you do it for yourself. We

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just do things for other people.So let's say you're doing all this for
a person that you think you're gonnaget, but then that person tell you
know, so you're gonna stop doingall that. So while you're doing it
to please people, and that's whatpeople they do stuff to please people.
I gotta look like this in orderto get what I want and just being
yourself, loving yourself, finding yourself, doing your work, knowing your value.

(33:38):
And we all are working the making. I'll be I'm still gonna be
a working of making and the thingthebody else. I love the process via
I really do, because I'm learningas I grow, as I'm to learn
who Firman is working on firming becausethe focal point is getting firm. What
he needs to be was ongoing isit don't stop. But I'm having fun

(34:00):
with the process. We say aboutthe process, so two things. One
I want to say when you weresaying that things have to happen multiple times,
I want to tell people that's thecue to give yourself grace when you

(34:21):
mess up, and to forgive somebodyelse too. That doesn't mean that you
have to mess with them anymore.But as far as forgiving, being mad,
cizzing them out, doing all that, just don't do it because people
gotta learned and you will be alesson. Okay, moving on. As
far as the process and like it'sstarting within, that's a definite. When

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you're talking about like wanting to bea person, the people please their syndrome.
That's when I got lost in thepits of hell because people, of
course with telling me I could bethings that I was good at, but
it was just spreading me out tothen then it became a paper chase.
So you know, like people pleasingcan lead you down the wrong path.

(35:12):
That doesn't mean they're giving you badadvice. That just means that it's not
aligned to you. And taking thatback is when you become yourself because then
you can say, for example,modeling, I don't do modeling anymore.
I will model. You know whatI'm saying If you on pay, I'm
gonna play baby. But as faras like anything else, like I modeling.

(35:38):
To me when I did this photoshoot with infinite soul, when I
did that, that's just like yougoing to the basketball court. You know.
I've been modeling for the past tenyears. So if I can go
and get a shoot in, that'sa stress reliever for me. That's my
domain. You know, it's notanything. But I had to stop listening

(35:59):
to people, well, you shouldbe a model, you should be a
model, you should be a model. You should be a model. Are
they wrong? No, But that'snot my purpose. But in modeling now,
when I mentor kids, I givethem photo shoots for confidence. See
why I had to do that though, So the process does start within,

(36:21):
you know, and sometimes give thatgrace to be able to switch. Don't
feel like you're a failure, butbe able to edit yourself, you know.
And the next thing is, sir, sometimes you do have to know
what type of person you want tobe, the type of person you need
to be. Don't let nobody,Yes, don't do nothing for anybody else

(36:45):
if you want to. But ifyou want a high class man, don't
be a low class girl. That'sjust on period. If you think like
me, I can't walk around hereanything. If I want the head honcho,
I gotta be somebody that the headjoke don't want. And not only
that, why would I want thehair haunch unless I want to be head

(37:06):
haunches? Is that a hurt?You know? No, Like, there's
no man that's gonna get my hairdone unless I show that I like it
done. I'm not gonna rely onhim. I like my hair, my
nails. Okay, you can getmy nails done because sometimes, but I'm
gonna keep them done because I wanthim to be able to see that same

(37:27):
thing. For a woman, whywould you want woman that takes care of
herself but you're always sitting on thecouch, then she definitely definitely using you
for your money. Is that whatyou want? If you cool with that,
and y'all evenly yoked, and that'sy'all relationship. But as far as
you have to find the balance ofpeople pleasing and being the type of person

(37:47):
you want to be, because Idon't lean on either, I will be
somebody for you. That's called compromise. But at the end of the day,
I'm gonna I sit like this andI said, you know why you
you talk to me. You talkto me because I got some sense that's
why you talk to me. AndI present myself that way because I like

(38:08):
opportunities like this instead of being avideo fixer, because I've been down that
path, you know. I like. That's why life V I have like
interviews you on the show because youbring for a positivity and it's full of
energy and it's full of life,and to inspire other individuals who see this
and say, no, I seehow this young lady is walking up right,

(38:30):
You're walking with your head up,how you you know your chest out,
being bold, and that's a goodthing to come to. Start within
everything. Start with self first andbeing who you want to be, you
know, having that standard, havingno more, having no values, and
putting ourselves together. You know what, you become a better man. You're

(38:51):
joining a better woman. You knowwhat I'm saying. Everything start with self
knowing what you want. One.I don't deal with toss of females.
I'm just being honest with you.I don't need no it in my life.
That's zero. That's zero tolerance tome. Some guys like that that's
cool, but me now, it'sall about peace, working together. I
believe in having a successful relationship.I don't believe in having a successful marriage,

(39:14):
which I'm not none of those things, but I do believe that those
deeds are possible because we in theworld. Now, what people dictating society
tell me. I said, well, if you're in a relationship, you're
gonna have ups and down the arguments. Now that's toxic because that's what they
were taught and that's what they bigconditioned. But we can have a conversation.

(39:34):
Who gotta hoop and holler at eachother? Who said that? That's
not normal? In my opinion,we can sit down as mature those and
talk going to what to say?How can any two walk together except they
agree? So in order for usto make this thing work, we have
to be on the same page inorder for it to be successful. That's
what I have to say on that. And like I said, create your

(39:57):
own world. You know what I'msaying. So you know it's what you
want in your world, right,So anything that's not lined up within my
universe cannot grow there. What doyou want to say about that? Remember
the person across from you who youdon't like, what they're doing is not
going to accept your opinion. Sowhen you decide to walk away. For

(40:20):
example, for me, oh,Bible basic instructions before leaving Earth. I
like that, the education of thefields. So I like all the integrants.
I love those, But I feellike when it comes to dating and
relationships and it comes to coming togetherand the arguing and the toxicity and the

(40:49):
things like that, communication is key, right. You can't force somebody to
do something. That's why I said, the person on the other end is
not gonna like it. Me.I'm a model, so I'm a model,
and a CEO no longer a model, So now I have to when

(41:09):
men come. Old men that comethink that I'm like on this whole sexy,
freaky kind of thing. That's notreally true. Nothing. What I
do for my men and what Ido for my friend are two different things.
You know, Like, no,it's not that's not what's happening.

(41:30):
But they really just get with mefor my looks. They don't come to
they don't do nothing but come tomy house after dark. They will promise
things during the day. But Idon't think a man has ever came to
church with me. I don't thinklike for example, like going on dates
and things like that. I don'tthink I spent a day and that's because

(41:52):
I have a big community. Right, So now you got a question my
sleeping with these people that's around me. And when I'm a model, do
I have these moral standards? Canyou show me to mom things like that?
Little do you know? I holda whole job, a mentorship program,

(42:13):
I have all of these certifications andI carry myself very well. They
just treat me like the old meetand I refuse to stand on that.
But I cannot change that from aman. So for me to argue with
him is not going to be thething if they're showing me that they don't
want to be with me, orif they're not communicating. So like,

(42:36):
another thing about me is that peoplepleasing goes to my man Like I'm like,
when I got him, that's that'sbood. But he like things like
that, so it's very easy.I don't feel this whole thing playing hard
to get things like that. Ifeel like we should be able to communicate
and things like that. How youstart is how you finished. I don't

(42:59):
want and start playing hard to getbecause I'm not that type of person.
I want my best friend there.I want us to be able to spend
days when I'm doing photography or anythingelse, you can come and chill with
me. You can come to photoshoots. Everything like it shouldn't be you
got too much to do, ora communication break because you got something going

(43:21):
on. Like you said, I'mnot gonna argue with you neither if I'm
doing those things. Just like somebody, he just felt like he should come
back in my life and I wasnot communicating with him. He's telling me
I got bad communication. I expectthat from him. I'm not gonna argue
because my intent is not to beright or to make him feel bad.

(43:46):
I had bad communication because I wasn'tinterested. So I told him that and
he can do with that what hepleases. But my thing about toxicity is
when the other person don't accept it, you don't become toxic. And you
know, some people, I don'tsay some people individuals think you're supposed to

(44:08):
put your life on hold because ofany of your life. Like I said,
you got a lot of great thingsgoing which when you have a life,
and that's something they have to respect. Okay, Before I I came
in the picture, you was doingfor that and by all means continue doing
that because that lets you know youare a responsible women. And some people

(44:29):
they think they just have to puttheir people into visuals, then they have
to put their life on hold becausemy end of their life. I'm like
me, I'm I'm not in arelationship, but I know that whoever I
get a relationship with, they knowI have what show I have to do
every Tuesday. I have sure haveto do every wings. They have doing
show every every Saturday. I wasdoing this before you came into the picture,

(44:52):
and that's something you have to alwaysrespect that. I see a lot
of people that shut everything down bejust to please. I'm one of them.
I did, and I ended upin an abusive relationship, so I
shut things down. And I mean, that's why we're saying this. It's

(45:13):
one of those things like they haveto be able to move now, counsel.
If you're doing too much, forreal, then you're doing too much.
But as far as like just beingable to chill people work at home,
like you should be able to checkyour email, not too much.
We're not talking extremes, but I'mjust talking living life together because we are

(45:37):
adults, so it's going to beliving life together if you're not doing that.
In my case, a lot ofpeople don't live like I go and
do everything preparing for this by myself, nervous, nobody call, no prayer,
no nothing independent. But if Iwas to call and be like,
oh, come over here, let'swatch some Netflix real quick. I just

(46:00):
wrapped up, They're gonna be like, how did it go? I can
be on my way in twenty minutes? What about life? So? What
about this? What about that?And right now? What ends up happening
is when you go from your oldlife to your new life. Because I'm
transitioning, people who I might havebeen intimate with before, I'm no longer

(46:23):
intimate with because I'm valuing myself,which makes them not even want to come
around. And then I have todeal with that rejection by myself, you
know. So like as a woman, that's one thing, but men go
through that too. When men don'twant to you know, they're just trying
to focus on work. For women, it's emotional. For men, it's

(46:46):
work. So when they're trying tofocus on something, they just need somebody
there. You know, that personnot there because now you're too busy as
long as you come out of itis cool. But like you know,
there's things. So also with mejust being a Christian woman, like,

(47:06):
it's gotta be somebody who can leadme the correct way. I can't be
led in a negative way. Ihave to watch what goes in my ear.
I'm also got people who look upto me, so the man who
leads me has to be of acertain caliber or I cannot let it happen.
I have to stay single because Iam highly impressionable and I will give

(47:29):
it up. So my man needsto have me selflessly in front, because
I'm gonna put himselfless and night infront. You know, I'm gonna be
there no matter what. I'm gonnacompromise. I've shown that receipts everything.
So I'm picky about my men andthat's okay. And my advice to women

(47:51):
who are going through that process ormen, the person on the other line
is not ever gonna like it,and you're not either, because you're gonna
like them. Yeah, because it'sall by character, you know, get
past how they phyzy look, youknow, and that's what we get caught
up in. No, I'm sorryyou got well, I say that I

(48:14):
got No, IM not saying youlower your standards. But it's all about
character of the individual. That's whyI want to get that, because it's
all about I'm looking at legacy.That's why I'm looking at I don't want
to be anybody who attornish my legacy. You know what I'm saying is that
as a woman, you are arepresentation of the man. And I don't

(48:37):
care how much you don't like,how much you like it or not.
Somebody will look at you and belike, oh her, dude, sorry,
and they'll still want to be withit, work with you. But
if they look at this man andhis woman and his kids and his households
all out of whack, no,you are a representation of him. I
got my life together because I wanta man that I represent as a higher

(49:00):
level. And no, I don'tjust do it for the man because girls
like to do this on her own. I told you photo shoots are therapy.
Has to be higher, you know. Well, that's all about being
keen, you know, And that'swhat it's all about. Being keen.
Roorty, you tell these dings yourself, you know what I'm saying. So

(49:23):
that's how I look at King ruler. You know what I'm saying all the
other stuff that I tell myself allthe time, because that's what's all about
it. And it started with mefirst, cause I love me, I
respect me, and I cherish meand honor me. So you take care
of yourself, you'll better take careof your mate. It's well because you

(49:44):
learn how to master take care ofyourself first. I can't be with you,
but I can't take care of myself. That's that's that's insane. They
don't look right, that's not good, Like you said, reputation himself,
because if you step out look atany kind of way, they're not gonna
look at you. They gonna lookat your guy. He go say why
he let us step out looking likethat, or vice versa. So it

(50:06):
always been like that. They don'tlook at you. They look at the
person with like why you lie tostep out like that? You don't you
know what I'm saying. So weknow that it does happen. It's reality,
and you can't get away that yourattitude. There's nowhere in the Bible
where Jesus denied the real situation.There's nowhere like reality is reality, you

(50:35):
know, like that's it like,you can't change it if somebody if if
somebody's judging you, you can't say, don't judge me and then get mad.
How can I How can I getmad at you? I know I'm
being judged. That's why I steppedout like this. I know that that's

(50:58):
that's the way of the world.You eat with your eyes first. Then
when I speak, I speak life, because then you're gonna hear what I
have to say, and by thatyou're gonna judge me. If I my
first sentence, that's the end ofthe judgment. I ain't got nothing else.
If I come out a certain attitude, then it's not gonna work.

(51:21):
Shout out to tendrils and twigs whodo my hair, because we live by
that. We live by that professionalism. When it comes to professionalism, that's
one of the most professional salons,and you will be judged if you if
you're trying to work there. Sheshe loves high class. You go through,

(51:42):
you talk to people. She actuallyworks in the community, so she
puts you in the community to seeif you can. Like, there's all
types of people who want their hairdone, and you cannot have an attitude
with any of them. You're beingjudged every step of the way. So
if you go to a job interviewand they tell you that you're not qualified,

(52:04):
you can't cut them out. Youwill go crazy. If the guy
don't like you, he don't likeyou. If the girl don't like you,
she don't like you. You tryto hold on, they gonna treat
you bad. Then whose part isit? Yeah, start with self first,
gonna start myself first. You gottaknow y'all know who you are going
to Another quick commercial break and we'llbe right back with the ailieness Spirits.

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four. You know what, Ilove me, V, I love me,
I love I love the man whowant mother coming. It's all about
doing store and everything is right andhaving fun. It's all about living V.
It's all about choosing to be happy, choosing to have joy peace no
matter what's going on the outside world. But you know in your world it's

(53:57):
always gonna be peace and in thesame time we learn it. So that's
what I love about it. Sohow can we support you in the work
that you're doing and all the greatstuff that you're putting out in the universe.
Okay, so we are in ourcoming of age stage. You can
call us in an ice age stage, because you know things are real,

(54:21):
but Memis is frozen, but thenthey're thawing out. Yeah, we're working
on the eras of the planet.Don't worry about it. Aliens we need
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That's Honeybee, like the insect underscoreb if y'all have. We are
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and youth around the DFW. Rightnow, I have about five girls and

(55:08):
I work with Living the Vision Foundation, which is a five h one C
three who goes around schools giving presentationslike Dress for Success, doing a lot
of black owned business things. Iwould like to also give classes and things
outside of there. So if youmessage me in any way that you would

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creatives that's willing to work with thekids because they need confidence. They don't
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in the education system. Your blospanokomia studiandz yes. I also can speak

(56:38):
Spanish if it comes to school.So I like to work with kids who
can tell me where it hurts andwho are potty trained. Okay for the
most part, if they're fifth gradingup, fifth grading up, fifth grade
enough, my actual mentee is twentytwo. I'll take ten and up double

(57:00):
digits. Yeah, movie and awesomestuff. I said, if you do
a lot of great things, andI'm glad you came on the show to
let us know who you are andyou invite us into this experience. Of
course, and of course I'm aspent for of your time, of course,

(57:22):
and I'm not gonna hold you avery predective woman doing stordinary things.
So what words of advice, whatsounds of wisdom that you're gonna leave here
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God first, that's first. Secondlyis love yourself. Go by your
walk by faith, not by sight. So that is just more than what
you do. That's how you praise, that's how you go about your day.
So walk by faith. If youneed advice, walk by faith first,

(58:06):
and then God will shure somebody into give it to you if you
need to hear it from the world. Always be you a man. And
also stuff, So ladies, leavethis thing. I'll be back in the
morning at ten am on another show. Matter of fact, pulling two shows,

(58:29):
so I'll be doing the show tenam in the morning, and I'm
gonna come back and do a showat seven pm wednesdaynight. And also,
ladies and gentlemen, you know Igot all my comfort zone for the old
we would never do this, butI'm loving the new meal course. I'll
be doing a very special episode Thursdaymorning at ten am. Well also,
well I'll be back here Saturday morningat ten. So it's all about building

(58:52):
growing to Walk in This Way podcast. You see, I have a storing
their individual on the show, justas video course. So thank god I
got a chance to come across herpath and all the other great stuff.
But no, lads, gentlemen,we got the thing. If you have
anything else you want to leave whoyou're at lead tonight. Man, I
just want to shout out to aliensin the chat. We are about mentorship,
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(59:15):
in the room. If you didn'tknow, aliens are real. Baby,
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that what's all about, man,It's about being yourself having fun.

(59:37):
But you know what, we gotthis thing man, and y'all have a
great night. And like I said, I'll be back here Saturday morning here
on the Walk in This Way ImpactBoys Podcast. Peace everybody,