You Can Overcome Anything: Ep 295 - Love and Forgive – Alia Yasmin Khan - You Can Overcome Anything! Podcast Show

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is you Know Hellother? And welcomeback to another episode of You Can Recoming
It in pardcast show. It isyour host Caesar Espinom and today I have

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a special guest. Her name isAlijah Jasmine Ken. She has over twenty
years of experience in business management,mindset coaching, and thought leadership. She
has held multi million dollar businesses andthousands of clients achieved their goals. Aliyah
imagines a world where pain and sufferingcan be dramatically reduced by people understanding the

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power of their mind and how touse it effectively. After four years of
trials to perfect the Intuitive Ascended Mindprogram, in twenty twenty two, she
founded Supply Knowledge, a mindset coachingcompany in Phoenix, Arizona. Hey,
Eliah, how are you today?I'm great. How are you doing?
I'm doing good. I'm doing good. Thank you for being here. So

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tell me a little bit more aboutyou, and let's go back in time.
Tell me where you're originally from andhow is your upbringing. A few
of my years were spent in Florida, but the majority we were seven.
I was seven when we moved toNew York. I think I started like
second grade in New York and somost of my childhood was in New York

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City. I grew up in Queensand you know, through the majority of
my childhood, I had an abundanceof challenges, you know, emotionally,
and I had a difficult time processingsome of those challenges. And I think
that's what built me as strong emotionallyas I am, and being able to

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disconnect and overcome those challenges. Andwhen I say disconnect, accepting the feelings
and emotions, but being able torewire myself so that I could succeed so
that I could move forward and notdrag through with a ton of baggage.
So that's you know, that's prettymuch been my path for the most part.

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You know. I lost my dadwhen I was eleven, and going
through that process was very traumatic andI didn't know how to process that,
and I think that spun me intolike a realm of depression through sort of
my teenage years. And it wasdepression that was very hidden, you know,
because I had to be strong,I had to look a certain kind
of way, I had to carrymyself a certain kind of way, and

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that was the expectation, you know, and I tried to sort of balance
that, and it was very challengingin my teenage years. And as I
got older, I connected with someonethat actually helped me through the auditing process
and they taught me about the reactivemind of the analytical mind. And I

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mean I was nineteen or twenty,but that changed my life. Just understanding
those the duality of the mind.It was the biggest game changer. And
you know, my life would thengo the path that I would set intentions
for it to go. And butI still was an unconscious competence at that
point still because I wasn't really makingthese choices all together consciously. I'm back

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in twenty eighteen. I was twentyseventeen. Twenty eighteen, a huge challenge
came along. My mom got reallysick and the doctor said, you know
what, she doesn't have much longer. And I literally left my career,
like my business world behind and dedicatedtime just to taking care of her.
And in the process of doing that, I learned so much about myself and

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so much about her, and somuch about life in that process, because
meditation became the way that I wouldcenter myself from dealing with the stress because
she was on oxygen, so everytime I would be around her, it
felt like a life or death situation, and it felt like I was the

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one in control of whether or notshe was going to make it or not,
you know. And it's a falsesense of feeling, because ultimately,
you know, her life is hersversus mine. But it's that's that feeling
of panic that would reside within youif you know, if something wasn't done
or wasn't done correctly, or youknow, she she wasn't able to breathe

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properly or something. So I wouldgo through my daily practice of feeling that
level of like anxiety and panic,and you know, I would get home
and I would just meditate to getmyself back to a state of peace and
calm. And one night back intwenty eighteen, I had a completely kind

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of story moment where I was Iknew about asking mentally enabling questions. So
I went to bed with the notbed, but went to like meditation process
with the idea in my head.And over the course of the next six
months, so much information would floodto me that I started to build the

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Intuitive Ascending Mind program and I teachpeople to ask these mentally enabling questions because
today I know that asking the rightquestions made the difference in my life.
You always, your subconscious mind isseeking to answer those questions when you ask
the right questions. So it's aboutasking the questions, what am I supposed

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to do next? Who am Isupposed to become? How do I deal
with this challenging situation. Asking theright questions in a positive manner really fed
me the majority of the Intuitive AscendingMind program, and the program really it
goes through levels of conscious consciousness,our mental faculties, and really deep diving

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to understand how it works, andthen finally into the duality practice because every
day in our everyday life, weexperience duality, like we know if cold
to put a sweater on, right, it's simple, right, or adjust
the temperature, whatever it is.But in the mind, if we're experiencing

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confusion or chaos, we don't knowhow to bring clarity and calmness back to
the mind. So it's taking theduality that you see in the physical world,
but then applying it into the mentalworld. Because when you get into
the mind and you understand if themajority of you is dealing with fear every
day, then you don't have enoughfaith. It's a dualistic balance, you

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know. So that's basically you know, that's the information I share with people.
That's the foundation of the coaching,and I can take the same you
know, the same teachings of thatand attach it onto building a goal,
a goal of just perfecting their differentareas of your life. So as I

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build a goal, I build agoal in love. Because when I speak
of love, I'm really speaking ofunderstanding mental love, so you're choosing the
right thoughts. I'm speaking of understandingphysical love, so you love the physical
being that you are just unique,however God made you so be it.
Then when I when I speak ofthen you're you're equipped to to deal with

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relationship love. Then you're equipped todeal with your family dynamics and and things
of that nature. And then youknow, we do coaching in terms of
health, and a healthy mind choosesthe right thoughts to think. A healthy
mind thinks of ways. A healthymind really understands the feelings that are that

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are you're experiencing in the body.You have an open sense of awareness with
a healthier mind, and of coursea healthy body exercise, drink water,
you know, all the fundamentals thatwe know. And then wealth is also
a key area. I think alot of people they have a misconception about
wealth. They have this kind ofgreat state of mind, and it's really

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not about It's about taking care ofothers and being financially responsible and being able
to take care of yourself as wellas others. And I think that's really
where I helped to guide people tounderstand. And when it comes to like
career, you know, understanding yourcareer path that is built for you.

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You know, I listened to allyour podcasts and like you know, seeing
this is your career path. Youknow, it's amazing because I could just
hear and feel and sense that you'rein your element as you're doing it,
and it's a beautiful thing to see. Yeah, No, definitely, thank
you. Talking about the two differentexperiences that you had, were you know,

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that passed away and and you wentto that deep depression right and and
kind of dealt with them, andthen your month passed away and you didn't
have you know, you didn't reallygo into that depression. That's kind of
what you teach now. And well, obviously you know you're eleven when your
dad passed away and then you're anadult when your mom passed away. I
know that that the difference there.It still kind of goes back though,

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to that mental state of mind,right, So talk about that difference because
I think that's huge, you know, the fact that you're able to well
they were both currently important, criticallyimportant. You dealt with them differently because
of the things that you know orthe practices that you put in play.
So talk a little bit about thatbecause I think that's huge. So what

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I've discovered with the duality that's involvedin that, right one was a sudden
death, and the other one wasI had get I guess a little bit
more time to think gradually. Right. Yeah. So so with the first
that I literally when the doctor toldme that I was going to lose my

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mom, and I mean I knewshe was up there in age. But
I came home and I asked myself, I reflected back on when my dad
passed away, and I asked myself, Aliah, what would you have done
differently? More? I love youmore, I forgive you more, more
compassion for everything. You know.At eleven, it was daddy, I

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want this, Daddy, I wantthat selfish right, me just being me.
But I'm eleven, so I'm nothard on myself. But it's just
the understanding. The emotional development hadnot occurred there. So even though I
was at that midway point, itwas still something that I reflected upon because

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I was like, well, didI say I love you to him the
last time I spoke to him onthe phone, And I remember the last
conversation. So with my mom,it was the utmost level of compassion.
There was nothing that she couldn't callme and asked me for, and I
wouldn't run and do and I meannot even like walk and do, I
mean run and do like I quitthe job, I left the career.
I didn't even worry about anything financially. I just kind of like said,

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you know what, this is mytime with her and I'm going to figure
it out along the way. AndI did. And it was the forgiveness,
the love, everything. The lastwords that she ever like said to
me in the hospital the last timeI saw her was I love you baby.

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And that was like, that wasthe most amazing feeling, you know,
to have that experience with her andknow that it was genuine and know
that it was sincere, and knowthat it was just so meaningful, And
a lot of people missed that opportunity. They don't get to have that type
of experience. And the other thingthat I think was a huge difference is

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that when I was eleven, itwas poor me, this happened to me,
right, and then at this pointit's like, oh, this happened
for me to be able to expressas much love as possible to her.
This happened for me to be ableto forgive her. This happened for me
to be able to transition and growand understand that that is a given we

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take that for granted, but it'sa given we're all going to experience it.
Yeah, And the people that wehold close to us, we don't
live in that unconditional loving space withthem. A lot of times there's conditions
attached to the love. So it'syou did this for me, then then
I'm going to give you this oryou do that. It's a bartering of

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some sort when it comes to love, and love is really not about that.
It's really the most self. Loveis what will allow you to understand
how to love others. I guessit really starts with the self first and
foremost. Yeah, I think there'sa couple of lessons there. And definitely

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as we get older, we gotto be able to recognize that. And
you kind of said it right,you know again, at an early age,
we're more you know, selfish andit's all about me, me,
mem right. Except even so aswe're growing up, we tend to do
that too. We tend to justbe in that space. And so I
think the lesson there is, youknow, we got to be more compassion,

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especially on those that we really careabout and love. Right, And
and then like you said it,even yourself, like we're so easily judgmental
to ourselves and tend to talk downto ourselves when really we shouldn't be that
way. Right. The second thingI think is huge there is that you
know, in an instance like that, we always got to be able to
be prepared to show our emotions tothe people that we really care about and

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and be able to give them thathuger or be able to say I love
you, because you just never know. I say this a lot in my
show, is that we're here todayand we're going tomorrow, and we just
never know when that's gonna be,and so we got to be able to
do more of that. And thenthe last thing that I would say to
this is that you said something aboutthe mind, which I think is huge
and I want to definitely die intothat is that it reminds me of the

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African problem that says, when there'sno enemy within, there's no enemy outside
that can do you no harm,right, and so meaning that if there's
no there's nothing going on in yourhead and you know, then then really
doesn't matter what's happening on the outsidebecause you're good with yourself. With your
mind, I forget who it was, and it was probably less brown or
something. It said, the biggestword that's taking place right now is not

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the one in the Middle East orsomething in a different country. The biggest
word that's that that's going on rightnow is the one between your two years,
whatever's going on in your head.And we're able to understand that,
and we're able to figure out howcan we utilize the mind for our benefit
right to help us. I mean, it's a very powerful tool. You
know. It can either make youor break you. You can make you

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do things that you know you don'twant to do right in a very negative
way, or you can definitely openup doors for you. So we got
to be able to understand that.And so having that said, how do
we you know, tap in orhow can we start you know? And
it's an abundant type of mindset,right, so it's gonna be very difficult.

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I said, how can we starttapping into that one thing that came
to us at no extra cost orborn, which is our mind? I
would start tapping into that and startunderstanding and learning how to this utilize our
mind and our emotions and all ofthat to have a better life. So
one of the things we have tounderstand is that inherently we're wired with fear.

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And this is this is what Thisis the main thing that we just
have to understand. We have toaccept that we're wired with fear. The
fear didn't come from a place ofreal fear. It really came from a
place of love. For the mostpart, for most individuals. I'm really
not talking about people that have gonethrough abuse on a high scale. What

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do I mean by this? Yousee, when we're born, we have
this blank subconscious and we're just feedingthe subconscious. And as we're feeding the
subconscious, mom has a desire toprotect the child at all costs. So
mom's environment is fear because she's afraid. You know, if the child goes
too close to the pool, he'lldrowned, or she'll drowned. Or if

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the child goes to touch a hotstove, you know, mom might yell
at them or they get back fromthat. All of these are while they
are done with love to protect thechild. From the child's wide open subconscious,
they see a dangerous world. Theysee a world that will hurt them

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from a child's perspective. Now,most people do not grow up and dedicate
enough time to working on themselves.They don't. So if you work on
yourself, you can uncover what wasinstilled in childchildhood and what was instilled to

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a wide open subconscious. And whenI say a wide open subconscious, our
subconscious mind is the thing that weare responsible for guarding. We have to
be the gatekeepers for that mind becausethat mind is so precious. It is
our autonomous mind. If we loadall the right programs in there, it
works sufficiently. If we load badprograms in there, we struggle, and

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it creates our physical world. Sowe struggle. So where do we start.
We got to go back and wegot to look at subconscious programs that
we have had installed. And alot of people sometimes memory might fail them
and it's hard to kind of goback and really connect the dots along the
way. But I think one ofthe things that life does that kind of

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like guides us through is that it'llmirror the same situation back at us over
and over and over again. Andanytime that that happens and you see that
it's a different character, but you'reencountering that same type of situation. Maybe
it's betrayal. Somebody's betrayed you,and then you're dealing with betrayal over and
over again. Well, you know, my ex did this, and my

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best friend did this, and allof these people that are close to you
are doing the same thing to you. It's you. It's you that's got
to make that change. It's youthat has the paradigm that's attracting these individuals,
that's causing this to happen over andover again. So, like I
said, it's dissecting, it's understanding, it's you dedicating time to you.

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A lot of people don't care todo that. They go to work and
they'll dedicate time to watch movies,they'll dedicate time to go out with friends
and listen to music, and allof these things are great. I'm not
knocking them, but they won't dedicatetime to get to know themselves. They
won't dedicate time to understand how toshift, how to change, how to

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accomplish more in their life. Theywon't dedicate time to understand why the relationships
are challenged. So it takes time. It takes time, and it takes
working. It takes self reflection.Yeah, for those that are listening to
us, just so that we canget a better understanding what is difference or
the main difference, if you may, between the subconscious or the unconscious mind

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and the conscious mind. Sure,so the conscious mind, like consciously,
I know that I'm having this conversationwith you. Subconsciously, I've already got
this information wired, so I amable to just flow with it, and
it's already wired into my subconscious mindbecause I understand this method of thinking and
I understand what I do. That'sthe difference. Kind of when you get

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into the car. You know,for the first time, you're nervous,
when you're when you're first learning howto drive, Once you do it over
and over again, I mean,I've been driving for how many years Now,
I don't need remember how I getfrom point A to point B because
it's so autonomous that subconsciousness, ourautonomous mind. The first time you tied
shoelaces, you know, versus nowyou just do it without thinking. The

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wiring of the subconscious mind is toput good programs in because when fear based
programs are wired into the subconscious mind, that's where the challenge comes. You
have to be able to extract whatthose fear based programs are and through affirmation
and I have multiple levels that wedo this. We do affirmations. But

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we write, we speak, welisten, We immerse ourselves with all of
our five senses into the experience ofthe change that we're looking to see occur.
And when you can do that consistentlyover and over again, that change
takes becomes the dominant thing in thesubconscious mind. So if it's peace,

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if it's ease and grace, ifit is a harmony, these are all
things to be wired to in thesubconscious mind. Regardless of what wars are
taking place. We know that ourhobio stasis, our body are, our
being is at a level of calmand is able to deal with whatever challenges

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may come along, you know.Yeah, and if I'm add to that,
you know, one of the otherthings, and which we'll talk about
next, is you know, givenwhen we talk about programs, right,
and and the way I also liketo describe it is that the conscious mind
is the critical factor. The waywe were talking thinking the things that we're
doing, that's the critical factor.The unconscious mind is nearly a program,

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right, And so if you putin a negative program, it's just going
to give you that back. It'slike I would like to use this and
it might be a bad analogy,but I'm still gonna use it. It's
like if you if you're if you'rewatching you know, porn or something that
is is that it's going to giveyou that back, right, you know,
you put us back in the daysyou a CD of pouring to your

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computer is going to shoot that backin the stream. Right, It's just
a program or we put an educationalcity in the computer is going to you
know, put that back. Andso when we talk about programs, is
we want to be able to putthe right programs into the unconscious mind.
And the interesting part is that sometimesthough our critical factor, our critical mindset,
well, this doesn't make sense.Why am I going to get up

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every morning in journal? Why amI going to get up every morning and
do affirmations? That doesn't work.Like I've been saying this forever and ever
andever, it doesn't work. Sothe critical factor wants to get in in
the middle of it and and said, that's not a good idea, because
the critical factor is saying to youthat thing that you're trying to do is
not going to work right, Andso let's talk about that. Because I
do believe that the problems are socritical and I know myself. I went

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through a journey a couple of yearsback when I decided to jump jump in
this one hundred percent and I literallychange all my programs and it took some
time to do that to be ableto get to where I'm at now as
something Again, it wasn't easy.So what would you say, are some
of the programs that you know somebodycan initially start doing right now that can

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help them in their life. SoI'll explain exactly what takes place. So
bringing it to that's that's such abig point. But when you have that
part of the mind that's saying no, you can't do that. I spend
a lot of time talking about intellectand ego, and what we don't understand
is what the ego is and howit works and what the ego is.

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The ego is the I Am identitythat we identify ourselves with. And the
second thing that we need to knowabout the ego is the ego has these
wants and these cravings, and theego is trying to protect itself. It
is the first level of mind.So when you go into your subconscious mind,
the first thing you're going to encounteris the ego, and the ego

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is there to protect you, keepyou safe, and make sure that you
don't do you don't disrupt the programs. So the ego is actually the first
thing that we're encountering now. Theego did not develop itself. The best
way I describe ego is a youngchild or a teenager. They know it

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all and they don't see a needto change. That's the ego at work.
Now we go beyond ego and weexplore our mental faculties. We have
our perception and our reasoning. Ourperceptions the way we view the world.
Reasoning is whether we'll accept or rejectan idea. Basically, Then we go

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into the other two mental faculties.We have imagination and memory, and memory
is really where most people live versusimagination. Imagination is really the bridge that
takes us to the future, butmemory is the past that wants to keep
us living there. Now, thenext thing that we look is intuition and

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will. These are all of ourmental faculties. Will is your determination to
do it. Intuition kicks in andlets you know you're on the right path.
It's little things. I don't care. I see intuition all the time,
I might drive up behind a carand it's got a message on it
and I'm like, oh, wellthat applies to my life. There we
go. Intuition's kicking in. It'sthat simple understanding and mastering those mental faculties.

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Then we go one level higher intellect. Intellect chooses. So when the
egos acting up and the ego issaying no, we shouldn't be doing this,
we have this intellectual faculty that chooses. This is our free will that
resides within us, that says,I understand that you want to stay living

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in this state of mind, butyou're not going to because I dominate.
I am the intellect, and I'mchoosing to commit myself to writing these affirmations.
I'm choosing to commit myself to thechange that I want to see in
my life. So it's the intellectthat chooses to manage the ego. And

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then as we're as we're starting thisprocess of getting into learning what the egoic
constructs really look like, which isthe labels that people slap on us.
They're not true to who we are. Right. True to who we are
is we're spiritual beings working our waythrough mind and we have a physical experience

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we're experiencing when we understand that thecolor of the skin, the race,
the ethnicity, all of that fallsaway when we understand that, so none
of the things that the ego getsattached to, like I am this,
I am that, I am fromthis land. These are my people.
We're all people, We're all here, we all have these same faculties,

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we all have a mission. Andif you think of something, you know,
one of the simplest things that Isay is like, look at a
pen. It's it's the most basicthing, but it took probably almost a
million people for it to be created. From the grand creation stage of pen
to right now. The one thingthat I pay that I probably got for
free somewhere that I take for granted, that is so complex that ink has

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to be created and probably a differentcountry, shift maintained, whatever it is,
deliver it on a truck. Youknow, every single player, every
single one of us, we allhave this very valuable position that we hold
in the grand scheme of life ina collective consciousness manner. And I want

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people to understand that about themselves andabout their life, and understand that their
intellect that allows them to choose thoseegoic labels. So if I'm looking to
start a business, I'm a businessowner. If I'm looking to grow whatever
the area is. If I'm depressed, I'm looking to express myself more effectively.

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That everything's not held in the mind. That's really what causes depression.
And when you think about it,it's suppressed emotions and if they're able to
express themselves, then the depression leaves, it lifts, there's nothing to be
depressed to. Yeah, So it'sjust helping people to understand the intellect and

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like I said, the ego,because it's really the main struggles lie with
the egos, beliefs and the egosbehaviors. What results in egoic behaviors.
Yeah, now that's huge and Ithink, I mean, this is a
topic that I know we can goon and on forever, and it's very
interesting because obviotually it's something that againeveryone in some shape or form needs to

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learn how to be able to managein or be able to utilize its gifts
for the better of our owns.Right. One of the things that I
have here in my nose that youmentioned, which we kind of talked about
it, and you mentioned a littlebit but I want to go a little
bit deeper because I do believe thatthere's a bigger meaning on that and we
can impact what happened to us,but we can change how we choose to

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view it, right, And soI want to go into that because I
know a lot of people might begoing through and and and I'm not sure
you're gonna agree with me on this. And nevertheless, you know, maybe
some people went through you know,sexual abuse, or maybe some people went
through drug abuse or or you know, or they were part of a you
know, a group of friends andthen you know, maybe that that friend

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was a good friend and they didthem wrong, like all these different things
that that kind of happened to you, right, or we see it like
that. And one of the thingsthat I that I that I would say
to to that is that is thatas you're saying, is we cannot really
you know, impact what happens tous. Like there's nothing that I can
do if somebody decided under on tosexually abuse me, right, and I

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cannot. And in that example,you know, while I know it's harsh,
and once you're able to get outsideof that is we cannot stay down
on that place and so that's notmy responsibility is not it is not what
happened to me, but it ismy responsibility to do something about it right
and then change that whatever that mightbe. So let's talk about that for
a little bit, because again Ithink that's huge because again there are many

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things that are that might be takingplace in that area. So that's a
big that's absolutely huge, and it'sa big issue that I think a lot
of people really carry around, especiallysomething as impactful as a sexual abuse or
any type of abuse. Here's whatI will say to it. We can

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choose where we're going to put thefocus. Okay, the challenge with putting
the focus. So let's look aton one hundred percent scale. Let's say
eighty percent of your day is focusedon the traumatic situation that happened to you,
and twenty percent of your day isfocused on love, health and wealth,

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on career or whatever. Twenty percent, eighty percent is always going to
dominate your life. And this isthe thing that we have to understand because
where focus goes, energy flows.And we know this. If eighty percent
of your thoughts, your emotions,your actions are in that space, and

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when I say thoughts, emotions,and actions. I really mean, like
you're thinking someone might attack you,You're thinking, you're living in fear,
and your body is physically in fear. You see, thoughts, feelings,
emotions, actions create our attitude.So when we understand how to control thoughts

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and feelings, feelings happens in thebody, thoughts happen in the mind.
So I always I do this.It's mind. I'm talking about your brain,
your thought process. And then herelike the tense, the feeling of
anxiety, the feeling of anger,the feeling of fear, the feeling of
fight or flight, this is happeningin the body. Now, what creates

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our reality is the thoughts plus thefeelings merged together. This is creating.
It's putting a laser focus on whatwe want to see occur in our life.
So imagine if eighty percent of yourday is spent on the victim state
of what happened to you. Now, we can't change it. It's unfortunate
that it happened. And every singleone of us carries a level of baggage

(33:37):
of something that has happened to us. Whether we talk about it or we
don't talk about it, it's stillsomething that we carry. But we can't
change it. It's in the past. We have to acknowledge that we can't
change it. We have to acknowledgethat we have to shift eighty percent of
our day to be put onto thegoals, the things we want to see

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accomplish, the changes that we wantto see happen in our life, and
that changes could be changes in behaviors, changes in having more faith instead of
fear towards the outside world, andrewiring ourselves. So when I flip the
script on individuals that have dealt withsituations like that, I'm flipping the script

(34:20):
on them in such a manner thatI'm saying, Okay, eighty percent.
When I speak immersive experience, Iwant eighty percent of your day focused on
I am strong, I am confident, no one can take advantage of me.
I am me, and I amgoing to be untouchable, and things

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of that nature in which we haveto again go into the mind, and
just like we would adjust the temperaturein physical reality, we have to go
into the mind and adjust the frequencyin the mind from fear, worried about
fear, anxiousness over to a offaith and hopefulness and move the marker in

(35:07):
that space a little bit further,I usually don't like the word hope.
I will share that, but it'smore faith than it is anything else.
And conviction. But that takes wiringbecause it's in the subconscious mind that they're
reliving this situation over and over again. It's memory and imagination. They're not
using imagination enough to create a safeworld for themselves as an adult. They're

(35:30):
using memories from the past that's weighingand trapping them and keeping them from reaching
their full potential. So understanding thatmemory and imagination works exactly the same way.
If I asked you, Caesar,what was the first house you ever
lived and you can give me adetailed explanation about it. And then if
I asked you, what is yournext house going to look like? I'm

(35:52):
sure you've got the sprawling est statesthat you already have built in your imagination.
Now, is eighty percent of youor subconscious mind focused on the sprawling
estate, the beautiful house that youwant to live in, or is eighty
percent focused on the past trauma?Does that make sense now? Yeah?

(36:13):
For sure, Yeah, definitely.And you know again, it's it's not
our fault that something happened to us. But it is our responsibility to do
something about it, right, Andat the end of the day, that's
what it is. It's not ourfault. And the thing is is that
we don't know, we don't havethat level of awareness that we even have
control to do something about it.Right. That's what hurts me the most
about people's experiences is that I wantto say you have all the control in

(36:37):
the world, because you really do. You don't have control over the individuals
that did what they did to you. They're going to be dealt with,
they have They're accountable for whatever theydo from my perspective, mentally, emotionally,
spiritually, they're accountable for it.But you're accountable. If you continue
to give them eighty percent of yourday, then you are you're empowering them

(37:01):
still to do more. For sure. Yeah, why would we do that,
you know, like, why wouldwe want to do that? We
want you to be empowered. Itshould be eighty percent of the life you
want to live, not eighty percentof the harm that was caused to you.
You know. Yeah, let's talkabout your your your coaching so you

(37:22):
actually help people in this in thisarea. Tell me a little bit more
about your coaching program, How doesthat work? And then you know,
is it a case by case basis? Do you do group coaching, do
you individual coaching? Or they're allabout the same length of time. Yep.
So the actual fundamentals of coaching,even though this sounds a little bit

(37:45):
more emotional, can be applied andwas applied for me in a business realm
for years and years and years.And the reason why it's a lot easier
when you apply it to the businessrealm than it is when you're dealing with
a person in their individual their individualor kind of baggage or whatever. But
what I do when we do thecoaching is we do individual sessions. I

(38:08):
love to have clients. Those clients, the one thing I asked them is
to have a goal. Approach mewith a goal, say this is what
I want to do, and Ican guide them along the way and support
them because usually most people don't havethe level of support that they need in
order to get from where they're atto where they want to get to.

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I have very simple systems that work. Repetition is one of them. You
know, we do these behaviors repetitiously. And it's, like I said,
the immersive experience Now, in abusiness perspective, we build goals and we
really help. I think when employeesunderstand the emotional baggage they bring to work,

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they're able to let that baggage fallaway and focus more with a laser
focus when they have the goals beforethem. So these are these are things
that are beneficial in both the corporateworld as well as in your own personal
life. So as we go throughand we build these goals out, it

(39:19):
can be individual or it can begroup coaching, but we build the goal.
Always have to have a goal,and then we set intentions until the
goal is met. So intentions arelittle things that you're going to do every
single day that are going to getyou on track and get you consistently focused
on the goal and bring your mindand attention to the goal so you can

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be living, eating, breeding thegoal you know somewhere in your subconscious mind.
Now, I'm not saying live inthe future you, but you're still
going to live in the present.I don't want to. I want to
make sure that I make this clear, because you're you are going to live
in the present. But instead ofyou reflecting on things of the past,

(40:04):
that energy that you would normally spendon past things that you can't change.
You're now going to shift that energyover to imagination and visioning for the future.
So if I may add, ifI may add something to that.
One of the things that I liketo say is, and I'm not good
at relationships yet, I like tosay this is that make sure that you
don't cheat on your future with yourpast, because a lot of times people

(40:27):
get cut up on that past,and you know, you're essentially on your
own relationship, your own being inthe future. Yeah, yeah, you're
reliving. I mean, they're allthere. It's why this is the thing
about us. We don't realize howmuch other people are programming us. Yeah,
conscious mind and subconscious We walk aroundwith an open subconscious mind like a
child for the most part, andwe don't understand that people, music,

(40:51):
movies, every single thing is iswiring us. And every moment of every
day, you know, you listento I have client and she's working on
a relationship and I said, okay, tell me about like your everyday life,
and she goes, well, Ireally listen to sad country songs all
the time. And I'm like,and you think a relationship is going to

(41:13):
come from the results to doing that. Yeah, you gotta change it.
It's got to be loving country songs. It's okay. You can pick the
loving ones. You don't have tolisten to the sad ones, the breakup
ones, because that's your vibrational energy, feels, that's the space you're living
in. That's the wiring and thesubconscious mind. So the moment something bad

(41:34):
happens in a relationship, you're playingthe sad love song again because you love
the sad love song, you know, And every day I want more and
more people to understand this. It'swhat you're choosing to expose yourself to make
these conscious choices. Don't allow yourmind to stay wide open. Your mind
is governing your physical world. Sowith careful attention to detail, pay attention

(42:04):
to what's going into the mind,you're almost better allowed going nothing in the
mind rather than allowing something negative intothe minds. Yeah, I love that.
I love that. So where canpeople find out more about you?
Connect with you, learn more ablethings you have going on. Sure you
can learn more about Sublime Knowledge.It's going to be a www. Dot

(42:27):
sublime knowledge dot com. If someonewants to, you know, work with
me. Personally. You can visitme at www dot Aliyah Yasmin Khan dot
com and hopefully we can leave thosein the links and and that's the best
way. We've got our social linkson there. We're on Instagram at Sublime

(42:51):
Knowledge, We're on Twitter, We'reon Facebook, so there's there's multiple platforms
to connect. And I do sayandar is on a regular basis. We
post them up on our social mediaevery time we're going to do it.
And it's wonderful to kind of justjust work just a little bit. They're
not even they're not that expensive.I build this program so that it could

(43:13):
be affordable for everybody, because Ithink everybody deserves to have this. I
love that. I love that.Do you have any what are your habits?
I mean, what are the thingsyou do on a day to day
basis? So part of my dailypractices, I'll tell you two big things
that I always do. And thisis a game changer in everybody's life.

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I write my goals at night beforeI get to bed. Okay, I
wake up in the morning, Iwill rewrite my goals and I set intentions
for my day. Now are thosegoals for your like for the next day,
or they can be for a weekout, two weeks now there.
For today, it's in the moment, so it's for today. So we're
living each day and it's in themoment, so for today. And then

(43:59):
I get into the habit of writingintentions about everything, or like mentally intending
something before I approach it. Soa few minutes before I got on here
with you, I said, Okay, what is the what is the message
I need to deliver here? Howcan I help serve others? And it's
I set that intention to provide asmuch information so that I can be of

(44:20):
service to others, even if it'ssomeone just listening to it, just so
that they can have something powerful thatthey take away from this. I set
intentions before I approach everything in life, before I get on the street,
before I drive, whatever it isthat I do. You know my intentions
before I drive. I am safe, I'm protected, I'm a protector of
others. I'm protecting myself. Theseare these are series of affirmations that are

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just wired and again wired into mysubconscious So I'm subconsciously running this program.
So it becomes easy because I've wiredmyself subconsciously. Yeah, I love that
awesome. Two things that came tomine right now, and we kind of
talked about it. Number one isI believe that as you we're talking about,
you know, we're being programmed byall these different elements and things that

(45:02):
are happening, right, And sothere's a lot of a lot of times,
even when we're talking to family membersor people, what I call projective
programs, right, Like, youknow, somebody addressing you and speaking to
you and you agree with whatever theymight be saying. You know, that's
a projective program, right. Andso that's the first thing. The second
that came to mind is that wordsdo matter, and they have a huge

(45:24):
weight and meaning. And so Ibelieve that we also have to be careful
on the words that we choose,because again, anything that we're saying,
whether we're speaking it out or orinto ourselves, we're programming our unconscious mind,
right, And so words do matter. And then one thing that you
say right now, which is Ilove that is it's easy for me,

(45:45):
right. You mentioned that in yoursentence, and and when you say those
things again, the conscious mind issaying, yeah, like this comes you
know, easy to me, andwe were able to do this, and
you're just programming that, which isgood, which is huge. So that's
awesome in terms of in terms ofin terms of you know, things you
have going on and you actually havea lot of experience. My last question

(46:07):
for you is for the people thatare watching us and listening to us,
while you already give us a lotof golden nuggets, if they're going through
any challenge, whatever challenge that mightbe, what is one thing or a
couple of things you can say tothem so they can start overcoming that challenge.
Write it down, write it down, take it out of your mind,
put it onto paper, and asyou're writing it down, write down

(46:30):
every feeling that you're ever feeling orexperiencing. As a point of reference.
When I was going through a breakupin the past, I wrote down,
I wasn't feeling supported, and Iwrote down all the things that I wasn't
feeling, and then I took allof the things that were negative, the
thoughts, the feelings, the emotions, and I wrote exactly the opposite.

(46:52):
I am supported. I am feelingsupported every day in my life. And
I wrote that consistently over and overagain until I wired myself that is the
one thing that I will say topeople. Take what's floating around in your
mind, if it's fear, understandwhat the perfect you would feel like,
and then write it down and thenimmerse yourself in that space for at least

(47:16):
I mean, write it seven times, seven days a week, wire yourself
until you know it and it becomeslike I said, easy, when I
am supported becomes easy, then you'resupported. It's that simple, like you're
supported in life. I love that. So essentially you're taking your you're you're
taking all all of those emotions andthings that are going on. It's like

(47:38):
a computer done right. You're removingfrom your mind, putting into a piece
of paper, and then now you'regoing to replace that with positive affirmations or
positive problems that you know you canreplace that, right, So it's kind
of emptying the mind with something new, replace it with something new. Yeah,
we don't even realize. I remembera couple of years ago, I've
always been confident and everything, butone day I went to go write I

(48:00):
Am worthy and I felt so uncomfortablewriting it, and I was like,
how did I miss this? Howdid I miss this? Like I could
feel the discomfort in my body asI was starting to write it. Like
I just and I wrote it overand over again, over and over again,
over and over again, because Irealized that your self worth is only

(48:20):
as good as your net worth.That's the way I look at it.
Not your network to your network,right, but no, it's your self
worth that determines your net worth.So I started to really focus on understanding
the importance of feeling worthy and theimportance of deserving. Yeah, I love
that, Oleah, thank you againfor being here. Definitely, there was

(48:42):
a lot of great golden nuggets,a lot of information you gave us,
So thank you for being here.Anything else that you want to share,
No, I just want to thankyou for having me. I mean,
this is a wonderful experience, andI love what you do and I appreciate
what you do. So I justwant to let you know you create a
platform for for amazing people. I'velistened to some amazing, amazing life stories

(49:04):
and amazing challenges that they've overcome.So you're doing amazing and I'm humbled that
you have me on your show.So thank you, thank you. I
really appreciate you for that. Andfor the rest of you guys, do
me a favor. Please make surethat you share this message because definitely somebody
needs to hear it, and I'llsee you guys the next episode of You
Can Overcome Anything podcast shop. Thankyou. Hi. I'm Caesar Espino,

(49:25):
real estate investor, business coach andconsultant and author of the book You Can
Overcome Anything Even When the World saysNo. My number is four two four
five zero one six zero four tosix. In my book, I talk
about making the necessary changes to shiftyour mind for prosperity and certainty. Pick
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(49:49):
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(50:13):
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