You Can Overcome Anything: Ep 318 - How Hitting Zero Created a Life of Purpose, Profit & Power – Yousef Benhamida - You Can Overcome Anything! Podcast Show

Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
Speaker 1 (00:00):
Are you looking for more out of your life? Do
you need ideas on how to start new businesses and
how to move forward in your own personal life? Well,
guess what you have come to a right radio show
at You Can Overcome Anything Podcast Show. You are learning
here from many people from all walks of life who

(00:22):
are sharing their challenges, their stories, their habits and the
mind shifts they had to overcome to become who they
are today. On top you will get a chance to
connect and see how you can overcome anything by networking
and learning about your next move through this radio show.
I present to you our great speakers at You Can

(00:46):
Overcome Anything Podcast Show with your host.

Speaker 2 (00:49):
Caesar Is you know.

Speaker 1 (00:59):
Hellother income Back to another episode of You Can Overcome
Anything Podcast Show. It is your host Caesar spin On
and today I have a special guest. His name is
Yusuf ben Hamida. All right, and just to give you
a little bit of his background, he is an American inventor, entrepreneur,
and an investor, best known as the founder and CEO

(01:20):
of Humble's Secret Supplies, one of the top selling plan
nutrient brands in the US. With no degree, no investors,
and only grid Google and a vision. He built a
multi million dollar company from his one bedroom apartment. His
path to success came after a head and rock bottom

(01:40):
and experienced that drove him to rebuild himself emotionally, physically,
and mentally. Today, use of shares his powerful systems for discipline, mindset,
and self leadership, helping others break toxic cycles, regain confidence,
and achieve lasting results in life, fitness, and business. He's
also the author of one Million Dollars How Gross and

(02:02):
a Ferrari, offering you raw and unfiltered truth about what
it really takes to level up. Yusef. How are you, sir?

Speaker 2 (02:10):
I'm good, good, good today.

Speaker 1 (02:14):
I'd load to have you here. So you know, before
we dive into that, I like the idea of of
you know, uh, just even reading that what you've building,
and I think that's huge. Tell me a bit about
your upbringing and you Where are you originally from?

Speaker 2 (02:31):
Yeah, so I grew up in Boise, Idaho and northern
California mostly, but uh that's about it. Yeah. Now I
found myself in southern California later in life.

Speaker 1 (02:42):
Got okay, So so tell me about tell me more.
I mean, like, let's get to know people. People want
to know, like like the idea of people say, hey,
you know, when I grow up, I want to be
this person, right and and so what was that for you?

Speaker 2 (02:56):
So you asked me about my upburn Now was the
youngest of four boys, and and I when I remember
when I was ten, I wanted to be a professional athlete.
And but I used to I didn't have the Maybe
I didn't. I lacked enough self belief in myself. Although
I thought I could be a professional athlete as a kid,
but I didn't. I just didn't have enough backing by
my parents and my family. So I ended up just

(03:18):
wanting to make money. So like I was the kid
out of all the little league who got the snack stand,
got the parents to shop at Costco. After the games,
I'd sell gatorades, selling for two dollars paid you know,
fifty cents whatever, and then making a few hundred bucks
over the season. I would dumpster die for sprite caps
for rocket cash, going through maggots in the summer for

(03:40):
months just to get two hundred bucks to buy skateboard stuff.
I would sell stuff at school, skateboard part I sell
anything at school. I was on eBay in ninety nine,
buying and selling stuff. I was buying. Anything I got
involved in, I always like kind of opened things up.
I remember, like paintball guns. I had nine paintball guns.
I buy them, open them up, try to figure out

(04:02):
how to how to you know, fix them and everything,
and and then I would maybe sell them. So anything
I got involved with, I was always wanting to open up,
take apart, kind of learn how how how it was done,
and not necessarily honestly asking, like I would try to
find out from other people how to do it, but
sometimes just like trying to figure it out for myself

(04:23):
and then just like trying to make some money. And uh,
I wanted things and people even my parents wouldn't get
them for me. So yeah, yeah, that's my story.

Speaker 1 (04:32):
No, you know it not like that, because now that
you share that, I mean, you know then that kind
of explains a lot of things, right that that you know,
obviously you were always trying to find a way to
make money and for out how to make money, right
even from not having anybody giving you anything, not having
the the investors or somebody investing in you. And then
also the idea of inventing and you know, like breaking

(04:53):
things up, burn like how does this work right, And
I think that's unique. I think that that kind of
comes to what you are not doing. Tell me about
your downfall. Tell me about that experience kind of losing
everything and then rebuilding.

Speaker 2 (05:08):
So the downfall, the main the main point of the
downfall was after I had reached the pinnacle, I had
achieved things that I wanted. I'd bought in a Ferrari
with cash, I probably had a crew and a networth
of over a million dollars. I had gotten a girl.
Let's say that probably actually happened like it was misusing money.

(05:31):
That's actually what that's actually what what by part of
my downfaul was was that, like what i'n go bed
and Spider Man says, with great power come great responsibility. Right,
those numbers, those numbers are are you know, they influenced
that they could be powerful. You get what you want,
but you have to be careful on what you use
them for. So you know, like me, I would you know,

(05:54):
I went and partied and kind of I guess a
good word would be self betrayal, self betrayed myself by
you know, I drank a bunch. I drank a bunch
of partying going out you know, spent a bunch of
night life and.

Speaker 1 (06:08):
Yeah, well you know, I got to tell you that,
so that that's actually a good point. Let's talk about that.
You know, it's kind of like the idea of you
hear this, right, you know, like I don't know the
actual statistics and this, but people that win the lottery
tend to lose that immediately because they have a negative
relationship with money or they don't know how to use
the money wisely. Right, So the lessons learned there, because

(06:31):
I think number one of the first on the second
one is probably what you just said, right, You probably
were partying just having you know, the diirtest time in
your life. I'm sure I think it was Gary V
that said, you know, my in my twenties, I grind
so that I can live a better life in my thirties, right,
whereas the majority are partying in their twenties and then

(06:52):
they're grinding in their late thirties or forties something like that. Right,
So tell me about those lessons that you've learned from that.

Speaker 2 (07:02):
Yeah, well I don't really have I don't really have
a big as much of a desire to blow money
leisurely on things at least things that like I was doing.
You know, there's other things you can spend your money on,
maybe invested into better things. But I kind of lost

(07:22):
a little bit of the desire to kind of spend
money on things like ferraris, you know, are just you know,
kind of things that don't quite make financial sense as much.
I would probably rather spend money on traveling and moving around.
But in terms of getting back to your original question,
what was it again?

Speaker 1 (07:43):
So obviously there's lessons that the word learned, I mean,
obviously you know you can't share that right now, but
there was lessons that we're learned. Like you said, part
of was you know, hey, you were the misused to
learn and having a good relationship with money. Obviously, going
through that downfall, you've learned lessons. What were those lessons?

Speaker 2 (08:01):
There's a lot of lessons just uh, you can do
a lot of things that will mess your life up.
So yeah, you gotta you gotta kinda try to keep
things peaceful in your mind the moment when things start
getting a little bit not peaceful from the warning signs.

(08:22):
So I don't I mean, there's just so many things
I could say, but for the most part, you know,
don't pollute your body with drug and alcohol. Don't blow
money leisurely when you know sometimes it'll run out. You
think it's not going to run out, and the income's
gonna stop coming in, But all of a sudden, the
lever you know, like that, like it's like the damn

(08:42):
closes on the water, you know, flow, and you're like, oh, well,
it's not. Sometimes you make it a lot of money,
and it could. It could. You got to save stuff
for the winter or what you can build. You know,
you forget everybody, you know, when you're blowing money, you
could spend it on future, on building a future thing,
a future partner. Yeah. So, so I think you just

(09:05):
have to if you're gonna blow money, it's just got
to be such a small percentage, like a non noticeblay.
It has to be like cents, like dollars and cents.

Speaker 1 (09:13):
Gotcha.

Speaker 2 (09:14):
Yeah, So I probably by the I mean, I probably
needed like ten times more money for the amount of
money I was spending.

Speaker 1 (09:22):
Wow, okay, got it.

Speaker 2 (09:23):
Yeah. Yeah. So let's say I was spending one hundred
thousand dollars a year leisurely, I should have been probably
making ten million dollars rather than a million right, got
But I mean, I mean, and you probably spend all
one hundred thousand dollars if you're making a million dollars
a year leisurely. But I wasn't even making a million
dollars at that time, right, I was making like a
lot less. I later ended up making a million dollars

(09:45):
and more. But at that time when I was blowing money,
I mean and destroying my health. So it was like
a double way of me. I was not throwing all
my money and my energy saved up. I was destroying
my mind and my body, and that that also was
taking my energy. Because you know, the energy you can
put into your business or building the future is it's
kind of like money. You know, you're putting your energy

(10:06):
in and your money. There's a kind of similar You
can replace your energy with money, or you can replace
you know what I'm trying to say. So I was
basically just throwing it all away.

Speaker 1 (10:15):
Wow, And I'm glad and so you know, so here's
the other thing too, like you said, right, and so
no degree, no investors, Uh, you know we have to
going through that. What was that? Wake up?

Speaker 2 (10:28):
Cool?

Speaker 1 (10:28):
What was that?

Speaker 2 (10:29):
Like?

Speaker 1 (10:30):
Man? Use you got to wake up? And he knows.
What was that for you?

Speaker 2 (10:35):
Yeah, well, I I think it's probably the same what
happens forever. I mean I lost all all the money
came to it and the egg cub stop covid. I
thought the business was God, the girl don't be. I
had to sell the cars, so I lost everything. I know,
I felt like I was gonna kill myself, like there's
no other closer that you could get or anybody could
get to. Oh you know, I've ben jump off a

(10:57):
cliff because the the you know, it's to shock and
the loss of you know, your whole life and it's
all gone, and oh my god, I can't believe it. So,
you know, you hit rock bottom and then you you
have a little bit of time and a little bit
of pain.

Speaker 1 (11:11):
What Yeah. Well and with that said, I mean, I
you know, and rightfully, so some people do not know
how to bounce back from that, right Some people, unfortunately,
just don't. And then there's people like you that say, hey,
you know what, Yeah, you know, I had a little
bit of time to reflect, whatever the amount of time
that was, and say hey, I'm going to rebuild myself.
You did you rebuild yourself emotionally, physically and mentally and

(11:34):
then you build this great company.

Speaker 2 (11:36):
Yeah that took you.

Speaker 1 (11:38):
Yeah yeah, So so talk about you know what was that?

Speaker 2 (11:45):
Like?

Speaker 1 (11:45):
You obviously decided to bounce back talk a little bit
about how you build yourself emotionally and physically. And because
there's are the things that we were talking.

Speaker 2 (11:54):
About, it's super easy. Okay, I'll I'll go into more
detail and never really tell anybody this much detail. You know,
I unfollow I got rid of all the nonsense on Instagram,
social media. So even though let's say I have social media,
everybody is muted. I don't follow anybody anymore. I unfollowed
everybody later, like I don't see anybody's stuff. I got
rid of everybody who I was like, you know, toxic,

(12:17):
I mean, and I stopped following everybody. Okay, I stopped drinking.
I realized. I figured out I don't drink alcohol at all.
I've actually drank two or three times in the past
this year. Awful experiences every time. But anyway, so stop
drinking alcohol. So now I got this build up of
energy because I'm not like putting a stringe in my

(12:37):
body and like taking the energy out, and that's what
alcohol does. I don't care what anybody says. Even one drink,
two drinks, you probably drink more. It's like extracting the
the the life force out of you. So so I
don't drink alcohol. That made me emotionally stronger. Just by
doing that, I'm not weak as ment I'm not as
weak anymore mentally. And then you know, just slowly come back.

(13:00):
You start running, you work out, you play tennis, you stop,
you stop weakening yourself and you just eventually build strength
over time. And uh, some people call that discipline. I
just I just call it AM tired of losing and
terrible and I'm tired of this and so so it's actually,
you know, it's not quite disciplined. I just remember most

(13:21):
people forget every you know, everybody, dude, I'm every single
person goes works like for two weeks here in Sweden,
three weeks or a month, and then they have payday
and everybody gets goes out and drinks themselves to death.
It's that's just what happens. Like and I go out
in the middle of the night or let's say one
or two am, just so I go get some food
and everybody's walking on. All these people are drunk, walking

(13:42):
on like zombies that have been working for weeks and
then they go blow all their money to to to
to to poison themselves. Like it's kind of nuts. And
and you think that it's fun. You think that you're
getting a lot of stuff, but there's way more repercussions
in that. So that that is what has changed my
trajectory significantly. Now I watch these guys that you know
who win like the champions, you know, like all you know,

(14:05):
NBA championships and drinking champagne and stuff for all this stuff.
So I'm you know, maybe they can drink some champagne
stuff in celebration, but the other way, the other way around,
looks like it looks to me like the chiefs are
getting slaughtered out there. So what you're.

Speaker 1 (14:23):
No, that's not Thanks for sharing, you know, and that's
part of it, you know, Like I you know, I
think that is those things that make you stronger. And
the reason why you created this podcast is you can
overcome anything. Because there's certain things that we have to
go through to get to where we want to get to, right,
And and sometimes I tell people that from a some
sort of pain, right something that you were going through,

(14:45):
a purpose was born. And now you rebuild yourself. Right,
So let's talk about the business you built, right, because
it was all part of that.

Speaker 2 (14:53):
Right.

Speaker 1 (14:53):
Uh, let's talk about the you built and the company
that you created after.

Speaker 2 (14:59):
So what to say company? I never got it. It's
been the same company from the beginning. I never the
business bounce back got you.

Speaker 1 (15:06):
Okay, So okay, well that's even huge. I think that's
even huge because you could have last at all. And
it was, like you said, the money start coming in
and you're like getting refocus and and and get back
into that.

Speaker 2 (15:17):
Okay, yeah, yeah, no, So I you know, I pivoted,
I fixed things, I cleaned a lot of things up.
I worked on a lot of things. I came up
with some new items, made things more efficient, and the
market bounce back in combination with some other things. And
staying alive long enough. Simply staying alive long enough was

(15:42):
one of the biggest factors. It's like, okay, like you know,
me and you set sale from here to some island
we want to go to, and uh we hit stormy weather,
big year old Brandon Sudy. Then we hit some crazy
stormy weather and we're being you are sitting there and
we have a little bit. We have food left, but
like our engine's dead and we can't, like we can't,

(16:05):
we can't continue to go, and so I mean, you
just look at each other, like what should we do.
It's like, well, we can't really do anything, like we've
spent so much time getting out here, and I guess
we have some food left, So I guess it was
just we can't go anywhere. And then eventually, all of
a sudden, the wind picks up and like blows, and
that's kind of what happened, you, don't you know? Sort

(16:26):
of Yeah, yeah, for sure. No.

Speaker 1 (16:28):
I love that though. That's awesome. And so you mentioned
something about are you not also helping all the people
or you just through it through your book sharing ideas
on people rebuilding themselves or do you do any of them? Uh?

Speaker 2 (16:47):
I wrote the book, I'm talking to people like you,
and I'll cut it up and I'm gonna blast it
out on all my social networks. So I feel like
I feel like me talking about all this stuff and
giving people the ability to buy the book and learn
more about the other items. That's pretty much as much
as I can do other than unless somebody, I haven't

(17:09):
really made it a big focus or it's not my
my priority to try to talk to people one on
one at this moment. I've had kids like contact me
and say, hey, I want to you know, maybe they
look up to me or something, and so I'll talk
to them a little bit.

Speaker 1 (17:21):
But yeah, where'd the the idea come about writing the book?
One Million Daughter? How girls in Ferrari? Your your lifestyle?
But yeah, the the the the untold truth? You know
what did that come about?

Speaker 2 (17:35):
Yeah? Well, yeah, I remember what happened. I think that
was a lot of pain from like some breakups and
other things not going right, and I was really kind
of mad, and I think I wrote it out of
a little bit of not not anger, but like, but uh,
you know, I want to. I want to. I want to.
It's time for writing a book sometimes, you know, it's

(17:56):
like time to write a book, time to tell a story.

Speaker 1 (17:58):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (17:59):
I felt like I could help lot. I felt like
there was a lot of stuff that I think people
should know a lot of people. Some of the stuff
I hadn't read it. Some of the stuff in there,
or at least all combined into one one thing, I
don't think it's there. So, you know, people say you
gotta write a book or do this. But you gotta
have a it's got to be the you got to
be able to tell a story. So I never thought

(18:20):
I actually was able to tell a story. So eventually
I'm like, oh, I think I might be able to
tell a story. And I think sometimes you know, your
your mind is like the same reason why you came
up with this podcast or the same reason why you
do anything. You have, like thoughts pop in your head
and then eventually like maybe, yeah, I think I'm ready
to do this. I'm like, yeah, yeah, yeah, I wanted

(18:41):
to do it. Yeah, I think.

Speaker 1 (18:42):
Maybybe No, that's that's awesome. So tell me about so
you actually changed to a lot of things in your life.
You know, stop drinking alcohol, which is good because then
you know, I can only imagine when you were at
the bar and you know, swepping that card that was
a big deal to.

Speaker 2 (19:02):
I've spent a lot, dude, I spent a lot of dude.
I go to the bar. I'll spend seven hundred dollars
at a bar. Oh my god.

Speaker 1 (19:08):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (19:08):
Like but it's not like I'm buying my drinks.

Speaker 1 (19:11):
No, You're right, like, buy a budget, buy a lot
of drink for everybody, right, Yeah for sure.

Speaker 2 (19:16):
Not a good yeah. Yeah, so I don't know that
the Boddy flies out of me. So not a good
idea for me.

Speaker 1 (19:21):
You can definitely save a lot of money by not
not throwing money at at you know, a couple of drinks,
and depending on what you are, that that would be
very expensive too. So do you have any uh I
know you said that it's more of you just thinking
about a unncessary discipline, But what are the non confronts
that you got to do every day? Like what do
you do daily to kind of keep you up and

(19:42):
going and you're getting mindset? Yeah?

Speaker 2 (19:46):
Yeah, yeah, So I mean I don't really feel great
every day because you know, you work. I'm working on
the computer right and doing stuff until I until I
can't go anymore. It's not I don't have a bed time.
I just I go until I get like delirious, and
I just like you know, I'm I'm like I can't
file and fall asleep. I wake up and I probably

(20:07):
got well arrested enough. But what I'll try to do
and I I found that that it kind of get
the same. I feel kind of kind of similar days
in a row. Is so I've asked chat GPT. I've
I've kind of told it how I want to look.
Appearance by his weight, you know, looked similar to somebody else,
I know, fit and skinny. So I told it everything
over four or five days about my diet, what I

(20:29):
was eating, rearranged and learned a lot of what teat.
I lost thirteen pounds, so instead of one eighty three,
I went to one seventy even, you know, just fat
dripped off my body. So that obviously that diet makes
has had a huge difference.

Speaker 1 (20:43):
Was or what was then?

Speaker 2 (20:46):
Yeah, so months ago, like four months ago, I I
I was chat GPT was working for everything or a
lot of things. So I was like, oh, I took
pictures of everything in my fridge. I just basically gave
it all the data, every every you know, every time
I was about to eat or what I about to do,
I told it and it said what I should do.
So after like a week or you know, several weeks
in different locations. Long story short of doing that, I

(21:07):
kind of relearned what to what to eat, what to
not eat, what how much to eat of something, and
so that that has had a huge difference of how
I feel on a day to day. So other than that,
just drink a little bit of coffee and take a
I'll try to take a cold shower at the end
for like forty seconds and that's that definitely wakes up.

(21:28):
It definitely wakes you up. Just get some sunlight, try
to move around, stretch. Like me personally, I feel it
if I'm I'm like, oh man, I need to go.
I need to go run outside or I got to
you know, workout or something. So I think when the
moment that you don't feel good, it's like, oh I
got to go run that off. I gotta go. So
there's a there's a there's a combination of those sorts

(21:48):
of things. That's all I kind of do in terms
to that. I've seen similar days.

Speaker 1 (21:53):
Yeah, and like you said, you know, I mean you're working,
and I don't think anyone has everything. Good day is
just how you are on the day, right, how you
go about accepting what is in front of you?

Speaker 2 (22:04):
Right?

Speaker 1 (22:05):
Yeah, do you feel like if you were to look
at what's your purpose now? What is what is your Yeah?
You know where you hitting out right? So you've made
drastic changes has helped you. You're you're a better mind.
What's next for you.

Speaker 2 (22:22):
Yeah, I feel like I'm still on the inclination up.
I feeling it this unfortunately thinking some of these things. Uh,
take the time when you're trying to build a big
bridge that can you know, like the Golden State Bridge,
It's it's got to take a lot of time to
build that bridge, you know, but when it's done a
lot more, you know, it's it's kind of a lot

(22:43):
more cars can go over it, but it takes a
lot of time to build. Sadly. Uh So I just
like making products selling a lot of products. Yeah, I
kind of like the whole manufacturing thing under you know,
making making a product and then literally making it like
uh making Yeah, yeah, like making you know, the prototype

(23:08):
and then making tons of them and then selling them.
Kind of get a kicked out of that. It's you know,
basically like having the whole and supply chain from the beginning.
And yeah, just try not to do do things that
are bad for me. But I mean I try to
keep it. I mean, it's kind of trying to keep

(23:29):
it simple, to be honest.

Speaker 1 (23:30):
And one thing that you kind of mentioned at the
beginnis it seems like you like to at least you
say you prefer to travel and kind of see that
side of the world versus blowing your money and things
that are not necessarily you know, useful in terms of
going to the same place and the same you know,
like maybe it's a different sightseeing in different places. That's
something that you kind of enjoy.

Speaker 2 (23:51):
Yeah. Yeah, And also, but you know, it's kind of
like groundhog Day if you stay in the same place,
you do the same things every single day. Saying that
movie Bill Murray was true. Groundhog Day is real. And
I think you can do that until you are met
with enough dissatisfaction to where you just can't do it anymore.

(24:14):
There's a point, there's a point at which it reaches
everybody's Yeah, so I get that.

Speaker 1 (24:21):
Tell me a little bit about the products. What are
some of the best same products that you have or
that people should kind of look at hate, you know,
maybe anything to have this and and get some loose pards.

Speaker 2 (24:32):
From I mean, I make right now, I make liquid
and powdered fertilizer for plans. If they're really a plan enthusiast,
they can probably go to the website Humboldt Secret Supplies
and shop for plant food. But I thought the book
that I wrote targeted more people because I feel like
it's good for men out there, younger man. There's no

(24:56):
way that a young kid is going to know everything
in that book with without without it. I mean, I
don't know how that would be possible because uh so, yeah,
but most I would say that there's a large percentage
shift that there are subtigs for them to learn in
my book, whether or not they agree with everything.

Speaker 1 (25:17):
Exactly. Where can people find your book? Is it on Amazon?

Speaker 2 (25:20):
Or yeah, it's on Amazon Audible. They can listen to
it on Amazon Audible. Okay, it's on my website too,
but Amazon and Audible it's just easier. Gotcha.

Speaker 1 (25:29):
What's your contact information? What's your your website?

Speaker 2 (25:33):
It's just my name you Sef Benhamida dot com.

Speaker 1 (25:38):
Okay, well they combined anything a bout you and and
and all of a sudden you have going on. Yeah,
you've you've answered a lot of different things and and
and and uh maybe this is not redundant, but see
why I can get one last thing out of you.
You know, for people that are watching the show and
they may be going through something challenging, whatever that might be,
what is one thing or a couple things they can

(26:00):
do to start overcoming that challenge.

Speaker 2 (26:03):
Yeah, it's one thing. I would think that it would
depend on what what they're trying to overcome. Yeah, it's
it's difficult to answer. Uh, it's like a car is driving.

(26:23):
You don't know if the tires flat, or if the
if it's out of oil, or if it needs some
gas or if it needs just a wax. You don't
really know, right, So, but there's obviously something wrong if
they're feeling like that, and I don't I don't quite know.

Speaker 1 (26:42):
Yeah, so it is that this a moment and I
like that, And well, I know it might be a
little bit different person to person. And obviously there's a
lot of people that are watching this right and listening
to this, But I like what you just said, and
I think part of this is really getting to one
being aware what are you going through? Right? The awareness
of where your fam or you're going through. Number two

(27:04):
could probably probably be the discovery of what that might
look for you. And so what what can they do
after the fact that you know, as you say, you're aware,
you discover you you have acknowledge there's something going on.
What what are some things that maybe in a general
perspective people can do to not give up, to to
keep pushing forward.

Speaker 2 (27:27):
Yeah, I honestly think it happens almost automatically for me.
I think that when I stopped, I think it was
it's way just way harder when I would drink any
amount of alcohol. I know, I keep saying an alcohol,
but I keep every where I go people are drinking alcohol.
It doesn't give you energy, it takes it away from you,

(27:49):
and so it makes it a little harder. So that's
just like one thing, but it's that everybody's doing it,
so odds are still alcohol and when you stop, it'll
maybe make you, you know, feel a little bit weird,
it'll give you a little bit more energy, and now
you have a little bit more energy to go and
do other things. So I just think it's kind of

(28:10):
like mischannel energy. You're sedating the energy that you could
have used to fix your problems, but now it's just
it's just so much harder. It's like like trying to
run up a mountain. When you get to the mountain top,
your problems are fixed, but it's a lot harder to
run up the mountain, and even if you're slightly hungover,
So That's the way I see it. It just all
all the all the everything cleared started to clear up

(28:35):
when my mind cleared up. So I personally think it
happens a little bit automatically once you realize what the
problems are, and then eventually me, I kind of get
bothered and you know, if like things are dirty, so
I'll just I'll just clean it or whatever, so, you know,

(28:57):
wanting to fix things. But I think realizing what your
problems are is probably one of the hardest parts. I
didn't know I had. I didn't know I had these problems.
That was like one of the biggest epiphanies when I realized,
oh my god, oh it is a revelation. Oh my gosh,
I just needed to know this information now if I
just do this now. I think most people don't. Actually,
I think a lot of people are delusional. I think

(29:18):
most people don't really know what's going on in it.
And sometimes they just want to talk to people and
tell them about things, especially girls. Yeah, they want to
tell them about their stuff. You know, they don't actually
want to be told, hey, you sucked in this area
all these areas you know, blah blah blah. But they
don't want to hear that they're you know, people will
get offended and they don't want to do it. It only
helps when people kind of realize it on their own.

(29:41):
So that's the hardest part for people to realize what's
wrong with the well the road that's going to get
their way. That's I honestly think that's like the hardest
part is self realization. And yeah, that's.

Speaker 1 (29:55):
My you know, that's that's huge. And you know, I
hear you in and I'm kind of reflecting on that,
and you're right. I mean, I just came from a
trip to and you know, just like you know, every
day from you know, from like whatever eight am to
like midnight, people were drinking and you know, like just
seeing all these things and and and and and realize
that maybe people say, yeah, we're having a great time,

(30:17):
but it's temporary and not knowing what they're doing to themselves.
Number one. Number two, I like the idea of you
got to be in that discovery phase and you you
mentioned that too, like that having that part of that
is also having that self confidence and believing in yourself
right that you can go through whatever you're going through
and that you can come ahead on the other side,

(30:38):
having that self confidence that you don't need. Maybe part
of what I'm hearing is you don't need nobody's validation
but yours. You have to be the one take that
step forward in anything, right, And and I think that's
huge because a lot of times we're you know, if
you're a man, you're you're you're you're trying to get
validation from a female, from alcohol, from friends, you're females

(31:01):
the other way around, too, right, and you're trying to
get that validation from somebody else. And I like to said,
the thing you said too is that you shut out
and and kind of got rid of social media because
there's a lot of noise there, definitely, and a lot
of a lot of times now people use social media
as a level of validating your worth and or who
you are, right, And so I think there was a
lot of great points that we touched on for sure.

Speaker 2 (31:24):
And yeah, the validation has to come from an internal
If you seek the external validation, it's it's not not
as good.

Speaker 1 (31:34):
Yeah, one hundred percent. Well, yousef. I mean, this was
definitely an amazing conversation. I really enjoyed a lot of
the points that we talked about any last minute works
you want to share.

Speaker 2 (31:47):
Any other any other questions.

Speaker 1 (31:51):
No more California are you? You said?

Speaker 2 (31:53):
So?

Speaker 1 (31:53):
Are you coming back to southern California.

Speaker 2 (31:56):
I've in San Diego. I lived normally in San Diego.

Speaker 1 (31:59):
Yeah, got you, got you. Yeah, Well you're not too
far from you. I'll actually been in CARLSBA next week,
so really yeah nks yeah, So all right, Well, no,
I don't have anything else for you. Again, Thank you
again for being here. I think it was amazing having
this conversation. And then definitely people need to go out
and check out your website and get your book for sure.

Speaker 2 (32:21):
Sure, all right, thanks for having me.

Speaker 1 (32:24):
Yeah, definitely, And for the rest of you guys, give
me a fair Please make sure you guys share this
message because I do believe that somebody definitely needs to
hear it. And I'll see you guys to the next
episode of You Can Overcome Anthem podcast show. Thank you.

Speaker 2 (32:36):
Hi.

Speaker 3 (32:36):
I'm Caesar Espino, real estate investor, business coach and consultant
and author of the book You Can Overcome Anything Even
when the World says No. My number is four two
four five zero one six zero four to six in
my book I talk about making the necessary changes to
shift your mind for prosperity and certainty. Pick up your
copy at Amazon. I also love helping families with their
real estate and can purchase your house fast and all cash.

(32:59):
Follow me on in, thank Facebook and LinkedIn. My number
is four two four five zero one six zero four six.

Speaker 1 (33:06):
Thank you for having me today. I am so glad
you've tuned into this podcast. You can find me at
your favorite podcast platform where you can like, subscribe, comment
and share, and to learn more about myself my services.
You can find me at www dot Caesararspino dot com,
or you can also find me at your social media.

(33:27):
Thanks for joining me and I am looking forward to
having you at the next episode. And No, you truly
can overcome anything.

All Episodes

You Can Overcome Anything: Ep 318 - How Hitting Zero Created a Life of Purpose, Profit & Power – Yousef Benhamida

Episode Transcript

Popular Podcasts

Stuff You Should Know

Las Culturistas with Matt Rogers and Bowen Yang

Crime Junkie

.css-15opob5{left:0;position:absolute;top:0.8rem;} All Episodes

.css-14f5ked{margin:0;word-break:break-word;display:-webkit-box;-webkit-box-orient:vertical;box-orient:vertical;-webkit-line-clamp:2;overflow:hidden;}You Can Overcome Anything: Ep 318 - How Hitting Zero Created a Life of Purpose, Profit & Power – Yousef Benhamida