August 21, 2017 • 9 mins
I'm a 35 year old mother single mother of three kids 16 15 and 11. I've been divorced for about five years and don't know much about the games men play. I listen to you all the time and over the last six months I have really learned a lot but I have a situation that I don't know how to handle.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, come on, it's time for this letter. Let
your letter subject found the man of my dreams. Good
morning all, we'll find out. Good morning all. This letter
is really for Steve the code crack Hollo. Excuse me.
(00:24):
I'm a thirty five year old mother, single mother of
three kids sixteen, fifteen, and eleven. I've been to Force
for about five years and don't know much about the
game's men play. I listened to you all the time,
and over the last six months I have really learned
a lot. But I have a situation that I don't
know how to handle. I've been seeing the man of
(00:45):
my dreams on and off for the last four years.
Is everything I have ever dreamed of in a man.
But I have three problems I need your help with. First,
he is always saying he's not ready to settle down.
He's always done the go, but want me there and
he returns. He says he enjoys being with me, and
I am the type of woman he wants to be with.
(01:05):
Is this game to keep me where he wants me? Second,
I received an anonymous text message saying he has a
child on the way. This makes three I only know
about and have seen one. I forward the text to him,
and he avoided me for about two weeks. When I
finally spoke with him, he confirmed that this was true.
(01:26):
He said that one of his old girlfriends informed him
that she had his child. I did not ask for details.
The crazy part is he got mad at me. We
argued about me knowing this information. This really threw me
for a loop. He is mad because I know why.
I really don't understand that. Do men share information depending
(01:47):
on what the person means to them? Did he keep this?
Did he keep this because I don't really matter and
had no right to ask him about this. Third, I
want this man and in my life as my man,
But after the children's situation, I'm not sure if this
is what I want to deal with. First, I mean
(02:07):
for the next eighteen years, if I have to deal
with text, not, what will I have to What if
I have to deal with text not? What will I
have to deal with once this child is here? Now? Now? Now?
What will I have to deal with once the child
is here? Baby mama drama? My kids are almost grown,
(02:29):
and I don't know if I want to start over.
I want to keep him close to see how this
situation will work out. So I asked him if he
could satisfy my sexual needs. If he could, if he
could just satisfy my sexual needs, thank you, no strings attached.
He did not like that, but after a while of
talking he agreed. Is this a mistake on my part?
(02:49):
Should I just walk away? I know you have a
way of making women feel bad about being stupid, but
I don't have much knowledge when it comes to men
in their games. What would you tell me if I
was your daughter? Signed found the man of my dreams? Wow? Uh, dear,
found the man of my dreams. I just want to
know why is this the man of your dreams? You
(03:10):
didn't give us any information or any clues as to
why he couldn't be the man of your dreams. You've
been with him off and on for four years. Why
hasn't he turned this dream into a reality? Uh? To you?
He says, he's not ready to settle down, and he's
got a baby on the way. That right there is
a nightmare. It's twelve minutes after We'll be back Steve
(03:31):
Show two. Found the man of my dreams? Here we go.
Good morning all. This letter is really for Steve Coop
the cold Cracker. I'm a thirty five year old mother,
single mother of three six, fifteen, and eleven. I've been
divorced for about five years and don't know much about
(03:52):
the games me and play. I listened to you all
the time, and over the last six months I've really
learned a lot. But I have a situation that I
don't know how to handle. I've been seeing the man
of my dreams on and off for the last four years.
He is everything I ever dreamed of in a man.
But I have three problems and I need your help
with First, he is always saying that he's not ready
(04:14):
to settle down. He's always on the goal, but want
me to be there when he returns. He says he
enjoys being with me, and I'm the type of woman
he wants to be with. Is this game to keep
me where he wants me? Second, I received an anonymous
text message saying that he has a child on the way.
Well this makes three, as in children I only know,
(04:37):
I only know about and have seen one. I afforded
to text to him, and he avoided me for about
two weeks. When I finally spoke with him, he confirmed
that this was true. He said to one of his
old girlfriends informing him that she had his child. I
did not ask for details the crazy parties. He got
mad at me, we arguing about me knowing this information.
(05:00):
This really threw me for a loop. He is mad
because I know why. I really understand that. Do me
and share information depending on what the person means to them?
And did he keep this because I don't really matter
and had no right to ask him about this. Third,
I want this man in my life as my man,
but after the children's situation, I'm not sure if that's
(05:22):
what I want to deal with for the next eighteen years.
If I have to deal with the text now, what
would I have to deal with once the child is here?
Baby mama drama. My kids are almost grown and I
don't know if I want to start over. I want
to keep him close to see the situation, how the
situation will work out. So I asked him if he
could just satisfy my sexual needs, no strings attached. He
(05:42):
did not like that, but after a while of talking,
he agreed. Is this a mistake on my part? Or
should I just walk away? I know you have a
way of making women feel bad about being stupid, but
I don't have much knowledge when it comes to me
and and their games. What would you tell me if
I was your daughter? Signed found the man of my dreams? Okay,
that's fair, that's fair. You want the daughter conversation? Okay,
(06:08):
I got that, because I have another one for you too.
But we'll save the jokes. Here's a conversation I would
have if you were my daughter. Now, you say at
the top of the letter, daughter, you found a man
of your dreams. Okay, he's everything I've ever dreamed of. Okay,
(06:30):
then let me describe this guy to you. That's the
man of your dreams and everything you've dreamed of. First
of all, you said that you've been seeing the man
of my dreams on and off for the last four years.
When you dream of a man in a relationship, Do
you dream of a relationship that's on and off? I'm
(06:52):
just I'm this is this is my daughter. I'm talking
to correct that's what you said. Okay, cool? Do you
dream when you dream of a man? Is your relationship
on and off? To be careful what you say, ladies.
If this is the man of your dreams, but you've
been in a four year relationship that's been on and off,
this is what you dreamed of. Did you dream of
(07:15):
a man who's always saying he's not ready to settle down.
He's always on the goal, but he wants me there
when he returns. So you just good for him where
he needs you to be. You're not allowed to be
good to him temporary. See you just listen to me carefully.
(07:40):
You're not being allowed to be good to him. You
just being good for him. If you don't have a
man in your life that positions you so you can
be good to him, but he's positioning you so you
can be good for him. It's a cold trick women
(08:02):
that we play, and we play on your nurturing side
to make you think that you that we need you.
So now we're position you so you're always there when
we say we got to have you, So you're there
for us, But you're not allowed to be good to us.
Do you see the play on words I'm using. That's
(08:25):
because you're being played by those words I just gave you.
Is this man that you dream about is a man
who sleeps around making babies while you dating him? Is
we're still talking about the man of your dreams. Here
I'm describing to you the letter that you wrote to me,
(08:46):
I'm talking to my daughter though, m is the man
of your dreams. A man that is mad at you,
that don't call you for two weeks because he mad.
Real men don't get mad and don't call you for
two weeks. That is a female trait. That's a female trait.
(09:12):
Real men do not get mad at you and don't
call you for two weeks. But you are woman though what?
I don't know what? Dude just done that? Alright, guys,
we definitely have to go email us or Instagram. What's
your thoughts? I know it's crazy. On today's Strawberry Letter,
go to my girl Shirley at my Girl Shirley and
(09:33):
don't forget like I said this Coming Thursday, Strawberry Letter
live on Facebook right after the show one thirty Eastern time,
so everybody will have time to join us on Thursday
All right, come on, it's time for this letter. Let
your letter subject found the man of my dreams. Good
morning all, we'll find out. Good morning all. This letter
is really for Steve the code crack Hollo. Excuse me.
(00:24):
I'm a thirty five year old mother, single mother of
three kids sixteen, fifteen, and eleven. I've been to Force
for about five years and don't know much about the
game's men play. I listened to you all the time,
and over the last six months I have really learned
a lot. But I have a situation that I don't
know how to handle. I've been seeing the man of
(00:45):
my dreams on and off for the last four years.
Is everything I have ever dreamed of in a man.
But I have three problems I need your help with. First,
he is always saying he's not ready to settle down.
He's always done the go, but want me there and
he returns. He says he enjoys being with me, and
I am the type of woman he wants to be with.
(01:05):
Is this game to keep me where he wants me? Second,
I received an anonymous text message saying he has a
child on the way. This makes three I only know
about and have seen one. I forward the text to him,
and he avoided me for about two weeks. When I
finally spoke with him, he confirmed that this was true.
(01:26):
He said that one of his old girlfriends informed him
that she had his child. I did not ask for details.
The crazy part is he got mad at me. We
argued about me knowing this information. This really threw me
for a loop. He is mad because I know why.
I really don't understand that. Do men share information depending
(01:47):
on what the person means to them? Did he keep this?
Did he keep this because I don't really matter and
had no right to ask him about this. Third, I
want this man and in my life as my man,
But after the children's situation, I'm not sure if this
is what I want to deal with. First, I mean
(02:07):
for the next eighteen years, if I have to deal
with text, not, what will I have to What if
I have to deal with text not? What will I
have to deal with once this child is here? Now? Now? Now?
What will I have to deal with once the child
is here? Baby mama drama? My kids are almost grown,
(02:29):
and I don't know if I want to start over.
I want to keep him close to see how this
situation will work out. So I asked him if he
could satisfy my sexual needs. If he could, if he
could just satisfy my sexual needs, thank you, no strings attached.
He did not like that, but after a while of
talking he agreed. Is this a mistake on my part?
(02:49):
Should I just walk away? I know you have a
way of making women feel bad about being stupid, but
I don't have much knowledge when it comes to men
in their games. What would you tell me if I
was your daughter? Signed found the man of my dreams? Wow? Uh, dear,
found the man of my dreams. I just want to
know why is this the man of your dreams? You
(03:10):
didn't give us any information or any clues as to
why he couldn't be the man of your dreams. You've
been with him off and on for four years. Why
hasn't he turned this dream into a reality? Uh? To you?
He says, he's not ready to settle down, and he's
got a baby on the way. That right there is
a nightmare. It's twelve minutes after We'll be back Steve
(03:31):
Show two. Found the man of my dreams? Here we go.
Good morning all. This letter is really for Steve Coop
the cold Cracker. I'm a thirty five year old mother,
single mother of three six, fifteen, and eleven. I've been
divorced for about five years and don't know much about
(03:52):
the games me and play. I listened to you all
the time, and over the last six months I've really
learned a lot. But I have a situation that I
don't know how to handle. I've been seeing the man
of my dreams on and off for the last four years.
He is everything I ever dreamed of in a man.
But I have three problems and I need your help
with First, he is always saying that he's not ready
(04:14):
to settle down. He's always on the goal, but want
me to be there when he returns. He says he
enjoys being with me, and I'm the type of woman
he wants to be with. Is this game to keep
me where he wants me? Second, I received an anonymous
text message saying that he has a child on the way.
Well this makes three, as in children I only know,
(04:37):
I only know about and have seen one. I afforded
to text to him, and he avoided me for about
two weeks. When I finally spoke with him, he confirmed
that this was true. He said to one of his
old girlfriends informing him that she had his child. I
did not ask for details the crazy parties. He got
mad at me, we arguing about me knowing this information.
(05:00):
This really threw me for a loop. He is mad
because I know why. I really understand that. Do me
and share information depending on what the person means to them?
And did he keep this because I don't really matter
and had no right to ask him about this. Third,
I want this man in my life as my man,
but after the children's situation, I'm not sure if that's
(05:22):
what I want to deal with for the next eighteen years.
If I have to deal with the text now, what
would I have to deal with once the child is here?
Baby mama drama. My kids are almost grown and I
don't know if I want to start over. I want
to keep him close to see the situation, how the
situation will work out. So I asked him if he
could just satisfy my sexual needs, no strings attached. He
(05:42):
did not like that, but after a while of talking,
he agreed. Is this a mistake on my part? Or
should I just walk away? I know you have a
way of making women feel bad about being stupid, but
I don't have much knowledge when it comes to me
and and their games. What would you tell me if
I was your daughter? Signed found the man of my dreams? Okay,
that's fair, that's fair. You want the daughter conversation? Okay,
(06:08):
I got that, because I have another one for you too.
But we'll save the jokes. Here's a conversation I would
have if you were my daughter. Now, you say at
the top of the letter, daughter, you found a man
of your dreams. Okay, he's everything I've ever dreamed of. Okay,
(06:30):
then let me describe this guy to you. That's the
man of your dreams and everything you've dreamed of. First
of all, you said that you've been seeing the man
of my dreams on and off for the last four years.
When you dream of a man in a relationship, Do
you dream of a relationship that's on and off? I'm
(06:52):
just I'm this is this is my daughter. I'm talking
to correct that's what you said. Okay, cool? Do you
dream when you dream of a man? Is your relationship
on and off? To be careful what you say, ladies.
If this is the man of your dreams, but you've
been in a four year relationship that's been on and off,
this is what you dreamed of. Did you dream of
(07:15):
a man who's always saying he's not ready to settle down.
He's always on the goal, but he wants me there
when he returns. So you just good for him where
he needs you to be. You're not allowed to be
good to him temporary. See you just listen to me carefully.
(07:40):
You're not being allowed to be good to him. You
just being good for him. If you don't have a
man in your life that positions you so you can
be good to him, but he's positioning you so you
can be good for him. It's a cold trick women
(08:02):
that we play, and we play on your nurturing side
to make you think that you that we need you.
So now we're position you so you're always there when
we say we got to have you, So you're there
for us, But you're not allowed to be good to us.
Do you see the play on words I'm using. That's
(08:25):
because you're being played by those words I just gave you.
Is this man that you dream about is a man
who sleeps around making babies while you dating him? Is
we're still talking about the man of your dreams. Here
I'm describing to you the letter that you wrote to me,
(08:46):
I'm talking to my daughter though, m is the man
of your dreams. A man that is mad at you,
that don't call you for two weeks because he mad.
Real men don't get mad and don't call you for
two weeks. That is a female trait. That's a female trait.
(09:12):
Real men do not get mad at you and don't
call you for two weeks. But you are woman though what?
I don't know what? Dude just done that? Alright, guys,
we definitely have to go email us or Instagram. What's
your thoughts? I know it's crazy. On today's Strawberry Letter,
go to my girl Shirley at my Girl Shirley and
(09:33):
don't forget like I said this Coming Thursday, Strawberry Letter
live on Facebook right after the show one thirty Eastern time,
so everybody will have time to join us on Thursday
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