Easy Way Out
When you find yourself in the fight of your life... When you wake up in hell... Trapped in a mental prison that no one else can see... there are no bonus points awarded for difficulty. There is no such thing as perfection. Only escape. Freedom. Any voice telling you you're not allowed to take the path of least resistance out of hell is not a voice invested in your freedom, but in your confinement. Always, Always, always take the Easy Way Out. This podcast is about transforming your life from the inside out. Trauma recovery. Healing. Success. Relationships. Career. Rebuilding self-trust and love. It primarily uses weight loss as the proving ground, but the concepts shared in this show carry to practically every aspect of life.
Episodes
In this episode, we delve into the complexities of compulsive behaviors, from minor bad habits to severe addictions. Learn foundational strategies to shift your relationship with these urges and begin your path towards healing. Drawing from personal experience and extensive coaching practice, we explore how to tackle compulsions with compassion and understanding rather than force and judgment. Discover pr...
In this episode, John discusses how to overcome shame to gain access to your inner world and achieve inner peace. He explains the crippling nature of shame, its dual nature, and how it affects our mental health. John shares his personal journey with childhood PTSD and his years-long quest to understand mental illness and trauma. He emphasizes the importance of disempowering shame to empower oneself and of...
Transforming Your Life by Overcoming All or Nothing Thinking
In this episode, John delves into the pervasive issue of all-or-nothing thinking, a mindset that can impede progress in various aspects of life including weight loss, relationships, and career goals. John discusses the origin of this mentality, often rooted in childhood experiences and perfectionism, and offers practical strategies to ...
In this episode, John takes viewers through five key shifts essential for healing from PTSD: moving from survival mode to seeking what you truly want, transitioning from rule-based to values-based living, fostering hope rather than relying solely on prediction, surrendering control to embrace internal motivation, and transitioning from resistance to acceptance. John emphasizes the importance of self-accep...
In this episode, John delves deeply into the concept of acceptance as a crucial step in healing from trauma. He explains how acceptance frees up energy, outlines its role in better understanding and contextualizing traumatic experiences, and advocates for recognizing the ongoing manifestations of trauma in daily life. The episode touches on three areas of acceptance: accepting the reality of what happened...
In this episode, John provides a comprehensive overview of self love in the context of healing from trauma and mental illness. Key points discussed include common myths and misconceptions about self love, such as vanity, narcissism, and selfishness, and how these ideas are influenced by religious and cultural backgrounds. John also addresses the obstacles to self love such as dogma, avoidance patterns, co...
People Pleasing is f**king you up way more than you think.
In this episode, John Oakes explores the concept of people pleasing, revealing that it is often not about making others happy but a survival mechanism rooted in childhood. He discusses how this behavior can significantly affect mental health, weight loss goals, and overall wellbeing. Through the example of a character named Cindy, John il...
In this episode, John tackles one of the greatest tragedies of unhealed trauma: the fact that it causes us to vehemently reject good things in life.
- Why, every day, millions of people actively reject opportunity, money, and caring relationships.
- How childhood trauma creates a false frame of reference that warps adult judgment.
- How this warped judgment causes good people to reject good things.
- W...
Long term weight loss is a campaign, not a single battle. We'd love for the journey to be all success and rainbows, but it usually isn't. If your mental health issues have caused your weight problem, then chances are, they will flare up at some point, putting your progress in serious jeopardy.
Today, I'm going to share with you a way of living that helps me avoid weight regain eve...
We all have dark thoughts sometimes, but if you have trauma or severe mental health issues, these thoughts can be WAY darker and stronger. Usually, you are taught to just white-knuckle through it, but there is an approach to dealing with dark thoughts that will not only help you stay safe and unharmed but help you move toward deeper healing.
You can learn to see these difficult thoughts and emoti...
In this episode, coach John recounts a story of Cindy and her weight loss journey from 350 lbs to where she is today.
This offers a picture of what successful and sustainable weight loss looks like while begging the question, "How did she become this version of herself?"
John discusses the five non-negotiable steps that every person has to go through it they want to heal and lo...
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In this episode I explain what my book is about, why I wrote it and what you can get from it.
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In this episode, John embarks on a discussion of three key principles to easier, more successful and more sustainable weight loss.
Topics include:
- Common fears about weight loss coaching or programs in general
- Why people shy away from getting the help they need
- The power of observing life before changing anything
- The way to play "jenga" with your diet
- How to enter calorie deficits in th...
In this episode, John discusses the popular fitness and mental toughness challenge, 75 Hard.
Topics include:
- why 75 Hard is emblematic of our self-improvement culture
- where our fitness and self-improvement culture routinely lets us down and keeps us stuck
- why challenges usually serve as litmus tests rather than something that produces growth
- the problem with pursuing "toughness" in service o...
In this episode, John recounts the blessings of 2023. In particular, he draws attention to the foods and possessions that made the year great. He covers everything from fitness wearables to powdered peanut butter.
Topics include:
- The benefits of polyamorous garages
- Poor flower bed soil (I mean absolute trash)
- An ode to dairy products
- John's sick home gym set up
- Buying rubber mats from a tweaker
- Joh...
In this podcast episode, John explains how a noble emotion like obligation has come to wreak so much havoc in our behavior. To understand this, he explores the evolution of human societies, the evolutionary context of obligation, and the role of authority.
Topics include:
- How and why human society originated in the form of autonomous, self-sustaining clans
- Why increasing social complexity beca...
In this podcast episode, host John explores the concept of motivation from a fresh persepctive.
Topics Include:
- Why motivation is better understood as a throttle rather than a resevoir
- The three biggest impediments to motivation
- The three biggest drivers of innate motivation
- Why we should never look for motivation on the outside
- The fitness industry's exploitation of people's lack of motivati...
You'll get the JOURNEY thing once you listen.
In this episode, John sits down with Mark, one of his very first clients, to reflect on the bigger picture of weight loss and all he has learned on his "journey."
Topics Include:
- Mark's journey with intuitive eating (its strengths and limitations)
- The importance of body acceptance
- Mark's experiences of studying psychology...
In this podcast episode, John reflects on his relationship with caffeine and other stimulants, discussing their role in his life from childhood to adulthood.
Topics discussed:
- How John unwittingly became a caffeine junkie in early childhood.
- The role caffeine played in his childhood
- The impacts this had on his psyche and wellbeing
- How he (again unwittingly) got off the go-juice in early adulthoo...
In this episode, host John delves into the topic of stress and emotional eating.
He highlights that these behaviors are not solely about the emotions themselves, but rather our unease in dealing with them.
John explores the historical background of emotional eating, drawing comparisons between simpler times in the past and the distractions of the present.
Listeners are urged to acknowledge and...
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