Unshackled Love: Parenting in Faith

In this special episode of the Unshackle Love Podcast, Bruce and Kaila Payne are joined by their daughters Zoe and Gabby, along with Gabby's boyfriend Gabe, to gain insight into their perspective on the climate of America today. The conversation covers the importance of their personal faith journeys, the role of parents in guiding their children's spiritual growth, and the moral and political state of America. These teens s...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila Payne discuss the emotional toll of a challenging week marked by the commemoration of 9/11 and the martyrdom of Charlie Kirk. They reflect on the importance of unity and servant leadership, inspired by Simon Sinek's book 'Leaders Eat Last.' The conversation extends to the broader disunity in America, attributing current societal issues to a spiritual battle. They emphasize the need for i...

In this episode of the Unshackled Low Podcast, Bruce and Kaila Payne discuss the challenges and necessities of parental control as children grow into adulthood. They share personal stories and biblical insights, emphasizing the importance of gradually releasing control and allowing children to develop independence. They illustrate this with Bruce's decision to let his daughters spend quality time together without him, reflectin...

In this episode of the Unshackled Love podcast, Bruce and Kaila Payne share their journey as parents of nine children and how they manage the daily challenges of parenting. They discuss the importance of being firm, fair, and consistent in raising children, emphasizing the need to set boundaries and enforce consequences. The conversation covers practical tips, personal anecdotes, and biblical insights on disciplining children with ...

In this episode of the Unshackle Love Podcast, Bruce and Kaila Payne discuss the significance of intentional parenting through the concept of 'dating' your children, spouse, and God. They emphasize the importance of quality time, setting examples for respect and communication, and the spiritual connection that comes from dedicating time to God. The conversation highlights practical experiences and insights from their journey as par...

In this episode of the Unshackled Love Podcast, Bruce and Kaila dive into the concept of FOMO, or the Fear of Missing Out. As parents of nine children, they explore how this modern anxiety affects both kids and adults, fueled by the endless options and social media highlights. Join them as they share personal stories, insights, and a faith-based perspective on finding contentment and purpose amidst life's many distractions. Tune in...

In this episode, Bruce is reflecting on Fatherhood and what it means to him. He invites you to their dining room table as all NINE little Paynes join the conversation to reflect on their favorite family traditions and give some honest feedback to their dad about areas he can grow.

Scripture References:

• "As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him." (Psalms 103:...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila address their children's many accomplishments and the drive for wanting to be the best by giving your best and, as parents, the importance of having expectations for effort. 

Scripture Citations

• “A slacker’s craving will kill him because his hands refuse to work.” (‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭21‬:‭25‬ ‭CSB‬‬)
• “There is profit in all hard work, but endless talk leads only to poverty.” (‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭...

In this episode, to commemorate Mother's Day, Bruce and Kaila talk about the importance of the role of moms in a family, the impact their moms have made in their lives, and Kaila shares her purpose as a mom raising her children into adults. 

Scripture Citations

• “About this time, a man and woman from the tribe of Levi got married. The woman became pregnant and gave birth to a son. She saw that he was a special baby ...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila answer some of their most frequently asked questions by others and give a little bit of insight into their lives as parents of nine and how they have had to adapt to meet the needs of their family.

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[01:45] What kind of car do you drive?
[04:09] Did you always want a lot of kids?
[07:59] When do you get "you" time?
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In this episode, Bruce and Kaila talk about the busyness of their schedule and open up about the vulnerability that comes from being busy and tired, when you feel like you’re running on fumes and have very little to give. Life can weigh you down, but it doesn't have to if you keep your eyes fixed on Jesus who rejuvenates our souls. 

Episode 10: Q&A Form

[01:06] Intro: Busy Schedules
[04:32] Being Obedient when ...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila talk about how they have shifted their perspective on parenting to reflect God’s love for sinners as they raise children who are being tempted by the devil and the cravings of the world. They talk about the importance of keeping your own spiritual walk strong, how to show God’s love and grace through patience and understanding, while making sure that we are being a living example of what it means to...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila are joined by their 16 year old daughter, Zoe, to talk about how people use their words, including cursing and putting others down, but how God wants us to use words to build up others, share our testimony, and give life to those around us. 

[01:27] Intro to Topic
[03:24] Meet Zoe & talk about cursing
[07:55] Accountability 
[15:14] "Shut your mouth"
[21:00] Go...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila talk about the importance of setting a personal growth plan so that we can reach our full potential as individuals, which allows us to pour into our children, helping them to grow into productive adults who value a growth mindset, create measurable goals, and value learning from mistakes. 

[01:54] The Laws of Growth (John Maxwell)

[07:35] Planning ahead

[14:22] Step One: Reflection

[22:29] Step Two...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila share their own Christmas message and a reminder that, regardless of the emotions felt during this season, Christmas is a time for redemption and a time for giving. As Bruce reflects on the story of Mary and Joseph, he shares of how God led the Paynes to Texas in an unlikely time and in unlikely circumstances only to bring blessings through faith and obedience. 

[01:30] Into to Christmas Me...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila return, this week of thanksgiving, to offer their own thanks and talk about the importance of being thankful for all that God has provided for us, even in difficult times. Acknowledging the ways God is good allows us to have an attitude of gratitude, changing our perspective on current situations that may be bringing you down. 

[00:42] Intro to Thanksgiving

[02:57] Reading of Psalms 100

[03:4...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila talk about anger and discipline, the importance of controlling our anger as parents, how to stop taking things so personally, and leading your children to better choices through gentleness and kind teaching.

Connect with the Paynes: www.growingpaynes.org

[00:46] Intro to Anger

[04:28] What gets under my skin (Kaila)

[06:59] What gets under my skin (Bruce)

[09:09] What God says about Anger

[14:07] How...

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In this episode, Bruce and Kaila use scripture to define what unshackled is, what it means to us, and how we can show unshackled love as parents to our children.

Music Intro/Exit: Unshackled by David Upton (listen on Spotify)
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[02:22] Definition of Unshackled
[03:33] Unshackled Love for Bruce
[07:01] Unshackled Love for...