Pretty Lonesome with Madeline Argy

this week i talk about friendship and why making friends in your 20s feels so fucking complicated. i get into wanting a friend group for basically the first time in my life, the difference between attracting chaotic people and actually choosing to keep them around, and why someone feeling instantly familiar isn't always a good sign. turns out feeling like home and actually being safe might be two completely different things. enjoy ...

this week i talk about why i've slowly stopped centering romance without really meaning to. i get into having crushes as a way of filling an emotional void, where all that obsessive energy actually comes from, and why i've started redirecting it back into my own life instead. we also talk about purpose, learning for the sake of learning, language, fear, and the weird realization that maybe the things we chase in other people have b...

this week i come to the recent realization that i have control issues, which is deeply inconvenient because i genuinely thought i was one of the least controlling people. i get into the difference between trying to control other people and trying to control yourself, why fear makes certainty feel so comforting, and how i slowly realized i've been mistaking reassurance for safety. we also talk about how it relates to OCD and emetoph...

this week i talk about why saying no has always been so hard for me and what it’s cost me. i get into abstinence, therapy, relationships, and this pattern of changing yourself to fit other people's expectations. I talk about self-betrayal, the shame of staying in things too long, and why forgiving yourself for what you tolerated might be the only way to actually move on. also a quick recap of Euphoria and why i think it lost ...

this week i talk about moving to new york, feeling completely untethered, and what happens when you finally reach the version of life you always imagined for yourself and realize you still have no clue what comes next. i get into fear, uncertainty, why i think some of the best things in my life came from periods where i felt the most lost, and this idea of chasing your fears instead of spending your whole life running from them. we...

this week I am joined by joyce and we talk about how we became friends, the weirdness of fashion week, missing flights because of heartbreak, dropping out of school, situationships that should’ve ended six months earlier, and why having a crush is sometimes just projecting an entire personality onto a man who barely exists. we also get into dick print analysis, emetophobia, celibacy, coachella anxiety, and whether love is act...

this week i talk about grace, forgiveness, and why i don’t think they’re the same thing at all. i get into this idea that forgiveness is supposed to mean you’re healed, and how that never really made sense to me because i can understand someone, even feel compassion for them, and still be hurt by what they did. i talk about trying to intellectualize my way out of pain, why that doesn’t work, and the moment i...

From dinosaur documentaries to a TSA encounter that became an analogy for friendship, this week's episode helped me understand that everything is kind of a projection. i talk about living out of a suitcase, missing my flight, and falling down a rabbit hole of evolution, extinction, and how nothing we think is permanent actually is. then i get into people, why we get so triggered by certain traits in others, and how most of what we ...

we’re back with another advice session from your submissions and this week we talk about toxic relationships, trauma bonds, and the danger of seeing the good in people who consistently hurt you. i get into why bad relationships can feel impossible to leave, why it sometimes feels like the person who hurt you “wins,” and how compassion can slowly turn into self-betrayal if you’re not careful. we also talk abo...

exciting new announcement this week and life updates that made me think more about discipline and how I want to learn to trust myself again. recently a lot has come up around trying to outrun old versions of myself and realizing that change doesn't always leave your bad habits behind. i talk about living in my head like it’s a courtroom, why overthinking feels like control, and how doing the small things really matter: drinki...

presenting: my betrayal list. we also go through your submitted resolutions for 2026 and how they align with mine as well. i talk about the small things that let me down this year, why they stuck with me, and how disappointment builds quietly when you don’t name it. figuring out my ins and outs for 2026 kind of helped me learn where my energy actually belongs. enjoy love u

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this week i do something a bit different. i go through my camera roll month by month and randomly pick photos from the last year, then explain what was actually happening behind each one. some are funny, some are embarrassing, some are way heavier than they look. it turns into a kind of accidental debrief of 2025, how much i hid, what i avoided talking about, and what all those moments say about shame, alignment, and letting things...

we're back with another advice session from your submissions and we talk about girl code, betrayal, and what happens when you do something that doesn’t sit right in your body. i get into female friendships, dating your friend’s ex, why shame hits harder when it comes from other women, and how easy it is to spiral into thinking you’re a bad person instead of a human who made a mistake. we also get into jealousy, mo...

this week i talk about going quiet for a while and what happens when life forces you to slow down and sit with yourself. i get into my fear of being seen alone, why that feeling has followed me since i was a kid, and how i finally stopped letting it dictate my choices. i talk about traveling by myself, meeting strangers, creative block, curiosity, and relearning how to enjoy my own company without shame. it’s about trusting y...

this week i talk about how to change your reality when you feel stuck, uninspired, or like you’re living the wrong life. i get into what it means to lose your spark, how to start believing in yourself again, and why sometimes the smallest changes—a different route to work, a new song, a stupid hat—can shift everything. i also talk about self-sabotage, fear of success, and how courage is usually just being scared a...

this week i talk about what it means to actually sit down with the voices in your head instead of just pretending they don’t exist. i get into jealousy, shame, why validation from other people never really fixes anything, and the way we convince ourselves we’re unlovable for the dumbest reasons. i also share what it felt like to disappear for a month, why my ego has a fuck ass bob, and how noticing the scary stuff might...