This Isn't Working

We always hear about adding to our relationships — better communication, more connection, new tools.

But what if the relationship you want isn’t about adding… what if it’s about cutting away?

In this episode, I’m sharing the personal patterns I had to cut away in order to have the relationship I say I want: one built on transparency, honesty, and vulnerability.

I’ll also share what the difference really is betwee...

What happens when we avoid telling the truth — not just the big truths, but the small, daily ones about how we feel, what we want, and who we really are?

In this episode, we explore a hard truth: the more we pretend in our relationships, the more we erode trust, intimacy, and connection.

We talk about:

• Why pretending doesn’t create closeness — it creates distance

• The hidden cost of being “the agreeable one”

Today we dive into a subtle but powerful dynamic that shapes so many of our choices: living according to other people’s needs, expectations, or comfort—often at the expense of our own desires. We say we want something, but we hesitate, delay, or quietly wait for someone else’s permission before moving forward.

Which begs the question:

WHOSE LIFE ARE YOU LIVING???

Through personal stories, we'll explore how this patter...

In today’s episode, I'm breaking down one of the most common reasons people stay stuck in patterns that don’t serve them: they’re solving the wrong problem!

From clients who just want peace in their relationships to those who avoid hard conversations to keep the peace—I’m walking you through how this sneaky dynamic plays out and what to do instead.

I’ll share some real-life examples (including one from my own relationship), and t...

We all say we want change—better communication, more intimacy, a thriving business, a healthier body.

But if you’ve been circling the same patterns over and over again, it’s time to ask: are you committed, or just interested?

In this powerful episode, I break down the sneaky ways we stay stuck—not because we’re lazy, but because we’re still hedging. We’re waiting for the right moment, hoping for permission, outsourcing responsibilit...

When we’re young, we believe everything is possible.

We dream big, imagine superpowers, and trust that we can have love, wealth, purpose, and joy.... EVERYTHING, all at once. But somewhere along the way, we’re taught to settle. To be grateful for “enough.”

In this episode, we'll explore the unconscious beliefs we adopt that tell us it’s wrong to want more—more money, more love, more freedom. These beliefs quietly shape our l...

How many times have you gotten upset with your partner—not because of what they actually said or did, but because of what you assumed they meant?

Assumptions are at the root of so many relationship struggles. We assume we know what our partner meant, so we get defensive. We assume we know their intentions, so we judge them. We assume we know how they feel, so we react—without ever checking if any of it is actually true.

In this e...

What if one day could change everything?

What if you could finally see the thing that’s been keeping you stuck—the hidden manual you've been following that's shaping your life, relationships, health, finances… your success? And what if, once you saw it, you could change it?

In this episode, I’m sharing a powerful realization that came up when my coach, Kim Guillory, and I decided to host Have It All—a one-day transformational event ...

Have you been avoiding the conversation????

You know the one...

You keep putting it off because it feels too big, too uncomfortable, or too risky. Maybe it’s with your partner, a friend, a family member, a child, or even your boss.

But avoiding it isn’t making things better.

In this episode, we’re breaking down exactly how to have the hard conversation so you can walk away feeling clear instead of drained.

You’ll learn...

The holidays are marketed as the ‘most wonderful time of the year,’ but for many of us, they’re filled with stress, awkward moments, and the impossible pressure to make everything perfect. In this episode, we’re flipping the script and focusing on what really matters—connection.

I’m sharing my own holiday journey, from rebelling against the traditions I felt trapped by to finally finding balance. Plus, we’ll explore:

•Why perfection ...

In today’s episode, we’re uncovering a powerful strategy for stopping arguments before they even begin. It’s all about recognizing that two perspectives can coexist—yours and your partner’s—and that both can be valid, even if they’re different. Too often, we get caught up in defending our experience as the only experience, but there’s a deeper connection to be found when we make room for both truths.

In This Episode, You’ll Lear...

In this episode, we dive into a crucial aspect of relationships—understanding the difference between reaction and response, or put another way, conscious action versus impulsive reaction. I break down what these terms really mean and how we often get caught up in reactions driven by our emotional triggers, which can lead to conflict and disconnection in our relationships.

We explore emotional triggers using a relatable analogy: ...

In this episode I dive into how our perceptions and the stories we create in our minds can control our behavior and reactions in relationships. Often, we’re not responding to what’s actually happening but to the narrative we’ve built around it. I share a personal example from my relationship with Walt, where I realized I was reacting to a story rather than what was happening in the moment. I'll explore how to recognize when you’re ...

In this episode, I’m sharing a personal story about a moment in my relationship that challenged me to rethink how I show up with affection and vulnerability. When Walt brought up how I was responding to his attempts for affection, my initial reaction was resistance and blame. I’ll walk you through the feelings that surfaced, how I realized my judgments were based on old memories and past fears, and the breakthrough that came from l...

In this episode of This Isn’t Working, we’re diving into the idea of “unspoken agreements” in relationships—those expectations we carry around in our minds without even realizing it. We explore how these unspoken agreements can create tension and frustration when our partners don’t live up to the rules we’ve set in our heads.

I share a personal story about how these unspoken expectations showed up in my own relationship and the ...

In this episode of This Isn’t Working, we explore the power of turning your focus inward when you find yourself reacting to your partner. Meg shares a personal story about a recent experience with her partner, Walt, where she found herself caught up in trying to control an external situation which really had nothing to do with her feelings.

Instead of continuing the cycle of reactivity, she realized the importance of shifting he...

In this week's episode I dive into a common, yet rarely discussed, issue in long-term relationships: the loneliness and isolation that can arise even (or maybe especially) after years of being together. 

Episode Highlights:

The Trap of "Should": We explore how the tendency to behave in ways we think we "should" or that are "good" for others can lead us away from our true selves. This discon...

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