Overcome Pornography for Good

Do you find yourself believing every thought your brain throws at you? Our brains are wired to keep us safe, which often means defaulting to negativity and imagining worst-case scenarios. These patterns can create shame, frustration, and old habits that keep us stuck, including patterns around pornography use.

In this episode, I explore how you can step back and observe your thoughts instead of automatically identifying with them. T...

Do you find yourself stuck in a cycle of self-judgment, especially when dealing with pornography struggles? That critical voice in your head can feel like an unrelenting force, weakening you both mentally and physically. The longer this judgment lingers, the more it blocks your energy and affects everything from your stress response to your ability to sleep.

In this episode, Coach Kat dives into how self-judgment creates a tox...

Have you ever wondered why all your hard work to overcome pornography still leaves you stuck in the same patterns? Many people are primarily focusing on filters, routines, or counting days. They work hard, follow all the steps, and still find themselves stuck in the same patterns, wondering why their efforts aren’t paying off.

In this episode, Coach Hunter explains why all of that misses the point. You’ll learn how to rebuild ...

Setting boundaries can feel challenging, especially when it involves people you care about—whether it’s a spouse, family, friends, or religious leaders. In this episode, we revisit an important discussion about setting healthy boundaries while overcoming pornography.

Transparency is crucial in building trust, especially with your spouse, but it’s equally important to protect your emotional and spiritual well-being. In this epi...

Have you ever wanted to get to know the coaches behind the Overcome Pornography for Good program? In this special Meet the Coaches episode, Jessica Farmer, Kat Jenkins, and Mimi Porter share how their unique journeys shaped the ways they guide clients toward real, lasting change.

Listen as the three coaches share insights from their personal experiences and show why different coaching styles matter, how the right fit can accel...

Do you feel like you're stuck in a cycle? The journey of overcoming pornography is often marked by repeating patterns that feel impossible to break. It can feel like falling into the same hole over and over again—lost, helpless, and unsure how to get out.

In this episode, Coach Kat shares a powerful metaphor about breaking free from unwanted habits. It illustrates how we move through stages of awareness and responsibility, fro...

Dating while working through pornography struggles can feel heavy and complicated. From fear of judgment to uncertainty about disclosure, it’s easy to get stuck wondering if you should even be dating at all.

In this episode, Coach Jessica Farmer talks about navigating dating while overcoming pornography use. She shares guidance on managing vulnerability, handling intense emotions, assessing your readiness for dating, and why p...

Do you ever feel like you're caught between believing you're either a good person or a bad person? This kind of black-and-white thinking can lead to frustration, especially when trying to change unwanted behaviors. The truth is, we all embody both positive and negative qualities—this duality is a part of being human.

In this episode, I explore how embracing this dual nature is key to creating lasting change. Trying to label ou...

Do you ever find yourself stuck in a cycle of negative thoughts that feel impossible to break? It’s easy to get caught up in self-doubt, frustration, or fear, believing those thoughts as truths. But what if, in that moment, you could choose a different path? In today’s episode, I’m revisiting the Choose Again Method, a simple and powerful technique to help you shift negative thinking and build a more positive mindset.

This met...

When your emotions feel like they're spiraling out of control, your body already knows what to do. In this episode, coach Kat Jenkins introduces a powerful hands-on technique called Jin Shin Jyutsu finger holds. This grounding practice assigns each finger to a specific emotion.

Through this guided practice, you'll discover how to use your own hands as tools for emotional regulation. Kat walks you through each finger hold step...

Do you ever feel like you should be further along in overcoming pornography? Despite knowing the tools, listening to the podcasts, and doing the work, something still feels off. It’s a common frustration that often leads to the belief that either you’re not trying hard enough or the tools aren’t working for you.

In this episode, Coach Hunter addresses this struggle by revealing a crucial shift in perspective. The issue isn’t t...

Is watching porn considered cheating? It’s a question many people wrestle with, and the answer isn’t black and white. In this episode, I explore the emotional complexities surrounding pornography use in committed relationships and how it intersects with infidelity, betrayal, and sexual boundaries. I dive into how personal values, inherited beliefs, and unspoken agreements shape how we view fidelity.

I discuss how infidelity is...

Have you ever felt sadness or confusion about letting go of something you desperately want out of your life? The grieving process often shows up in unexpected ways when you're trying to overcome pornography. It’s normal to experience complex emotions like grief, even when you know you want to quit. Understanding this emotional landscape can significantly transform your healing journey.

In this episode, Coach Jessica explores t...

If you’ve mastered your morning routine and crushed your gym goals, but still feel stuck when it comes to showing up in your relationships or handling hard emotions, you’re not alone. Discipline without emotional intelligence turns into control, not connection—and this is the key piece that so many self-development approaches miss. You can do everything “right” on paper and still find yourself disconnected, reactive, or avoiding em...

Do you ever feel like you're one stress away from losing control? That could mean you're outside your window of tolerance—a state where your emotional balance is compromised.

In this episode, Coach Hunter explains a powerful framework for understanding emotional regulation, using the metaphor of a rubber band to illustrate how our nervous system reacts to stress and why we sometimes turn to coping mechanisms, like pornography, when ...

Is censorship effective for pornography? While banning pornography might seem like a protective measure, it often backfires and creates more harm than good. In this episode, I explore how censorship, even with the best intentions, escalates the problems it aims to solve.

Learn why censorship isn’t real protection, how it can increase division and control, and what strategies actually protect kids while respecting adult freedom. You...

Do intrusive thoughts create distress for you, especially when they involve sexuality? Through my work helping people overcome pornography, I've noticed how these unwanted thoughts often trigger shame, anxiety, and a desperate desire to make them stop.

In this episode, I share a powerful exercise about a pink elephant that perfectly illustrates why fighting against intrusive thoughts only makes them stronger. I demonstrate how...

Are you a high achiever trying to do everything right? I dive deep into perfectionism today - not as a badge of honor, but as a core fear of not being enough that often masquerades as discipline and drive. As a perfectionist myself, I understand how this mindset can both motivate and harm us in our journey toward healing and growth.

This episode explores how perfectionism acts as a form of self-protection rather than self-impr...

Do you find yourself chasing a sense of worth that always feels just out of reach? Many of us hold ourselves hostage with our inner critic, especially when it comes to overcoming pornography. I see this pattern frequently in coaching sessions where clients believe they can't experience happiness or peace until they've "earned it" through extended periods without viewing porn.

In this episode, I explore how the inner critic oft...