Who Turned The Lights On?

Who Turned The Lights On?

Welcome to Who Turned The Lights On — a podcast for high-performing professionals over 40 who look fine on the outside but know something’s off beneath the surface. We explore the hidden cost of running in survival mode and uncover the real reason your drive isn’t delivering like it used to through lived experience and expert interviews. This is where science meets self-leadership. At the center of Nervous System Regulation—the overlooked key to sustained energy, clear decision-making, and a legacy that actually feels good to live. When the lights come on, everything changes. Stress stops driving. You start leading.

Episodes

July 17, 2025 41 mins

Probably my best iteration yet of how I I found my way out of the dark. I chose to share this information as an article I wrote for my younger self. Recording it and sharing it through audio with an invitation for you to come listen in.

This final episode in this 3 part micro series speaks to how those of us from high stress childhoods, ongoing stress careers, now aged 40sih, can find our way out of the dark.

How the nervous system...

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In this episode, this audio explores how nervous system adaptations silently shape the way we price, earn, and show up in business. From freezing at bigger ticket opportunities to collapsing under visibility, this recorded audio for my younger self, unpacks how survival logic—not strategy—often drives our decisions. We trace the five-layer Scarcity Code loop and reveal what shifts when pricing, receiving, and success stop being tra...

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July 16, 2025 17 mins

In a Who Turned The Lights On first, I invite you to listen to a reading I recorded for my younger self, and perhaps for yours, too. This is Part 1 of a short series called The Scarcity Code, exploring how survival, money, and self-limitation are shaped by the nervous system from a time long, long ago. 

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The final episode in an 8-part micro series exploring the 70 page book - Successful Outside, Struggling Inside. This final episode summarises the last 7 episodes, before we get stuck into some very helpful distinctions, insights & context as you find your own way out of the dark. I include some more lived experience to bring these ideas to life, and ultimately, give you a clear map and suggestions on how and where to start, or cont...

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While we don't really need to understand Neuroplasticity or Bioplasticity to recover, it is very helpful to undestand its role. Maybe understanding a bit about this, will make the path out of the dark a bit easier. 

Episode 18, is part 7 of our mini series exploring Successful Outside, Struggling Inside - a wee book of 70 pages that is my first attempt at articulating how I found my way out of the dark, and transformed my life more...

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The area I ignored most, that likely added at least a year or more to my recovery. This is part 6 of our mini series exploring the wee book: Successful Outside, Struggling Inside. Page 45-48 in that free 70 page PDF, examines pace & progress. 

We start by putting a few key distinctions on the table, and then examine pace for both your thinking self, and separately for your nervous system. 

We look at how you, hijack you. Specifical...

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This is episode 16, also known as part 5 of our mini series on Successful Outside Struggling Inside. We explore all 8 bio-items that are the building blocks for optimum nervous system health. Those 8 bio items are captured as an acronym: T.H.E. C.L.I.M.B. Each of these 8 will be applied differently pending which run of the nervous system ladder your baseline currently is. 

We take a brief tour in and around each 1 and I make sure t...

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Episode 15 is also part 4 in this mini series, exploring the 70 pg wee book - Successful Outside, Struggling Inside. This episode recaps the prior 3 episodes, before taking a deep dive into The Rulebook installed in childhood, reinforced into adult years, that hijacks your current reality as it creates all sorts of shenanigans while it is left unchecked. 

Quite literally, it is like having your 5 year old self make decisions for yo...

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Episode 14 coincides with a lived experience from this very morning that is used to shape, direct and explain this section of that wee book titled: Successful Outside, Struggling Inside, page 27-35 

You can get the pdf in your inbox by going to this page, leaving your email, before hitting submit. Should land within a few minutes. www.nervoussystemeconomy.com/nsi-book

This episode examines perception as projection

We look at two ...

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July 4, 2025 45 mins

Get instant access to the wee book here: Successful Outside, Struggling Inside >

We are back with the 2nd of our mini series discussing the wee book - Successful Outside, Struggling Inside, pages 16-25. This episode focuses exlusively on the nervous system, tabling distinctions between dysregulated and depleted, nervous sytem states as our baseline vs the places our nervous system moves in and through, before taking a much closer l...

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Episode 12 marks the beginning of a micro series I am running based on the wee book (70 page free PDF) titled, "Successful Outside, Struggling Inside." I believe the contents of this PDF to be the minimum viable baseline of Nervous System Intelligence any of us should have access to, especially if you struggle with anxiety, mental health, self worth, and have a high stress childhood. 

As such, I am narrating, discussing and sharing...

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What if your performance wasn’t just about your mindset, but your mitochondria? What if quality of life came down to what’s in—and around—your nervous system?

In this episode, Ruth Pearce and Shannon Eastman sit down to explore the lived experience of Nervous System Intelligence through the lens of environment—both visible and...

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Episode 10 will go down as one of my all time favourites. I appreciated the wisdom, insight and opportunity to learn from a business mind who prioritises consciousness as a tool to grow your business into the ultimate exit.  There was no effort required in making the invisibile, visible in ways that land, and shift, and compel a new way of seeing. 

We covered a lot of ground and each had their own pause for relfection - from what i...

Italian sports car. Corner office. Member of the judiciary, Solictor - On paper, Claire Payne had it all - and - Friday evening, 9pm in her office, with her little one at home, she has a moment. 

In this candid and revealing episode, Claire shares the moment when she realised she was living entirely as a head on a stick with no awareness of a body until it felt l...

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Dr. Joshua Rosenthal joins me for a game-changing conversation on EMFs, coherence, and the invisible field your nervous system is trying to regulate within—whether you're aware of it or not.

Most orf us would be forgiven for feeling tired, foggy, or fried. As a society, life is different than generations before - and - we c...

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This is episode 7, Inspired by some great comments on a linkedin post I made earlier, over here.  I got inspired to riff off the comments and speak to something in a bit more depth and specificity as we all get our heads around this nervous system stuff. When we do, this gets to become leverage creating major shifts in the quality of our life - around that entire wheel (as in the wheel of life). 

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April 30, 2025 60 mins

I hit record 3x as I got all choked up at seeing the truth of this headline. The End of Survival Mode is attainable, accessible and I'm committed to sharing what I can with you to get your level of understanding on this high enough that you can see it too.  

In this episode I start to talk inside the distinction of You, and Your Nervous System. A favourite quote I like to pull out now is that this is not about you. This is about yo...

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Dr. Abrar Hussain is back to help us stand on some foundational concepts as it relates to all things #NervousSystemIntelligence. We cover the 3 nervous system states, why they matter, what creates them and how to navigate each one .I find myself asserting that our nervous system is 80% of the solution. That being stuck in a spin cycle of anxiety, tension, over analysis, scarcity and unhelpful behaviours is repairable. In my experie...

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This episode examines something that happened to me (Shannon Eastman) earlier today.  I bombed my podcast and inside that experience I got to see something that feels helpful to share with you. I mention my daily practice in this episode. You'll find that here > 

When someone taps into an old, unresolved emotional wound — especially one rooted in c...

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I would use words like alignment, allowing, and endless access to everything to describe life with a regulated nervous system.  It's being able to meet and greet conflict with compassion and self awareness, not the absence of conflict. It's being met with direct confrontation and feeling neutral in your body. The need to defend, retaliate, or set the record straight becomes less important than having compassion for miscommunication...

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