Breaking the Silence

Kelli and I had such a real conversation today about that little dash between the day we’re born and the day we leave this earth. That dash is our one life—what are we doing with it? We talk about being intentional with our time and our words, treasuring the moments with the people we love, and making sure no one ever has to wonder how we feel. It’s about living full out, being bold, and not wasting the gift of each day we’re given...

Your identity isn’t up for debate — it’s already been spoken over you by God. But if we’re honest, the voices of others can feel louder than His sometimes. In today’s episode, we’ll dive into why we care so much about what people think, how to untangle our worth from approval, and how the Let Them mindset can help us walk in freedom. If you’re ready to stop shrinking to fit into other people’s boxes and start standing in who God sa...

What do you do when the last child leaves the house—and the quiet sets in? And what if you're still raising kids, but you've already walked five out the door?

In this heartfelt episode, Kelli shares what it’s been like watching her stepdaughter—the last to leave—step into adulthood, officially making her a new member of the empty nest club. I (Raynea) reflect on the journey of launching five grown kids, while still in the midst of r...

What does it actually look like to feel secure in love, in friendship, in parenting—even in your relationship with God? After talking through the different attachment wounds, today we’re shifting the focus to something so many of us are craving: secure attachment.

In this episode, Kelli and I are unpacking:

💡 What secure attachment is (and what it isn’t)

🧠 The mindset and nervous system of someone who feels safe in love

📱 Real-life ...

Have you ever felt torn between craving closeness and wanting to run the moment someone gets too close? Or maybe you’ve loved someone who’s hot and cold—chasing connection one minute and pulling away the next? In this episode, Kelli and I are unpacking the fearful avoidant attachment style, where the need for connection and the fear of being hurt exist side by side.

We’re diving into:

⚡ How fearful avoidant attachment forms
💔 The inn...

Do you ever feel like you're too much in relationships? Like you're constantly overthinking, needing reassurance, or afraid someone might leave—even if they haven’t said a word? If that sounds familiar, you might be navigating anxious attachment. In today’s episode, Kelli and I are pulling back the curtain on this deeply emotional and often misunderstood attachment style.

We’re talking about:

💔 Why anxious attachment forms (and why ...

Why do some people seem so emotionally distant—even in relationships they care deeply about?

In this episode, Kelli and I are talking all about the dismissive avoidant attachment style—what it looks like, where it comes from, and how it quietly shapes our closest relationships. Whether you've been on the receiving end of someone's emotional walls, or you're realizing you might be the one who pulls away when things get to...

If you're new around here—welcome! In this episode, Kelli flips the script and asks me the questions, so you can get to know the heart behind Breaking the Silence. From the grief that shaped me, to how I found healing, to why I started this podcast and what drives my work today—we’re pulling back the curtain. This conversation is honest, fun, and full of little pieces of my story that I hope will help you feel less alone in you...

In this honest, heart-to-heart conversation, Kelli and I open up about something so many of us wrestle with—the urge to run when relationships start to feel too close. We talk about the stories we’ve told ourselves for years… like “I’m too much,” “I’m not worthy,” or “I’'m unloveable.”

From attachment styles to the beliefs that quietly shape how we show up (or shut down), we explore what’s underneath our patterns—and how healing beg...

This week’s episode is a special one—it’s the beginning of a new chapter. I’m not doing this alone anymore. Today, I’m introducing you to someone who’s been behind the scenes in my story for years: my best friend, my safe space, and now… my co-host. Kelli and I have walked through deep grief, big transitions, healing, and lots of laughter—and now we’re bringing our friendship to the mic. We’re sharing the story of how we met, how w...

This one’s real and raw, friend. I sat down with tears in my eyes and a heart wide open, processing my deep desire to be a constant, steady, safe place for the people I love—just like God has been for me. What if we could be that anchor for others in the middle of their chaos… not trying to fix them, but simply being present? In this episode, I explore about what it looks like to love others —steadily, faithfully, and without condi...

Today, I’m sitting with my sweet friend Laura, who’s walking through something no one is ever truly prepared for. Just three months ago, her husband went to heaven after some major life changes. After 28 years of marriage, she never expected to carry the title “widow.” In this honest and tender conversation, Laura shares what it’s been like to lose the love of her life—and how she’s learning to take the next breath, one day at a ti...

In today’s episode, I’m joined by Gina Nichols — certified life coach, dynamic speaker, and the visionary founder of Divorce: Redefined. After walking through the heartache of three divorces and raising a beautifully blended family, Gina made a powerful decision: her story wouldn’t end in pain. Instead, she transformed it into purpose. Now, she helps high-achieving women stop letting divorce define them and start creating the life ...

What do you do when life shatters around you? When the very people who were supposed to love and protect you are the ones who cause the deepest wounds?

In this powerful episode of Breaking the Silence, I sit down with Dana Hildebrand, a Licensed Professional Counselor and Transformational Faith-Based Life Coach, who knows firsthand what it means to feel abandoned, broken, and lost. After enduring the trauma of sexual abuse and the d...

There were days I questioned why—why I had to walk through loss, why the road felt so heavy, why life had to change in ways I never wanted. Maybe you’ve felt that too. But here’s what I know now: God has placed me, and you, exactly where we’re meant to be. Even in the pain, even in the uncertainty, there is purpose. You are a light in someone’s darkness. Your story, your presence, your voice—it matters more than you realize. Someon...

As we wrap up 2024, I’m taking a step back from the podcast for the remainder of the year. This break is a time to reflect, recharge, and prepare for what’s to come. I’ll be back in 2025, though I’m not quite sure of the exact date yet. Thank you for being part of this journey, and I can’t wait to connect with you again in the new year. Wishing you a Merry Christmas, a Happy New Year, and a season filled with love and joy. See you ...

Hey friend, if you’ve ever felt stuck in a cycle of victimhood, like life’s circumstances have defined who you are or what you’re capable of, this episode is for you. Today, we’re having an honest heart-to-heart about how easy it is to get caught up in that story—and how it’s not the end of the road. I want to remind you (and myself!) that we get to decide to choose something different. God isn’t done with us, no matter how far we’...

In this episode, I share my personal testimony of how God took me from a place of brokenness and unworthiness to a life of purpose and transformation. Drawing inspiration from other unlikely heroes such as Moses, David, Rahab, Peter & Paul that all seemed unworthy. I reflect on how God can use anyone—no matter their past—for His divine purposes. Join me as I explore the amazing grace that turned a former enemy of the faith into...