Vanilla Swingers - A Swinger Podcast for Newbies, by Newbies in the Lifestyle

😩 It’s not all champagne and orgasms. In this raw and candid episode, Kat & Leo pull back the satin sheets and get real about the moments that made them question everything. From the dizzying highs of new-relationship energy to the crushing lows of ghosting, jealousy, and emotional spirals, they share the darker side of the lifestyle rollercoaster - because for every hot night of NRE, there’s usually a WTF waiting around the c...

📸 We spent 6 months swiping through Feeld so you don’t have to - matching with unicorns, manicorns, dodging flakes, and figuring out WTF a skoliosexual is.

We’re breaking down: ✨ How to set up your couple profile 👻 The flake factor (it’s real) 🔥 Our favorite Feeld hookups 🧠 What “skoliosexual” even means

Feeld is spicy, swipey, and full of surprises - and we’re telling all in the latest Vanilla Swingers podcast episode.

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👻 Ghosting happens - even to Kat & Leo! In this episode, we’re spilling the tea on all the ghosting, the oof moments, and the head-scratchers we've had to deal with. Ghosting isn’t just for the newbies - whether you’re one week in or one year deep, it still stings. We’re here to share how it’s happened to us, how we’ve learned to bounce back, why it’s inevitable, and how to handle it without too much emotional fallout. Tune in...

😈 Kat’s riding a wave of MFM-induced euphoria - NRE blazing through her veins like a damn wildfire - and she’s talking a mile a minute. Fresh off her most perfect threesome (yes, even rivaling Italian Edward 😏), she and Leo unveil The Single Male Bible. Whether you're trying to find a manicorn or become one, this episode is your no-BS, slightly sweaty guide to single male success.

Spoiler: Most of these tips work for finding coup...

💋💻 We spent months deep in the trenches of Kasidie - flirting, playing, passing, and collecting validations like Black Friday shoppers grabbing TVs in a brawl. We spill the unfiltered tea on what it’s like to actually use one of the OG swinger platforms in 2025 - and give you tips to get the most bang for your buck. From emoji-head profile pics (guilty as charged!) and Starbucks meetups to that legendary single gent with 20+ rave...

📱 Ready to swipe, match, and maybe even moan? In this episode, we’re diving headfirst into the wild world of swinger apps - because navigating SLS, SDC, Feeld, Kasidie, and 3Fun is not for the faint of thong. We’ll give you our own personal flirty little overview of each app (don’t worry, deep dives are coming) and spill our top tips for building a swinger profile that actually makes people want to say yes. From bio basics to pic ...

🥊 It's the lifestyle debate that never dies - and we're diving in headfirst. In this episode, Kat & Leo break down what really goes on in the minds of single players vs. committed couples navigating the scene. From the thrill of a threesome to the emotional gymnastics of couple swaps, we’re talking strategy, vibe checks, jealousy triggers, and the very real difference between showing up solo vs. as a team. 🦄 v 👩🏻‍❤️‍👨🏻

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🏴‍☠ Yo Ho Ho and a bottle of rum! What do sunscreen bottles, secret bladder flasks, and a suspiciously full shampoo container have in common? Welcome to Part 2 of our Bliss Cruise recap - where we unpack the art of sneaky smuggling, the essentials you actually need to pack, and all the steamy HOT TAKES that’ll turn your cruise from basic to blissed-out.

From embarkation hacks to dining to dancing to how to find the elusive sexy ...

⚓ New owners, new app, and a whole lot of new ways to end up in someone else’s bed. Isn't that what it's all about?! In Part 1 of our Bliss Cruise 2025 recap -yep, our third cruise in a row (sluttons!) - we’re spilling the sexy tea on what changed, what stayed the same, and what had us screaming “Fine Bliss, just take our credit card and our clothes."

We’re talking rave nights, missed connections, and the app that finally let us st...

🛑 So you’re thinking about swinging… but what are the actual rules? Do you kiss? Do you cuddle? Can he finish on her chest, in her mouth or none of the above?

In this episode, Kat & Leo serve up the ultimate swinger starter pack - aka all the boundaries you need to talk about before anyone takes their clothes off. Think of it as your pre-game pep talk: condoms, safe words, “don’t choke me,” and how not to end up in a group cha...

🍆 Is there a limp d!ck epidemic sweeping the lifestyle? This week, Kat & Leo are talking about the one thing no swinger wants to admit happens… but absolutely does! And guess what? It’s not just older guys. From baby-faced 22-year-old studs to rugged 33-year-old firemen who literally wrestle flames - no one’s immune. From the pressure of group play to the mental gymnastics of threesomes, psychological ED is real - and it doesn...

🦄 Ah, the unicorn - magical, mythical, and the star of every red-blooded man’s fantasy since time before time - the elusive, electric MFF threesome. Especially when both women are also into each other. 🔥 It also happens to be Leo’s personal favorite fantasy. If he had it his way, we’d record this episode live from a pile of tangled limbs, giggles, and glitter.... an MFFFF if he could have his way.

We’ll spill the tea on unicorn e...

⭐What’s hotter than one man’s attention? Try two - with all eyes, hands, mouths (and more) on you. You're not alone. In this sultry episode, we’re diving deep into the world of MFM threesomes and showing you how to make the magic happen,  even if you're soft swap only. Let’s just say if Kat had to pick one way to play forever… this would be it. 🔥

We’ll break down why single guys in the lifestyle are way more respectful than you'd ...

🐈 Ever rolled your eyes at yet another Glow party? Or wondered why lifestyle events seem to start at vampire hours? (we love 'em!) From overpriced club nights to the dreaded "bi-for-my-guy" dilemma, we’re diving deep into the biggest swinger complaints - and trust us, there are dozens.

In this episode, we spill the tea on the pet peeves that make seasoned swingers sigh, laugh, or straight-up ghost. We’re talking about theme-night ...

❌❌❌ Grab your stilettos and step into Amsterdam’s Red Light District with us! This is our pre-pre-pre lifestyle ORIGIN story—before we even knew what “the lifestyle” meant, we were already amping up our sexy fun in the neon-lit streets of Amsterdam. We’re spilling all the scandalous details. Steamy live sex shows at Casa Rosso, how we played behind the red light windows (yes, really!), and the secrets to sealing the deal with an RL...

💋 While we never do a Kiss ‘n Tell… let’s be real, it’s high time to spill the tea on what Kat & Leo have been up to. From riding the double helix of alternating threesomes MFM-MFF-MFM-MFF (because balance is key, right?) to speedrunning the Swingermoon, that wild, intoxicating first 2 years of swinging where every encounter plays out like a passion-fueled dream you never want to wake up from.

Plus, Leo’s ultimate bucket list ...

🏏 We’re diving into all the things we wish we knew before swinging - aka the mistakes, surprises, and total WTF moments that come with the lifestyle. From swinger FOMO to NRE hitting at different times, we break down how to keep your head on straight when emotions run wild. Plus, Kat has thoughts on why a threesome should never turn into a foursome… foreshadow much?

We’re also talking peer pressure, rejection, and why too much tal...

🚋 We’re diving deep into our local swinger scene with a full review of Twist SF, San Francisco's only swinger club. From newbie yoga to couples only nights, it's the spot for newbies! Plus we take a super quick sneak peek into Power Exchange, San Francisco’s sleaziest, anything-goes sex club (definitely not for the faint of heart!), where oddly enough, we had one of our best experiences—go figure! Why do we always find the hottest...

🤠 New year, new us? Nah - new year, same freaky us... but turned ALL the way up! What better way to ring in the new year than with a sizzling double helix of threesomes? That’s right—MFF, MFM, MFF, MFM—back and forth, back and forth—like a perfectly balanced sexual seesaw. In this episode, we spill all the steamy details on how we kicked off our year with an alternating lineup of mind-blowing trios. We’re talking the thrill of inv...