Vanilla Swingers - A Swinger Podcast for Newbies, by Newbies in the Lifestyle

👀 "You had your threesome, now it’s my turn!"  Let’s talk about the myth of keeping it “even” in the lifestyle. In this spicy episode, Kat and Leo break down how scorekeeping kills the vibe, why selflessness is the ultimate turn-on, and how to show up FOR your partner - even if your night was hotter than theirs. It’s compersion vs. lizard brain. And fair? Well, that’s not always 50/50.

🍦 Dive in and enjoy every spoonful of our...

🌶️ Join Kat & Leo as they dish some of the hottest takes of the lifestyle. These are the hot, messy, slightly savage truths about the swinger lifestyle - the kind you only admit after 3 tequila shots or mid-cuddle puddle when your guard’s down.

Some takes will have you spitting out your champagne. Some will have you nodding so hard your necklace tangles. And some might make you wonder if we’ll still get invited to the next par...

🙈 We’re not talking “have sex in a hot tub” basic. The Ultimate Dirty Bucket List is your filthiest, freakiest, most no-holds-barred wishlist of sexual experiences. Some are fantasies. Some are goals. Some are nope, never. Some... we’ve already checked off. Oops.

But don’t worry- this list isn’t just ours. We’re throwing out ideas we've heard, seen, or maybe dreamed up after one too many tequila shots. Things you might’ve never co...

🎺 New to Naughty N’awlins? Or just want to level up your sexy strategy? We’ve got you. In Part 2, Kat & Leo break down the ultimate Naughty checklist - what to pack, where to party, and how to actually get laid (instead of just collecting slut cards and compliments). From Bourbon St bar takeovers, seminars, and theme nights to plus-one rooms, door decorations, and playroom etiquette, we’re spilling our TOP TIPS and hotter take...

⚜️ We didn’t expect to fall so hard… but Naughty N’awlins swept us off our feet. Now we’re only left wondering, "Why isn’t this twice a year?!" In this ultimate review of the wildest swinger takeover in the U.S., we’re spilling everything - the foam parties, rooftop pool chaos, sexy seminars, jaw-dropping playrooms… and the best back-to-back-to-back play experiences we’ve ever had. 😳

🍒 Oh, and we popped a major cherry - played wi...

🦄 Unicorns are real. We used to think unicorns were mythical creatures - rare, wild, and only spotted once in a swinger’s lifetime. You know, single females in the lifestyle looking to play with couples.

But surprise - one fell into our lap 10 months ago. Fast-forward through a whirlwind throuple, two dozen unicorn adventures, and a helluva lot of glittery chaos, and we’ve learned a thing or twenty. We're spilling all the sparkly,...

😩 It’s not all champagne and orgasms. In this raw and candid episode, Kat & Leo pull back the satin sheets and get real about the moments that made them question everything. From the dizzying highs of new-relationship energy to the crushing lows of ghosting, jealousy, and emotional spirals, they share the darker side of the lifestyle rollercoaster - because for every hot night of NRE, there’s usually a WTF waiting around the c...

📸 We spent 6 months swiping through Feeld so you don’t have to - matching with unicorns, manicorns, dodging flakes, and figuring out WTF a skoliosexual is.

We’re breaking down: ✨ How to set up your couple profile 👻 The flake factor (it’s real) 🔥 Our favorite Feeld hookups 🧠 What “skoliosexual” even means

Feeld is spicy, swipey, and full of surprises - and we’re telling all in the latest Vanilla Swingers podcast episode.

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👻 Ghosting happens - even to Kat & Leo! In this episode, we’re spilling the tea on all the ghosting, the oof moments, and the head-scratchers we've had to deal with. Ghosting isn’t just for the newbies - whether you’re one week in or one year deep, it still stings. We’re here to share how it’s happened to us, how we’ve learned to bounce back, why it’s inevitable, and how to handle it without too much emotional fallout. Tune in...

😈 Kat’s riding a wave of MFM-induced euphoria - NRE blazing through her veins like a damn wildfire - and she’s talking a mile a minute. Fresh off her most perfect threesome (yes, even rivaling Italian Edward 😏), she and Leo unveil The Single Male Bible. Whether you're trying to find a manicorn or become one, this episode is your no-BS, slightly sweaty guide to single male success.

Spoiler: Most of these tips work for finding coup...

💋💻 We spent months deep in the trenches of Kasidie - flirting, playing, passing, and collecting validations like Black Friday shoppers grabbing TVs in a brawl. We spill the unfiltered tea on what it’s like to actually use one of the OG swinger platforms in 2025 - and give you tips to get the most bang for your buck. From emoji-head profile pics (guilty as charged!) and Starbucks meetups to that legendary single gent with 20+ rave...

📱 Ready to swipe, match, and maybe even moan? In this episode, we’re diving headfirst into the wild world of swinger apps - because navigating SLS, SDC, Feeld, Kasidie, and 3Fun is not for the faint of thong. We’ll give you our own personal flirty little overview of each app (don’t worry, deep dives are coming) and spill our top tips for building a swinger profile that actually makes people want to say yes. From bio basics to pic ...

🥊 It's the lifestyle debate that never dies - and we're diving in headfirst. In this episode, Kat & Leo break down what really goes on in the minds of single players vs. committed couples navigating the scene. From the thrill of a threesome to the emotional gymnastics of couple swaps, we’re talking strategy, vibe checks, jealousy triggers, and the very real difference between showing up solo vs. as a team. 🦄 v 👩🏻‍❤️‍👨🏻

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🏴‍☠ Yo Ho Ho and a bottle of rum! What do sunscreen bottles, secret bladder flasks, and a suspiciously full shampoo container have in common? Welcome to Part 2 of our Bliss Cruise recap - where we unpack the art of sneaky smuggling, the essentials you actually need to pack, and all the steamy HOT TAKES that’ll turn your cruise from basic to blissed-out.

From embarkation hacks to dining to dancing to how to find the elusive sexy ...

⚓ New owners, new app, and a whole lot of new ways to end up in someone else’s bed. Isn't that what it's all about?! In Part 1 of our Bliss Cruise 2025 recap -yep, our third cruise in a row (sluttons!) - we’re spilling the sexy tea on what changed, what stayed the same, and what had us screaming “Fine Bliss, just take our credit card and our clothes."

We’re talking rave nights, missed connections, and the app that finally let us st...

🛑 So you’re thinking about swinging… but what are the actual rules? Do you kiss? Do you cuddle? Can he finish on her chest, in her mouth or none of the above?

In this episode, Kat & Leo serve up the ultimate swinger starter pack - aka all the boundaries you need to talk about before anyone takes their clothes off. Think of it as your pre-game pep talk: condoms, safe words, “don’t choke me,” and how not to end up in a group cha...

🍆 Is there a limp d!ck epidemic sweeping the lifestyle? This week, Kat & Leo are talking about the one thing no swinger wants to admit happens… but absolutely does! And guess what? It’s not just older guys. From baby-faced 22-year-old studs to rugged 33-year-old firemen who literally wrestle flames - no one’s immune. From the pressure of group play to the mental gymnastics of threesomes, psychological ED is real - and it doesn...

🦄 Ah, the unicorn - magical, mythical, and the star of every red-blooded man’s fantasy since time before time - the elusive, electric MFF threesome. Especially when both women are also into each other. 🔥 It also happens to be Leo’s personal favorite fantasy. If he had it his way, we’d record this episode live from a pile of tangled limbs, giggles, and glitter.... an MFFFF if he could have his way.

We’ll spill the tea on unicorn e...

⭐What’s hotter than one man’s attention? Try two - with all eyes, hands, mouths (and more) on you. You're not alone. In this sultry episode, we’re diving deep into the world of MFM threesomes and showing you how to make the magic happen,  even if you're soft swap only. Let’s just say if Kat had to pick one way to play forever… this would be it. 🔥

We’ll break down why single guys in the lifestyle are way more respectful than you'd ...