inside OUT with Jojo Cottle

We have all been on both sides of it. Waiting on someone who never showed. Or being the one who was late... again. This week Jojo scraps her original fired up take and asks a much more interesting question: why do we actually do this?

In this solo think piece, Jojo unpacks the surprising research on chronic lateness, from the planning fallacy to time blindness, and the deeper emotional roots most of us never look at: anxiety, self w...

What does it take to stay in love for 47 years? In this short and sweet episode, Jojo shares the relationship advice a store owner gave her, the two simple rules he swears by after nearly five decades of marriage, and why he says he falls more in love with his wife every single day.

Everyone talks about relationships, dating culture, and communication, but somewhere along the way we lost the plot on how to actually build a strong on...

You can do everything "right": hit the goal, get the title, build the life that's supposed to feel good, and still feel empty. In this episode of Inside OUT, Jojo sits down with Pratiqk Jaani, an accountant turned transformation teacher and author of Dhrasti, to unpack why doing well doesn't always mean feeling well. After 20+ years advising entrepreneurs, Pratik discovered the real problem was never the money. It was the perceptio...

Nobody brings you ice cream when your best friend breaks up with you. There are no rituals, no sympathy cards, no space to grieve. Yet research shows your brain processes platonic rejection through the exact same neural pathways as romantic heartbreak. So why do we pretend it hurts less?

This week on Inside OUT, Jojo gets MESy with the breakup nobody talks about. After an overwhelming response from listeners, she dives deep into why...

We do not talk enough about friendship breakups. Romantic breakups get the songs, the books, the girls' night support system. Friendship loss gets a shrug and a "people grow apart."

In this solo episode, Jojo sits with what it actually means to lose a close friend, not to conflict, not to a fight, but to time, distance, and evolution. After moving away from a decade in New York and starting over in a brand new city, she is facing th...

"You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with." So who are yours?

This week on Inside OUT, Jojo brings back one of the very first episodes, Friendship: Toxic or Transformative, and it hits different now that the friendship at the center of it no longer exists in her life.

We get honest about the friendships that quietly shape us. The ones we outgrow. The ones that end with no explanation. And the ones worth wat...

Before you click away because you think tarot is too "out there," stay with me.

In this episode of Inside OUT, Jojo sits down with Dina Berrin, an author, certified life coach, and intuitive guide who treats tarot as a language and a map of the human experience, not a party trick or a crystal ball. If you have never touched a deck in your life, this is your grounded, no judgment way in.

Dina breaks down what tarot actually is: a deck...

Everyone's nervous system is jacked. We're vibrating at high levels, stuck in the rat race, and calling a shopping spree "self-care." On this episode of Inside OUT, Jojo sits down with married therapist + coach duo Kiana and Andrew of Soul Journey Project to break down what real wellness looks like, the kind that actually resets your nervous system instead of just looking good on TikTok. We walk through their 7 Keys to Wellness, on...

You've done the therapy. Read the books. Cried it out at a retreat. So why does that critical voice in your head keep winning?

This week, trauma therapist Jessica Fern (bestselling author of Polysecure) and David Cooley (creator of Restorative Relationship Conversations) join me to expose the Shame Triangle: the hidden pattern keeping you stuck in self criticism, shame, and escape. And here's the wild part. They've been married, div...

We talk a lot about grieving people we lose  but what about grieving the versions of ourselves that didn't make it? The dream that faded, the relationship that revealed you weren't showing up as yourself, the life you thought you were building that quietly fell apart?

In this episode, I sit down with Lionel Moses, Desert Storm veteran, twice divorced, business builder, and author of The Marriage Seed  and we get into the k...

What if the person you're waiting for is waiting for you to become ready? In this solo episode, Jojo unpacks a conversation with a girlfriend about meeting "the one"  and why most of us are sabotaging the real thing by settling for convenient. We're getting MESy about intuition vs. logic, the universe's tests, why love defies logic, and what it actually means to live in the vibration of what you're calling in. If you've ever h...

Have you ever scrolled through Instagram and felt that gut punch? Someone's getting married. Someone's pregnant. Someone just bought a house. Someone got promoted again. And suddenly there's this voice whispering, what's wrong with me, why am I not there yet?

In this solo episode of Inside OUT, Jojo gets MESy with the lie of "being behind." Inspired by a train metaphor she came across on Instagram, she unpacks why we measure our ins...

Jojo is back after an unplanned month away and she is not coming back the same. In this episode she gets honest about what it actually feels like to be in the middle of a major life transition, not at the start, not on the other side, but right in the thick of it.

If you have ever done the big thing, made the bold move, chosen yourself, and then wondered why it still feels hard, this episode is for you.

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Protecting your peace is everywhere right now and yes there is something real in it. But what if your peace has quietly become a wall? In this solo episode Jojo unpacks the difference between protecting your peace as a foundation versus using it as a fortress to keep everyone out. She gets into why your nervous system might be wired to read chaos as chemistry and stability as boring, what it actually means to regulate before you re...

You did the work. You healed the things. And somehow life is actually… good. So why does that feel like the scariest part? This episode is for anyone who's finally in a peaceful season... and can't stop waiting for it to fall apart.

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What if the reason you're stuck isn't a you problem but a we problem? In this episode, Jojo sits down with relational leadership mentor and initiation guide Mike Elliott to unpack why so many of us are walking around disconnected in adult bodies still run by an adaptive child. Mike breaks down the science of secure attachment, what it actually means to function from your wise adult brain, and why healing in isolation might be the v...

Spring is a season of change, and change can be completely overwhelming. This week Jojo opens up about her own spiral as she prepares for a major life move, and introduces the Overwhelm Paradigm, a mindset shift that helps you zoom back into the present, tackle things step by step, and trust that the seeds you are planting now are already growing. Short, grounding, and straight to the MES of it.

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In this solo episode, Jojo breaks down the 7 Ms framework as a personal audit for every area of your life. From how you start your morning to how you talk about money, this episode is a mirror, not a checklist. Jojo walks through each M with honesty, humor, and real life examples to help you get conscious of where you are thriving and where you are quietly leaking energy. This one is for anyone who has been on autopilot and is read...

What if everything you've been told about love, intimacy, and compatibility is actually working against you? In this episode of Inside Out, Jojo sits down with relationship coach and RLT trained therapist Monica Tanner, host of the Secrets of Happily Ever After podcast and author of the bestselling book Bad Marriage Advice, to bust the biggest myths around relationships, intimacy, and passion.

They dig into why differences between p...