I Wish You Could Hear This

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In this conversation, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn discuss the concept of the mental load in relationships with Dr. Morgan Cutlip. They explore how feelings of unfairness and resentment can arise when one partner feels overwhelmed by invisible tasks and emotional labor. The discussion emphasizes the importance of communication, appreciation, and understanding the dynamics of emotional labor in marriage. Dr. Cutlip provides pr...

In this conversation, Shaunti and Jim discuss the pressing mental health crisis and the role of the church in addressing it. They explore the importance of traditional counseling and the need for a new system of care that includes community support. The discussion emphasizes the importance of building capacity within churches to provide emotional support and the legal considerations involved. They also address the fea...

In this heartfelt and eye-opening episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn sit down with singer-songwriter Dave Barnes to unpack the emotional world of men and the dynamics that shape relationships. Together, they explore the often-overlooked depth of men’s feelings, how love is expressed differently than women might expect, and the surprising role of music and creativity in emotional connection.

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Episode 18: Happy Couples Hang Out

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Join Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn as they delve into the habits of the happiest couples. Discover the deceptively simple secret that we learned in the research for The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages about the power of simply spending time together and how that plays a role in maintaining a strong relationship. Learn from real-life e...

In this candid and insightful episode of I Wish You Could Hear This, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn welcome author and intimacy expert J. Parker from Hot, Holy & Humorous. Research shows that in roughly 75% of marriages, the husband has a higher sex drive or initiates more often. But what about the other 25%—when the wife is the one with more desire, or when the couple’s patterns don’t match the stereotype at all? J. Parker, whose minis...

In this engaging conversation, Dr. Michael Sytsma, a seasoned therapist specializing in marriage and intimacy, shares his extensive experience and insights into the complexities of sexual relationships. The discussion covers common questions couples have about their sexual health, the importance of understanding desire discrepancies, and the normalization of various sexual experiences. Dr. Sytsma emphasizes the significance of comm...

In this conversation, Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn explore the fundamental differences in how men and women process thoughts and decisions. They discuss the implications of these differences on relationships, emphasizing the importance of understanding and communication. The episode highlights the brain wiring differences, the significance of verbal versus internal processing, and practical strategies for couples to navigate these cha...

In this conversation, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn interview Michelle Lentz, an Instagram influencer and author, who shares her journey through marriage, parenting, and overcoming significant life challenges, including a devastating earthquake. Michelle discusses the importance of community support, the power of prayer, and treating your spouse like a friend to build a strong marriage. Her insights are particularly valua...

Bonus Episode 13: Looking Back, Moving Forward

Description: In this heartfelt Season 1 finale bonus episode, Shaunti and Jeff take listeners on a reflective journey through the most powerful insights shared over the season. This bonus installment isn’t just a recap—it’s a spiritual reset button that captures the highs, lessons, and most touching moments that moved both guests and listeners alike.

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Episode 12 Release Date: June 17, 2025    

Duration: Episode 11: 44 minutes     

Summary: Shaunti, Jeff, and Jenilee Samuel (host of the Java with Jen podcast) explore the complexities of being a woman leader in ministry, the challenges of marriage, and the importance of understanding the male psyche. Jenilee shares her journey from being a missionary kid to a co-pastor and her experiences ...

Summary: In this engaging conversation, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn are joined by Arlene Pellicane, author of Making Marriage Easier. Arelene shares insights on how to prioritize marriage, avoid the roommate syndrome, and implement small, practical actions to strengthen relationships. The podcast also explores the profound effects of social media on relationships, emphasizing the need for intentionality in how we engage...

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In this conversation, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn, along with clinical psychologist Dr. James Sells, explore the phenomenon of young adults going “no contact” with their parents. They discuss the emotional turmoil this causes for both parents and children, the factors contributing to this phenomenon, and the importance of family therapy in addressing these issues. The conversation highlights the...

Summary: In this conversation, Montel and Kristin Jordan share their transformative journey from the music industry to marriage ministry. They discuss the challenges they faced in their marriage, including a crisis that led to a renewed commitment to each other and their faith. Through their experiences, they emphasize the importance of prioritizing marriage and the lessons that now guide their work in helping others ...

Episode 8 and 9 Details

Summary: In this conversation, Montel and Kristin Jordan share their transformative journey from the music industry to marriage ministry. They discuss the challenges they faced in their marriage, including a crisis that led to a renewed commitment to each other and their faith. Through their experiences, they emphasize the importance of prioritizing marriage and the lessons that n...

Episode 7: One of You Wants More Sex? Here’s What’s Going On. 

Release Date: April 22, 2025   

Duration: 33 minutes    

Summary: In this podcast episode, Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn look at the disconnect that some couples experience around intimacy—especially focusing on the statistically common scenario of one spouse (typically the husband) desiring more intimacy than the othe...

Summary: This conversation explores the profound journey of Dan Defenbaugh, a former law enforcement officer who faced trauma and addiction, leading him ultimately to try to take his own life. Through his story, we learn about the struggles first responders face with mental health, the impact on their families, and the hope found in recovery and ministry. Dan's transformation from despair to purpose serves as a beacon...

Summary: In this podcast episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn take a look at one of the main sources of conflict and heartache in marriage—looking at how to transform this source of conflict into a source of connection. The episode is rooted in decades of nationally representative research—making their insights much more than just their opinion or an unscientific poll of social media followers. After tuning in, you’ll u...

Summary: In this heartfelt conversation, Gary Thomas shares his personal journey through trials, the legacy of love from his family, and the profound impact of marriage on spiritual growth. He reflects on the challenges of writing and the importance of perseverance in the face of rejection, all while emphasizing the beauty of relationships and the lessons learned through life's hardships. Also in this conversation, Ga...

Shaunti and Jeff explore the secrets behind the happiest marriages, focusing on the importance of believing the best of your spouse's intentions, even during conflicts. They share insights from their research, personal experiences, and practical applications to help couples navigate challenges and enhance their relationships. The conversation emphasizes the significance of communication, understanding, and the power o...