Beauty in the Break

Happy PRIDE 🌈 from all the queer and questioning folks here at Beauty in the Break!! In this episode, Foster and Cesar sit down with actor and wedding planner Katie Hall for a raw, hilarious, and deeply moving conversation about her journey of queer self-discovery. After 16 years with her husband and two kids, Katie has found what it truly means to live authentically. This pride-worthy episode is a must-listen for anyone questioni...

An inside look: a LIVE on-air coaching session. Foster and Cesar built a relationship on their own terms, and now they spill all the sticky parts of opening their relationship with the help of relationship coach and non-monogamy educator Ally Iseman. This is a rare, real-time look at what navigating consensual non-monogamy actually feels like from the inside. Ally guides them through the emotional terrain of being in an open relati...

Is jealousy actually good for your relationship? Foster and Cesar sit down with relationship coach and non-monogamy educator Ally Iseman, for a candid conversation about opening their relationship and the practice of ethical non-monogamy (ENM) or consensual non-monogamy (CNM) – wait, what’s the difference?? Turns out there’s a skill set behind building conscious partnerships. Ally offers a compassionate framework ...

Do you struggle with receiving compliments? Foster and Cesar explore the art of giving and receiving compliments. Why do we have such a hard time accepting praise? And what’s the difference between physical and character-based compliments? Together they unpack how authentic affirmation strengthens relationships and how rejecting a compliment is like rejecting a gift. Foster and Cesar also dive into masculine and feminine ener...

Who would you be if society never got its hands on you? In this expansive conversation, writer, actor, and host of the hilarious podcast Tell Me Something Messy Brandon Kyle Goodman joins Foster and Cesar to discuss ‘disruptive curiosity’, destigmatizing sex, and choosing to be child-free in a society that expects parenthood. Brandon opens up about their new journey on Lexapro, the healing power of talking openly about ...

Why do we care so much about what other people think? Foster and Cesar explore the art of giving less fucks, as a source of freedom from needing to control how others perceive you. Despite a world steeped in people-pleasing, our biological fear of being ostracized by the tribe no longer serves us in the age of social media and cancel culture. They ask the question: is it possible to incrementally build the muscle of caring less? Th...

Advocate for yourself! Clinical psychologist and couples therapist Dr. Molly Burrets discovered a brain tumor after years of doctors dismissing symptoms. This taught her about self-advocacy, meeting herself at rock bottom, and then asking for help. With 19 years of couples therapy experience, Dr. Molly reveals insights on resentment in relationships, the mental load women carry, dating wisdom, and why knowing your worth is the foun...

Are you feeling burned out and buried under everything you're carrying? Foster opens up about losing herself in her workload, sacrificing personal joy for potential collective success, and how that pattern affected both her relationship with Cesar and her own vibrancy. They discuss the gendered nature of caretaking and burden-carrying and how women especially take on too much. This conversation is for anyone who feels gray inside f...

Struggling with creative block or self-doubt as an artist? In this episode, Foster breaks open her creative process behind writing and publishing Afternoon Abundance in just 9 months, from blank page to published book. Cesar explores the double-edged sword of being a creative person and the battle between inspiration and self-doubt. They lay out the three pillars every artist needs: time for nothing (unstructured creative time), "t...

Where do you shop instead of Amazon and Target? 

Two words: B Corporations. This episode is for anyone who is tired of corporate greed but doesn’t know what to do about it. Cesar and Foster break down one of the most powerful (and overlooked) forms of everyday activism: conscious spending, ethical shopping and brands to “buy-cott” instead of boycott. They dig into B Corp, an independent auditing organization t...

How do you hold onto hope when there seems to be none? James Leo Ryan shares his journey as a caregiver after his husband, actor Rodney To, suffered a ruptured brain aneurysm that nearly took his life. Nearly three years later, Rodney is defying the odds with his signature sass intact. This episode explores the power of caregiving advocacy, learning to show up for people in crisis, the strength hidden within all of us, and why "be ...

They’re open! Cesar and Foster ask “what does ethical non-monogamy (ENM) actually look like in a committed relationship?” They open up about their journey into exploring an open relationship structure, challenging traditional ideas about monogamy, possession, and what it means to truly choose your partner every day. From Cesar's past of promiscuity to Foster's demisexual identity, they discuss why they don't belie...

How do you overcome adversity and build a successful creative career from nothing? Creative director and vocalist Dedrick Bonner shares his journey from being a Black gay man raised in a Pentecostal church in Alabama to working with Beyoncé, Stevie Wonder, Dolly Parton, and performing at the Oscars with the cast of Sinners. Dedrick opens up about experiencing homelessness during high school, finding resilience in rock bottom moment...

What happens when you face your fears and put yourself out there on social media, only to be publicly criticized? Foster and Cesar honestly reflect on their experience going viral, navigating online negativity and learning to handle public vulnerability despite the anxiety. They discuss the biological need for social connection, why divisive content performs better than positive news, and how to protect your peace when internet str...

How do you stay authentic and maintain hope in uncertain times? Actress and writer Lesley Fera (Pretty Little Liars) joins Foster and Cesar to discuss finding play and creativity in adulthood, trusting the universe when life feels chaotic, and how grief transformed her relationship with writing. Lesley shares her journey of peeling back layers to return to her authentic self, the power of surrendering control, and how activism and ...

Ask Us Anything! Foster and Cesar answer listener questions about working together as romantic partners on a podcast, the worst advice people give during hard times, and the intentional choice of the word "partner" instead of "girlfriend”. They share the pros and cons of creative collaboration in relationships, why the podcast has become their creative "baby," and reveal the well-meaning advice that actually hurts.

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How do you build a successful career path by just being yourself? Foster shares her unexpected journey from actor to film director after the death of her son, while Cesar reveals how he built a successful business without spending a dollar on marketing. They explore the paradox of being a female director in Hollywood and why being yourself is your greatest advantage in any career. If you’re pivoting careers, breaking into a n...

Foster and Cesar sit down for a lighthearted, intimate episode about a surprising parenting breakthrough. Together, they discuss how children actually understand more than we give them credit for, why the question "why?" exhausts parents (and what to do instead), and how treating kids like brilliant humans rather than irrational beings changes the entire dynamic. This episode offers a refreshing perspective on parenting fatigue, th...

In this episode of Beauty in the Break, Foster and Cesar share their real-time struggles with breaking through personal barriers in relationships and self-awareness. Foster reveals her pattern of people-pleasing and difficulty knowing what she wants, especially in romantic relationships, while Cesar confronts unexpected impatience that's surfaced as he's achieved more success in his speaking and meditation career. Through vulnerabl...