Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

Multiamory offers support and advice for modern relationships. Whether you are monogamous, polyamorous, swinging, casually dating, or if you just do relationships differently, we see you and we’re here for you. Multiamory is a proud member of Pleasure Podcasts. For network details, contact cameron@pleasurepodcasts.com.

Episodes

October 7, 2025 59 mins
Today we're joined by a special guest we've had on the show before, Professor Annalisa Castaldo, to explore 'The Art of Courtly Love,' a medieval manuscript written 900 years ago that resembles a strange combination of romance novel, pickup artist manual, and incel manifesto. Professor Castaldo will be talking with us while we connect these medieval concepts of relationships to modern dating and discover how many of our common "rom...
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Today we're discussing the Eight Worldly Concerns, or four things we desperately chase and four we desperately avoid, that have driven human behavior for more than 2500 years. We'll go over the origin and history of these eight concerns, why they matter to relationships, and of course, we'll be talking briefly about each concern and some practical applications for everyday life. The companion PDF for this episode is available here:...
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Today we're dusting off an old episode about cohabiting with a partner. In it, we talk about why people move in together, questions to ask yourself about possibly moving in with a partner, and of course, conversations to have with your potential living partner. We also discuss some specific points about non-monogamy and cohabitation, and how to be or choose a good platonic roommate was well. Join our amazing community of listeners ...
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Participate in this anonymous 20-30-minute survey here: Chapman University StudyThis year, we've partnered with OPEN and Dr. Amy Moors at Chapman University, a leading non-monogamy researcher, to bring a new level of academic rigor to this research!Why participate: This data directly supports advocacy work – previous surveys helped win legal protections in major cities. Eligibility: 18+ and practice any form of consensual non-monog...
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Today we're back with another Q&A episode from one of our Supercast subscribers. We'll be talking about relationship dynamics and what to do when a partner is dating a close friend, how to navigate the situation, and tips on better communication for everyone involved. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.com/join. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video ...
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Today we're welcoming therapist Joe Nucci to the show to talk about myths about therapy and the effect they can have on your relationships. Joe is a licensed psychotherapist and content creator. His debut book, published by Harper, is called Psychobabble: Viral Mental Health Myths and the Truths to Set You Free. It's available wherever you get books starting September 23rd, 2025.Find more about Joe Nucci on his website https://joen...
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Today we're chatting with Dr. Julie Carpenter about AI and its role in our relationships.Dr. Julie Carpenter is a social scientist who studies how people relate to AI in its many forms, and how these interactions inform evolving ideas about self, identity, agency, and connection. Her research investigates the stories people construct around artificial beings and how those narratives influence the design and deployment of real-world...
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Today we're discussing our drive to seek security in relationships, especially as economic uncertainty increases, and how sometimes, that can turn around and bite us. We'll be talking about why we seek security in relationships, some paradoxes of security, and as always, some tools to help better understand your own behavior around seeking security in your relationships. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.com/joi...
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Today we're fielding another question from one of our Supercast subscribers. We'll be discussing how to handle your metamour not wanting to meet you or be a part of your life. If you want one of your questions answered on a future Q&A episode, become one of our Supercast subscribers!Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.com/join. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episode...
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Today we're talking about emotional intelligence, self-sabotage, and being objective about our thoughts and emotions. Have you ever had a thought that won't go away for a long time, especially a negative one about yourself? Sometimes our insecurities take advantage of us and encourage us to engage in self-sabotaging behavior. We're going to talk today about how to practice emotional regulation, self-sabotaging behavior, and more! J...
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We're revisiting agreements, but this time with ourselves, not others. We're going to be talking about agreements, self agreements, how they differ from boundaries, and ways to generate self agreements so that you can start exploring what you expect from yourself in relationships versus what you expect from others. Dedeker's ConstitutionFor subscribers only:Create Your Own Self Agreements Exercise PDFTo get access to the exercise a...
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This week we're bringing back a remastered episode about the ghosts of relationships past...and getting into a good relationship after being in a bad one. Do you have trouble trusting a good relationship? Are you always waiting for the other shoe to drop and things to turn bad? You might be suffering from relationship PTSD, which can inhibit your ability to enjoy a good, healthy relationship. Particularly if you have a history of p...
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This week, we're answering a question from one of our subscribers: how do I introduce my polyamorous partner to my monogamous parents? We'll be discussing ways to approach coming out to family, share some tips on how to make social situations run smoothly, and ways to handle potential conflict or big emotions. If you want one of your questions answered on a future Q&A episode, consider becoming a Supercast subscriber at www.multiam...
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Today, we're discussing why we struggle to put the communication and relationship lessons we learn into practice. Current generations are more therapy-literate than ever, but that doesn't mean our relationships are healthier. What happens when everyone knows the psychological buzzwords but hasn't done the deeper work of integration and change? We're diving into the reasons why learning how to do relationships better isn’t always en...
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Welcome back to our series on control! This week, we're talking about control from the perspective of the person who wants to have the control or power in the relationship. There are a multitude of reasons why someone might want to control another person, which we're going to explore in this episode. We'll also discuss the science of control, and talk about a few ways one can move away from controlling behavior and towards a more l...
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Welcome to part one of our deep dive into control in relationships! Every relationship has power dynamics, but when they get out of control it can be devastating. In this episode, we'll be discussing the experience of loss of control in a relationship, why it might happen, and what to do if you find yourself on this end of the control spectrum. Join Dedeker and Orit Krug for our polyamory somatic retreat in northern Spain (Septembe...
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Today we're tackling a question from one of our Supercast subscribers about equity in multiple relationships, feel prioritized, and how to handle tough conversations about energy, money, and mismatched desire in relationships. Become one of our Supercast subscribers at multiamory.com/join to get your question answered on a future Q&A episode!Join Dedeker and Orit Krug for our polyamory somatic retreat in northern Spain (September 2...
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This week, we're diving into what happens when a partner asks you to change, whether it's a small behavioral change or a big fundamental or values change. Regardless of what kind, change can be difficult, for both the one asking for change and the one being asked to change. We're going to discuss the feelings that arise when being asked to change as well as evaluating what is and isn't acceptable to ask of someone. Join Dedeker and...
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Today we're joined by Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu from the podcast Dateable to talk about--you guessed it--how to be dateable. We're going to be talking about traditional dating advice, dating archetypes, different perspectives on dating, and more!Julie and Yue are active daters turned dating insiders, and top influential voices of modern dating, relationships, and connection in the digital world. They’re the authors of How To Be Da...
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We're returning to attachment theory this week as we go over some of the criticisms it has faced since rising in popularity. For some, attachment theory has been a powerful tool of self-discovery, but others dismiss it as pseudo pop psychology. Where do you fall on that spectrum of credibility? Today we're discussing the cases for and against attachment theory and whether or not non-monogamy can help heal unhealthy attachments. For...
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