Self-Care Haven
Reflections and meditations to empower survivors of abuse and trauma. Hosted by bestselling author Shahida Arabi, founder of the blog Self-Care Haven.
Episodes
April 19, 2020 • 17 mins
5 Reasons Why Couples Counseling Doesn't Work For Abusive Relationships With Narcissists: https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2019/09/why-couples-therapy-doesnt-work-for-people-in-abusive-relationships-with-narcissists/
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November 15, 2019 • 38 mins
There are five techniques pick-up artists and narcissists have in common. Can you guess what they are? Find out in this latest episode of Self-Care Haven for Survivors. Read the full article on pick-up artistry and narcissism here: https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2018/12/5-pick-up-artist-techniques-narcissists-sociopaths-and-psychopaths-players-use-to-unsettle-you/
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November 15, 2019 • 9 mins
Why do narcissists use stonewalling and the silent treatment? And how does it differ from when victims go No Contact with their abusers? Find out in this latest episode of Self-Care for Survivors. Read the article on stonewalling here: https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2018/04/stonewalling-and-the-silent-treatment-when-the-narcissists-silence-is-deafening/
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I discuss the 12 common phrases narcissists use to manipulate you, as well as the 7 phrases they use to gaslight you. Visit my website www.shahidaarabi.com for more information about my work. Derived from my articles 12 Things Narcissists Say and What They REALLY Mean on Thought Catalog and 7 Gaslighting Phrases Malignant Narcissists Use - https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2019/03/7-gaslighting-phrases-malignant-...
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November 24, 2018 • 35 mins
How do narcissistic predators test the boundaries of their victims? Why do victims tend to ignore red flags early on? And what does childhood abuse have to do with this? In this episode, I explore why we tend to ignore our inner guidance and how we can start to tap into the intuition that could save our lives.
Pre-order my new book, Healing the Children of Narcissists, here: www.tinyurl.com/childrenofnarcissists
Read my blog on Psych...
Pre-order my new book, Healing the Children of Narcissists, here: www.tinyurl.com/childrenofnarcissists
Read my blog on Psych...
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September 19, 2018 • 12 mins
Is the narcissist really happy with the new victim? I explore the reasons why we ask this question and why the answer is likely no.
5 behaviours that will expose a narcissist the first time you meet them: https://www.mamamia.com.au/what-is-narcissism/
12 Of The Most Common Lies Sociopaths And Narcissists Tell, Translated Into Truth:
https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2018/09/12-of-the-most-common-lies-sociopaths-and-...
5 behaviours that will expose a narcissist the first time you meet them: https://www.mamamia.com.au/what-is-narcissism/
12 Of The Most Common Lies Sociopaths And Narcissists Tell, Translated Into Truth:
https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2018/09/12-of-the-most-common-lies-sociopaths-and-...
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March 13, 2018 • 26 mins
Be sure to read more about the INFJ in my articles here:
Why INFJ Empaths Fall Prey To Narcissists: https://introvertdear.com/news/3-reasons-infj-empaths-fall-prey-to-narcissists/
What It's Like Being An INFJ, In Other Words, A Living Paradox: https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2017/12/whats-its-like-to-be-an-infj-in-other-words-a-living-paradox/
6 Things You Need To Know If You're Dating An INFJ: https://thoughtcatalog.com/s...
Why INFJ Empaths Fall Prey To Narcissists: https://introvertdear.com/news/3-reasons-infj-empaths-fall-prey-to-narcissists/
What It's Like Being An INFJ, In Other Words, A Living Paradox: https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2017/12/whats-its-like-to-be-an-infj-in-other-words-a-living-paradox/
6 Things You Need To Know If You're Dating An INFJ: https://thoughtcatalog.com/s...
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March 13, 2018 • 13 mins
Check out my articles on empaths and children of narcissists:
7 Things People Don't Realize You're Doing Because You're The Child Of A Narcissistic Parent: https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2018/03/7-things-people-dont-realize-youre-doing-because-youre-the-child-of-a-narcissistic-parent/
The Dark Side Of Being An Empath: https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2018/01/the-dark-side-of-being-an-empath-5-powerful-ways-the-highl...
7 Things People Don't Realize You're Doing Because You're The Child Of A Narcissistic Parent: https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2018/03/7-things-people-dont-realize-youre-doing-because-youre-the-child-of-a-narcissistic-parent/
The Dark Side Of Being An Empath: https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2018/01/the-dark-side-of-being-an-empath-5-powerful-ways-the-highl...
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February 17, 2018 • 35 mins
Female malignant narcissists are especially dangerous because they can fly under the radar more easily.
The 4 traits discussed: Intro (0:00-05:50)
1. A sadistic sense of pleasure at someone else’s pain (05:50 - 09:08) and relational aggression towards other females (10:01 - 17:17) 2. An insatiable sense of competitiveness, due to pathological envy and the need to be the center of attention. (09:08 - 17:17) 3. An obsession with her a...
The 4 traits discussed: Intro (0:00-05:50)
1. A sadistic sense of pleasure at someone else’s pain (05:50 - 09:08) and relational aggression towards other females (10:01 - 17:17) 2. An insatiable sense of competitiveness, due to pathological envy and the need to be the center of attention. (09:08 - 17:17) 3. An obsession with her a...
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May 13, 2017 • 49 mins
See the article version of this article here: http://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2017/05/30-kickass-affirmations-for-going-no-contact-with-an-abusive-narcissist/
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May 9, 2017 • 8 mins
I've created these powerful affirmations / manifesto to help keep you grounded during times of distress. Meant to inspire, encourage and empower you when you feel invalidated, bullied or otherwise pulled down by negativity.
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February 11, 2016 • 6 mins
To learn more about the healing modalities available and the universal 11 Steps abuse survivors must take on the road to recovery, pre-order Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself: http://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Narcissists-Nightmare-Narcissist-Supplying-ebook/dp/B01B01O3PA/
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February 11, 2016 • 6 mins
For more information on how to stage your own recovery from abuse, pre-order my new book, Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself, here: http://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Narcissists-Nightmare-Narcissist-Supplying-ebook/dp/B01B01O3PA/
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February 11, 2016 • 3 mins
In this episode, I explore the distinction between an addict and a narcissistic abuser who also abuses alcohol and/or drugs. To learn more about narcissism and substance use, pre-order my new book, Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself, here: http://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Narcissists-Nightmare-Narcissist-Supplying-ebook/dp/B01B01O3PA/
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February 2, 2016 • 7 mins
An audio excerpt from my new book, Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself, explains the reasons why abuse victims stay in abusive relationships, including the biochemical and trauma bonding that takes place between abusers and their victims.
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February 2, 2016 • 5 mins
I discuss "hoovering," a technique abusers such as narcissistic abusers use to regain control after the ending of an abusive relationship. For more tips on healing from abuse, be sure to visit selfcarehaven.wordpress.com.
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