Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love

What if waiting to feel confident is exactly what's keeping you stuck?

Kimmy Seltzer welcomes former CNN correspondent, communication expert, and Amplify You author Gina London to explore why confidence grows through practice—and how small changes in your conversations can transform your dating life.

From making eye contact to asking better follow-up questions, Kimmy and Gina share practical ways to ...

What if your efforts to avoid rejection are also keeping you from finding love? Being friendly, waiting for the perfect signal, and overthinking your next move can leave you with pleasant conversations—but little romantic momentum.

In this Coaching with Kimmy episode of Charisma Quotient, Kimmy sits down with David, a 61-year-old divorced man who has grown more confident but still struggles to meet w...

What happens when the roles that defined you for decades begin to change - and you're told to "get back out there" before you're sure who you are now?

Kimmy sits down with Wendy Ortiz, host of 50 Is a Mindf*ck, for a candid conversation about finding your voice in midlife. They talk about returning to dating after a long relationship, grieving friendships, breaking people pleasing habits, and navigating the gap between how you...

Would you enjoy going on a date with yourself—or would it feel more like an interrogation? Too many singles become so focused on checking boxes, spotting red flags, and evaluating long-term potential that they forget the most important part of dating: creating a genuine connection.

Kimmy sits down with couples therapist and Choosing Us author Jonathan VanVegan to explore why being lovable...

Have you ever wondered what really happens in the ladies' room when women gather to reminisce, heal, or hype each other up? What does it take to reinvent yourself after a major life change, like the end of a decades-long marriage? Can the skills you learned as a cheerleader help you navigate the modern dating world or even just build up your confidence to flirt again?

In this heartwarming and candid episod...

What happens when you finally stop people-pleasing and start trusting your own intuition? How can the confidence you build through dance and cheerleading transform the way you show up in your career, relationships, and even your relationship with your body? And is finding your voice and learning to use it the secret to opening yourself up to love again?

In Episode 457 of The Charisma Quotient, "Bathroom Co...

What does sisterhood look like when it stands the test of 40 years? How does cheerleading, often dismissed as just pom-poms and pep rallies, actually shape a woman's confidence, relationships, and life after the spotlight fades? How can spontaneous, "unplanned" moments teach us about authentic connection and the art of reinvention?

In Episode 456 of The Charisma Quotient, "Bathroom Confessions of Former NF...

What if surrender isn't about giving up, but about unlocking your greatest strength? Could embracing pleasure be the most courageous act you take towards that allows you to receive love? In Episode 455 of The Charisma Quotient, "Why Strong Women Struggle to Receive Love (And How to Change It) With Mama Gena" dives deep with the legendary Regena Thomashauer otherwise known as Mama Gena, founder of the School of Womanly ...

Are menopause symptoms making you question your confidence and attractiveness—especially when it comes to dating? What if the secret to reigniting your energy, sensuality, and sense of self is as much about biology as it is about sexy confidence and mindset? In Episode 454 of The Charisma Quotient, "Menopause, Dating & Desire: The Conversation Every Woman Needs to Hear with Dr. Debra Durst" Kimmy sits down wi...

Are you tired of the endless swiping and superficial interactions on dating apps? Do you long for the days where you could meet someone in person?

 In Episode 453 of The Charisma Quotient, "ICYMI: Ditch The Dating Apps and Meet IRL" Kimmy delves into the world of real-life connections and the lost art of flirting in person. She shares riveting anecdotes of individuals transitioning from disillusionmen...

Have you ever felt like you're doing everything right—putting yourself out there, looking your best, smiling at the world—yet you seem to blend into the background, totally unseen when it comes to love and connection? You might be suffering from the Protection Paradox. You may want love, connection, and partnership, but unconsciously you are doing everything possible to protect yourself from the very vulner...

Have you ever found yourself saying, "I don't need anyone—I can do it myself"? Do you sometimes wonder if your fierce independence is actually holding you back from the love and connection you truly desire? In Episode 451 of The Charisma Quotient, "How Your Hyper-Independence Is Blocking You From Love" Kimmy dives deep into the concept of hyper-independence and how it's often mistaken for strength and confidence,...

Are you wondering if it's too late to break old patterns or date when you feel like you're starting over?  Are you struggling to move past self-doubt, loneliness, or feeling like your best days are behind you? In Episode 450 of The Charisma Quotient, "From Invisible to Irresistible: Where Are They Now With Lori" Kimmy sits down with her client Lori, a woman who completely transformed her dating and personal life a...

Do you ever feel like you're hiding a part of yourself, whether in dating, relationships, or even your everyday life? Have past experiences, heartbreak, or even your own inner critic made you afraid to truly be seen and heard? In Episode 449 of The Charisma Quotient, "The Fear of Being Seen: How Finding Your Voice Changes Your Dating Life with Rachel McCord" Kimmy is joined by the inspiring Rachel McCord—televisi...

Have you ever found yourself giving endlessly in relationships, hoping for change that never comes? Do you wonder why it's so hard to let go of someone who's not fully available or why you keep waiting for love to show up the way you deserve?  In Episode 448 of The Charisma Quotient, "Why People-Pleasers Stay Too Long in Unavailable Relationships:  Coaching with Kimmy" Kimmy does a heartfelt coaching session ...

What if everything you believed about beauty, confidence, and attraction was based on a myth? Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought you needed to change something before putting yourself out there?  In Episode 447 of The Charisma Quotient, "Beauty Isn't Confidence: Inside and Out with Supermodel Sofia Miagkikh" Kimmy is joined by internationally recognized fashion model Sofia Miagkikh to peel back the lay...

Are you finding that dating, especially after a long relationship or marriage, feels more like a job interview than a playful adventure? Connection gets lost when you're stuck in checklist mode.  But you might find flirtation awkward and unfamiliar so you default to a dry and serious conversation. In Episode 446 of The Charisma Quotient, "Dating Isn't An Interview: Finding Fun & Flow Coaching With Kimmy" Kimmy...

Have you ever looked in the mirror and wondered, "Where did I go?" What happens when years of relationship, marriage, or caretaking lead to losing sight of your own desires, identity, and confidence?  In Episode 445 of The Charisma Quotient, "From Wife to Woman: The Identity Crisis No One Talks About After Marriage with Betsy Pake" Kimmy sits down with coach, speaker, and podcast host Betsy Pake to dive deep into ...

How do the habits we form—inside and out—shape the quality of our lives and relationships? Can simple daily changes make a difference not only in how we feel, but also in how we're perceived and the connections we attract? In Episode 444 of The Charisma Quotient, "ICYMI: How To Attract Dates With A Great First Impression," Kimmy dives into the science and psychology of first impressions, sharing why these m...