Gumball Love Podcast

Gumball Love Podcast

Ever had a guy ghost you? He’s into you and suddenly he pulls away or cheats? Does he leave and come back into your life? This is a Gumball Guy. Gumball Love is attention addiction. Attention is just like a Gumball, temporarily intense and sweet but soon the effect is gone. Guys addicted to the “Gumball" (any flavor of attention), get a high from the excitement, adoration and validation. During this cycle they appear to be falling in love. When the high is gone they pull away, ghost or cheat leaving you feeling confused, rejected and heartbroken. I'm your host, Melissa Leger, professional relationship coach, creator of Gumball Love and the Back to You Academy. If you're ready to stop the cycle of toxic men, get through the break up once and for all, and finally get back to YOU, you are in the right place. This journey is about healing your heart, and you are encouraged to take the pace that is just right for you. In the process, you will build a foundation of confidence and strength that will make you unshakable, I promise. So get ready to level up your mindset and your lifestyle, as you awaken the seeds of greatness that are waiting to burst into full bloom. Let's do this! Find Melissa Leger at www.GumballLove.com Instagram: @TheMelissaLeger Email: Melissa@GumballLove.com Facebook group: Gumball Love VIP Clubhouse

Episodes

October 18, 2024 48 mins

I didn’t realize how low my confidence still was until I began ballroom dancing. Looking back, I was showing up for dates dressed up, with my hair and makeup done, but I still felt heavy and uncomfortable in my own skin.  Until I overcame this, I never knew how obvious this was to others.

The day I stepped into the dance studio, I had no idea how much my life was about to change. I had already done a lot of work on myself, but the ...

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I am so excited to be back, and I have so much to share. 

This podcast is like a phone call between you and me. I tell you what happened, why I stopped podcasting, why I did not want to share my relationship online. 

I also have a huge announcement and introducing a project I've been working on for a long time.  It is FREE:  Listen to the podcast and then come back and click the links below! 

 

The Gumball Love ROMANTIC QUIZ:

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Are you nervous to take that step to TRULY be single, totally off the dating apps, and just focus on getting to know and love yourself? My past client Brittany is the perfect example of why doing this is SO important. 

Tune in to find out how Brittany went from having no idea who she was, to being secure and confident in herself, plus happily married with two kids!

We discuss what drew Brittany to working with me, what things she d...

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Courtney was a single mom with two kids, divorced for six years, single for five, who was successful in all other areas of her life like friendships, career, and health...but her love life suffered. Until she met her boyfriend, but he'd never had kids before. Does it work out? Tune in to find out!

Courtney worked with me a few years ago doing one-on-one and group coaching. We chatted to see what she learned through that process, an...

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Coaching results, 4 years later! Kristy didn't want to get a coach. She said, "I'm smart, I am successful, I should be able to figure this out." When her best friend told her, "We can't keep having this conversation, you need to talk to someone" It was a sign. Kristy is a total badass, finance guru (paid off over $400K in debt in 18 months), and single mom of her gorgeous teenage daughter. We sat down ...

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Like many women approaching their 40's and still single, Lauren was feeling anxious, lonely, and grieving the fact that she may never get married or have kids. She was stuck in a pattern of dating the same time of guy over and over, always ending up with a broken heart...all while grieving the loss of her father.

Until she decided to commit to herself and give herself a year off from dating to focus solely on herself. That's when s...

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I am officially Mrs. Melissa Roberts!! After 20 years of searching for the right one and the trials and tribulations of dating many WRONG ones, I'm so proud to be a first time bride at 45. So many of you were asking for the wedding details, so here they are! But if you're in a place where it's too painful or sad to hear about someone else's wedding, I TOTALLY get it because I was the same way, so don't press play if you think it'll...

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Are you struggling with self worth, self love, and confidence? Christina Lecuyer was a beautiful professional golfer who seemed to have everything going for her..looks, fame, money, a relationship..but behind closed doors she was struggling far more than anyone knew. By DECIDING to be happier, she turned her life around, and you can too! Christina shares helpful strategies for anyone wanting to up-level their mindset, confidence an...

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July 18, 2022 29 mins

The right thing to do is often the harder thing to do. I'm celebrating a client this week who decided it's time to choose herself and stop settling. I know making this kind of decision often doesn't feel like celebrating though. There is a lot of grief and heartbreak when letting go of someone you bonded with, and even loved. Today I'm talking about why the grief and tears make you stronger.

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You've likely heard of the three attachment styles: secure, anxious, and avoidant, but we don't hear enough about the fourth: Ambivalent Attachment.

If your guy seems really intense in the beginning, pursuing you, showering you with love and gifts, but then can turn cold on a time or seems really needy, but like whatever you give him is never enough...he likely has ambivalent attachment style. 

Tune in to learn:

  • What ambivalen...
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A lot of coaches out there will tell you feeling butterflies around a new guy is a bad sign, because it means your nervous system is recognizing danger. This just isn't totally true, butterflies CAN actually be a good thing, as long as they're not overtaking your ability to spot the potential red flags.

In this episode, I'm breaking down:

  • What the sensation of butterflies actually is from a physiological perspective
  • Why, from ...
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June 6, 2022 24 mins

This episode was inspired by a listener who messaged me about her situation. She says the guy is not a Gumball Guy, he's nice and he loves her, but there's other issues...she noticed he has anxious attachment style and has been unwilling to get the help he needs, their core values are misaligned, and their levels of motivation and work ethic are different. 

She's wondering if it's worth it to stick with him, or if he's not the one.

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Are you dating with a sense of urgency and a timeline? 

If you ask any happily married couple if they had a sense of urgency to find the one when they met each other, most of them will probably say no.

When you're dating with this mentality, it's like you're starving, and so ANYTHING to eat looks good. It clouds your judgement, and you'll either miss the red flags or rationalize them to keep things moving along.

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Not attracting the quality men you're looking for on the dating sites? In this episode, I give you my proven top tips for improving your online dating profile and the first couple interactions to collapse your timeline and find your high-quality man faster. 

We talk about:

  • How to make sure your profile isn't generic and stands out from the crowd while staying true to who you are
  • Red flags to look out for in the initial text me...
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This episode might sting a little to hear but I'm gonna be that SUPER honest friend right now who just tells it to you straight...here are the things you might be doing that could be a major turn off for people.

Do you have bad breath? Bad body odor? Crooked teeth? What kinds of things do you talk about on a date...do you complain, or gossip? These are just a few of the things. Tune in to hear the full list!

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Fresh out of a break up? Even if you're months or even years out and still not over your ex, here are my top 34 things to do to get over a break up (non of which include binge drinking or drowning your sorrows in ice cream!) These are healthy, productive methods that actually work to help you move on.

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Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you...

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Are you killing it at your professional live, but struggling to find the man of your dreams? Most clients who come to me are much more confident and comfortable walking in to a board room than walking in to a first date, so if that's you, you're not alone!

In this episode, I give you the top reasons my clients were struggling to connect with high-quality men, and how I help them stop the cycle of toxic love, discover their worth, a...

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March 21, 2022 53 mins

For those of you who geeked out on the Netflix show Love is Blind (season 2), this episode is for you! Yes, it's reality TV which doesn't have the best rep for being...well...real...but we can actually learn A LOT from observing these singles and couples. 

In this episode I give my personal analysis of the individuals in the cast, as well as their relationships. Like, why did Nick and Danielle appear so toxic in the dating stages a...

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In this episode we're talking about why you're in the cycle of rejection and pain, why that pain of rejection is so great, and how to stop the cycle.

If you continue to find yourself meeting guys who seem great in the beginning, and then with no explanation they disappear or they turn out to be not who you thought they were, and then you're stuck in what appears to be a never-ending funk of sadness and anxiety about what the future...

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I'M ENGAGED!! I know how it can kinda stink to hear these engagement stories when you're still single, trust me I was there for a long time. I'm sharing this story with you because I KNOW it's possible for you. 

Whether you're single, dating or in a committed relationship, this episode is meant to help you understand what it feels like (for me, and I know for many others) to know for sure that this is the person you want to be with...

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