The Fearless Fostering Podcast

The Fearless Fostering Podcast

Podcast by Cathleen Bearse

Episodes

October 13, 2025 15 mins

There’s a kind of heartbreak that doesn’t get talked about enough — the quiet, complicated grief of a relinquished or failed adoption.
The world often doesn’t have a name for it, but you do.
You know what it feels like to have hoped, to have attached, to have planned and to have it all unravel.

Maybe you were days away from finalization when everything shifted.
Maybe you made the incredibly brave, gut-wrenching decision...

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This week, I'm sharing what I've been Reading, Eating, Playing, Obsessing over, Recommending, and Treating for the month of September...including admitting what made me cry at the EPCOT firework show...only God can judge me! Haha!

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Foster parenting is one of the most beautiful, heartbreaking, stretching, and transformative journeys a person can take. It’s a path filled with late-night calls, endless paperwork, uncertain outcomes, emotional highs, and devastating lows. And while so many foster moms step into this role with open hearts and the best intentions, the truth is: fostering can sometimes feel like too much.

That’s not because you’re not strong enough. ...

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If there’s one word I hear over and over again from foster moms, it’s this: guilt.

We feel guilty for not doing enough, for not being enough, for wanting rest, for saying no to one more visit, one more placement, one more request from a caseworker. And when we do say no, we often sit with the heavy weight of second-guessing ourselves: Am I letting someone down? Am I failing as a foster parent?

But here’s the truth: boundaries are not...

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One of the hardest parts of parenting children from hard places is the constant question: am I doing the right thing?

Every decision feels weighted:
Do I push or do I give grace?
 Do I set the boundary or soften it?
Do I make the accommodation or hold steady?

If you’re parenting a child with trauma or anxiety, you’ve likely asked yourself these questions on repeat. And you’re not alone.

Recently, one of the mamas in my Fea...

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Let’s be honest — most foster parent training programs are designed to check a box. They’re full of important information, but they often leave out how it actually feels to be a foster parent.

If you’re a foster parent or considering becoming one, you’ve probably heard something like:
“Just complete your training hours, pass your home study, and you’ll be ready to welcome a child into your home.”

But here’s the truth:
Foster ...

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One of the things I’ve come to love the most about creating content is pulling back the curtain a bit. Foster parenting, motherhood, and entrepreneurship can be so intense sometimes—and while I’m always here to support you through the hard parts, I also love sharing the things that bring me joy, comfort, and just a little bit of fun.

So today, I’m kicking off this month’s R.E.P.O.R.T., where I walk you through a few of my favorite t...

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There’s this unspoken pressure in motherhood — and especially in foster motherhood — to be the “fun mom.”
The one who always has energy, creativity, smiles, and Pinterest-worthy crafts.
The mom who never seems to lose her cool and always has time for play.

But what happens when that’s not you right now?

What happens when life feels heavy, and you can barely summon the strength to get through the day, let alone make it magical...

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And why you were never meant to carry it alone.There’s a lot of talk about the logistics of foster care.The background checks. The home studies. The training hours.Even the bedtime routines and trauma-informed parenting techniques.But what no one really talks about — at least not out loud — is the emotional load that comes with foster parenting.It’s not just heavy.It’s complicated.And most days, it’s completely invisible to everyon...
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And why I built Fearless Fostering to give it to you.When I got the call for our first placement, I wanted to feel ready.I had taken the classes. I had read the books. I had organized the bedroom.But when that little one crossed our threshold for the first time…I realized how much I wasn’t prepared for.Not because I didn’t care.But because foster care is not just logistics.It’s a thousand emotions at once — grief, love, guilt, hope...
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I'm answering your foster care questions today on the podcast, including what to do when your kids need more of you than you can give, how to prepare for a new placement, and how to process the grief of goodbye.Learn more about my Fearless Fostering group and join here: https://fearlessfostering.selfcarebestie.com/fearless-fostering
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There’s a moment in nearly every foster mama’s journey that hits harder than expected.It usually doesn’t happen during licensing classes or even during the first hours of welcoming a new child. It happens after a few days, when the adrenaline wears off and real life kicks in. When the child starts showing signs of trauma. When your biological kids start acting out. When the caseworker misses their visit or when the bio parent sends...
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Pediatric dietician and foster mama Madison Tyler joins me on this week's episode to share some signs that your foster or adoptive kiddo might be struggling with trauma-related food issues and how to solve them. If you'd like to learn more from Madison, you can follow her on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/nourishwithconnection/
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If you’re a foster mom, chances are you’ve found yourself in emotionally charged, high-stakes moments more than once—moments where your child is melting down, or a visit doesn’t go as planned, or something triggers your own trauma. These are the moments when your nervous system goes into overdrive, and every part of you wants to react.But here’s the truth: Regulation always comes before connection. And that means you must be ground...
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Foster care isn’t static — it’s a system that’s constantly shifting based on politics, policy, funding, research, and public awareness. And in 2025, we’re already seeing some significant changes that every foster parent (especially moms on the frontlines) should be aware of.Whether you’re new to fostering or have had multiple placements, these updates matter. They impact how long kids stay, the kind of support you receive, and how ...
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APPLY for the Fearless Fostering Group: https://forms.gle/HR8pem1G6Wx4dAhbALearn more about Fearless Fostering here: https://fearlessfostering.selfcarebestie.com/fearless-fosteringFoster care is never linear. If you’re reading this, you probably already know that. You know the wild swings from hope to heartbreak, the late-night worries, the unspoken fears. You know how it can feel like everything is happening at once — or not at al...
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Absolutely LOVED this talk with my pal and former Fearless Fostering member, Christi Chatman. In addition to being a foster mama, Christi is a therapist and big believer in therapy (especially embodied therapy for all that we hold in our bodies) for foster mamas. She shares her foster care journey thus far, what was painful and frustrating, as well as encouragement for how to persevere and heal from the wounds of foster mama trau...
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Charell Star is a former foster youth, lifelong advocate, and brilliant storyteller - she joins me in conversation on this episode to share her story and her debut memoir: Trashbag Tales & Other Stories From An Accidentally Happy Life.Find Charell's book here: https://charellstar.com/Connect with her on social media here: https://www.instagram.com/charellstar/#instagram
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When you begin your foster care journey, you prepare for a lot of things.You prepare your home.You prepare your heart.You prepare for trauma, transitions, and the unknown.But almost no one prepares you for one of the most sacred, painful, complex, and often overlooked relationships in foster care:The relationship between you and your child’s biological mother.Join the Foster Mama Lifeline here: https://stan.store/fearless_fostering...
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If you’ve ever stood face-to-face with a child in full-blown meltdown mode—screaming, hitting, crying, or shutting down—you know the pressure.Your heart races. Your brain scrambles for the “right” response.And suddenly, you’re the one feeling completely dysregulated.This is one of the hardest truths about parenting—especially in foster care:You can’t support a dysregulated child unless you know how to regulate yourself.And that’s n...
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