Stop Wanting Him Back & Find Someone Better

This episode was inspired by Claire's favorite guilty pleasure, The Bachelor!

After watching the hometowns episode of Joey's season, Claire found herself disturbed by the panicked fear of some of the women's family members who didn't want their daughter or sister to get their heart broken.

Of course NO ONE wants to get their hearts broken or see a loved one get hurt, but at the end of the day, heartbreak is inevitable for most people...

The terror of getting your heart broken again is SO real, valid and NORMAL. Especially if it's been a long time since you've really liked someone, and/or have experienced trauma and heartbreak in your past.  

In this episode, Claire walks you through eight steps you can take to navigate your fear of getting heartbroken again-- spoiler alert:

It's not about getting rid of the fear.

It's about navigating the fear while staying true to y...

If you feel like you're "doing all the things" but still find yourself heartbroken, this episode is for you. 

Heartbreak can leave you feeling scattered, exhausted and blocked from thinking straight, as well as blocked on taking care of business in your life, whether it's personal or professional.

This episode is NOT an invitation for you to shame or blame yourself if you hear some of the things you might not even realize you're doin...

This is one of those extra vulnerable episodes Claire shares as she turns 43. Usually her birthday episodes are about all the growth and reflection on how far she has come, since her rockbottom relationship, 13 years prior...

But today she reflects on hitting her upper limit recently, finding herself highly irritable (even for her!) and recognizing how she is very much still a STUDENT of this work first-- not the teacher.

If you rela...

If Claire had a nickel for every time she fell into the trap of this limiting belief, or for when a client has felt this way!!

You are not alone if you believe this falsity to be true.

Yes.

Falsity!

In today's episode, Claire unpacks how it's possible to disprove the idea that guys (insert whichever gender pronoun applies) you want, don't want you.

It's so important to diffuse this mean thoughts that don't serve you, and therefore great...

Today's episode piggy-backs off of last week's episode, Putting 1% More Effort Into Your Healing-Heartbreak Journey. (Episode 253)

Finding love can feel very overwhelming, despite how much you know you want it.

If you've been hurt before or alone for too long that the process of dating feels daunting, or you just despise the apps and you're not doing much to manage your resistance, chances are you'll let a lot of time go by, NOT taki...

Claire gets it. You're heartbroken and just don't want to do anything.

Showing up for work feels like a huge accomplishment and once you do, there's no energy left for anything else...

But you're over feeling this way.

You want to do something but everything everyone suggests feels too hard, too heavy, and too much.

In this episode, Claire explains how she too found herself in a bit of a stuck, shutdown mode with her own personal goals...

This episode is inspired by two of Claire's clients this past week-- one who needed to step into her power as a budding entrepreneur, and another who celebrated owning her power with a new guy she was dating and really interested in.

This is a must-listen if you feel like you are showing up for your dating life by doing all the things: swiping, dating, visualizing, etc, but aren't feeling like there's much momentum happening...

It ju...

This episode was inspired by one of Claire's group clients and a fellow coach, who presented the idea of exploring desire vs. desperation to heal heartbreak.

Claire was curious about why her client didn't want to feel desperate to heal, and in this episode she explores why desperation to heal may not be such a bad thing, while desperation in the midst of singledom, wouldn't be what she'd recommend.  

Referenced episodes

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This episode is inspired by Claire's client who was trying to not be discouraged over 7 guys she INTENTIONALLY swiped right on -- that included a thoughtful reachout to each-- but none of them responded.

Claire gave her client an encouraging perspective that you all need to hear--especially if you have a lot of resistance to the dating apps or just dating in general.

Regardless of whether you find your person on the apps or don't, th...

Ahhhhh.... the age-old question most single people hate at the holidays when they're reconnecting with the prying aunt they don't want to engage with.

So how do you handle it?  

Do you stick it to her?

Defend yourself?

Pretend like you don't care?

Laugh it off?

In today's episode Claire helps you get more clarity on why the question is so irritating-- even if you ARE fine being single right now-- and offers a few ways you can go about re...

Navigating your singledom or broken heart throughout the holidays can feel extra heavy and hard.  

There are annoying probing family members.

Lots of social obligations.

And it feels like you're so alone in this and it seems like everyone has someone except you.

Everyone has HAPPINESS except you.

Well, Claire is here to tell you how not true that is, and offers tips in this replay episode she recorded back in November of 2021.

PLEASE NOT...

Whatever holiday it is that you celebrate, Claire is inviting you to look at your resistance to showing up on your search for love at this time of year.

There tends to be three reasons people give up and/or hit pause on their search for love during the holiday season:

1) They just assume they'll be alone and have no one to crush on because it's already October or November

2) They assume people are busy with work and holiday festivitie...

Claire was recently referred to as an underdog in regards to being a step-mom and soon-to-be second wife, and it got her thinking about how so many of her clients feel like the underdog because of their relationship statuses...

Whether you're heartbroken, single at WHATEVER age, divorced, a mom, NOT a mom, a step-mom, not as far along as you'd prefer to be with your career and finances, YOU GET TO DECIDE if this makes you an underdo...

Claire brings on her client, Drybar co-Founder, Alli Webb, who recently wrote the book, The Messy Truth. The Messy Truth is all about how Alli got Drybar to a $255 million business in a short period of time, while also grieving the loss of her marriage, mother, and navigating a very scary and challenging time with her son.  

Claire takes some gems of wisdom from The Messy Truth and applies it to dating with Alli on this episode... Y...

You're seeing someone new who overall is pretty great except...

His breath is kinda bad. He doesn't know the difference between they're, their, and there! His pants are a hair too tight for your liking...

Dealbreaker?

You automatically think, "YES!," but there's this other part of you that wonders, "Am I being too picky?"

Or dare I say...

"ICKY?!!"

Because you just can't seem to shake your long list of ICKS when it comes to meeting someo...

In today's episode, Claire interviews her course student, Lora, who found true love after two marriages and a dragged out situationship.  

Lora is so honest, raw, real, articulate and vulnerable with sharing her story, that touches on the issue of age being a "thing" whiie looking for love and how she made it NOT a thing at almost 50, and they also discuss how differently she showed up in her dating life by the time she found the ma...

You're desperate to heal your heart and/or find love, and you know that it will require something more of you because what you're doing isn't working...

But you just can't bring yourself to trying something new or different, let alone stick to it!  

In today's episode, Claire shares about her client who is so coachable and wants the results SO badly, but is feeling very resistant to showing up on the regular with the tools Claire is ...