It’s Not Normal It’s Toxic: Rid Your Life of Toxic People

As I share more & more of my personal journey of healing, I see how even the everyday events, the ups and downs of just normal life have been affected by my past. Today, I am telling you a story & discussing the importance of understanding one's reactions and the impact of past experiences on current behaviors. Through an upsetting but non emergency life event, a flood in my basement, I reflect on the lessons I have learned...

In episode #243 I reminded you that YOU are the one that decides who in your life is healthy for your wellbeing and who may not be so healthy for you. In this episode I take it one more step, let's explore why it is confusing and why your mind becomes clouded when looking at your relationships.

Toxic relationships are complex and because of that you seek validation as you begin recognizing unhealthy behaviors.

Part of the reaso...

In this episode, I reflect on my personal journey towards peace and self-acceptance after years of navigating the long term effects of my toxic relationships. I share my experiences of anxiety and stress related to vacations and how my perspective has shifted over time. Through self-awareness and understanding of my past, I now know the importance of prioritizing myself and recognizing the value of my personal growth. My overall mi...

In this conversation, I explore the complexities of emotional wiring and how it affects relationships, particularly with toxic personalities. The importance of understanding different personality types to navigate your future decisions effectively is imperative. Your relationship will remain confusing causing self doubt until you know them as well as you know yourself.

Announcing the "You've Got To Be Kidding Me - Valid...

As I celebrate yet another year of life & reflect on my growth journey, I particularly want to celebrate the understanding and managing my own emotions. In the context of toxic relationships having and owning your own feelings is very difficult to do. The impact of emotional control by others was very significant in my life, even long after the toxic relationship had ended. The full understanding of emotional abuse, and the im...

You have been there, you probably still are. When you get a message you "feel" the need to respond no matter what the message says. You have learned that by responding quickly, in a way they will get what they want you have been able to keep the peace better than if you delay your response or do not respond.

Here are a few tips on knowing if a message even needs a response, & how to respond if it does.

For more infor...

Welcome to yet another “New Year”

I remember when I was in an unhealthy marriage each time the "New Year" came around and 'Old Year" passed my world became smaller & my outlook became more and more hopeless

All I could see was my life. Ug! It was nothing to reflect on. All the wasted years just scrolling by and me not having a say or remembering any of it. Now I knew I should have been grateful, I should have been able to embr...

No one wakes up one morning and thinks... "That's it, I need a coach!" Rather you wake up and immediately start solving the problems that are already surfacing and its not even 8:00am.

I needed someone to understand and meet me for daily discussions on the problems of the day so I could come away with a solution and a skill that I could use the next time it happened. I would have NEVER thought about hiring a coach, mentor, or guide...

In my search to find a gratitude practice that fit me and my personality I ran across something I did not realize had been happening. In the years I spent in a toxic relationship I was always positive, people told me so, but was I? Turns out I was using "toxic positivity" to trick myself into being grateful for very very negative things. The article that was most helpful to me in my research was written by Ashley Laderer. HOW TO MA...

The Holidays are not always something to look forward to. Let's discuss the complexities of dealing with toxic personalities during the holiday season. These individuals often seek control, power over others as well as attention, and admiration from others, particularly during a time when the focus is on joy and connection. Here are a few insights into the behaviors you can more than likely expect to see from toxic individuals this...

A big WELCOME BACK, Dr. Heidi reflects on her personal journey both past and present of growth and transformation. Finding she was still at times feeling the long term effects of her past relationship, she plans on moving her business forward emphasizing the importance of authenticity and vulnerability. She shares her surprize realization concerning emotional abuse and the long-term effects it has had on her life. It has opened her...

In this tidbit Dr Heidi shares briefly her personal journey of healing through her training in Neurosomatic Intelligence, which has transformed her understanding of how the long term effects of emotional and psychological abuse has impacted her personal life. Dr. Heidi also announces the closure of her Facebook support group, 'Strength Within,' explaining the reasons behind this decision and emphasizing her commitment to guiding in...

Dr. Heidi explains how each toxic person is not the same in the level of severity. In the more extreme toxic relationships threats will be different than with a less extreme personality. Focusing on the nature of threats used by toxic individuals to manipulate and control others you must take into account that some will indeed turn into action. She shares personal experiences and insights on how fear and guilt can trap individuals ...

A single puzzle piece does not make any sense if it is all by itself. 

But when you put that puzzle piece with other pieces things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense it is not until you have all the pieces connected that the bigger picture finally emerges.

One behavior by a toxic person may not make sense to you, but when you put that behavior with others, things begin to fit together and start making a litt...