How Married Are You?

In this video, we respond to a real question from a woman whose boyfriend, a church leader, told her he couldn't marry someone who drinks alcohol, even occasionally.Should she give up something she doesn’t personally believe is wrong in order to honor the man she loves and hopes to marry?Or is that the kind of change that must come from personal conviction, not relationship pressure?If you’ve ever wrestled with different convic...

In episode 282 of @howmarriedareyou, a 30-year-old listener shares how @Beleafmel and @MrsMelanin helped her believe marriage was possible, after growing up surrounded by divorce and broken relationships. She did the work. Therapy. Self-help. Healing her anxious attachment. She became secure, confident, grounded.Then she met a man who felt “too good to be true.”Two and a half years later, after phone secrecy, dating apps, denials, ...

What do you do when you and your spouse want the same outcome… but you can’t agree on the way to get there? 😩🤍

In Episode 281, a newlywed writes in with a marriage tension that feels small at first… until it affects everything: perfection vs progress.

She’s the type who believes action brings clarity. Even a “no” teaches you what you need for the next attempt. Her husband is the type who wants things to be perfect before mo...

What do you do when you’re rebuilding your life after divorce… and wondering if you should do it alone? 💔➡️🏗️❤️

In Episode 280, a recently divorced listener writes in asking a vulnerable question: should he focus entirely on rebuilding himself — financially, emotionally, and spiritually — or should he actively pursue a relationship with someone who can help him build his life alongside him? 🤔

After separating in 2023 and f...

What do you do when your partner’s “boundaries” start feeling like control?

In Episode 279, a listener writes in about being engaged to a woman who reacts strongly anytime other women are around. On a group trip, she told him to keep his distance from one woman she believed was staring at him. When that same woman ended up sitting next to him in an Uber, his fiancée texted him to move his legs away from her. Later, after a group...

What do you do when you keep praying for God to remove someone… and they’re still here?

In Episode 278, a listener writes in about dating a man who came in strong — intentional, consistent, saying all the right things, and claiming his goal was marriage and family. But once she finally became his girlfriend, the effort disappeared. No thoughtfulness. No intentional dates. Barely any engagement. He doesn’t ask questions, doesn’t ...

What do you do when the person you married starts sounding like someone you never would’ve chosen?

In Episode 277, a 21-year-old listener writes in about getting married at 19… and feeling like her husband is unrecognizable now 😔.

They bonded over faith, culture, and shared values — even agreeing they’d never become “patriots.”

But after he joined the military and found community in a new environment, she says his beliefs...

Have you ever had a “what if” person… and you can’t tell if it’s God’s timing or an emotional trap?

In this episode, a listener writes in about a seven-year friendship that keeps circling back into something deeper. They’ve never kissed, she’s been abstinent for five years, and now — for the first time — their timing finally aligns to explore a relationship. But she’s torn: he’s warm, patient, and makes her feel safe… yet she’s afra...

In this episode, we talk honestly about something we’re still learning how to navigate in our own marriage: celebration, hosting, and friendship.

We unpack a real disagreement between us — one where gathering people, creating moments, and hosting feels meaningful and necessary to one of us, while the other experiences those same moments as pressure, disruption, and emotional overload. Neither of us is wrong, but the tension betw...

In this episode of How Married Are You, we respond to a listener email from a newly married wife who’s quietly struggling with loneliness. Between long work hours, late nights, exhaustion, and limited time together, she’s worried this season might become their new normal — and she doesn’t want to come across as ungrateful or like a nag for wanting more connection.

We talk honestly about marriage seasons, why hard rhythms don’t autom...

Happy Holidays, y’all! As the year comes to a close, we’re taking a short break from our regularly scheduled podcast episodes to rest, reset, and be present. As a little holiday gift, we’re sharing a conversation from the Patreon vault that you may have missed. If you enjoy conversations like this, join us on Patreon for weekly bonus conversations after every podcast.

In this Patreon vault episode, Glen and Yvette unpack a viral and...

Happy Holidays, y’all! As the year comes to a close, we’re taking a short break from our regularly scheduled podcast episodes to rest, reset, and be present. As a little holiday gift, we’re sharing a conversation from the Patreon vault that you may have missed. If you enjoy conversations like this, join us on Patreon for weekly bonus discussions after every podcast.

In this vault conversation, Glen and Yvette explore a question many...

This episode centers on one big listener question: Did I romanticize my husband — and overlook red flags while dating?

A newly married listener from South Africa writes in just three months after the wedding, struggling with harsh words during conflict, old wounds resurfacing, and the fear that she may have confused spiritual compatibility with true emotional safety.

We unpack what “gentleness” should look like in marriage, how tri...

This episode dives into one major listener question: Are we unequally yoked? A 31-year-old Christian single mom writes in, deeply in love and preparing for engagement — but scared that her Protestant faith and her partner’s Eastern Orthodox roots might create cracks later. We unpack theology vs. lifestyle, how beliefs show up in everyday routines, and what unity actually looks like when two people worship differently but love Jesus...

This episode centers on two powerful listener emails — one from a man afraid his insecurity is destroying a healthy relationship, and another from a woman untangling herself from a four-year situationship filled with hidden children, heartbreak, miscarriages, and blurred co-parenting lines.

We talk honestly about trust, emotional safety, soul-ties, red flags, and why some relationships can’t be prayed into health.

Around the emails, ...

In this episode, we read an email from a listener who loves her boyfriend but doesn’t feel like his first choice. We talk insecurity vs. truth, attraction, healing from past relationships, and how to discern if you’re being chosen or just convenient.

Plus, Chocolate Baby Storytime with a family rap session, camping trip confessions, and updates on Premarital Advantage, Father Yourself First, and the Saturday men’s group for Black m...

We’re talking to a solo mom who wrote in real honest: should she try again with her son’s dad? We unpack trust after hurt, how healing changes what you want, and why “for the baby” is not a dating strategy. We keep it tender, tell the truth, and give some practical next steps. Plus, Chocolate Baby Storytime, cleanse life, and Lily the dog leaving sticky-note reminders like a tiny furry manager.

This one is warm, real, and rooted...

She wrote in heartbroken: six months in, different faith practices, sex after planning to wait, and an “I love you” he stopped saying. Then her dad talked to the boyfriend who admitted he didn’t plan to marry her and wanted to “see what else is out there.” We respond with care and clarity: nothing was wasted, learn the lesson, forgive, and choose wisely next time.

We also talk sibling dynamics at home, privileged kids and holida...

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A listener writes in about the woman he loves—smart, beautiful, and ready for marriage… except she believes a man should pay for everything while she saves her own money “for security.” She says a woman shouldn’t spend on an able-bodied man. He calls it an escape route. Now he’s wondering: is this financial boundary a red flag or just her way of protecting herself after trauma?

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