How to Get the Girl: By the Ask Women Podcast

Moving to a new city can feel like hitting the reset button—new streets to explore, new friends to make, and a whole new dating scene to figure out. In this throwback episode (originally aired 6.15.16, Ep. 67), Marni and Kristen talk with east-coast transplant PJ about how to rebuild your social life, boost your confidence, and navigate dating when you’re starting from scratch.

We also dive into:

• The challenges of dating in a bra...

This week, we’re bringing you a throwback episode that’s just as valuable today as when it first aired. We sat down with Abby — a hot, young, single twenty-something — to get the unfiltered inside scoop on what dating in your 20s is really like. From the shifts COVID created in the dating landscape to what’s stayed exactly the same, Abby pulls back the curtain on what works, what fails, and how to approach with confidence. She even...

In this bonus episode of How to Get the Girl, Kristen sits down with Dave Stultz from Limitless Brave to talk about something that can completely shift your dating life: the power of working with a coach in person.

We break down why nothing compares to the energy of being in the room, where body language, presence, and confidence can be seen, felt, and fine-tuned in real time.

You’ll hear why workshops create an environment where sk...

This episode is anything but a lecture. In fact, we kick things off with a totally candid 10-minute conversation between me, Kristen, and our guest Dr. Kayte about our own porn patterns - genres, likes, dislikes - proving that yes, we ALL watch porn.

From there, Dr. Kayte breaks down what’s actually healthy versus harmful when it comes to porn, plus what’s real and what’s pure camera trickery that should never, ever be tried in real...

Dating at 49 isn’t about playing games — it’s about knowing who you are, what you want, and not being afraid to say it out loud. On this episode of How to Get the Girl, we sit down with Rachel Birch, host of the award-winning podcast Love Before 100.

Freshly divorced and unapologetically back in the dating scene, Rachel opens up about what she’s looking for, what turns her on, and the mindset of a sophisticated, strong woman who’s n...

When it comes to men’s health, your penis might be saying more than you think. On this episode of How to Get the Girl, we sit down with Dr. Elliot Justin — physician, innovator, and creator of the world’s first smart penis ring — to talk about not erectile dysfunction, but erectile fitness.

Dr. Justin shares why sexual health is more than performance — it’s a vital indicator of your overall well-being. We dig into the critical need ...

Communication is the foundation of every great relationship, but for so many people, it’s also the biggest struggle. In this episode, we’re joined by Suzanne Tabachnick, founder of Social Foundations, a supportive community dedicated to helping people build social awareness, abilities, and confidence. While Social Foundations focuses on individuals navigating life on the autism spectrum, Suzanne’s insights are valuable for anyone w...

How do you know when to pursue, when to pull back, and when to stop altogether?

In this throwback episode, we sit down with Emmy-nominated producer and casting director Tanya Bershadsly to break down the art of pursuit.

We dive into the signals women give that tell you she’s interested, HOW TO SPOT when you’re pushing too far, and the difference between persistence and pressure.

Tanya brings her eye for human behavior from years in...

This week, is a serious DON'T MISS. We sit down with Erin Keating, creator of the brand and podcast Hotter Than Ever, dedicated to dating over 50, to reveal the unfiltered truths men need to hear.

While Erin’s show focuses on dating later in life, the insights she shares apply to any man looking to attract and connect with women.

Erin is no-holds-barred, authentic, and tells it exactly like it is- no fluff, no sugarcoating. We ...

This one’s from the vault back when the show was called Ask Women—so don’t be confused by the old name drop! The advice still holds up (and then some).

In this episode, we’re joined by Adam Wayne, Marni’s personal coach, to talk about one of the trickiest topics for men: how to share your vulnerabilities without coming off as self-deprecating, weak, or like you’re making excuses for who you are.

Adam breaks down how to own your truth...

In this throwback episode, we get all too relatable talking about making a bad first impression. Made a weird joke? Came on too strong? Forgot how to speak English the second she looked at you? We’ve all been there—and this week, we’re talking about how to come back from a cringey first impression without losing the girl (or your dignity).

Comedian and crowd-reading master K.T. Tatara joins Kristen to break down what actually kills ...

We’re throwing it back to one of our most downloaded episodes with none other than Alpha M, the #1 men’s lifestyle influencer, Aaron Marino.

In this conversation, we unpack the truth about confidence: where it actually comes from, why most guys fake it wrong, and how to build the kind of self-assurance that women feel before you even say a word.

We dive into:

• Why confidence has nothing to do with arrogance

• The grooming/style habits...

If you struggle to read women, constantly misinterpret signals, or feel like there’s a disconnect no matter how hard you try, this episode is for you.

We’re joined by Empathetic Leadership Coach Jevon Wooden to unpack the power of Emotional Intelligence (EQ) and why it’s the missing link for so many men when it comes to connection, attraction, and trust.

We break down how emotional intelligence helps you actually understand what a wo...

In this episode of How to Get the Girl (formerly known as Ask Women), Kristen and Marni are joined by certified sex therapist Dr. Tina Shermer to tackle one of the biggest silent confidence-killers for men: sexual shame.

Whether it’s shame around performance, desire, past experiences, or just not knowing what’s “normal,” this shame often goes unspoken — but it’s sabotaging your confidence, your connection with women, and your abili...

🎙️ Heads up! We’re playing around with new titles for the show! Right now, we’re rolling with "How to Get the Girl" by Ask Women, but stay tuned for another possible rebrand 👀

This week, we’re diving into one of the most misunderstood emotions in dating: jealousy. And no, it’s not always toxic. In fact, if you know how to use it, it can be one of the most powerful tools for increasing attraction, creating sexual tens...

It’s time to STOP sabotaging yourself—and start asking for what you actually want. 

This week, we’re joined by Brad DeMint, host of the How to Win podcast and a powerhouse salesman who knows how to close deals and create clarity.

Brad breaks down the exact mindset shift that will help you stop playing small, speak up, and go after what you truly want—not just in dating, but in life. We also dig into why so many people don’t even know...

This week, Marni is joined by the one and only Susan Bratton, intimacy expert to millions, for a no-holds-barred conversation all about the penis. From performance anxiety to erectile dysfunction, we’re breaking down the most common issues men face in the bedroom—and why it’s not just “in your head.”

Susan shares expert insights on what actually causes ED, how to regain confidence and sensitivity, and why the porn you’re watching mi...

This week, Marni and Kristen break down the jaw-dropping style moments from a men's networking event — where the men weren’t just dressed well... they were dressed like MEN. Smart. Sophisticated. And undeniably sexy.

The ladies dive into:

• HOW to dress in a way that makes her stop mid-sentence

• WHY certain looks make women feel giddy and drawn in

• WHAT it takes to turn the sidewalk into your personal runway

Because here’s the trut...

Kristen and Marni are joined by special guest Kelly Tao, one of Marne’s original wing girls, for a powerful conversation on confidence—how to access the confidence already within you, how to keep it consistent, and how to let it multiply.

They also get real about age gaps in dating—and share their personal preferences about WHY dating older men can be desirable and WHY dating younger/the same age range can also be desirable so you h...