The Kingsley Grant Show: Where Emotional Intelligence (EI/EQ) and Leadership Skills Intersect

+++ SYNERGY FLOW +++

Have you ever been someplace where the synergy was so strong that you immediately felt like this is where you needed to be?

And when that happened, do you remember how motivated you were to do whatever you could to contribute something of value to the environment?

That's the power of synergy.

It's the result of combining forces that ultimately impact the bottom-line.

This is what many companies lack and that is...

+++ UNLOCKING SECRET +++

Have you ever felt somewhat stupid, simply by someone quickly solving a problem that you took days and sometimes weeks, trying to figure out? 

It's a terrible blow to one's ego especially mine when it happens to me. Ouch!

It seems like they knew the secret to unlock the problem. 

I must say, in a few situations, I've been that guy who unlocked the problem, and I can vouch for how good it feels whe...

+++ STORIES SELL +++

It's amazing how we are more apt to remember stories than we do facts.

I'm able to remember a place, person, or event more if I have an associated story attached.

However, if you were to tell me facts and expect me to remember as I do stories, forget it. It ain't happening.

This is why someone coined this phrase: Facts tell. Stories sell. Oh, how true this is.

Why is it then that leaders don't use more stories ...

+++ IN THE EMOTION +++

Look a bit closer and there you'll find it. You might be surprised what you'll discover if you know what you are looking for.

You might be wondering what I'm talking about. Right?

It's simply those nagging feelings that you have from time to time because of what other people do or say and then not sure what to do about them.

Fear. Anger. Frustration. Anxiety. Not to mention Stress.

These are just some of...

+++ PASSING IT ON +++

There are many things in life worth passing on to those who are behind us. We have a responsibility as leaders in whatever form that takes, to make sure those we are leading are better equipped for the life ahead of them.

But the catch is this: not everyone who is in leadership or has that title is skilled to pass on what is necessary for those following.

The good news is that we all can learn how to do a...

+++ YOUR BLINDSPOTS +++

Oh goody ... blindspots.

What are they? Where do I look for them? Does everyone have them?

Blindspots used in the context of people relationship has to do with the inability to see what others see. That is the simplest way that I can put it.

The problem is that some people are not open to receiving feedback that calls attention to their blindspot(s). They will simply deny or ignore it.

Make sure you are...

+++ YOUR REPUTATION +++

I grew up learning the importance of having a good reputation. 

It was drilled into me that my reputation was one of the most valuable things to protect with everything in me.

This idea came from the Proverbs where Solomon made this statement: "A good reputation is more desirable than great wealth ..." 

As important as great wealth is, reputation beats that hands down.

Having a good reputation is a...

+++ MISS TAKE +++

No, I didn't make a mistake in my spelling. It was intentional.

But that is not what mistakes are. They are not intentional. It is something that happens because you or I attempted something that didn't work out the way we thought.

That what a mistake is.

Some people are afraid of attempting new things because of the possibility of making a mistake.

They want to have such a "perfect" record that they don't attempt...

+++ AH, KINDNESS +++

There are some words that are seemingly becoming extinct in the times we are living in. Kindness happens to be one of them.

It would seem that people, in general, forgot how to be kind, not to mention many of those that have been assigned the title of a leader.

Is it any wonder why a leader who practices kindness, tends to garnish the support of their people in ways that are hard to explain?

I've seen this many...

+++ ALWAYS ESSENTIAL +++

How often have you heard the terms non-essential and essential as it relates to the pandemic and lock-downs? Have you, like me, ever wondered who determines something or someone as essential?

To classify something or someone as essential means everything or everyone else is non-essential. Is that what is being conveyed?

Here's what I know, the label of essential is determined by who is in need at the moment...

+++ IT'S IN THE PRACTICE +++

Have you ever heard the phrase, "practice becomes perfect?"

What are your thoughts on that? Do you believe it is true?

I don't and here's why.

If it did, we would have a lot of perfect people in the world, by now. Wouldn't we?

So many have practiced so hard and yet come up short ... because it is impossible.

And when you've put in all the work and not get the perfection that was promised, you become fru...

+++ YES, AND IN LIFE +++

Notice the word AND. It is a very useful word when you want to truly engage people in a conversation. It is the opposite of using the word BUT. 

How many times have you been in conversation and someone says something and follows up immediately with the word BUT? When he or she did, what was your gut reaction?

If you are like me, your system went into alert and tensed up as you braced for what would com...

+++ PLATE IS FULL +++

Do you feel at times that your "plate" is so full that if you added one more task to it, you would go insane?

I have been there.

And the crazy thing is that sometimes I find a way to add one more task to my plate. Isn't that crazy? 

I'm sure I'm not the only one. You might have done the same thing as well.

The question is, why do we do that to ourselves? Let me make it more personal, why do I do that to m...

+++ SOMEONE SOMEWHERE +++

Every one of us struggles with one thing or another. There are some people who are not able to relate to your struggle. But if you look long and hard, you'll find someone who does.

None of us are exempt from struggles. 

With that in mind, we can safely say, we are not the only one that has a certain struggle even though we may feel that way at times.

As a coach and licensed therapist, I get to hear pe...

+++ SOFT AS STEEL +++

I know this sounds like a contradiction. Right?

Soft and steel don't go together. Is this a mistake?

On the surface, it seems like these two words should not be used together because steel is always seen as something tough. As a matter of fact, those are the words that are used together: tough as steel.

However, there is a term which I'm sure you have heard, which is, soft skills. You've heard that, right?

Unf...

+++ ONLY 2 FOR NOW +++

You can find many lists on what makes a leader great and they are almost always different. You will find some overlap here and there but for the most part, you are going to decide which list is most accurate.

I must admit that they all will have something helpful for the reader. I have benefited from that myself.

But at the end of the day, I'm left to decide for myself because it's too much to sift through.

H...

+++ THE MINDSET +++

I came across this quote that I believe captures the kind of mindset needed to make a difference in our world. Here it is: “Risk more than others think is safe. Care more than others think is wise. Dream more than others think is practical. Expect more than others think is possible.” – Claude T. Bissell

What do you think? Would you agree with my opening statement now that you've read the quote for yourself? Let ...

+++ RATION YOUR PASSION +++

One of the words that are often used when it comes to the Millennials, is passion. 

This assignment can be justified when viewed from a broad perspective. They are certainly passionate about the issues they believe in and want to promote.

We see this in almost all segments of society, some of which are good and some, not so good.

Depending on who you talk with, you'll get varying perspectives on thi...

+++ IT'S ALL ABOUT THE TOOL +++

Mark Twain quote, "To a man with a hammer, everything looks like a nail."

I use this quote quite often with some of my clients in helping them to add more tools to their "toolbox" so they can have more options available to them.

The more tools you have the better the chance of success. 

One of the issues we face is deciding what our next tool should be. Sometimes we don't know what it should be ...