The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm

If you’re a new dad, or know a new dad this episode is for you.

Hell, even if you’re not one, this is an honest conversation about the massive initiation that is fatherhood. 

In this episode I sit down with my good friend and brother Dr. Long Distance Love Bombs and chat with him about all the ways, both amazing and challenging, that his life has changed since becoming a dad this past year.

We talk anger, depression, jubilance and of ...

Most people think this is about mental toughness. It's not.

This episode covers what I packed, what I wish I hadn't, what saved me, and what almost broke me. But more importantly — it’s about how surrender is the only real survival skill worth having.

I share the little rituals and practices that got me through the most intense parts of the experience, and what I'll be doing differently this time around. If you're planning your own d...

There's a lot of talk about masculinity out there. Most of it's noise.

In the dark, I discovered a version of masculinity that had nothing to prove, nothing to fight, and nothing to perform. Just strength. Stillness. Surrender. This episode is about how darkness stripped me down to the bones--and what I found underneath.

I talk about the power of discipline without ego, devotion without force, and why surrender is one of the most mis...

Pain doesn't leave the body until it's been felt.

In this episode, I talk about how darkness forced me to feel the stuff I spent years running from--grief, heartbreak, shame. All of it. No therapist. No journal. Just pitch black silence and a willingness to not run.

I open up about what happened when I finally let the pain have a voice, and what healing looked like when there was no one around to witness it. This one's about shadow w...

Ever sat still long enough to hear yourself think? What about long enough to hear yourself scream?

This episode is about the three characters that show up when the world goes quiet--fear, boredom, and madness. I met all three of them in the dark. Some of them became friends. Some... not so much.

I get into the games your mind plays when there's no one to distract you, and how facing these voices helped me reclaim parts of myself I di...

We live in a world built on distraction--dopamine loops, constant noise, nonstop input. But what happens when you take it all away?

In this one, I share what it felt like to remove every single thing I usually lean on--no Instagram, no podcasts, no books, no light. Just stillness and space. Spoiler alert: it sucked. Then it got profound.

This episode isn't just about silence--it's about withdrawal, confrontation, and ultimately trans...

If you've ever wanted to run away from your life for a bit--or just hide in a closet with no phone--you're going to get this one.

In this episode, I dive into why I chose to sit in total darkness for 28 days... and why I'm going back in for **49**. No phone. No light. No distractions. Just me, my mind, and whatever monsters show up when there's nothing else to hold onto. 

It wasn't just an escape--it was a full-on confrontation with ...

In this episode I’ll talk about why so many of us find ourselves in a constant cycle of self betrayal all in the name of fitting in and being loved. OY!

We all do it to some degree, but once you see how you betray yourself in the name of keeping and creating connection and belonging, your life will change forever. I’ll share with you a single sentence that you can apply to any form of self betrayal so you do just that — see it plane...

If you’re a man who has sex, or know one who does, this episode is for you.

Taylor Johnson used to be addicted to porn. Heavily. And like so many men, it destroyed his sex life. It led to erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, depression and anxiety. Sounds great doesn’t it?After putting himself through a series of abstinence experiments his whole life began to change — both in the bedroom with successful and gratifying sex, a...

In this episode I’ll talk about five of the most important factors for you to consider if you’re in a breakup or divorce.

My writing career kicked off with a book about how to use the pain of your breakup or divorce to transform your life, so this is my bread and butter! Since that book I’ve worked with thousands of people who are now on the other side of heartbreak and most are living lives they never thought possible.

Knowing these...

In this episode I speak with renowned author Dr. Douglas Thomas on what makes people tick in the bedroom and beyond it.
After reading Dr. Thomas’s book, The Deep Psychology of BDSM & Kink while in Costa Rica, I reached out to Dr. Thomas to see if he’d come on the podcast with me. He agreed and magic was made. We talk archetypes, the power of our sexuality, and at the end dive into the changes that AI and robotics may have on our...

In this episode I’ll talk about how and why you need to get past the idea that people who don’t live like you do or even want to, are supposed to understand you.
If there’s one thing that needs to be navigated in order to live a life outside of the box — it’s being misunderstood. This comes from family, friends, and of course, perfect strangers who have internet access to you.

Learning to work through what’s different about you (...

If you’re curious how to build more trust, devotion, and polarity in your relationship, this episode is for you.
Ever wonder what really happens in a relationship dynamic where both parties have agreed to a complete Dom/sub relationship? Ever wonder how that dynamic could help you be a better partner in your own relationship, no matter how it’s put together?
In this candid conversation with Andrew from Infinite Devotion, we get into ...

Every time I have a client say their stuck because they’re afraid of either failure or success I roll my eyes and say — OH LORD. No you’re not. You’re afraid of the unknown. The deep unknown. The things you can’t even conceptualize right now.

And — you need to start anyway. Anyone and everyone you know who’s done something outside of their comfort zone has had the exact same stuck feeling. 

Stick around to the end of this already sho...

Now more than ever, people are craving a deeper experience of their lives. I bet you can relate.
In this episode I speak with Boulder Outdoor Survival School graduate, Men’s Work Facilitator, and BJJ enthusiast Evan Meyer on his own path towards living a soul based life, the pain and turmoil he’s had to go through to get where he’s at, and of course, his favorite Jiujitsu submission.

If you’re curious about not only how to navig...

Myth. Sex. Pleasure. Oh my.

In this conversation with author and Depth Psychologist Dr. Alanna Kaivalya we jam on several aspects of relationship and female pleasure. And this podcast isn’t just for our female listeners, guys you will glean much from this episode as well.

Dr. Kaivalya has a unique lens on the relationship world as both a psychologist and someone who has a deep understanding of myth, masculine and feminine dynamics, a...

Today I bring you another Irishman and a fascinating one at that. Pat is a good friend of the Uncivilized world and has been leading a life worthy of the title of Uncivilized since before we were born.

In this episode we follow Pat’s career going from fitness success and lack of satisfaction into the world of Breathwork and how that has radically changed his life. Pat’s openness about the truth of business and entrepreneurship as we...

Considering the fact that it’s reason the species perpetuates, the difference between friendships and romantic relationships, as well as a MASSIVE source of both life’s pleasures and pain — it’s shocking that we don’t have more open and honest conversations about sex.

In this episode I get to ask Dr. Kelly all the questions you men ask me, covering such topics and erectile disfunction, premature ejaculation, and even what happens if...

Michael Gay is Uncivilized royalty, having been there from the beginning and is one of our co-leaders in our workshops. He’s also a licensed therapist and would probably be happiest living in the woods.
In this episode we explore the ways men and women both can create a deeper relationship with your intuition and the parts of your body and knowings that the civilized world divorces you from.

This is a great episode for anyone who...