The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm

What a crazy month in the civilized world, huh? Who ever would have thought such juggernauts as Nickelodeon, P Diddy, AND Andrew Huberman would come to light for being toxic and horrible — at the same time.

For us at UNcivilized, this is a sign that the civilized veil is falling, truth is emerging, and as men — it’s time for us to deal with what’s in our own shadowy closets.

In this solo episode I talk about what I see and most imp...

I’ve often talked about and taught the notion of Attachment vs Authenticity when it comes to Nice Guy work. And the idea of attachment is real — but it’s taken me a few years of working with it and hearing about it quite often for it truly to stick.

Thus I’m now shifting to talking about Belonging vs Authenticity — especially with but not exclusive to Nice Guys.

In this short solo episode I break down why your need to belong may be...

An Instagram follower asked me the difference between aspects of Traditional Masculinity and our UNcivilized Masculinity and rather than write him back a novel, I decided to record this solo episode for you.

In it, I jump right to the point and outline what’s great about Traditional Masculinity and — what needed to be upgraded about it. Thus the creation of UNcivilized Masculinity.

I outline what makes us different and why…key word...

Francis Weller has been an inspiration for me for years now. The way he speaks and shares his work around initiation and living a soulful life hits me in my core. It stops my frantic mind and makes me feel like the world is going to be okay…even if it may not be.

In this episode I get to sit down with Francis and have a frank conversation about men, about getting in touch with our deeper parts, and with what we need to do to make s...

In this short and punchy solo episode, I answer another question from Instagram:
“What were the most transformative parts of men’s work for you?”

I dive into the top three for you so you can decide for yourself if these are pieces you want to try on yourself.

1. Outgrowing substances like alcohol, weed, and porn
2. Getting to be authentically me in men’s groups
3. Having Michael Gay say, “Set the tone…” and turning the embodime...

Last week I was on a call with a man who asked me this profound question, “Where do I begin my men’s work journey? There are so many places I can start from?”
In this episode I break down a great starting point for you if you’re about to embark on your men’s work journey, or where to return to if you’ve currently been on a break and aren’t sure where to pick back up.

I also share a new frame for you that takes the edge and ...

In this short solo episode, I break down the two main blocks I see when people try to figure out their purpose.

Knowing why you’re here and what you’re here to do is a BIG deal. And being stuck without knowing either can lead to a lot of undue suffering.

This episode will help ease that suffering and give you a path forward when you’re in between major chapters of your life.

Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your l...

I actually did walk through the woods to go to school, and sometimes it was freezing. I figured out pretty early on that there are a lot of guys who get things handed to them where I didn't. I also figured out I wasn't the smartest but I had the willingness and ability to outwork just about anybody. But we all had one thing in common.

Failure to launch.

We all hit "failure to launch" in our lives, multiple times. ...

After BDSM teacher Andy Buru came into The UNcivilized Nation and dropped this notion for all of us, I’ve been seeing how potent of an idea this is — balancing space holding and selfishness actually is. AND how confronting it is for so many people to lean into the one that’s not their natural way.

In this short solo episode I break down why being able to do both will change your sex life, your income, and your relationships at larg...

This is an important episode and please stay to the end of it where we go into a depth we never planned on. Last week Duey quoted a book he’s reading about how men mostly fear the experience of being afraid. I put my knife and fork down and asked him to tell me more. 

As he did, I knew we had to record this episode and share it with you all. It starts a bit slow but then we get into hard hitting concepts that you can use to shift y...

Making a brief return to interviewing, I get to sit down here with a man who has been a mortician since the age of 18. Wild huh?
We talk a lot about grief, the power of full expression and how we can shift the societal tide that’s preventing so many people from feeling what’s only natural in their lives.

Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty. 

Cheers,

Traver

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In this episode I tackle one of my favorite topics — being a Nice Guy (or Cool Girl). Since this is my background and our most popular course, I’m diving in and giving you three concrete ideas for you to apply right now to start to shift this paradigm in your life.

1. You will NOT get what you want in life JUST making other people happy.
   
2. The life you want will cost you the one you have.
   
3. You’re so much closer to t...

In this episode I sit down with Lama Justin von Bujdoss and talk about many things. Namely, his experience in a 49 day dark retreat, his time working in hospice, as well as his career as a prison chaplain.

The man has seen and experienced beauty and loss on a grand scale. This is a fabulous interview where he talks about how we can all deal with the darker pieces of our lives and the potential challenges we will all inevitably face...

One of the pains so many people experience is from looking back on their lives and thinking they wasted time with a particular chapter. I hear this in workshops and with my private clients. 

“Gosh, if I hadn’t spent those 5 years studying agriculture and instead had 5 more years in my current profession of real estate development.” Or something like this.

In this punchy solo episode I share about my own journey to becoming the foun...

This episode is powerful. In it I get to sit down with the great Ralek Gracie. Born into Jiujitsu royalty Ralek has spent his life on the mat, in the ring, and in the cage. His life was about little else than jiujitsu and being a Gracie.

Yet a business failure and the subsequent introspection took his life down a completely separate path, one of art, authenticity, and unapologetic expression.

In this episode you’ll get a VIP pass i...

Hey UNcivilized Fam,

So many men who get themselves into Men’s Work fall into this early trap. Please give this short solo episode a listen on how you can avoid — forgetting your balls!

In this episode I break down UNcivilized Ethos Tenet #8 and remind me all the beautiful benefits of living a powerful life.

HHB, Fellas. Not just H.

Enjoy and please share this with someone in your life.

Cheers,

Traver

If you look at the civili...

Good day and welcome to 2024. In this raw yearly opener, I invite you to join me and all of us at UNcivilized to walk along side of us in a new way. A powerful way.

In this episode I share my year name and why I chose it as well as ask you to join me on your own powerful path.

Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty. 

Cheers,

Traver

If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank yo...

A Christmas episode for you! Whether you’re taking a break from family or today is a hard day for you, here is an episode to lighten your heart and give you something constructive to work on.

I asked the men of The UNcivilized Nation what 10 skills every UNcivilized Man should have. These are 10 (actually 11) of them. They’re solid.

Enjoy and please share this episode with one person in your life.

Cheers,

Traver

If you look at...

The UNcivilized Ethos is the core of the movement and a tool thousands of men and women all over the globe tap into and use for their success and to get them back on track when the slip off.

In this quick and dirty solo episode I tell the story of how the Ethos came about and give you two quick thoughts on each tenet.

Enjoy and please share this episode with one person in your life.

Cheers,

Traver

If you look at the civilized ...